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INTERVIEW: Queen Afua & SupaNova Slom Talk Men's Health, Healing & Holistic Wellness + More · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Hold up.
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  Speaker 2: Every day I wake up. Wake your ass up. The
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  Speaker 2: Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all finished or y'all done? Morning, everybody.
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  Speaker 1: It's DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, Charlamagne Tha God. We are
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  Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club. Lorna Rose is here as well. We
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  Speaker 1: got some special guests in the building.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, indeed.
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  Speaker 1: We have Queen of Four. Welcome back. And Supernova Slam.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome back. How y'all feeling?
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  Speaker 2: How is everything?
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  Speaker 4: Everything is in divine order. Mm-hmm. You know, so we're
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  Speaker 4: making it in divine order.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 4: Life don't happen. You got to make life happen.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: So that's what we're doing right now. So thank you
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  Speaker 4: for having us.
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  Speaker 2: Holiday season is upon us.
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  Speaker 5: I see you have the Man Heal Thyself Holistic First
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  Speaker 5: Aid Kit.
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  Speaker 4: You do not play with me.
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  Speaker 2: Not at all.
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  Speaker 4: You go right to it.
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  Speaker 1: You do it.
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  Speaker 6: I just love it.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, I actually do. I have for the men in
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  Speaker 4: the house, the leadership of the brothers here, and I
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  Speaker 4: got something for your husband, but not today. I'm going
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  Speaker 4: to send it out to you.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, ma'am.
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  Speaker 4: And not for your father or your maid, okay?
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 4: But, you know, today, I'm not talking about the women.
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  Speaker 4: I'm talking to the women, though. I'm talking to the
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  Speaker 4: healer in the home to help us save our men.
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  Speaker 4: Our men are in a crisis. And, you know, and
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  Speaker 4: so the work of Man Heal Thyself book is the,
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  Speaker 4: right now that's the Bible for the men. And then
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  Speaker 4: I have some gifts, some products here. You always pull
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  Speaker 4: me right to the point. So can I just go
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  Speaker 4: to the point?
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  Speaker 3: Please.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, well, let me just go into the point.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am.
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  Speaker 4: Let's just open it up. You know, bring some kind
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  Speaker 4: of offering.
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  Speaker 2: What we got in that man here? I see the book.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you know you have the book. You already have it.
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  Speaker 4: But I also have a cute little chart that I
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  Speaker 4: have laid out this ministry up in here, up in here.
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  Speaker 4: This is a formula for the men. And what's unique
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  Speaker 4: about this formulation is that it deals with the primary
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  Speaker 4: organs in the body to restore men. because I just
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  Speaker 4: got a call last night at 10 o'clock at night.
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  Speaker 4: A sister, she's crying about her husband. He had a
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  Speaker 4: heart attack. He had a stroke. And it's in there
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  Speaker 4: and there. He's in his early 50s. He's in her 40s.
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  Speaker 4: So it's not like you've got to be 60, 70,
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  Speaker 4: 80 years old to get sick. It starts showing up. So,
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  Speaker 4: you know, something like this, when you think about the mind,
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  Speaker 4: you always have the events for the mind. And our
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  Speaker 4: men are starting to cause, you know, feel a sense
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  Speaker 4: of suicide, depression, and it's eyebrows up and hard and working.
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  Speaker 4: And the violence in our homes, you know, and in
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  Speaker 4: our hearts. And that's causing families to be displaced emotionally.
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  Speaker 4: The children, the wife, the man, the family. So demand
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  Speaker 4: the mental healing. And then heart attacks. This is this
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  Speaker 4: statistic says that heart attacks is the number one killer
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  Speaker 4: of black men. So it's not just a physical heart.
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  Speaker 4: It's also a spiritual, emotional heart. It's a broken heart.
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  Speaker 1: What's in the medicine? What's in the vitamins?
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  Speaker 4: What's in the medicine? Well, I have all the formulations here.
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  Speaker 4: I have the Kinko, Belipo for the mind. I have
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  Speaker 4: the Hawthorne Berry for the heart. I have the Burdock
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  Speaker 4: to detox the liver for those who have drugs and
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  Speaker 4: alcohol from the past. Maybe you changed your life, but
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  Speaker 4: still it's breaking down the liver from years of decay,
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  Speaker 4: from depression and stress. And then I have it here
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  Speaker 4: for the colon because I may not have it. Just
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  Speaker 4: did it after me. And when that distinction of the
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  Speaker 4: abdomen happens, it's right on the prostate. Erectile dysfunction, sexual energies,
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  Speaker 4: cancer of the colon, and of the prostate. I have
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  Speaker 4: the prostate formula that me and Supernova put together. And
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  Speaker 4: then I have the valerian for the nervous system caused stress.
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  Speaker 4: Because if you don't know what's in nature, then you
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  Speaker 4: are susceptible to a lot of health issues and challenges.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and men, young men getting erectile dysfunction.
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  Speaker 1: To the mic, to the mic.
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  Speaker 3: Young men getting erectile dysfunction at 19, 20, 21. That's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: You know, that's crazy, right?
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  Speaker 7: And so we have herbs like salt palmetto, dandelion, ashwagandha,
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  Speaker 7: tangat ali, yohimbe.
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  Speaker 3: It helps to restore that flow, you know?
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  Speaker 7: So when you have flow in the prostate and it's
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  Speaker 7: the opposite of the blockage, you won't have any issues
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  Speaker 7: with that. And a lot of men have issues, especially,
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  Speaker 7: you know, younger now, even to like the late 40s
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  Speaker 7: and the 50s.
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  Speaker 1: So why are you seeing it at age 19, that
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  Speaker 1: young men are having... Problems, ED problems.
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  Speaker 7: It's the accumulation of the drugs.
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  Speaker 3: It's neglect.
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  Speaker 7: When the body is neglectful and you don't pay attention
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  Speaker 7: to it, it slips away. And so it's the not
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  Speaker 7: paying attention to what the body really needs to function
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  Speaker 7: and its oxygen flow.
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  Speaker 3: And so it's clogged.
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  Speaker 7: A lot of the drinking and the drugging is acting
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  Speaker 7: as a clogging mechanism. So the body can't function, it's
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  Speaker 7: oxygen flow, and the blood is blocked. So when the
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  Speaker 7: blood is blocked, especially in the prostate, you know, from
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  Speaker 7: the prostate to the brain, that clogging apparatus shuts everything down.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder if the internet has anything to do with
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  Speaker 2: that as well.
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  Speaker 5: And what I mean by that is it's so easy
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  Speaker 5: for young men to see naked women or to see
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  Speaker 5: sex online to the point are they desensitized when it
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  Speaker 5: comes to real life.
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  Speaker 7: Well, I mean, what you organize with the mental health, right? Like,
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  Speaker 7: all of that goes into what you highlight, you know,
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  Speaker 7: because those are steps to the mental health and the
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  Speaker 7: decay and the lack of attention to that, you know,
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  Speaker 7: that self-care. So, yes, I would say all of that,
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  Speaker 7: all the over-sensory helps to take you off of that balance.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder how come men are rarely taught how to
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  Speaker 2: take care of themselves.
