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Episode 5 - Sex & Menopause: Terry doesn't get it · Keeping it Real with Erin and Terry

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  Welcome to Keeping It Real with Erin and Terry.
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  Sponsored by Imperfection by Erin.
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  And produced by Magic Door Studio.
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  On today's episode, we're talking about sex and menopause.
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  Sorry hold on a minute I did not know about any of this, this is
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  new to me. What?
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  I asked thousands of women questions about how often they
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  have sex. They answered.
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  I know she did not Men. He hasn't heard.
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  I didn't. I don't even know the results.
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  And the results actually surprised me a lot.
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  OK, do. You.
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  Want to hear it elaborate? OK, so I have some of them here.
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  Bear with me. OK.
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  No, honestly, right. I don't even know whether I want
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  Tim to know about this because. Just tell me, will you?
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  Come on. I think they were lying.
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  I think they were. Well, just tell me and I'll tell
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  you what I think my feeling on it is. 20% of people said.
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  Right. What's the ages, first of all?
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  Well, I don't know what the ages are, but some people are having
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  sex four times. I'm all a week.
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  Right. What age is Eddie in?
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  Their 20s. I don't think 20 year olds
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  follow me. I'm not cool enough for that.
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  So you're talking about 30s then?
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  Terry, who cares what age you're having sex?
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  Four times a week, including days.
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  Well, I can tell you now, Yeah, I'm 49.
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  Nearly. Yeah.
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  And I am not having sex four times a week.
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  Yeah. Yeah, bad job.
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  Or a month for that matter. OK, 30%.
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  This was the most common. How many times do you think was
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  the most common? 20%.
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  The most common answer. About twice a week.
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  Twice to three times a week. To three times a week.
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  A lot is it. I haven't got the energy for
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  that kind of stuff, I have to be honest.
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  With you, OK, 25%, I think we're in this.
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  OK, go ahead. Once a week.
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  Once out. Yeah, it is.
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  Yeah, I hear the lights. Me once a week.
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  Is it not once a week? No, but it's not once a week.
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  I mean, the weeks are rolling into themselves.
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  It feels like last week. Don't get me wrong.
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  Listen, you were that good. It felt like yesterday.
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  That is such manipulation of the highest order yet.
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  How could I ever forget you? It just feels like it was
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  yesterday. Don't get me wrong.
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  Listen, Camille, I'll tell you something.
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  As time goes on, yeah, I think about it less, right?
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  Because my libido is kind of dwindling will say, but to be
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  honest with you and I'm going to be honest about this right I'm
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  delighted me libido was lit to England because it's one less
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  thing I have to worry about it's.
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  A job sometimes, isn't it it? Is a job yeah, it really is a
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  job no messing yeah, I want to be fucking destroyed.
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  I'm not insane on the podcast, sorry.
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  I was what I meant to say. What I meant, not what I meant
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  to say, was my energy levels to be on the.
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  Floor. I'll take it back now.
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  I'm not taking it back for yourself.
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  I'm trying. I'm trying to remain politically
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  clean here. Too late.
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  See, I already have AI, already have a little fan who just be
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  mailing the page. Asking me to, Yeah.
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  I'll tell you another thing. It's just as well, I don't know
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  who it is. No one knows I'm who's dryer.
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  Sending the fall grass at GM, bleed walkouts and all this kind
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  of carry on. How can I say catfish?
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  Now he knows I don't here. Now he knows I'm not in any of
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  these percentages he might not want.
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  To yeah mate, yeah, lucky, yeah, lucky if I get once, once a
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  month. OK.
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  So less than a week was 5% and 20% of people said really never
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  their drive has gone. There you go.
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  So that really leads me to talk about the menopause, OK.
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  And what about my menopause? That's called and I have it
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  wrote down. I have it wrote down Android and
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  Andrew Pause. Otherwise known as menopause.
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  Yeah, basically your penis pauses.
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  It's. Is that what that means?
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  The penis pauses. It's look we all know is a
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  general information. Men's testosterone levels
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  dwindle and decline from the age of 35 onwards.
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  So. That's the way it is, right?
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  That is the way it is. I want to read.
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  Read them. Read them.
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  Of these, wow. Read them three to four times a
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  week. 14 years together. Get up there with that, will
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  you? 44 Perry, 3 kids.
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  Once a week if we can, but sometimes two weeks passes
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  'cause we forget. Yes sister, I know what you're
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  going through. Forget you forget to have sex.
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  Oh, slip my mind, who? Yeah, I understand that.
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  But I, I just like think that three to four times a week is
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  like. 20 year old shit like I want to have sex with you.
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  I really. Like, don't get me wrong, when
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  we listen, when we actually get around to what I really do
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  enjoy, Me too, totally Like, you know what I mean?
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  I love you for probably the good hour solid after.
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  Actually, I think that's a lie. It's your way around.
