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INTERVIEW: Crystal Smith & Tameka Raymond Talk Bold and Bougie, Usher, Ne-Yo, Parenting + More · The Breakfast Club

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning, the Breakfast Club.
• 0:05
  Speaker 2: Morning.
• 0:05
  Speaker 3: Everybody is DJ n V, Jess, Larry Scharlamaine the Guy.
• 0:08
  Speaker 2: We are the Breakfast Club. We got some special guests
• 0:10
  Speaker 2: in the building from Bold and Bougie, Crystal and Tamika Foster.
• 0:15
  Speaker 2: Welcome ladies.
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  Speaker 1: Hey y'all, good morning. What a title Bolden Boot I
• 0:22
  Speaker 1: mean you know.
• 0:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean like, did y'all Did all of y'all
• 0:26
  Speaker 4: know each other before?
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 0:28
  Speaker 5: Because it's it's Crystal, it's Tamika, it's Malaysia.
• 0:32
  Speaker 6: And Princess Precess. I always missed it up. Sorry, Princess bad,
• 0:40
  Speaker 6: but you know I love you.
• 0:41
  Speaker 7: Did y'all know each other?
• 0:43
  Speaker 8: Like?
• 0:43
  Speaker 4: We all friends?
• 0:44
  Speaker 6: I knew of Malaysia.
• 0:45
  Speaker 9: We've been to like some birthday parties together, but it's
• 0:47
  Speaker 9: my first time me and all the ladies.
• 0:49
  Speaker 10: Yeah.
• 0:50
  Speaker 4: Well, Princess and I were cool.
• 0:51
  Speaker 5: She tried to get me on Housewives a few seasons
• 0:54
  Speaker 5: and I don't know. I thought it was gonna be messy,
• 0:57
  Speaker 5: but I guess it's still messy where we are some
• 1:00
  Speaker 5: type of way.
• 1:01
  Speaker 4: The fire pan.
• 1:02
  Speaker 2: So what is Bold and Boogie about if we haven't
• 1:05
  Speaker 2: seen it?
• 1:05
  Speaker 4: I mean, I think all reality shows have the same premise.
• 1:08
  Speaker 5: They followed the lives of each of the cast, so
• 1:11
  Speaker 5: they just follow us around each of our different lives.
• 1:13
  Speaker 5: Like she owns a restaurant, I have a clothing business,
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  Speaker 5: and I have books and this and that, and they
• 1:18
  Speaker 5: follow us and then they have us come together and
• 1:20
  Speaker 5: argue about ship.
• 1:21
  Speaker 4: We don't know that we're arguing about why did you say?
• 1:26
  Speaker 4: Why were you late to my event?
• 1:27
  Speaker 5: Because I'd be like, because my name ain't on the cake,
• 1:29
  Speaker 5: it's not my birthday, like it's that kind of thing.
• 1:33
  Speaker 2: So why did you decide to do it?
• 1:34
  Speaker 3: Because if ya knew it was gonna beefing and and
• 1:36
  Speaker 3: you know what, they're gonna put it on TV. They
• 1:37
  Speaker 3: ain't gonnaut the night stuff. Theyin't gonna put your restaurant packed,
• 1:39
  Speaker 3: they ain't gonna put your No, they.
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  Speaker 9: Did, they did a good job of showcasing our business
• 1:45
  Speaker 9: and stuff like that. But for myself, I did it
• 1:47
  Speaker 9: because like I'm getting back out here, you know, single mom,
• 1:49
  Speaker 9: and so I'm getting to my bag period and that's it.
• 1:52
  Speaker 9: That's all my only focus period.
• 1:54
  Speaker 5: So why didn't you You know, some some wives they
• 1:58
  Speaker 5: choose to keep the last name of the man.
• 2:00
  Speaker 4: Why didn't you keep the last names.
• 2:02
  Speaker 9: Well, he's not known as Neil Smith and those are
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  Speaker 9: my name, so it was an easy decision.
• 2:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I mean people didn't know his name though he's
• 2:11
  Speaker 5: not known and that's not what they called him.
• 2:13
  Speaker 4: But people do know his last name. Why you didn't
• 2:14
  Speaker 4: keep m I keep. I still use Raymond. It's easier.
• 2:18
  Speaker 4: It's easier to use Raymond.
• 2:19
  Speaker 5: But on social media, I dropped it because they would
• 2:22
  Speaker 5: be on my page, like he got rid of you,
• 2:24
  Speaker 5: he signed them papers, you got to them. But my
• 2:28
  Speaker 5: kids have the same name, my passport. It's just so
• 2:31
  Speaker 5: much to change that stuff. Your credit cards, your bank accounts,
• 2:34
  Speaker 5: your passport, your social security.
• 2:36
  Speaker 4: Got that kind of time trying to be in lighten
• 2:37
  Speaker 4: where like social media want me to change my name.
• 2:40
  Speaker 5: Only black community really trip off of that. Yeah, think
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  Speaker 5: about it. We be mad. That's because they're fans of
• 2:47
  Speaker 5: the artists, so they think that we took their husbands.
• 2:49
  Speaker 4: And it's just.
• 2:50
  Speaker 1: Tell us more about these niggas.
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  Speaker 7: I like when people had those conversations.
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  Speaker 5: Not seriously though, it's only the black community that like
• 2:58
  Speaker 5: flip out over because you'll see the Hiltons and people
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  Speaker 5: like that. They'll keep the same last name. It doesn't
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  Speaker 5: matter matches their children. Black people be so worried about
• 3:08
  Speaker 5: your last name, and.
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  Speaker 9: It becomes your brand after a while, you know what
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  Speaker 9: I'm saying. So I'm not gonna let let that go
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  Speaker 9: for for social media.
• 3:14
  Speaker 1: Also, people people always want drama.
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  Speaker 10: So if they think y'all not together, they think you're
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  Speaker 10: keeping the last name ya, that's right on.
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  Speaker 4: At all except these cheering that's it. That's all like, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that's it. Well, congratulations on your restaurant business.
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: Girl.
• 3:32
  Speaker 4: The first episode of Bold Bougie.
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  Speaker 6: You doing music, That's something I do for fun.
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  Speaker 9: You know you've heard some of they played with that scene.
• 3:45
  Speaker 9: They played hard with that.
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  Speaker 4: You're not taking it serious?
• 3:48
  Speaker 6: No, it's just something I do for fun.
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  Speaker 4: Okay. And but but you got a name and everything VVS.
• 3:53
  Speaker 4: What's up?
• 3:55
  Speaker 6: So I mean, why not ride with it?
• 3:58
  Speaker 4: Vv Jesus, I thought she was about to really really
• 4:03
  Speaker 4: drive something.
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  Speaker 6: No, she got I.
• 4:07
  Speaker 5: Got like Hella songs like yeah and you So you're
• 4:12
  Speaker 5: that's something that you're never going to do.
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  Speaker 6: I don't. I don't think. I mean, I'm thirty seven.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, you know, so I don't want to.
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  Speaker 4: Be like a pediatric repper. I got on there too.
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  Speaker 9: I have so many things out on my plate right now.
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  Speaker 9: That music is just like you know, it's it's it's
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  Speaker 9: a slow like build to making money, and I need
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  Speaker 9: I need the bag to come quicker than that, because.
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  Speaker 7: Reality if you be helping her like the overall brand
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  Speaker 7: of everything.
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  Speaker 5: So the reason why I even agreed to do it
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  Speaker 5: is because I have a clothing line, Eli Kish and
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  Speaker 5: then of course my books, and so I was hoping, yeah,
• 4:44
  Speaker 5: here I stand in white bras and now have an
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  Speaker 5: animated book coming out soon, and so I was really
• 4:49
  Speaker 5: hoping that it would really spotlight my businesses. And I
• 4:52
  Speaker 5: think it did. Yeah, it did a little bit. I
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  Speaker 5: just think that they didn't get the like they want,
• 4:58
  Speaker 5: the drama of it. So like I had a fashion show,
• 5:00
  Speaker 5: for example, and we had too much power running, so
• 5:03
  Speaker 5: the generator, I mean, the lights went down for a second.