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  Speaker 5: Like, they teach us how to be providers, how to
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  Speaker 5: be protectors, but they rarely teach us how to take
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  Speaker 5: care of ourselves and wipe our.
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  Speaker 7: Hands well we don't we with men have we have
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  Speaker 7: never put emphasis on the self-care and as a as
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  Speaker 7: a result of that this is why most of our
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  Speaker 7: men are in a state of sickness right and so
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  Speaker 7: like you said charlamagne their onus is on providing protection
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  Speaker 7: but men offer so much more you know um to
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  Speaker 7: the table but they're not necessarily supported um in showing
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  Speaker 7: other aspects of themselves. So as a result, their mothers
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  Speaker 7: and their women in their life only see the provision
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  Speaker 7: aspect and the security aspect, but don't know that men
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  Speaker 7: have so much more to offer. And because they're not
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  Speaker 7: necessarily coming from environments that nurture them to express more
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  Speaker 7: versions of.
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  Speaker 3: Themselves, they look down upon that.
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  Speaker 7: So they kind of hold that in until it implodes
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  Speaker 7: and it turns into anger, it turns into an argument,
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  Speaker 7: it turns into shortness, right? And so the whole point
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  Speaker 7: of Man Heal Thyself is to encourage brothers to tap
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  Speaker 7: into that ability to be expressive, right? Because every man
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  Speaker 7: has a unique way of expressing and to support him
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  Speaker 7: in that ability to express that aspect of themselves.
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  Speaker 4: You said it turns into shortness?
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  Speaker 7: Well, you know, when you're not necessarily having the opportunity
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  Speaker 7: to share two versions of yourself and only two aspects,
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  Speaker 7: you know, your provision and your security, but you have
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  Speaker 7: so much more to contribute, that's frustrations. that can turn
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  Speaker 7: into blockage, that can turn into depression. Like Charlamagne talks
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  Speaker 7: about mental health, that can turn into mental health issues
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  Speaker 7: because it doesn't have an outlet to express itself.
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  Speaker 8: Just imagine, many different men. I'm like, no, but how
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  Speaker 8: is it making him short? I thought she was talking
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  Speaker 8: about the height.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, no.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: Do you have anything for brain fog? Anything to like.
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  Speaker 3: Ginkgo. Yeah, that's it.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you, Charlamagne.
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  Speaker 1: That's for men, though.
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  Speaker 2: That's for men. Women can take ginkgo.
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  Speaker 1: Women can take ginkgo as well.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: What else we got in the box?
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  Speaker 4: What else I have in the box? Well, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I did? I am a mud woman from back
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  Speaker 4: in the day. I have my clay. Y'all know about
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  Speaker 4: the clay.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, ma'am.
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  Speaker 4: But people don't want to do all that. They don't
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  Speaker 4: want to put the clay on and the gauze and
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  Speaker 4: this and that. So what I just brought forth is
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  Speaker 4: the wrap, and I call it a chest, heart, and
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  Speaker 4: prostate wrap.
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 4: So for the men... They put a wrap around the chest. Now,
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  Speaker 4: it sounds like a lot, but that's why I'm talking
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  Speaker 4: to the women. Right now, I'm not talking to men.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not going to go into the jaw, open the jaw,
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  Speaker 4: put the clay on, but the women will. And then
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  Speaker 4: it wraps around. You scoop out two tablespoons if you're
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  Speaker 4: having heart palpitations, if you're having chest pain, if you're
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  Speaker 4: having a hard time breathing. You put the rejuvenation clay,
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  Speaker 4: the zinc, potassium, calcium, magnesium on the lungs, over the prostate,
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  Speaker 4: and you've got a new man in seven days. Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 4: So this is some things you could do naturally. And
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  Speaker 4: when you look at the feet, you've got to check
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  Speaker 4: your feet because as you get older, your feet decay.
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  Speaker 4: And you get black toes. You get fungus in the feet,
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  Speaker 4: things like that, hard, brittle. And so I have the
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  Speaker 4: same clay pack wrapping around the feet. So that takes
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  Speaker 4: care of the feet, the ankles, and the knees. The
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  Speaker 4: knees give out. By the time you're 40 years old,
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  Speaker 4: 50 years old, your knees, you can't jump down and
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  Speaker 4: get back up. I just went to the ladies' room
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  Speaker 4: for a minute. They said, Queen, you're moving so quick. Well,
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  Speaker 4: I'm taking my clay. I'm taking my juices. And then
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  Speaker 4: you have longevity. I want our men to have longevity.
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  Speaker 4: What's happening by the time someone's 60 years old in
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  Speaker 4: the family, it's all women. And then you have one
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  Speaker 4: young man who's about 25, 30 years old who's still
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  Speaker 4: walking around. But as the women get older, women survive.
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  Speaker 4: You can take our breasts off. You can take our
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  Speaker 4: uterus out. You can give us a knee replacer, a
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  Speaker 4: hip replacer. And we're making it to 70, 80, and
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  Speaker 4: 90 years old. But our men, they're not. And a
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  Speaker 4: lot of times because they don't talk. They're not sharing
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  Speaker 4: in groups. So it's important for actually to get the
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  Speaker 4: book and gather men together and talk about wellness. Talk
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  Speaker 4: about your pain. And don't be ashamed if the tears
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  Speaker 4: come out. Because if you don't let those tears out,
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  Speaker 4: you have a heart attack, you have a stroke, you
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  Speaker 4: get depressed. And then they say, whatever happened to so-and-so?
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  Speaker 4: He just passed away. You know, someone came to my
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  Speaker 4: house one time visiting, and he was coming to get
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  Speaker 4: his products. And listen, you know, he's on the floor.
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  Speaker 4: And he went straight, heart attack, stroke, went to the hospital.
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  Speaker 4: You know, me and my daughter came and brought him
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  Speaker 4: juices and greens and that, and so he got out quicker.
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  Speaker 4: But we don't have to go to the ends of
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  Speaker 4: the earth before we shift and change.
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  Speaker 1: He passed out at your house?
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  Speaker 9: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Jesus.
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  Speaker 6: To visit.
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  Speaker 4: And that's something he came to visit and pick up
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  Speaker 4: his products, and he passed out on the floor.
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  Speaker 7: Let me just share with y'all some of the names
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  Speaker 7: in the hip-hop community that have been affected, what I
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  Speaker 7: call the neglect pandemic, right? You got Juice WRLD, died
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  Speaker 7: of drug overdose at 21. This is in the I
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  Speaker 7: have a chart in the beginning of Man Heal Thyself
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  Speaker 7: that shows all of the rappers and entertainers that, from
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  Speaker 7: our community, that have passed from various health disparities.
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  Speaker 2: Too many pages, bro.
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  Speaker 3: No, I'm just showing you. It's too many pages.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying, it's too many pages.
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  Speaker 7: But so you have Juice WRLD, right? Drug overdose. We
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  Speaker 7: have Big Pun, heart attack, 28. Bobby Brown Jr., died
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  Speaker 7: at 28 Eazy-E 31 Jay Dilla cardiac arrest 32 Fred
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  Speaker 7: the Godson dead at 35 for complications you know for
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  Speaker 7: around the heart and coronavirus Old Dirty Bastard drug overdose
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  Speaker 7: MC Breed kidney failure 37 Nate Dogg 41 stroke Prodigy
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  Speaker 7: complications from sickle cell 42 Heavy D he had a
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  Speaker 7: stroke Craig Mack heart failure Anthony Mason heart attack.
