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Caregiver Burnout Nearly Destroyed Me… Here’s the Support I Wish I Knew About Ft. Kafui Malphurs · Motion and Success

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[SPEAKER_01]: I've been taking care of my husband for over 15 years, he was a vet, he was an army vet, and he got sick in the hallway of the car and they are like, he's in a really bad shape.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We don't want him to die here, then send him home as in a casket.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Nobody can care for them as much as somebody who's a relative, because when you go to these hospitals, doctors and nurses in theality, it's not like they're going to provide you the best care, like some losing.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Related to them, it's hardly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The one time that I was no there, they gave him a medication that made him forget who he was.
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[SPEAKER_00]: for more than two days but then my body gave by in 2019 I used to be on the floor and he would sleep right next to me so I won't go over her but my husband he was a champ he took care of me and he did whatever needed to be done so I'm gonna not work it for my husband so I'm here to back for him hi my name is Kaffoey and I'm a caregiver now where we don't and I help widows we build after a loss
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[SPEAKER_04]: Her name is Kaffooi, and she is going to be breaking down a lot of information on how she helps people, her journey, her backstory and everything in between.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So, Kaffooi, go ahead and introduce yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hi, my name is Kaffooi and I'm a caregiver now where we don't, but I'm still a caregiver and I have caregiver no burn out and I have widows rebuild after a loss.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's something that a lot of people go through, you know, a lot of people, they don't really like speak on it, but you know, losing a spouse, a partner, or something that is definitely
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[SPEAKER_03]: Um, I do want to jump into the backstory like, like, just tell us a little bit about yourself, um, and your experience, you know, like, like, what led you into helping caregivers?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, the main reason is because while, at least this last part, I've been taking care of my
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what I'm supposed to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just didn't see any other way of not doing it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And the one time that I was not there in the beginning, they gave him a medication that made him forget who he was for more than two days.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that already let me know anything happens.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not letting him go by himself, first of all.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And second of all, I thank God for my church family.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They were there for me before anybody that does not have that church family, that support system.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that is not a Christian also, oh my goodness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know how you do without knowing God, because everything that I've gone through had been not been forgot, I wouldn't be where I am today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it just what you're supposed to do, at least that's what I think.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Every night for everybody, but I just didn't see me not taking care of my husband.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because when he started, they just called me and told me, he's sick, he's coming home.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they were sending him to Germany.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It turned out they sent him back to Florida.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was in 2010.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I've been on this journey for a while.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But...
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just did what I had to do, but I'd never thought about the fact that I could ask for help.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And not just that going through the process of getting the help is really hard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And unless somebody guides you by the hand and tells you, this way you got, but how do you find that person?
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[SPEAKER_01]: that's where I'm here for.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I'm here to help you navigate some of those issues where you know during this alone you are not alone at all.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There are others I've gone through this before and just knowing that I can get some help.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I just talk to somebody please?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's why we are here for you.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I was gonna say too like if you know my sharing like
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[SPEAKER_03]: like we'll see like terminally ill like like what like we'll let up to him needing care of giving services.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He wasn't terminally ill, he was just sick and well first of all he was a vet, he was a army vet and so they brought him by because he was out of the country serving and they were deployed and he got sick in Kuwait, one of them country and probably I don't remember, but he got sick and they called and they are like, um,
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's in a really bad shape and we don't want him to die here, that was the thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They didn't want him to die there and send him home in a casket.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they were going to send him to COVID, but then they sent him back home.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We spent a lot of days in the ER until he was sent to
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[SPEAKER_01]: Georgia.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I was driving from Florida to Georgia to take into the hospital.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So my son was really young at that time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I had to find somebody to keep him and I'll drive every week.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'll drive there and stay for a couple of days.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes I stay there for more than two weeks.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that's what I had to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just did what I had to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But then we went through that and we made it through.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was
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[SPEAKER_01]: But in 2012 he got better through the trips in Augusta, the first operation and then after that he kept got it getting sick.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I finally took him to Gainesville.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I drove from Mariana Florida to Gainesville Florida and I did that a couple of times.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But afterward he got better and we moved to Georgia.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He moved here.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, but he lost his job during this time because he was too sick.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He had all the time he couldn't keep a job.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So he came to Georgia and finally job.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it could.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now he went to Galsrim.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he started working there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He was good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Dr. appointment, I drive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I drive because I would not let him drive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes we have to pull over because he's going to show up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that was rough.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But we made it true.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Until 2000.
