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What is Entry (S5) S22:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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So, without any further ado, guys, let's kick
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this show off, all right?
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Welcome everyone.
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If I haven't said welcome to you enough,
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welcome to the Inspirations for Your Life show.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
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lifelong learner, and now I'm so grateful to
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be a published author.
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You know, guys, every week, I explore ideas
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that help us think better, live better, and
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connect more deeply with people around us.
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Now, this week's master topic is belonging drives
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action.
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By the way, it's series five and it's
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show number 22, and yeah, this is an
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important thing.
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So, belonging drives action, and today I begin
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with one of the most important starting points
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of all.
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What is that?
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Entry.
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What is entry?
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Entry is more than the moment someone walks
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into a room or through a door or
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clicks a link or accepts an invitation.
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Entry is the emotional doorway.
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It is the first experience that tells a
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person whether they are safe, seen, and welcome.
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Before people commit, before they participate, before they
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open up, they first decide whether the space
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feels right.
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That is why entry matters so much.
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It shapes trust, lowers hesitation, and creates the
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conditions for real connection.
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Now, when entry is done well, people move
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forward with less resistance, sometimes none.
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When it's unclear, cold, or overly complicated, people
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often stop before they even begin.
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The beginning of any experience carries more power
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than most people realize.
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A strong beginning does not force people in.
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It helps them want to stay.
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That is the difference between pressure and invitation,
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so between the noise and belongingness, between attention
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and the action that we take.
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Today's episode is about the kind of entry
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that creates comfort, confidence, and participation.
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I'm going to look at why the first
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impression matters, how a clear welcome changes behavior,
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and why people respond more openly when they
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feel the door is truly open.
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See, this is not just about events, communities,
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or conversations.
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It is about the way human beings respond
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to being invited into something that feels real,
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authentic, sincere.
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Entry shapes the entire experience.
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The first moment often sets the tone for
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everything that's about to follow.
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If the entry, for some reason, feels smooth,
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people are more likely to keep going through.
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If it feels even the slightest bit awkward,
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or unclear, or foggy, or ambiguous, the energy
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just drops before the real experiences even have
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a chance to begin.
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People move when the door feels open.
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People move when the door feels open.
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I think that's a point that a lot
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of people don't seem to understand.
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They don't realize what that means.
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But when I say the door is open,
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we're talking about this emotionally.
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We're talking about this emotionally.
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I think that's important to know.
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And we can understand what it means or
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why it means this.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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But a lot of times, people don't notice
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this.
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So our body notices this.
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So our body does notice it.
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And our nervous system will respond before what?
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Before we're aware of it.
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Before we're aware of it.
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So these are important things.
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And so people learn this.
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People move when the door feels open, not
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when the door feels closed, guys.
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A closed, or I'm going to say an
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uncertain door, can be a very, very big
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problem.
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A closed or uncertain door or opportunity creates
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hesitation.
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But people sense openness.
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And when they do, they naturally lean in.
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See, that small feeling of being welcomed can
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be the difference between interest and action.
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Too many people put pressure on others that,
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you know, you have to do it this
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way.
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You have to do it that way.
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And it doesn't come across as low pressure
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because it's not or no pressure.
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See, when we put pressure on something, things
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become harder for us.
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And in that token, they get more difficult
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for us because we just overwhelm ourselves.
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And that's the difference between interest and action.
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Interest is a genuine probing of some questions.
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You get to know somebody, right?
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And action can sometimes be forceful.
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It can be manipulative, right?
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Entry, which is what we're talking about here
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today.
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Entry lowers resistance, lowers resistance.
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And when it does this, well, we sometimes
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don't quite understand.
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But it's important.
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Most people, guys, are not resisting the idea
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itself.
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They're resisting uncertainty, confusion, ambiguity, or discomfort.
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See, a strong entry removes some of the
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pressure and makes the next step feel easier.
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Yeah.
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The first yes, guys, matters most.
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The first yes is not just agreement.
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It is a decision to trust the moment
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in the environment that we're in.
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Once someone says yes to entry, they become
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much more likely to say yes to what
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comes next.
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What is next?
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Next comes with something called new spaces.
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New spaces.
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And new spaces, guys, are pretty cool because
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new spaces will change our behavior fast.
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People often act differently depending on the environment
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they enter, a calm sense they have, a
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respectfulness, and an inviting space can shift their
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tone, posture, and willingness to participate almost immediately.
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That's something that just kind of boggles me.
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But it's a big secret of life, a
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very big secret of life.
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So opening the circle invites momentum.
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When people feel included, something changes in them.
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They become more open, more relaxed, and more
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ready to engage.
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That sense of inclusion builds, well, its own
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inertia of motion.
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The first step is the hardest one, guys.
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Most barriers exist before action can begin.
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Once a person takes the first step, the
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rest often becomes easy, or I should say
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easier.
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Entry is where that initial challenge gets broken.
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And I think that's an important thing to
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realize, okay?
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Good entry, guys.
