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My husband’s mother sided with me after he CHEATED… now he wants a divorce! -r/TwoXChromosomes | Reddit Stories | EP3088 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 4: My husband's mother sided with me after he cheated, and
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  Speaker 4: now he wants a divorce.
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  Speaker 1: Give it to him.
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  Speaker 4: My husband, 46 yoms. Wants a divorce from me, 38. Yaaaf, queen.
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  Speaker 4: Because his mother sided with me after he cheated with
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  Speaker 4: his co-worker, 25. Yaaaf. And got her pregnant. For context,
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  Speaker 4: my mother-in-law has always been amazing to me. She's still
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  Speaker 4: quite young because she had my husband when she was 15.
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  Speaker 1: Oh!
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  Speaker 4: But she's treated me like I'm another daughter. She has
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  Speaker 4: four kids in total, two boys, including my husband, and
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  Speaker 4: two girls. My mother-in-law is one of the kindest people
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  Speaker 4: you will ever meet. I was anxious when I first
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  Speaker 4: got married because I was a white woman marrying into
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  Speaker 4: a black family. Husband is biracial, but still. But my
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  Speaker 4: mother-in-law accepted me immediately, treated me more like a queen,
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  Speaker 4: and lifted me up more than my own husband did.
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  Speaker 4: When I had our first baby, my mother-in-law respected my
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  Speaker 4: boundaries to wait a couple of days before visiting, as
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  Speaker 4: I had an extremely traumatic birth. When the day came
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  Speaker 4: for her to come to the hospital, she made a
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  Speaker 4: beeline straight for me. completely ignoring my newborn daughter altogether.
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  Speaker 4: And when I made a joke about it, she told
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  Speaker 4: me that I was her baby first. I love this
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  Speaker 4: woman so much. By the way, this comes from OK
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice scoofly, but we
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  Speaker 4: don't have all the answers. We only know what we do,
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  Speaker 4: so let us know what you would do in the comments. Oh,
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  Speaker 4: he says, fast forward, husband and I have been married
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  Speaker 4: for nine years. Whoa. I'm aware that we have an
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  Speaker 4: age gap, but it's something I'm questioning myself. But we
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  Speaker 4: have four children together, fifth on the way. I knew
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  Speaker 4: something was up when he had a total freak out
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  Speaker 4: over me using the family iPad. Tale as old as
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  Speaker 4: time and as old as iPads. Which his Google account
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  Speaker 4: was logged into. Then things started becoming more clear to
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  Speaker 4: me from there. Things like walking away at the grocery
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  Speaker 4: store and angling his phone away from me while he texted,
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  Speaker 4: aggressively insisting to me that I let him know when
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  Speaker 4: I would be home early some nights. I am a
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  Speaker 4: third shifter. We would have huge blowout arguments over it,
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  Speaker 4: but I kept brushing things away and letting them go
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  Speaker 4: because he insisted that he was not cheating and that
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  Speaker 4: he loved me and only me. That turned out to
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  Speaker 4: be a lie. That's tough. To my surprise, his co-worker
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  Speaker 4: reached out to me. Turns out he had been having
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  Speaker 4: an affair with her for three and a half years.
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  Speaker 4: And now she is six months pregnant. What's worse is
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  Speaker 4: he literally brought her over to our house while I
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  Speaker 4: was away with our kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yikes.
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  Speaker 4: He spent my postpartum periods doing stuff with her by
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  Speaker 4: the pool.
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  Speaker 1: Bark.
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  Speaker 4: Yikes.
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  Speaker 2: Bark.
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  Speaker 4: Or in his company work truck. I confronted my husband,
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  Speaker 4: and it went about as well as you'd expect. He
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  Speaker 4: blamed me for everything, telling me he has needs, that
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  Speaker 4: I was not fulfilling him spicy sleepily. He craved a young,
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  Speaker 4: fresh body. I'm sorry, are you a vampire? And that
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  Speaker 4: I had let myself go, even though I most definitely
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  Speaker 4: have not. I work out every day, even with four kids,
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  Speaker 4: and I'm currently pregnant with my fifth. I think he
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  Speaker 4: just doesn't understand how pregnancy works, and so he thinks
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  Speaker 4: that you've gained weight, when really... You have a baby
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  Speaker 4: in your belly. I did not tell my mother-in-law at
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  Speaker 4: first because I didn't want to drive a wedge between
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  Speaker 4: mother and son. But my oldest son let it slip
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  Speaker 4: to her that daddy was sleeping on the couch. My
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  Speaker 4: mother very gently asked if everything was okay, but she
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  Speaker 4: didn't want to intrude on our marriage. It all came
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  Speaker 4: out after that. My mother-in-law lost her crap. I don't
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  Speaker 4: know everything that was said to my husband, but I
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  Speaker 4: know they were not kind words. My mother-in-law told me verbatim, Honey,
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  Speaker 4: it's your choice to leave or stay with him. Either
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  Speaker 4: way you choose, I'm right here with you. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Cool. Who beans? We're locked arm in arm.
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  Speaker 4: Love that. Fast forward two months. I decided to stay
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  Speaker 4: with him like an idiot.
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  Speaker 1: No. Oh, no. What happened?
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 1: What happened?
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  Speaker 4: He cried and promised me all these things and that
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  Speaker 4: he would change. And like an idiot, I believed him.
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  Speaker 4: Now he wants a divorce. I mean, he told you
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  Speaker 4: he wanted a young, fresh body. Not only because he
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  Speaker 4: wants to be with his mistress and their kid on
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  Speaker 4: the way, but because his mother sided with me. He
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  Speaker 4: insisted that she was his mother and should have supported
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  Speaker 4: him and stuck by him. My mother-in-law apparently turned him
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  Speaker 4: away when he went to her house to sleep for
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  Speaker 4: a night, telling him, you'll not bring your Oren to
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  Speaker 4: my house. I don't know where we currently stand. He
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  Speaker 4: is staying with his mistress currently and has not yet
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  Speaker 4: served me divorce papers. Meanwhile, my mother-in-law, my mother, and
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  Speaker 4: I will be spending a peaceful Mother's Day at a
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  Speaker 4: cabin in Tennessee. That sounds.
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  Speaker 1: You got yourself a little jug of moonshine up there?
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  Speaker 4: I think what you could do is, just to pause
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  Speaker 4: it real quick, I think you kind of can flip
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  Speaker 4: it around on him. Kind of Russia-U.S. moon race style,
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  Speaker 4: you know, or space race. So instead, like... Original goal,
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  Speaker 4: get to space. Original goal for you, who divorces who first?
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  Speaker 4: Who says the words?
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  Speaker 2: And then China somehow comes into the mix and then
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  Speaker 2: they win.
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  Speaker 4: That's actually not how the space race happened, no.
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  Speaker 1: For a second I was like, what movie is she
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  Speaker 1: talking about?
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  Speaker 4: Wait, I'm not done with my analogy. And then.
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  Speaker 1: He did the Kessel Run in 7.8 parsecs.
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  Speaker 4: Russia gets to space first. Oh no, that's your husband
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  Speaker 4: saying I want to divorce you first.
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  Speaker 1: But.
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  Speaker 4: You can be the U.S. and say, actually, we're changing
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  Speaker 4: the rules. We're changing the rules now. Now the goal
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  Speaker 4: is to get to the moon. So now the goal
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  Speaker 4: is for you to serve him papers first. There you go.
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  Speaker 2: Whoever fakes it first wins.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Serving papers protect you and your five kids. You do
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  Speaker 4: it first. He hasn't done it yet. Change the rules.
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  Speaker 4: Now the goal is to serve him.
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  Speaker 2: Boom.
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  Speaker 1: Boom.
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  Speaker 4: Done.
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  Speaker 1: Boom, done. Outsmarted. Outplayed. Outwitted.
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  Speaker 4: Boom, bop, bam. Boom. I guess I shared all this
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  Speaker 4: to say, appreciate the good mothers you have and mothers
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  Speaker 4: stand by your children, even those by marriage, because you
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  Speaker 4: are the bedrock of our society. I know my sisters
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  Speaker 4: have monsters in law and I'm grateful to have both
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  Speaker 4: my biological mother and my mother-in-law in this situation.
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  Speaker 1: Advice?
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  Speaker 4: And we do have an update. I already gave you
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  Speaker 4: my mice. I gave you my mice.
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  Speaker 1: Add mice.
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  Speaker 2: Add mice.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone check under your chairs.
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  Speaker 2: You get a mouse.
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  Speaker 4: I gave you mice. Now put them in your husband's
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  Speaker 4: house and let them loose.
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  Speaker 1: We did determine it was the year of the mouse.
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  Speaker 1: It's true.
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  Speaker 4: Yum.
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  Speaker 1: Give him some more mice.
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  Speaker 4: I gave you my advice. Give him mice.
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  Speaker 1: Add mice. He's a mouse boy. Mouse boy. He's a
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  Speaker 1: mouse boy.
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  Speaker 2: He's like Stuart Little?
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  Speaker 4: I mean... Stuart Little would never.
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  Speaker 1: Cheat on his wife. Wait, on a real level. Dang,
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  Speaker 1: that got me. Is there a difference?
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  Speaker 3: Like if he initiates divorce, does she have less standing
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  Speaker 3: when it comes to like the previous infidelity and stuff?
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  Speaker 1: Or like, does that even matter?
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  Speaker 4: They might not be in an at-fault state, so it
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  Speaker 4: might not matter.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. I mean, it depends. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, it sounds like you can divorce him or
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  Speaker 3: he can divorce you. And it doesn't matter because either way,
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  Speaker 3: you're going to have a party about it with his mom.