• 5:05
  Speaker 5: They highlighted that five seconds of the lights going down,
• 5:08
  Speaker 5: like it was a did they not pay their bill?
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, come on. It was at an art gallery
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  Speaker 4: and bucket.
• 5:15
  Speaker 5: It was fine and it was nice, but they made
• 5:17
  Speaker 5: it seem like instead of showing the clothes and how
• 5:19
  Speaker 5: beautiful the models were and all that, they didn't focus
• 5:22
  Speaker 5: on any It was a really nice show.
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  Speaker 4: It was a great show, and the clothes were banging, of.
• 5:26
  Speaker 6: Course, so it hurts.
• 5:28
  Speaker 4: It didn't hurt, It just didn't help.
• 5:29
  Speaker 5: It was like, damn, we put all that money into
• 5:32
  Speaker 5: the fashion show and you know, selecting the models and
• 5:34
  Speaker 5: the makeup and the hair, and you guys want to
• 5:36
  Speaker 5: show the five seconds that the lights went out, that
• 5:38
  Speaker 5: that's what you wanted to focus on.
• 5:40
  Speaker 4: Could y'all ever like have meetings or art? Is it
• 5:42
  Speaker 4: like complaints to someone that.
• 5:44
  Speaker 6: You know the group chair.
• 5:46
  Speaker 9: Let me tell you this one with the group chat
• 5:48
  Speaker 9: we get we get a message every day and is long.
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  Speaker 6: I don't read none of that. Love you to the
• 5:59
  Speaker 6: group chair. Take me out of it.
• 6:00
  Speaker 5: I go off giving whole dissertations.
• 6:03
  Speaker 1: Who get a seven minute person?
• 6:08
  Speaker 6: She will write you, you see, she likes to write.
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  Speaker 2: Writer.
• 6:11
  Speaker 6: She will write chapters. But I think that it's I memorialized.
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  Speaker 4: Check this out.
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  Speaker 11: We are bigger than this, We're above this.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, my brand is not that you know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean?
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  Speaker 9: But I mean, I mean when you answer into something
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  Speaker 9: like that, you know what you're signing up for. So
• 6:26
  Speaker 9: I think it's up to the individual on how you
• 6:28
  Speaker 9: conduct yourself and how you handle yourself. Like for me,
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  Speaker 9: I feel like it was a benefit to me because
• 6:32
  Speaker 9: you know, I don't really speak out. I don't really
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  Speaker 9: do all that kind of stuff, So it was able
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  Speaker 9: to showcase like who I am as a person and
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  Speaker 9: my morals and my standards.
• 6:39
  Speaker 6: And how I am. So it worked out for me
• 6:42
  Speaker 6: actually very well.
• 6:43
  Speaker 5: And we really started out rocky on the show. Because
• 6:49
  Speaker 5: it's the thing, I'm friends with her ex husband.
• 6:53
  Speaker 4: First, I don't know, I.
• 6:57
  Speaker 2: Know friends with the ex husband's X.
• 7:00
  Speaker 5: I'm friends with right because we did a show years ago,
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  Speaker 5: and she's I'm just loyal like that.
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  Speaker 4: So when I met her, I was just like she
• 7:08
  Speaker 4: was drunk.
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  Speaker 6: They got her.
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  Speaker 9: Know, she wasn't Patty, she was just being she was
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  Speaker 9: just being a realize bitch to me. I respected it.
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  Speaker 9: But the thing I.
• 7:21
  Speaker 4: Just said, Hi, I said, I am Tamika.
• 7:23
  Speaker 5: I was like, I'm friends with Mo, like like, so
• 7:25
  Speaker 5: you know who I am, Like put a face with
• 7:27
  Speaker 5: the name whatever, and they made it like doom doom doo.
• 7:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, let's go to commercial like it was some drama.
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  Speaker 4: I was just like, I'm just don't I'm friends with
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  Speaker 4: Mo and that's it. But there is the way they
• 7:36
  Speaker 4: amplified it.
• 7:37
  Speaker 11: They had the music in the awkward pause where her
• 7:40
  Speaker 11: month was.
• 7:40
  Speaker 5: Like, and then gave you shots before before that shot it.
• 7:46
  Speaker 6: Was actually, she's like one of my favorite people on
• 7:49
  Speaker 6: the show. Like we hang out in real life, like
• 7:51
  Speaker 6: bould y'all.
• 7:52
  Speaker 3: Think celebrities again, since you like your life is so
• 7:55
  Speaker 3: out there, like they pick in part everything that you
• 7:57
  Speaker 3: guys do.
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  Speaker 6: I think I want to man, I sit behind the
• 8:00
  Speaker 6: desk think I think I'm over it.
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  Speaker 9: Yeah, just over it, the whole lifestyle. I'll take the
• 8:07
  Speaker 9: forefront in the bed.
• 8:08
  Speaker 1: Would you ate a bus driver?
• 8:11
  Speaker 4: Oh no, I don't know.
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  Speaker 6: I'm just a decent three kids.
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  Speaker 9: I'm a single mother, and my bills, the salary just
• 8:19
  Speaker 9: not covering my bills, and I just it's not for me.
• 8:22
  Speaker 4: Then you ain't saying why his salar got to cover
• 8:25
  Speaker 4: your bills. You should be able to cover your bills.
• 8:26
  Speaker 4: I already know what you've got it. I'm just thinking,
• 8:31
  Speaker 4: but it's not just going to say are you living?
• 8:34
  Speaker 6: I live in Atlanta, Lanta.
• 8:35
  Speaker 1: Let me shoot that. Let's see the Marti bus driver
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: making Atlanta.
• 8:38
  Speaker 5: She already said, no, no, no, shame your show twelve
• 8:45
  Speaker 5: to thirty in hours.
• 8:45
  Speaker 1: School bus driving make between twenty four fifty a year.
• 8:50
  Speaker 10: The average salary for drivers nineteen eleven per hour.
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: But they got benefits better. They got benefits, my own benefits. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: who's on the bus drive?
• 9:00
  Speaker 4: That doesn't sound beneficial.
• 9:01
  Speaker 1: I appreciate you. If Crystal doesn't, no shame.
• 9:05
  Speaker 4: But you know I would date a bus driver if
• 9:08
  Speaker 4: he owned.
• 9:08
  Speaker 5: The If you're on the bus, okay, shouts out.
• 9:17
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna shout out.
• 9:18
  Speaker 5: Carlos king too. What's up Carlos for bringing us together?
• 9:21
  Speaker 5: Black Production Company.
• 9:23
  Speaker 6: Kingdom, Reign Entertainment, all the rain drops.
• 9:26
  Speaker 4: So you guys got to catch up on our show.
• 9:27
  Speaker 4: It's not All Black now.
• 9:29
  Speaker 5: I think they moved it over, you know, because we
• 9:30
  Speaker 5: finished our season. Hopefully we're gearing up for season two.
• 9:34
  Speaker 1: Then will you bring it back?
• 9:36
  Speaker 4: I think people will bring just like the run so
• 9:39
  Speaker 4: you can see it. Yeah, I think they got it.
• 9:40
  Speaker 4: There is living on All Black.
• 9:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I want to ask you about your book here.
• 9:44
  Speaker 10: I stand interesting title, uh, because someone could say it's
• 9:49
  Speaker 10: just a cliche term. All one could say, sure also
• 9:52
  Speaker 10: named his album here. I stand that's right. So why
• 9:55
  Speaker 10: did you decide to name it.
• 9:56
  Speaker 4: Here I stand, Well, here I stand.
