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Would you be wrong for telling your sister not to buy things for your child if there are strings attached? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a pang, hey wa ala and the
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  Speaker 1: club on nine four seventh.
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  Speaker 2: Or if you're a petty person, then yeah, snik around.
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  Speaker 2: You really need to stick around, because I've found great
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  Speaker 2: company for you.
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  Speaker 3: My sister gifted my daughter with an infatible pool, and
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  Speaker 3: my daughter had grown it and I'd given it away.
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  Speaker 3: So my sister wanted to borrow it or use it
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  Speaker 3: for something. So she said, in future, if she gives
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  Speaker 3: my daughter for the present, I should check with her
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  Speaker 3: first before.
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  Speaker 2: I give it away.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, really, what nonsense is that a gift is a.
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  Speaker 2: Gift in future? This just don't give my daughter it's fine?
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  Speaker 2: Hey no, man, absolutely no, don't.
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  Speaker 1: Don't. Don't be so passive aggressive about it.
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  Speaker 2: Just check with the sister before you give it away.
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  Speaker 1: Why because maybe she's got a different use for it.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, like she says in the voice, that the
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  Speaker 1: child is up growing the pool. It's one of the
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  Speaker 1: probably one of those little splash pulls.
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  Speaker 2: Then you shouldn't have gifted it away. You should have
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  Speaker 2: kept it in your house in case one day you
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  Speaker 2: have one. You have a use for this thing. Once
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  Speaker 2: you give someone something, it's theirs.
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  Speaker 1: I can't explain to you why I have feelings right
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  Speaker 1: and why I would have a feeling about this. But
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  Speaker 1: if I put myself on this shoe, and my two
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  Speaker 1: little nieces, if I give them something and I pitch
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  Speaker 1: up there for Christmas and my sister said no, we
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  Speaker 1: gave it away, I would be touched.
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  Speaker 2: I absolutely hear you, and you're absolutely right. But remember
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  Speaker 2: what he said here. The gift was outgrown by the gift,
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  Speaker 2: so it's something that I cannot use anymore. I have
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  Speaker 2: now become too big for it. So I did use it.
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  Speaker 2: It's not like I agree with you if I give
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  Speaker 2: you something, if I give your daughter something and then
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  Speaker 2: a week later I get there and the gift is gone. Ooh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm feeling some type of way about it. But I've
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  Speaker 2: used it. I used it now, over and over for years,
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  Speaker 2: and it's now become too small for me. So because
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  Speaker 2: in this household word what not orders, we've now taken
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  Speaker 2: it and we've given it to somebody who we think
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  Speaker 2: is going to like it.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think you could have let me know.
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  Speaker 2: So every gift that you've been given has got a
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  Speaker 2: return to.
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  Speaker 1: Say no, no, no, I just look, I'm not unreasonable
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  Speaker 1: about this. I'm with this with this lady's name. What
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  Speaker 1: is her name, Judinette. I'm not unreasonable about this obviously.
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  Speaker 1: If I've given you some clothes and they're outgrown the clothes,
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to phone me. But I mean, if
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  Speaker 1: it's a big gift like this, like if it's a blow.
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  Speaker 2: Pool, it's a flatable pool.
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  Speaker 1: Roller skates or you know, maybe I want to who
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  Speaker 1: are you giving it to? Maybe I would like to
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  Speaker 1: give it to something. Maybe I've got a different news
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  Speaker 1: for it. No, Frankie, is it not? No, it's just
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  Speaker 1: the concept.
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  Speaker 5: If everyone I had ever gifted called me to update
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  Speaker 5: me on what they were doing or whatever I gave them,
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  Speaker 5: I would really be annoyed by that, because do you
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  Speaker 5: have so much free time that you want to be
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  Speaker 5: filled in calls and messages about stuff you gave away
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  Speaker 5: two years ago.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even like people who give me something and
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  Speaker 2: keep on room enemy that they gifted it. H Do
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  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying? That's what you want now?
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  Speaker 2: You want us to have this. The term no strings
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  Speaker 2: attached is exactly this, give me something, and there mustn't
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  Speaker 2: be any rope that ties back to you because every
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  Speaker 2: now and then, ah, hey, how's that luck said, it's
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  Speaker 2: cooking it. Ah.