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  Speaker 3: Who else we have? John Singleton, Stroke. So, you know,
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  Speaker 3: it just goes into the next page.
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  Speaker 7: So self-care is the signal that I want to just echo,
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  Speaker 7: you know, like how we talk about with the mental health,
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  Speaker 7: you know, that's all part of the self-care.
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  Speaker 3: And the call to action is man, heal yourself, right?
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  Speaker 7: And imagine we can have brothers... tapping into the frequency
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  Speaker 7: of becoming wellness warriors, which I call a man that
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  Speaker 7: fights for the best quality of his life, body, mind,
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  Speaker 7: and spirit daily.
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  Speaker 3: And just taking small steps daily.
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  Speaker 7: It's like you have your responsibilities in your life, but
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  Speaker 7: if you can create small cadences throughout your day for
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  Speaker 7: your self-care, then you can start to move into a
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  Speaker 7: better place from neglect to your self-care protocol.
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  Speaker 5: What's the first thing you would tell a black man
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  Speaker 5: who thinks he's healthy simply because he's not sick?
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  Speaker 6: Well, I would say the first thing you need to
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  Speaker 6: do is take an audit.
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  Speaker 3: Take a life audit, right?
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  Speaker 7: Write down five things that are your triggers. Because a
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  Speaker 7: lot of times, men, we don't want to bother. We
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  Speaker 7: don't necessarily know what's happening with us until we pop off, right?
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  Speaker 7: And so in the book, we have protocols that just
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  Speaker 7: write down in your self-audit. So write down your five triggers,
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  Speaker 7: things that really take you out of your balance, right?
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  Speaker 7: And looking at that objectively, you get to see yourself. Like, well,
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  Speaker 7: this is, you know, if someone talks to me this way,
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  Speaker 7: if I'm not, somebody doesn't really... really hear me or
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  Speaker 7: hear me what I'm saying and my communication is misunderstood,
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  Speaker 7: that may make me.
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  Speaker 3: Feel a way.
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  Speaker 7: But just kind of seeing some of those things that
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  Speaker 7: are triggering for you allow you to be objective with
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  Speaker 7: your process. And that's the first step, you know, just
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  Speaker 7: beginning to see yourself outside of your regular condition allows
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  Speaker 7: you to say, okay, you know, maybe I need to
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  Speaker 7: change this or shift that. But if you never see
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  Speaker 7: yourself objectively, you're just kind of moving, moving until you
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  Speaker 7: burn out, that's a lot of our memory beginning to
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  Speaker 7: break down. So it's just taking small steps now. to
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  Speaker 7: begin to look at that objective mirror. That's what I
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  Speaker 7: would encourage brothers to do.
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  Speaker 4: And I know, Queen, you said you're talking to the women.
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  Speaker 9: I feel like sometimes with men in their lives, it's
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  Speaker 9: the women who notice the small things and you consistently
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  Speaker 9: bring it up, like whether it's your brother, your dad,
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  Speaker 9: your boyfriend, your husband, and then they start to take
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  Speaker 9: account of it because it's like, oh, if somebody's seeing
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  Speaker 9: that consistently, maybe it's something I should look into. Maybe
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  Speaker 9: it's something I should care about, but they don't always
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  Speaker 9: just naturally do that.
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  Speaker 4: Well, that's why we have to work as a family
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  Speaker 4: unit If we work together, then it's not like he
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  Speaker 4: has to do it all. You have to do it
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  Speaker 4: as a woman. But we do have to watch out
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  Speaker 4: for each other and support. It's really about supporting. My
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  Speaker 4: mission is to create a healer in every family.
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  Speaker 2: You are the ones.
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  Speaker 4: And a healer in every home. And if we start
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  Speaker 4: to really take on it, we can heal ourselves. Our
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  Speaker 4: grandmothers did it. Our grandfathers did it. We used plants.
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  Speaker 4: We used herbs. We used the red clay. We used
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  Speaker 4: the pot liquor. We used certain things that got us through.
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  Speaker 4: And so we just really have to bring that back.
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  Speaker 4: And it's also this fast food. It's a fast food
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  Speaker 4: generated by grab and go. You grab yourself until you
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  Speaker 4: don't be here anymore. You're grabbing this fast food. You
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  Speaker 4: eat it late at night. You lay down on the food.
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  Speaker 4: You wake up. Food hangover. So all that starts to
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  Speaker 4: implode in the colon. You know, and that colon, you
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  Speaker 4: got to wash that colon. I was a colon threat
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  Speaker 4: for 15 years. And 5, 10, 20 pounds of waste
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  Speaker 4: in the colon is going to sit down on your bladder.
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  Speaker 4: It wasn't frequent urination. It's going to sit down on
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  Speaker 4: your reproductive organs, and that contributes. And it then builds
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  Speaker 4: up to depression because you can't move like you used
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  Speaker 4: to move. But you can. You can have longevity. As
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  Speaker 4: long as you're living on this planet, if you take
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  Speaker 4: care of yourself, you can have longevity. And our men
• 14:15
  Speaker 4: are due. We're not trying to get other men. We
• 14:20
  Speaker 4: want our own men. We want our fathers to live
• 14:23
  Speaker 4: long lives. So I'm just really, that's why I'm here, really,
• 14:26
  Speaker 4: to support the women getting active Because if we don't
• 14:31
  Speaker 4: do our work, then the men don't get the healing.
• 14:34
  Speaker 4: Because we in the kitchen making the food.
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: That's right.
• 14:36
  Speaker 6: Right?
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: We make the soups, the salads, the juices. We do
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: the shopping. Even when men used to come by and
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: sit down with a man and a woman, husband and wife,
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: he would always say, honey, do we have the juicer? Honey,
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: do we have the, he's asking her, she said, yeah,
• 14:49
  Speaker 4: we have that. And we have that. And yeah, we
• 14:51
  Speaker 4: can pick that up. That's her power. Her power is
• 14:55
  Speaker 4: to heal it in the home. She takes that power. Oh,
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: he got a headache. Oh, I got something for him. Oh,
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: he got a backache. He's depressed. Oh, I got a tea.
• 15:03
  Speaker 4: I got a juice. I got a plant. I got
• 15:05
  Speaker 4: a vitamin.
• 15:05
  Speaker 6: I got a bath.
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: An argument. Just no argument. Run the tub. Put some
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: jazz music on. Have some fresh juice when you come
• 15:12
  Speaker 4: out and a salad and a soup. And he'll be
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: a whole new personality. We act like we don't have
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: any power. And we do have power to shift. Now,
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: I'm going to tell you about this one thing. Man
• 15:22
  Speaker 4: Heal Thyself book. I was doing this event online, and
• 15:27
  Speaker 4: this brother said, Queen of Four, he got out of jail.
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: The month that he got out of jail, the month
• 15:33
  Speaker 4: before leaving, he said, in my cell, there was a book.
