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Rossella Rago - Cuisine, Culture, and Ketamine with Kathrine Narducci · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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  Speaker 3: E God, kathe Well filming. Yeah, look into the camera.
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  Speaker 3: Come on, I'm just happing.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just wanting how to do this. I gotta look
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  Speaker 4: at a camera. Jen, teach me. You have to look
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  Speaker 4: into the camera and say.
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  Speaker 2: This is the Cats and Footing podcast. I'm melting pot
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  Speaker 2: of and now here's Jen.
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  Speaker 5: Hi, everybody, this is Kats and Pudding and Kitty. I'm
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  Speaker 5: so happy to be back and really am really happy
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  Speaker 5: today for my next guest. Our next guest, who is
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  Speaker 5: my favorite most sexiest Italian woman on social media? She
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  Speaker 5: is She really is funny and I love you and
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  Speaker 5: so write it down.
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  Speaker 4: Is her saying, we have Rosella.
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  Speaker 3: Ladies and gentlemen, Rosella, I'm so happy you're here. I
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  Speaker 3: didn't know if you were coming or not because we
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  Speaker 3: didn't get a response back and I.
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  Speaker 6: Jeff does not copy my assistant friends Jeff to the box, Jeff,
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  Speaker 6: I have a lot going on.
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  Speaker 2: I would really appreciate if you let Franny.
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  Speaker 6: No, don't, don't ask me anything because I don't know
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  Speaker 6: where I'm going. I don't know where I'm doing. I
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  Speaker 6: always have a Francesca for that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I have a couple of people for that.
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  Speaker 3: For me, I need a few. I had anxiety list
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  Speaker 3: eleven o'clock. I'm like, did I reply to this email?
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  Speaker 3: I didn't reply to this email. I'm an idiot, Like what.
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  Speaker 2: Don't I don't.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not equipped to reply to emails anymore.
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  Speaker 4: Like I hate emails.
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  Speaker 2: I can't.
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  Speaker 4: I never answer emails.
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  Speaker 6: I hate that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't need that.
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  Speaker 4: They text me. I don't even answer text messages. You
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  Speaker 4: answer mine.
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  Speaker 3: I do answer yours, but I don't. But when I'm
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  Speaker 3: at work, especially to I don't answer anybody.
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  Speaker 4: I can't.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, you have to hold the needle, you know.
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  Speaker 4: I have to be I have to be yes. I
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  Speaker 4: have to be I have to be in the zone one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't you know if you were on your
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  Speaker 2: phone with like the.
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  Speaker 4: Hey question, let me let me inject you. Hey, what's
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  Speaker 4: going on?
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  Speaker 6: But hey, Joe Ann, No, I'm not coming, thank you
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  Speaker 6: the whole still.
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like that time me, I'll be right back
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  Speaker 3: when I call you back later.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I can.
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  Speaker 5: I feel like I'm a little privileged over here because
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  Speaker 5: you do answer me when you're at work.
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  Speaker 4: I do, I answer you? Am I supposed to say
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  Speaker 4: that to your other friends? They're gonna do you under
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  Speaker 4: the bus now?
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  Speaker 3: But she never answers me when she's at work. I
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  Speaker 3: I it depends on what I'm doing. Let's put it
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  Speaker 3: that way. If I'm at work, No.
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  Speaker 2: That's fair.
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  Speaker 6: If I'm cooking, Like, I can't fry chicken cutlets and
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  Speaker 6: like talk the same time, only if it's my mother,
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  Speaker 6: because like I'm on order. But I can't like think
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  Speaker 6: anything that requires thought. It's not I'll burn the cutlet that.
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  Speaker 4: No, you can't. You can't do that.
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  Speaker 2: No, I like to. I like to streamline my life. Now.
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  Speaker 5: This is a good segue into what we were talking about.
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  Speaker 4: And I want to talk about something.
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  Speaker 5: A year, I noticed that she slowed down on her
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  Speaker 5: social media and you weren't around as much. You took
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  Speaker 5: a break, and for me to notice that, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 5: I'm in a in a bog, I'm in a bubble,
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna clouds.
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  Speaker 4: My head's in the clouds.
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  Speaker 5: I really that means I really like you, and I
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  Speaker 5: follow you, and I noticed you with God and I
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  Speaker 5: DMed you and I said, how's everything going?
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  Speaker 4: Are you okay?
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  Speaker 5: You told me something out in the waiting room about
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  Speaker 5: taking the break and what you discovered for your Uh,
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  Speaker 5: I don't even want to say, tell us why you
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  Speaker 5: took a break in what was happening, and then the
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  Speaker 5: whole therapy that you just told me about, which is
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  Speaker 5: so interesting.
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  Speaker 6: So I think I struggled with anxiety and depression since
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  Speaker 6: I was a kid, I mean, you know, not just
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  Speaker 6: the kind that comes with being raised in an Italian
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  Speaker 6: American household, which is very bad, which is you know,
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  Speaker 6: its own niche Yeah, you know brands. But I think
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  Speaker 6: I had some issues that I didn't know how to
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  Speaker 6: deal with. I mean, I did therapy since I was
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  Speaker 6: I don't even know sixteen, like on and off but
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  Speaker 6: talk therapy. The more I was researching, it was only
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  Speaker 6: going to deal with you know, ten percent of our
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  Speaker 6: conscious minds. The ninety percent of our subconscious minds is
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  Speaker 6: not really used. So I was trying to find a
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  Speaker 6: way to help myself because I hit a wall. You know,
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  Speaker 6: at one point, things feel like too much. And a
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  Speaker 6: lot of things happened in quick succession. My father got sick,
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  Speaker 6: my father got diagnosed with non Hoskins lampoma last year.