• 9:58
  Speaker 5: You remember that was a time where people were really
• 10:00
  Speaker 5: in love and you know, having their first child and
• 10:04
  Speaker 5: all kinds of stuff.
• 10:05
  Speaker 4: And the album.
• 10:06
  Speaker 5: Was dedicated to me, if you read the credits and
• 10:08
  Speaker 5: all that. And I was very kind of instrumental on
• 10:11
  Speaker 5: the album, which kind of flopped. So I guess my
• 10:15
  Speaker 5: musical taste.
• 10:18
  Speaker 1: I want to come back.
• 10:19
  Speaker 4: But anyway, so no, So here I stand.
• 10:23
  Speaker 5: It has a double entendre because I've been through a
• 10:26
  Speaker 5: whole lot, you know what I mean. I lost a child,
• 10:28
  Speaker 5: I lost my mom. I've been through, you know, two marriages,
• 10:32
  Speaker 5: divorces rather and I've just had kind of a rough road,
• 10:35
  Speaker 5: you know.
• 10:36
  Speaker 4: I think it started with you, Wendy, But wellcome back
• 10:38
  Speaker 4: to that.
• 10:41
  Speaker 5: My first I don't think I was during that time
• 10:46
  Speaker 5: you were in the studio when I did my radio
• 10:48
  Speaker 5: interview with her.
• 10:49
  Speaker 4: That's when that was the first negative press run. And
• 10:51
  Speaker 4: it's just.
• 10:54
  Speaker 5: There was a long time ago, and I was so
• 10:56
  Speaker 5: happy to do her show. I was so excited, you know, me,
• 11:00
  Speaker 5: I was there.
• 11:04
  Speaker 4: He changed. I mean it was part of me getting
• 11:08
  Speaker 4: kicked out of the studio. Let me explain.
• 11:13
  Speaker 5: I met her in the Gamsboard hotel. I'm standing in
• 11:16
  Speaker 5: the hotel. My PR friend at worked at one of
• 11:19
  Speaker 5: the showrooms, was like, oh, have you ever met Wendy Williams.
• 11:21
  Speaker 5: I'm from California. I had not. I'd heard of her,
• 11:24
  Speaker 5: but I didn't know that she was like a shock jock,
• 11:26
  Speaker 5: Howard Stern Black you know. So I was like no,
• 11:31
  Speaker 5: and they were like yeah. So she was just like
• 11:34
  Speaker 5: this is stylist to the stars, this is to me.
• 11:36
  Speaker 4: Would you like to come on my show?
• 11:38
  Speaker 6: And I was like yes.
• 11:39
  Speaker 5: I was thinking like, oh, it's gonna be great again
• 11:41
  Speaker 5: for my career. I'm gonna be on New York radio
• 11:44
  Speaker 5: and I'm gonna talk about my job as a stylist.
• 11:47
  Speaker 6: Well, I got on here.
• 11:48
  Speaker 5: The first question was like, so is that da da gay?
• 11:52
  Speaker 5: And does da da da get along with their mom?
• 11:54
  Speaker 5: It's just my clients. So she went right in with
• 11:58
  Speaker 5: those questions and my face was like that's why.
• 12:00
  Speaker 6: I'm here, and I was did your research?
• 12:03
  Speaker 10: Yeah?
• 12:06
  Speaker 5: I didn't have people because I met her one one
• 12:09
  Speaker 5: and she was like be there in the morning at
• 12:10
  Speaker 5: seven or something with krak of Don. So I was
• 12:13
  Speaker 5: excited about the press and it was all bad and
• 12:16
  Speaker 5: from there then.
• 12:17
  Speaker 7: When I got Philly.
• 12:20
  Speaker 4: That was no on Park Avenue. When she was asking
• 12:24
  Speaker 4: you those questions, he was sitting in the corner smiling.
• 12:26
  Speaker 1: What was he doing when you didn't do when you
• 12:28
  Speaker 1: didn't do more?
• 12:29
  Speaker 5: This whatever time it was, I was there and I
• 12:31
  Speaker 5: got kicked out of the studio because the questions that
• 12:33
  Speaker 5: she was asking. I was like, I don't I'm not
• 12:35
  Speaker 5: in my client's business.
• 12:36
  Speaker 4: I would never tell it.
• 12:37
  Speaker 5: They're paying me, you know, I'm a stylist. And she
• 12:41
  Speaker 5: was just like, that's not we can you guys got
• 12:43
  Speaker 5: to listen. You gotta find the.
• 12:44
  Speaker 4: Interview kick her. She was like, there's the door, honey,
• 12:48
  Speaker 4: that's not what she said.
• 12:49
  Speaker 5: She was going to give us the tea, But I
• 12:51
  Speaker 5: thought she was going to ask up like who had
• 12:52
  Speaker 5: a nip slip?
• 12:53
  Speaker 4: Or just said who damaged the wardrobe?
• 12:56
  Speaker 5: Like you know that kind of messy, not messy, like
• 12:59
  Speaker 5: who's this talk.
• 13:00
  Speaker 7: To his mother?
• 13:01
  Speaker 5: I didn't know, Yeah, I didn't know. I just thought
• 13:03
  Speaker 5: it was a big opportunity, absolutely as anyone would think, well,
• 13:08
  Speaker 5: epic fail.
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: So then he's looking it up right now. I'm looking
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: at it already.
• 13:13
  Speaker 5: Even in her documentary when she did the whole doc,
• 13:16
  Speaker 5: I'm in that like it was like she she went
• 13:18
  Speaker 5: on a tirade for many years four years ago and
• 13:22
  Speaker 5: many years after that. All the media just kind of
• 13:25
  Speaker 5: jumped on the bandwagon of she's a man, she looks
• 13:28
  Speaker 5: like a man.
• 13:29
  Speaker 11: She's this, she's ugly, she's old, she's.
• 13:31
  Speaker 5: You know, so I didn't have a chance. Damn God,
• 13:35
  Speaker 5: damn you ugly ass man.
• 13:38
  Speaker 11: No, No, I don't want they.
• 13:42
  Speaker 4: Call me a man. Having all these kids, I'm like,
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: wait a minute.
• 13:44
  Speaker 10: But with the titles called here I Stand because the album.
• 13:48
  Speaker 5: Here I Stand because I I You know, I've been
• 13:50
  Speaker 5: through a lot, and so it's about remaining in a
• 13:52
  Speaker 5: beautiful state despite it all.
• 13:54
  Speaker 4: Like life happens. Life is gonna come at you.
• 13:56
  Speaker 11: Things gonna have You're gonna lose people, You're gonna lose love, You're.
• 13:59
  Speaker 5: Gonna have heart break. But you have to remain in
• 14:01
  Speaker 5: a beautiful state so things will happen. You have to
• 14:03
  Speaker 5: come back to being positive and just in a good space.
• 14:06
  Speaker 5: Don't you think I'm in a beautiful stay pretty much?
• 14:09
  Speaker 4: You know, most of the time, when am.
• 14:11
  Speaker 10: I not name of time, see that little When when
• 14:14
  Speaker 10: am I not?
• 14:19
  Speaker 11: You don't be in a beautiful time on the show.
• 14:21
  Speaker 5: Well, no, I mean, being in a beautiful state doesn't
• 14:24
  Speaker 5: mean you won't check somebody.
• 14:25
  Speaker 4: That don't mean you won't get your point off.
• 14:27
  Speaker 5: Go back, then you go back to like when we're
• 14:30
  Speaker 5: going to go eat, you know what I mean, I'll
• 14:31
  Speaker 5: cut you out and be like, let's yeah, I don't
• 14:35
  Speaker 5: stay in a in a suffering state.
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: I stay in a beautiful state.
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: Was the book the therapeutic for you to write? Oh?
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: Man?
• 14:40
  Speaker 4: It was like a big diary.