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[SPEAKER_01]: too many to I think.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean all this time we still do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Appointment, Dr.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Appointment.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm the designated driver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I close my shop.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I don't a shop you had.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've been a hair stylist since 2009.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I switch over to mainly doing broad services.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But then after they happened down driving, working full-time and all that, my body gave it in 2019.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, I completely was out of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had to close the shop and he took over.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He closed the shop for me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's good.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He closed their shop for me, sold everything that I needed to sell.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was 2020.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And he took care of all that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And because I was out of the most of the time, I was passed out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They couldn't find out what I was doing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He was my caregiver in addition to my son.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I used to be on the floor and he was sleeping right next to me, so I won't roll over.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But my husband, he was a champ.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He took care of me and did whatever needed to be done to me to the hospital.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, he took care of me, so when he was Eastern, I took care of him, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That makes a lot of sense, you know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_03]: And it's not easy.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's not easy.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like, you know, I definitely have a background in the health field.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So, you know, I see it all the time.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Having six family members, you know, nobody can care for them as much as somebody who was a relative.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, because when you go to these hospitals, doctors, nurses, and reality, they're just there for the check, most of the time, you know, they're doing their job, but it's not like they're going to provide the best care, like someone who's related to them, exactly.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So like leading up to him passing away.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Where you like a health care proxy like where you someone who can make decisions or like, you know sometimes they got they have different options like DNR DNI where you like like Did you have anyone DNR DNI or did or did he have to go through a code and they had to resuscitate him like how did that work
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so when we got started in 2022, so he had cancer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is personal, but so he had cancer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was the first one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He had 1 in 2022.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know that in 2023, 3.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I know that in 2024.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The first one, we went to games with eBay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We got prior before we went there and they did the operation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What they expected, they say, that's not what we expected.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was less than that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it was fine.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But the second one, 2023, he'd be down on two.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But at that time, I was not on his papers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: To get information, you had to jump through hoops.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So because it was Army related, you had to go through the Army and not just a regular power attorney kind of sort of.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So even though I had the power of attorney, the Army will not talk to me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: because I was not on his paperwork.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It was pretty hard to get on that paperwork with the army, which we did in 2023 eventually.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But once I got that, anything happened, I called them, I talked to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care that they don't like me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not there to please you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a not-vocate for my husband So I'm here to bat for him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care what you think as you don't do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There were many doctors that Delitually were offended because I was asking too many questions
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that's not my problem.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I didn't care about that because I knew what I had to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We've been through this already.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I went there hospital where you're giving something because I was not there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And for three days, he did not remember who we were.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He would turn to the wall and the next he turns like, Oh, who are you again?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I already know the risk of that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So this time, I measure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because it was too much and then I got on the paper for the army so I can call them and things like that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know that I didn't get any help but at least I had the paper word, but you have to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So my thing is there are some things that are as a caregiver you have to make sure that they are in place.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And one of them is making sure that your name is on every single thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because the moment they start taking some medication, they cannot remember some time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You have to be the one that I speak for them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't matter what anybody thinks.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know they're to please anybody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You therefore that family member.
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[SPEAKER_03]: What are some things that they have to put their name on?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like what are some some paperwork?
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[SPEAKER_01]: The most important for me was a power attorney, but we measured that it was health-related, just to be safe.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You want the main one, the one, now let's say that the family member is completely out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They don't remember stuff.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You want that setup in a way that God forbid they start forgetting stuff, that second one comes in effect where you make it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You made decision for everything.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My husband was not there in the beginning.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He was just the medical decisions.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because it's not that he was forgetting stuff.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But he was on medication.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: partially.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I wanted to make sure that in case he's in so much pain, he can talk to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I get to talk to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I got that taken care of.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So there's a part of it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there is a form of it that can be done without a lawyer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It just a simple part of attorney.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It just needs somebody that will be a witness for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that person has to be in the right way before they can stand you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The moment is that taking some meds, they are not allowed to take.