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  Speaker 6: My grandmother's ninety one. She suffers from dementia. I went
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  Speaker 6: through a bad break up. I went through a bad
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  Speaker 6: friend breakup that was worse than like that's worse, and
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  Speaker 6: worse is breakup.
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  Speaker 4: It's friends. Breakup is friends. Breakup is worse.
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  Speaker 6: So you know, it started to feel oh so yeah,
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  Speaker 6: a lot of old friends. It was like, you know,
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  Speaker 6: total it felt like everything started like crumbling all around me,
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  Speaker 6: and I didn't know what to do and I and
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  Speaker 6: I you know, almost wanted to like give up on everything.
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  Speaker 6: I just got into a place that was so sad
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  Speaker 6: and I couldn't be excited about life anymore.
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  Speaker 4: And you know it, sir, yeah broken.
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  Speaker 6: And you know I would talk to my friends and
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  Speaker 6: your friends always trying to uplift you, and they say,
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  Speaker 6: you have this wonderful life, you're not living it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I that's exactly what I was doing. I
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  Speaker 2: wasn't living my life.
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  Speaker 6: I like stopped living my life and it just didn't
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  Speaker 6: feel good to show myself anyway. You know, I've been
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  Speaker 6: sharing my life on social media since two thousand and nine,
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  Speaker 6: and it all takes a toll. It's hard to go
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  Speaker 6: through private things publicly. And I just stopped. And while
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  Speaker 6: I was, you know, taking a break, I think there
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  Speaker 6: was still part of me that was trying to hold
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  Speaker 6: on and was still like willing to go on. And
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  Speaker 6: I think that's the most important thing. And I started
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  Speaker 6: researching ketamine therapy.
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  Speaker 4: Which I find fascinating.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I've I've heard of the kind listen to this.
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  Speaker 6: Does I mean ketamine is a is a psychedelic, it's
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  Speaker 6: an anesthetic. It's actually used in anesthesia for children.
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  Speaker 4: Well, they called it special K in the club.
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  Speaker 6: They do in the club, So everybody asks me that
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  Speaker 6: is it like tripping in a club?
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  Speaker 2: No, it is nothing like that.
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  Speaker 6: When ketamine is used to treat treatment resistant depression or
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  Speaker 6: PTSD or so many other things that it's used for
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  Speaker 6: it's you. I did it in a clinical setting with
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  Speaker 6: an integrationist with with a lot of support and you know,
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  Speaker 6: a zero gravity recliner and a weighted blanket and the
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  Speaker 6: headphones and I'm bougie.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I did I did it?
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  Speaker 6: You know it's very the I'm as Yeah, there's medical doctors.
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  Speaker 6: You listen to meditation music throughout. You know, there's medical doctors.
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  Speaker 2: They weigh you. It's a very specific dose.
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  Speaker 6: It's not you know, you're not just left to your
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  Speaker 6: own devices.
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  Speaker 4: Is it almost?
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  Speaker 6: It's no, it's it's a pretty to get you in
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  Speaker 6: the dissociative state. So what what I mean by a
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  Speaker 6: dissociative state is ketamine is a dissociative So it dissociates
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  Speaker 6: you from your body, and it will dissolve your your ego,
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  Speaker 6: your thinking mind. So you're able to view your traumas,
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  Speaker 6: your memories.
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  Speaker 2: As an observer.
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  Speaker 6: So even if you're revisiting trauma or uncomfortable situations in it,
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  Speaker 6: it's not scary.
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  Speaker 4: You're just kind of watching it.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, it's kind of like you're walking through a museum
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  Speaker 6: of your thoughts and trauma and memories and things and.
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  Speaker 4: How did that feel.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it was it.
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  Speaker 6: It was probably the single most profound experience of my
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  Speaker 6: entire life.
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  Speaker 4: Did it open the third eye?
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  Speaker 2: It opened everything?
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  Speaker 5: I mean they say that Ayawashka opens the third eye,
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  Speaker 5: and you could like see your future.
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  Speaker 4: You can people see so many.
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  Speaker 6: Crazy you can see it, you know, some people, whatever
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  Speaker 6: you want to call it. You can connect to your
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  Speaker 6: higher self, to your soul because you really there's a
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  Speaker 6: moment where you forget you have like a body and
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  Speaker 6: you're just kind of floating and you're like, is this
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  Speaker 6: what it's like to be like?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: I was just going to ask that she saw a
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  Speaker 5: vision of the Madonna.
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  Speaker 6: I saw, like, you know, it's very kind of Meine
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  Speaker 6: is very Morpheus. So with the music, it kind of
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  Speaker 6: everything kind of moves through like these different galaxies, and
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  Speaker 6: I think everybody's representations are different in there, but you
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  Speaker 6: can see things in very fine details. So every time
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  Speaker 6: I do it, everything's kind of like a mosaic. So yeah,
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  Speaker 6: I did see like a mosaic of like a Madonna
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  Speaker 6: and child and it was like me and my mother.
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  Speaker 2: I was the mother and she was the child, and
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  Speaker 2: it was very it was very very.
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  Speaker 3: And then could I ask you other people in the
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  Speaker 3: room with you when you go for this treatment.