• 14:42
  Speaker 5: So I just started writing it when I first was
• 14:45
  Speaker 5: going through a divorce. I started writing it and then
• 14:47
  Speaker 5: I put a pause on it because I was writing
• 14:50
  Speaker 5: from my perspective, like I wasn't taking ownership for anything.
• 14:53
  Speaker 4: And so once I.
• 14:55
  Speaker 5: Started writing again, then I started saying like, Okay, you
• 14:58
  Speaker 5: could have done that.
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: So I have life lessons in the book.
• 15:00
  Speaker 5: I talk about what I did to contribute to everything.
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, do you wish you never came from behind the.
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: Scenes at times?
• 15:09
  Speaker 5: At times I think, but it was kind of inevitable,
• 15:12
  Speaker 5: you know what I mean. Like if you marry someone
• 15:13
  Speaker 5: that's in front, you tell yourself, I'm just gonna play
• 15:16
  Speaker 5: the back. I'm gonna keep steaming your clothes I'm gonna
• 15:18
  Speaker 5: be back here. But then you go one appearance and
• 15:21
  Speaker 5: then there you are on the red carpet. Then they
• 15:23
  Speaker 5: start picking yourpart you out there. Then you have to
• 15:25
  Speaker 5: redeem yourself because you were like, yeah, I didn't put
• 15:28
  Speaker 5: oil on my feet that day, but wait till next time.
• 15:31
  Speaker 5: Then you ends up back on the red carpet again.
• 15:35
  Speaker 5: They need to mess up again. So then it's just
• 15:36
  Speaker 5: a whole snowball. Once you get out there, you're out there.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 15:40
  Speaker 10: I saw I was reading the article that us you did,
• 15:42
  Speaker 10: I think in People magazine about about a month ago,
• 15:44
  Speaker 10: and he said he felt.
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: Attacked and judged from fans. Oh yeah, after marrying you.
• 15:50
  Speaker 7: I know, it just was should you care what the
• 15:52
  Speaker 7: fans think?
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: You? Love?
• 15:54
  Speaker 7: You love you do?
• 15:55
  Speaker 5: But then I think it weighs on you if like
• 15:58
  Speaker 5: every day, every time you open any thing, it's somebody
• 16:01
  Speaker 5: saying something bad about your wife.
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: You remember he went on.
• 16:03
  Speaker 5: MTV like shut the hell up about her. He kind
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: of got tired of it. He was very judged. Very
• 16:09
  Speaker 5: we didn't have a chance in terms of the public
• 16:11
  Speaker 5: quart of public opinion.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys forgave a lot of people because there's
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: there were a lot of people crying, y'all and going
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: at yad and.
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you guys showed a lot of grace. Was that difficult?
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: I didn't. I was cussing him out. I was on Twitter.
• 16:24
  Speaker 5: I had Twitter fingers bad as here, like should me
• 16:26
  Speaker 5: tell you something that?
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, unbig your back and then make your damnages.
• 16:36
  Speaker 7: So on the.
• 16:39
  Speaker 5: On the show, you said that Neil had never asked you.
• 16:42
  Speaker 5: Hell no, I just you know. But but if he
• 16:47
  Speaker 5: had no, no, I got.
• 16:54
  Speaker 6: Clearly I did that already. There's no third party. I don't.
• 16:57
  Speaker 6: I'm not sharing my husband.
• 16:58
  Speaker 5: Yeah, knowingly, right exactly, And so that was and that's
• 17:04
  Speaker 5: exactly what the problem was, like apparently so yeah, apparently,
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: so you know, so he had one of the three,
• 17:10
  Speaker 5: you wouldn't give it to him?
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: He's yeah, men know who to ask?
• 17:16
  Speaker 9: I was about to say it is that insulting for
• 17:19
  Speaker 9: a man? I don't think it's insulting. But like I
• 17:23
  Speaker 9: just I'm I'm old school. I'm not sharing my husband.
• 17:27
  Speaker 9: I'm not sharing ding a ling. I'm just not doing it.
• 17:29
  Speaker 6: Like it's too much nasty ship in the world.
• 17:31
  Speaker 9: And I just I don't. If you want something else,
• 17:34
  Speaker 9: you don't want me you know. So I'm straight with.
• 17:37
  Speaker 5: That and where are you guys now? Because I know
• 17:40
  Speaker 5: it was a nasty I know it got nasty. You
• 17:42
  Speaker 5: know what I'm saying.
• 17:44
  Speaker 9: I mean for him, I was I was in peace, yeah,
• 17:47
  Speaker 9: and I'm still in peace.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:49
  Speaker 6: I'm in a good place in my life right now.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: What was the decision that made you say, you know what,
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: enough stuff I need to move?
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: Well?
• 17:54
  Speaker 6: What's funny is it was the breakfast club.
• 18:03
  Speaker 9: Jesus when y'all asked him of the question it would
• 18:07
  Speaker 9: he be okay if not knowing if his partner was she?
• 18:10
  Speaker 9: And he was like, I would live in a bliss
• 18:11
  Speaker 9: for bubble. So somebody sent me that and it was
• 18:14
  Speaker 9: like something in my stomach was like uh uh some
• 18:17
  Speaker 9: name right?
• 18:17
  Speaker 6: Is that how he wants me to think?
• 18:19
  Speaker 9: And then I found everything that I needed to find
• 18:22
  Speaker 9: that day and and I left that day find that.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: Did you go through the phone or how did you
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: find it?
• 18:29
  Speaker 6: Was? It was a phone?
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: It was a phone that is smart. He could have
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: been some type of detective.
• 18:36
  Speaker 10: Listen to a person say something you like, you know what,
• 18:39
  Speaker 10: Let me he's projected.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Let me go.
• 18:41
  Speaker 7: Snoop around him and see what he got going Lord.
• 18:44
  Speaker 9: So he just would because he because with me, he
• 18:47
  Speaker 9: was he has a little jealousy in him or whatever,
• 18:49
  Speaker 9: so I know that he would never be okay with.
• 18:51
  Speaker 6: Me doing that, you know what I'm saying, Like, yeah.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: So it was like some right did he come clean
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: all the way?
• 18:58
  Speaker 9: He had no choice, you know, choice, you know, And
• 19:01
  Speaker 9: I feel like that was just God's redirection for me.
• 19:03
  Speaker 6: It was a situation that was no longer.
• 19:05
  Speaker 9: Serving me, and he knew that that wasn't what I
• 19:08
  Speaker 9: wanted in a marriage, and he just removed me from
• 19:10
  Speaker 9: that situation. And I think that he did it in
• 19:12
  Speaker 9: a way that I had no choice to leave because
• 19:15
  Speaker 9: my values, my morals would never be involved in something
• 19:18
  Speaker 9: like that.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: Was it the first time you caught him cheating on him?
• 19:21
  Speaker 9: Yeah, in twenty twenty. I thought that it was a
• 19:24
  Speaker 9: thing and I left him then. So if I thought
• 19:27
  Speaker 9: something and I know something, Yeah, are you sure?
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: Because black men don't cheat?
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: Studio triggering, I'm saying that, you know, I think that
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: all men cheat, I really do.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: No all the black men like no.
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: No, no, all.
• 19:48
  Speaker 9: But I think, yeah, I think there's different types, Like
• 19:55
  Speaker 9: there's men that have cheated and learned their lesson and
• 19:57
  Speaker 9: then like they find someone that like I would. And
• 20:00
  Speaker 9: then there's men that that's just what they do, you
• 20:03
  Speaker 9: know what I'm saying.
• 20:03
  Speaker 6: So it's just, yeah, I don't think.
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: I don't I don't think it's it's realistic to believe that.
• 20:08
  Speaker 11: I don't even think that we're I don't know.
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: I don't think we're going to be made for man,
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: not like that for the rest of your life, one man,
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: but the rest of your life.
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: I don't believe.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I believe.
