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I Choose...A Life of Service with Claire Babineaux-Fontenot · I Choose Me with Jennie Garth

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  Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hi, everyone,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all about
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  Speaker 1: the choices we make and where they lead us. The
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  Speaker 1: holidays are upon us. It's very easy sometimes I know
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  Speaker 1: I've fallen victim to this, to get caught up in
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  Speaker 1: the gifts and the parties and the food, but sometimes
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  Speaker 1: losing sight of what's really important. My guest today is
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  Speaker 1: the CEO of an organization that's near and dear to
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  Speaker 1: my heart and is helping so many people all year long.
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  Speaker 1: Please welcome Claire Babineau Fontaneau, the CEO of Feeding America,
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  Speaker 1: to the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hi.
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  Speaker 1: How are you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excellent. I'm really excited about this opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I'm so happy that you're here today. I have
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  Speaker 1: been a part of Feeding America, working with Feeding America
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  Speaker 1: for a long long time now. I did a PSA
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  Speaker 1: for them many moons ago that is still running. I
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  Speaker 1: still catch it here and there, which I am so
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  Speaker 1: proud of. And yeah, I've done a lot of like
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  Speaker 1: you know, going to feed the homeless at the food
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  Speaker 1: banks and passing out oranges and fruits and just really
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  Speaker 1: enjoy working with you all.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: Well, if you ever hear me interviewed and I say
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  Speaker 3: thank you to the Freedom American Network, then no, I'm
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  Speaker 3: talking about you too.
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  Speaker 1: Then a perfect.
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  Speaker 3: It includes all the volunteers, it includes every minute, So
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  Speaker 3: thank you for.
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  Speaker 1: That so many people. Before we dive in to the
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  Speaker 1: amazing work you're doing, I want to just kind of
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  Speaker 1: start at the beginning because your life is so fascinating.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like giving back and helping others was your destiny.
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  Speaker 1: Your parents cared for am I right on this one
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  Speaker 1: hundred and eight children?
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  Speaker 2: You are correct?
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  Speaker 3: Good one hundred and eight And if my mother were
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  Speaker 3: doing this interview, she would tell you. My mom had
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  Speaker 3: one hundred and eight children. She was mother to all
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  Speaker 3: of us, in each of us in extraordinary ways. Her
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  Speaker 3: beginnings were so humble, but what she understood was how
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  Speaker 3: powerful one person can be as a force for good
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  Speaker 3: in the world. She provided a remarkable example for all
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  Speaker 3: of us. And I'd like to think that I'm finally
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  Speaker 3: in a role where I get to live into the
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  Speaker 3: example that she provided.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that must feel so good. It does. I know
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  Speaker 1: it's a combination, so everybody's clear. It was a combination
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  Speaker 1: of birth, adoption, and fostering. She was a mother to
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and eight, but you know, yes, exactly, exactly
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  Speaker 1: even think that's possible.
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  Speaker 3: She did not give birth to one hundred night, thank God.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Tell me what it was like growing up in a
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  Speaker 1: house with so many, so many people.
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  Speaker 3: It's all I ever have known, by the way, so
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  Speaker 3: I don't have anything to contrast it with.
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  Speaker 2: But it was. It was crazy, It was.
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  Speaker 3: Loud, It was at moments so unified and beautiful. One
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  Speaker 3: of the special talents that my mother in particular had
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  Speaker 3: in my father had as well, was a way to
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  Speaker 3: resonate with each of us in our in our uniqueness. Right,
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  Speaker 3: So I didn't ever feel like I was part of
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  Speaker 3: anything that was homogeneous, but I don't think that any
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  Speaker 3: of us did. The standards that were set for us
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  Speaker 3: were unique to our talents and our capabilities. We were all,
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  Speaker 3: every single one of us expected to find ways to
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  Speaker 3: deploy those talents and to give back to the world.
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  Speaker 2: It was. It was fascinating.
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  Speaker 3: So I have friends who are only children who'd come
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  Speaker 3: to visit me just for the spectacle of it. I
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  Speaker 3: think in most cases they felt better about their home
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  Speaker 3: lives when they left because of the chaos that was
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  Speaker 3: our household. So imagine there were usually about sixteen of
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  Speaker 3: us at home at a time. Imagine if we ever
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  Speaker 3: tried to sit at one table, it would be like
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  Speaker 3: that Walton table, you know, the long, long table with
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  Speaker 3: benches on the sides, if we were ever going to
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  Speaker 3: all get around a table, and lots of laughter, lots
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  Speaker 3: of dancing, lots of singing, though most of us sang badly,
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  Speaker 3: and I still sing badly, but it was a joyful,
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  Speaker 3: chaotic home.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, growing up in a large family like that.