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: Man Healed Ourselves was on my bunk bed. You don't
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: know how it got there, but it got there. So
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: he read it. He had 30 days out. When he
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: came out, he said, the reason why I'm on this
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: call right now, he was making the juices for this not-for-profit.
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: It was a women's organization. He made seven different types
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: of juices for the seven I read, which is African
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: natural lifestyle. They call it chakras. It's our culture. And
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: each juice had a frequency. And I said, brother, how'd
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: you get into it? He says, well, I read Man
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: Heal Thyself. And he said, look, he said, Queen, look
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: at my tat. The 12th man?
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: Yes, Supreme Man of Optimal Wellness.
• 16:12
  Speaker 4: The Supreme Man of Optimal Wellness on his side. So
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: you're the Supreme Man. Just to know that you can
• 16:18
  Speaker 4: go down to the ground and pull yourself back up
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: from L-indamnation. That's a big deal. Now he has his
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: own profession. He's healing other people, and he's taking care
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: of himself. So we can do it. You know, we
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: do have the power.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: How do you clean your colon? What's a good colon cleanse?
• 16:36
  Speaker 5: Because, you know, I've done colonics and stuff like that,
• 16:38
  Speaker 5: but they said that that don't even really.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: Clean your colon.
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: Well, it doesn't clean it because we go back to
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: the same habits. So we have to actually do two
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: things at once. We have to change our addiction habits.
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: Most of the time, the addiction is from sugar and
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: years of sugar. It's where the brain, the bones, the nerves.
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: So it's locked into the tissues and the cells. So
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: you'll detox, but if you don't live a lifestyle of detox,
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: I think you live a lifestyle because you're as clear
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: as a bell.
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am.
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: And you're golden and you're up. I can see it.
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: So I'm just saying when you live.
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Ma. You can also add aloe.
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: Aloe is a wonderful one.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: Aloe plant.
• 17:10
  Speaker 7: It's very bitter, but I always say what's bitter for
• 17:12
  Speaker 7: the tongue is better for the body.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: And deliver.
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: And so you could just take.
• 17:17
  Speaker 7: For starting, right, you could just take the gel part, right,
• 17:20
  Speaker 7: and you can add it to at least 12 ounces
• 17:22
  Speaker 7: or 16 ounces of water and just sip on that.
• 17:24
  Speaker 7: And it helps to soften the colon and really get
• 17:27
  Speaker 7: the waste moving. Also, what I take every day, what
• 17:29
  Speaker 7: we talk about in the book, I encourage men to
• 17:33
  Speaker 7: get the pots going, right? So take a ginger root
• 17:36
  Speaker 7: and cut them up into small pieces and steep the
• 17:39
  Speaker 7: ginger root, like boil it and then let it sit.
• 17:41
  Speaker 7: And you can add also a pinch of cayenne.
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: And just let that sip. And throughout the day or
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: throughout your workout, you.
• 17:46
  Speaker 7: Can also use it as a pre-workout too, but it
• 17:48
  Speaker 7: helps to really energize the colon and flush the colon.
• 17:51
  Speaker 7: And if the colon's flushed, you know also the prostate
• 17:54
  Speaker 7: is not as backed up too. So we talked earlier
• 17:56
  Speaker 7: about the flow and erectile dysfunction. A lot of that
• 17:59
  Speaker 7: blockage sits in the colon. So if your colon is
• 18:01
  Speaker 7: moving from the fresh ginger root and the cayenne and
• 18:05
  Speaker 7: also some of the, you know, you could use most water.
• 18:08
  Speaker 7: Some people are dehydrated. A lot of people are not
• 18:10
  Speaker 7: really drinking enough water too. That's also flow. So just
• 18:13
  Speaker 7: for brothers really focusing on, you know, being sexual viral,
• 18:16
  Speaker 7: got to have that ginger, you know, have.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: As much water as you can.
• 18:20
  Speaker 7: Make sure you have some, you know, it's like you
• 18:23
  Speaker 7: have aloe, you have ginger, you have cayenne. Find the,
• 18:27
  Speaker 7: you know, the several herbs that work with you and
• 18:30
  Speaker 7: see what you react to. You can also have, you know,
• 18:32
  Speaker 7: a lemon, a key lime or a fresh lemon. Have
• 18:35
  Speaker 7: lemon in water at least two times a day, you know,
• 18:37
  Speaker 7: once before you go to bed. So when the first
• 18:39
  Speaker 7: thing in the morning you can have a, A flush,
• 18:41
  Speaker 7: a morning flush. So the things you can do and
• 18:43
  Speaker 7: protocols we talk about in the book to really help
• 18:45
  Speaker 7: brothers have better colons, stronger prostate so they're not having
• 18:49
  Speaker 7: a retinal dysfunction. And just overall tips that how we
• 18:52
  Speaker 7: lay it out is really for men to be encouraged about, well,
• 18:55
  Speaker 7: how can I design something specifically for me? So it's
• 18:58
  Speaker 7: not necessarily mirroring supernova slalom. It's more like we lay
• 19:02
  Speaker 7: out the protocols so you can say, you know what?
• 19:03
  Speaker 7: On Monday, I can probably have my lemon and lime
• 19:06
  Speaker 7: with my water because I'm going to the gym. And
• 19:08
  Speaker 7: maybe in the evening, I can do my pot with
• 19:11
  Speaker 7: my ginger root. Pretty much getting brothers excited about designing
• 19:15
  Speaker 7: a wellness protocol for them that works for them, whether
• 19:18
  Speaker 7: they're working long hours or whether they have time to
• 19:22
  Speaker 7: really do so.
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: I'm glad you're having this conversation, man, because I know
• 19:25
  Speaker 5: a lot of men. experiencing that, but don't want to
• 19:28
  Speaker 5: have the conversation publicly.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like, NB asked me, does
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: Blue Chew work? I'm like, how the hell do I know? Yeah,
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: he did.
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: Now, look, the Honey Packs.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Honey Packs, yeah.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: Let me speak on that.
• 19:40
  Speaker 7: The Honey Packs, the Blue Chews and stuff like that,
• 19:42
  Speaker 7: what they do is they work in those moments, But what.
• 19:46
  Speaker 6: We want to encourage men to have is flow.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: You know why?
• 19:50
  Speaker 7: Because what happens is if you just do it for
• 19:53
  Speaker 7: those moments, you're not necessarily freeing up the prostate in
• 19:58
  Speaker 7: that area to be fully functional. Because there are other
• 20:01
  Speaker 7: things in your life you may have to transcend, you know,
• 20:04
  Speaker 7: like maybe cut back on some of the alcohol, you know,
• 20:07
  Speaker 7: or maybe cut back on some of.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: The fried foods.
• 20:09
  Speaker 7: So some of the things that may be blocking that area, right?
• 20:12
  Speaker 7: So I would even tell brothers, even if you're using
• 20:14
  Speaker 7: the blue chew in the honey pack, if you really
• 20:17
  Speaker 7: want to get in.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: He's lying.
• 20:26
  Speaker 6: I was just saying, I was not focusing on.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: You, brother.