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  Speaker 6: No, I think if you're gonna give a gift, you
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  Speaker 6: give it with the intention that it's a gift. The
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  Speaker 6: person can do whatever they like with it, be it
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  Speaker 6: a day, two days, three days, a week later. It's
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  Speaker 6: got nothing to do with you. But if you have
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  Speaker 6: the intention that you would like it back down the line,
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  Speaker 6: just say, hey, I'm giving her this gift, but if
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  Speaker 6: you don't mind down the line, I might want to
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  Speaker 6: borrow it, so let me know. Cool, and then that way.
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  Speaker 6: Now the other sister who's on the receiving end now
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  Speaker 6: knows in future, if she's given a gift by this sister,
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  Speaker 6: she must ask her because that's her rule. There we go,
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  Speaker 6: everyone's happy, everyone knows each other's rules. We all learn
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  Speaker 6: from this experience. Nobody must touch anybody on their studios
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  Speaker 6: over this one and move forward.
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  Speaker 2: So you're not gifting me.
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  Speaker 5: You're lending it to me for as long as I
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  Speaker 5: need it.
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  Speaker 2: That's fine.
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  Speaker 6: If I stated upfront no, and.
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  Speaker 2: Keep it, keep it now. My gift is time. Share
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  Speaker 2: now now every now and then, you want to have
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  Speaker 2: a saying the gift that you gave to me, you're
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  Speaker 2: gifting me Edmund.
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  Speaker 6: Also, if I give you a gift and then I go,
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  Speaker 6: can I borrow it? And you say, oh, I gave
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  Speaker 6: it away, next time, I'm not giving you a nice gift.
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  Speaker 1: You see, you see that. That's exactly what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 1: is that it No, I can't explain why you touched,
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  Speaker 1: but you would be a little touched.
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  Speaker 5: Right, So what's next? If it's damaged? I must also
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  Speaker 5: report to you that, by the way, remember the pool,
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  Speaker 5: the inflatable pool, it's got a hole in it.
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  Speaker 2: Now, that's fine, it broke.
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  Speaker 6: There's very different thing to something, using something and a
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  Speaker 6: breaks than getting a gift.
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  Speaker 2: And then giving it away. You guys want to hold people. Hey, yes, can't.
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  Speaker 6: No, you can.
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  Speaker 2: It's a gift.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm saying that if it's a big gift like that,
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  Speaker 1: especially for kids, because even for adults. Now that I
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  Speaker 1: think about it, I'd.
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  Speaker 2: Be touched it.
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  Speaker 1: Are you triggered? Yes, I would be if I get
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  Speaker 1: let's I gave you a nice spot and then I
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  Speaker 1: walk in and you and by the way, you mentioned,
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  Speaker 1: oh I gave away the pot. I didn't have space
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  Speaker 1: in my cover.
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  Speaker 2: In fact, I have done that. Somebody gifted me like
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  Speaker 2: fifty parts, and I gave forty of them away because
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  Speaker 2: I felt these parts are going to be better used
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  Speaker 2: by to someone else in this house. I already have
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  Speaker 2: the pots that I need.
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  Speaker 1: Did you let the person know that you.
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  Speaker 2: Because you gave me fifty parts?
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  Speaker 5: And also, unless I run a K twin company, what
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  Speaker 5: you used to have for forty parts be real?
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  Speaker 1: I would be observed if if you gave away forty
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  Speaker 1: of my fifty pots and you didn't let me know,
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  Speaker 1: maybe I would have taken them from you.
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  Speaker 2: Then you should have bought them for yourself, for you.
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  Speaker 1: But you gave them away.
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  Speaker 2: Oh one one eight thirty eight nine four seven. Judy
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  Speaker 2: sent us a voice note. Have you listened to Judy's
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  Speaker 2: little scenario that she's floating in?
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 3: My sister gifted my daughter with an infatible pool, and
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  Speaker 3: my daughter had grown it and I'd given it away,
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  Speaker 3: so my sister wanted to borrow it or use it
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  Speaker 3: for something, so she said, in future, if she gives
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  Speaker 3: my daughter for the present, I should check with first
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  Speaker 3: before I.
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  Speaker 2: Give it away.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, really, what nonsense is that a gift is
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  Speaker 4: a gift.