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Feel safe.
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Safety is one of the strongest signals a
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space can send.
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If people feel emotionally safe, they're more likely
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to speak, listen, connect, without guarding themselves so
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tightly, being afraid of saying something or not
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saying something.
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A clear invitation beats any kind of pressure.
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Pressure can make people pull back.
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A clear, thoughtful invitation gives them room to
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decide freely.
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And that freedom often leads to a better
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response.
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Now, people act when they feel welcome.
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Belonging is powerful because it changes behavior from
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the inside out.
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When people feel that they matter, they are
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more willing to show up, contribute, and stay
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engaged.
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Yeah, that's important, guys.
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The right room creates confidence.
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Sometimes the space itself does some of the
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work.
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When a room feels right, people carry themselves
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differently and often become more willing to open
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up.
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Entry is where the trust starts to build
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and begin.
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Trust does not usually appear all at once.
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It starts with small signals, tone, clarity, a
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sense of warmth, and a demonstration of respect.
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Entry is that first place those signals are
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received.
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A simple ask can start a new path.
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Not every invitation needs to be complex.
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Sometimes one simple human ask is enough to
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help someone take a step they might not
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have taken on their own.
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First contact sets the tone.
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The way you meet someone, greet someone, or
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invite someone matters.
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First contact often stays in a person's memory
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longer than the details of the event itself.
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You can't undo a first impression.
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The threshold matters, guys.
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The threshold is the moment between the outside
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and the inside, between uncertainty and participation.
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That moment deserves care because it carries a
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lot of emotional weight.
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People need to reason to step in.
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Most people want clarity because, well, they're moving.
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And if the purpose is obvious, the benefit
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is clear, and the atmosphere feels good, they're
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much more likely to step forward.
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Entry can be soft and strong at the
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same time.
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Now, a good invitation does not have to
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be loud to be effective.
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It can be calm, confident, and welcoming all
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at once.
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Now, strength is important, and softness are not
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opposites.
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New belonging starts with one move.
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Belonging does not always begin with a grand
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gesture.
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Nope.
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Sometimes it begins with one simple response, one
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message, one arrival, one moment of courage that
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was exhibited.
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The best invitation feels human.
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People respond to sincerity.
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A real invitation feels thoughtful, personal, and grounded.
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It does not try too hard.
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And that makes it stronger.
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That makes it stronger, guys.
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And I think that's a lot of things
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that people don't realize.
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People just don't realize that.
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Open doors, guys, create opportunity, opportunity.
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When doors stay closed, chances just vanish.
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They disappear.
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When doors are open, new relationships, new ideas,
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and new energy can enter the room.
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Entry, ladies and gentlemen, is a form of
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generosity.
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All right.
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I know maybe you haven't heard of it
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that way before, but that's kind of what
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it is.
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Okay.
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That's kind of what it is.
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So welcoming someone is an act of giving.
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Did you know that?
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It says you matter here.
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You matter to me.
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And that simple message can change how a
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person feels about the entire experience that they're
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with.
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All because of that initial interaction they might
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have had with the host or maybe some
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people that were at the event.
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They've already been started.
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A warm welcome changes the whole dynamic and
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experience.
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And warmth has a way of making people,
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shall we say, relax.
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And once they relax, they listen better.
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They connect more easily.
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And they participate more naturally.
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Now, one, this is important.
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One, ladies and gentlemen, one clear doorway beats
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10 vague ideas.
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10 vague ideas.
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Confusion slows people down.
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Clarity helps them move.
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If you want action, make the entrance simple,
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understandable, and easy to recognize.
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Now, the start decides the story.
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The start decides the story.
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The opening of any experience influences how people
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interpret the rest of it.
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So a positive start creates a better chance
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for a positive outcome.
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Entry gives people permission.
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Sometimes people are waiting to be invited before
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they feel allowed to participate.
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To participate.
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And that sounds crazy, right?
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That they're allowed to participate.
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And I think that confuses some people.
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Entry, guys, gives them that permission without any
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kind of pressure.
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Without any kind of pressure.
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So good entry will remove fear.
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Fear grows in uncertainty.
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And when the path is clear and the
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welcome is real, fear tends to soften.
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And action becomes more possible.
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People remember how they were invited.
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The invitation itself often stays with them.
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A thoughtful welcome can make someone feel valued
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long before the main experience, even, begins.
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The first moment shapes the rest.
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What do I mean by that?
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I mean, you don't get a chance to
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make a second impression.
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It's sad, but it's our truth.
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The first moment shapes the rest.
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Early participation of any interaction affects people.
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And how they interpret everything.
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After.
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And that's why entry should never be treated
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as an afterthought.
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Never treat it as an afterthought.
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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Never treat it as an afterthought.
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Because if you do, guys, you're going to
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find that things just don't work.
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Right?
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And they don't work because you're probably in
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some type of a loop.
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In some type of loop.
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And that loop is going to get you
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frustrated because you're never going to get out
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of the loop.