• 20:23
  Speaker 10: I think so if you find that, if you find
• 20:25
  Speaker 10: that one that actually fulfilled.
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: One human beings the reason we say black.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: Boys cheap right, and most boys when they become a
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: man and that's what they realized, then step out.
• 20:36
  Speaker 5: There's some that do it on a serial basis. And
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: I'm not saying from personal experience. I'm just saying, I
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: just think in general, I'm friends with a lot. I'm
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: a girl that loves guys, and then my homies and
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: I talk to them and they just do.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I think if a woman is fulfilling you on every level.
• 20:51
  Speaker 6: Of spiritual.
• 20:54
  Speaker 5: One strip to Puchakana, there's that one time you and
• 20:57
  Speaker 5: your homies went and you accidentally just met somebody at the.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: I thinks, you know what I'm saying.
• 21:10
  Speaker 9: A woman can do everything under the sun clean? Do
• 21:14
  Speaker 9: you bedroom all of that? And if a man still
• 21:16
  Speaker 9: wants to cheat, that's what he's gonna do, you know
• 21:18
  Speaker 9: what I'm saying.
• 21:18
  Speaker 6: So I don't think that has anything to get the woman.
• 21:21
  Speaker 10: I'm telling you, if a woman fulfills you spiritually, mentally
• 21:25
  Speaker 10: and emotions, shouldn't the physical. You won't even think about
• 21:28
  Speaker 10: another woman.
• 21:29
  Speaker 6: If that's the type of person that you are.
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: Right, you have to be that, yeah, because you slip ups.
• 21:36
  Speaker 5: I think you have cheaters at a Cereal and they
• 21:38
  Speaker 5: just have a whole other relationship on the side, Then
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: you have people to slip up. I just think that
• 21:43
  Speaker 5: something happens regarding another party at some point, and I'm
• 21:48
  Speaker 5: talking about in a lifetime. It may happen once, but
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: it still happened.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 21:52
  Speaker 10: So how do you handle if you got that mentality
• 21:55
  Speaker 10: and you feel like a man gonna slip up anyway?
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: How do you handle the slip up?
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I haven't. I don't know because I'm
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: single now, so I don't. I don't know. I don't know.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: You ever had somebody slip up.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: I think we all have yeah.
• 22:10
  Speaker 7: Sometimes and you don't leave them.
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: I have, I have.
• 22:15
  Speaker 5: I've left you over a slip up, for sure, But
• 22:17
  Speaker 5: in hindsight, I don't think that's big enough to ruin
• 22:21
  Speaker 5: your whole marriage.
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: I don't think it should be.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: Have you guys ever say I disagree?
• 22:28
  Speaker 9: Yeah, in a marriage, I feel like nobody's perfect, and
• 22:34
  Speaker 9: I guess the in the situation.
• 22:36
  Speaker 6: It's situational. So some situations it's like, all right, I
• 22:39
  Speaker 6: might could give you a pass. I mean, you ain't
• 22:41
  Speaker 6: getting off easy, but I could give you a pass.
• 22:43
  Speaker 9: But if it's something there's degrees to cheating, like you
• 22:46
  Speaker 9: in love, you have relationships, you cuddling and all that
• 22:49
  Speaker 9: kind of stuff, it's not just the one off and
• 22:51
  Speaker 9: you only get one pass, you know what I'm saying,
• 22:53
  Speaker 9: Because then at that point its repetitive.
• 22:55
  Speaker 6: That's that's not a slip up. That's who you are,
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: you know what I'm saying.
• 22:58
  Speaker 9: So if you if you that's something that you continue,
• 23:00
  Speaker 9: that's what you're always gonna do.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: Have up.
• 23:04
  Speaker 5: I don't I don't like, but no, forget to slip up.
• 23:13
  Speaker 11: I was just saying, I like how you guys decorated everything.
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: Have you ever cheated? Yes?
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: I have, Yes, I have, I have, and we were
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: we were both cheating on each other.
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: I was in a relationship.
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: I found out that my partner was cheating, and I cheated,
• 23:28
  Speaker 5: cheated back, cheated.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: Back, Okay, cheat it up, Okay you cheated up? Did
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: you get left?
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: They should have just left each other.
• 23:39
  Speaker 7: We did, We did.
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: We left each other. It was no one and it
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: was it was no one's fault. We both.
• 23:45
  Speaker 11: It was both of our fault. We knew, you know,
• 23:47
  Speaker 11: we both.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: She's not talking about us blogs.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: I'm not he cheated.
• 23:53
  Speaker 5: I'm not talking about my marriages period. I'm just saying
• 23:55
  Speaker 5: I'm just talking about relationship. I think people don't realize
• 23:58
  Speaker 5: that you date.
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: More than the people you married.
• 24:00
  Speaker 5: And again, every time i'm speaking, they think I'm talking
• 24:03
  Speaker 5: about my ex husband or husband's But no, I've dated
• 24:07
  Speaker 5: since and before them. You know what I mean.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: I know other men, guys. I would marry again. I
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: sure would. I would marry again.
• 24:15
  Speaker 11: The right person who's got his stuff together.
• 24:18
  Speaker 5: He's got to have his stuff together because I'm always
• 24:21
  Speaker 5: trying to start a business or working on something.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: I'm really entrepreneurial. So you got to have your bread.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Together, Neil clippers in there if you want to hear
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: what what Neil?
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I do want to hear it. I don't remember this.
• 24:32
  Speaker 10: Than we're putting together the breakfast cub doctor trying to
• 24:34
  Speaker 10: find these moments that cause people trauma.
• 24:39
  Speaker 8: Listen, I personally am am a person that is not
• 24:43
  Speaker 8: angry at living in a blissful bubble of ignorance. The
• 24:46
  Speaker 8: truth is rarely pretty in this world. In his life,
• 24:50
  Speaker 8: you have to choose your happy. So I choose to
• 24:52
  Speaker 8: believe that the truth that makes me happy as opposed
• 24:55
  Speaker 8: to such a for the ugly truth that's.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Going to mess up my happy.
• 24:58
  Speaker 8: I even tell my friends like, yo, if you have
• 25:00
  Speaker 8: found out anything about my wife, don't bring me that.
• 25:01
  Speaker 8: I'll wake up every morning and breakfast, just cook my
• 25:03
  Speaker 8: kids and taken care of. Every time we around each other,
• 25:06
  Speaker 8: we smiling and happy and things are blissful. And then
• 25:09
  Speaker 8: on my deathbed, somebody told me that you was cheating
• 25:11
  Speaker 8: on me. In my whole life, I.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Lived a pretty good damn life. I'm not going trip
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: off that that's me. That was the part.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that that actual though, that's true, though.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: I suspected something before. Then, Yeah, you suspected something before.
• 25:26
  Speaker 9: Them, so I would be a fool and a liar
• 25:28
  Speaker 9: to be like I didn't have suspicions or thinking like
• 25:31
  Speaker 9: you know that any man that was possibility that they're
• 25:33
  Speaker 9: gonna cheat. But to the extent of the way things happened,
• 25:36
  Speaker 9: I never in a million years would have you know, like,
• 25:40
  Speaker 9: wasn't that wasn't the person that that.
• 25:42
  Speaker 6: I was in love with.
• 25:43
  Speaker 10: I just wonder why you're telling me that on my deathbed.
• 25:45
  Speaker 10: You're trying to make me go faster and enjoying my
• 25:47
  Speaker 10: final moments. Why would you call me that kind of
• 25:49
  Speaker 10: stress and trauma on my deathbed?
• 25:51
  Speaker 5: I think I was just so surprised because being around
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: y'all were like best friends, Like it wasn't just like
• 25:56
  Speaker 5: you know, everything wasn't always romantic like they was cool,
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: like y'all were like real best friends.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.
• 26:04
  Speaker 5: It's not worth it to lead well girl, what well
• 26:07
  Speaker 5: wait wait, actually.