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  Speaker 3: Which I can't think of a bigger slam dunk on
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  Speaker 3: a person than to be like, yeah, your mom is
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  Speaker 3: cheering for.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Your mom hates you, dad.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even know if it's his misery. It's more
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  Speaker 1: just like you're just desserts, dude.
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  Speaker 4: There's an update. Already within an hour and a half
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  Speaker 4: of posting this, stuff has already changed. Call it God
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  Speaker 4: or the universe, I'm not sure which. I just want
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  Speaker 4: to say, first and foremost, I just checked all of
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  Speaker 4: the comments so far, right when I logged back on
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  Speaker 4: to update this post, and I have to say thank
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  Speaker 4: you to everyone. Lawyer was contacted as soon as I
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  Speaker 4: saw the comments because they just validated what I was
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  Speaker 4: already feeling in my soul. To everyone wondering if I
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  Speaker 4: want this man back, the answer is a resounding F no!
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  Speaker 4: If the cheating wasn't bad enough, the fact that a
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  Speaker 4: 40-something-year-old man, Yom, has been sleeping with his 20-yoth is
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  Speaker 4: already a massive no from Ma. The real tough part
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  Speaker 4: about this is that he paraded this girl around me,
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  Speaker 4: acting like they were just co-workers. This girl smiled in
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  Speaker 4: my face at work parties and work trips while I
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  Speaker 4: was barely able to stand up from being heavily pregnant.
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  Speaker 4: That is so crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Scum.
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  Speaker 4: And, you know, I get the kind of element of
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  Speaker 4: her being much younger than this guy. But, like, how
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  Speaker 4: can you look at the face of a woman who is, like,
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  Speaker 4: the wife who is pregnant?
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  Speaker 2: The mother of your child.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And she, with her husband, like, yes, the husband is awful. But, like,
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  Speaker 4: also this girl. Like, how can she look at OP
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  Speaker 4: and not even let on anything? She knew about me
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  Speaker 4: all along and I suspect she only told me about
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  Speaker 4: the affair to gloat. This man is never stepping foot
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  Speaker 4: back into the house that my passed away father paid for.
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  Speaker 4: The house is mine. The children that I birthed and
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  Speaker 4: raised almost solely on my own with help from my
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  Speaker 4: mother and mother-in-law are mine. And so are cars that
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  Speaker 4: my wages paid for. I will fight tooth and nail
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  Speaker 4: to get what is mine and what is owed to me.
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  Speaker 4: The comments helped me realize that I was being petty
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  Speaker 4: and wasting time. I said, I don't know where we stand.
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  Speaker 4: Not because I want him back as a husband. but
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  Speaker 4: because I wanted to call his bluff. Because he is
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  Speaker 4: a spineless coward. I was waiting for him to come
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  Speaker 4: crawling back and beg my forgiveness like the loser he is.
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  Speaker 4: And within 30 minutes of me making this post, he did.
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  Speaker 4: His mistress turns out has a boyfriend. Oh no. Well,
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  Speaker 4: let's see who's got their foot in the wrong shoe. You, mister.
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  Speaker 1: Well, she's dedicated to the game, that's for sure.
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  Speaker 4: And he broke up with her upon discovering them together
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  Speaker 4: and kicked them out of the house that he owns.
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  Speaker 4: I spent less than 10 minutes on the phone with him,
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  Speaker 4: listening in total silence to him begging and crying to
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  Speaker 4: let him come back.
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  Speaker 2: You know what you should do, Opie? Let me ask
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  Speaker 2: your mom.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, sorry. Your mom says that you can't sleep over tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Regis, I'm going to use the phone a friend option.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to call your mom. And I'm going to
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  Speaker 3: see what she has to say.
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  Speaker 4: Ooh, she says now. Hearing him say that he loves
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  Speaker 4: me and that he made a mistake and he doesn't
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  Speaker 4: want to lose his home and his wife and kids.
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  Speaker 4: I said nothing and hung up. His number is now
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  Speaker 4: blocked and the entire conversation was recorded for the lawyer.
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  Speaker 4: Completely legal. We live in a one-party consent state. But
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  Speaker 4: we got a little bit left. Any final thoughts?
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  Speaker 1: Well, at least you know he's a pathetic little coward now.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it makes sense.
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  Speaker 4: Nine years into your relationship. It was nine years into
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  Speaker 4: your relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Opie, you go, no takesie-backsies.
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  Speaker 4: Lp you go what you say and then he gets.
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  Speaker 1: But you cheated on me with the 25 year old
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  Speaker 1: and she's pregnant.
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  Speaker 4: With your child because it is um but we got
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  Speaker 4: a little bit left that's super tough op but you
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  Speaker 4: seem like you're way better without um I have nothing
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  Speaker 4: but rage in my heart right now, and I feel
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  Speaker 4: somewhat guilty because I was raised a devout Catholic. Well,
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  Speaker 4: one of the rules is don't adulter. Don't do that.
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  Speaker 4: No adultery. The guilt of Doris is still lingering. I
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  Speaker 4: have cried for months because this man betrayed me when
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  Speaker 4: I have done nothing but love him, give him children
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  Speaker 4: at my own peril, nursed him when he was sick
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  Speaker 4: with a heart attack. I'm done crying.
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  Speaker 1: Why did he have a heart attack over? Cheating on you?
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  Speaker 1: A 21-year-old being interested in him? Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I wonder if it's like, is this man very unhealthy?
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  Speaker 4: Or was it just, you know, genetic? This post was
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  Speaker 4: meant to be for Mother's Day, and in the same vein,
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  Speaker 4: I want to say that as a mother, my children
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  Speaker 4: come first, and I come first before a pathetic, worthless man.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you again to everyone. I'm off to Tennessee.
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  Speaker 1: Yep. Ain't that the truth.
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  Speaker 2: Woo!
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  Speaker 1: I'm off to Tennessee and my husband is leaving me,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm leaving him and I'm hanging with his mom.
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  Speaker 4: That's really beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: Going on up to Tennessee and gonna see his mom.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a divorcee?
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  Speaker 4: Sure, that rhymes.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story and we're going
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  Speaker 1: on to the next one.
• 13:09
  Speaker 3: I found my girlfriend's secret stash hidden in our dresser
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  Speaker 3: and was more.
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  Speaker 1: Confused than ever.
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  Speaker 4: Stash of what?
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  Speaker 2: Is it a mustache? No.
• 13:19
  Speaker 3: Is she a master of disguise? My girlfriend, 24, female,
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  Speaker 3: and me, 26, male. We've been living together for a while.
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  Speaker 3: After the first lockdown, we decided we didn't want to
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  Speaker 3: spend so many months apart anymore. And we knew a
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  Speaker 3: new lockdown was on its way, so we began living together.
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  Speaker 3: Perfect idea, as we are now on lockdown again. Also,
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  Speaker 3: we are together since nearly four years now. This is
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  Speaker 3: getting out of control, dude.
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  Speaker 4: Since nearly four years now, we are together. Maybe they're
• 13:45
  Speaker 4: from Germany.
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  Speaker 3: Everything is going very smoothly. We are best friends living together.
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  Speaker 3: It is a real pleasure, but some things are weird.
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  Speaker 3: She sometimes seems very fishy. Like some days ago, she
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  Speaker 3: looked guilty of something, went into the kitchen, passed by
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  Speaker 3: the living room to go to our room. And I
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  Speaker 3: saw she was hiding something behind her back.
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  Speaker 1: I jokingly asked what it was. And she said, nothing, nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I began laughing and asking again, but she got angry again.
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  Speaker 3: And ran towards our room to lock herself in, and
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  Speaker 3: I saw what she had in her hands was a fork?
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  Speaker 1: Just a fork. A simple fork. Can't be mistaken. She
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  Speaker 1: did this twice this month.
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  Speaker 3: The first time I bumped into her and she was
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  Speaker 3: hiding two spoons behind her back. Then she ran away
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  Speaker 3: to our room. I asked her after this happened, why
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  Speaker 3: does she hide those things? And she said, it's none
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  Speaker 3: of my business. Every couple has their secrets.
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  Speaker 1: I accepted it, but... Why spoons and forks? By the way,
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  Speaker 1: this comes from throwaway13013. If you want to submit your
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  Speaker 1: own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 3: We're going to read this here story I got right
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  Speaker 3: in my hand, and we're going to give our thoughts
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  Speaker 3: on it.
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  Speaker 1: But we don't know everything, but you do. You do.
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  Speaker 3: So you tell us what you think in the comments.
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  Speaker 3: And OP says, Also, I can see her sometimes doing
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  Speaker 3: the same thing, but from our room to the kitchen.
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  Speaker 3: simply taking those back to their place. I never see
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  Speaker 3: these in our room.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you guys think? There's an update.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe she's making something.
• 15:19
  Speaker 4: Alvin says she might be obsessed with collecting them. However,
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  Speaker 4: she's returning them.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe they expired.
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  Speaker 4: And do you need to collect something that you own in,
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  Speaker 4: is in your own house?
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  Speaker 1: I think she's lost her mind.
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  Speaker 3: After posting, I was scared. Was my girlfriend doing illegal
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  Speaker 3: substances behind my back? Did she have an eating disorder?
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  Speaker 3: Should I try to press for more answers? Should I
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: put a camera on? Should I take her by surprise
• 15:41
  Speaker 3: and enter the room when she's in there alone?
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: Probably. I feel like none of those ones.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: So Opie ended up deciding to sit her down and talk.