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  Cherry actually loves me. Like I love you all the time but
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  I am obsessed. Which if I like about.
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  No. OK, 20 minutes.
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  This is what happens. OK so I'm sharing way too much
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  information as I always do and I'm like if any of my male
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  family is listening to this I'm sorry but they're probably not
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  because they don't really give a shit what I do and even when I
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  send them the podcast they. Definitely don't.
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  Get into it So basically before Terry's looking for sex off me,
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  he starts getting really nice to me, right I'm brushing off me
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  and like. Don't mind though.
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  That is not right. She is walking around the gaffe.
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  Yeah. Looking like she hair upside
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  down you heard there. Was a wind machine on her the
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  fucking the house coat is is is blowing that much to show
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  everything? No, you just have horny eyes.
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  I I look like a wreck. Your horny eyes is after
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  transform. Hold on a minute.
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  I, I I honestly believe we're getting too graphic here.
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  Yeah, tone of town. OK, it's tone of town.
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  OK, so he's really nice to me and he's hinting for OK.
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  And I'm like you're the last. Thing that was the last time.
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  OK, I say. I say you're actually due to
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  start doing that pretty soon. Then when I then when I say no
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  like in a like just leave me alone.
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  I don't want to do it anyway. Am I allowed?
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  Am I allowed to share like my reasons for my?
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  No. So then he gets annoyed because
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  he's like, OK, I'm not getting it.
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  Then I go the difference I think between a man and a woman is is
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  you need to actually release that from your body.
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  Me. Yeah, or I'm like, whatever.
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  Well, I always have this theory, right?
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  Terry's theory. New segment.
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  It's official. Now, is it too much information?
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  No. Terry's theory, this was
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  suggested by a comment actually by somebody who you commented on
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  the podcast. So we're going to try and
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  introduce this wherever it needs to be.
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  It's not going to be a an every week thing.
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  But this is my theory for today, right?
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  Don't mind her, right? So anyway, the Terry's theory is
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  this because the man's organ of what we're talking about is on
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  the outside of the body and the woman's organ is on the inside
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  of the body to what we're talking about.
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  I believe that that is why the man the man are the way they
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  are, and it's just like nearly do and go.
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  Do you get me where you go? And then you want to cuddle and
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  you want to mind me and come on over to me.
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  And I love you. And this time, you know what
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  I'm. Saying so this is what I'm
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  trying to get. But I believe it's because the
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  the actual process of what we're doing, the ACT itself right, is
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  more personal to you because of organ locations.
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  No, you're just trying to manipulate me and be nice to me,
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  so I'll want to have sex with you.
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  And then after it, I'm like, oh, I kind of really like him now.
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  He's actually really nice. Like I feel way more connected
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  and you're like, yeah, I'm done. She doesn't like me.
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  I actually do I so I actually really like them for a lot
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  longer. So there that was another common
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  denominator in the questions and answers was definitely feel more
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  connected when we do sex. Well, that is a fact.
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  That is a fact, yeah. OK, now what I will say, let's
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  talk about menopause and libido for me.
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  We all know that Aaron is in perimenopause.
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  Or if you don't know, you do. Yeah.
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  And when your oestrogen drops, you have a lack of empathy and
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  time for bullshit. So oestrogen would have kept us
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  nice and calm because basically we have to reproduce.
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  So we are going to put up with their bullshit because we are
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  trying to have babies with them because if we didn't have
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  empathy and peace and understanding, we wouldn't wanna
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  put up with it. No offence.
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  So with that guys, you're shy in general.
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  I mean, the podcast is not long enough for that.
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  So that leaves OK, your libido leaves.
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  Right, your libido are mine. Yours.
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  As a woman, I I'm talking about. From your own perspective.
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  Yeah, for, for, for menopause. OK, So I was put on HRT, OK.
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  And I actually didn't know that I didn't even have a libido
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  anymore. That was how long it was gone.
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  OK. Now remember, guys, we're
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  extremely stressed. We had a very sick child, which
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  again I think is very different for men like Terry would still
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  want to have sex with me to maybe escape the hard day we've
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  had where it is the last thing I want to do.
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  Right. But now I have found at the
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  moment I am not like that. Because of your What is the name
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  for male menopause again? Testosterone levels.
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  Have because you're. My my TRT levels so my
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  testosterone levels have literally dropped to the floor,
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  hence why I'm getting help with that now.
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  So look as in through the. Proper channels through the
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  through the proper eh channels. Blood walk, the whole Chabang
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  Grey fellow Pentala, they're doing it.
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  We both obviously at the same times our libido dropped in
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  around the kind of thing. More or less the same.
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  Age yeah so I actually went to the menopause hub and I started
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  my HRT journey which my followers have been absolutely
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  amazing and they're like Erin do not stop until you get the right
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  dose for your HRT because it doesn't work straight away and
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  sometimes you have to find your right don't it's.
