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THE ROYAL MIC PODCAST by ZACHERY WILLIAMS | LIVE 2ND THURSDAY & 4TH SUNDAY 8PM EST ...... A SAFE PLACE TO COME AND SHARE....... · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: B Pladies and gentlemen, I have your attention please. The
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  Speaker 1: show starts in te Life eight seven six five four
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  Speaker 1: three two fun go.
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  Speaker 2: All right, you guy, it is your boy, mister say
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  Speaker 2: and like I said, we are back. We're back back again.
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  Speaker 2: I know, y'all miss me. I know I've been going
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  Speaker 2: for a while now, but I am here. I am here.
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  Speaker 3: You can see all the applause and later on. This
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  Speaker 3: is royal, my man.
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  Speaker 2: It has been amazing for the past few months. Man.
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  Speaker 3: I had phenomenal year.
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  Speaker 2: I set my birthday since December, December sixth, when De
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  Speaker 2: Charlotte has some fu turn up moments in January, I won.
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  Speaker 2: Matter of fact, it wasn't January, ex fact where I
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  Speaker 2: won Prince of the Right Pride. I had been you know,
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  Speaker 2: been booking, busy, you know with you know, with poetry,
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  Speaker 2: you know, having you know, working on a different network,
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  Speaker 2: the Black Canvas, working on another network called the Vibe Channel,
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  Speaker 2: and be back with Roy Mike.
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  Speaker 3: It has been.
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  Speaker 2: So so, so so phenomenal to be back with y'all.
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  Speaker 2: The love, the the support I keeps getting for me
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  Speaker 2: to strike every single day, to keep pushing, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like they said, the chance of my dreams you want
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  Speaker 2: to do that, But nevertheless, we are going to get
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  Speaker 2: into the topic. Oh, let me introduce you my bad
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  Speaker 2: see see my bad see I got kind of My
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  Speaker 2: name is mister Zacher Williams stage stand as Zach Attack
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  Speaker 2: and this is the Royal Mic. So basically, let me
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  Speaker 2: give you a little background about boy. You're right, So
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  Speaker 2: royal Mic is all about you know, especially your feelings.
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  Speaker 2: You know, come on and say what you want to say.
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  Speaker 2: You know, ain't no hard feelings. It is no hard feelings.
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  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, we are here to
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  Speaker 2: have a conversation in an honest conversation. This is why
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  Speaker 2: I created the Royal Mic. It's like you got the mic,
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  Speaker 2: say what you wanted to say. So tonight conversation, it's
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  Speaker 2: going to be really good. The compass conversation is today,
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  Speaker 2: are men too sensitive? Then men just stop lying? Lem
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  Speaker 2: see it again? Are men are too sensitive? Or that
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  Speaker 2: men are just lying top lying? So this afternoon, I
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  Speaker 2: do not want to rush this conversation. I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to sound too perfect. I don't want to sound like.
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  Speaker 3: I figure everything out.
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  Speaker 2: I just want to be honest because this is one
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  Speaker 2: of those topics that everybody has opinion, but not everybody
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  Speaker 2: really sits.
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  Speaker 3: With it the truth.
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  Speaker 2: Everywhere I go, social media, real life conversations, going to
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  Speaker 2: the barber shop, we talk about relationship, we talk about
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  Speaker 2: you know, men, we talk about females, we talk about
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  Speaker 2: a whole lot of things. But I keep hating the
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  Speaker 2: same thing over and over and over again. Men are
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  Speaker 2: too soft now, Men are too emotional now. Men are
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  Speaker 2: not where it used to be. And I have to
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  Speaker 2: sit with that, not just stay here, but really ask myself,
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  Speaker 2: why do actually people say that down these days?
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  Speaker 3: What do they mean?
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  Speaker 2: The men are too emotional, too sensitive? Are we finally
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  Speaker 2: telling the truth? Are we just stepping into a new era,
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  Speaker 2: Like men's are really feeling their stuff? Because when people
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  Speaker 2: said men it is different back then than now, what
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  Speaker 2: doesn't really mean? When men were quiet? The men didn't
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  Speaker 2: have a sample out this them, The men didn't open up,
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  Speaker 2: the men didn't sit down and said I'm hurt, I
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  Speaker 2: feel okay, I need help because something quite didn't mean
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  Speaker 2: it all there. And a part I feel like people
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  Speaker 2: skipping over is you have to ask the real questions.
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  Speaker 2: Are men actually being too sensitive? Or men's are finally
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  Speaker 2: telling the truth? How they been feeling the whole all right.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm not talking about just the one typical man.
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  Speaker 2: I'm talking about all mens. That means the straight mens,
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  Speaker 2: the gay mens, the bisexual men's, the massacre men's, the
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  Speaker 2: soft spoken men's, the men's who fit the image that
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  Speaker 2: expect to me men's, and men's who don't know how
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  Speaker 2: to sess the feelings no matter what as the category
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  Speaker 2: you fall into, lad to day, you are stole human
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  Speaker 2: and you are still with hurt, and you are always
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  Speaker 2: saying to express your feelings. So I want you to
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  Speaker 2: just sit with me, right, I just I just want
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  Speaker 2: you to sit with me. I want to take it back.
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  Speaker 2: You know, the men's from the seventies and nineties, and
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  Speaker 2: now I want us to go back in not time frame.