• 15:51
  Speaker 4: Sit her down. I like that one the best. Why
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: didn't I think of that? Yep, it's because you're dumb.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: New idea.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: She's trading the spoons and forks with another crow.
• 16:05
  Speaker 4: But she's getting them back.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: I hate you.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: He thinks... She's bringing them back, but they're different ones.
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: They're different ones that the crow brings.
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: And they trade at the window because it's the pandemo.
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: They're locked in the house. The only form of communication
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: she has is with this bird.
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: And they bring her his secrets from the outside world.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: And they're mostly just like, you know, shiny, you know,
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: other people's.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: What goes on in there? I really want to know.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: Belton says she's hit her terrible twos, fives. A table,
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: two fives. Two fives.
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: We communicate well, never arguing when do so, usually. But
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: this time, even if I was the sweetest I have
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: ever been.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: She got angry. She said, stop asking about it. No
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: is no.
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: You won't get any answers from me.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: She got cold after that for days. Didn't talk to
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: me anymore.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Reddit scared me with the whole substances things or the
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: eating disorder comments, so I decided to put a camera
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: in our room.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: Wouldn't have suggested that.
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, that was my last suggestion.
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: I guess out of the interest of making sure she's okay,
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: that's better than, you know, most reasons to put a
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: camera in there. And since it is both of your rooms,
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: I guess that's okay. I actually kind of sign off
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: on that.
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: I don't, but I do want to know what happens.
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: So for the sake of the story.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I appreciate it.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: What if your boyfriend was hoarding spoons, locked himself in
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: his room, and then the internet told you he was
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: on hard drugs?
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: Genuinely?
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: You know, people who are smart are also very high
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: functioning when they get those kind of problems.
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: I personally feel like I would just talk to him
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: and it would be fine. But if he was like, no,
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, dude, what's wrong with you?
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: And he's like, nothing. I just need my spoons in
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: my room.
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: I don't think I would jump to recording him. Okay.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: I don't think I would. Fair enough. Sophia would let
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: her boyfriend destroy his body with illicit materials. That's fine.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: I quickly saw what she was doing with them and
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: it confused me even more.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: She just put them in a plastic bag.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: She put it in a backpack of hers and then
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: she proceeded to put it in our dresser. After seeing that,
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: I looked for the backpack in our dresser and there
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: it was. Cutlery, a pan, and a plate. I was
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: even more confused. More questions than answers at that point.
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: So I sat her down again. I took the backpack
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: and opened it in front of her and asked again.
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: She got angry.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: Really, really angry. Then she cried and then went away
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: for a walk. She sent me a message two hours
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: later to tell me she was at her sister's and
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: would come back when she felt ready.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: What is going on? This is weird.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: This is weird.
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: I'm so bamboozled.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I'll tell you what, a human bird.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: If you say crow again, I'm muting.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: A human bird hates to be exposed.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: I hate you.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: I didn't say the word you don't like. Human birds
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: are very particular about their privacy.
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: Good Morning Petty Potatoes is DNA testing? That is.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: But why would she need pans? Yeah.
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: Honestly, I have no ideas. I have gotten zero ideas.
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: Put all of your ideas in the chat.
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: Is she eating something?
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: As out there as they could possibly be.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: Maybe she's been in somewhat of an identity crisis and
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: she's like.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: I wish I were a pan.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Well, maybe she's just really confused about what pansexual means. Maybe.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: But why the spoons?
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: What is she doing with those pans?
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: I've got no idea, but I need to know. Tell me.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: Tell me now.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Is she doing like ASMR?
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: Type crow in the chat if you think I'm right.
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: Audrey says, or maybe OCD. She can't eat off of
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: what he is eating off of. That, I feel like.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: Is closer. Oh, that's right, because they just moved in together.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that is a good idea.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Why not just say it, though? That seems the most plausible.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: I know. Why not just say it?
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: She came back two days later, because she had to
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: work and had no other choice, anyway. Then it was
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: her time to sit me down and finally tell me
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: what was up.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: She was fidgeting.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: And nearly crying, but also laughing, which is, that's scary.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: And she said, I know it's stupid, but I just
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: hate washing the dishes. What?
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: What?
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I asked her what she meant.
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: She said, I'm sorry for the way I acted about
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: it all, but I was embarrassed to tell you the truth.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: I hate washing the dishes, and when it's my turn
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: to do so, I take some of the dishes away,
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: hide them, and when it's your turn to wash the dishes,
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: I put them back so I have less to wash.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Are we believing this?
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: Honestly, yes. Honestly, it's so stupid that, yeah, I believe this.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: What's the opposite of a raccoon? She is that. She
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: hates washing things.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: And raccoons love washing things in a little bit of
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: running water.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: Dude, I don't know. What? I would be so confused
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: if I were OP.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I mean this in the most real way possible.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Is the opposite, because it feels like it could be,
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: is the opposite of a raccoon a crow?
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: No, they like bathing.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: I keep thinking about this.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: Yikes.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Opie continues. It made sense. Our rule is whoever cooks
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: doesn't have to do the dishes.
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: I always thought since she cooks fancy meals, that's why
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: I always had to wash so many dishes. At that point,
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: I just laughed because what is going on? But it
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: was also somehow funny, incredibly funny. I decided to tell
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: her about the camera. She was offended at first.
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: You can only be so offended when you've been forcing
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: your partner to wash all your dishes.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: I love how it's like, I don't want to deal
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: with washing the dishes. So I did a clandestine mission
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: to hide the dishes in our dresser.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Much more work.
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: Much more work. Gross.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: So much more work.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: That's kind of gross.
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: Well, at least it's in a bag, I guess.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: That backpack's gross.
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: She puts it in a bag. Then she puts the
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: bag in the bag. Then she puts the bag that's
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: in the bag inside a drawer.
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: Like, imagine Karen, because she's just doing it one at
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: a time. One fork at a time to the drawer.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: Listen, I know people, sometimes people hate washing dishes.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: But can you hate it so much?
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: That it has to be this elaborate and, like, sneaky?
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: It's like when people cheat on tests, but do so in, like,
• 22:27
  Speaker 4: those movies where students will cheat on tests in such
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: an elaborate way. That you're like, well, why didn't you
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: just study?
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Just study for the test, bro. Put the fries in
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: the bag.
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: She said she deserved it being spied on and would
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: probably have done the same. I showed her the first
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: post and she apologized for letting me worry so much
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: over so little. All is well that ends well. It's
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: a nice story, to be honest. No grudge, just a
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: funny story to tell people in some years. For now,
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: she's still way too embarrassed about it, as expected. From
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: now on, I will always wash the dishes, and she
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: will take care of the laundry. That's a good compromise.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: I'm incredibly concerned by this, actually.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, cool.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Me too. I like how they resolved it, but.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: I think the root behavior of she was doing something,
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: and maybe it's just like lockdown, you know, insanity.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: I feel like it must be because he went to,
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: I'm going to record her in her own house.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: Well, and again, that's because he was like being told
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: by the internet that she was probably doing like, you know,
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: the big H or something. Like literally she's shooting up
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: in the bedroom and it's like, uh, okay, well I
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: need to make sure that's not happening.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Um, but there would probably be other signs anyway. Uh,
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: I just don't like that. Her response was to get
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: super angry and go be at her like sister's house
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: for two days.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: Over dishes?
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Flutterfy for you, referencing the, I'll do the laundry now,
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: the OP said. Or she'll do the laundry until she
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: starts hiding the laundry.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because I can never find any socks. It used
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: to be just one sock, but now I can't find
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: any socks.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: But I do like the way they fixed it.
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: They found a compromise. I think... It does.
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: Super concern me that she approached all this with, like,
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: I'm going to get angry at you. How dare you
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: question me? I don't love that. And it was all
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: over dishes. Don't love it.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: And you were lying to me. Yeah.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: We got to bring this up.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Like what if I was to say, what if she
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: lives alone? What is she going to do?
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know. Hire a dishwasher.
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: Just editing because people are blowing it up out of proportion.
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: I won't dump her over this. It's not as bad
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: as you believe. It's just a childish thing. I caught
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: her hiding once, and she thought it was too late
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: to go back, and she went with it until I
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: found out what she was doing.
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: She got angry because she was embarrassed. She is an
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: anxious person. Some things are hard for her. It just happens.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: It's 0.1% of who she actually is. I don't see
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: things through rose-colored glasses. I am very down-to-earth and see
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: things as they are.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: A mistake. Yes, it made me do more dishes, but
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: what is one more plate and spoon in.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: The face of love? Also, we used to alternate. One
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: day was me, one day was her. She never actually
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: put dishes for long in the backpack. And it also
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: was in a plastic bag then in the backpack as
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: you would take your lunch for work.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: She is just a human.
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: I don't think I've ever done this, but you know.
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: She is just human after all. Sorry. We all do.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: We all do things.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: My biggest question would be, how did you not notice
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: the dishes just like appeared magically?
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: And you're like, huh, I don't remember using these today.
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: Well, no, it was because it was whoever cooked, the
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: other person would clean. So when she was cooking, presumably
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: he wasn't in the kitchen and she would run back
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: and grab the dishes.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: Put them in the sink.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: But then. I guess, so he's not cooking.
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: So he'd be like, oh, well, I guess she just
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: cooked with all these dishes.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: Like, when is she, like, doing the drop-off? Like, when
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: is she, like, returning and putting them back?