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  Speaker 6: So the way I did it, I did it at
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  Speaker 6: a fantastic clinic in the city called New Shama, and
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  Speaker 6: I researched.
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  Speaker 2: I always re n U, s H A, M A.
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  Speaker 6: And I do my research with everything, whether it's lip filler.
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  Speaker 2: Or akademy therapy. I do very exp.
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  Speaker 6: And I just found that the way that they treat
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  Speaker 6: with ketemine is so different. It's three hours long. There's
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  Speaker 6: integration therapy before. With an integration an integrationist, you set
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  Speaker 6: an intention, then you know they they give you the medicine.
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  Speaker 6: Then the integrationist comes back. You process everything you know.
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  Speaker 6: And it's something that I am really passionate about now
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  Speaker 6: because it literally gave me my life back in so
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  Speaker 6: many ways.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, the.
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  Speaker 6: Within hours it felt better. Physical depression was gone the
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  Speaker 6: first for me. Yes for me, yes, and and I
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  Speaker 6: remember calling my friend that night.
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  Speaker 2: And saying, I just feel so rational.
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  Speaker 6: Like perspectives that never felt available to me. But like
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  Speaker 6: when you're in that bad place and you just can't,
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  Speaker 6: I need to do everything is gone. The tunnel vision.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, all of a sudden, it was like opened
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  Speaker 2: up I can see this differently. Now, wait a.
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  Speaker 3: Minute, but don't you find that that happens to most people.
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  Speaker 3: We tunnel I think we apartmentalize a lot of things
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  Speaker 3: and we do a tunnel vision because maybe we just
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  Speaker 3: can't what the outer as part of everything.
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  Speaker 4: So it's easier for us to deal with doing that
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  Speaker 4: and that to have the tunnel vision.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, that's exactly it. I think we feel safe in
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  Speaker 6: whatever we're holding on to somehow, where if you complain
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  Speaker 6: about things, you have something to complain. All those people
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  Speaker 6: that just want to complain about feel safe in that
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  Speaker 6: in some way. Because if you didn't feel safe in
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  Speaker 6: it and you realize that it's not helping you.
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  Speaker 2: You have no problem letting it go.
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  Speaker 5: Can you got for the ketymine treatment if you just
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  Speaker 5: want to experience it out a body thing and tap
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  Speaker 5: into your creativity and go, you know, be or you
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  Speaker 5: have to go there with a prescription for depression.
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  Speaker 6: No, no, you don't need a prescript. You don't need
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  Speaker 6: a prescription I think there. So the way ketamine works
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  Speaker 6: is that it can rewire the brain the way thing
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  Speaker 6: the way it is. I'm sorry, but you know by
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  Speaker 6: the time you're eight years old, most of your that's
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  Speaker 6: when by the time sorry, by the time we're eight
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  Speaker 6: years old, most of our trauma has already happened. Yes,
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  Speaker 6: And the neural pathways get formed incorrectly in a certain way.
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  Speaker 6: That's why it's like, you know, you should do things
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  Speaker 6: one way, but you just do them a different way
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  Speaker 6: that isn't necessarily great.
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  Speaker 2: So the thing is the brain can change.
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  Speaker 6: The brain has something called neuroplasticity, and that means that
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  Speaker 6: we can form new neural pathways.
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  Speaker 2: So after you do ketamine, like we're.
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  Speaker 6: Wiring your brain, there's there's a period after words where
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  Speaker 6: you're like a sponge again and you can form brand
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  Speaker 6: new neural pathways.
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  Speaker 2: That makes it easier to stop doing.
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  Speaker 6: Or old behaviors start doing new ones that are better.
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  Speaker 5: But I mean, does no shauma? Does new shauma? Can
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  Speaker 5: I just walk in there and get a kenemine treatment?
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  Speaker 2: I think you you do a consultation, but the treatment that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, how do they evaluate you to say, hey you
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  Speaker 3: need That's what I mean, Hey, I want to do
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  Speaker 3: it today.
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  Speaker 4: I just want to today.
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  Speaker 3: Can I come in you want to hook me up
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  Speaker 3: to some you know, because I want to.
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  Speaker 4: Have an out of body Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, you know, no, you can't just go.
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  Speaker 4: Can I just cot?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 4: They have prescription to get there.
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  Speaker 2: You you do an evaluation with the team. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: they have they evaluate.
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  Speaker 4: So they have nothing to do with the medical world.
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  Speaker 2: They are their medical there.
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  Speaker 4: Their doctors, doctor, give me a prescription.
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  Speaker 2: It's no.
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  Speaker 6: You can call them and their medical team will evaluate you.
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  Speaker 3: Is it under medical care it's not covered? Probably, it's probably,
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  Speaker 3: it's probably out of Is it expensive?
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  Speaker 2: They bring you snacks when you wake up, you think
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  Speaker 2: that's covered?
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  Speaker 4: Not Is it expensive? What kind of snacks like pine bars?
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  Speaker 2: Personally?
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  Speaker 4: But you know.
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  Speaker 2: What, is it expensive? It's not cheap.
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  Speaker 6: It's certainly not uh, not affordable for everyone, which makes
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  Speaker 6: me very sad because I feel like there's so many
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  Speaker 6: people suffering.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you know that that always happens.
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  Speaker 3: The medical community or the cycle psyche community is not
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  Speaker 3: going to give it to everybody because guess what, it's
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  Speaker 3: not effective to cure people.
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  Speaker 4: Right, That's what happens.