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  Speaker 1: It's clear to see that your mom had such a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful impact on you. But what kind of lessons do
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  Speaker 1: you think you learned subconsciously?
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  Speaker 3: Mmm? You know, that's an interesting one. I hope that
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  Speaker 3: this doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: Bring the mood down.
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  Speaker 3: But it was rad or common for me to go
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  Speaker 3: to school with a certain number siblings and to come
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  Speaker 3: home and to have a new person join our family.
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  Speaker 3: And growing up in that household taught me things about
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  Speaker 3: how different people need different things emotionally, so that for
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  Speaker 3: some of my new little brothers or sisters, or sometimes
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  Speaker 3: my siblings came and triplicate and even among three who
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  Speaker 3: had biological connections a hug might help or a hug
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  Speaker 3: might hurt. So we learned as a collective family sensitivity
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  Speaker 3: around things like that. Another really powerful thing that we
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  Speaker 3: learned was how beautiful diversity can be, how it can
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  Speaker 3: in fact be a superpower. Is something I try to
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  Speaker 3: bring to everything that I do. Is that that realization
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  Speaker 3: I've I've leveraged those learnings in the for profit world
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  Speaker 3: when I was executive vice president and of finance and
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  Speaker 3: treasurer at Walmart. As a lawyer, I leveraged it, and
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  Speaker 3: I certainly leveraged it today at Feeding America. Diverse teams
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  Speaker 3: win more, no matter how you define winning, Diverse teams
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  Speaker 3: win more. And we as a family were a diverse team.
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  Speaker 3: So nobody could beat us at some of the backyard
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  Speaker 3: basketball games or softball games or yeah, we we were
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  Speaker 3: a force. We were of course those babinots.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Oh it's so good though. So you sort
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  Speaker 1: of I'm wondering, you know, you went into law school
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  Speaker 1: I did. Was that you sort of trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: out what it is that was your unique talent to
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  Speaker 1: give to the world.
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely. Now, our grandparents on both sides were sharecroppers and
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  Speaker 3: didn't have any formal education, and English was not a
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  Speaker 3: first language for any of them. Folk that French patois creole.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Neither of my parents graduated high school, and the collective
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  Speaker 3: of all six of those people were absolutely brilliant, and
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  Speaker 3: it was so obvious. But I got the chance to
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  Speaker 3: graduate high school and then to go to college. But
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  Speaker 3: when I was a little girl, I remember so vividly
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  Speaker 3: talking to my father and telling him in a defiant tone,
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  Speaker 3: as if I expected him to challenge it, that when
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  Speaker 3: I grew up, I was going to be a lawyer.
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  Speaker 3: And I recall that he said, with no hesitation, of
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  Speaker 3: course you will. Now he did follow it up with
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  Speaker 3: you argue all the time. At least that way somebody
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  Speaker 3: will pay you to do it, which I also did
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  Speaker 3: not forget. But I felt destined to advocate on behalf
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  Speaker 3: of other people, to use my loud mouth, my big mouth,
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  Speaker 3: in service of others. I thought I was going to
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  Speaker 3: be a children's rights advocate, because so many of us
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  Speaker 3: the normal path to joining our family was because something
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  Speaker 3: was desperately broken and the one you were born to
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  Speaker 3: so visible. And I wanted to be a force for
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  Speaker 3: good for children like us, like my siblings, and me.
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  Speaker 3: So that's the kind of lawyer I was planning to be.
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  Speaker 3: That's not exactly the kind of lawyer I became.
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  Speaker 2: What happened It was the plan.
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  Speaker 3: I don't even you know, I've been trying to figure
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  Speaker 3: out what happened. But I always had a head for math,
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  Speaker 3: and i'd like to believe a heart for people. So
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  Speaker 3: I went on to law school. And then I was
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  Speaker 3: sitting in the lobby of my law school, Southern University
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  Speaker 3: Law Center.
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  Speaker 2: Go jags out and sitting with.
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  Speaker 3: My my study partners, and I looked around and you know,
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  Speaker 3: anybody who's graduated from from Southern who's a tax lawyer?