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  Speaker 6: So let's say, for example, you buy me a scarff, okay,
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  Speaker 6: and then like three months later you come to work
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  Speaker 6: and somebody else in the office is wearing that scarff
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  Speaker 6: and makes them very happy. And then you say, oh,
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  Speaker 6: I gave Cindy a scoff just like that, and they say, yes,
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  Speaker 6: Cindy gave it to me.
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  Speaker 2: Aren't you going to be like a little bit like that?
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  Speaker 2: I chose that for It's fine. Really, yeah, there's no
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  Speaker 2: ways that I'm relieving I'm keeping and I'm keeping an
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  Speaker 2: Edmund ledger of gifts that I gave to people.
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  Speaker 1: No, but I understand that, and I'm not saying that
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  Speaker 1: I would keep a ledger. But what I would say
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  Speaker 1: is if I give you something and you're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: use it, Like to Cindy's point, I gave you a
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  Speaker 1: scoff and you actually you said thank you in the
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  Speaker 1: moment because you had to, But then two days later
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  Speaker 1: you go, I don't really like the scuff. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: give it away. I think you should let me know.
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  Speaker 1: You could go, let you know why it's no longer yours.
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  Speaker 2: Why I know you're I mean, he made me a
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  Speaker 2: scuff three years ago.
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  Speaker 1: My form, my driver loves it.
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  Speaker 6: What that by hand timber killer.
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  Speaker 5: After a while, I didn't match anything in my class.
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  Speaker 4: Do you know how many people have asked me for scarfs?
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  Speaker 6: And I'm like, I don't have time to knit another one?
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  Speaker 2: Right now?
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  Speaker 1: We make time.
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  Speaker 2: See I didn't get a scarf. I'm never knitting for
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  Speaker 2: you again.
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  Speaker 6: I can live with that, and I'm in good mode
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  Speaker 6: at the moment.
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  Speaker 2: This driver is a warm hair favorite.
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  Speaker 7: He is.
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  Speaker 2: He's just like driving to rot Or Cudley.
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  Speaker 3: My sister gifted my daughter with an infatible pool, and
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  Speaker 3: my daughter had grown it and I'd given it away,
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  Speaker 3: so my sister wanted to borrow it or use it
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  Speaker 3: for something. So she said in future, if she gives
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  Speaker 3: my daughter for the present, I should check with her
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  Speaker 3: first before.
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  Speaker 4: I give it away. I mean, really, what nonsense is that?
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  Speaker 4: A gift is a gift.
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  Speaker 1: My apologies. We don't side with Judy. We side with
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  Speaker 1: the sister.
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  Speaker 2: Because you you like drama. No, you like edmind, you
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  Speaker 2: like petting.
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  Speaker 4: This.
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  Speaker 2: When you give someone something, it doesn't matter what they
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  Speaker 2: do with it. If somebody gives me a voucher, you
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  Speaker 2: know to go get a message. If I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 2: go get the message, I can give that gift to
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  Speaker 2: somebody else. You're gonna be upset that somebody else got
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  Speaker 2: a message.
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  Speaker 1: I just what we're saying is that I think it
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  Speaker 1: would be nice if you had to phone then to say, Frankie,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to use this voucher. Would you like
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  Speaker 1: to rather use it yourself? Otherwise I'm going to give
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  Speaker 1: it to a frame.
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  Speaker 6: I'm just hurt because I've taken so much time to
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  Speaker 6: think about what you want as a gift, and now
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  Speaker 6: you're just giving it away at all my time and money.
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  Speaker 6: And if it is just yeah, I just give up
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  Speaker 6: a vouchers not getting.
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  Speaker 2: Any But here's the thing. You're giving me a gift,
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  Speaker 2: right is you giving me peace of mind? So so
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  Speaker 2: if if I use your gift to save myself time,
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  Speaker 2: to save myself, money, to save myself edmind, then you
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  Speaker 2: have gifted me something. You have helped me. You've helped
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  Speaker 2: me solve something, You've helped me do a solve. Why
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  Speaker 2: can't you.
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  Speaker 1: Accept that I'm revaliating the kind of gifts I give.
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  Speaker 1: What did you say I must help you solve time?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Money?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? Ever, so if I take your gift and I
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  Speaker 2: gift it on, it means that you have saved me.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to say or go look for something,
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  Speaker 2: do you know what I'm saying? But worse in this
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  Speaker 2: case with Judy, they used the pool over and over.
