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#546 Holiday Highlight - Todd Rose · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers me now Gooday.
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Speaker 2: This is doctor Justin Coilson, the founder of Happy Families
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Speaker 2: dot com dot Au and the Six Kids. Normally, I'm
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Speaker 2: here with Kylie, my wife, missus Happy Families as my
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Speaker 2: parenting podcast co hosts. But it's school holidays in Queens
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Speaker 2: and I hope that you're having a great school holiday
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Speaker 2: break with your kids. Kylie and I will be back
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Speaker 2: from our holidays with a whole lot of new episodes
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Speaker 2: of the Happy Families podcast starting again on July the eleventh,
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Speaker 2: but for now, some highlights from recent Happy Families podcasts.
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Speaker 2: Every now and again, I get to talk to an
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Speaker 2: absolute just somebody who blows me away. A couple of
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Speaker 2: years ago, I read a book called The End of Average,
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Speaker 2: and then the following year I read Dark Horse. They
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Speaker 2: were literally two of my favorite books each year. I
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Speaker 2: just at the top of my list of favorite books
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Speaker 2: that I read that year the End of Average and
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Speaker 2: Dark Course, written by Todd Rose. He had a chat
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Speaker 2: with Kylie and I in episode number one hundred and
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Speaker 2: ninety one of the Happy Families podcast, and we touched
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Speaker 2: on how to work with your child who is making
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Speaker 2: a life choice that you don't agree with. So how
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Speaker 2: do you deal with your child wanting to make a
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Speaker 2: life choice that doesn't seem like the right idea at
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Speaker 2: the time.
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Speaker 1: Some things are just bad choices, right. Well, let's be clear, right,
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Speaker 1: not every path is a fulfilling path. But one of
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Speaker 1: the things that especially with older kids, and I think
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Speaker 1: for younger kids, I have different advice about some of
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Speaker 1: the things that I think parents should focus on. But
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Speaker 1: for older kids, like in a Saturday system, whatever it is,
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Speaker 1: at least we know the mile markers, right, We kind
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Speaker 1: of know how to tell whether we're making progress. When
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Speaker 1: you choose to pursue a path of fulfillment, it's a
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Speaker 1: unique path, so it's not as easy to know am
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Speaker 1: I am I on path? Or am I just like
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Speaker 1: literally a dead end? So this is the thing that
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Speaker 1: I think, like one of the things that I would
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Speaker 1: always ask is is your child taking a responsibility for
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Speaker 1: the choices? Right? So, like if you have a kid
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Speaker 1: who wants to be an actress and they're like, I'm
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Speaker 1: going to Hollywood, right, and it's like they're living with
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Speaker 1: six roommates, they're waiting tables to pay the bills and
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Speaker 1: they're doing it. That's not bad. That is a really
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Speaker 1: good sign. It may not turn out that she's going
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Speaker 1: to be a celebrity actress, but it is a good path. Right.
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Speaker 1: But if she's like, hey, listen, I expect you to
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Speaker 1: pay for my rent and oh I need a car
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Speaker 1: and you're not taking like, without fail, not a single
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Speaker 1: successful dark Horse that we studied ever shirk responsibility, right,
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Speaker 1: Because if it is a path of meeting and fulfillment,
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Speaker 1: you will take responsibility. You will do what it takes. Right.
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Speaker 1: So if you see your kid being willing to lean
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Speaker 1: into it and on the responsibility, man lean into it
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Speaker 1: with them because it may not be their their their
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Speaker 1: long term life outcome, but it will be a great
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Speaker 1: learning experience and you never know what comes next.
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Speaker 2: That's Todd Rose from episode number one hundred and ninety one,
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Speaker 2: Professor Todd Rose from Harvard. He wrote the end of
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Speaker 2: average and dark Horse. Have you enjoyed that chat? If
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Speaker 2: you'd like to hear more of that conversation, Episode number
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Speaker 2: one hundred and ninety one is where you can find
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Speaker 2: the entire interview. Your daughter just walked by, eyes glued
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Speaker 2: to her phone expression unreadable. You ask her to put
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Speaker 2: it down, but she balalks. You know it's not good
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Speaker 2: for her, but you're not sure why or how to
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Speaker 2: support better choices. In the webinar, pixel perfect I joined
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Speaker 2: with psychologists and Team tech expert Jocelyn Brewer to discuss
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Speaker 2: how to set screen boundaries that work for you and
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Speaker 2: your daughter. Check out pixel perfect now on the Happy
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Speaker 2: Families webshop. Really appreciate you listening to the Happy Families podcast.
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Speaker 2: If you ever find us talking about something that you
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Speaker 2: would love to have some input on, you can email
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Speaker 2: us podcasts at happyfamilies dot com dot au. We especially
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Speaker 2: love it when you send us voice memos. Open up
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Speaker 2: your telephone, click on the voice memos app and just
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Speaker 2: tell us what's on your mind. Try to keep it
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Speaker 2: to twenty or thirty seconds. The shorter it can be,
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Speaker 2: the more likely it is that we can use it
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Speaker 2: on the podcast. Podcasts at happy families dot com dot
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Speaker 2: you send us your voice memos, we would love to
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Speaker 2: have your voice as part of the Happy Families podcast,
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Speaker 2: which is produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media. Craig
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Speaker 2: Bruce is our executive producer and if you'd like more
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