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3 AUTISM in girls Symptoms (INTRIGUING · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey guys, what's up about three autism and girl symptoms, but I
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  think you'll find very interesting and I go my friend
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  Anna Tapas up. Let's do it.
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  Hey guys, I'm done. I have Aspergers Syndrome ADHD
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  OCD and dyslexia. Okay guys today.
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  I'm joined by Anna movement from other women's YouTube channel,
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  which is super awesome surf videos on like autism and stuff.
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  And yeah, and it will explain about your tongue a little bit.
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  Hi. Everyone is an inhuman and I
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  have my own YouTube channel touching on my personal
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  experience of living with Asperger syndrome.
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  And add cool. Okay.
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  So, you know that we're going to every single video.
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  I like to read out questions from you guys from my Instagram
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  account. Now, if you want to be featured
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  in a video just like this they always like Instagram account.
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  Give me a follow and you'll be notified every time I ask you to
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  ask me questions and you could be featured in the video just
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  like this. So I'm going to go through and
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  read the questions out. So the first question is from HL
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  partner and they said how do I help in how do I get help in
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  school without being weird? And I would you say this.
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  How would you answer this one? Don't feel weird for asking for
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  help. Yeah, you know, we all need help
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  in some degree and I just have a private conversation with a
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  teacher that you trust that you get along with and just explain
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  your situation and explaining needs and I'm sure they'll be
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  happy to help definitely. I think the school has a duty of
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  care to make sure you're looked after so anybody talks of an
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  authority in the school should be able to help you.
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  But yeah, don't feel weird man to feel empowered.
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  Okay. So the next question is from
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  Josh and the score Brooke Brooke still it.
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  Soon extremely with an X instead of the a for Brooklyn.
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  There you go. You can see it on screen.
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  Okay, so they said are you ever going to do a meet-and-greet and
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  Lead now? I live no one near Leeds.
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  But if I get the chance to do a talk or a convention anything in
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  Leeds, I will definitely do a meet-and-greet like I do with
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  any single place I go to and yeah, just I will do it.
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  Just keep up to date with all my socials when you'll know if I'm
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  ever in that area Okay. So the last question is from Jen
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  intuitive. Like I saw.
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  What I'm saying it now and they said hey fellow absolutely here
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  and then it's mine. If it would you ever come to
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  Amsterdam? Well, actually I was in
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  Amsterdam a couple of weeks ago actually had a layover and I'm
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  sorry, it's Amsterdam then I went from us not to Boston,
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  Massachusetts. So I've been to Amsterdam Brown.
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  I've been out in the actual like country like wherever is this
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  the cool cities in Amsterdam, whatever.
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  I've never actually been outside of the airport.
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  I'd love to go. Have you ever meet up sometime?
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  Oh, yeah. Yeah good.
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  There's lots of nice buildings that yeah, and there's lots of
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  Drinking and Drugs in themselves about everything but I would
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  love to go but I think I just have to avoid all the craziness.
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  I think it's doable. I think it's doable.
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  Yeah, it's tough to look at a map and know where I'm gonna go.
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  But if anyone with that and he said it was an interesting
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  experience OK guys. So that was all the Instagram
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  questions we have for today. So like I said in this video
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  we're going to be talking about three specific symptoms for
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  autism in girls because I have the pleasure of having out of
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  here to have as highlight from her perspective and some hurt
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  our knowledge base, you know these Specific characteristics
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  and symptoms traits whatever you want to call them.
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  So to give to you guys today. So we're going to go through
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  three of the interesting ones. So I'm going to add a takeover.
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  What and I'll introduce each one.
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  So the first one we'll talk about is that big old special
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  interest so part of it what special address from your
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  perspective? Well, I mean everybody with
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  Asperger's I've got a special interest While most people
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  anyway and but I think in women and girls are there manifest
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  themselves in a way that it's more socially acceptable or
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  Normal, and so, you know some of mine in my early years were
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  Polly Pocket, but I had an obsession with Polly Pocket.
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  I wouldn't go to school without taking a Polly Pocket with me
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  and it got pretty yeah enter Syria and they later on it was
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  Pokemon and you know, everybody else just thought you know, it's
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  a normal thing, you know, it's trendy that's what all the kids
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  are into but I could memorize the whole Pokedex
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  chronologically. Lee and get people to test me on
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  it and I did the exact same thing.
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  Well the Pokedex like the digit on to test I give you can test
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  me on the Pokedex school. I just love and ya later on it
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  was a Collins gem little book of kings and queens and I could
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  memorize all the monarchs from buddhic.
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  Oh, that's how you pronounce it. So I forgotten all that now by
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  the way, and but yeah, my daily special interests were kind of
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  normal ones, but they kind of took it to the next level if you
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  know what I mean comes like intense, doesn't it?
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  Yeah, sometimes his how did your parents deal with those special
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  interests? They just rolled with it really
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  and but just encouraged me to do other things instead of sitting
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  for hours and hours memorizing the Pokedex.
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  Oh, so yeah, but that I didn't really want to do anything else,
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  you know, once you're in the zone and you've got that special
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  interest, that's it. Well because it was more of a
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  normal interest people didn't really say anything.
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  So here's a question. How do you know?
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  That's something to special interests on door.
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  Just something that people just like generally I would you know,
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  it's a trait for autism because it takes half of your life.
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  You stay up til 3 o'clock in the morning until you can memorize a
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  river. Yeah, because it's almost like
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  that thing that you always want to talk about money.
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  Only thing you want to look at. Yeah, exactly.