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  Speaker 2: Yes I was not in the time frame, but I
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  Speaker 2: feel like I have a lot of experience, you know,
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  Speaker 2: having different men's.
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  Speaker 3: Come out my life. And you know, I have a dad,
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  Speaker 3: I have an uncle, have a grandfather. You know I have.
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  Speaker 2: Who was in those errors, you know, So let's picture it.
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  Speaker 2: You know, the seventies and eighties a time where men
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  Speaker 2: who raise environment didn't know to leave a lot of
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  Speaker 2: room of emotional expression. Emotional expressiments. Expressions are bad. You
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  Speaker 2: don't be asked how you feel. No man asked you
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  Speaker 2: to sit down and talk to me. Instead, you was
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  Speaker 2: giving responsibilities early, pressure early, and exposed to things that
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  Speaker 2: they don't talk about. Early you were taught that being
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  Speaker 2: a man means to carry everything in and holding everything together.
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  Speaker 3: You don't want to fall apart or you don't want.
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  Speaker 2: To be open how you really feel. They told you
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  Speaker 2: to keep everything in private. You know, back then my
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  Speaker 2: understanding was, you know, what stands in the dark, stays
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  Speaker 2: in narc You know what happened into the household, streeper
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  Speaker 2: on the rug. You do not need to carry it
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  Speaker 2: as men's you know.
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  Speaker 3: And that in that back dade, you know that mindset did.
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  Speaker 2: It was pressing down Like what I mean by like
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  Speaker 2: men's was definitely you know, I feel like it was
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  Speaker 2: like I would have said miserable. I wouldn't say miserable,
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  Speaker 2: I would depressed, angry, suicide, like those thoughts. When you
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  Speaker 2: get into the seventy eighties and nineties, nobody didn't believe
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  Speaker 2: in therapy, nobody believe in getting help from what my
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  Speaker 2: belief is this, This is just my belief in my opinion,
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna say that it's my opinion. You know, you
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  Speaker 2: have to keep everything in private way nobody can't see.
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  Speaker 2: And the mindset didn't just come from anywhere. It was
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  Speaker 2: passed down, you know, father passing down to son. Communication
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  Speaker 2: was reforced, and culture was protected. Especially in the black community.
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  Speaker 2: The mindset was tied to survival and a lot of
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  Speaker 2: men didn't have a space to be soft, open express
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  Speaker 2: because life was already heavy back then, and some emotional
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  Speaker 2: becomes something that you push aside throughout the day. But
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  Speaker 2: I want to slow this down right now because it's
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  Speaker 2: very important. Just because a man doesn't speak about the
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  Speaker 2: emotion doesn't mean.
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  Speaker 3: He don't have them. They l everybody feels the same way.
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  Speaker 3: What come? Do men care?
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  Speaker 2: How you say? Everybody feels the same way, you know,
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  Speaker 2: especially now in these days, men's are being very spoken,
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  Speaker 2: men are being going to therapy, men are sitting down
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  Speaker 2: with other men's and talk about, Hey, it's okay to cry,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's okay to show emotions. It's okay to
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  Speaker 2: ask for help, it's okay to be frustrated, it's okay
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  Speaker 2: not to holy in, you know, because back then they had.
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  Speaker 3: A lot to carry.
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  Speaker 2: You know, being a man of the house, you know,
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  Speaker 2: providing for their family. You know, they can't be like
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  Speaker 2: females back in the day, you know, you know, staying
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  Speaker 2: at home, cooking and cleaning, or you know, taking care
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  Speaker 2: of the kids, making sure that if the food is cooked,
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  Speaker 2: making sure that you know, the households take care of us.
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  Speaker 2: Ninety days, it's first, it's all over.
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  Speaker 3: Everybody is feeling a title.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody is a title to their emotions. Everybody is entitled
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  Speaker 2: to their emotions. They feel like they're falling apove without support,
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  Speaker 2: they feel like they don't have a love to express
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  Speaker 2: their feelings. You know, you know, even when you know
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  Speaker 2: what comes down to, like with me growing up, because
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I was a hard I had a hard.
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  Speaker 3: Time, you know, espress my feelings growing up.
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  Speaker 2: Especially when I was born, you know, in the late late nineties,
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  Speaker 2: I would say, in the late nineties, having moments in
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  Speaker 2: my life and see that they struggle to talk about
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  Speaker 2: their feelings, you know, to oh, they feeling that that
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  Speaker 2: was a hard thing to do, and then it got
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  Speaker 2: passed down to me, like I didn't know how to
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  Speaker 2: express my feelings. I was like frustrated, I was angry,
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  Speaker 2: I was doing things that I'm supposed to be doing.
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  Speaker 3: I was acting out.
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  Speaker 2: And and that doesn't disconnect. We have not Naama. Back then,
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  Speaker 2: you know, back then was kind of a little hard
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  Speaker 2: for them. They didn't have to outflit. They didn't have
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  Speaker 2: you know, therapy, they didn't have let's go to the
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  Speaker 2: Bible shop, let's talk about feelings. They didn't have like
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  Speaker 2: group through conversation like we got now.
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  Speaker 3: They didn't have that back then.
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  Speaker 2: I know my grandfather, you know, he had to wake up,
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  Speaker 2: you know, two o'clock in the morning, you know, walk
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  Speaker 2: down this long road and to make sure he.