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[SPEAKER_01]: anything for granted and say, or you can just sign it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's against the law.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we had that done before he got back basically.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Now that's super, that's super important.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It was one time too, as I was working in the hospital and it was a young, it was like a man, a young, he was getting sick, and on his paperwork, apparently his wife was the person who could make decisions for it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So at one point he needed a blood transfusion.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And
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[SPEAKER_03]: He wasn't out of his, like he wasn't like disoriented or anything but I guess he put he's he put like everything under a name in terms of his medical decisions everything so we needed a blood transfusion.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She said no.
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[SPEAKER_03]: She said no and because she's Jehovah witness and he's like wait what like he was like what the hell like I don't I don't sign to this like no she can't do that and he's like he was telling me he's like you know she's doing that because
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[SPEAKER_05]: Perfect.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, believe.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So it put him in a position where, you know, he had to get into, I guess, like, legal, like have to go another route.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And it was crazy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know, so people wanted to get the blood transition though.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, because at this point, you know, the doctor was like, you know, you need it, you know, but now they have to go back because it only charged as your whole witness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it was like a whole, he drove a witness himself.
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[SPEAKER_03]: He said, no, he wasn't, it was his wife, but he were like separated.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So, but she still had control over his medical decisions.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Wow, I guess the paperwork he filled out before and never changed it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So,
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[SPEAKER_03]: paperwork is really important.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's crazy.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So I do want to jump into how do you help caregivers like you know a lot of them, they're overwhelmed.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Some of them, you know, their personal lives is all over the place because now it's like, you know, you can't, you can't, you can't for someone, but what about yourself?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like you can't care for yourself.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So some of them, you know, they look burnt out, you know.
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[SPEAKER_03]: mental health does not look burnt out they are burnt out yeah mental health is is not where really should be What is some like what are some of the ways that you you you help them?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So one of the main things that we offer is we offer a community of support for them where that's what level you are as far as a caregiver whether you're starting, you've been doing this for a while and we have a community setup where we want you to come.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes we just need to talk to somebody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's all it takes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I just talk to somebody?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't need you to answer my life issue.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just want to dump on somebody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I'm frustrated, I'm angry, I'm tired.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just want to talk to somebody.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what we have.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have a community setup.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We allow you to just come in and you know what?
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're not charging you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We want to offer you that support.
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[SPEAKER_01]: family, we are there for you, we are a family and you don't find that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we want to make sure that whether you care giver or we don't lot for bed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that you just have a place where you feel safe to talk without judgment because we've all been there.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And having that place where, do you want a prayer, baby, who pray for you right now?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Baby, just close your eyes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to say anything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me lift your name before the Lord.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's all we had.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You wanna talk, baby?
20:56
[SPEAKER_01]: You wanna drop on the phone?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you want me to jump on a Zoom with you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to turn the camera on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just wanna get away.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I just get to you?
21:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Because guess what?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You need a place to be able to know that you are safe.
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[SPEAKER_01]: that you can talk to somebody without them judging you because they will judge you in a hard bit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are walking in my shoes, but you have the right to judge me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Man please!
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[SPEAKER_01]: So can we help you out?
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[SPEAKER_01]: You can't give them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There is a community that will just come around.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes you don't have to talk.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just write it down.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who answer you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who pray for you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, you need some answer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Baby, you might want to do this.
21:42
[SPEAKER_01]: You might want to try this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My college is people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not to guarantee that they're going to give you what you need.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there's an alternative.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's all we're here for.
21:52
[SPEAKER_04]: And that little small gesture and that little, you know, act of service, it really gets a person through a little bit further, you know, I mean, because this journey is not easy, you know, especially if you got to deal with somebody 24-7 that can't really, they can't shower, they can't go to the bathroom, they can't move, you know, they can't feed themselves on their own.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So even this, that small little gesture, hey, I just need to talk, you know, that's it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: And that's really what get a person through like another seven days, another 30 days or another year, you know what I mean?
22:26
[SPEAKER_03]: Um, yeah, that's really true, you know what I mean?
22:29
[SPEAKER_03]: Because I feel like when you don't have that support system around you, you feel alone and then on top of that.