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  The sweet if they call it the sweet spot.
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  This well. No, but that's what generally
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  that's what they call it where hormone is concerned.
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  Everyone's is different, both in male and female, so it's the
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  sweet spot they call it, yeah. I'm sure you know all about
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  that. Everyone's sweet spot is
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  different. And so the roast of Terry
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  Cabinet begins yet again. OK, so my father said don't give
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  up, but the one thing that came up a bit was take testosterone.
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  So do you know who I actually heard where?
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  Where I heard that first? In where?
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  Halle Berry. Oh, yeah, She takes it.
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  She takes it, yeah. OK, so.
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  That's who I said it to you, but you didn't really kind of you
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  weren't in the place to actually hear me properly and pay
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  attention to what I was. Saying OK.
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  Which here which is 99% of the time by the way.
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  I mean, I'd get a headache if I'd listen to all the time.
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  Go ahead, carry on. Yeah.
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  Who are you are to listen to? I am.
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  Emily Bruce. Actually, who is funnier?
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  I will say this right before we jump back to testosterone, I
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  thought I was hilarious. Then I listened to this podcast
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  and I was like, he's funnier than me.
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  Was a bit sick where a little bit.
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  Yeah, but it's OK. Just embrace it.
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  No, I don't want to. I want to be funnier.
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  Who thinks Terry's funnier than me?
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  I'm Who's the lighted look? Listen, love.
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  It is what it is. Terry.
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  Terry's Terry. I lived in a bed suit for years.
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  Terry's tears now if you keep it up.
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  I lived in a bed suit for years. Anyway, getting back to.
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  Back to testosterone OK so girls told me to go on testosterone OK
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  so. Now, now when you say go on
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  testosterone, a very minute, yeah, amount of it.
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  And it wouldn't be the same sort of testosterone what a male
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  would use. It's a lot more weaker.
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  Well, it's a gel I take. It's a yes, but it's it's also a
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  lot more weaker in. Strength wise.
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  Strength wise, yes. OK, so basically when I asked
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  for testosterone, the lady was kind of a little bit like kind
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  of passed me off and I was probably in a menopausal age.
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  And this is exactly what I said to her.
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  I really don't give an F if I never have sex again for the
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  rest of my life. But my newlywed husband may.
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  And she said, OK, we'll get you tested and we'll give you so you
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  can thank her for caring about you to give me the testosterone
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  anyway, OK. I thank her every day.
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  All of a sudden I'm going to share a bit too much
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  information. OK?
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  Oh. Shit, I would not be like you
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  about you, about me, or you. No, me and Terry's not the
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  jealous type, right? So he'll get this right.
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  So testosterone is actually walking because all of a sudden
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  Erin realized that she actually has bits now.
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  She's like, what's going on? Like I can what?
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  So I'm driving along with my car and I'm playing music and I'm
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  laughing and smiling and this guy pulls up beside me and looks
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  at me and I'm like oh I'm still hot.
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  Yeah, but I think women like that recognition as well.
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  No, but I. Haven't felt like that in years.
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  And I. Just don't.
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  I wouldn't begrudge you that. And also remember I said like.
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  You don't begrudge people proposing to me when I'm out on
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  a gig. They can have you.
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  They give you. To me.
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  But they would. Kill.
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  We're all good. But this is what I mean.
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  So like I then said to cherry the force a week or two of I was
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  like this is really fucking sorry.
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  I shouldn't be coursing but this is really annoying because like
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  is this what you had to do? As a.
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  Teenager like is this what teenage boys have to do?
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  Is like think about sex all the time.
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  The thing about like it just. Wasn't even reminded like.
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  Seeing what you're fit. What you're failing to see is
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  that the male body and the biology of the male form is
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  made-up differently, so we can deal with it differently.
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  You. Know obviously I I've never had
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  that much testosterone in my body so I was like.
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  Yeah, and you were also new to the test that.
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  So when you start taking a forced, it will in fact impact
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  you with a bang, literally, hence here with a, hence the
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  phrase with a bang. It then it the more you take it,
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  the more you settle into it and does not and it levels out.
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  Yeah, that's what happens. Like you know what I mean?
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  Yeah, so it was really, really funny.
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  And here's another little bit of information that people in the
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  menopause might not know. OK.
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  What also happens is, is when you're in the menopause, you
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  start drying up a little bit, OK, in areas.
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  So you'll have your night sweats which are drying up in your
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  privates now. That's why some people will get
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  Utis and there is cream for this to keep everything, you know,
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  mice. KY Jelly.
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  No, Terry, it's not KY Jelly. It's an actual bloody medical
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  thing. It's a medical thing where our
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  whole reproductive system. Are That was a joke.
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  That was a joke. Relax with the menopausalness.
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  I take a very serious one. I know how you do.
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  That was a joke, OK? It's a very.