• 20:28
  Speaker 7: I was just saying that if brothers even want to
• 20:30
  Speaker 7: use it for the result for that, imagine if your
• 20:33
  Speaker 7: body's in a state of, not in a state of dehydration, right?
• 20:37
  Speaker 7: And you're having your waters and your colon is not
• 20:40
  Speaker 7: backed up. Your body can function in a more optimum place, right? So,
• 20:43
  Speaker 7: you know, having brothers get more into movement and also,
• 20:45
  Speaker 7: like you said, Charlamagne, not, take the stigma away.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: Men can be able to express themselves.
• 20:51
  Speaker 7: Like, why we have to be so secretive, that's why
• 20:53
  Speaker 7: I said earlier about when we don't communicate, then something
• 20:56
  Speaker 7: triggers us so that we just pop off. And thus
• 20:58
  Speaker 7: most men, regardless of ethnicity or race. So we want
• 21:01
  Speaker 7: to get our men in the safe space to communicate
• 21:03
  Speaker 7: to each other and others, yo, listen, this is what
• 21:06
  Speaker 7: I'm dealing with.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: This is my issue.
• 21:07
  Speaker 6: And I think that's what y'all do at the expo.
• 21:09
  Speaker 7: It's actually get men to actually step forth and say,
• 21:12
  Speaker 7: you know what? The most courageous thing I can do
• 21:14
  Speaker 7: is be my expressive self.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: That's manhood.
• 21:17
  Speaker 6: That's masculinity.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: He's right about that because, you know, It's funny, I don't.
• 21:22
  Speaker 10: Want to say it's funny, but when I hear people
• 21:26
  Speaker 10: pass away, right? And a lot of times when you
• 21:28
  Speaker 10: hear that they are, you see a bunch of times
• 21:30
  Speaker 10: when they're with a woman and they die in the bedroom, right?
• 21:33
  Speaker 10: The first thing that always pops in my mind is
• 21:35
  Speaker 10: they took a gas station pill. That's the first thing
• 21:38
  Speaker 10: that pops in my mind, that they took one of
• 21:39
  Speaker 10: them gas station pills and it raises your heart and
• 21:41
  Speaker 10: it's a heart attack. That's the first thing that always
• 21:43
  Speaker 10: pops in my mind when I do that. And it
• 21:45
  Speaker 10: always scares me when I see people do that.
• 21:47
  Speaker 6: So sexual energy, right?
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: Sexuality.
• 21:51
  Speaker 7: It's a mind-body connection, right? Orgasm really in men and
• 21:56
  Speaker 7: women happens when the nervous system is in a relaxed space, right?
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 22:01
  Speaker 7: So if you're taking the gas station stuff, like I said,
• 22:03
  Speaker 7: in a moment, you can actually get the flow. But
• 22:06
  Speaker 7: if you're really able to get flow holistically in your
• 22:10
  Speaker 7: body and you get a calm, like most men are anxious.
• 22:13
  Speaker 7: So I would say, brothers, like this, foreplay. It's not
• 22:16
  Speaker 7: only just getting ready for the sex, right? Queen talked
• 22:19
  Speaker 7: about the bath. I would encourage brothers, get at least
• 22:23
  Speaker 7: 5 to 10 pounds of Epsom salt.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: Get warm water.
• 22:26
  Speaker 6: Like she said, take the jazz music or whatever music
• 22:28
  Speaker 6: relaxes you.
• 22:29
  Speaker 7: Before you meet with your woman, take a 10-minute, 15-minute soak.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Calm your nervous system. Calm your body.
• 22:35
  Speaker 6: Get into a really calm, relaxed state. That's part of
• 22:38
  Speaker 6: the foreplay.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: Then you get with your lady and you kind of
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: build everything up. You'll find that you'll.
• 22:43
  Speaker 7: Have excellent flow from that area because the body's in
• 22:46
  Speaker 7: a relaxed state and the mind is in a relaxed
• 22:48
  Speaker 7: state to actually connect to your partner.
• 22:50
  Speaker 5: I do that after working out, you know, because my
• 22:53
  Speaker 5: wife is big on that, but also growing up with
• 22:55
  Speaker 5: my grandmother, my grandmother would soak her feet.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: In Epsom salt.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: Epsom salt, right, yeah.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you soak your whole, and I soak your whole
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: body in Epsom salt.
• 23:00
  Speaker 7: So, soak your body, and just to, we want to
• 23:03
  Speaker 7: just induce that, the calming effect, right? And what the
• 23:06
  Speaker 7: calming effect does, when you show it with your partner now,
• 23:08
  Speaker 7: you're more, it's a more interactive and connective thing, right?
• 23:12
  Speaker 7: And so, imagine now you and your lady are actually
• 23:15
  Speaker 7: in one with the breathing, right? So that's only about
• 23:18
  Speaker 7: me performing and smacking it, flipping it, rubbing it down.
• 23:22
  Speaker 7: But actually, yo, actually synchronizing my breath. That's a whole
• 23:25
  Speaker 7: other level of orgasm. I'm actually breathing in one minute
• 23:28
  Speaker 7: with my woman. We actually in sync and in tune.
• 23:31
  Speaker 7: So I've been saying it opens up another chamber for
• 23:33
  Speaker 7: the brothers who are just only taught.
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: To be performative.
• 23:36
  Speaker 7: And I'm saying, man, we can have more experiences if
• 23:39
  Speaker 7: we actually open up from a deeper place of our expression,
• 23:42
  Speaker 7: even sexually.
• 23:42
  Speaker 5: Maybe he's written about this in his book when he
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: was on the gas station pills and stuff. He just
• 23:47
  Speaker 5: thought he had to bang, bang, bang, bang, bang. And
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: he didn't make his wife orgasm for 10 years.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: Whoa.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: It's not true.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: Okay, just share your story. It's not true.
• 23:56
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: Come on now. We all read the book. It's not true.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Are you a bachelor?
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: Everybody knows this story.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: Can you share your story for a minute? No, it's
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: not true. Well, some of it is true and some
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: of it is not.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to jump in.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: There was no gas station pill involved.
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: Okay. But I got something. Just after you finish, I
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: got something to help you get with the gas on
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: a natural level. Okay. So go right ahead.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Thank you, Mr.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: Fool.
• 24:18
  Speaker 6: Okay.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: As I was saying, I met my wife when I
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: was 16 and.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: She was 15.
• 24:22
  Speaker 9: Oh, my.
• 24:23
  Speaker 10: So she was the first woman that I was with sexually.
• 24:25
  Speaker 10: And I was the first person who she was with sexually.
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 24:27
  Speaker 10: So, of course, as fathers, a lot of time as men,
• 24:31
  Speaker 10: we don't talk to our kids about sexual relations, right?
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: We just don't.
• 24:34
  Speaker 10: It's just a conversation you don't. So when do where
• 24:36
  Speaker 10: do most men learn about sex by watching porn?
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Right. And you think that you go bang, bang, bang, bang, bang.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: And that's what women will like. Some women might like.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: But in that situation, we didn't connect.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 24:49
  Speaker 10: So my wife didn't reach orgasm until one day we
• 24:51
  Speaker 10: had an argument. And she told me that that wasn't it.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: Ten years.
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: I mean, it was ten years in, right?