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  Speaker 3: Because I kind of liked that area, and nobody could
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  Speaker 3: think of anybody says, Oh, I think that's what I'll do.
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  Speaker 3: It was the most random thing, and I'm not right,
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  Speaker 3: I am not random.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, taxes is not something people are like volunteering to
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  Speaker 1: exact will.
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  Speaker 3: So I went to I worked, I graduated law school.
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  Speaker 3: I hadn't taken any tax classes. By the way, this
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  Speaker 3: is at the end of law school that I'm thinking
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  Speaker 3: about this, and I have this epiphany. So I worked
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  Speaker 3: for Revenue for about nine months and it solidified in
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  Speaker 3: my mind that it was something that I really enjoyed.
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  Speaker 3: So then I went back and got another ludgery from
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  Speaker 3: Southern Methodist University. Southern has to be in every name
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  Speaker 3: of every school I go to, apparently over in Dallas,
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  Speaker 3: and I have an lemit taxation.
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  Speaker 2: And then I.
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  Speaker 3: Got all of these chances to do all kinds of
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  Speaker 3: wonderful things. And I knew no one in my family,
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  Speaker 3: no one that I grew up with, who had the
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  Speaker 3: kinds of chances that I had, and I kept saying yes.
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  Speaker 2: To all of them. So I became a tax lawyer.
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  Speaker 3: I worked in government, I worked in Big four accounting,
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  Speaker 3: I worked in a major law firm. Walmart was my client.
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  Speaker 3: They kind of like the way I handled things. They
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  Speaker 3: asked me to come in house. I said yes to
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  Speaker 3: that too, So I wound up having this career in law,
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  Speaker 3: but in commercial litigation, but mostly mostly in tax. And
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  Speaker 3: then went into Walmart, where I did tax, but I
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  Speaker 3: did finance, and then became the treasurer there. So none
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  Speaker 3: of that was part of the grand plan. And I
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  Speaker 3: was quite the planner.
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  Speaker 2: As a kid.
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  Speaker 3: I had a whole plan for what I was going
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  Speaker 3: to do, and I did not do those things, but
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  Speaker 3: what I did get to do was was pretty extraordinary.
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  Speaker 3: And what I get to do now, oh my goodness.
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  Speaker 3: It actually makes me want to cry every time I
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  Speaker 3: think about the privilege that it is to get to
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  Speaker 3: do what I do today.
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk about that in a second. But
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  Speaker 1: first of all, you said you have a head for
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  Speaker 1: math and a heart for people. I love that so much.
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  Speaker 1: Those are words that I would never say, at least
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  Speaker 1: the head for math part, but definitely, yes, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: have to come up with something for my head. But
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  Speaker 1: you said you were working at Walmart. You were there
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  Speaker 1: for a while, like over ten.
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  Speaker 3: Years, right, that's right, closer to thirteen.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, And then again, life took a turn that
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  Speaker 1: you were into expecting. You were diagnosed with cancer in
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  Speaker 1: twenty fifteen, and your life changed as it does. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: can you kind of walk us through what? How do
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  Speaker 1: you get through? What do you do in those moments?
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  Speaker 3: Wow? Well, first off, what a beautifully aptly titled podcast
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  Speaker 3: you have here, Because I definitely chose me. I had
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  Speaker 3: up until the moment of being diagnosed with cancer, I
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  Speaker 3: was doing things mostly because I thought, well, I can't
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  Speaker 3: miss this chance. It was less about I want this chance,
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  Speaker 3: but more about, well, I can't let this chance go.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to have to say yes to that. Wow,
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  Speaker 3: are they asking me to do that? Oh, I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to have to say yes to that. The first time
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  Speaker 3: as an actual professional that I set with my thoughts
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  Speaker 3: and my heart and said, but what do you want
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  Speaker 3: to do? Not just what's available to you, but what
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  Speaker 3: do you want to do? And oh, by the way,
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  Speaker 3: you don't get always to answer this question. One of
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  Speaker 3: the greatest gifts in the ugliest package of my whole
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  Speaker 3: life was that cancer, because it was the thing that
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  Speaker 3: woke me up to the fact that I needed to
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  Speaker 3: make a me choice there. And the choice I made
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  Speaker 3: was to leave a very comfortable situation that I had
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  Speaker 3: in a company that had shown me a lot of grace.
