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Turn off the "NARCISSIST TV" · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about how to get over a narcissist.
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  And one of the main ways to get over a narcissist is to turn off
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  the narcissist TV. Stop watching their social media
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  if you're new here. My name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Y'all got a wisdom tooth pulled
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  out of that. It's weird.
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  I got my mouth. Ah, less teeth in my mouth.
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  The narcissist has lost a little bit of his bite.
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  But seriously, turn off the Narcissist TV.
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  That's one of the main one of the most efficient ways to heal
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  from a toxic relationship y'all is to stop watching their social
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  media. And this is me being realistic,
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  me being open and honest with you right there.
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  You have to stop watching their social media stuff.
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  You have to stop finding out about their what what they have
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  going on in their life after they've moved on, how they're
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  trying to work, wondering about and see how they're treated in
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  the new supply. You have to flip it off, flip
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  off the TV because it's interesting.
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  It could be interesting, but like I I get it.
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  I get it. You want to see how this person
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  is doing. They moved on.
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  Whatever is going on. I understand that space.
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  But in order to heal, you have to turn it off because the more
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  you watch it, the more you typically, the more you
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  typically going to end up hurting yourself.
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  This is where I go to, well, I I like to talk about pain
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  shopping. Like when you go, when you
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  literally go shopping for pain, like you're literally shopping
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  for pain. Like you're literally on their
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  social media shopping for things that are going to hurt you.
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  Like I know some people just like, I want to see, I want to
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  see them suffer. I want to see how bad they're
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  doing. I want to do this.
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  I want to do that. Yeah, most of the times, no
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  matter what they're they post. You're not going to leave their
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  page feeling good. You're not going to leave their
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  social media feeling good. You're not going to leave their
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  whatever LinkedIn feeling good. You know why?
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  Because they're they're y'all not with you.
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  You're still not over it. Like even if they post something
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  bad, like I just got in a car accident and I hurt my leg or
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  you can be like, you deserve that.
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  Some of y'all might, but most of y'all.
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  Or if you if you're empathetic and you have a lot of impact in
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  the empathy, you can be like, oh, this sucks.
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  I feel bad for this person. Maybe I should call them you.
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  Now you back that you suck back into it.
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  You know, now you suck back into the space.
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  Now you suck back into the relationship dynamic.
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  Turn off the narcissist TV. The more you watch, the more
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  you're going to end up hurt. The more you see here, like like
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  there's really nothing to see here.
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  So the more you continue to watch this stuff and stuff, the
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  the more hurt you're going to be.
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  That's just the dynamic. That's just the way it goes for
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  real. The more you turn it on, the
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  more you watch them, the more you're going to end up in pain,
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  pain, shopping, literally. You get your grocery bag, you go
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  into the store and you're looking for things that are
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  going to hurt you because nothing on that page is going to
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  make you feel good. Y'all, I'm just being realistic.
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  Ask yourself when you when you get the need to want to go on
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  their social media and your hand is shaking and you're wobbling
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  and you're trying to figure out what, Ask yourself, what are you
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  looking for? Not only what are you looking
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  for? Why are you looking?
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  You know, why am I here? Ask these.
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  These are questions you have to ask yourself.
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  Why am I here? You know, what am I doing?
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  What what? What do I gain for watching
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  their social media? What do I gain for peeking at
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  their stuff? What what what?
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  What? What?
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  What? What am I?
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  What am I, what am I gaining here?
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  You know, what's the positive outcome that I'm expecting from
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  watching their social media, from seeing them being like most
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  time you're going to see if they, especially if they
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  discarded you and they moved on to the new supply.
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  Most of the stuff you're going to be watching is going to hurt
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  your feelings and make it. It can ruin your whole day from
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  looking from a snippet for a 5 second decision.
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  Look at their social media can ruin the whole can ruin your
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  whole day. You might be waking up happy and
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  healed today, right? You might be happy and healed
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  today. But guess what?
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  You peek at their social media and now you're right back in it.
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  You mean now you're right back to the pain.
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  Now you're right back to the hurting.
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  Now you're right back to regretting doing it in the 1st
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  place. Why do I look at their social
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  media now my stomach hurts. Now my head hurts.
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  You're going to feel something. It is not going to be good
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  typically. So ask yourself, what are you
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  looking for? What are you looking for?
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  Why are you looking? What is?