• 26:09
  Speaker 6: Just that is your disposition.
• 26:11
  Speaker 9: However, it's different yea, no, thank you, Yeah, because I
• 26:15
  Speaker 9: know my worth and I and I'm not gonna settle
• 26:17
  Speaker 9: for just sharing somebody when I know I deserve a
• 26:20
  Speaker 9: whole man.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: So think I'm just older we met.
• 26:24
  Speaker 9: He had picked me for it was he was going
• 26:26
  Speaker 9: to do a mini movie for his nonfiction album, and
• 26:30
  Speaker 9: he had picked me for the lead role. And that's
• 26:32
  Speaker 9: how we met. The movie never got shot, so I
• 26:34
  Speaker 9: don't know. Maybe it was a setup.
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: He wanted you. That was the way he was gonna
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: catch you.
• 26:39
  Speaker 10: You know.
• 26:39
  Speaker 7: To me, that's something just now she said, you're oldest.
• 26:42
  Speaker 7: You probably just won.
• 26:42
  Speaker 5: It took it took a long time to get to
• 26:45
  Speaker 5: the way I think now, because I was the person
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: that if you even look somewhere else, I was ready
• 26:49
  Speaker 5: to snatch your neck, you know what I mean.
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: So I'm like, bring your eyes back over here.
• 26:53
  Speaker 5: What you're doing and what you're doing looking at him,
• 26:55
  Speaker 5: I was like I was on that hot wire stuff.
• 26:58
  Speaker 5: I just think I'm in a different I'm in a
• 27:00
  Speaker 5: different place, and that it took time to get here.
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: So trust me, I used to be like that, like,
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: first of all, I'm gonna pull up.
• 27:08
  Speaker 6: I respect your.
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: Mind, am.
• 27:11
  Speaker 5: But I think what she's saying is she knows what
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: she's not gonna take, like.
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: Just telling you, I'm not sharing my man.
• 27:20
  Speaker 6: Like long.
• 27:21
  Speaker 5: So I gotta be willing to share my man because
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: I don't know when I'm gonna die.
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: No one wants to hold on. Let's just let's clarify this.
• 27:29
  Speaker 5: Yes, please, girl, I am one hundred percent not down
• 27:32
  Speaker 5: to share anything. I don't even want to share my
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: damn sandwich. So I definitely not sharing my man.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: I am not that person.
• 27:38
  Speaker 5: But I'm just saying that when it comes to a
• 27:40
  Speaker 5: relationship something I so death do us part if he
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: makes a mistake. I don't think that that is the.
• 27:46
  Speaker 6: Depth of the relationship and we're partying.
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: No for me, Well, I used to.
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: I'm telling you, like I said, were thirteen years younger,
• 27:55
  Speaker 5: I definitely would.
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: Have said that I would agree. But just get to
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: your fifties you might feel a little different. You may
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: We'll just see.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: You would lik to Safaria one time too.
• 28:09
  Speaker 9: I don't know why y'all say people could be in
• 28:11
  Speaker 9: the same room together.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: Lord Jesus, because you said you love hip hop Landa
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: that your link that you would dating.
• 28:17
  Speaker 6: I was all love hip hop.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: They said that you're going to do the next season.
• 28:20
  Speaker 6: I don't know why they said that. I would never.
• 28:22
  Speaker 6: I was already I was already contracted. I don't know
• 28:27
  Speaker 6: why they said that.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: You know, but y'all were never No, it's cool, but
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: I plan.
• 28:33
  Speaker 9: To be single for a while because I have a
• 28:36
  Speaker 9: lot of healing to go through and do or whatever,
• 28:39
  Speaker 9: and I don't want to distract myself from what I
• 28:42
  Speaker 9: have going on because I'm so focused on my career
• 28:44
  Speaker 9: right now.
• 28:45
  Speaker 6: You know, I'm acting now, I.
• 28:47
  Speaker 9: Just did a movie, about to do another movie, so
• 28:49
  Speaker 9: I'm I'm focused on Crystal right now for the first time.
• 28:52
  Speaker 9: I'm I'm happy and content and just being with myself.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: Christ did you ever key Neo's calls? Because it seems
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: like you still got a little hurt something. No, nothing,
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: nothing hit his hats in the world.
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: I got you now, just get the story.
• 29:18
  Speaker 9: No, no, I I walked away peacefully because when you
• 29:22
  Speaker 9: when you fight and areg you it's because you still
• 29:24
  Speaker 9: want to be there. And although I mean, one of
• 29:26
  Speaker 9: the hardest things to do is to walk away from
• 29:28
  Speaker 9: somebody you're still in love with.
• 29:29
  Speaker 6: But I love myself more.
• 29:31
  Speaker 9: And I knew that I was going to go crazy
• 29:33
  Speaker 9: if I chose to try to work it out and stay.
• 29:35
  Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying.
• 29:36
  Speaker 9: And I always have love for him, but it's it's
• 29:40
  Speaker 9: different now, you know.
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: So the kids are good.
• 29:44
  Speaker 6: The kids are good.
• 29:45
  Speaker 9: You know, they go and spend time with Daddy. They
• 29:47
  Speaker 9: love their their their father, and they're good. I let
• 29:51
  Speaker 9: him be a father and and not be keep communication
• 29:54
  Speaker 9: at a minimal just because I'm focused on rebuilding my
• 29:57
  Speaker 9: life and what that means for me. So I don't
• 29:59
  Speaker 9: want to surround myself with what the past was that
• 30:02
  Speaker 9: could potentially put me in a place where I'm emotional
• 30:05
  Speaker 9: and all those things.
• 30:06
  Speaker 6: So I choose to just.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: So there was no drunk less like, hey, big head.
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: Nothing, but did he tried? Okay, what that he tried?
• 30:21
  Speaker 6: Listen?
• 30:22
  Speaker 9: I think at this point he knows that there's there's
• 30:25
  Speaker 9: no coming back. So we we're trying to figure out
• 30:28
  Speaker 9: what Cole parents and looks like for us because I
• 30:31
  Speaker 9: just I.
• 30:32
  Speaker 6: Just don't want to be around the situation.
• 30:34
  Speaker 9: And you know, I all the respects, all love to
• 30:36
  Speaker 9: him and no shade, but I just when somebody hurts
• 30:39
  Speaker 9: you to a certain extent, I don't want to be
• 30:42
  Speaker 9: in that environment.
• 30:43
  Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying?
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Did ya try therapy? Did you try to make it? Men?
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: So he was done. He was like, there's no therapy.
• 30:48
  Speaker 5: Was I fought the next day and Crystal filed the
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: next day after hearing that breakfast club ship.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: Really it wasn't it wasn't really know.
• 31:00
  Speaker 6: That that is that is what prompted me to.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: To look around.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: How you getting his phone?
• 31:06
  Speaker 6: He was the same past and all.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: He wasn't trying to hide anything.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: Some of them smart, that's what you get out of her.
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: Yeah, she'd be like, hold on, where the other phone is?
• 31:19
  Speaker 4: Another phone?
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: He was sleeping, and he just picked up the phone
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: and just.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: Yeaheah, No, he was here, he was here.
• 31:26
  Speaker 6: He was doing another interview. Yes, he was at the
• 31:28
  Speaker 6: radio station. I was at the hotel. He was like
• 31:30
  Speaker 6: in New York, you scrolling down.
• 31:32
  Speaker 10: So when he came back, So by the time he
• 31:37
  Speaker 10: got back to the hotel from the interview, you was
• 31:39
  Speaker 10: on his head.
• 31:40
  Speaker 6: I was gone.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 31:41
  Speaker 6: I didn't say anything or you left the Oh.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: My god, you didn't tell nothing. You ain't tell nothing.
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: You just know.