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: She's too sneaky.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: I mean, clearly, I mean, OP caught her, like, four
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: different times. Yeah.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I support this. I don't think there needed to
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: be a breakup. I think there needs to be a
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: conversation about how we.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: Respond?
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: Or just, like, saying, like, hey, I really hate doing dishes.
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: Is there any universe which I can just not do
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: them ever?
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: And I'd do something else. I just really don't like
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: that she got.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Angry at you.
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story, and we're going
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: on to the next one.
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: My wife went behind my back with our savings, so
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: I removed her access to it.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Call that a pump fake.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: I have been married to my wife, Ashley, for seven years.
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: I am the only one that works. Ashley spends her
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: time volunteering at a charity she started. I am fine
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: with this, as I make enough for both of us.
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: In financial decisions, we have equal say. I will admit
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: that I am the numbers nerd of the relationship, so
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: I do the budget and handle our investments. My wife
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: has equal input into the budget. We both have to
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: agree on it. Like many people, we are saving for
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: retirement and a couple of other financial goals. Ashley's sister
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: and her family are going through a lot of financial
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: issues at the moment. My brother-in-law lost his job, and
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: my sister-in-law is reaching out to my wife for help.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: They're asking for us to cover their monthly expenses. I said, no,
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: while we have some discretionary money, we don't have that much.
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: Both my wife and I get fun money to spend
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: however we wish each month. I told my wife that
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: I would match whatever amount of her fun money she
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: wants to give to her sister from my fun money.
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: My wife doesn't want to do that. She says that
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: won't be enough money. She wants us to reduce the
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: amount we're saving each month to help her sister. I refused.
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: I don't want to jeopardize my family's future for her
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: sister's present. Ashley was very unhappy with my answer, but
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: I refused to change my mind. By the way, this
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: comes from throwaway05232021A. And if you want to submit your
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: own stories, go to the r slash ok story time subreddit.
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: tend to have all the answers. We only know what
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: we'd do. So let us know what you would do
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: in the comments. And OP says... I found out last
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: week that my wife gave her sister money out of
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: her general savings account. That's a big no-no.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: That's a big no-no.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: That's a big old no-no. I was furious. To me,
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: this is a complete betrayal of trust. I confronted her
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: and her reply was that I forced her to go
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: behind my back by being unreasonable. I was angry. I
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: ended up going to the bank and opening up a
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: new account in my name only. I moved the balance
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: to my new accounts. I left in enough money for
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: the expenses that she typically pays according to our budget.
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: Things like groceries, her gas, etc. As well as her
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: fun money. I did not leave her without access to
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: any money. I did leave her with access only to
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: money that she is supposed to spend according to the
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: budget we both agreed to. I went home and told
• 28:56
  Speaker 4: her what I had done. She is accusing me of
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: financially abusing her. What?
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: She wins the victim game. Yes. Hang him up.
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: The man who is supporting your whole family, who gives
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: you the money that you agreed that you would have.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, wait.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: The man you stole money from is financially abusing you.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Yes, of course.
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: I pointed out that she's the one that mistreated my trust,
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: not the other way around. That it is on her
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: to prove to me that she is worthy of my
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: trust because after what she did, I don't trust her anymore.
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: She said if that was the case, she should just leave. Okay.
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: Bye.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: That she wasn't going to be treated as a child.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Hey, don't steal the door on your way out.
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, or like, I don't know, like get a job
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: that pays money. I told her to leave then because
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: I wasn't going to give her the opportunity to steal
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: from me again when it's clear she isn't even sorry
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: for what she did. She left to stay with her
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: sister and now they're both broke.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: Who's paying for you now? But they can be broke together.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: Maybe they're going to get like a little kinetsugi type situation.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: They're going to become golden ladies together.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: Aw.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Like the Golden Girls.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: She's Betty White.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: Betty White, she's the Golden Girls.
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: I believe I am completely justified for what I have done.
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: She's the one that broke our agreement, but did I
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: take it too far? This was the first time she's
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: ever done anything like that. Did I let anger get
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: the best of me? Am I the a-hole for taking
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: away her access to the money? And there is an update.
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: What do you think? What do you think, Dakota?
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: Let's change the context. Okay. Wife smashed my hand with
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: a hammer.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Ouch.
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: I took the hammers away.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Sure.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: Am I in the wrong here?
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: Not in the hammer case.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: No.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: She said I actually am abusing her by taking her
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: hammers away.
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: She does like her hammers.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: I gotta hand it to her.
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: Hammer it to her. Hammer it to her.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: I think it's a little silly... That she's complaining about
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: her money being taken away when he is giving her
• 31:02
  Speaker 4: the exact same amount that they agreed upon. And now
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: she has no access to that money. So she kind
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: of played herself there.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: Well, I mean, she still has access to the money
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: that was hers.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: And is like.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: He said he didn't... He just took her out of
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: the savings account she was not supposed to be taking
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: money out of.
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: Well, my point is she's... saying that, you know, she
• 31:27
  Speaker 4: doesn't even want to be in this, seemingly that she
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: doesn't even want to be in this relationship anymore. So
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: if she goes through with that.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, like what kind of? Yeah. Are they married?
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: My wife, yeah.
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 31:39
  Speaker 4: They are married.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, if she wants to go through with that,
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: I would say, did you know divorce lawyers cost money?
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: Money, money, money. Who's going to pay for that?
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: Her sister.
• 31:50
  Speaker 4: But we got an update.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: I mean, hopefully you guys could just be straight up
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: amicable about it, but she doesn't seem like the amicable type.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 31:58
  Speaker 4: The fact that she went around your back.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: The fact that she said, I went behind your back,
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: and she thinks she's in the right.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And now you're being accused of wrongdoing.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you stole her money. And in response, you said, okay, well,
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: I'm going to put my money in a different place.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: It's your money. Steal it when you need it.
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: Updates. Well, it looks like the posters that commented that
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: my marriage is doomed were correct. First, after reading the post,
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: I agreed that it was not fair that I had
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: access to our savings and she did not, even though
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: she gave some away without my consent. Following the advice
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: of several posters, I contacted my bank and I found
• 32:37
  Speaker 4: out that the account could be changed so that while
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: both of us could deposit money, it would take both
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: our signatures to take money out of the account.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: That's a good idea.
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: I do prefer that. If you're trying to save your marriage...
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: That's probably the best way to go about it.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: I don't think I would.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: But I don't know if I want to save this marriage.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: I don't think I would at this point. Like, if
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: you're going to really, I don't know.
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: This would give her the same control over the accounts
• 33:00
  Speaker 4: that I had by putting them under my name. I
• 33:02
  Speaker 4: contacted Ashley to let her know that I would put
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: the money back in the joint account if we switched
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: the account to require both of our signatures. She said no.
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: That just showed that I didn't trust her. I told
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: her I didn't. She had taken money without my consent.
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: Of course I didn't trust her. She refuses to change
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: the account. I refuse to give her unrestricted access. So
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: right now I'm still the only one with access to
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: the money. It's so funny that she is going about
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: this in this manner, being like, well, I want access
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: to the money. So I'm actually not going to, you know,
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: take this very reasonable deal in which I would get
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: a little bit of access of money. And instead, I'm
• 33:45
  Speaker 4: going to continue to have no money. Why? Why is that?
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: She's proving a point.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: She's dug in her heels. She's like, no, no, no, no, no.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: I'm the victim. You did the wrong thing. I refuse
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: to budge.
• 33:59
  Speaker 4: We also tried marriage counseling. Another suggestion that posters brought
• 34:02
  Speaker 4: up multiple times. The counselor asked both of us to
• 34:05
  Speaker 4: say what we thought was wrong with our relationship. Ashley
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: said that I mistreated her by taking away our access
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: to money. I said that Ashley had broken my trust
• 34:13
  Speaker 4: by giving away money without my consent. It took a
• 34:16
  Speaker 4: few sessions, but it became pretty clear that we just
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: weren't going to see things the same way. I wasn't
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: going to commit to supporting her sister's family, and she
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: refused to see giving them money without my consent as
• 34:28
  Speaker 4: a breach of trust. The real winner of it all
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: was that close to the end of the month, Ashley demanded,
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: not asked, demanded, that I put $ 3, 000... in the account
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: for her to use to pay her sister's bills. Girly Pop,
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: if you want to pay your sister's bills so bad,
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: get a job. Get a job that pays.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: That's too complicated, Sophia. Come on.
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: She works at a charity already. It's not like she's
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: not doing anything.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's called her sister.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: Why don't you just work the land, grow some crops,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: harvest them, take them down to the market, and earn
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: some pay for an honest... Day's work.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: Not much, but it's honest.
• 35:13
  Speaker 4: Her reasoning was since she stayed there, we owed it
• 35:16
  Speaker 4: to them.
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: Because her sister stayed with them?
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: Because OP's wife went to go stay with her sister.
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: So we owed $ 3, 000 to them. I want to bring
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: this up to the... I want to see what the
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: therapist says.
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: Because this OP's wife said, I don't like this relationship.
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: Left to go stay with her sister and now OP
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: owes $ 3, 000?
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: I need to... Bring this up to the therapist and
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: the therapist is going to go.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: That's crazy. That's absolutely bonkers.
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: Honestly, at this point, I'm withdrawing all the money. I'm
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: turning it into gold and she's never seeing a cent
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: of it.
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Whatever, dude. I don't even care. You want to play
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: that card? Let's play that card. I'm going to get bad.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: I'm going to do some bad stuff now.
• 35:58
  Speaker 4: I told her she was ridiculous. And then if I
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: wouldn't do that while we were together, why in the
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: world would I do it now? She walked out of
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: the session. You did that in therapy? And told me
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: that she wouldn't continue counseling until I agreed. Well, easy
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: solution here. Divorce.