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  Speaker 3: You're rare to keep people on these they don't exactly exactly.
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't interested in going on long term medication.
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  Speaker 6: Not no shame to anyone that's on it, but you know,
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  Speaker 6: I wanted to find a solution that was a little
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  Speaker 6: bit more natural but was actually going to get to
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  Speaker 6: the root of the problem.
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  Speaker 3: And you and and you can fix it or try
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  Speaker 3: to fix it or try to deal with it, you know,
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  Speaker 3: because it's more like you're not going to fix it
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  Speaker 3: because there's always going to be something there, and it's
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  Speaker 3: going to be a scar there. It's just now learned
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  Speaker 3: how to deal with it in a more rational way
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  Speaker 3: or more or a different way. That's better for you
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  Speaker 3: to go through life with. Right, because the way we
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  Speaker 3: deal with things, what happens with most people, they deal
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  Speaker 3: with things. They abuse alcohol, they abuse eating, they abuse drugs. Right,
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  Speaker 3: these are all things that are that we're going to
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  Speaker 3: run to to help fill the hole and fill the hole.
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  Speaker 3: And then what happens to film, you're just filling the doctors.
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  Speaker 3: You're feeling that demon and the demon. You're not getting
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  Speaker 3: rid of the demon. You're just kind of keeping it
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  Speaker 3: there and just keep feeding.
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  Speaker 2: Demon in check, right, because you're not dealing with yourself.
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  Speaker 6: Right, Everything in the world, everything that every people, every
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  Speaker 6: person we meet is a reflection.
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  Speaker 2: Of us, is a reflection. Oh my god, I can't
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  Speaker 2: talk today.
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  Speaker 6: Every person we meet in the world, every situation where
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  Speaker 6: is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I that's the biggest thing that I think the.
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  Speaker 5: Best thing that happened to you was being broken and
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  Speaker 5: going as every person should be broken in life and
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  Speaker 5: then build back up because you become so much more stronger,
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  Speaker 5: so much more aware. My spirit was broken in like
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  Speaker 5: two thousand and two. Literally I felt something break inside
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  Speaker 5: me and I went rock bottom in not as oppression,
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  Speaker 5: in a weird finding out who I was a search
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  Speaker 5: along a journey to finding out and I feel so
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  Speaker 5: much better.
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  Speaker 4: Such a learning experience to find out who you are.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, No, I'm actually talk about a shift in perspective.
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  Speaker 6: Like you know, I spent months going why me? Like
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  Speaker 6: why did this happen to like why is this all happening?
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  Speaker 4: To victim mentality.
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  Speaker 6: I'm so grateful that it did because it all brought
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  Speaker 6: me home to myself. You know, I wouldn't trade the
• 15:54
  Speaker 6: way I feel now for any friends, any lover, any
• 15:58
  Speaker 6: any amount of you know, the health and what in
• 16:01
  Speaker 6: my family would.
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: Be I would be more appreciable.
• 16:03
  Speaker 6: But no, I'm grateful for the situation because it also
• 16:07
  Speaker 6: taught me so much about loving my parents differently, accepting
• 16:11
  Speaker 6: my parents different accepting everything differently.
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: Oh wow, ahead do you feel do you feel now
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: that looking back that you that you got rid of sod?
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: They're losing these these these relationships. So that's what triggered
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: all this basically.
• 16:27
  Speaker 6: I think it was like, you know, first my father
• 16:29
  Speaker 6: got sick, I broke up with someone, then I broke
• 16:31
  Speaker 6: up with my friends that you know, it was like
• 16:33
  Speaker 6: a domino.
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: So I was looking back.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: Does that make you do you realize that maybe that
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: had to happen for you.
• 16:38
  Speaker 6: To absolutely It's like it's like, you know that there's
• 16:42
  Speaker 6: like a meme of like Jesus with there's like a
• 16:46
  Speaker 6: little girl.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: There's this meme with like there's a little girl and.
• 16:51
  Speaker 6: Like Jesus is taking the little teddy bear away from her,
• 16:54
  Speaker 6: but he's got like a bigger one behind his back.
• 16:57
  Speaker 6: And it's like, we don't know how good life can
• 17:01
  Speaker 6: actually get unless we're willing to hold on to unless
• 17:05
  Speaker 6: we're willing to let go of the past. It's like,
• 17:08
  Speaker 6: you can't discover a new world if your ship is
• 17:11
  Speaker 6: still docked at the old shorts.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: You have to let go.
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: I love that you have to go of the past.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: Of the people.
• 17:17
  Speaker 6: You can't because, like I always say, healing isn't linear,
• 17:21
  Speaker 6: and my healing was not linear. There was a lot
• 17:23
  Speaker 6: of expansion and contraction and up and down.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: In the process of it. But growth is linear.
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: You cannot ungrow, You cannot return to the places and
• 17:32
  Speaker 6: the relationships that you've grown out of. They can't contain
• 17:36
  Speaker 6: you anymore. And that's okay. You know, that's okay. Whether
• 17:39
  Speaker 6: that's a marriage, whether that's a friendship, whether that's a job.
• 17:42
  Speaker 6: You know, you have to accept that sometimes you are
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: meant to grow in a different direction.
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you, I mean you you feel better now,
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: I mean.
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: You look great, like you look like thank you, You're glowing.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: No, I feel wonderful. I really do. I you know,
• 17:59
  Speaker 6: I ever I used to meet people like this. I
• 18:01
  Speaker 6: have one friend. She's fantastic. She does this company challenge.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: The Challenge Girl.