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  Speaker 3: He catched up by us.
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  Speaker 2: You know, back then a lot of like a lot
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  Speaker 2: of money then' you knows it was a lot back
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  Speaker 2: then then now you know, dollars was a lot back then.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I could say that my grandfather said, like
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  Speaker 2: ray was a lot cheaper, like it was like fifty
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  Speaker 2: cent not in any days. But that's that's over here there.
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  Speaker 2: But I know that he'd been frustrated. I know that,
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  Speaker 2: you know, sometimes he don't bring enough home, like enough
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  Speaker 2: money to bring home. Now. Mind you, my my grandparents
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  Speaker 2: they had about nine kids, and in that nine kids,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you have to feed each one of them,
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  Speaker 2: want of no kids go hungry and having that frustration.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you you got to provide for your family.
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  Speaker 2: You just can't bring nothing home, especially when you have
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  Speaker 2: one person working, want taking care of the houstle. It's
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  Speaker 2: not too taking care of it and it still dark,
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  Speaker 2: but it was hard. I can't imagine being back there.
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  Speaker 2: Imagine being back there and to see a lot of
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  Speaker 2: people struggle, you know, back then. I can't see that.
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  Speaker 2: How did they handle their emotions? You know, like how
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  Speaker 2: did you know they deal with depression? You know, how
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  Speaker 2: did they do with suicide?
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  Speaker 1: Thought?
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  Speaker 3: Like, how did they do with you know, have an addiction?
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  Speaker 2: You know a lot of people like how did they
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  Speaker 2: felt back then? And even when it happened having a wife,
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  Speaker 2: Like how did the conversation goes between you know, man
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  Speaker 2: and wife back then. I can't imagine a man coming
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  Speaker 2: home and be like, I'm tired, I don't feel like
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  Speaker 2: doing this, I didn't feel like going to work. I
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  Speaker 2: don't feel like I'm good enough for you. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I can't imagine how like couples back then really had
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  Speaker 2: a conversation. You know, from my point of view, it
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  Speaker 2: was like you gotta suck it up. You gotta go
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  Speaker 2: out there. You got a family, family, family, and I
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  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, They're fine. You know, back
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  Speaker 2: then they had a really big families. And and just
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  Speaker 2: to have that or a man's back, that is a
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  Speaker 2: lot I'm talking of. You know, if your kid's acting out,
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  Speaker 2: you know, if your kids have a disability like my
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  Speaker 2: financial struggles, you know, death doing like I can't imagine it.
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  Speaker 2: And I feel like when men back then, I feel
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  Speaker 2: like they were sitting in the room by their stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes men even drink to depress their feelings, oppressed their
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  Speaker 2: feelings to me, and and and they had an outlet.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm telling you I have seen it. I know.
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  Speaker 2: I know y'all know somebody who was born in the seventies,
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  Speaker 2: the eighties and.
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  Speaker 3: Nineties, who who.
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  Speaker 2: Felt like that. And you know, I sit here, you.
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  Speaker 3: Know, I think about my family.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I think a lot of men, you know,
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  Speaker 2: they went into you know, drinking, you know, smoking weed,
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  Speaker 2: doing cocaine, doing hair like to to press their feeling
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  Speaker 2: because they didn't know how to talk about it, you know.
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  Speaker 2: And and that's and that's a problem. And we're gonna
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  Speaker 2: and we were gonna talk about how it is a
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  Speaker 2: problem as today it is. It's not a problem today,
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  Speaker 2: it's just I feel like men are very too since
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  Speaker 2: five today. But again that's just my opinion. But a
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  Speaker 2: lot of men loved deeply because they didn't know how
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  Speaker 2: to show it in any way, how to feel like
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  Speaker 2: created a disconnect. Because you can provide, you can be present,
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  Speaker 2: you can even try, but if your emotional is not
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  Speaker 2: connected there, you feel something.
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  Speaker 3: Is missing, like sit for a second, like I want
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  Speaker 3: you to sick for a second.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people have listened, A lot of people
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  Speaker 2: listen how to expressed us. You've been around someone you
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  Speaker 2: love and you got the feeling you've been around somebody
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  Speaker 2: who show up by stuff feel alone, like not everybody's
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  Speaker 2: gonna care. Back then, sometime they didn't know how to
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  Speaker 2: They didn't know how to you know, tell you it's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be okay. They don't know how to be like,
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  Speaker 2: they didn't know how to help with us to react
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  Speaker 2: to that. Like I said, acting passed down to generation,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and and when you grow up around there
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  Speaker 2: and when you started to normalize it. This how men are.
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  Speaker 2: Men don't talk, Men don't express their feeling. Men don't explain. So,
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  Speaker 2: so what happened now? Will you repeat the same thing.
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  Speaker 2: I'll go against it because some men grew up and
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  Speaker 2: be the same thing. Quiet clothes, hard to react because
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  Speaker 2: that's all they know how to show. Back then, it's
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  Speaker 2: hard to tell somebody back then, I love you, especially when.
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  Speaker 3: You are talking to your sons. You know, so our.
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  Speaker 2: Father in sign of relationship's very important because you know
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  Speaker 2: your father is teaching you how to be a man.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it taught you, you know how to.
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  Speaker 2: Go about from how to treat females, you know how
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  Speaker 2: to you know, make money, how to provide. You know.