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  Speaker 3: I'd gotten so many opportunities to grow while I was there.
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  Speaker 3: I'd been able to achieve financial heightst I never even
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  Speaker 3: imagined for myself, although I was a big dreamer. It
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  Speaker 3: provided security not only for myself but also for other
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  Speaker 3: family members that I was able to lift up and
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  Speaker 3: send to school and all those things. And that cancer
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  Speaker 3: said it's time for you.
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  Speaker 2: To go and I'm like, where am I going? I
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  Speaker 2: don't even know where I'm going.
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  Speaker 3: I had been gainfully employed every day of my life
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  Speaker 3: from my first job I worked. I was gainfully employed
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  Speaker 3: throughout college, throughout law school, throughout law school. Again, I
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  Speaker 3: had never had any window of time from the time
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  Speaker 3: I got my first job that I was not gainful employed.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm saying, I'm about to take a leap, and
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  Speaker 3: I don't even know where I'm going. But if I
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  Speaker 3: stayed at Walmart, if I waited until the right opportunity came,
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  Speaker 3: I was not going to leave. And I knew that
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  Speaker 3: I needed to leave.
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  Speaker 2: So I leaped.
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  Speaker 3: And I feel so privileged that I could make such
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  Speaker 3: a choice. Most people don't get to make choices like
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  Speaker 3: that without concern over whether or not their children are
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  Speaker 3: going to be able to go to school, or what
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  Speaker 3: kind of lives they're going to have. I knew that
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  Speaker 3: I had the security where I could do that and
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  Speaker 3: jump into the insecurity of what the future was going
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  Speaker 3: to hold.
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  Speaker 2: So I did. So I leaked, And.
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  Speaker 1: You left just for the sole purpose of leaping.
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  Speaker 3: I left because I knew in my bones that I
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  Speaker 3: had the ability to be of greater service I'd asked
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  Speaker 3: myself in the doctor's office when the doctor when the
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  Speaker 3: pathology report came in, I remember, I'll never forget, of course,
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  Speaker 3: when the doctor actually used those words and told me
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  Speaker 3: that I had cancer, I remember that. In a split second,
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  Speaker 3: I asked myself, what if the best thing I might
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  Speaker 3: possibly do professionally were the best thing I could possibly
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  Speaker 3: do at Walmart? Would that be okay? And my answer
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  Speaker 3: was no? And that's why I leaked. Is I leapt
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  Speaker 3: towards something in the nonprofit space. I didn't know where
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  Speaker 3: I was going, but I knew it would be nonprofit.
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  Speaker 2: That part I knew.
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  Speaker 3: I knew that I was going to dedicate the rest
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  Speaker 3: of me to service. I knew that it was going
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  Speaker 3: to be somewhere in the nonprofit space. I knew that
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  Speaker 3: I had certain passions, but I didn't know exactly where
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  Speaker 3: it was going to go. I didn't have a job
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  Speaker 3: offer or even job prospects. But I also, as I said,
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  Speaker 3: I knew that if I didn't if I didn't leave,
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't leave. I find a way to justify staying.
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  Speaker 3: So I needed to just go ahead and go, and
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  Speaker 3: I did.
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  Speaker 1: It's fascinating that you say that cancer was the best
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  Speaker 1: gift you ever received in the ugliest package, but it
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  Speaker 1: seemed to catapult you into this next incredible phase of
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  Speaker 1: your life. Yes, and what a reward. Ultimately, absolutely, it
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  Speaker 1: was kind of inevitable when you go through something like that,
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  Speaker 1: it has such a massive impact on your life. It
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  Speaker 1: changes how you approach life from that point on. I
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  Speaker 1: mean today, what choices do you make to stay grounded
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  Speaker 1: or present in your current life and not just to go, go,
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  Speaker 1: go and do do do all the time?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I go go, go a lot, and I do
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  Speaker 2: do do a lot.
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  Speaker 3: So I don't know if I'm actually the best person
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  Speaker 3: to answer that question.
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  Speaker 1: But what kind of self care do you do?