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: And it wasn't ten years. And she never left. She
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: never gave up on that.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: You wrote ten years.
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: And that's something she never gave up. How long was it?
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: You said this. We didn't make this up.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: My wife didn't say she didn't have an orgasm. She
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: didn't have an orgasm through sexual intercourse.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: Okay, right.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: My mouth game was good. Excuse me, Ms.
• 25:08
  Speaker 5: Queen.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: You're not God.
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: Was it ten years? I have children.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: From sexual intercourse, it was around there, ballpark.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: Around there. I read his book.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: But through sexual intercourse.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: Right, right.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: But other way, not a problem. But then we had
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: that conversation happen in the argument, and then we learned
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: each other's bodies. I've been with my wife for 33 years. Amazing.
• 25:26
  Speaker 10: So we learned each other's bodies, and that's what we
• 25:29
  Speaker 10: talked about in the book. So other brothers will understand
• 25:32
  Speaker 10: what it is and not shame you.
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: Thank you for sharing.
• 25:35
  Speaker 6: That's right.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: But it had nothing to do with the gas station
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: pills back then.
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: I have a question for you.
• 25:39
  Speaker 7: So when you and your wife were learning each other's bodies,
• 25:43
  Speaker 7: how did that connection elevate?
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: That's what I want to just... No.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: I was hurt at first when she told me.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Because it was in the midst of an argument.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, of course.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: And you think you're Mr.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Mandingo and you think you put it down and then
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: when she tell you that, you're hurt.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: But then you understand it actually makes.
• 25:56
  Speaker 10: The relationship stronger because you really start learning her body
• 25:59
  Speaker 10: and she starts learning mine and we do it together.
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: So now we're in a totally different place. But back then...
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: She needed a herb.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: He needed a herb. Somebody needed a herb.
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: I think that's so profound.
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: That is profound.
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: Because if a man takes a total offense, you know
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: what ends up happening in a marriage? they have another room.
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: He lives in that room and she lives in that room.
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: That is a common attitude. So for you to transcend
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: that and go deeper into the relationship and heal that up,
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: that's high level communication.
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: That took some time.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: I ain't going to say it was overnight. No, it
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: takes time.
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: But the fact that you didn't give up, that's the word,
• 26:36
  Speaker 4: you didn't give up on each other. You said there's
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: so much value in this union that I'm willing to
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: fight on a higher level to keep the relationship going.
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: So now they have a wonderful sexual life.
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: That's right. We're six kids after.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: We're six kids later.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: But some men will make fun of you. But now the-
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: This is a safe space.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: You spoke out.
• 26:53
  Speaker 6: You spoke out.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: But the crazy thing about it is we joke and
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: we laugh. And I take it. I don't care. But
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: the funny thing about it is so many men and
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: women hit me after it.
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: Like, oh, this is with my husband.
• 27:04
  Speaker 10: And my husband thinks this. And I've been faking it
• 27:05
  Speaker 10: for so long. Now I'm going to have the conversation
• 27:07
  Speaker 10: with her.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Men would hit me and be like, well, how did
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: you get around it? How did you get a part
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: of it? Like the DMs, the texts, it's just been crazy.
• 27:13
  Speaker 10: But that was the reason why we wrote the book
• 27:15
  Speaker 10: because we were like, if we ever go into it,
• 27:17
  Speaker 10: I'm sure people will.
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: A lot of people are. Yeah.
• 27:20
  Speaker 7: And, you know, you said the word value. A lot
• 27:24
  Speaker 7: of men have not put value in themselves. The value
• 27:28
  Speaker 7: has become the watch, the car, the woman, attainment. And
• 27:33
  Speaker 7: then it becomes property, right? But so if we can
• 27:36
  Speaker 7: get our men to take that same principle of how
• 27:40
  Speaker 7: he externalizes things and begin to slowly... take steps, like
• 27:44
  Speaker 7: Demby said with his situation, take steps to know himself
• 27:47
  Speaker 7: and get to really be in tune, it's transformative, right?
• 27:51
  Speaker 7: And think of how he can show up better as
• 27:53
  Speaker 7: a lover to.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: His woman, right?
• 27:54
  Speaker 7: Because now he values himself, right? And the woman that
• 27:57
  Speaker 7: he values is a reflection of him. It's not necessarily something.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: He has to... Like a property, I have to own
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: that and I'm nervous if it does anything.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: Well, no.
• 28:04
  Speaker 7: Well, this is a reflection of how I treat myself, right?
• 28:07
  Speaker 7: And so that's what the steps we want to encourage
• 28:09
  Speaker 7: men to take with themselves. And that's why I said earlier, Charlamagne,
• 28:12
  Speaker 7: about doing an audit. Like the first thing I would
• 28:14
  Speaker 7: tell a man... is yo, what are your five triggers
• 28:18
  Speaker 7: that you can just express and just be open about
• 28:20
  Speaker 7: that you probably never even told your closest road dog
• 28:23
  Speaker 7: or your mother or your brother?
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: What are they?
• 28:26
  Speaker 7: Because what happens is if you never say it out
• 28:27
  Speaker 7: loud and people do it, you didn't even establish the boundaries.
• 28:30
  Speaker 7: So they'll do stuff and you'll be ready to pop
• 28:32
  Speaker 7: off and explode. The first step of the thing, healing
• 28:34
  Speaker 7: is man, know thyself. So just write five things that,
• 28:38
  Speaker 7: and then write five things that you know that inspire you,
• 28:41
  Speaker 7: just simple, not necessarily something external, right? And when a
• 28:46
  Speaker 7: man can look at that objectively, now he has five
• 28:48
  Speaker 7: things that are triggers and five things that may bring
• 28:51
  Speaker 7: him that balance, right? And then he can use that
• 28:53
  Speaker 7: as a kind of balance as he's going through his
• 28:55
  Speaker 7: life and his relationships to kind of gauge and then
• 28:58
  Speaker 7: use it as a communication to, hey, you know, to
• 29:01
  Speaker 7: his wife, you know what, I didn't appreciate when you
• 29:03
  Speaker 7: this and that and that. And she never really heard
• 29:04
  Speaker 7: him articulate it because now.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: He was able to do it for himself.
• 29:07
  Speaker 6: So just, you know, those simple principles and steps.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: That's one of the most important things I learned in therapy.
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: I don't like when people cough. Right. Like, and don't
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: cover their mouth. Right. I don't like it.
• 29:18
  Speaker 6: Does your man know that?
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: Did you ever communicate that to him?
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: No, he, he does it.
• 29:22
  Speaker 6: He'll come in here.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, he's covering my mouth.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: No, no, no.
• 29:24
  Speaker 8: He'll come in here sick. So he needs some herbs
• 29:26
  Speaker 8: for sickness too. He'll come in here sick and he
• 29:28
  Speaker 8: know he's sick, but you know, he got six kids
• 29:30
  Speaker 8: and he don't want to get them even more sick.
• 29:32
  Speaker 8: So he'll come here and he doesn't care about us three.
• 29:35
  Speaker 8: And so he'll come in and he'll say.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: And it's like, whoa, you know what I mean?
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: And then I'm sick the next day.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying?
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I don't like that.