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: She's coming on my show next month.
• 18:09
  Speaker 6: Of course she has to be I'm like, what pills
• 18:11
  Speaker 6: do you say? She does these fantastic Lee Mancello events.
• 18:14
  Speaker 6: But she's the happiest goddamn person on the planet.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: It's amazing, It's very.
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: Sweet social media.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: I just loved her. I said, I love this girl's energy. Yeah,
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: and you know Lucia too from Howard.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: Beach, Lucia what's her name?
• 18:26
  Speaker 6: Who?
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Lega Lia? Yeah, store, my daughter is from
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: my neighborhood. So that's that's how I network. I saw
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: you and I thought of following you, and then I
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: saw you following Amanda's so I was like, oh, I said,
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: I love you whole energy.
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: I said, that's why I said, I had to get
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: her on here to talk to you. And now she
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: has a shop online.
• 18:48
  Speaker 6: So yeah, I have a run an online store called
• 18:50
  Speaker 6: Baa with my father. My dad and I run it
• 18:54
  Speaker 6: together and we import things from Italy.
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: Uh.
• 18:57
  Speaker 6: We really started it with the idea that there weren't
• 19:01
  Speaker 6: a lot of things that catered to Italian Americans, you know.
• 19:06
  Speaker 6: So I started making t shirts that said like Balletza
• 19:09
  Speaker 6: or bed du like things even in like Sicilian or
• 19:12
  Speaker 6: something because I wanted to feel represented. Yeah, you know,
• 19:15
  Speaker 6: I wanted I wanted it to Sometimes you go somewhere
• 19:18
  Speaker 6: you got a shirt that says that somebody sees it,
• 19:19
  Speaker 6: They're like, you're Italian, and you start talking and it's
• 19:22
  Speaker 6: a relationship, you know, a connection form. So I wanted
• 19:26
  Speaker 6: to create things that I wanted to wear myself also,
• 19:30
  Speaker 6: but that could make people feel a connection to you know,
• 19:33
  Speaker 6: the Italian American heritage and your books.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: You know, yeah, I did books, my cookbooks. I did.
• 19:39
  Speaker 6: I'm like the model that got discovered at McDonald's with
• 19:43
  Speaker 6: in publishing. I swear to god, this does not happen
• 19:45
  Speaker 6: to anybody. I started Cooking with Nona my my YouTube
• 19:49
  Speaker 6: show in two thousand and nine, so, like, I've been
• 19:51
  Speaker 6: around a long time. And in twenty sixteen, I got
• 19:56
  Speaker 6: a Facebook message from an editor at a publishing company
• 20:00
  Speaker 6: and she's like, I thought you already had a book out.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Do you want to write a book? That was the offer?
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: Could you think it was fake? Yes? And no?
• 20:09
  Speaker 6: I mean she seemed le, she seemed to know really
• 20:12
  Speaker 6: did follow me and liked what I did.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: And I was like, you want me to write a book.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: I didn't think I was ever going to get into college.
• 20:18
  Speaker 6: I didn't really, I didn't, you know, I didn't think
• 20:21
  Speaker 6: that I could do things like that back then.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: I think I had a little bit of like.
• 20:25
  Speaker 6: Imposter syndrome when I saw I was twenty two years
• 20:27
  Speaker 6: old when I started this, you know, I was like
• 20:30
  Speaker 6: I'm not a chef. I'm not anything, you know, and
• 20:32
  Speaker 6: over the years you learn nobody knows what the help's
• 20:36
  Speaker 6: don't worry like it's fine, you know nobody ever, everyone's
• 20:39
  Speaker 6: just winging it, you know, a little.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: Good books you have?
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: I wrote read book. Sorry, I wrote three books in
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: six years.
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: That's amazing. Yeah, so did you write them yourself? I
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: had to.
• 20:51
  Speaker 6: Write them myself because only the Real Housewives get ghost writers.
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: Oh shit, house.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: To actually write the books.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: You know, my Real Housewives friends, they didn't write books.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: So that's upday.
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: You didn't write them? No, they didn't, I know. Don't
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: you say you didn't write the books?
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: In other words, on the Real Housewives, they're given the
• 21:12
  Speaker 5: recipes and now they're given ghosts.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: Writers' given ghostwriters.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: So Real Housewives, if you would like me to write their.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: Books and didn't write their book? No, maybe they didn't
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: write it. But are there is it their recipes?
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: Well, Teresa's a good cook, I mean, it's so, I mean,
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: but I don't know she. I don't think Theresa sat
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: down and wrote her book.
• 21:29
  Speaker 6: Well, they probably give them a recipe developer, you know,
• 21:32
  Speaker 6: like a like. You also can have to pay someone
• 21:35
  Speaker 6: to test the recipes. In most cases, that was not
• 21:39
  Speaker 6: my case. I worked with the small publisher for my
• 21:41
  Speaker 6: first two books. So my first book, I tested one
• 21:43
  Speaker 6: hundred and forty recipes in thirty days.
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: And by the end of it I looked like I
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: made meth in a garage. Whoa, it was just me.
• 21:51
  Speaker 6: And a gallon of cars, little rosty wrong wine and
• 21:53
  Speaker 6: my father and a truth that like but you know,
• 21:57
  Speaker 6: like those experiences, I wouldn't read for anything because that was,
• 22:01
  Speaker 6: you know, a culinary education.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a boot camp.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: That's amazing when you say testing, you have to measure
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: everything so that you can put it in the book.