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: Maybe we're just missing something. Maybe she left to go
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: stay with her sister and then they went to the Ritz-Carlton.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: And they spent a lot of money on room service.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: We had a really good time.
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: We had such a good time, I bought caviar. I
• 36:27
  Speaker 4: thought it would be cheaper.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: I didn't like it, so I ordered more.
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: And I didn't like it, so I ordered it again,
• 36:32
  Speaker 3: just seeing maybe if third time was the charm.
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: But I ate it all anyway, so they charged my card.
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: I contacted a lawyer and filed for a legal separation
• 36:40
  Speaker 4: and will be filing for divorce. I found that I
• 36:44
  Speaker 4: am legally obligated to pay usual and ordinary bills of
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: the household. but I am not required to pay any
• 36:50
  Speaker 4: bills for where she moved to since she left voluntarily. Adoy.
• 36:55
  Speaker 4: So I am doing what I am required to.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I'd be looking at the therapist and go, see?
• 37:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't even have to say anything at that point.
• 37:04
  Speaker 4: Including things like paying for her car insurance and her
• 37:07
  Speaker 4: cell phone, but I'm not giving her access to any
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: other funds. She has asked, more like demanded, I give
• 37:13
  Speaker 4: her money as she will be getting it when we divorce,
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: but I don't have a way of making sure whatever
• 37:17
  Speaker 4: she's given, comes out of the final settlement. So I
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: am refusing. And that's the end of the story.
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: Hmm.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: I like it.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: I like that. A nice divorce.
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: Hmm.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: She earned that, dude.
• 37:30
  Speaker 4: She earned it.
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: She earned that.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: She earned it.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: She earned that and she meant it.
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: She meant that.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: And she meant that. And she really did mean that.
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: But folks, that's the end of that story and we
• 37:38
  Speaker 4: got another one.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's Keon, your favorite short king. We're going to
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of
• 37:44
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• 37:45
  Speaker 3: I stopped relying on my husband for everything, and I
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: think it's making things worse.
• 37:50
  Speaker 4: Okay, let's go back to relying on him.
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: My husband, despite multiple discussions over the past two years,
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: never takes initiative in chores or anything in our lives.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: I'm constantly the one reminding him and asking him to
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: do things, and when.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: I don't, it doesn't get done.
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: He told me he started hating me because of it
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: about six months ago, so we both had an agreement
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: that I will stop telling him what to do as
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: long as he starts following up with his promises.
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: I followed up on my end of the promise, and
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: he didn't. Within a few days.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: We agreed that since I wake up first to work out,
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: then make breakfast, he wakes up with our kid and
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: takes her to daycare before work. After work, I pick
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: up our kid and make dinner and manage the bedtime routine.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: And he cleans the kitchen while I do that. Every
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: single day, I walk out after bedtime to the kitchen
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: not having been touched.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: It's so disappointing and hurtful.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: Usually I get upset at him and tell him that
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: I really want the kitchen cleaned every day, and he
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: just brushes me off saying, he'll do it in the morning.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: About 25% of the time he does. But since we
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: have the agreement, I stopped. I just pretended to ignore
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: the mess and would get ready for bed because by
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: then I would have to get up in seven hours.
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: I let him be responsible for the mess because that's
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: what we agreed on.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from a deleted user. If
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: r slash WKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: And we're going to read this story. We're going to
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: give our thoughts. We're going to give our advice. It
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: might be a little goofy and we don't know everything.
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: So keep that in mind when you make your own
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: comments and we read them and we go, get a
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: load of this guy, huh?
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: Get a load of this guy. What's he saying?
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: And OPC.
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: Two months later in our kitchen was always a mess. Constantly,
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: we would have molded food on the stove next to
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: the sink, crumbs.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Everywhere on the floor.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: So I gave up and started cleaning whenever I had time.
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: I learned to cook and clean at the same time,
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: which is stressful with a child, but I learned. Most
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: of the time, there were a week worth of dishes,
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: and we have no dishwasher, so it took me a
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: long time to catch up on washing the dishes.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: What do you mean you don't have a dishwasher? It's you.
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: After bedtime, usually I'd be the only one cleaning. He
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: would be laying in bed even though I wake up
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: two hours before he does. He would literally yell at
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: me about how I let the dishes get so stinky
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: whenever he did wash the dishes, even though he agreed
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: that he's responsible for cleaning after dinner. So I stopped
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: relying on him and just started taking care of everything
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: on my own. It's been two months of that mindset
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: and I find it harder to respect him now. He
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: seems like a child to me, always complaining about everything
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: and never puts in effort. Always too tired and grumpy.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: Today I was very excited because my husband brought up
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: the idea of a movie date night.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: Hmm. He never brings up date ideas or plans them,
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: so it made me so hopeful. He said he would
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: rent a movie and after bedtime we would watch it.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: I made a fancier dinner than normal and put our
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: kid to bed.
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: Kid took a little longer to go down, but I
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: was fine with it because I figured he would clean
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: today so.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: We could have a movie night. I was wrong.
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: He didn't even bother to close the lids on the
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: pans on the stove. He just turned off the lights
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: in the kitchen.
• 41:05
  Speaker 4: Oh, this is my nightmare.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: It felt like my heart broke and I cleaned the
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: kitchen myself again. He walked out, didn't say a word,
• 41:14
  Speaker 3: and watched YouTube videos at the counter. Once I was
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: done cleaning, we went to the bedroom and he just
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: laid down and went to sleep.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: It hurts so much. I was so hopeful this time.
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: He gets mad at me that I don't treat him
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: like a man, but he never shows me he's reliable. Yeah,
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: he literally sat down and watched YouTube shorts like an
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: actual adolescent while you cleaned the kitchen, he agreed to clean.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: You know, he can do that at the same time, right?
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: Also, the fact that you guys agreed to have a
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: date night and he made you cook and clean is ridiculous.
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: And then didn't do the date. Yeah.
• 41:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there was also no movie.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: Like, what is this?
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: Is this state of mind just like, well, clearly he
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: crossed your boundary and then you didn't enforce it because
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: it feels like when you enforce boundaries, he just gets
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: really mad at you. And because you are probably a
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: better person than him, you're out here prioritizing the stability
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: of your child's family over your own personal feelings towards
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: your child husband.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: May this love never find me.
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: I'm always hurt by his actions.
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: Wait, he said, treat me like a man.
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: I'm a big boy.
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: I'm a big boy.
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: Stop treating me like a child.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: I'm a big, big baby.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: I can't multitask.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: I'm a big bubba. He's on my phone.
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: I can't multitask.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: Big bubba baby.
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: I'm a big buff baby.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: Anyway.
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Any advice on what I should do? Leave. There's an update.
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: Leave.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 42:39
  Speaker 4: You saw that.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: That was a quick fan.
• 42:41
  Speaker 4: Leave. My advice is leave him. Leave him. I think.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: There needs to be a level-headed discussion about how you.
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: Immediately had to pick up all of his slack and
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: he wouldn't do what he said he was going to do.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: And because of that, you want to try separation.
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: I like it, Dakota. I like it a lot. Yeah,
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: that's it. That's it. That's the one for me. I
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: think I'm done here.
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: Because clearly you're not enough to, you know, how you
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: feel is not enough to motivate him to change.
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. So maybe your absence will give him the space
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: he needs to grow as a person. Update. I didn't
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: leave him. Yet, at least.
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: Cool, okay.
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: After that post, I had a surge of confidence and
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: really was planning on leaving him.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Suddenly, though, he woke up one morning and it was
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: like he was a different man.
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: I'm not exaggerating. He was drastically different. He made breakfast
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: for me while I was working out.
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: He found the post.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: He helped with making lunch and kept kissing me and
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: sent me off to work with an I love you.
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: I thought for sure it would stop by the time
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: he got home later, but it didn't. He went from
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: a man who was angry every morning and angry when
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: he came home from work to a sweet, loving man overnight.
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: Okay, he either found the post, he's cheating on you,
• 43:59
  Speaker 4: or he got hit in the head with a brick.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: Or, I mean, TBI. TBI? Maybe. Traumatic brain injury.
• 44:11
  Speaker 4: Too much information.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Too much information. Yeah, does he have undiagnosed mental conditions?
• 44:17
  Speaker 4: That's what I was thinking. Brain tumor?
• 44:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, or it could have just been perfect timing on
• 44:21
  Speaker 3: his part to completely be 180.
• 44:24
  Speaker 4: I don't know because if she had had a conversation
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: with him and was like, hey, wake up. I feel
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: this way. Then I would understand the dramatic shift. But,
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: you know, her posting this online and then immediately dramatic shift.
• 44:37
  Speaker 3: It just took like two months for it to digest
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: into his man brain.
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: Guess so.
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: Demonic possession.
• 44:44
  Speaker 4: Could be it. Yeah, a demon got so fed up
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: that your husband was mistreating you that it was like,
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: I'm hopping in.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: Even the demon thought that was like, this is bad.
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: He's like, that's bad even for me.
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: It was weird at first, OP says. But after a
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: full week of being shown affection, all my plans for
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: leaving crumbled and I was lost.
• 45:05
  Speaker 4: I don't like that.
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: He started working overtime and I started working part-time, so
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: the issue of house chores dividing ceased. Plus, he cleaned
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: the kitchen now while I put the child down, which
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: was the main issue. It's been three weeks, and I
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: feel like I'm living in a dream and I have
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: no idea what to do.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I still haven't told him that I.