• 29:43
  Speaker 5: He don't make his woman orgasm. He come in here
• 29:45
  Speaker 5: and make people sick. We didn't even get to how
• 29:47
  Speaker 5: he don't clean his ass part.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: Oh my God, that was going on in the marriage.
• 29:50
  Speaker 10: Okay, we got it, brother. So right now, I do
• 29:53
  Speaker 10: have six kids, right? And my six kids, I have...
• 29:56
  Speaker 10: vary from 24 to 4, and they're very active kids.
• 30:00
  Speaker 10: When one comes home with a cold, we.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: All get a cold.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: It just so happens that I'm usually the worst, right?
• 30:07
  Speaker 10: And I don't care how many vitamins I take, how
• 30:09
  Speaker 10: I eat, it doesn't, I just get sick, right?
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: The problem with it is I travel a lot, right?
• 30:14
  Speaker 10: So where most people will get eight hours of sleep,
• 30:17
  Speaker 10: I don't. Even if I go to bed early, which
• 30:19
  Speaker 10: early for us might be 9, 10 o'clock, I'm still
• 30:21
  Speaker 10: up at 4. I'm not getting my proper sleep. So
• 30:23
  Speaker 10: Of course I'm going to stay sick.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: You better take this box, God. You better take this
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: man here.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: So when I come up here, I do get a
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: little sick. And I pass it to my family. If
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: she got it, I got it. If she got it,
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: I got it. If I got it, she got it.
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: I'm in my second wind of it right now. Yes,
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: I am.
• 30:37
  Speaker 6: She's feeling it.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: She's under the weather. Okay, so that means you're the
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: main one. We have to get you straight. This is
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: your day.
• 30:44
  Speaker 6: But you know what?
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: You being able to say, okay, it's me, but it's
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: not just you. No, it's our men. It's what we're
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: going through.
• 30:51
  Speaker 10: I think Angela Rye gave it to me, but I'll
• 30:53
  Speaker 10: accept it.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: And let me just finish because I don't want you
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: to think that I got a dirty ass.
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: No, no, no.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: Look at this headline, Queen of Four.
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: Okay, let me take a look at that.
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: Put your readers on and look at this headline, Queen
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: of Four. No, this right here, right here, right here.
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: DJ Envy says his wife had to show him how
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: to wash his butt properly in the shower. Okay, but
• 31:14
  Speaker 4: that's why I say it's on the women.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: Listen.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Let Queen of Four talk.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: Let me explain.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: No, there's nothing to explain. The headline is right there.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: Let me explain.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: You know how they switch things up.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: Exactly. I was in here. I heard him say that.
• 31:27
  Speaker 10: We were talking one morning about cleaning ourselves as men, right?
• 31:30
  Speaker 10: And I said the sad thing about it is I
• 31:33
  Speaker 10: did not learn how to wash my butt properly until
• 31:36
  Speaker 10: one day I was showering with my wife.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Let me explain to you.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: He was in his 30s.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: My 30s. So, you know, as a thing, you learn
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: how to wash, you just wash your ass. My wife
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: taught me sometimes, well, not sometimes, but you have to
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: go up in there to make sure it's clean. Most
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: men don't even know that because when I did it again,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: most men and women said, damn, my husband doesn't know that.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: One day when I was washing with.
• 31:57
  Speaker 10: My wife and you wash each other's sexual, she washed
• 31:59
  Speaker 10: me and I was like, oh, I didn't know you're
• 32:01
  Speaker 10: supposed to wash like that.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: That's all it was.
• 32:02
  Speaker 10: I still had the washcloth and I wiped between my crack,
• 32:05
  Speaker 10: but she taught me how to make sure my butt
• 32:07
  Speaker 10: was properly clean.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: It's up to the, it's going to be on us. Now,
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: the women have an attitude. Now, your wife didn't have
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: an attitude about it, obviously.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: Yes, she did.
• 32:14
  Speaker 6: She loved you enough.
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: She got so fed up, she did it herself.
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: She just didn't give up.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: She got so fed up, she washed it herself.
• 32:20
  Speaker 10: She was early on in our relationship, and I see
• 32:22
  Speaker 10: that sometimes it's why I hate sharing.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: Because I try to.
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: Share to help other brothers out there.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: I love the fact that you are sharing. And they
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: shame me.
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: It takes courage to speak the truth. Because you're not
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: by yourself.
• 32:34
  Speaker 6: And this is what the women are going through.
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: They're not speaking to the men necessarily. The men are
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: not speaking to the women. So I like, this is like,
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: we're in the prize fight of the moment. But I
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: also say, you know, and What you can do to
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: get your blood flow, because it's a blood flow, sexual
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: energy is a blood flow.
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: I don't have blood flow problems.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Could you let Queen of Ford talk, please?
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: Yes. You're safe, Envy. Okay, take your cranberry juice for
• 32:55
  Speaker 4: the men and the women, because really the rectal dysfunction
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: and the heart condition is the arteries. You know how
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: many men are getting stents now?
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: They have their artery open, cut open, basically cleared out.
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: And then they put a straw in it to keep
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: it open, otherwise it will collapse again. Of course, yes.
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: And now it's a heart attack, it's a stroke, it's
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: rectal dysfunction. It has above, so below. Take in your cranberry,
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: the blueberries, the same for the women. The blueberries, the blackberries,
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: the raspberry, the cranberry, the beets, the ginger, the cayenne pepper.
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: You have to take that at least three times a week.
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: But in terms of cleaning up, it's really the baths.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: If you get him in the tub, he'll be more
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: connected to himself. Because when we don't clean the body,
• 33:34
  Speaker 4: it's just we're just not connected. We just get up,
• 33:36
  Speaker 4: go to the bathroom, shake it, and keep walking.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 33:39
  Speaker 4: That's not enough.
• 33:40
  Speaker 6: And that's our culture.
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: The culture is the healing baths.
• 33:43
  Speaker 7: We talk about the importance of men taking healing baths
• 33:46
  Speaker 7: and men heal ourselves because that's his time where he
• 33:49
  Speaker 7: can actually just.
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: Sit with himself. Yeah. You know, outside of. Maybe being
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: a father, husband.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: You know, moving forward, taking that 15, 20 minutes. I'm
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: going to give you a breath of life.
• 34:02
  Speaker 6: I can't even call him now.
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: You see me holding my phone?
• 34:04
  Speaker 6: My eyes are red.
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: I can't even call him.
• 34:06
  Speaker 6: Look at the face.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: I did come around. He covered that part.
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: I did.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: Go in my pocketbook and give Team 5 a breath
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: of life.
• 34:12
  Speaker 6: Go in my pocketbook.
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: And find a brother life.
• 34:17
  Speaker 7: The men taking the time to do the sulk, it's
• 34:21
  Speaker 7: a state of intimacy with himself and as far as
• 34:25
  Speaker 7: him being present with himself. And again, cultivating that presence
• 34:30
  Speaker 7: with himself allows him to show up better with others.
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: Come over here and get somebody to take you on
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: your tongue. What does that do? Don't make Queen get
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: up now.
• 34:38
  Speaker 4: I'm about to get up.
• 34:39
  Speaker 7: This is organic cold-pressed peppermint and eucalyptus.