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  Speaker 3: Well, what I can tell you I'll talk about self
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  Speaker 3: care and then I'll tell you about the stuff that
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  Speaker 3: energizes me. Right, But in terms of self care, there
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  Speaker 3: been a number of moments when I have felt that
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  Speaker 3: I needed to keep moving and my body has told me, no,
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  Speaker 3: you don't, It's time to pause, and to know my
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  Speaker 3: body well enough to know when it is time. And
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  Speaker 3: the risk of disappointing people experiencing hunger, the risk of
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  Speaker 3: not showing up for a partner who's out there on
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  Speaker 3: the front lines trying to help. That's a hard thing
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  Speaker 3: for me to say no too. But throughout the pandemic especially,
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  Speaker 3: there were multiple moments when I had to say yes
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  Speaker 3: to me, and in order to say yes to me
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  Speaker 3: so that I could actually sleep that night rather than
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  Speaker 3: get on another plane, I had to say not yet
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  Speaker 3: to somebody else. So I love to read, I love
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  Speaker 3: to walk, I love to dance. I love to sing.
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  Speaker 3: I mentioned before, I'm not a great singer, but that
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  Speaker 3: doesn't mean I don't try to sing.
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  Speaker 1: That's so great. I love it that you don't think
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  Speaker 1: you're very good, but you still love it.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I love it absolutely. The people around me don't
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  Speaker 3: love it.
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  Speaker 2: But I, on the other hand, I absolutely love it.
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  Speaker 3: I love life. I love new people, new things. I
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  Speaker 3: love to travel. So there's so many outlets that I
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  Speaker 3: have that are restorative for me. And sometimes the only
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  Speaker 3: one that I really need is a bath. Sometimes I
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  Speaker 3: just need to stop, grab a candle mm hmm, and
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  Speaker 3: go take a bath. Oh hot bath, bubbles.
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  Speaker 2: Good and salts, salts and bubbles.
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  Speaker 3: If I feel I've really earned it, these are the things.
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  Speaker 2: These are the things.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I love all those ideas for people tell me,
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  Speaker 1: how did you come to working with Feeding America.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, So I'm going to go back to Walmart for
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  Speaker 3: just a flash, right, So, and well, I'll go back
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  Speaker 3: one step farther than that. I've always known about Feeding
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  Speaker 3: America since it started. My parents, as you might imagine,
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  Speaker 3: were community leaders. As a consequence, Feeding America works inside
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  Speaker 3: of local communities all across the country. My parents knew
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  Speaker 3: where the needs were in the little hometown of mine
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  Speaker 3: of Aplusis, Louisiana, and Feeding America, the Feeding America food
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  Speaker 3: bank that serves a Kadiana, which is where Appolusis is,
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  Speaker 3: would actually partner with my parents to do distributions from
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: our house.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I never imagined that. Fast forward.
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  Speaker 3: They were called America's Second Harvest at the time, I
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: never imagined that I'd be doing this. So I always
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: knew about Being America. When I was at Walmart, I
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: was on the foundation board. While on the Foundation Board,
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: I got to know Feeding America more intimately because we
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: were a major investor in Feeding America's work. We provided
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: a lot of food and as well as funds. So
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: I got to know it that way there and I
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: had a conversation with a lady by the name of
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Kathleen McLaughlin, and she had just joined Walmart. And I
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: had a practice whenever a new member of the team
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: when women joined the officer group at Feeding America, I
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: always reached out and took them out to breakfast or
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: to lunch or something. So here we are having lunch
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: and she's brand new, and she said she talked about
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: what she's doing. By now, I do not have any
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: idea that I'm going to have cancer, but I'm having
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: this conversation with her, and she's talking about what she
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: was going to do. And I said, you know, the
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: fascinating thing is if I had to guess what I
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: would do with my career, it would be more like
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: what you're doing than what I'm doing. And she said, really,
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: told about my family history, told about what I thought
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: I was going to do with my life, etc.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: Etc.
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: I thought that conversation was in the past. That's whyried
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: I leave Walmart. Years later and I got a phone
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: call from a recruiter and the recruiter said, we are
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: hiring for the CEO of Feeding America. And there's a
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: lady from Walmart. Her name is Kathleen McLoughlin and she
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: told us that we should really find you and talk
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  Speaker 3: to you about this opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, like what look at your breakfast? Your outreach to
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: the new employee paid off.
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  Speaker 2: We paid off.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, did to pay off. And I consistently
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: tell her anytime something powerful and wonderful happens with Feeding America,
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: I consistently say a little prayer for Kathleen, and I
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: send her a text messages saying, I'm really feeling grateful
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: to you today. I'm really feeling grateful because she just
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: she remembered what I said and she felt it, and
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: then she was in a room that I was not in,
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: and she lent her credibility to me in that moment,
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: and the rest is kind of history.
