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Your Next Level Lives Behind Fear · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Music.
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  Hey everyone, and welcome back to the Nadia Chapman Show Skating Edition.
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  I'm your host, Nadia Chapman, certified life and mindset coach,
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  figure skating coach, and someone who has spent years on the ice and in the mindset trenches,
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  helping skaters just like you crush the mental blocks, level up the confidence.
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  And skate from a place of power, not pressure.
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  So whether you're here because you're tired of second-guessing yourself before
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  every jump, or you're just ready to take your mental game to the next level, this is your space.
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  And let me tell you this, this podcast is not about motivational fluff.
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  It's not about just believing in yourself with no tools to back it up. Here we go deeper.
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  We talk about the real stuff, the fear, the doubt, the pressure,
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  but also how to work through it.
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  This show is for skaters who are done playing small, who are ready to stop letting
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  fear, pressure, and comparison run the show and want to step into their own
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  power. On and off the ice.
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  If that's you, I'm glad you're here because I'm going to be real with you today.
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  And this show isn't about positive vibes only and pretending that skating is
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  always graceful and fun, because it's not.
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  We talk about the real stuff here, the nerves, the self-doubt,
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  the mental blocks, and the fear.
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  And that's exactly what today's episode is about.
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  We're calling this one, Your Next Level Lives on the Other Side of Fear.
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  And this might be the episode that changes the way you look at fear forever. I hope so.
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  So whether you're listening in the car on the way to practice or at the rink
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  or curled up with a journal in bed or stretching before a big event,
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  this episode is for the part of you that's tired of holding back.
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  That part of you that knows that you're able to do more, but fear keeps putting on the brakes.
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  So let's dive in. Let's start with a question.
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  What are you afraid of right now in your skating?
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  And seriously, I want you to think about it. And if you have a journal,
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  you know how I highly encourage you to write things down.
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  I want you to think about that. What are you afraid of right now in your skating?
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  Is it trying a new jump that you've never landed before or performing alone
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  in front of a crowd or the fear of looking stupid, falling on your face at the next competition?
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  Is it speaking up to your coach when something doesn't feel right?
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  Or is it just falling, repeating past mistakes, not being good enough?
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  Whatever your answer is, let me tell you something that might surprise you.
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  That fear, it's not a sign that something is wrong with you.
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  It's actually a sign that you're growing.
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  Fear only shows up when you're standing on the edge of something important.
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  And that's a writer downer right there.
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  Fear only shows up when you're on the edge of something important.
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  If you weren't stretching your limits, you wouldn't feel fear.
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  You'll be bored, you'll be stagnant, and you would feel very safe.
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  But the fact that you're feeling nervous, the fact that your heart races before
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  practices or your stomach flips before competition, that means that you care.
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  That means that you're about to do something very brave.
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  So fear shows up when you're on the brink of leveling up. And instead of seeing
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  that as an enemy, we need to start seeing it as an invitation.
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  So let's talk about something most skaters and honestly, most coaches don't explain clearly.
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  Your fear isn't a flaw. Nothing is wrong with you. You're not weak.
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  You're not broken. It's biology.
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  Your brain was designed to protect you. That's his number one job is to keep
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  you alive and keep you safe.
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  And for your brain, safety means familiarity.
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  It means routine. And for your brain, safety means comfort zone. It means routine.
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  It means what's already known and predictable. So anytime that you do something
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  out of your comfort zone, your brain goes, oh, my God, this feels new.
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  This feels uncertain. This could be dangerous.
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  And boom, fear gets triggered. Your brain starts sending out warning signals.
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  What if you fall? What if you mess up? What if you embarrass yourself?
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  But listen, that is not your intuition talking.
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  That's just your brain trying to protect you from any risk, even emotional risk
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  like failure or disappointment.
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  So the fear you feel before trying a new jump, that's not weakness.
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  That's just your nervous system doing its job, really.
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  And here's the kicker. Your brain's job is to protect you, but your job is to grow. And growth?
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  Oh, growth isn't always safe. And growth is not always comfortable.
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  It's uncertain. It's messy. It's awkward. It often looks like falling a lot
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  before flying, but it's worth it.
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  So let's be real. The biggest thing holding most skaters back isn't physical
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  ability. It's the fear of falling.
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  It's the fear of being judged. It's the fear of failing in front of people who matters.
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  And when you let that fear drive the bus, you stay stuck in what you already know.
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  Same jump, same habit, same routine, same stuff, same mindset.
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  And that's fine. If you want to stay where you are, fine.
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  But if you want to grow, if you want to compete with confidence,
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  if you want to level up and evolve to the next level, the next version of yourself,
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  you've got to walk through that fear because your next level isn't found in that comfort zone.
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  It's beyond it. So here's what I want you to remember.
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  First of, you don't need to feel fearless. That's impossible.
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  You will always find, you will always feel some sort of fear.
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  And second, you just need to be willing.
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  Willing to feel the fear, willing to go through it, willing to fall,
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  willing to be vulnerable, and willing to take action while your heart's pounding
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  and your legs are shaking, you don't feel like pushing through.
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  That's how you build real, grounded, unshakable confidence.
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  And here's something that helps. Start small.
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  You don't have to leap straight into the scariest thing in life, you know.
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  Just take tiny little steps here and there.
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  That one jump that you've been avoiding, maybe that one question you've been
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  holding back from asking or that one solo, that one event that you've been afraid
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  to committing to, do the brave thing, scared.
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  Do it, scare, and then do it again and again and again.
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  Because every time, every act of courage, you build belief.
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  You start to prove to your brain, you know what? I can handle this.
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  I didn't die. I didn't break.
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  You start becoming someone who doesn't hold back and who doesn't back down.
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  Let me say this out loud for the skaters who are listening.
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  You will never reach your potential by avoiding fear, especially in figure skating.
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  You become great by facing fear again and again and again and showing up anyway.
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  And when you do, you'll meet that version of you that's been waiting on the
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  sideline this whole time.
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  That confident you, that fierce competitor, that positive skater who knows that
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  she can fall and rise after.
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  The one who isn't afraid of fear anymore.
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  So here's what I want you to do this week.
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  Take a journal, write down one thing that you're avoiding in your skating right
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  now, because it scares the crap out of you.
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  And then ask yourself, if I move through this fear, what kind of skater would I become?
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  And it seems very simple and easy, but this is a very powerful question.
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  If I move through this fear, what kind of skater would I become?
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  And then I want you to take one small action. It doesn't have to be massive,
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  just real, honest, and brave.
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  Because every time that you move through fear, you reclaim your own power.
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  And every time you take a brave step forward, you're proving to yourself,
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  to your brain, that you're not fragile, that you're meant for more,
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  that you're meant to grow, and you're fierce.
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  And that voice in your head that says that you can't, that's just your scare
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  brain trying to keep you safe.
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  Keep that in mind. You don't have to believe in it anymore.
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  You're powerful. You're ready, even if you're scared.
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  Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of the Nadia Chapman Show for figure skaters.
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  If this hits home with you, tag me, write me, send it to a skating friend,
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  or even share it with your coach.
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  Let's create a ripple effect of brave skaters who are done shrinking back and are ready to rise.
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  And remember fear is natural but it's not your leader it's your launch pad your
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  next level is calling guys and you are more than ready to meet it until next
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  time keep skating brave keep showing up scared and keep becoming the boldest
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  version of you you've got this.
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  Music.