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  Serious light hearted family show we're doing here.
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  OK, no, we're not. We're talking about sex and
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  we're talking about menopause and we're talking about whatever
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  you're very. I feel like you're talking about
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  it like with a vengeance. Yeah, because at the start I was
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  like, Oh yeah, this is interesting.
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  Then I was like, wait, this is it for life.
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  I actually have to have this for forever.
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  Like the sweats weren't normal, Terry.
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  No, they weren't you, right? Like they really weren't normal.
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  Anyway, back to the drying up of the area.
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  OK, so here is a good bit of news just before it fully dries
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  up, guys. If you're lucky, things become
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  really sensitive down there and it is spicy sweet.
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  Jesus Christ, I I feel like we're on the blade.
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  Bonnie Blue. Fans here or some crap?
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  Though I think that's important for for people to know that
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  there's a good bit of menopause. Like, OK, I'm going to tell you
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  when I was in the menopause, I didn't want to die, but I didn't
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  want to live. I had no joy in anything.
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  I literally had nothing, no joy. Everything I loved, I did not
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  Not. Hopefully that changed as we can
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  see. Because I'm I'm just trying to
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  still find my dose but that. Your sweet spot, my sweet.
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  I can help you out with that. It's really, really difficult in
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  the menopause. The emotions are up and down.
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  It's like it is so much different than being a teenager
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  when you're starting in the hormones.
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  It's it's, it's so up and down. And what I've also learned is,
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  is that the younger you are, when you go into your menopause,
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  OK, you actually need more HRT because your hormones are so
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  high up here, right? That when they suddenly drop
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  like that, it's such a big drop. So you actually need more to try
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  and level yourself out. Here's another thing I did but.
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  That's the same, but that's the same.
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  Same for the man. Because the.
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  Testosterone replacement therapy.
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  Is this really bad of me to say that I feel like youths don't go
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  through it the same way we do? No, I don't think we do.
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  Anyway. I don't think we go through the
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  Physiology hardships that you go through.
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  And anyway, as a man, yeah, I, I, I totally agree with that.
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  So here was like all these things that like, I didn't
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  really realize. So people would say, you know,
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  when you're in the paramount was wait, you get to the real
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  menopause. Actually, you're only in the
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  menopause for one day of your life.
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  One day. So it's the pre and post is it?
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  Perry and Post. Is there a post?
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  Yep. So Perry, what Perry means is
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  your body is still saying, wait, what's going on here?
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  And it's still fighting. So it's fighting to keep your
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  periods, it's fighting to keep the hormones, whatever's going
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  on up and there. It's like fighting to keep it
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  because it's losing it and it doesn't know why.
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  So it's fighting really, really hard.
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  That's why with perimenopause you'll get those like rage, the
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  crying, this sudden they all these emotions up and down, up
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  and down, up and down. I got that before you went into
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  menopause with you. With me, yeah.
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  No, you're a. Very emotional person.
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  Terry that's different than menopause rage.
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  You would did not want to see me in my 20s.
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  I was probably that in my 20s and I feel look, if there's any
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  exes watching, which I'm sure you're not, I probably was a bra
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  but they were brats to me too. But that was quite strong in me
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  and my 20s. It definitely levelled out.
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  But it's it, it came back in the perimenopause.
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  OK. So when you don't get a period
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  for one whole year naturally, no period, OK, no spot, no anything
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  on the the day of the full year with no natural period, that is
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  the day you are in menopause and then the day after you are post
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  menopause. So your body has now decided
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  that it is time. They ain't going to fight these
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  hormones anymore and this is your new level.
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  So it's a little bit lower. Carry on.
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  Let me know when you want to come back, when you want me to
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  come back into the show. You can go back into the show
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  now. What would you like to?
• 22:20
  Feel like for you as a man dealing with a woman who's in
• 22:27
  menopause. Just have an escape plan.
• 22:33
  What is? It a reason to get out of the
• 22:36
  house at a very quick right? Is that why you go shop five
• 22:42
  times a day? Well, I used to.
• 22:43
  I don't. I don't anymore.
• 22:44
  I don't know what you're talking, but you're definitely
• 22:46
  more rage than me. Maybe you're in the bleeding
• 22:48
  menopause. No, I'm.
• 22:50
  I'm definitely. Terry's like level of like 0 to.
• 22:53
  10 I I, I, I flip. Yeah, I do flip.
• 22:58
  I definitely do flip. There's no doubt about it.
• 23:00
  Like me, me guitar got left in London last weekend and I was
• 23:05
  standing at the belt of oversized baggage at 4:50 and I
• 23:10
  was due on stage at half 6. I know I hate.
• 23:13
  It and I was like an absolute Antichrist, I'll tell you.