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  Speaker 2: Back then, that was it. It wasn't I love you.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't like having needs emotional conversation. It's about I
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  Speaker 2: think and getting it with the promo is normalized. But
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  Speaker 2: other men is going through the opposite direction. Now these days,
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  Speaker 2: he said, I'm not going to do that. I'm trying
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  Speaker 2: to open up more. I want to express myself. I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna be more emotional. And we sit here complain that
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  Speaker 2: men are to saws, and you sit here and men
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  Speaker 2: are too sensitive, men sore, too emotional. You know, I
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  Speaker 2: was told, you know the anybody knows me, I'm getting
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  Speaker 2: I'm very I spell, I'm very specially feels a lot.
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  Speaker 3: I say, what's on my mind.
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  Speaker 2: I come off trying to I would say that I
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  Speaker 2: come off trying to make sure I'm seeing in the
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  Speaker 2: right words, that having the right attention. Sometimes I don't care,
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  Speaker 2: I would say, sometimes I don't care, but I wanted
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  Speaker 2: to go against the odds now like I said earlier.
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  Speaker 2: And if you have been rocking with me, oh you
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  Speaker 2: know justice watch broadcast. If you have been rocking me
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  Speaker 2: with black canvas, and you have been walking me while
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  Speaker 2: I'm hitting on the stage while I'm doing poetry, and
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  Speaker 2: if you have been walking me last year on all
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  Speaker 2: your might, I'm really specially by feelings. I were really
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  Speaker 2: beginning towards odds because why not, why not sit here?
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  Speaker 2: Why not have these conversations? Some men need to know
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  Speaker 2: about it. Do I have all the experience to talk
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  Speaker 2: about it?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 2: But I can talk about minds. I can talk about
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  Speaker 2: how I was. I could talk about.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I broke the cycle, you know, And I
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  Speaker 3: thank God for making me who I am as a person,
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  Speaker 3: you know, in evolving me into a man.
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  Speaker 2: Eyes I am today. I just had a I just
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  Speaker 2: had a funny moment just staying.
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  Speaker 3: Like I didn't know why.
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  Speaker 2: I kind of know my dad's dad, and I see
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  Speaker 2: why my dad has built back then and now he's
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  Speaker 2: more softer now.
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  Speaker 3: In these days.
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  Speaker 2: But having a father, like I said, having a father
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  Speaker 2: in some relationship is very important. You know, we always
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  Speaker 2: want to you know, express are you know our our goals,
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  Speaker 2: you know our accomplishment to our fathers.
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  Speaker 3: You know you want us to to show.
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  Speaker 2: That we are doing you know, we are not following
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  Speaker 2: your stuff step, but we are being better than you.
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  Speaker 2: And my dad always tell me, you know, I want
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  Speaker 2: you always do better than me. And I always tell
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  Speaker 2: people who always come under me, especially generation now, do
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  Speaker 2: better than me. Do provide, do provide more better than me?
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  Speaker 2: Don't follow what I do because it takes me a
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  Speaker 2: long time to get here. And expression feelings and being
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  Speaker 2: a gay black male, it's very hard. You know, being
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  Speaker 2: gay is number one. It's the hardest. On top of
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  Speaker 2: that me being black and me being big that on
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  Speaker 2: top of it, that's a lot of layers that I carry,
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  Speaker 2: you know, And it's a lot of emotional mindset. You
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  Speaker 2: have to have to live in my community, to live
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  Speaker 2: in all of this, but I'm telling you now it
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  Speaker 2: will be okay. It will be okay because we are
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  Speaker 2: out of safe space. I feel like I created Roy
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  Speaker 2: and might have to say space for me and those
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  Speaker 2: two people who like me, and there those people who
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  Speaker 2: listen to me.
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  Speaker 3: You might not agree why I say.
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  Speaker 2: You might not likewise say, but you get something out
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  Speaker 2: of it, you know, And I want somebody to get
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: something out of this today, because it is okay to
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: be emotional, It is okay to show your feelings. It
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: is okay to be feminine.
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: It's okay you.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: The But if you're that number one person in their room,
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: if you get what I'm saying, then be that. Nobody's
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: stopping you from being who you are. Especially men out here,
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: they just now today, they just now expressing their feelings
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: more and more. Now, can I say that men are
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: doing too much manipulations?
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah they are. Some of them are being.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: Too sensitive and taking everything to heart, like like they
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: don't listen then reacted, they don't think before speaking. Yes,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: men are being more as like want to be in
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: a female role cool, have no property. If you feel
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: like you want to do that, go ahead. If you
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: are traditional man, be intrital man. If you do not
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: want to be that, be who you are. That's now everybody,
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: and and before I move into my next subject, my
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: next subject, I want I want you to ask this
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: question for you. Have you ever felt love and felt alone?
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: What does it feel to grow up without emotional guidance?
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: Do we repeat what we saw? Are we try to
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: fix it?
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: And?
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I girl with you on what you said on
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: that It is.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: It is not to me to be emotional and emotional today.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: It's not. It is the question, it's not to be
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: like but are we so? So? Here's my attention to that.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: Here's my attention when I said that, are we intentionally
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: doing to please other people? Or we just acting what
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: we saw? Like? It's nothing wrong being so emotional? But
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: are we listening what people are seeing? Especially when it
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: comes down to a people who really matters to us?