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[SPEAKER_04]: The devil starts talking, you might get suicidal, you may pick up drugs, alcohol, you might lose yourself.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, guys, there's no doubt about it.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
22:52
[SPEAKER_04]: So outside of that, like, what's some of the, like, the top strategies that caregivers can actually use, you know, because you've been through it all for, like, almost 15 years.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, what's some of the things that has gotten you through your journey?
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[SPEAKER_04]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, my main thing is,
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I have a relationship with God, that I'm not going to lie, in 2010, I was
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's when it started.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I knew God before.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, but you need to know him on that level.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, so I already knew that it was going to be a battle.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So in 2010, I was going to drive my car, which was So I went to get his service before I started driving and I was waiting to get an oil chain sitting in the recession area of the oil change people and but that's how I just started reading Isaiah
23:55
[SPEAKER_01]: It's a 45, so I'll put every translation and just read it there was a specific area for healing as I said that Jesus took
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[SPEAKER_01]: my sickness or himself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I started speaking that Jesus took my husband's sickness on himself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So he no longer had to be sick.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I just kept saying it over and over.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I was sitting my tail in that oops.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was sitting down in that area in the reception area and all of a
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you had two kids really right there, but if you don't know that you can just take that Bible.
24:42
[SPEAKER_01]: And for me was the phone, I don't do them big old Bible, I apologize, but that listen, then I sometimes can't see, okay?
24:51
[SPEAKER_01]: So that them small, thinking you just try to find that thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Listen, so I put my phone right real quick and I know it's in Isaiah, 54, 55.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know that much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I just started reading that and it came on me that God healed him already.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I got his healing before I even seen him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I got his healing there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That I held onto it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The Lord promised me he was healed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, God forbid at the end, he passed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It didn't matter, God healed him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You see, people expect you because God said He was healed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He had to be on this side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, baby, you can be healed on this side or on that side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's between the person and God.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They have to accept the fact that, yes, I'm healed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me get my healing.
25:47
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I'm about to step on some people too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Please don't call me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Don't, but my point is if you have that relationship with God, you know without a shadow of a doubt that you got something and you hold on to it doesn't matter what you look like Everyone you see him dying No, because that's not what he based on if based on what did he promise you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: He promised me he was here And when he was rough, I saw he was rough
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I knew he was healed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That was in 2010.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everyone, you say, I'm tired, I'm ready to go, you say, Lord, I'm ready to come see you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That didn't move me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's between him and God.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My God, my God told me, He healed him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just have to hold on to that word.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Whether I see it on this side or the side of heaven, it didn't matter.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I held on to that word.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So no matter what I go back to the Bible and find what I'm looking for.
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[SPEAKER_05]: There you go.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Whether it be for finances.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I was not working, sometimes he was not working.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you get that little check from there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But we were not working both of us.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: To ask for help, I was not ashamed to ask for help.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There are some help out, there are some organizations that offer you a system.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Can you name out to some of those organizations that will help a person that was a caregiver financially?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Because you got bills to pay, you got your car, you got rent.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, how can the person get by financially?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, what's some organizations in health that's out there?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I'll be 90, if I told you any name.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Right now, I don't remember some of them, but I do know, in Florida, there was an organization, there was a non-profit organization, but somebody asked to tell you about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's been on the city you are in, the county, the city, because it's always based on your income.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they don't look at it like that, you know, getting money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They look at it like, how much was your husband getting?
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[SPEAKER_01]: How much were you making?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they don't look at that, you know, making money now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's one way you making before.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you have to go through their process of being qualified, which is sad, but that's what it is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we want to also people help.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But our help is a little bit different.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We don't qualify you anything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We want to make sure that cannot help you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Get some money in your pocket.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now there are alternative ways to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, you don't have to depend on somebody on a organization to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there are some organization out there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And we do have a list that we can give you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if we can, we'll find somebody in that state in that city that can help you.
28:39
[SPEAKER_04]: So what we'll be like the first step is it like a typical Google search?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Or you just like, like, how does that you call 311?