• 23:20
  So yeah, I do flip. I tell you where I know it's the
• 23:27
  difference. Usually Terry's level is he can
• 23:31
  flip and I'll just go it because Terry's like the dog who barks
• 23:35
  and you just have to let him bark and then he's like.
• 23:37
  He's so now on the dog. No, you know the one that yaps
• 23:41
  and then he's like, oh, he's real quickly.
• 23:43
  And then viewers walking, sorry, choosing to watch us today.
• 23:48
  Yeah. You're a good looking dog.
• 23:50
  You're like a Husky. I am actually very Husky in
• 23:55
  France. Yeah, you're like a like, you're
• 23:56
  like a sex. Downstairs trying to make up for
• 23:58
  it now. I think since we're talking
• 24:00
  about, eh, the whole sex thing, I'm like, maybe we should do it
• 24:03
  soon. Maybe I'll pencil.
• 24:05
  In. In.
• 24:06
  See. In six weeks, Yeah.
• 24:07
  Six weeks. So, umm, what were we talking
• 24:12
  about there? I flipped the lid.
• 24:14
  Yes I do. Umm.
• 24:17
  I flipped the lid quite a bit because.
• 24:21
  Not my lid, not flipping my lid. Life and work loud gets to me,
• 24:27
  and torridness gets me. I'm getting older as well.
• 24:30
  It's all that kind of stuff, you know what I mean?
• 24:35
  It's just like one thing after another kind of thing, you know?
• 24:38
  But you look, as far as everyone's concerned, I do
• 24:41
  nothing. Sorry.
• 24:43
  That's right, Bab, you do nothing.
• 24:45
  Found me. Yeah, anyway, Terry flips the
• 24:50
  lid, but Perry Menopause Erin enters the group chat.
• 24:57
  What group chat? Not my group chat, it's.
• 24:59
  Your group chat, So usually Erin can be good calm and blue Mars.
• 25:06
  Terry, just let them go along. It's OK.
• 25:08
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. But sometimes when the rage
• 25:10
  kicks in, I'm like, I'm going to meet you here.
• 25:12
  Yeah. And every time I meet you, every
• 25:15
  time you meet me at this level, I'm going to meet you back.
• 25:18
  And there's been a few hairy moments where like Terry will be
• 25:22
  like, he's flipping the lid and I'm meeting this energy and it's
• 25:26
  going up and up and up. And he's like, there's something
• 25:29
  wrong with you. You're.
• 25:30
  And I'm like, yes, there is. It's called I don't give up
• 25:36
  menopause anymore. Yeah.
• 25:38
  So every time you meet me with this energy, you're going to get
• 25:42
  it back. And that's why I like menopause.
• 25:46
  I hate everything else about it. It's best the except the spicy
• 25:50
  drying up area. What makes it more tingly?
• 25:53
  I like that part and I like the fact that I don't give a 0 shits
• 25:59
  and I will say stuff back to you that usually my oestrogen would
• 26:03
  go. Keep the peace, be a nice
• 26:06
  person. Right.
• 26:07
  OK, great. Thank you very much for that
• 26:09
  rant. Get back to the comments.
• 26:11
  I think like twice a week at least and I'm 50.
• 26:17
  You're 50. No, the lady's 50I.
• 26:20
  Was gonna say since when are you 50?
• 26:22
  It it has to be what suits both of you, but you have to make
• 26:26
  time for. It depends on what you expect.
• 26:30
  Also, actually this is what I think men don't understand and
• 26:36
  we spoke about it before on our podcast.
• 26:38
  Here we go again. Foreplay.
• 26:41
  Foreplay is so important in a different way, so OK.
• 26:47
  Why are we going to categorize this podcast?
• 26:50
  Sex and menopause. It's going to be annoying.
• 26:53
  It's like watershed on this. It should be so OK.
• 26:59
  Why do we feel as women or like the statistics would be like to
• 27:04
  keep a marriage healthy you should be having X amount of sex
• 27:09
  a week. I actually don't know what the
• 27:10
  statistics is. Does anybody know it?
• 27:13
  Does anyone know that that statistic is 8?
• 27:18
  You wish. You wish pal.
• 27:21
  Wouldn't. Be the case, will you stop?
• 27:22
  Will you let's just say once a week, right?
• 27:25
  It's not, but we'll just. We'll say twice.
• 27:27
  Twice a week, OK, And women feel that pressure to have sex for
• 27:34
  their men because we know you're grumpy.
• 27:36
  You're a moany shit if you don't get Dex.
• 27:39
  Actually make me laugh. The way you go on with that, you
• 27:42
  know, women feel like, what did you just say there?
• 27:45
  We feel like we have to, you know?
• 27:46
  Keep you happy. Some women are more into sex
• 27:49
  than that men are. We don't talk about them women
• 27:53
  because. Well, I'm serious.
• 27:55
  We don't talk about them women. Which we're we're running an
• 27:58
  objective show. We're looking at all angles of
• 28:00
  this subject some. Yeah.