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: With the measures you have to give somebody.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: You writing a cookbook, it can't be like the way
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: we Italian cook. I'll do a little bit of this,
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: still a little bit like we know, like when we cook,
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: when you cook right as us as the time. Yeah,
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: I don't even think about it half the time.
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: I'm just doing it.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: You're looking at it.
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: You when I have a measure, No, I don't. When somebody's
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: asking me, how do I do that?
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: Like I'll give you a perfect of my sister Mary
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: out of us does not cook thele my whole fam.
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: The allest woman in my family cook. My sister Mary
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: was not a cook. She married a chef. She needed
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: to because the woman wore so she moved to foreigner
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: called me, and my sister asked us how to make stuffing.
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: For the amount of time that she called us, called
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: us from the park store, how much shall we mean?
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: I don't know what fucking so we just put a
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: fucking handle it because I could have made for her
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: and sent the toll with all this phone calls, twenty
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: seven messages back and forth, ask us what to do
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: to make this stuffing like it would have been cheap, right,
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: we have to do it. So when you're saying that, like,
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: we don't really write down like what we're doing. So
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: she has to be able to for someone to follow
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: her recipe, you had to measure it, has to measure
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: it out to follow it in some points at some
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: point of origin.
• 23:13
  Speaker 5: So did you have to in the thirty days every
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: recipe you made, you even if you were just making
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: your everyday sauce, you had to.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: You had to measure it all.
• 23:22
  Speaker 6: Absolutely, I mean yeah, and if it didn't work, like
• 23:25
  Speaker 6: if the recipe doesn't work, I had to make it work,
• 23:28
  Speaker 6: you know. But the thing was is that all the
• 23:29
  Speaker 6: recipes that were given to me for those books came
• 23:32
  Speaker 6: from Italian grandmothers.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: It came from the not.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: And that's hard.
• 23:38
  Speaker 6: You know. My books are all recipes and stories from Italian,
• 23:43
  Speaker 6: from Italian grandmothers. Yeah, and sometimes they lie, oh yeah,
• 23:47
  Speaker 6: but they're like grandmother would have give us a freaking cookies.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: She took that ship to her grave because nobody could
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: duplicate them. She didn't tell us of the ingredient for
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: her mamaly cookies.
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I believe.
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: I know that and has it. Oh, she wrote it
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: for us before she died.
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: But she didn't write everything in there because she didn't
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: want us to have the rest. I got very few,
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: and she's liftings out of her rescue. Why she didn't
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: want anybody to make it better than hum Absolutely that
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: she didn't.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: I don't let those people in my books.
• 24:16
  Speaker 6: I spot those right away, and I'm like, there's something missing, Lucia,
• 24:21
  Speaker 6: where is it? Like?
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: I get? I get yeah, because I'm trying to do
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: something here.
• 24:25
  Speaker 6: And if they wrote a recipe down for me, it
• 24:27
  Speaker 6: was measured in like espresso cups.
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: So I have to test it yeah.
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: You know, so you don't any time use it measuring
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: cups and weightles and ships and everybody's espresso cups.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: So I'm looking at it, I'm like, how much is it?
• 24:40
  Speaker 6: How much does this hold? I did a lot of
• 24:42
  Speaker 6: things by waight. I'm a master at weight, metric, imperial.
• 24:45
  Speaker 6: I could convert everything at math and the school these
• 24:51
  Speaker 6: people math amazing.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: I know I have a PhD in no nan nomics.
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: Yes, you know. I love that. I love that. And
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: she teaches Italian, right, I was gonna teach. Oh my god,
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: would you teach me Italian? I really want to learn.
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: I want to learn.
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: That is on My Boys another show.
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: I've never been to Italy.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: I want to learn how to go to Italy.
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: I know she has to go to Italy. I've been
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: to Italy and.
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: Learn how to speak Italian, but I have to live
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: there for a start time.
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: You can't go.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: You have to stay there for like a month and
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: like six month, and let's go a villa.
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would love to.
• 25:28
  Speaker 6: You should stay there from May to October and you
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: should come with us.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: I would love to.
• 25:31
  Speaker 6: I actually used to run three months, stay there six months,
• 25:35
  Speaker 6: It'll be.
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: Try a month for you'll be off the ground.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Month in Italy is like fifteen seconds.
• 25:42
  Speaker 6: You you think I'm crazy saying this, but I swear
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: to God in my life, a month and I don't
• 25:47
  Speaker 6: know what it is.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: A month in Italy feels like a day.
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: Really, Yes, I don't know. When I was there where
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: I kissed the ground.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: When I came home, I swear I listen, I loved
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: it there, maybe.
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: Because I'm such a New Yorker, like I speed, but
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: like I was there and like I loved it. But
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: after the.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: Probably about a week, it's fine for me to come home.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: I heard that table. No, but about showers.
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: Do you have pressure water pressure?
• 26:17
  Speaker 6: No?
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: That was okay.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: Put the air conditioning, Yeah, nobody has air conditioning.
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: Villains don't have It's.
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: Like blowing on you. It's really not strong.
• 26:27
  Speaker 6: They don't have ice, and they don't have air conditioning.
• 26:29
  Speaker 6: And they don't have toilet paper or toilet seats.
• 26:31
  Speaker 5: Wait, what do you mean don't what do you wipe
• 26:33
  Speaker 5: your hand with your you asked you the day.