• 34:43
  Speaker 6: Oh, she lied that she.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: Gave me that.
• 34:46
  Speaker 8: And, yes, actually, yeah, Lauren needs something, too.
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: It's all holistic, yes, come on.
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: He needs to be in those knees in front of
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: a woman.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: Charlotte, get off his head!
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: One drop under the tongue.
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: One drop. There you go.
• 35:00
  Speaker 6: Now breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth.
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: Can I do the same thing as you? Fine.
• 35:09
  Speaker 9: Like, he just put that in.
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: Come on, come on.
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah, helps to open up. Yep, yep.
• 35:14
  Speaker 6: Let me put my hand on the couch.
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: Don't fucking touch her hair.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: Yo.
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: Don't you touch her hair. Yes, ma'am.
• 35:22
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 35:23
  Speaker 3: Mm-mm.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: I'll be here trying to help him, though.
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: Now, have some water. Now, I don't know what that is.
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: That's water.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: That's water.
• 35:30
  Speaker 4: Okay, have a little water with it. Watch, no more coffee.
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: You can breathe? I don't drink coffee. I just drink tea.
• 35:35
  Speaker 6: No more coffee.
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: You want more coffee. Have some water right quick.
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: Not coffee.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: Can you get me a water? Yeah. That's incredible, man.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: It is. It's just real time. We have to learn
• 35:44
  Speaker 4: the basics and how to eat to live. Back in
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: the day, remember, how to eat to live, the nature
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: of Islam. We have to start taking what's from the garden.
• 35:52
  Speaker 4: We have to use food as medicine. And it's all there.
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: And we have to make time for ourselves. Men have
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: to make time for themselves. We take massages. We get facials.
• 36:01
  Speaker 4: We go to the bathhouse. We get our feet done.
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: We do a lot of things on ourselves, a lot
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: of self-care around the women. But the men are not
• 36:09
  Speaker 4: doing the self-care.
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: And this is why we.
• 36:11
  Speaker 7: Wrote the book, just to give men the tools and
• 36:13
  Speaker 7: the principles so they can be encouraged to care for themselves.
• 36:16
  Speaker 5: I learn from the women. I go get manicures, pedicures.
• 36:19
  Speaker 5: I do the Epsom salt baths. I go to the spa.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: He gets waxed. He gets waxed all the time. I
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: get waxed. I do. I absolutely do.
• 36:26
  Speaker 4: Y'all know each other's business.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: Yes, they do.
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: Yes, they do.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: How do we get the product, Queen of Food? What
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: do we do?
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: Oh, queenoffood.com. Just go to queenoffood.com and you'll get a kit.
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: I would say get this kit because it's a good
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: starter's kit.
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 36:41
  Speaker 4: And when I came here, the Spirit said, you know
• 36:43
  Speaker 4: what you're missing here? Just put a little bottle of
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: the breath of life.
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: You get the bottle of the breath of life in.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: Every day.
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: You put that in your pocket. You can move with that.
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: Make your tea at nighttime. Just put three cups of water.
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: Put the tea in for the sorbent and for the prostate.
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: for the heart, for the nervous system, for the brain.
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: It's like a checkpoint. Check, check, check. Is my body
• 37:02
  Speaker 4: in tune? And you might just do that seven days
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: every month. It's a maintenance. If you don't have a maintenance,
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: you will not be able to maintain. Ascension, maintain, my
• 37:11
  Speaker 4: eyes sustain. That's an affirmation. So it's not about getting
• 37:15
  Speaker 4: a colonic, and that's it. It's not about washing once
• 37:18
  Speaker 4: and not getting back to that. It's not about just
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: eating well and have a glass of green juice and
• 37:24
  Speaker 4: now I'm good for the whole season. No, you're not
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: good unless you're good for life. This is a way
• 37:29
  Speaker 4: of life.
• 37:29
  Speaker 7: Let me just read this to y'all just as we
• 37:31
  Speaker 7: close out. This will encourage the brothers with the vision. Man,
• 37:35
  Speaker 7: heal thyself is a call for men to awaken their
• 37:37
  Speaker 7: personal power through daily self-care and intentional wellness. When a
• 37:42
  Speaker 7: man commits to his own healing, mind, body, and spirit,
• 37:45
  Speaker 7: that inner work radiates outward, deepening his relationships with his friends,
• 37:50
  Speaker 7: his family, elevating his impact for everything he creates and contributes.
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: To the world.
• 37:56
  Speaker 7: That's the spirit of Man Heal Thyself, to encourage brothers
• 37:59
  Speaker 7: to care for themselves so they won't be careless. The
• 38:02
  Speaker 7: more we have the men being careless, the world is
• 38:07
  Speaker 7: affected by that careless behavior. When we have our men
• 38:09
  Speaker 7: start caring for themselves... Everybody benefits. He benefits to better himself,
• 38:14
  Speaker 7: to become a better version of himself, and all his
• 38:16
  Speaker 7: relations benefit from that.
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: And that's the spirit of man, heal thyself.
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: I am so opened up right now.
• 38:21
  Speaker 8: Yeah, but I'm telling you, that breath of life is
• 38:23
  Speaker 8: no joke.
• 38:23
  Speaker 3: Now, I struggle with the tea.
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: I struggle with that because I'm just not real with it.
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: Maybe it's one or two things that work for you.
• 38:28
  Speaker 4: Work with it.
• 38:29
  Speaker 8: But that breath of life, that is like the heat.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: Get on your knees.
• 38:33
  Speaker 6: Oh, yeah, get on your knees.
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: Embiid.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: You better not touch his head. Oh, my God.
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: And get the water.
• 38:43
  Speaker 6: Get the water going.
• 38:44
  Speaker 8: They don't know nothing about it.
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: I don't have the breath of life of.
• 38:49
  Speaker 6: Queen of Four Seasons. That is the key.
• 38:52
  Speaker 4: That is the key to everything. Well, you take it
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: not every day. You take it when you need it.
• 38:58
  Speaker 9: Oh, I mean like it's not just for like if
• 38:59
  Speaker 9: you're gonna sick.
• 39:01
  Speaker 4: No, you take to prevent the issue.
• 39:03
  Speaker 6: Take your water behind you.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: I've been told about this.
• 39:06
  Speaker 4: Let me tell you, my formulas work. The book works.
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: We have the formulas.
• 39:10
  Speaker 4: The clay works.
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: Get this at Amazon. It's available at Amazon. Yes, sir.
• 39:14
  Speaker 7: Right, y'all can get this book. today, purchase it. Sisters,
• 39:17
  Speaker 7: get it for your husbands, get it for your sons.
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: And meet it together as a couple.
• 39:21
  Speaker 7: And encourage because women, I call women are the first
• 39:23
  Speaker 7: healers and women are the first wellness warriors. Like Charlamagne said,
• 39:26
  Speaker 7: women master the self-care protocol so we want to get
• 39:29
  Speaker 7: our men encouraged by that. So definitely support the men
• 39:32
  Speaker 7: in their healing.
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: Well, thank you for joining us this morning.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: We appreciate it.
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: Appreciate y'all.
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: It's The Breakfast Club.
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: Good morning.