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  What is the outcome that you're trying to generate here?
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  You know what I mean? Believe that.
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  What if they're watching me? You get turned.
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  Look, you got the remote, you have the remote control, you
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  have a universal remote control, You can turn off their TV by
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  blocking them and you can turn off your TV by blocking them.
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  And this is what happens as well.
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  Y'all believe. What if I have them blocked and
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  my friends keep sending me stuff, keep telling me stuff?
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  Like you see what they did, you see what they did.
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  You got to tell your friends to turn off the TV as well.
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  So hey look friends, if y'all I'm trying to heal.
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  I'm trying to grow from this space right here.
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  I can't heal and grow. If y'all are still constantly
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  sending me this type of stuff for what they're doing, I don't
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  care what they're doing. You know I'm trying to heal.
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  I'm trying to grow. I'm trying to move forward.
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  So I don't care what they have going on.
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  I don't care what they're doing. I don't care.
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  I don't care. I don't care.
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  Y'all can watch it. If you want to, you know y'all
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  are adults. You can do what you want to do.
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  But please don't share it with me, because that doesn't help me
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  heal. It doesn't.
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  And they should. If these are really, really your
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  friends, they should respect your boundaries, shouldn't they?
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  If these are really your friends, if these are really
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  your partners, they should respect your boundaries, right?
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  They should respect your boundaries, so hopefully they
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  do. If they respect your batteries,
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  you keep moving forward, you heal, you grow, you keep moving
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  on. You know what I mean?
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  Like, but everybody has to turn it off because it's a group.
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  Like that's how you heal. Y'all ask yourself, what are you
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  getting from looking at their social media, from looking, from
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  staying in contact with them for trying to be friends with them?
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  You know, ask yourself. I feel like that helps you out
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  in these situations. Y'all because there's nothing to
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  gain from looking at it. So I know.
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  Let me go ahead and say this too.
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  If they're talking dangerous or yeah, for threats and things of
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  that nature, if they're threatening you or something
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  like that, I get that to document evidence, but that's
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  all this should be for us to document evidence.
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  It shouldn't be for your pleasure to look at them and
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  they're down and pray on pray on their downfall because that that
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  circles back to you. You can pray on their downfall,
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  but that will spin back to you, doesn't it?
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  You know. So ask yourself, what are you
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  looking for in these spaces? What's going on in this?
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  Like when you what? Turn off the narcissist TV every
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  time? Look, that's what a matter of
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  fact. Every time you get ready to look
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  at their social media, I want y'all to hear my voice saying
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  turn off the narcissist TV from above.
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  Turn it off, Turn it off. Play some What's it?
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  The Teddy Pendergrass? Turn it off.
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  That is what it said. Play that song.
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  Turn off the lights. Turn off the TV.
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  Stop watching their social media because no good can come up
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  there. Y'all because like I say, even
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  if they post something negative, that might play prey on your
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  empathy and may it hurt your feelings and make you want to
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  reach out, connect to you, connect to them more.
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  I mean, maybe they don't have anybody else that's going to be
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  there for them. Maybe they need me.
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  And now you're back into it because you turned on the damn
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  narcissist TV because you start watching talk, watching talk to
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  TV. You know, this happens quite a
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  bit. Y'all.
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  So I just want y'all to be safe, you know, because if you know,
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  you get sucked back into it. And also y'all, I'll, I'll end
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  it with this. It's going to be a short and
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  sweet episode. I'll end it with this right
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  here. A lot of narcissists include
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  myself. They assume that you're watching
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  them anyway. A lot of narcissists live.
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  You know what I mean? A lot of narcissists live their
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  lives on social media, like their ex is watching them.
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  So they're already thinking that you're watching them in any way.
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  Maybe. Maybe if you are, maybe you are.
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  So sometimes if they're thinking, if they have that
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  mindset that you're watching them, some of the stuff that
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  they're posting is intentionally to set you off, is intended to
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  hurt your fellows, is intended to get to, to put, to put you in
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  a certain type of mindset. So think about that before the
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  next time you hop on their social media, like maybe they're
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  posting stuff to hurt my fellows.
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  Maybe they are, maybe they are. Anyways, y'all thought y'all
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  short and sweet to the point. Think y'all was tuning in.
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  I'm out. Peace.
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  Thank you so much for making it to the end of my video.
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  You are a mental illness Rockstar and I appreciate you
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