• 31:47
  Speaker 9: I mean, he he he knew that his phone was
• 31:49
  Speaker 9: was missing, and so he realized and and you know, oh.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: My god, he took the phone and left.
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: They took the phone.
• 31:56
  Speaker 6: I am a black woman. I am not done.
• 32:00
  Speaker 11: You can just least say I would put it all
• 32:01
  Speaker 11: back like nothing happened.
• 32:02
  Speaker 7: Yeah, he didn't try to apologize and nothing like you don't.
• 32:05
  Speaker 9: I mean, of course he apologized, and you know, he
• 32:07
  Speaker 9: didn't want me to get a divorce or whatever. But
• 32:10
  Speaker 9: he knows, he knows how I value myself and he
• 32:12
  Speaker 9: knows what I'm not playing in and that situation.
• 32:14
  Speaker 6: I think he just he knew they was no coming back.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: You know, So what it is you love to know
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: what he learned?
• 32:21
  Speaker 6: We had.
• 32:21
  Speaker 9: We had a beautiful relationship, a beautiful marriage, a beautiful friendship.
• 32:25
  Speaker 6: And I don't regret it. I don't take it back.
• 32:28
  Speaker 9: And I'm appreciative to the love that we did have
• 32:30
  Speaker 9: because a lot of people don't experience the love like
• 32:32
  Speaker 9: that that I had. You know, but that season it's gone,
• 32:34
  Speaker 9: that that that chapter is closed.
• 32:36
  Speaker 6: And how long were we all together? Almost ten years?
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: Damn?
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 32:43
  Speaker 10: I got a question for both of you on your
• 32:44
  Speaker 10: on your healing journeys that you're on your healing journeys
• 32:47
  Speaker 10: of self? What have you learned about yourself that you're
• 32:50
  Speaker 10: most passionate.
• 32:51
  Speaker 9: About my my strength and my perseverance. I didn't I
• 32:56
  Speaker 9: don't think that I thought that I would be in
• 33:00
  Speaker 9: the mind state that I am now because a lot
• 33:03
  Speaker 9: of people would have broken, you know, And I have
• 33:05
  Speaker 9: my moments, but I'm proud of myself for the way
• 33:08
  Speaker 9: that i have maintained my grace.
• 33:10
  Speaker 6: In this situation.
• 33:11
  Speaker 9: Yeah, you know so, because it's easy to the fame
• 33:14
  Speaker 9: a black man and tear him down and tell all
• 33:16
  Speaker 9: the business and do all those things. I refuse to
• 33:18
  Speaker 9: do that because and it's not for him, it's for
• 33:20
  Speaker 9: me and my children, you know what I'm saying. So
• 33:22
  Speaker 9: I don't I don't benefit by tearing him down.
• 33:25
  Speaker 6: I wish him nothing but the best. I want to
• 33:26
  Speaker 6: see him succeed, but just not with me.
• 33:29
  Speaker 5: What about you, I'm really committed to remaining in a
• 33:34
  Speaker 5: beautiful state because I really, like I say this, I said,
• 33:38
  Speaker 5: and I mean, I think we share a friend. It's
• 33:41
  Speaker 5: not to major in the miners. Absolutely don't major in
• 33:45
  Speaker 5: the miners, and I really I'm really passionate about that.
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: I am.
• 33:51
  Speaker 5: You know, you really question your self worth when you're
• 33:54
  Speaker 5: in a public relationship because your life becomes about them,
• 33:59
  Speaker 5: like everything is about their schedule, where they have.
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: To be, what time the flight is, what you're gonna wear.
• 34:05
  Speaker 5: Because you got to be with them, And so you
• 34:07
  Speaker 5: do lose the sense of yourself when you're in that situation.
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: I'm happy now. I just I feel so free. I
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: always say that, I just feel free.
• 34:14
  Speaker 5: I'm just able to move around without you know, having
• 34:17
  Speaker 5: that pressure anymore.
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: The peace, the peace.
• 34:20
  Speaker 6: That you have.
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: And I can't imagine because they scrutinize you if you're
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: taking kids to the game, I'm sure they're taking pictures
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: of what you're wearing.
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: They're looking at everything.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: You go to the grocery store, I'm sure they're looking
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: at what you're wearing.
• 34:31
  Speaker 5: I don't even care about what I'm wearing because I
• 34:33
  Speaker 5: ain't never worried about that.
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: It's always Oh even at the super Bowl when you
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: went and he.
• 34:39
  Speaker 5: Was there and he performed halftime, how did you feel
• 34:41
  Speaker 5: about that being there?
• 34:42
  Speaker 6: It was great?
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: No, I went, Yeah, I went, My kids were there.
• 34:45
  Speaker 5: He did a great job. You know, he's dope like
• 34:48
  Speaker 5: that that I can always say. He's a phenomenal person
• 34:51
  Speaker 5: and phenomenal artists.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it was good. They were looking.
• 34:54
  Speaker 5: Yeah, they're always looking at my reaction everything like did
• 34:57
  Speaker 5: she clap?
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: Does she cry? Did she like?
• 35:00
  Speaker 5: Sounded like his music like everybody else? And you got
• 35:03
  Speaker 5: to realize everything he performed.
• 35:05
  Speaker 4: These are things.
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: I was his stylist, so I did all those videos.
• 35:08
  Speaker 5: I was a part of the imaging for the whole thing.
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: It was important for me to be there.
• 35:12
  Speaker 11: I was sad that I wasn't in charge of the
• 35:14
  Speaker 11: whole imaging for it.
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: To be honest, That's what I'm came from. I love
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: j D. Don't talk about it, not too much.
• 35:26
  Speaker 5: On l Did you like that little socks the way?
• 35:32
  Speaker 6: No, I don't know the way.
• 35:33
  Speaker 4: I don't know everything.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: You know what I think it is.
• 35:39
  Speaker 10: I think people aren't used to seeing, uh, healthy functioning
• 35:43
  Speaker 10: co parenting.
• 35:44
  Speaker 5: Yes, I have a healthy functioning co parenting situation because
• 35:48
  Speaker 5: my kids are you know, fifteen and sixteen, and they
• 35:51
  Speaker 5: basically say where they want to be, and like we
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: have and we are very supportive of each other's like
• 35:56
  Speaker 5: I'm here, I'm in New York. The kids are with him,
• 35:59
  Speaker 5: and when he's busy, the kids are with me. We
• 36:02
  Speaker 5: just we we kind of got rid of that whole
• 36:04
  Speaker 5: schedule thing, like you have him on.
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: Thursday to Wednesday and no, we just are you traveling? Okay?
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: Cool?
• 36:11
  Speaker 5: We are you gonna be home? Are the kids gonna
• 36:13
  Speaker 5: be with me? Are they gonna be with you, and
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: I think we get along. Find our kids are super
• 36:17
  Speaker 5: vocal and grown as hell, so they tell you what
• 36:19
  Speaker 5: they want to They be like, I need to be
• 36:21
  Speaker 5: a dad because my game setup is over here.
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: He's got better Wi Fi than you. I'd be like,
• 36:26
  Speaker 4: of course he's got better. Everything's better.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: Entertainment industry. When you want you kids to be.
• 36:37
  Speaker 9: My oldest he he he his father is his idol,
• 36:42
  Speaker 9: like he wants to do me and that he needs
• 36:43
  Speaker 9: trying to make his own beats.
• 36:44
  Speaker 6: He think he got a YouTube channel. It's tall.
• 36:47
  Speaker 9: So I mean, I I know the the negative that
• 36:50
  Speaker 9: comes with it. I don't want that for my kids,
• 36:53
  Speaker 9: you know, but I do want him to, you know,
• 36:55
  Speaker 9: whatever his dreams are to do it, you know, if
• 36:58
  Speaker 9: that's what he wants. But I would prefer him to
• 37:00
  Speaker 9: go to college, get a degree and you know, do
• 37:02
  Speaker 9: something else. But if that's what he wants to.