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: Plan to leave him. I don't know if I will
• 45:25
  Speaker 3: or not. Probably keep that one close to the vest, OP.
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: I can't help but feel suspicious, like there's some hidden
• 45:32
  Speaker 3: motive to this. He even planned a date night and
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: showed me affection after. He never does that.
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: Yikes.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: He found this post, dude.
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: Genuinely, I think you need, if you want to have
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: an adult relationship with the father of your child, I
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: think you need to go talk to him and say, hey,
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: I've noticed a dramatic shift because you weren't doing any
• 45:56
  Speaker 4: of this before. What happened? I didn't even feel like
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: we were in a partnership and now you've changed. Why?
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 46:03
  Speaker 4: And how can we prevent that from ever going back?
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: Is this a thing, ladies? Your guy treats you terribly
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: and then he cheats on you and he treats you better?
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I've never been in that situation. Some
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: people are saying working overtime, cheating. I saw some cheating
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: in the chat. Is that a thing? Is that a thing?
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: Is that a pattern?
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: I think it's more likely that he saw that. Yeah.
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: Muhammad says saw the post.
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: So I keep expecting for his usual aggression to pop
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: out of nowhere. Sometimes he still looks at me with
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: those scary eyes.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: What?
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Is he a werewolf? Is he a lizard?
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: I don't like that. Does he hit you with the
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: Paddington hard stare? I don't know.
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: If I ever felt like my partner was staring at
• 46:43
  Speaker 4: me with scary eyes, I'd get out of there.
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: But he doesn't talk or do anything aggressive anymore. I
• 46:49
  Speaker 3: feel unsettled by all this in a way. My mental
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: health has been spiraling too. I just feel so lost.
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: Today he was upset because I slept in and it's
• 46:58
  Speaker 3: making me feel so anxious for some reason. He wasn't
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: aggressive or yelling, but I'm scared to piss him off
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: and he will go back to how he was.
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: So that's where I'm at right now. Thank you for
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: everyone who took the time to help me and I'm
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: sorry if this update wasn't what you hoped for. Girl, leave.
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: I'm scared for you. It sounds, yeah, like you should leave.
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, like, if you're scared of your partner, not good.
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: I think it's even worse if you're scared of your
• 47:26
  Speaker 4: partner acting better.
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: Well, I think because the fear comes from like, well,
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: now I don't want to mess this up.
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: Exactly. Like if you're at the point where even your
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: partner being good, quote unquote, scares you, we're done. We're done.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: It's over. Don't come to my house.
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: Don't call me.
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: We're done.
• 47:49
  Speaker 4: We're done.
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: We are done with that episode.
• 47:52
  Speaker 4: Okay. Not just Cassandra says it is a pattern if
• 47:55
  Speaker 4: he's getting fulfilled somewhere else for him to be less
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: grumpy and be in a better mood.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Uh, I mean, he's still got scary eyes, dude. I
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: just don't like that at all.
• 48:04
  Speaker 4: How about as God says BPD could be that.
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: But it's like, it's so, it was like BPD is
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: usually more often on. Yeah. It was like off.
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: Off, off, off, off, off, off, on, but it's not
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: even really on, you know, the scary eyes kind of
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: gives it away.
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: I think personally he found the post.
• 48:22
  Speaker 4: I think he found the post and he's trying to
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: be better, but some of that anger is still bleeding through.
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. And we're going
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: on to the next one. My boyfriend's friend moved in
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: for a month and took.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: Over my whole apartment. That's not very nice of him.
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend recently moved into my two-bedroom apartment. Our original
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: plan was to sleep in one bedroom and have him
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: put his clothes and belongings in the guest bedroom because
• 48:48
  Speaker 3: it has a bigger closet. However, one of his friends
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: recently fell on hard times and asked to stay with
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: us for about a month while he finds a new place.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: How many months is he staying? One.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: Two.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: Buckle my shoe. Three.
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: Four.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: He'll stay here until... I snore. He'll stay here forever.
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: Although I do not know this friend very well, he
• 49:10
  Speaker 3: is a good friend of my boyfriend. I have met
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: him a few times, and he seems chill, so I
• 49:15
  Speaker 3: agreed to let him stay. My boyfriend and I split
• 49:18
  Speaker 3: the rent equally, but the utilities ran insurance and internet
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: are all in my name the friend currently pays nothing
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: except for his own food uh-oh The main problem is
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: that this friend has a significant amount of stuff, so
• 49:31
  Speaker 3: much so that I actually had to rent a U-Haul
• 49:34
  Speaker 3: to help him move in.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: I'm not used to having this much clutter.
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: Even before my boyfriend or his friend moved in, I
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: would try to regularly go through my own stuff and
• 49:42
  Speaker 3: get rid of things I'm not actively using. Obviously, I
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: can't do that with someone else's belongings. So I asked
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: him to keep most of his things in his room.
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Daxito24. And if you
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota. I'm Keon.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: And we're going to read this here story that I
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: got in my hands. And we're going to give our
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: take on it. But we don't know everything. We don't
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: have all the answers. But let us know what you
• 50:07
  Speaker 3: think down in the comments and hope he says. Unfortunately,
• 50:11
  Speaker 3: the problem extends into the kitchen as well. Because he
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: gets a lot of food from community kitchens, our cabinets
• 50:18
  Speaker 3: are full to the brim with his cans and non-perishables,
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: and the fridge and freezer are completely packed with his food.
• 50:25
  Speaker 3: I understand that he may have been in situations in
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: the past where he lacked access to food and now
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: feels the need to hoard it, but it's frustrating that
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: his stuff is taking up so much space.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: To cope, I try to.
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: Keep the food put away and somewhat organized, but he
• 50:38
  Speaker 3: frequently leaves items out on the counter and places things
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: in ways that take up unnecessary room.
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: When I ask him about it, he gets defensive.
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: The other day, he confronted me and asked, why do
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: you keep your stuff out, but I have to put
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: mine away? Mind you, the items I leave out actually
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: belong on kitchen counters, like my cutting boards and my
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: stand mixer. The items he leaves out are groceries, like
• 51:00
  Speaker 3: peanut butter and jelly and mayonnaise and bread, which... are
• 51:02
  Speaker 3: things I normally put away in a cabinet or the fridge.
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: In addition to that, he recently said that he did
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: not feel at home and felt like I wanted him out.
• 51:11
  Speaker 4: Oh, buddy.
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: Oh, wow. Newsflash genius. You kind of shouldn't feel at
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: home because this isn't supposed to be your home. It's
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: supposed to be I'm here for a month while I
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: find my home, right? Oh, you're not moving in for
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: the long haul, buster.
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: But I don't have to pay rent.
• 51:28
  Speaker 4: Uh.
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: Everything here is free.
• 51:30
  Speaker 3: This is where I may have been the a-hole. I
• 51:33
  Speaker 3: lost my temper on him and told him, this isn't
• 51:35
  Speaker 3: your home. You are a guest in my home and
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: the least you could do is put your things away. Oh,
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: so completely normal.
• 51:42
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 51:42
  Speaker 3: He got upset and complained to my boyfriend, who is
• 51:45
  Speaker 3: now trying to avoid taking sides to keep the peace.
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's a problem.
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: Very big problem.
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: If he's living with you, he should be taking your side.
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: This is this is your you're under our roof. You
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: abide by our rules.
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: I cannot imagine. I've lived with my partner once in
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: my life, and I can't imagine if I moved in
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: one of my friends to help him out for a
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: month and they started fighting.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: I can't ever imagine taking my friend's side. Like, fighting
• 52:13
  Speaker 3: about this specifically.
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: Okay, I was going to be like, what about the logistics?
• 52:16
  Speaker 3: No, like, just about this situation, you should 100% be
• 52:20
  Speaker 3: on your partner's side here.
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: Especially when your friend's not paying rent.
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: To his credit, my boyfriend agrees with me that his
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: friend is taking up a lot of space and that
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: the apartment is starting to feel cramped with three people. However,
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: he also feels that what I said was unnecessarily harsh.
• 52:35
  Speaker 3: And he told me that I shouldn't start conflicts like
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: that with someone who is most likely going to be
• 52:39
  Speaker 3: living with us for a while longer.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole?
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: Whoa.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: What do you mean?
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: What do you mean a while longer?
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: So you're just an open-ended, there's no end date to this,
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: you know, shacking up situation?
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: I think it was necessarily harsh. I don't think it
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: was even harsh. I think it was the truth.
• 52:55
  Speaker 3: I mean, if you're going to ask a question as
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: stupid as why is the cutting board and the mixer
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: out on the counter, but I can't leave my mayonnaise out,
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: that's dumb. And I think there is something to be
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: said about, well, I don't feel like I'm at home.
• 53:07
  Speaker 3: It's like, no, there's a difference between feeling welcome here
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: and you feeling like you're making your home here. You're
• 53:14
  Speaker 3: not supposed to be making your home here. This is
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: a temporary place.
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: So just.
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: feel don't move all of yourself in you should not
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: feel like you are completely settled because you're not and
• 53:25
  Speaker 3: there's not really a i mean there is a nice
• 53:27
  Speaker 3: way to say that but not when you know you've
• 53:30
  Speaker 3: got like the the stupid force smacking you in the face.
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: Or you're yeah from cyclops.
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: From the stupid dimension just beaming it right out.
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: Of his eyeballs yeah uh uh yeah You're in my house.
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: Follow my rules. Simple as that.