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  Speaker 2: It's just that the little darling outgrew the pool, so
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  Speaker 2: then they gifted it on so it can go and
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  Speaker 2: make somebody else happy. It's not a gift. Then if
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  Speaker 2: you have to check in off if are growing it,
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  Speaker 2: then you're actually just lending that person something.
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  Speaker 4: That phrase about in the future. That's okay, no problem.
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  Speaker 2: So in future when you give about way mom's dailies
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  Speaker 2: and mom's little sets that you don't want just in
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  Speaker 2: the future, just check with me as well, eh, or
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  Speaker 2: they don't give my daughter anything, then these inflatable pools
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  Speaker 2: lose Karla in the sun. And for someone to have
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  Speaker 2: outgrownated means to us.
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  Speaker 5: Therefore years ah yeah yeah, yeah, guys, No, I think
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  Speaker 5: she's wrong on that.
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  Speaker 6: Now I must look after the thing that you don't
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  Speaker 6: want to stow in your house, because that's actually what
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  Speaker 6: it comes down to.
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  Speaker 4: You.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I don't want a story in my house.
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  Speaker 2: You're using us as a storage facility.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, now, you guys were using it, and maybe I
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  Speaker 1: could use it if it's if you're done using it.
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  Speaker 1: Forty three old.
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  Speaker 5: An inflatable pool is not a scene I want to see.
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  Speaker 2: It's a fan scene, though I'm not gonna.
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  Speaker 1: It's nice to cool down in summer sometimes.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Candice, you and Roudebert, good morning, madam.
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  Speaker 8: Good morning girls. How could you have someone wants to
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  Speaker 8: fellow you?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, hello, little one? What's your name?
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  Speaker 7: What's your name? The book?
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  Speaker 8: Amy, Amie?
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  Speaker 2: Hello, there is the one. Thank you for saying hello
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  Speaker 2: to us. Okay, mom, okay, you said your brother and
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  Speaker 2: the wife.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, I used to travel part a lot, and I
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  Speaker 8: take very personal care and what do I buy for everyone?
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  Speaker 8: And then my brother would just well they would it
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  Speaker 8: would be broken or not. So a special one was
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  Speaker 8: like Disneyly showing high. It was a bracelet for their
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  Speaker 8: first birthday. And I bought it for my nephew for
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  Speaker 8: his first birthday.
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  Speaker 2: Gone gone, just like that. Yeah, but Candice, I stopped
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  Speaker 2: buying things. Yes, then rather do that because now these
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  Speaker 2: things mean a lot to you. Right if the people
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  Speaker 2: you're gifting it to to them, it's just all thanks.
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  Speaker 2: And then it breaks because we were using it. Do
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  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying? It breaks because you brought
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  Speaker 2: something expensive or something whatever for a one year old.
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  Speaker 2: One year olds don't have the level of emotional attachment
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  Speaker 2: to gifts that you do. So now we're managing your
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  Speaker 2: feelings because you gifted as something. I think that's a
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  Speaker 2: lot to lead other people to hold onto.
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  Speaker 8: But I mean, I least put it on a shelf
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  Speaker 8: or something.
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  Speaker 5: These are way But you've gifted it to me. It's
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  Speaker 5: no longer of your belongings. It is mine now to
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  Speaker 5: do with. Yeah, I could even sell it online.
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  Speaker 2: Guys. Once you've giveted it to me, it's mine.
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  Speaker 1: Now I understand that. But you know, as Candice is
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  Speaker 1: talking to about her brother and his wife, she expects
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  Speaker 1: that they would take care and see the effort she's putting.
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  Speaker 5: Lower your expectations and buyo gifts that are appropriate for
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  Speaker 5: the people because you know, like you were saying, it's
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  Speaker 5: a one year old. Guys, why are you buying a
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  Speaker 5: one year old anything that can snap and break if
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  Speaker 5: you're not willing to take the fact that it's broken.
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  Speaker 1: This is what she's talking about. Is sort of like
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  Speaker 1: a collecteds thing.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's on you. Hey, you brought one your older friends.
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  Speaker 5: You think my mother always said it's on.