• 28:02
  Some. Some women are like that.
• 28:05
  I'm not saying all, I'm saying some.
• 28:07
  Some of them women, are in our group, my group, my group of
• 28:10
  friends. But we're not talking to even
• 28:13
  address your group. But we tell them never ever
• 28:16
  admit that to anybody in case the husbands find out.
• 28:20
  OK, so as far as all of the husbands are aware, we don't
• 28:25
  like having sex that often. It's great when it happens, but
• 28:29
  you know, get into it. I.
• 28:30
  Think we should rename this episode?
• 28:37
  Terry doesn't get it. Erin hates man.
• 28:41
  I love men. Erin hates man.
• 28:45
  Why do you think I hate men? This is about sex.
• 28:50
  So what I'm saying is, is right. You're not listening to my point
• 28:55
  and I. Actually am listening to your
• 28:57
  point but I'm zoning out. You're definitely not getting it
• 29:00
  now tonight. So it wasn't getting it anyway.
• 29:03
  If oh, you could have. I would not.
• 29:06
  Not unless you were going to come into the bleeding town
• 29:08
  there and meet me somewhere. OK, so.
• 29:11
  Excuse me? What I'm saying is, is it's
• 29:14
  healthy to have the statistics twice a week.
• 29:18
  OK, made it up. I don't know, but what is the
• 29:21
  statistics for what women want us for play?
• 29:24
  My love language is affection is cuddles is nicety.
• 29:32
  That makes me sorry, I'm yawning.
• 29:35
  See, that makes me want to actually do things with you and
• 29:41
  yawning. So like that's what I mean.
• 29:44
  You're like straight in there, like Lou, but you just called it
• 29:51
  KY. Jelly isn't what it is.
• 29:53
  That was a joke. Menopause has actually.
• 29:57
  Menopause has actually given Aaron the ability to knock out a
• 30:04
  joke when it's actually said. Wasn't a funny though.
• 30:08
  Wasn't meant to be that funny. I'm not Kevin Hart.
• 30:12
  He's smiling at me, by the way. Are you sure about that, Tiny
• 30:17
  Jerry? Well, he is in height anyway,
• 30:19
  don't know about anything else. So tell me, what is your idea of
• 30:24
  what do you think is healthy for sex for for a relationship?
• 30:29
  Yeah. I'm going to be straight up with
• 30:31
  you. Yeah.
• 30:31
  From where I'm at right now in my personal life.
• 30:34
  Yeah, right. Once every two weeks.
• 30:37
  I'm good with that. That's.
• 30:38
  Fair. Because I have to be honest with
• 30:40
  you, sex is not on my priority anymore.
• 30:42
  That's not really. And you know what?
• 30:44
  I'm kind of proud of that. You're proud that you only have
• 30:47
  sex with your wife to everything.
• 30:48
  We've got to do with you. It's not got to do with you.
• 30:51
  I love you and I'm attracted to you, but like, I'm happy just to
• 30:55
  look at you. I like.
• 30:59
  It's I just don't have the energy for sex anymore.
• 31:01
  So basically you have sex with me in your mind.
• 31:05
  That's not what you said. I just tell them I love the fact
• 31:08
  that you're a beautiful looking and I have a beautiful looking
• 31:11
  wife. Can you not just say you had sex
• 31:13
  with me in your mind? You're walking by the hit by me
• 31:15
  in the gaff. I'll look at you and go, Oh
• 31:17
  yeah, right. But like.
• 31:20
  The actual. The actual act of oh Jesus
• 31:23
  Christ, now there we have now I have to do pretty much a fucking
• 31:27
  hit class now for 10 minutes. I'd be literally need a fuck,
• 31:31
  need a fucking nebulizer after, you know, so that's the.
• 31:36
  Price we're so. Old.
• 31:38
  That's why I'm saying once every two weeks is fine with me.
• 31:42
  We. Had a great honeymoon.
• 31:46
  We had a great honeymoon. Just so you know, we had a.
• 31:49
  Great. No friends.
• 31:50
  We did that a great, to be quite honest with you.
• 31:53
  I've gone. You're gonna laugh at this,
• 31:54
  right? No, don't give them too much
• 31:56
  information. I've.
• 31:57
  Gone right, But I swear to God, I think the honeymoon.
• 32:02
  Yeah, I literally. Left it all there.
• 32:05
  I left it there. I left me drive in Mauritius
• 32:10
  because I was just like, we were just like, so into each other.
• 32:14
  We were just like, no, I'm not saying that we're not into each
• 32:18
  other, but the actual energy, the drive, the whole, you know,
• 32:23
  it was just like, it's probably because we were doing, we have
• 32:27
  our lives here as well. And so and.
• 32:29
  We did. We weren't doing that bar.