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:48
  Speaker 3: Your boyfriend needs to meet with Buddy and have a
• 53:51
  Speaker 3: little come to Jesus moment here.
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: There's an edit to some more information.
• 53:55
  Speaker 3: This person is only staying with us because their lease
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: ended at their previous apartment. And I guess the alternative
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: was living with an awful sister. I realize now that
• 54:04
  Speaker 3: he should have made arrangements to live elsewhere well before
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: his lease was up. I have no idea how long
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: him and my boyfriend were talking about it before he
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: pitched the idea to me. In the state I live in,
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: I cannot legally remove this person if they show proof
• 54:17
  Speaker 3: of occupancy. which means they have a designated place to sleep.
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: They have all their clothes and belongings here, blah, blah, blah.
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: The most I can do is hand him a 30-day
• 54:25
  Speaker 3: notice to quit, which I will be doing tomorrow, June 15th,
• 54:28
  Speaker 3: which marks one month since he moved in. And I
• 54:31
  Speaker 3: will give him until July 31st to move out. And
• 54:33
  Speaker 3: if he still doesn't leave by that time, I can
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: then file an eviction lawsuit.
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: Second edit. Second edit.
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: Something must have happened. Or you just, you're tired of him.
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: I mean, like, it's honestly, it's better for him too.
• 55:10
  Speaker 3: Because he needs to have the, you know, the deadline
• 55:15
  Speaker 3: of like, okay, I have to figure it out by
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: this day.
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: You lit the fire under his butt. Good for you.
• 55:22
  Speaker 3: And if he's got a job, a month and a half,
• 55:25
  Speaker 3: plenty of time to figure something else out.
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: And then if he says he can't figure it out
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: or he needs more money, I'll be like, guess what?
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: Sell some of this clutter.
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: Go live with your sister. But she's awful. Okay. Cope.
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: You know what's awful? Not living in an apartment or
• 55:39
  Speaker 2: in a house. Being homeless.
• 55:41
  Speaker 3: Because come the end of July, your alternatives are find
• 55:44
  Speaker 3: a new place to live or be homeless.
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: Those are your choices. Update.
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: First of all, for those of you saying to get
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: rid of my boyfriend too, please understand that he genuinely
• 55:53
  Speaker 3: had his heart in the right place here. When I
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: said I wasn't sure how long he and his friend
• 55:57
  Speaker 3: had been talking about it I just meant that he
• 55:59
  Speaker 3: was probably excited to be able to help someone out
• 56:02
  Speaker 3: not that they both planned it behind my back. If
• 56:04
  Speaker 3: I had said no back then that would have been that.
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: After talking to him again he admitted that he really
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: is tired of his friend being there. and that I'm
• 56:11
  Speaker 3: being more than generous by letting him stay as long
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: as I have. He just told me I was being
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: harsh because he didn't want me to end up on
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: bad terms with his friend. I don't think he realized
• 56:19
  Speaker 3: that I'm not particularly interested in being friends with this
• 56:23
  Speaker 3: person myself. I also found out that my boyfriend has
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: been giving him money for groceries and driving him around,
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: which I told him to immediately put a stop to,
• 56:30
  Speaker 3: and he agreed.
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: No, is your boyfriend a little CPP?
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: Because he know me.
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: He be pleasing those people, don't he? I, I probably, maybe.
• 56:40
  Speaker 2: Maybe it's just like he's trying to be a good
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: guy and like karma.
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'd help my friend. If any one of
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: my friends, you know, was like, I absolutely have nowhere
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: to go.
• 56:49
  Speaker 3: They'd be on our... Because me and Keon live together.
• 56:52
  Speaker 3: They would be on our couch.
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: Instantaneously.
• 56:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, truly.
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: But there would be an understanding of like, this is
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: so that you can find your next place. Not to
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: be your next place, you know?
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 57:04
  Speaker 3: I have consolidated all of the friend's food to one
• 57:07
  Speaker 3: shelf in the fridge... one shelf in the freezer, and
• 57:09
  Speaker 3: one cabinet. I told him that he needs to go
• 57:11
  Speaker 3: through whatever didn't fit in the cabinet and either get
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: rid of it or keep it in his room.
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: For the time being.
• 57:15
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend also talked to him and made it clear
• 57:17
  Speaker 3: that his welcome is coming to an end. I'll be
• 57:20
  Speaker 3: serving him the notice to quit tomorrow, June 15th, which
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: marks one month since he moved in.
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: I hope the friend takes that and goes, you're right.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: I have been here longer than I should have been.
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: Thank you. That's in my mind's eye of like, that
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: sounds good.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean.
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: Is that going to happen?
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: I would hope he's at least grateful, you know?
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: I guarantee you he's not.
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: He's going to go back to OP's boyfriend and be like, dude.
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: You need to leave your girlfriend.
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: She's so mean.
• 57:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 57:50
  Speaker 2: He's going to be like, you can't do this.
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: You can't do this to me.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: Do you know what I've sacrificed?
• 57:56
  Speaker 3: This will give him until July 31st to find a
• 57:59
  Speaker 3: place and move out before I can pursue further legal action.
• 58:02
  Speaker 3: I feel this is more than fair, as he is
• 58:04
  Speaker 3: effectively getting more than twice the amount of time that
• 58:08
  Speaker 3: we initially agreed on. In addition to this, my boyfriend
• 58:11
  Speaker 3: has a cousin who is a realtor who has agreed
• 58:12
  Speaker 3: to help this friend in his search for Section 8 housing.
• 58:15
  Speaker 3: My father, who used to inspect apartments for a living,
• 58:18
  Speaker 3: has also agreed to help him out. If all else fails,
• 58:21
  Speaker 3: he will just have to move back in with his sister.
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: Thank you all for helping both my boyfriend and I
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: realize that we were being taken advantage of. Things have
• 58:29
  Speaker 3: been so chaotic since this friend moved in, and we're
• 58:31
  Speaker 3: both looking forward to having our space back.
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.
• 58:35
  Speaker 4: Great.
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: Good.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: I think your boyfriend was trying to be a good friend,
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: and I think, you know, he thought it wouldn't have
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: been this long.
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you gotta be able to lay down the law,
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: even if it's your buddy, dude.
• 58:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, if anything, I'm laying down the law immediately with
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: my buddy.
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's like- That's what friends are for. Right,
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: you know?
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: Tell me something's in my teeth. Tell me there's a
• 58:53
  Speaker 3: hole in my pants. Don't be silent. Say the thing.
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story, and we're going
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: on to the next one.
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: My roommate is taking all the furniture, so I started
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: replacing it early.
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: Take all the screws and washers out of them.
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: So, my roommate is moving out the end of July,
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: and told me she wants to take most of the
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: living room furniture with her. That's fine by me because
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: I would have wanted to sell slash give it away
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: anyway since I'm excited to make the space my own.
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: The existing furniture was left behind by the previous tenant
• 59:21
  Speaker 2: before us.
• 59:22
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: Since she's now moving in about a month and a half,
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: I've started sourcing replacements of her some of the major
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: stuff since that is a process that takes time. especially
• 59:30
  Speaker 2: if you're thrifting or waiting for sales. This also means that, temporarily,
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: We have doubles of some furniture, the piece of furniture
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: she will be taking with her and the piece of
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: furniture that will be staying with me. She's been getting
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: increasingly irritated by this situation and wants me to wait
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  Speaker 2: until she has fully moved out to begin replacing any
• 59:47
  Speaker 2: of the furniture because it's annoying to look at. It
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: makes the space feel cluttered. Opie says, I agree it's
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: annoying to look at, but I've done the best I
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: can to put things in spaces we weren't using to
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: begin with or in my bedroom. So, that is the
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: extent of the inconvenience. By the way, this comes from
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: user ptillothrix, and if you want to submit your own stories,
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 2: go to the r slash okstorytime subreddit. I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: And we're roommates.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah!
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: But we're also goobers.
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  Speaker 1: Ugh.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: We don't know everything, we only know what we do,
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: so let us know what you do in the comments
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: down below, as OP says. I get that she wants
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 2: the apartment to stay the way it's always been so
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: she can... Relax and enjoy her last month here. But
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: the apartment is going to be in transition regardless as
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: she prepares for her move too. She still needs to
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: arrange movers, a truck, someone to drive the truck, a
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: storage unit, etc. Much less beginning to pack. Yeah, this
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: is a month before she's moving out. I was going
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: to say, you should have stuff in boxes ready to
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: go or getting that ready to go.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like a month out. I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: Having duplicate furniture for a few weeks isn't ideal, but
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: it seems unreasonable to expect me to put it all
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: off or preparations off until after she moves out and
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: then wake up to an empty apartment the day after
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: she moves out just because she doesn't like the way
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: the apartment looks. But I'm open to being way off
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  Speaker 2: base here. Am I the a-hole? Uh, there's an edit,
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: but is OP the a-hole?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, for literally moving, making moves before the actual
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: day you are left with nothing.
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  Speaker 2: It's big brain. It's big brain. You're doing like, I
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: think this is fine. As long as it's not, like,
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: making it a true obstacle course around the apartment and
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: you can walk around.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, to some level, even if that was the case,
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 3: say it was, like, a jungle gym in there.
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  Speaker 4: Fun.
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  Speaker 1: You're moving out. You're moving out in a couple weeks.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Like.
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  Speaker 3: The only the only way I would say you're the
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 3: a-hole is if the amount of furniture you have brought
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 3: into the apartment makes it infeasible for your roommate to
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  Speaker 3: take the furniture that they're planning to take or.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: Walk out of the apartment.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Like if you literally are like barring her in with
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: a couch.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I get it.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: But as long as it's you can still move around
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: and walk around and you're putting stuff in your room mostly.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: I see no problem with this.