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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, how does that usually work?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Out today, hospital.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then after I went to the hospital, I went to the health care.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Was every county has one and you just go and talk to one of their coordinator.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I just need to talk to somebody.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you talk to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some of them are pretty nice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They don't know that they have you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let me stop.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But some of them are pretty nice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And if they can't help you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: somebody else they're going to refer to somebody else and all you do is you don't stop now once you do those two hospital you want to talk to somebody and then you're going to go to the health care which is a little bit less yes you don't get help there yeah don't jump on Google right away that's too much going on with Google yeah but there are non-profit
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[SPEAKER_01]: that is available to help, sometimes a hundred dollars will make a difference.
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[SPEAKER_01]: 200, 500.
29:50
[SPEAKER_04]: That's exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it just depends.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I will not jump on Google because it's still going to be based on your income.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So once you do those two, you're going to get a list of
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[SPEAKER_01]: People to call, you call them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Whatever they ask you, you give it to them.
30:11
[SPEAKER_01]: Man, I don't remember.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Tell them that you, I don't remember, right now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've been doing this for so long.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know how much he makes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't remember.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's all you say.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I find the paper and give it to you but can I finish the application?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Get your application in.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If they cannot help you, they're going to give you a list of all the organizations just getting the system.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's all.
30:35
[SPEAKER_01]: The health department is your best friend.
30:37
[SPEAKER_03]: Right, that's amazing to know you can get so much help, especially dealing with something like being a caregiver, like even in New York State right now what they're doing is because beforehand you need to have like a aid or home or home health aid and things like that, but now they allow the family to have the opportunity to take care.
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[SPEAKER_03]: of that fake family member at home, and the government is paying you like hourly, you get paid every week.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's crazy.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I think they recently just did it, probably like the last two years.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So like even like somebody I know, like their friend, you know, he's taking care of his mom, and that's basically like his job, and they pay him for it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Um, so I think that that right there, you know, helps the the financial burden, I don't know if all other states follow that, but it definitely will help with with getting people, you know, some money during a quite a situation like that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Definitely, but I do, but before we, you know, moving for, I definitely do want to jump into the business side, you know, because I think you're more of the top expert, you know, you've been doing this for the past 15 years.
31:57
[SPEAKER_04]: Like, your husband has been outside of the country.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You figured how to, you know, navigate this whole, you know, situation in this whole scenario.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So like, like, when it comes to the business side, like, how do you help people out right now?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, basically I will somebody I told me this earlier, but one of the easiest way is to make a business, to become a caregiver, but on a business side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they call it, oh my god, eight or some like that.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
32:31
[SPEAKER_01]: So I call it just a business and you employ CNA for caregiver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So they're gonna come and sit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When you need to get some sleep, you're gonna pay somebody to come and sit.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But you paying them as a business, not out of personal.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Even though you don't want paying them, but you hire somebody through your business, so you are covered two ways.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're not just paying them directly, but you can start hiring yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So yeah, you don't have a CNN, but you are a sitter.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There are people that will just come and sit with their person for you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They can all do other, like cleaning the person, changing the person, but they will just come and sit with their person when you need.
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[SPEAKER_01]: help to come and get change.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They'll call you, man, they said they need to be changed.
33:22
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, sir, they need to be changed.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But at least you get somebody that will come and sit with your person, with your family member, so you can go get some sleep.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Ooh, Lord, some sleep please, some sleep.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
33:35
[SPEAKER_01]: So even that, we couldn't get it because, so that we couldn't get it.
33:40
[SPEAKER_01]: Let me leave that alone.
33:41
[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of forget, but you have to move true stuff.
33:46
[SPEAKER_01]: don't the one that ain't working and just keep trucking.
33:50
[SPEAKER_01]: I thank God for my church family like I said I mean, I mean, they showed out, they showed out for me.
33:59
[SPEAKER_01]: When the hospital, what am I supposed to, she sent me a message, she said, I'm coming to leave you, you go get some sleep.
34:07
[SPEAKER_01]: She said, you don't have a choice, you go get some sleep.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm coming out, be there for five hours, go home and sleep.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't find that many.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So the first thing I'll tell somebody is, whether you believe or not, find a church, you're gonna need it because they don't leave your name before the Lord, they don't pray for you, for your strength, for you to make it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But they'll pray for that family member, for their healing, but not just that, they offer services, for them, I'll lie you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: to talk to some people that are volunteering, to come and see with your family, remember for you, just for you to get some rest.