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: Now here I am.
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: I've been here for over six years, and what started
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: with that casual breaking of bread with a new person
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: has translated into the greatest opportunity for service I've ever
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: had in my life.
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  Speaker 1: That is incredible. How many people in the US are
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: suffering from food insecurity.
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  Speaker 3: At close to fifty million people.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: That's hard to even wrap your mind around.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: Nearly fourteen million children.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, that's one in five children.
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: Yes, it's that I mean and both The most tragic
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: part about it, the thing that breaks my heart about
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: it and that also gives me hopes, gives me hope,
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: is the same thing, which is we could solve it.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: It's actually not one of those things that you'll never
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: be able to wrap your arms or you'll never be
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: able to solve. No, no, no, no, we can solve this.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: This country has more than enough food to feed every
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: single person. We waste so much food, We throw away
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: so much food. Being America is actually the largest food
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: waste recovery organization in the whole United States of America,
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: and we're only recovering about a little over four billion pounds.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: Now that's a lot of food, right it is. Where
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: do you recover it from? Oh, we recover it from
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: the relationships that we have with all kinds of great organizations.
• 23:29
  Speaker 3: So every major retailer in the United States has a
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: relationship with Feeding America, through which rather than throw away
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: perfectly edible food, they donate that food to us. Every
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: major food manufacturer in the United States has a relationship
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: with Feeding America. So if you can imagine, let's say
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: you're General Mills, who happens to be one of a
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: great supporter of ours in many ways. Let's say your
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: General Mills and you go to a town and the
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: cheerio boxes are bent right perfectly at able ceios. We
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: actually have an app that the driver of that that
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: of that truck can use to say, to find a
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: food bank that's close to them that they can deliver
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: that food too rather than get going to waste. So
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: that's the way that we do. We have these beautiful
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: relationships all across the country with partners who are also
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: committed both to resolving issues around waste and making certain
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: people in communities get access to food. So that's one
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: of the ways that we that we engage with people.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: That's one of the things that we do that I
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: find so so powerful is when you're solving for food
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: and security, it's an interesting thing in a really powerful
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: and beautiful way. There are so many things that you
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: solve for when you solve for food and security. Right,
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: so you can solve for climate by participating in the
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: work that we do, because you can make certain that
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: food doesn't go to landfills, but instead the way that
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: we're talking about it. We even have a challenge going
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: on right now, which is the food rescue challenge, and
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: the way that we're phrasing it is from access to
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: access right and you get to participate in something I
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: get to be a part of that that does that.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: But we also get donated foods directly, We buy a
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: lot of food. We participate a lot in federal commodities
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: programs where farmers, growers, and producers in the United States
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: make certain that people here get access to the food
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: that they need to thrive. So lots of different outlets
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: for and outreach. That helps to support the network that
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: I'm a part of.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: And we need more.
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: The lines, unfortunately, have continued to grow. That usually is
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: shocking to people. Most people think that the highest rate
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: of food and security in this country over the last
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: several years would have been during the peak of the pandemic.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: But that's not true. During the pandemic, we as a
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: nation had an awareness of food and security because those
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: lines were so long on the outsides of buildings. Now
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: the lines have gone back to the insides of buildings,
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: and people they think they've gone away. The food and
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: security rates have gone up because we've actually lowered the
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: amount of resources that are available. So it's been it's
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: been a real challenge, and yet I see resiliency everywhere
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: I go. I see my goodness. I'm so inspired by,
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: especially by people experiencing hunger with the heroes that they are.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: The way that these moms making a way out of
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: no way, the sacrifices they make, how hard they work
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: to make certain that their kids get the things that
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: you and I want for ours, It's really inspirational.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: It really is. I mean, with so many people though
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: needing help. I think you talked about does it ever
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: become overwhelming for you? Like, do you ever just pan?
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: I can say I can't do it all and I
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: want to do it all. I mean, I can't imagine
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: that that's hard to confront, to deal with.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: Oh, of course there are moments, of course there are.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: I in fact, I remember having the good news is
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: nobody is expecting me to do it all except me.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Sometimes.