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: You know? Sometimes we can be a pain in the ass.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: Sometimes yes we can't. We can't we can be We
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: have our ego, especially women may have a big ego
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: than female. I'm gonna have to say it, men have
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: a bigger ego than females and we and our ego
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: gets so big and blow out a balloon and everything
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: getting emotional. And now these days, I'll say this, this
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: generation we live in here is very too sensitive. And
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: why I say that because they do not know how
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: to supresh their feelings in a way that this should
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: be spreshing. Now, my generation, we went to therapy.
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: You know, we didn't. We didn't.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: We didn't put everything under the we bring everything to lights.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: In this generation, they pick up a gun, they shoot.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: They don't like have a conversation. Now do I do?
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: Do I agree with violence? Eat his z? Do I
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: believe a life of life?
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: Nope?
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: Cases by cases, I would say that cases by cases,
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: but nobody should die anywhere, Like I should be honest
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: with you.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: I'll take that back. I'll take that back. Life of
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: life doesn't no no, no, no no. You should not
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: pick up a gun and somebody cann like curse you
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: while or somebody made you miserable.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: Like sometimes just walk away. I will say that, just
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: walk away, because I'm telling you, behind closed doors, behind
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: on bars, what's freedom?
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: And that's from my grandma.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: That's when they I'm telling you, I know a lot
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: of people who've been behind prison that tell you, I
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: love my freedom and I love my life. But let's
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: let's and let's get into it. But two, I want
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: just to ask those questions and the same thing I
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: said today men's today. So let's let's talk about mens today,
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: you know, because this conversation starts to get uncomfortable, you know,
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: man will open up more more. Men's are talking about therapy,
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: talking about traumas. Men are talking about you know, they're
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: feeling identity and healing things that they never knew before.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: Like some people.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Are looking for growth, others not. Others are looking for
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: the weakness. And when it tends to be why that,
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: people said men's are too solved, and it gets to
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: the point where men's are too soft, you know, But
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: let me slow it down, let me ask.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: The real question to the men's out there.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: And men's are finally saying, you know, I'm hurt, I'm struggling,
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: and I don't feel okay, a fact, fact, I'm.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Exactly I'm thinking the words of my mouth.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: But men's are really asking not these days, I'm hurt,
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: I'm struggling, and I don't feel okay.
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: Doesn't make them weak?
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Uh? Does that make him honest? Because honesty feels uncomfortable
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: when you used to be sellent now. I think the
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: way we're saying it now, it is not too softness.
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: It's not the softness but being visible, being visible. And
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: what I mean by that they are being seen back
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: then is visible not being seen.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: That's what I say about that when we.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: Are seeing things that are not always just not being spoken.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna be real just because where the
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: balance need the matter. Everybody is libel. Vulnerability is growth.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Not everybody, not everything is the label of viilippeen being growth.
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: Some men use emotional to avoid responsibilities. Someone said this
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: is how I feel about don't take accountability.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: Of what they're trying to do.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: And a flash rich people, it does you know, we
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: we we get to the point of men, we get
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: to the point of we don't know how to accountability.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, we don't.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: And it goes to the same thing the females. And
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not knocking them down, but I'm talking
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: to the men. We don't know how to take accountability. And yes,
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: it's okay to special feelings, but also ment where you
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: are wrong. Like I said, men got this big ego
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: and get out and get uncomfortable in this big balloon
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: and they don't like to admit when they are wrong.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: And that's the problem. You know, naive that you have
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: a two conversations happen at the same time. One side
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: that men need to open up more. The outside men
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: men need to toughen up again. This is now, We
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: are definitely having this conversation.
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: Now, where is the in between?
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: Because truth if both sides are missing something, because the
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: real answer is not one or the other, the real
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: answers balanced. Men need to learn how to feel but
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: still be a leaders. It's okay to express yourself. It's
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: okay to to.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: Talk to somebody.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: It's okay to be like, hey to a female, even
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: some even some guys talk to guys. And I know,
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: I talked to my other half. You know, we talk
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: about a feeling. You know, we check into each other.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: You know, it's just very important that you get checked up.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: It's very important and and sometimes you don't even have
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: to have a conversation to other people. You just need
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: to check in it on yourself, like every morning when
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: you wake up. You know, I think I feel like
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: everybody should, you know. Yeah, see, we're gonna get into that.
