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Season 3 - Episode 83 - Understanding your OWN negativity · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning. From the very busy chicken coop,
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  all kinds of girls laying eggs out here already.
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  So today I want to talk to you guys about what you do when you
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  have this repetitive negative thoughts that are going off in
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  your head. Now, I want to be really clear
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  about this. That's that's called being
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  human. Negative thoughts are part of
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  our strategy to protect ourselves.
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  They're just part of how we are hard wired and they are part of
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  the system to keep us safe. You know, negative thoughts come
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  in because they are telling us to be cautious.
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  They think they're helping. So of course you're going to
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  have them. Of course they're going to show
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  up. Of course, it's part of our
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  dynamic of just being human beings.
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  That being said, we don't like them.
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  We don't want to keep them and we have to get rid of them.
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  So once you recognize that they're not giving you useful
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  information that you already know you, you've taken what you
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  needed, you already get it. For instance, let's just say
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  there's something going on in the market and your your
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  business is off or whatever. And your negative thoughts are
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  just like, you know, the market's off.
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  You know you have to pay attention to certain things in
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  order to be OK. So you do that like you're,
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  you've got the information, there's no question you've got
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  the information. You know what you need to do
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  when you're working on it. Ruminating on the negative
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  thought does not necessarily help you become more successful
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  because it ends up attracting more negative thoughts and more
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  awful things that can come your way.
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  So they have to stop. The initial part of that though,
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  the initial part of it coming up and trying to give you
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  information is so you can get your butt moving, so that you
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  can actually start to make things happen.
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  Because if you didn't have those thoughts, then you wouldn't know
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  there was a sense of urgency. Does that make sense?
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  So you're you're pushing yourself with that information,
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  but once the information is there, staying in that is toxic.
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  Keeping that loop going is toxic because it's not helping you get
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  past it. All it's doing is causing you to
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  stay depleted, calling you to stay in a place of saying, oh
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  gosh, now here I am and I don't know what to do.
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  This is terrible. I am stuck.
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  And you know it's never going to get any better.
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  What if it never gets any better?
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  I love when the negative thoughts go down the road of
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  what if, what if, what if, what if, what if?
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  That is so debilitating when you're in the what ifs and you
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  can't break that pattern. And I'm not saying that you
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  can't. I'm saying in your head you say
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  I just can't seem to stop this. You have to realize that most of
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  the time it's because you are running a pattern you've already
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  ran many, many times. So it's very ingrained.
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  It's really in you and you have to change your approach.
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  Now for me, this comes down to not putting myself into the the
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  my head alone, meaning I will listen to audibles.
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  Sometimes I can't even read because my negative thoughts
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  take over and I'll read the same paragraph five times and I'm not
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  taking any of it in. My eyes are reading the words,
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  but my head is still looping. I'm and I know anyone who's
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  listening could probably say they've had the same thing
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  happen but that's where Audible is so great.
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  If you don't have an Audible account or you've never used it,
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  go get one because it's the best thing ever.
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  You put the headset on and you just start listening.
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  Now the bonus to this is even if you're not consciously
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  listening, your subconscious mind is listening.
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  Your subconscious mind is taking in that information and it's
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  working behind the scenes. You don't always see it, but
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  this is just like a seed in the ground.
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  The seed in the ground is growing.
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  You don't see what's happening underneath.
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  You don't know what's going on. You don't know that those the
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  seed has cracked. The roots are there.
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  You don't know anything. All you know is I put it there.
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  I'm waiting to see what happens. We're willing to do that with
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  seeds, but we don't do that with our head.
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  And I'm telling you, the most useful thing that I can tell you
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  today is get an Audible account and start listening.
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  Because you're not qualified to be in your own head.
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  So you have to stop it. You have to shut that voice off,
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  and the only way you can do it is by drowning out the voice
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  with somebody elses voice. So pick a book.
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  You know, one of my favorite all time books and I know I've, I've
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  professed this many times. If you've seen me speak, if
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  you've have seen any videos, if you've done anything.
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  I've been on the podcast. You know, I talk about Doctor
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  Joseph Murphy, but I love this guy.
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  And again, he's sadly passed away years ago.
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  But his energy, his thoughts, he was so simple and so pragmatic
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  and so on point. And he has a little book called
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  How to Attract Money by Doctor Joseph Murphy.
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  This book was written during the Depression and it is fabulous
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  because no matter what your struggle is in your business or
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  with the markets or anything, once you listen to this book,
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  and I've listened to this book, I'm not even exaggerating when I
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  tell you I've listened to it over 500 times.
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  There are parts of this that I know verbatim, if not like
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  entire chunks of it, Most of it it.
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  It is by far one of the best things on the planet.
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  So grab the book, read the book, and stop staying in your own
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  head because it's not resourceful and it won't help
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  you. The trick to remember is
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  everything that you have always done is in play in those moments
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  of pressure and stress and you have to interrupt those
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  patterns. And quite honestly, we are not
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  qualified to interrupt our own patterns sometimes because we
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  have always done it the way we've always done it.
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  So we don't know to do it any different.
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  We need different ideas, different strategies, different
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  thoughts, different energy. And that's what using Mr. Murphy
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  and Audible or anybody else that you might want to listen to.
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  But don't go to a book that's like a fiction book.
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  Go to a book that's like a self help book that you can listen to
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  and take in different ideas because you know those crumbs
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  are like little seeds that you're planning that are going
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  to change things for you. So work on this.
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  Try this, but don't stay unresourceful.
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  OK my friends, I will see you tomorrow.
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  I hope you have a blessed day. Bye.