• 26:35
  Speaker 6: A lot of them have no some like if you
• 26:37
  Speaker 6: go to like a restaurant, If you go to a restaurant.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: This is mostly in the South.
• 26:41
  Speaker 6: Okay, if you go to a restaurant in the South
• 26:43
  Speaker 6: or a cafe or whatever, ninety percent of the time
• 26:46
  Speaker 6: there's no toilet seat and there's you know, how do
• 26:50
  Speaker 6: I really.
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: Want to have?
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: You got to like bring it with you. You gotta
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: be created, you.
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: Gotta What do you mean that they're disregarding toilet paper.
• 26:56
  Speaker 6: I'm not in the service. They're not on top of
• 27:00
  Speaker 6: like hiji.
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: No, it's servant.
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: Sound like the gene.
• 27:09
  Speaker 6: The bidet is very hygienic, Yes, it is. They do
• 27:12
  Speaker 6: like their bidets. The bidet is very hygienic. I mean,
• 27:15
  Speaker 6: I'd appreciate knowing that a guy's washing his brazole like
• 27:20
  Speaker 6: time goes to the bed.
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: No, but I don't appreciate the fact that there's no toilet.
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: You're coming out, What did you do with your hands?
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: What are you wiping?
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: Well? Like you did not just pulling walking.
• 27:32
  Speaker 6: With shit on your ass. No, you think, oh, I
• 27:34
  Speaker 6: gotta go to the bathroom. Let me grab the napkins.
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: They make it.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: You have to make sure you take it with you.
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: I mean I didn't have that experience.
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: Twenty twenty five Get with the program Italy. In Northern Italy,
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: I didn't have that experience.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: No, they don't in northern Italy. They're a little they're
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: different in you. I would pack toilet paper with me.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Then now I not have to bring the wipes. Bring
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: the wipe.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: You'll be fine.
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: You'll bring pipes, we'll in hygiene.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Well, the country is so beautiful that you forget that.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: You like, you're not worried about it.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: It is. It's breathtaking. You're gotta go to diables. I
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: gotta go to just just smells everything. It's just so beautiful, the.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Air, the sounds and everything. It's a different environment.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's beautiful. We should come up with an idea.
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: Well, we have Italian girls, a big bunch of us,
• 28:25
  Speaker 5: go to a villa for a month and create something.
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: I create something. We should do that. Do we leave?
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: Can we go tomorrow, Let's go right after, Let's let's
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: go right after.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: I love to do that.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: Don't threaten me with a good time.
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: Let's do it. I think we should. I'm ready to go.
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: I need to meet my family in Naples.
• 28:45
  Speaker 6: I'm like uncomfortable with the fact that you haven't been.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: Saiducci's and say the hygiene.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: But there's Ducci in her town. And she has never
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: been there.
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: I know, I feel like I would me the person
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: that would buy something there and stay there and never
• 29:02
  Speaker 5: want to leave. I do feel like that, I think
• 29:06
  Speaker 5: now and the position I am now, I'm that I
• 29:10
  Speaker 5: could stay there for a much longer time.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: Really.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think when I went back then and I
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: was with my daughter and she was driving me crazy,
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: That's probably why I wanted to go home, because Shent
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: have cable and you know, everything is white Wi Fi
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: al other. Yeah, so that was probably the issue. Was
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: probably more nervous that I was there with her. But
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: I think when i'm when I'm there the last well,
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: I was in Northern nearly the last couple of times.
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: But I loved it death, I mean it was it's breathtaking.
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: Florence is breathtaking, port A Fino's breathtaking. I mean it's
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: just it's just a beautiful, beautiful atmosphere and the people
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: are amazing.
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: I'm from a little town.
• 29:48
  Speaker 6: Both my parents are actually from the same town on
• 29:51
  Speaker 6: the Adriatic coast, on Bodies, so it's yeah, in Pulia.
• 29:54
  Speaker 6: There's a little town called Moladi Body and my whole
• 29:57
  Speaker 6: family came from there. So I grew up up, going
• 30:00
  Speaker 6: there for three months a year every summer. Because Italian
• 30:03
  Speaker 6: was my first language. I went to school. I didn't
• 30:07
  Speaker 6: learn English until I was five.
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: We weren't you were born in Italy?
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: No, I was born in Brooklyn. But oh shit, in
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: nineteen eighty seven. Yeah, Brooklyn was you know, it was
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Italy back then.
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: It was like that for us too when I was
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: growing up.
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: I mean a lot of people who came to this country,
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: they didn't learn their first lang. My nephew, my nephew,
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: my son in law's first language was Italian and he
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: was born here. I mean his first language was Italian.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah. We My mother and I still pretty much only
• 30:34
  Speaker 6: speak to each other in Italian.
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  Speaker 4: It's just still all I was gonna change.
• 30:40
  Speaker 6: My mom has lived with us growing up, so you know,
• 30:42
  Speaker 6: she only spoke Italian. She didn't speak English. She still
• 30:45
  Speaker 6: doesn't speak English. She's been here sixty years. She doesn't
• 30:47
  Speaker 6: speak English.
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: Can you say something in Italian?
• 30:49
  Speaker 5: Say, couldn't we take a trip to Italy after New Year's.
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  Speaker 6: But sama far and viagania?
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  Speaker 4: See I love it?
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: See see yes tonight, let's go. No hygiene, nogene, But
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: by the hygiene by.