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: We're gonna get into it.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: We're gonna get into a relationship, healthy relationship, because it's
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: it's very important and that we still take a dollibility.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: It's very important that you know we checked on on
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: each other. It's very important, and checking it on yourself
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: in general, like wake it up in the morning and
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: be like, hey, how do I feel yesterday? Like I
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: feel like every guy every first or so, I said
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: a quote to the self, something to make sure they
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: are they here mentally, because sometimes we be having a
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: rough days. Sometimes our co workers be pissing us off.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: Sometimes our boss be pissing it off. Sometimes our friends
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: be pissed off. Sometimes the world we live in will
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: piss us off. Like we always on edge, and with
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: this administration, we are definitely always on edge.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: But that's not here.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: I did the point I want to talk about. It's
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: okay to check in on yourself. You don't have to
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: have nobody else's pnniction. Sometimes everybody don't need a therapist.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes therapy is sometimes it's a scam. I mean,
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: if you want me to sit here and talk to you,
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: sit here and talk to you, be like mm hmmm,
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: mm hmmm.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: So I'm gonna pat the same thing back to you.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you could you are your own therapy. Sometimes you
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: just waste too money because you just wanted someone to
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: hear you out. And it's okay to do that if
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: you need help for it. Sometimes your friend could be
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: your therapist. I don't, I don't call. I used to
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: go therapy, but I don't go therapy anymore because I
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: check in myself. I make sure that I'm giving myself
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: one hundred percent every single day. Now if I feel
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: like I'm going sideways, oh I feel like the person
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: anxiety is taken over, then I have a check in
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: with my therapist. That therapists probably don't even see me,
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: probably what two years, probably just to check in. Billy Gay, Yeah,
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: I'm good. Anything you talk about, No, and sometimes don't
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: even weigh up the money. Yeah, everybody going through something. Yeah,
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: everybody have a struggle. Everybody's a title to their own opinion.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: That's why I set the beginning. You know, it's my
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: opinion reversus yours, and we can find them the ground.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: Like I said, you don't have to agree what I'm saying.
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: But sometimes you listen to me, are like, oh, I
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: see you get the saying. So I want to ask
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: you this questions again, you know mental all the days.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: Need to find that balance, need need to find that
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: balance and to take accountability and also be honest. You know,
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: are men weaker than are just being more honest? If
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: vulnerability is uncomfortable for people to see, where does accountability
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: to fit into emotionals? Are we willing to grow through emotions?
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: Where is the balance? What comes down to men? I
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: want you to ask those questions because every time I
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: I want you to ask the question of yourself. And
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: it goes the same thing with females. You know, are
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: you being a better person as you what yesterday? You know,
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: I'm not a female, not a female, don't know how
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: females feel. I don't. I don't get that I'm a male.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, I am Miguel and
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: the end of the day. But and it goes to
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: our next conversation. Relationships and expectations now will come down
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: to relationship is where everything shows up. You know a
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: lot of people say men don't communicate, But let me
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: ask you this, do men not communicate or do their
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: communicate differently? Because if men were to never taught how
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: to be emotional, if men was never taught emotional language,
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: how he is supposed to act on it. On top
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: of that, how do you expect the men to have
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: a safe space because being strong but being emotional, being
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: a leader but not in control, being vulnerable. Don't need
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: to be weak because all that comes out in the relationship
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: not confusing. You know, that's not confused. Being leader to
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: be frustration. And it's on both sides because non the
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: mans feel like, no matter what I do is not enough.
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: And I think that way. Everybody.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: I think that way, everybody going through no matter what
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: I do is not enough, especially no it deals with
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: these females, and I can be wrong. It's the same
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: with the gods. It's saying the gods when you didn't
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: the same sex. It's the same thing. Are you making
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: enough money? What are you providing? How's your mostal stability?
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: You know, where's your mindset? What is your plans for
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: five years from now? Like that is a lot to
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: deal with, especially when you don't have no plans, especially
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: when you're getting to know somebody, because you know, females
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: want men to make a lot of money, and sometimes
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: men are being okay that females are making more than them.
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: Some are just too lazy to get a job because
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: they are very capable of what they wanted to do,
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: they just feel lazy, too comfortable. Sometimes, y'all, females makes
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: guys feel not manly and taking care of the massulinity.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: It's okay to bring a bread winning in the house,
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: so not every man wants that. Every man wants to
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: be the bread winner. Every man want to be a
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: chief in their house. Every man wants to feel I
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: can't say every man. Some men, I'm gonna take that back.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Some man wants to feel important to the egos, to
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: the emotions. Some traditional man wants to be that some
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: tradition men do not want their women to work to
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: take care of the household. Some men want their women
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: to work to bring in the income. Ninety days, you're
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: gonna need two incomes. I'm just saying you're gonna need
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: two incoms. But ninety days men are not taking care
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: of their responsibilities. They are having kids and kids after kids,
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: and as the kids that as the kids, they're not
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: taking care of them. They not taking care of them.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: And wonder why we have a low percentage of fathers
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: being in some life. And now, granted I give the people.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna give the men's this. You have other men
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: stepping out into our father roles, being stepfathers, you know,
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: being role models, being leaders, you know, having these mental
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: mental program having these.
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: What's what I'm looking for, what's the what I'm looking
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: for big brother programs to have the.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: Rules because I feel like kids ninety day they lost
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: in the sauce. They don't know how to express their feelings.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: They don't know how to have conversations. It's always always
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: got a weapon. And I understand it's frustrated. I understand
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: it's I don't want to say nuanced. It's more normalized.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: Ninety days, it is. We have normalized it now. We
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: have normalized you know, mothers are blaming in their son,
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: their father is better than their daughter. It has been
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: normalized that our kids out here and not getting angry.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: We have normalized that kids are not even finishing college.
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: We have normalized our kicking our kids out of the
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: house way too early. We have normalized that once you're eighteen,
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: you are a doubt. No they're not. Yeah they are,
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: but they're still minds to develop.
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: They're still need goddess after age of eighteen, they still
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: need got it, especially in their twenties, and the twenty
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: is most of them portant process.
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: Of life when you are going to make mistakes. And
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: so many men's are lost in the song. And so
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: many men's are having kids way too early.
• 42:41
  Speaker 3: Even not even have the.