• 37:04
  Speaker 5: Do it, well, my son Sinko, he's the fifth Uh,
• 37:12
  Speaker 5: he's sixteen. He's a gamer, so he really wants to
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: do this gaming thing on a high level, like that's his.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: Money.
• 37:20
  Speaker 5: He is focused. He didn't go on vacation. We went
• 37:23
  Speaker 5: to Angleill and all this for spring break. He stayed
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: with his setup. He was serious about like I can't
• 37:27
  Speaker 5: take my computers.
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: I can't take all my monitors and my hard drop.
• 37:31
  Speaker 5: I was like, okay, it's a serious thing now literally
• 37:35
  Speaker 5: better Wi Fi and Usherton.
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: Girl, you gotta let this man make this money.
• 37:37
  Speaker 5: On these I'm we're supporting. We both are supporting him
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: doing my son did the create. He did a lot
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: of creative direction for the super Bowl. That's no, he's
• 37:50
  Speaker 5: now he's so serious he wants to be an artist.
• 37:52
  Speaker 5: I don't love that idea because I know what the
• 37:54
  Speaker 5: scrutiny that comes with it. But behind the scenes, if
• 37:57
  Speaker 5: he wants to do lighting and creative direction. And he
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: really was very involved in that super Bowl performance, more
• 38:04
  Speaker 5: than he even.
• 38:04
  Speaker 4: Got credit for.
• 38:05
  Speaker 5: He really was like, no, not that song and when
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: you come out the chair, you need to stand and
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: look that way.
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: No, he was definitely involved.
• 38:15
  Speaker 7: Yeah, because you said earlier here, I can't flopped.
• 38:18
  Speaker 10: And we were talking about this, talking about that this week,
• 38:21
  Speaker 10: and we were talking about that that that particular, we're
• 38:24
  Speaker 10: talking about chance to rap him and you know what
• 38:26
  Speaker 10: happened when an artist makes an album dedicated.
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: To his wife.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and the album this album is whack.
• 38:35
  Speaker 5: The album was good, understand, was a banging album. And
• 38:38
  Speaker 5: let me tell you this, I'm gonna say this. This
• 38:40
  Speaker 5: is in defense of him really quick, and I don't
• 38:42
  Speaker 5: want to talk about his ask I'm okay.
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: It was enough on Usher, But Here I.
• 38:47
  Speaker 5: Stand was so solid because he was ahead of his time.
• 38:50
  Speaker 5: He got married before anybody before.
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: This was before J and B. This is before justin Chimberlake.
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: This is before he was an outlier in like trying
• 38:59
  Speaker 5: to be mature and wear suits.
• 39:01
  Speaker 4: That suit and tied ship. That was we did that already.
• 39:04
  Speaker 5: Sorry, no offense, JT, but you know what I mean,
• 39:06
  Speaker 5: Like we were trying to make him go to the
• 39:08
  Speaker 5: next level. The fans weren't ready for him to evolve
• 39:12
  Speaker 5: and get to that level. And then now it's cool,
• 39:14
  Speaker 5: everybody's married, and see, we just were ahead of our time,
• 39:17
  Speaker 5: but we did it too soon.
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: So they were like, he.
• 39:20
  Speaker 5: Married this old ass lady and she's whack and that's
• 39:24
  Speaker 5: that and we hate him. And so Here I Stand
• 39:26
  Speaker 5: wasn't received the way it should have been. But it
• 39:28
  Speaker 5: was solid songs on that album Flop Fly, but it
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: didn't do a million a million copies in the first week,
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: like you know all the other albums.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: Did you blame yourself for that in some way?
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: I didn't. I think that. I think I blamed that.
• 39:42
  Speaker 5: I think that the label pulled back on it real fast,
• 39:45
  Speaker 5: like they put it out and it wasn't received the
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: way they thought, and I think they're just like.
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: All right, let's let's hide that to me.
• 39:51
  Speaker 5: Can stay home, have a baby, just don't come outside
• 39:54
  Speaker 5: no more.
• 39:55
  Speaker 7: They hate you?
• 39:56
  Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I I think I got a lot of backlash,
• 39:59
  Speaker 5: like you're making his whole thing flop, and I'm like
• 40:02
  Speaker 5: that dude been married again and again after that.
• 40:04
  Speaker 4: You know what I mean?
• 40:06
  Speaker 10: Is the goal for both of y'all, because y'all have
• 40:08
  Speaker 10: so much going on, It's the goal for both of
• 40:10
  Speaker 10: y'all to get to a place where nobody asks you
• 40:12
  Speaker 10: about them, is what I say.
• 40:14
  Speaker 6: I want the world to know Crystal or not.
• 40:16
  Speaker 11: But it's impossible, you know what I'm saying.
• 40:18
  Speaker 5: And that's what people always say. You don't want people
• 40:20
  Speaker 5: to ask you about him, but you still have his
• 40:22
  Speaker 5: last name.
• 40:23
  Speaker 6: But I'm still I'm still.
• 40:24
  Speaker 4: My own Perton, you know what I mean. Diane von
• 40:27
  Speaker 4: Furstenberg is Diane von Furstenberg.
• 40:28
  Speaker 5: She was married to Count von Furstenberg, but she's still
• 40:31
  Speaker 5: an amazing designer.
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: Like I just again, it's our community.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Do you still do styling like that or not too much?
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: I have a clothing line called Eli Kish.
• 40:40
  Speaker 5: I will style certain artists if they have certain people,
• 40:43
  Speaker 5: if they have a budget. It's not even artists, it's
• 40:45
  Speaker 5: just if you have a budget and you can afford
• 40:47
  Speaker 5: to pay me.
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: A stylist a lost art now, like you don't really
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: see them as like growing up in the two thousands,
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: you'd see stylists niggas.
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: You see these niggas.
• 40:56
  Speaker 11: Yes, it's a.
• 41:00
  Speaker 5: Styling is a lost art because it's so it's oversaturated
• 41:03
  Speaker 5: with people who have taken the title.
• 41:05
  Speaker 4: You can work a gap for three days.
• 41:07
  Speaker 5: And all you guys rolling a trench code.
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: You be like, I'm a stylist in the stars.
• 41:13
  Speaker 11: That's that's all you need. You walk out and say
• 41:17
  Speaker 11: you're the top stylist.
• 41:18
  Speaker 6: I'm looking like.
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: It happens in every league.
• 41:21
  Speaker 5: Listening people can get what to viral videos now their
• 41:25
  Speaker 5: comedy you can you know, you can get act now
• 41:28
  Speaker 5: you're a radio person now, yeah, yeah, you know.
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: So.
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: I think it's the oversaturation in every lane, every lane.
• 41:33
  Speaker 5: It probably is because you know why, I'm not just
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: not too much on our people, but it's low hanging fruit.
• 41:39
  Speaker 5: They people don't. You don't see too many people fighting
• 41:42
  Speaker 5: to be scientists or doctors or lawyers. You know what
• 41:45
  Speaker 5: I'm saying. It requires a lot of work that requires
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: work in reading, like actual reading, like read hello, read
• 41:51
  Speaker 5: if you would read? No, they want to do what's
• 41:53
  Speaker 5: you know, the easiest thing, like I'm a stylist.
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: I love clothes. That's not how it works. Why's so delicious?
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: Here? Put them on?
• 42:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, girl, that's right.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: All right, thank you ladies for joining us.
• 42:05
  Speaker 10: Man make comments, screamboled and boogie on all black. Right now,
• 42:09
  Speaker 10: go get Tamika Tamika Raymonds book here, I stand.
• 42:12
  Speaker 11: Here, I stand in a beautiful state.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: That's right. That's right.
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: It's Krystal Renee and Tamika Foster. It's the Breakfast Club.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: Good morning, wake tail An's up in the morning.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: Breakfast Club