34:44
[SPEAKER_01]: A couple of hours will make a big difference.
34:46
[SPEAKER_04]: It definitely will.
34:47
[SPEAKER_01]: Because we used to go hours and hours without sleep.
34:51
[SPEAKER_01]: I gave a quote to my son.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Shout out to him.
34:54
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, because he was there and he stopped school, he said, I'll go do a GD.
35:00
[SPEAKER_01]: And he said, I'll do it when it's over.
35:05
[SPEAKER_01]: And so he stopped school and we were just there to help us.
35:09
[SPEAKER_01]: And even we started that G.D. Barricuro making because of this schedule.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you lose some money, but money is nothing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When it's family members, you don't say.
35:20
[SPEAKER_01]: But he will not stop, he was there in the middle.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you need some kind of support that is true.
35:29
[SPEAKER_01]: But the business parties, when you have a business, you are allowed to set up an LLC and turn it into a caregiver.
35:38
[SPEAKER_01]: Be a caregiver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Forget home healthy.
35:41
[SPEAKER_01]: Be a caregiver.
35:42
[SPEAKER_01]: That's all you are doing.
35:43
[SPEAKER_01]: You are a caregiver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You hire people to come and sit with your family member.
35:48
[SPEAKER_01]: You pay them.
35:49
[SPEAKER_01]: But make sure they are CNA if possible.
35:52
[SPEAKER_01]: If you cannot get those, there are people down.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They just want to be a service.
35:57
[SPEAKER_01]: But you want to pay them.
35:58
[SPEAKER_01]: So they don't mistreat your family member.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, and you have to sign them up as a 1099, which is, they are not employee employee.
36:08
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't contract there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They are contractors.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you pay them and you not pay them good.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because your life depends on you.
36:17
[SPEAKER_05]: Yeah.
36:18
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't want to burn out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's one part.
36:20
[SPEAKER_01]: The second part is you get to become your own employee.
36:31
[SPEAKER_01]: You may not get money, get paid out, but just because you are doing it, you can go now and start hiring people and not for those people service.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So other people, which is going to start bringing income in.
36:44
[SPEAKER_01]: So you are doing it to fold.
36:46
[SPEAKER_01]: You are getting yourself some help, but you are also going to have to other family members that do not have that option.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That do not have it.
36:54
[SPEAKER_01]: Church family, that don't get no help.
36:56
[SPEAKER_01]: So you make yourself available for other people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've got a lot of people that are available.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When do you need some help?
37:04
[SPEAKER_05]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You get income coming in.
37:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Hello, we need some money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: you get income coming in.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You are able to get some relief as far as some sleep for yourself, but be a service to somebody else.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now we teach you how to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We help you get set up as an LLC, open the business, look for people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're right people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What you look for is you're on the same.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what we do.
37:30
[SPEAKER_01]: That is the business side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now there's another side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now we help you
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[SPEAKER_01]: quiet income without showing your face, start documenting your journey.
37:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Forget about your old social media information.
37:47
[SPEAKER_01]: You're going to make a new one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not based on your business name, but based on a new name.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't want nobody to know.
37:55
[SPEAKER_01]: Nobody needs to know your business.
37:57
[SPEAKER_01]: Just set a new one up.
37:58
[SPEAKER_01]: Just talk.
37:59
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to show your face.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to show your family member face.
38:03
[SPEAKER_01]: But just a regular life.
38:05
[SPEAKER_01]: Just talk about it.
38:06
[SPEAKER_01]: Just record something mundane, your back, washing dishes, recording, something, and then after when you're going to talk over it, that's how we teach people to start showing their presence online because when the time comes and you're going to start pushing your product, that's money.
38:24
[SPEAKER_01]: We look for ways to help you make money on the download, ways not to train you to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's why we are here for it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's good to know that you know these resources is out here and I'm pretty sure like
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[SPEAKER_03]: people going to be watching this and they're going to be like definitely like interested you know because a lot of times caregivers they're so busy caring for people they don't know that these things out there so it's good to know that you know you're out here you're providing people with that education and I'm pretty sure it's not going to get impacted from this absolutely and how can the people learn more from you?