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  Speaker 6: The time I was seven, I didn't want to speak
• 31:07
  Speaker 6: Italian anymore because I was in school and you know,
• 31:10
  Speaker 6: how to make fun of you. My parents went, uh oh,
• 31:13
  Speaker 6: so what like the solution to this is mail heart
• 31:16
  Speaker 6: to Italy with Nonna for the whole summer without my parents,
• 31:20
  Speaker 6: and that started our process of spending the summers in
• 31:24
  Speaker 6: Italy like a student school would end.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: It was like go to the airport and you know.
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  Speaker 3: And that now it was probably the best of both
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  Speaker 3: world I did.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm I'm great. You know, I always say God
• 31:36
  Speaker 6: could have made me absolutely anybody. He could have made
• 31:41
  Speaker 6: me like starving in the Sudan. Why did he make
• 31:45
  Speaker 6: me Rosella from benson Hurst, Italian American from this from
• 31:51
  Speaker 6: where I'm from, with these skills, you know, he could
• 31:54
  Speaker 6: have made me completely talentless. He could have made me
• 31:58
  Speaker 6: such an idiot, and he made me exactly the way
• 32:02
  Speaker 6: that I am.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: And I'm like so grateful for everywhere I've come.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: From, such a great energy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm so glad that like I finally met you
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: in person, because we would we would you know, I
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: would like her staff. I would listen and she would like,
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: you know, i'd see you like my stuff and I
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: mean just never met you when you just got a
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: great energy.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: You guys wonderful.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: I feel like my girlfriends, Oh well you were Italy.
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: I mean were it next month?
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: So that like, yeah, we have to thank god we
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: like each other because you can't make it and with
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: you know, going on vacation unless you like the people.
• 32:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean that's my ex husband will prove that
• 32:36
  Speaker 6: Italy didn't fix that.
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: Oh shit, I'm kidding.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: So tell us tell everybody where they could find you,
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: and give them and let them know where they could
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: purchase your cookbooks. And I hope I want to get
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: a copy of one.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry I'm such a strut that didn't bring one today.
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: You could visit me. I'm in I'm in the neighborhood.
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: Visit me, un we'll go have lunch.
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  Speaker 5: I do a really good accent and fake Italian like
• 33:04
  Speaker 5: I could do an Italian accent.
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: I want to hear it. Yes, uh, let me see.
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: Well English Italian accent, but I do it different than
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: people go.
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  Speaker 4: What's to do?
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: No, that's not real.
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: I don't do that. So what could I say? Give
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: me something to say? Tell us where to find you?
• 33:23
  Speaker 5: Oh, let me I gotta do. I gotta hold on.
• 33:28
  Speaker 5: You see, wait, wait hold on, let me you find me.
• 33:33
  Speaker 5: You know, I gotta be in a little bit of talk.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: Say I want to go to the restaurant.
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  Speaker 4: I want I want to go to the restaurant. It's
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: not bad. I want to restaurant.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: It's really not bad.
• 33:44
  Speaker 4: I do that. Okay, I want to go to the restaurant.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: You should go out and meet a guy.
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: And they don't say h. My husband H Yeah.
• 33:55
  Speaker 6: No, my mother started trying to say H. And what
• 33:58
  Speaker 6: she loves to say when someone's you know, a little slow.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: She goes through said that guy the elevata does not go.
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: To the car, the elevator, the elevator on the elevator.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: I love the elevator.
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  Speaker 2: So funny because I was like, no, you gotta say h.
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: She's like, so now she's very aware of it.
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: So now she's saying it.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: I love to get you mother on the show with us.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: That would be fun all I would love to have.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: That would be great hour show.
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  Speaker 4: I don't care.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: I'll make the whole the whole time I'm here.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: I love that.
• 34:32
  Speaker 6: Yeah, she's she's a lot of things, my mother. You know,
• 34:34
  Speaker 6: she's very she's wonderful, she's you'd love her. Everybody loves her.
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: Well, I would love to meet her.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: She can, I'll bring her all right, problem.
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: I don't care. We're exchanging numbers. You and I were friends. Now,
• 34:45
  Speaker 4: that's it. That's that's it. That's it. Forget about it.
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: That's it. That's it. I e spread I expect to
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: forget about it.
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: Says that's it.
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: That's it. That's that's it. So let everybody know what
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: they could mind you because we wanna. I wanna. I'm
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: gonna tag it on my YouTube channel too.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: So you can find me at Rossella Rago.
• 35:07
  Speaker 6: My online shop is Bottega Della dot com. I know
• 35:10
  Speaker 6: it's a really tough name, but Botega was already.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: Taken and it was I'm trying.
• 35:16
  Speaker 6: And my books are available wherever books are sold, or
• 35:19
  Speaker 6: on my website for autograph copies.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. Thank you so much for coming
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: in and a and it was such a pleasure to
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: finally meet you in person. I love you, and you're
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: coming back and we'll go in to Italy.
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm with my mother and your grandmother.
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: No not let it come to we love it. Yes,
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: I'm excited to so.
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: If you are interested in old school Italian express so
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: a lot, take cappuccino or Pannini's pastries.
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: Dolti.
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: Being cafe in the heart of Ridgewal, Queens is where
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: you have to try it. Everybody tell them that Jen
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: sent you there, Dulce Bean Cafe Helm Jen sent you.
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: Have a wonderful day and I'm so glad we had
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: a great show today.
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: Thank you for coming with the best. Thank you, Thank
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: you ladies. That was so great.