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  And when you're little like you just want to talk about it and
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  then everyone's like this is boring.
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  Yeah, we did that with the same thing comes the next thing
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  Williams off, but I think it's a super interesting.
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  It's a very topical topic right now and it's hot right now is
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  masking masking is Try so I wanted to look at obviously
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  briefly cover this and I'll do a video on a feature of all about
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  masking and kind of in-depth but right now what's up, whereas on
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  a kind of like a characteristic base?
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  How would you describe from your point of view and some
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  experiences that you've had with it?
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  So people could potentially relate to masking.
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  It's well, it's a symptom and A coping mechanism because you
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  know when you're not sure how to behave or how to speak to people
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  and you just feel like an alien, you know when you see people
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  Communicate with each other on TV and you know, we just kind of
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  pick up from there and and yeah just learn off what people say
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  in on TV and like probably all know, you know, you know fans it
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  gets a bit embarrassing because it's not really appropriate or
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  something. Like I said a lot of things when
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  I was younger that looking back now, we're just completely
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  embarrassing and irrelevant. But yes, I saw it on TV.
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  I just thought that's what people said, you know, so in
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  terms of like Like you said, it's like it's coping as well as
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  kind of like I'm asking for. So how would you say it copes?
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  Like what will be the coping part of it would be how would
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  you explain that to cover your autism?
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  Even though that sounds really bad because like in some ways in
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  some contexts you kind of feel like you have to be more
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  outgoing and more neurotypical and it just makes life easier,
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  even though it shouldn't really be that way because there's
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  nothing wrong with being autistic.
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  It's fine. Yeah, but you're trying to fit
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  into society is built around neurotypical people.
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  It's really difficult. And I think like yeah just to
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  add into this. I think the adverse effect of
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  actually using masking It's A coping mechanism is that you
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  will have a burner eventually from it because only so much you
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  can actually put in before it gets exhausting yet.
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  Incredibly exhausting. Yeah, definitely and I can
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  definitely sympathize then, you know, I think I guess like males
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  do mask as well, but I don't think it's as much as females
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  because I feel like there's this trade within being a female that
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  they want to always be like Quite independent and to manage
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  their you know, who they are and what they're doing and I think
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  Nails as well. Yeah be like every everybody
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  else kind of attitude fascinating though.
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  I think like this resonates as well.
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  And I think anybody watching this who like, you know,
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  potentially on the Spectrum will go through that kind of haul
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  process. If you relate to anything I'm
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  saying let us know in the comment section below.
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  Let us know how you feel about anything you can add to this
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  expand on the story because I'd love to have a discussion about
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  therefore we coming back and obviously she will be coming
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  back to check the comments and coming in as well.
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  The last one that we'll go through the last kind of symptom
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  E-Trade characteristic where everyone call it and we're going
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  to talk about social anxiety. And this is a big one and it
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  affects people differently and I'll let you explain like social
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  anxiety and I'll jump in right at the end - anxiety is
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  definitely Larry I'd say it's the biggest one and you know,
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  sometimes females are misdiagnosed with just social
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  anxiety their artistic. Yes, you know, there's some hide
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  it very well. There's always that time.
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  I say and because as people with Autism we find it very difficult
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  to communicate. You know, we're always wondering
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  if what we're saying is right, you know, if we're walking right
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  and stuff like that. There's just so much anxiety and
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  everything. So yeah, that's that's a big
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  one. How did you say that it
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  manifests you on a daily basis? How would you give an example of
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  social anxiety on a daily basis? Like what's one of the biggest
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  things I one of the things that you most notice from social
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  anxiety affecting you do. Lee it just happens all the
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  time. I mean, you know when I go to
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  the gym sometimes I take like one to two hours getting ready
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  for the gym because I don't want to go outside but I want to go
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  to the gym but there's people there and there's bright lights
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  and there's noise and you know in supermarkets again Bright
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  Lights noise beeping Sirens, whoop some whistles.
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  Thought we were late. It's crazy.
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  It is horrible. Does it so much?
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  Sensory stuff happening and just the general.
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  I just know like there's definitely the unpredictability
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  of Life. Yeah, it's crazy, isn't it?
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  Cause I love having the applicability or even having a
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  schedule to follow but when you're outside like in stores
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  and stuff, I mean Jim's it's like Christmas what I don't want
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  to do actually work out in the house.
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  I try and do everything here because like nobody goes to the
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  gym and and she's able to I could not go to the gym.
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  So what she does is just have like any social anxiety, but she
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  takes like a sieve Edie going through it obviously Link in
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  description if you're interested in those you get some money off
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  as well, but I think you know I can totally relate to that but I
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  think it's from my experience that girls have a quite more
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  intensified because again, it's I feel like it's something that
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  that is always a parent in females and also the but with
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  guys are kind of spikes and literally has dips and swags.
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  And so I think that's what kind of contrast it's super super
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  interesting. But if you think that this could
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  help us somebody that you know, please share it on their social
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  profiles because this is the idea that what we're doing is
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  we're just trying to help reach out to Change someone's life for
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  the better movie. So if you think it would help
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  again, please share this video. Okay, guys, I just like to thank
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  Allah for come on the channel and talking to us today about
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  these awesome characters and traits from her point of view.
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  I find it very very interesting. There's always good to have
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  guests on the as we also thank you so much for taking the time
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  to come down here and the 4-Hour drive that she took to get here
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  which is crazy and like I don't like I'm not jelly at all
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  because like that's what does a crazy driver.
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  I don't want to have enough. So, thank you Anna and we will
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  see. You next time guys.
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  Yeah.