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  Speaker 2: You, Kenneth. Did you just stop buying things for them
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  Speaker 2: because it obviously hurts you a lot when they don't
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  Speaker 2: take care of them. Yeah. I think rather that and
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  Speaker 2: then letty pausing your cord. Let them be the ones
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  Speaker 2: who say you don't buy us nice things anymore, and
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  Speaker 2: then you can say because you guys don't take care
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  Speaker 2: of them, and then leave it there. But once something
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  Speaker 2: is with them, I don't think you have a say
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  Speaker 2: in how it's looked.
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  Speaker 1: After, Candace. I want to say, if you want to
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  Speaker 1: buy someone nice things, nay, I will take care of them.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying if because I know that some people
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  Speaker 1: have that gifting nature that it makes them feel good,
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  Speaker 1: I'm ready to receive.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think Candice, time is very far lately. Can
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  Speaker 2: you hear that in the background? Is that still the
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  Speaker 2: same person? Can? Yeah?
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  Speaker 9: Sorry? She went to sit in her breakfast chair.
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  Speaker 2: Let it in the big sister's chair. On the way
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna go to Highlands North Google let wants to
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  Speaker 2: weigh in on this.
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  Speaker 3: My sister gifted my daughter with an infatible pool, and
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  Speaker 3: my daughter had grown it and I'd given it away,
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  Speaker 3: so my sister wanted to borrow it or use it
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  Speaker 3: for something, so she said in future, if she gives
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  Speaker 3: my daughter for the present, I should check with her
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  Speaker 3: first before.
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  Speaker 2: I give it away.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, really, what nonsense is that gift is a gift?
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  Speaker 10: The sister is being materialistic unreasonable. Frankie, you have being
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  Speaker 10: materialistic unreasonable as well. And Cindy, to a point, except
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  Speaker 10: for the knitted scuff that was special, should.
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  Speaker 1: Have kept it.
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  Speaker 2: You never give gifts away.
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  Speaker 1: The sister shouldn't have said it was a gift.
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  Speaker 2: She should have said, hold on to this for now,
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  Speaker 2: let your daughter play with it.
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  Speaker 7: I gave a book to a friend's son one year
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  Speaker 7: for his birthday. I wrote a nice little happy Birthday
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  Speaker 7: in the front, and not long after I found the
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  Speaker 7: book donated to the school I work at.
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  Speaker 4: I was quite offended.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe they read the book already, that lady.
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  Speaker 1: They and the voice notes who called me materialistic, that lady.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: So it was fine until it was Cindy's netted scarff.
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: And that's where you decided there's actual value to the gift.
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: I can't not, so I put effort into a gift
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: that I want to buy for someone.
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: Frankie, even my son he's coming for you.
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: Okay, I like it.
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: What what are you saying?
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: What are you saying?
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: I'm saying that it's clearly who are you with?
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: Firstly, are you with Gilly?
• 15:12
  Speaker 9: So you're with your mom?
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: Yes, your undress. Uncle Frankie, he's on the wrong.
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: My friend the lackey we will speak on the weekend.
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: Uncle Frankie is Oh, he's on the wrong.
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna come and come and collect that gift
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: I gave you last year.
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: Let's see even the kids know who let you in
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: Highlands notes, what did your sister lord you?
• 15:40
  Speaker 9: So he stood me with a baby carrier?
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: That's nice.
• 15:44
  Speaker 9: And five years later, when she had a baby, she
• 15:47
  Speaker 9: asked for it and I said I had given it
• 15:50
  Speaker 9: away and yes, should we might keep it within the family.
• 15:56
  Speaker 9: I had to go to Woolli's and buy another one.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: Okay. So here's the thing, because two things can be
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: can be right at the you know, at the right
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: at the same time, her asking you for the carrier back,
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: it's a fair ask. Hey, listen, it's a second baby.
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: I don't want to go buy a brand new thing.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: Do you still have the carrier that I gifted you?
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: And if you're done with it, would you mind? Right,
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: she's allowed to ask it, but she's not allowed to
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: be upset that you have given it away because it
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: was yours to do what you want with it. Yes, yeah, yeah,
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: so she's allowed to ask for it, and then you
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: had to go buy a new one to give to her,
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: to give it back.