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: Mindset of how to raise a kid, how detect how
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: to change a pample, how to make a bottle, what
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: do they do when the babies cry?
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: How what do you do when a baby's stick? They
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: don't know how to do that, and and.
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: And that's and and that's that's very normalized.
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: Nine these days.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: We have normalize certain things. We have normalized this is
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: what a relationship looks like. We have normalized that. We're
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: just gonna be in the first day these one night staying,
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: we're gonna call her a day. And sometimes females are
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: okay with that. You know, sometimes females just want a
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: baby and not a husband. A baby daddy is not
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: a husband. Now to day, you know, people get married
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: and actually two days later, two years in a relationship,
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: they work, they got divorced.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: A lot of people don't know what a relationship looks like.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: You know, we we we we you know, we have
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: sex with a B, C, and D and be fine
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: with it.
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: And we don't know who a baby daddy is or
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: we don't know.
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: Where my child at when I'm gonna ask, you don't
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: even know your kids, how your kid is. You don't
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: even know your kid's birthday, and that's a problem.
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: We don't even know how they have a communication.
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: We don't even know how to shut up and listen sometimes,
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: and that's that's the relationship on they day. We make
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: it normalize and why music's work frequently because.
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: It's you see all over.
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: We see it on social media, we see it on
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: Netflix's for you Hulu, we see it. We see in
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: the person that's who's next to us. We we you
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: see in our kids. You sometimes kids seeing their parents
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: who dating older. That that that's how it is. We
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: normalize it. And is it wrong to say that how
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: we feel ninety days now, you just it is what
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: it is by telling you having a health relationship. But
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: i'm'a tell you communication is very important and not to
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: not to be heard, but to listen to what they're
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: saying and acting on it. I'm not saying to everybody's perfect.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: I was to say, I can't say I don't perfect
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: because it took me a long time. Where we at today,
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: I'm in a five relationship, almost a five year relationship.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: Like to and be honest how you feel. Like, let's
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: say to your dude or to your female, like, hey,
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: I don't have one hundred fenty day I don't I
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: don't have all of it today. My mind is frustrated.
• 45:53
  Speaker 3: My my, my heart, I'm I'm not here today.
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: And it's it's okay to say that. And and if
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: our partner of yours don't understand that, then you in
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: the wrong position. Then that's not for you. Don't don't
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: settle for nothing less that you know you are worthy for.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: I think it's it speaks ninety days. Like even with
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: the marriage, like we have these big weddings, you know,
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: we have these fams coming up, we have the distination wedding,
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: and sometime.
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: We don't even go.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: We don't even fix the problems that we have in relationship.
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: We just cover up because it looks good. It looks
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: good to get everybody to get married. It looks good
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: to have a ring on the finger. Oh that's a
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: big rock. But nobody's take the time to get to
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  Speaker 2: know somebody. You don't even know your partner favorite color.
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  Speaker 2: You don't even know what their you know, turn off,
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: a turn turn on. You don't even know their mother
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  Speaker 2: and father. You don't even know their past. You don't
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  Speaker 2: even know where they come from. You don't even know
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  Speaker 2: where their breaking point is.
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: You do not know you.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: And that's the hard thing about it. We get into
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: relationship to please other people. We get in a relationship, but.
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: Oh I got a man, now I got a female.
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: Now, Yeah, we don't get through that. And it's okay.
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: It's okay if you want to do that. A lot
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: of people out there are fine with it. A lot
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: of people are fine with having.
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  Speaker 3: A relationship opening relationship.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: Not me, but people are fine with that. But you
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  Speaker 2: have to be honest. But also you have to give
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: the partner a choice if they want that. But also
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: you have to give you a partner if they want a relationship.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: Because communication is all about telling you communicate, communicate, communicate,
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: and don't overshadow their feelings either. Don't shut their feelings down,
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: especially what a man is talking to you, how they
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: tell you how they feel. Don't don't do that that.
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: That's the most disrespectful thing ever, because I feel like
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  Speaker 2: men's We come so far as not being shut down.
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  Speaker 2: We come so far of you know, of what a
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: man is? And and really nobody have a definition. What
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: is a man is? How a man SUPs to act?
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: And everybody have their different definitions, some are the same.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: Nobody have a clear there is not a clear definition
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: that this means. This even with females. You we don't
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  Speaker 2: even know how to be a lady. What's the definition
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  Speaker 2: of being a lady? Class? Some people be ratchet, some
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  Speaker 2: just some of them very emotional, Like what's the what's
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: the being a woman, what's the being a lady? What's
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: the being a man? What's the being a boy? Like?
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: There's no definition of these things. These are all on
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  Speaker 2: feelings traditional from the Bible. To be honest with you,
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  Speaker 2: there is it, no is it, no definition for these things?
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  Speaker 2: And and I want to just bring it back is
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: you know, to my queer people out there, especially those
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: for our men's, you know right now.
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  Speaker 3: We are doing so much. We we are really doing
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  Speaker 3: too much, especially for my black for my for my
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: black gay mens, we are really doing too much. To
• 49:57
  Speaker 3: my back women. You want to call yourself, we're doing
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: some You need to calm down.
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  Speaker 2: And those who get it get it into my great guys,
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: be okay, be comfortable who you are. It's okay if
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: you have a gay friend. It's all gay people just
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  Speaker 2: not hitting on.