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  Speaker 3: Put it in her room too like if if if
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: she's moving out wherever it's not in the way of
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 3: her getting the stuff she needs it's this is literally
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 3: like not even a not even an issue it's it's
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: crazy that she would expect you to just be left
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: with an empty furnitureless apartment it's like then get furniture it's.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 2: Like the fresh prince of bel-air like the when will
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: smith's in the room by himself and just like looks
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: around you know i'm talking about.
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: But uh i think so Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 2: He just, like, looks around and is like, it's just
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: an empty apartment or an empty house. We have an edit.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people seem to think that her taking
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 2: the furniture is the problem. It really isn't. I'm glad
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: she wanted to take it because that means I won't
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: have to get rid of it myself.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: Guys, listen, listen. OP said that. At the very beginning
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: of the story, they said that.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: She literally said... I get to make it my own
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 2: place now. It's like, I don't care. It's not even
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 2: my furniture. We didn't buy it. It was left here.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: Thing is, if she wasn't taking it, I would have
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: already gotten rid of it and started setting the place
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: up with my own furniture as I get my own things.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: At this point, don't care. You're moving out. If it's
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 2: like three months ahead, sure, annoying. But if it's a
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: few weeks, not my problem. I would be asking her, hey,
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: can you move some of this stuff into your new apartment?
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 2: Maybe that'll help you move out.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, if that's a possibility.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 2: A little bit left here. So, Opie says she's also
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: been waffling about whether she even wants to take their furniture.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: I get pissed off. I would get so upset.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, at that point, it's like, okay, then let's
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: start getting rid of it. If this is the problem,
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 3: you make your decision right now. Are you taking the
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 3: furniture or not? If the answer is no, let's get
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 3: rid of it, and then everyone's happy.
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: And I told her that she can do whatever she wants,
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: but because she told me she's taking it, she has
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 2: to get rid of it herself before she moves out.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: And in case it matters, the furniture I've gotten that's
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: not being stored in my bedroom, completely out of sight,
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 2: is two items. A couch, which is in boxes that
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: I had been planning to buy it when she moved out,
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 2: but it just went on sale and would have cost
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 2: $ 500 more had I wanted it a month later. And
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: a chest of drawers. The common spaces are not impassable,
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: and she has said it is because of the visual clutter,
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 2: not because the stuff is in her way or the
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: way of her moving process whenever that will begin. And
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: that's the end of that story. Then I say shut up.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: She's upset about visual clutter.
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 1: Straight up, dude.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: Girly Pop, your room should be visual clutter. Everything should
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 2: be visual clutter since you're moving out in less than
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 2: a month.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: You're leaving.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Silly, silly, silly. I think you're fine.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 2: I can imagine couch to couch. Like that looks like, sure,
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 2: if it's not bothering anyone. But Opie, you seem fine.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: You're not an a-hole.
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 3: And that's the end of this story. And we're going
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: on to the next one. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite
• 1:04:40
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• 1:04:43
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• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: My roommate accused me of cheating her on bills. Now
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: she's paying more.
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: Oh, look how that turned out.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 3: This happened 10 years ago when I was studying abroad
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 3: in Spain.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: What's your name?
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 3: I had rented a four bedroom apartment and then advertised
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 3: the other rooms trying to find nice flatmates. The first
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 3: two were great, but I was struggling to find a
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 3: fourth one. There were some people interested, but I just
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 3: had a bad feeling about them. In the end, I
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: decided to accept this Russian girl against my better judgment.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: She was trouble from the beginning. Always in a bad mood.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 1: Always acting as if the world owed her something. She
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: said many times she hated Spain, and I'm thinking, why
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: are you here then? Yeah, wait.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: I hate Spain. Spain is like Spain without the S.
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: I hate Spain. I do not like this place. Spain
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: is full of.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: Where is my bird?
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: Where is my bird? That is not my bird.
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 3: She always seemed paranoid that she was being cheated by everyone.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 3: For example, once she found out I didn't pay the
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 3: same amount as the other three, communism, communism! Obviously I
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 3: paid less, says OP. I was the one who found
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 3: the flat. It was my name on the contract and
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 3: all bills. I was liable for all damages. They weren't
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 3: my friends. I didn't have a contract with them. It
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 3: was all casual. So she told me it was illegal
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 3: to sublet and that if I didn't start paying the same,
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 3: she'd call the police.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: What a brilliant move.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 2: Once I make my move, you're free to take my rent.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 3: She's like, did you know it's illegal for you to
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 3: have us here? It's like, great point.
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: Get out. Officer, there's a strange woman trying to move
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: her stuff into my apartment.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 2: She says she hates Spain, too. She hates España. And
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: they're going to go, oh, she hates tapas.
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: I heard she doesn't want you guys to win the
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: World Cup.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 3: I told her it was only illegal if the owner
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 3: of the property wasn't aware of it.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: Bingo.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from a hopeful bleep. And
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 3: the r slash OK story time subreddit.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 3: We're going to read this little story. We're going to
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 3: have our little thoughts. We're going to say them out loud.
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 3: And you can say yours, too, in the comments. Just
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 3: know that we don't know anything.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: I mean, anything. We don't know everything. See, I barely
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: even know how to talk.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: See, proved his point.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 3: And OP says, she actually found the number of the
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 3: owner and called him to complain about me. Luckily, he's
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 3: a cool guy and told her, I have my contract
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 3: with him.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: Whatever you agreed with him is your problem. Hey, chill
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: Spanish landlord alert.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: Love those guys.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 3: I only know this because he called me saying, that
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 3: girl's trouble. Anyway, this long year comes to an end,
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 3: and we all need to go back to our countries.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 3: Before that, we need to calculate our final expenses. The
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 3: way it works in Spain, they only check your gas
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 3: and water twice a year, I think. In the meantime,
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 3: you pay an estimate, and when they check, they adjust,
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 3: and you either pay more or receive money back.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 1: That is weirdly chill.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 3: So Spain treats utilities like America treats taxes?
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah. That's crazy.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 3: To simplify the calculations, I had been the one paying
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 3: all the bills every month. Then once they checked the
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 3: gas and water and we had the correct number, I'd
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 3: be able to calculate exactly how much they owed me.
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 3: Trying to avoid any complaints from the Russian girl who
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 3: I was sure would think I was cheating her somehow,
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 3: I made the clearest table possible.
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: Every bill was attached to it.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 3: The final thing you need to know for this to
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 3: make sense is that halfway through the year, a friend
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 3: of mine found himself with nowhere to live. I had
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 3: an extra mattress, so I told him he could stay
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 3: with me until he found a new place. He only
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 3: stayed for three weeks in my room, but he's the
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 3: tidiest person I know, so he was cleaning the apartment
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 3: and he would surprise us with dinners and other treats.
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 3: My other two roommates actually told me we should just
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 3: boot out the Russian girl and have my friend move
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 3: in permanently with us.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: Honestly, this guy cooks and helps out everyone and is
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 2: a joy to be around.
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: I heard that. Eventually, he found a new place and
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: left us. So when I was calculating the expenses, I
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 1: thought it would be nice to just deduct 10 euros
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 1: from what each flatmate owed me to compensate for the
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: extra water, gas, electricity he used.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 3: It was way generous. There is no way his presence
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 3: added 30 euros to our bills. but I did it anyway.
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 3: After doing that, the final total was something like 304
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 3: something like, and then gives the exact number of 304
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 3: And 32 cents, euros per person. I told them to
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 3: just round it down to 300, thinking I was the
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 3: most generous landlord they'd ever find.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: I got a feeling that.
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: The Russian girl is gonna be difficult.
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. I mean, so how's this gonna blow up
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: in her face, right?
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 3: She's, oh, so she's gonna be, she's gonna complain that
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 3: that can't be the right number and it's gotta be less.
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: And I'm only paying exactly what is owed, blah, blah, blah.
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: And it's going to be like, all right, cool. So
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: pay me four extra euros then. It says you want
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: it to be equal.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: It's going to be that.
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: It says you want it to be fair. Go ahead
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: and toss up four more euros for me, babe. Thanks.
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: Of course the Russian girl wasn't happy.
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 3: She told me she didn't think it was fair that
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 3: I was just guessing it and that my friend had
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 3: stayed for almost a month. So I should recalculate it.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 3: But divide one month by five instead of four.
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: What?
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: You think the fifth, okay, whatever.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 3: I was just rolling my eyes like it must be
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 3: so exhausting being you.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, let's do it together. So
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 1: you don't think I'm cheating you. She sat by me
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: and we revised the accounts and voila.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 3: By doing it her way, she now owed me more.
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 3: It was just like five euros more. But of course,
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 3: I didn't round it down this time. I had her
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 3: give me every last cent. When the world is dark
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 3: and I'm depressed, one of my favorite memories to go
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 3: back to is her face as she was handing me
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 3: those final worthless coins.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story. Yeah.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 2: No, this is wrong.
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: You have to do it my way.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: Okay, let's do it your way. You owe me more.
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: Is that 305? Well, what's fair is fair.
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 2: The thing is, I feel like the fact that you
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: did it her way, she couldn't argue it, which great.
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 3: She couldn't argue it. You get to be like, you
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 3: know what? This is much better. This is a much
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 3: more fair solution.
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: I like this. Yeah. I like this a lot.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 3: Thanks.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 2: I can buy a sangria with this now. Appreciate it.
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.