• 16:34
  Speaker 9: To her because there was this line side, I was
• 16:37
  Speaker 9: supposed to keep it within the family, but I was
• 16:41
  Speaker 9: not told when I was being Yeah.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: Because now if this is, if we've decided that this
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: is the carrier that's going to carry the entire lineage
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: of this family, that should be said in the gifting
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: ceremony where you also slaughter, how that goes with this carrier?
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Huh?
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah? No, your sister
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: in law is just looking.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: I think it's a little bit extreme art asking you
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: to go buy a new one that for me is
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: too far.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: No, she didn't ask google and to go buy that
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: for peace, that's too far, exactly for peace, for just
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: for peace, to keep the piece, like, yes, only here's
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: your carrier.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: Look, you shouldn't have given it away, but but I
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: think going to buy a new one is a lord
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: you should check with the system. You know where I
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: stand on Do you know where I stand on this?
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: Five years later? Thank you?
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: Was it five years later? So in five years you
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: never had a moment to say, sister in law, I'm
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: going to give this thing away?
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Why I must, I must go through the whole list
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: of this gift that I've received.
• 17:37
  Speaker 9: To say, can I give this away? Can I give
• 17:39
  Speaker 9: this away?
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Especially something big like that. That's a very guys.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: No, this is admin when you give you know, you
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: give someone something and you forget that you gave it
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: to them. That is the perfect gift. A gift must
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: come with peace and not admit otherwise it's not a gift.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: Who did you give it to?
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Google?
• 17:58
  Speaker 8: A friend? I even remember, actually I think that a friend,
• 18:02
  Speaker 8: but I passed it on.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: You passed it on to make another baby happy, exactly
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: on team Google year. I'll google it. Google google it, Goo,
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: google it, Balista and Rose bang you' wrapping this up?
• 18:17
  Speaker 9: Hi, guys Hi, So you know what I have heard
• 18:23
  Speaker 9: everyone and everything. But my view is that when you
• 18:26
  Speaker 9: give a gift, is it about your own ego or
• 18:30
  Speaker 9: is it about the pleasure for the person right for
• 18:35
  Speaker 9: for their experience, for their pleasure, for their joy, because
• 18:38
  Speaker 9: if it's about them, then you detach from the gifts
• 18:41
  Speaker 9: because it's not about you. So I think if you
• 18:44
  Speaker 9: remain attached to what they do with it, or are
• 18:48
  Speaker 9: they passing it on, then it's really about your ego,
• 18:50
  Speaker 9: then it's not about them.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: That's my view.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: No, just hear me out, gear me out here. I'm
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: just saying I ne I said it just now. Two
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: things can be true at the same time. It can
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: be because I'm thinking of your pleasure as a person,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: but also a little bit about my ego. It can
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: be about both, can it not?
• 19:15
  Speaker 8: Yeah?
• 19:16
  Speaker 9: But the thing is that you know, gifting is about
• 19:19
  Speaker 9: the other person. That's how I view gifts. It really
• 19:22
  Speaker 9: is about the other person, the person who's receiving it.
• 19:27
  Speaker 9: That is why, For example, yesterday I went out with
• 19:29
  Speaker 9: my best friend and I was gifting her a bag
• 19:32
  Speaker 9: for her birthday, and I had to think about her style.
• 19:35
  Speaker 9: There was a few bags that I looked at that
• 19:37
  Speaker 9: I like for myself, but I'm thinking, no, that's my style,
• 19:41
  Speaker 9: that's not her style. It's about the person.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: Now, if you were expecting that back back in five
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: or ten years, you would buy her something you like
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: so that when it comes back to you, you like it.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: But that's out the point of things.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I exactly next week your best friend gives that bag
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: away to someone else.
• 20:00
  Speaker 9: Fine with it, eh, I am detached from it because
• 20:03
  Speaker 9: it is for her pleasure. Let's say now she I
• 20:08
  Speaker 9: don't know, she needed space, so she she there was
• 20:11
  Speaker 9: a good reason for her to give that bag away.
• 20:13
  Speaker 9: It is heard, I am separate and detached from the bag.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: People in Rosebank are so evolved, Pallissa.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: I love your views. This can you view more just
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: in life? When now you must just view just so?
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: We just want your views. And when when we're talking
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: about anything, just say it's Balista with the views. We
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: want your views. Okay, well, thank you, back to making
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: your morning and nine four seven