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  Speaker 3: You, you know.
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: And I think and that goes with emotionals too, because
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: you're not comfortable who you are, you think it's like
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: having somebody who doesn't who doesn't have the same belief
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: as you, or.
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  Speaker 3: Who love the same sex as you. Y'all can't be cool. Nah.
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: I can't say that everybody attention don't have a good tentions.
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: I can say that I feel like we all met
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: somebody who went through that, who really went through that,
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  Speaker 2: and and it's nothing wrong being solved.
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: It is nothing wrong being who is nothing wrong for
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: being who you are. And and let kids be kids,
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: and and then and that kids because it's it's it's
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: it's way too.
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: Much of kids not being kids. And it goes back
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: what I say all the time. People need outlet people
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: just need to talk to somebody, even checking in yourself,
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: check with your family member of somebody, cause it's really
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: is okay. And yes, I'm going to leave you with this,
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: and yes the conversation might not be this long as
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: I usually be it. But I want to leave you
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: with this cause it's very important. You know, men's are
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: expressing itself and it's okay. So maybe men are too
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: sense of maybe.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: Just need time when men don't have to lie anymore,
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: not lying about how they feel, not lying but what
• 52:17
  Speaker 3: they're dealing with, not lying about who they are.
• 52:20
  Speaker 2: Because maybe feeling uncomfortable it's new. Does it mean it
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: means to be wrong, doesn't mean that the goal is
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: to go back for being you know, traditional men not
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: speaking your feeling. The goal is to move forward. And
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: how we look at that. Can men can feel still
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: feeling be a leader. Men can still be strong and
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: so be honest. Men can have a safe space. We
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: just have to allow them to have a safe space.
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: Because I know there's somebody out there who's meant to
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: a mess up, who don't know how to chill their feelings,
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: who don't know how to out it, and just picking
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: up a gun and just picking up a gun and
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: just do wash You and everybody that's not okay to
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: talk to somebody, talk to your fan, family, school counselor something.
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: Check in on yourself, because at the end of the day,
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: you are poor as the next person who's next to you.
• 53:26
  Speaker 3: And I'm gonna say again, you.
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: Are important to the next person who's next to you,
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: and that's real. And be who you are what you
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: meant to be, and stop lining out here and take accountability.
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: Stop caring with the next person who said because at
• 53:50
  Speaker 3: the end of.
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: The day, sometimes everybody's not gonna have a contention who
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: you're talking to.
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: Tell you don't miss out your opportunity to grow.
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: Vulnerability is normalized, that's normalized even more. Hey, go check
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: up your husband and see he's okay. His mental health
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: is okay. Go check out your boyfriend and see he's okay.
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: Instead of sitting here like he ain't doing too much
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: or he ain't talking to me now he go check
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: on him.
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: Go check on your son and see he's okay.
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: Go check on your daughter, Go check on your your father,
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: see if he's okay. We gotta do more check ins.
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: Go check on your cousin while he'd been missing so long?
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: What happened figuring that out? So we sitting here judging,
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: and I want to leave you all today. Like I said.
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: You might not agree with me when I said the
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: whole tired night, but I hope you got something at
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: least a little bit, maybe just me being good for me,
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: just being here, just meeting up your day.
• 55:03
  Speaker 3: Maybe just you wanna see my face and I know.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: I cute, right, But hope you got something out of this,
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: cause this is what Royal Mic is all about. Having
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: a space, space for everybody, having I say, space for
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: everybody that comes down to whatever you want to classify
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: yourself with. This is meant to be your say space.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: And I'm here to drive the conversation, not record to
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: here to learn, to listen, to understand to people who
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: don't understand, who don't understand. That was Royal Mic any
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: platform I have, and that's when I'm with and telling you,
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: Like I said, I am Prince of Trysting Black Pride.
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: I do have a coming up on July twenty fifth.
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  Speaker 2: Buy your tickets. Tickets are twenty five dollars, the door
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  Speaker 2: is thirty dollars and it's it gonna be live and
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  Speaker 2: rocol Me poetry in the building. Poetry and that's money.
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  Speaker 2: It's national poetry. Mine it is write it down. And
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  Speaker 2: that's the thing is I forgot to say, write it down.
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: If you can't talk about it, write it down and
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: you don't have to show the about it. You gonna
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: burn it.
• 56:30
  Speaker 3: And that's what that's all I forgot.
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: Write down sometimes pressure feelings, do a painting, go out,
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: do alrdy and it's so much things you could do
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: with spress your feelings, especially men's don't don't don't, don't
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  Speaker 2: sit in, don't don't And like I said, get your
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: take and hit me out social media right there, zak
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  Speaker 2: attag ninety six, Instagram, booking, busy always you need me
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: to talk to somebody, you need to reach out to me,
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: go ahead and hit me up. Now. You need me
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: to hold stuff to day, we can talk about it.
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: Tell you I manifest what I say out here. I'm
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: here to do the work. I'm here to get me
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: out of here. So like I said, it's your borrow
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  Speaker 2: mic as mess as that and I want you to
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: have a great, great, great night, and I see y'all
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: next time on the third Thursday of next month. And
• 57:25
  Speaker 2: you do not I want to miss black Canvas, have
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  Speaker 3: Outside of this. I love y'all and y'all have a
• 57:49
  Speaker 3: great night. Thank you, KA.