• 32:31
  We're going out to line a desert island and then come on, let's
• 32:34
  go quick, grab a head in the head, like drag you into the you
• 32:37
  know, you know yourself. I think as well, like we've
• 32:41
  often like sat there and be like, I really want to have sex
• 32:44
  with you. I really do.
• 32:45
  But like, let's just sit here and just like, yeah, relax.
• 32:50
  Let's hear let's just sit here and scroll on our phones.
• 32:53
  I'll watch television like it's not that we don't.
• 32:56
  Yeah, that's. Good to do like that.
• 32:57
  Yeah. But you see that that's where,
• 33:00
  that's where. And this is a very important
• 33:01
  thing. And I'm, I'm not joking when I
• 33:03
  say this. OK, that's where as well.
• 33:07
  Companionship now becomes part of the whole thing.
• 33:10
  But I do think it's important because I do think it builds you
• 33:13
  together and that goes back to foreplay.
• 33:15
  Why do you talk about sex? Yes, you also need to do things
• 33:19
  together because date nights feel like an effort, like doing
• 33:23
  things together feels like. So not only does sex feel like
• 33:27
  that when you've so many eve. Kids, my life feels like one big
• 33:32
  effort. Yeah, and and and and that can
• 33:35
  transcend into anger and. That's what transferred me
• 33:40
  anger. Fucking stupid bleeding things
• 33:42
  piss me off. Tell me.
• 33:45
  Like what? Like finding dog shit in places
• 33:49
  where it shouldn't be. We have a puppy.
• 33:51
  Whose idea was that? Yours.
• 33:53
  Who walks it? Me.
• 33:55
  See, we got a puppy. Luckily I've tried.
• 33:59
  Luckily I've tried to pack the puppy day to actually walk
• 34:02
  itself without delayed. Erin gets ideas that but do you
• 34:06
  love the puppy? I use a grand little fella, but
• 34:09
  Jesus, like, if you ever want to know how to make your life busy
• 34:16
  and stressful and hard, Erin, those courses, yeah, she does
• 34:24
  courses. She will give you a master's
• 34:25
  degree in it. So just hook her up on her
• 34:29
  e-mail or her Instagram, whatever way you want to do it.
• 34:32
  You will not be surprised or you will not be disappointed.
• 34:36
  So that is the end of our, I don't know what episode that
• 34:41
  was. We talked about sex and men.
• 34:43
  We talked. About my my end of things, about
• 34:45
  your are we talking about was your menopause?
• 34:48
  OK, it's not the end then. Come on, give it to us what you
• 34:51
  want to talk about, Hun. Men go through hormone changes,
• 34:55
  too, and I'm going to be straight up Jay.
• 35:02
  You better hope, yeah, that I don't find my own sweet spot in
• 35:06
  my libido because I've been chasing around.
• 35:08
  I'll be chasing around the house like Benny Hill.
• 35:10
  Yeah. So hold on, tell me, what is the
• 35:15
  change as you go through? What happens is you just.
• 35:19
  It does not become a priority in your mind anymore.
• 35:22
  You don't particularly. You're just like.
• 35:28
  So you're talking about sexy time?
• 35:29
  You're libido like it's just like what?
• 35:34
  What? And that's the thing for men.
• 35:36
  And that is why men go for TRT. I'm going to be open and say it.
• 35:41
  I I'm I'm going through a process at the moment.
• 35:44
  TRT is testosterone. Going through TRT, I'm not going
• 35:47
  to lie about it, but I'm I'm still at a point where I'm on a
• 35:53
  baseline where I have to get my Bloodstone now in June again and
• 35:58
  discover what my actual numbers are naturally, because they
• 36:02
  should be for a man of my age. And most men around the tour 27
• 36:07
  to 31 count right now. A lot of people who go to the
• 36:12
  gym end up with numbers absolutely triple that, right.
• 36:16
  Or people who don't go to the gym can end up with numbers that
• 36:20
  are actually half that, right? And that's not good, right?
• 36:24
  So it's to find a sweet spot, as we say.
• 36:27
  Yeah. So in order to do that, you have
• 36:30
  to go down to a baseline. But it's all all to do with
• 36:33
  blood work. You must get blood work done.
• 36:36
  If you're shooting blind with that kind of thing, you are
• 36:39
  literally risking your life. Yeah.
• 36:41
  So also umm, you discovered too much testosterone in males
• 36:47
  actually. Has a reverse effect.
• 36:48
  Opposite and then you become like it's an.
• 36:50
  Easter well I well look, we don't mind talking about this
• 36:53
  right? OK, I don't mind anyway, because
• 36:55
  it's my issue. I I'm a gym goer.
• 36:58
  I love the gym for my sanity and for my health, blah blah blah
• 37:02
  blah blah longevity, all that kind of crap we've talked about
• 37:05
  before. And so I did, for a time, use a
• 37:11
  testosterone blind shooting, right?