39:05
[SPEAKER_04]: where can they type them what's any sites or any kind of thing you like to give?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you can follow me on Instagram, TikTok or YouTube.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
39:13
[SPEAKER_01]: And it's that courage keeper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Spoiler.
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[SPEAKER_01]: courage is K O U.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I replace everything with a K. Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's THE K O U R A G E. Keeper K E E E R. Now we do have a form that you can just fill out.
39:36
[SPEAKER_01]: just to get in the system, we give you free access to the community.
39:41
[SPEAKER_01]: That's one.
39:42
[SPEAKER_01]: But they meant it for you to take care of yourself.
39:45
[SPEAKER_01]: We want you to take care of yourself because you only have this body.
39:49
[SPEAKER_04]: Exactly.
39:50
[SPEAKER_01]: And no joke.
39:52
[SPEAKER_01]: When I got started this last bow, I just had an accident.
39:57
[SPEAKER_01]: But right after the accident, we found out that my husband was in trouble.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, I couldn't do treatment.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had to jump back in the car.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, I did what I had to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I went and got shot in my neck because I couldn't go to regular treatment.
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[SPEAKER_04]: You take too much time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's, and I couldn't take my vacation because I couldn't drive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He was not driving yet.
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[SPEAKER_01]: My son was not driving yet.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And one of the requirements was, that Dr. Say, he cannot drive.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you forget about you, you do what you gotta do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But this is where we come in.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's offer you an alternative.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You may have to hire Uber.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Baby, suck it up and spend some money.
40:40
[SPEAKER_01]: Because your life depends on it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Take it off yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I didn't know that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, I wasn't thinking about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because I already went through all that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I didn't know when I allowed myself to go through.
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[SPEAKER_01]: that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you have to measure that you take it off yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But the main thing is, I want you to remember that you still a person.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You know just a caregiver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, God forbid they move on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Which you're going to do, baby?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Which you're going to do?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because everything you did was around that person.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And there is no time line to it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: no, there's no timeline.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you are a widow, you still here, thank God for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You're gonna cry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Even as a caregiver, you're gonna start mourning that person because they are no longer who they used to be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So grief and grief and mourning has no time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There is no time frame for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I want you to understand
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or you just, I can't give it for a family member.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I want you to understand that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Don't let nobody tell you that she'll be good, man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: She can slap them, oops, don't do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I gotta repent.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I want you to remember, there's no time limit for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We still cry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Every day, I sat in a box of tissue, I've been doing that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But my point is, you are human, you are allowed to have emotion, miss that person, every day, even after 10 year, it doesn't change.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's something that you live for, with.
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[SPEAKER_01]: For over a long period of time, not they are gone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they will just expect you to just,
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[SPEAKER_01]: Pick myself up, what you mean.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that's part of life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And we are knowledge that we're grieving.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's true.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But this, bra, get you some prison worship.
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[SPEAKER_01]: your deliverance is in that Bible, preaching and prison worship, and that's your tail up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You don't care about nothing else.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because you need your deliverance is in your praise.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Listen, you don't have to be less out rather you throw some praise worship now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Praise God.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But if you have to rock on that crazy music, go ahead baby.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do what you gotta do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: forget yourself every day, find something that will replace what you used to do every day you use to get up, take care of that person every day.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Now replacing me something for you.
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[SPEAKER_03]: a lot of value from this, you know what I mean, especially in the care given space, definitely let them know again, you know where they can get more information, any websites you have where people can go out and you know, inquire about these services because I really want them to get this information.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So the name is the courage keeper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And the main reason is, it is courage to be a caregiver.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This courage to want to live after the live.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So you are a courage keeper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's THEK or you are a GEE.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Keeper, K-E-E-E-R.com, that's the website, but follow me on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, same thing, add their courage, keeper, same name.
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[SPEAKER_03]: All right, this is good guys.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Any last words, Cody?
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[SPEAKER_03]: No.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It's a good episode.
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[SPEAKER_04]: I enjoyed this one, you know, coffee, you definitely broke it down.
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[SPEAKER_04]: Your journey has been amazing, you know, and I'm glad you're still standing strong and able to, you know, share your story, share your journey and really inspire others.
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[SPEAKER_04]: So keep on pushing, you know, to your son as well, keep on pushing as well because the journey never ends.
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