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Like in computer programming, we call it an
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endless loop.
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You know, if a user enters a value
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and that value can't get cleared properly, it
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keeps going to a loop or a kind
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of condition gets hit.
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Because they enter some output that we didn't,
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let's say, foresee.
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Now the program gets stuck.
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I'll give you a perfect example.
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Individual resolve.
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If I enter, let's say, another character beside
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a number, it doesn't check that.
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It freezes.
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Have to wait about 30 or 40 seconds
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and the program closes down.
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I have to reopen or close it down
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manually.
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Right?
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And that happens a lot.
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But they've yet to fix that.
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So welcoming someone, guys, is a leadership move.
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It's a leadership move.
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Strong leadership is not just about direction.
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It's about creating conditions where others feel safe
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enough to join, to participate, and grow.
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And grow.
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That's important, guys.
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And grow.
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And grow.
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A lot of people forget that life is
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a constant thing where, you know, people don't
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understand that.
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They don't understand a point that I want
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to talk to you right now about.
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And that's about every turn, guys.
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We have to notice something different happens.
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You know what that is?
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I'm going to tell you.
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That's the entry.
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That is the entry.
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And if we can understand that, life gets
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easier.
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Life gets easier.
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And I say that to you because when
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you understand this, and you understand why something's
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working a certain way, you can appreciate it.
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So entry turns interest into participation.
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Interest is only the beginning.
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And entry is what helps interest become action.
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And action is what creates that sense of
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belongingness.
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That sense of belonging.
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And maybe people are fearful.
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That could be because of something that happened
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in the past.
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And they're replaying that.
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Entry is what helps interest become action.
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Action is what creates belongingness.
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As you think, ladies and gentlemen, about today's
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episode, I want you to remember this, okay?
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People do not just respond to what you
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offer.
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Let me say that again.
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People do not just respond to what you
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offer.
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They do, in fact, respond to how you
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make them feel when they arrive immediately.
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Entry is the first proof that a space
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is worth stepping into.
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That's the first point, guys.
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Entry is the first proof a space is
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worth stepping into.
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And when entry is done well, not manipulative,
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it creates the trust and the comfort that
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make belonging possible.
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Possible.
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And I think sometimes people go one way,
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but then they get stuck because they somehow
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either don't follow the process through or they
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find that what they're doing doesn't work anymore.
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And I think that's the real thread, is
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that people are looking to take shortcuts.
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People think that belongingness happens overnight.
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It doesn't.
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It doesn't.
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But I know people want instant results, like
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with the toys we got here from the
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gift shop at one of the museums.
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We can realize that a model is not
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the same as the real thing.
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It might seem close, but it's not the
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real thing.
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Next, ladies and gentlemen, we'll continue building on
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this master topic by exploring how belonging moves
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from an invitation into a connection and from
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connection into lasting action.
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These are steps, guys, that cannot be rushed.
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I don't care what you're doing.
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They cannot be rushed or they will be
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a complete disaster.
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I do invite you right now to go
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and check out BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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Again, for more of my amazing, of course,
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inspiring creations, which you can look at 24
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hours a day.
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So this is going to be a great
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master topic.
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We always have great master topics.
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And we always have great granular topics.
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Now, I've had people reaching out to me
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saying, hey, can I get on your show?
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So we are in the process of implementing
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an automated interview system to screen people.
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And then after that, we'll decide who we
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want to move to the next step.
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But I have not been taking any guests
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for a while.
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I've been very busy with school and other
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stuff.
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So there's a lot happening, guys, a lot.
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But I think the biggest thing is we've
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got to be aware of not only the
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things we hear.
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We've got to be aware of the things
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we see, the things we can touch, the
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things we can smell.
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Because these parts of our body, they don't
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understand why they have so many tools, let's
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say, in their arsenal.
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And they can't do anything because they can't
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figure out how to use the tool right.
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And if you can't figure out how to
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use the tool right, don't blame the tool
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manufacturer.
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Blame the person who's trying to use the
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tool.
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They've given you instructions.
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It's not our fault that you're using your
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screwdriver like a hammer, OK?
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Or your, you know, let's say, hammer to
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screw a screw in, right?
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That's a very big problem, guys.
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So again, I invite you to check out
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BelieveMeAchieved.com.
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So what's on there?
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So I've got short form content.
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I have got long form content.
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I've got articles.
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I've got reels.
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And I've got so much more.
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But why this show exists is to explain
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to people that you can do the right
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thing.
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That's important, guys.
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You can actually make a difference.
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But the difference isn't going to be evident
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until you commit to take the action.
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I hope that all of you have a
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great night.
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And I hope that all of you understand
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that entry is something that happens autonomously.
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We don't try to control it.
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We don't try to manipulate it.
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Our body knows how to put us into
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entry mode.
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Our body knows how to connect.
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I hope you guys have a great rest
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of your day or great rest of your
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evening.
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We'll continue our master topic more on the
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next Inspirations for Your Life.
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Have a great one, everyone, and be well.