• 37:15
  Blind means basically he had no bloodstone.
• 37:18
  Basically, I was self diagnosis Dr. Yeah of TRT and it started
• 37:25
  off great. For the first year.
• 37:29
  I was like Superman going around the place, right?
• 37:32
  And what happened man, when I went to the legitimate Dr. which
• 37:37
  he has me on the baseline now and he said to me, I bet you
• 37:41
  felt great. He said for the first year and
• 37:43
  after that, then he says it just you just went downhill.
• 37:47
  He says because what happens is when there's an overload, he
• 37:50
  says it has to reverse effect. You start bloating, you start
• 37:53
  feeling fatigued, and you can't even drag yourself to the gym.
• 37:57
  Do you get man boobs? You can do, but I never did.
• 38:00
  I never did. I was lucky.
• 38:02
  I was lucky. I never got on like that.
• 38:04
  Ball around, see around the waistline and this, this.
• 38:07
  And that's from. Too much.
• 38:09
  Too much, yes. And I won't even tell you what
• 38:11
  my numbers were when I was tested.
• 38:13
  It was actually staggering. Staggering.
• 38:17
  No, I'm going to ask another question, OK?
• 38:20
  And I actually, I'm a bit embarrassed about this episode
• 38:22
  because I'm a bit of a prude, like, and I'm sitting here
• 38:24
  talking about this like I'm going to tell you.
• 38:25
  What to use? Think you approved the way
• 38:27
  you're going? On I know, but I actually really
• 38:28
  am. So what happens to men, right?
• 38:31
  Because like, obviously I talked about the women's end, the thing
• 38:34
  you hear about men taking that light blue tablet thing.
• 38:38
  Yeah, no, I know you don't. But why does that happen to men?
• 38:42
  Why does it stop working when they get older?
• 38:44
  I will say this. No, seriously, why?
• 38:46
  But there is. Yeah, man, the guy, the lad in
• 38:50
  in the doctor in talented, legitimate lad.
• 38:55
  He did actually prescribe me stuff for that kind of thing.
• 38:58
  Yeah, but that's. Not for you actually walking on
• 39:01
  me, but. You don't need it.
• 39:03
  But I've no libido. Yeah.
• 39:06
  Because it's the because I'm on a baseline.
• 39:09
  No, but I I'm not talking about libido.
• 39:11
  I'm talking about when men get a little bit older and their
• 39:14
  little thingy or big thingy stops walking.
• 39:17
  Why? Why does it stop walking?
• 39:19
  Yeah, I think it's hard to do with blood flow.
• 39:22
  So real stuffs flowing down there.
• 39:24
  Well, I think the older, I think, I think the all, I think
• 39:28
  just just Terry's theory again, it's not a fact, right?
• 39:31
  Terry's theory is not a fact, by the way.
• 39:33
  It's just an opinion, right? I believe it's blood flow,
• 39:36
  right? And the all that we get, our
• 39:39
  blood does not flow as freely as it should in every part of our
• 39:43
  body. And I believe that's included
• 39:45
  in. Can we actually have a real
• 39:47
  life? You know which you know we need
• 39:49
  to get. You know we need to get.
• 39:51
  Give me a Google please answer to why men's bits don't walk
• 39:56
  anymore when they reach a. Certain age need to get like
• 39:59
  what Joe Rogan has the Google screen so we can talk about it
• 40:05
  and go, well, there you go, there's the fact.
• 40:08
  Why men's willies stop walking when they reach a certain age?
• 40:12
  Can I have a fact the next episode?
• 40:17
  OK. So it's going to be a 2 parter.
• 40:20
  We're going to talk about Willy's on the next episode.
• 40:24
  Right. So we're going to have another
• 40:26
  because this was so enlightening and really detailed a lot in it.
• 40:32
  We're going to actually have another episode on Andropause,
• 40:38
  which is the male version of menopause right now.
• 40:42
  Before I carry on with the show, can we just take a minute here
• 40:45
  to just realise that I have joined the Croc Club?
• 40:50
  Look at that bad boys. They are as comfortable as any
• 40:54
  runner you'll wear. Yeah, he's definitely getting
• 40:57
  sex with them Crocs on. Honestly, but he was how I want
• 41:01
  it. Good, because you ain't getting
• 41:03
  it with them. Like these feel like Oh my.
• 41:07
  God, we are so old. You're wearing Crocs.
• 41:10
  We're talking about menopause and men.
• 41:13
  We want you to town. At my time, yeah.
• 41:15
  And I've seen young people in their 20s, funky trendy people
• 41:18
  wearing Crocs like this. We will leave it there, folks.
• 41:22
  Folks, until next time, please keep the comments coming.
• 41:26
  Any suggestions? Anything like that?
• 41:29
  Listen, we talk a lot, but ultimately we all know love
• 41:33
  needs, not words. We'll see you next time.