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: There's so many people, i'd say hundreds of thousands of
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: people across the country who step up to do this
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: work as a part of the anti funder community. But
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: I do remember my father. My mother died eleven years ago,
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: and my father died two years ago in December, and
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: his last illness was dementia, and I won't forget that.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: This is the guy that I went to defiantly and
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: told him at twelve, when I don't think a lot
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: of people would have bet on my ability to become
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: a lawyer. When he, without hesitation, said that he knew
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: I would that guy. I returned to him and he
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: seemed to be sleeping, and I was really I visited
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: him every month during the pandemic. I found a way
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: to get there to Opelousi's. So I was in his
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: room and I thought he was sleeping, and I said, Daddy,
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: I just don't know what to do. I mean, this
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: is a lot, you know, people are counting on me.
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: How how am I going to step up? Am I
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: am I able to do this? And I didn't know
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: he was awake, and he opened his eyes, and of
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: all moments for him to be lucid, it was that moment.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: And he looked over at me, and I was sitting
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: next to his bed, and he said, do you do
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: you just just be you clar call me Clarice, just
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: be so. Yes, those moments come, but after that moment,
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: I can hear him say it to me. And remember
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: I said, he's one of the smartest people I've ever known. Figure,
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: if he thinks I can do it, there must be
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: something inside of me that he saw and surely it's
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: still there. So I can go do this.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: M believing in yourself. Yeah, it's hard to do sometimes,
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: but it's the key. It is how can people get involved?
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: So one way is to donate, right they can go
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: to Feeding America dot org and there they can find
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: ways to donate. They can donate at the national level,
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: or they can donate at the local level, or they
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: can do both. If they only have room for one,
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: I would say, donate it the community that means the
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: most to you. On Feeding America dot org there's actually
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: a food bank locator and you just punch in the
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: zip code of the community that you care the most about,
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: and up will pop up a food bank that's serving
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: that community. I know that to be true because Feeding
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: America this network serves every single county and parish in
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: the wholy United States of America and Puerto Rico. So
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: we are there in that community that you care about.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: So you can donate, you can advocate, you can use
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: your voices to say that this matters, that you care
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: about it. You can make certain that policy makers know
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: if this is one of the things that you feel
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: that we ought to be united on, not divided about.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: And you can volunteer. Oh my goodness, you talked about
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: it earlier. But what feels better than to know for
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: a fact, especially in moments when so many things feel
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: like they're outside of our control, that you can roll
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: your sleeves up and you can be helpful, you can
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: be of service, right, and you can. And I have
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: an expression I use and maybe someone else used it
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: before me, but the giver receives, and it's true, the
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: giver receives. There's a special way that I feel a
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: special unity in community that I feel that I only
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: feel when I've got my sleeves rolled up, and I
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: only feel when I'm out there volunteering. So you can donate,
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: you can advocate, and you can volunteer, and you can
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: find ways to do all three by going to Feeding
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: America dot orgy dot Orgie.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: That's right. The work you're doing is phenomenal. So grateful
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: to know you and be a small tiny part of
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: helping the cause. Before I let you go, Claire, I
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: would like to know what was your last I choose
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: me moment.
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: Oh, you know what, it was probably last night, and
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: maybe this isn't a great one, right, but you know,
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: I had been traveling.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: I just got back from Atlanta, where I had an
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: opportunity to go out and thank one of our real
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: big donors, investors in our work. And I was tired,
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: and I'd already eaten way more than I should. But
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: I got home and as I opened the door. I
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: live in Chicago, that's where we're based, primarily opened the
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: door and this aroma hit me. It was gumbo in Chicago,
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: in Chicago, and my husband was in the kitchen cooking it,
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: and I'm thinking, I'm not even hungry. But you know what,
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: choosing me was choosing to eat a bowl of that
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: gumbo last night. And I did and it was fabulous,
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: and I thank my husband, Barry Fontno, for preparing it.
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: And every now and then, every now and then, I
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: have found choosing me can be something really big, like
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: choosing to dedicate my talents to an organization like Feeding America,
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: or could be something really small like lighting a candle
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: or listening to music or singing, or on a night
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: like last night, there was something extra special about choosing
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: that bowl.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: Of gumboats the gumbo.
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: It was the gumbo. It was the gumbo.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: I really loved our conversation. Thank you. I hope that
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: everybody listening I feel the same way as I do.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: I feel hopeful, I feel some sort of piece in
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: knowing that you are leading this charge because you are
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: truly a gift.
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: Oh, thank you so much. I appreciate you and everything
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: you do, and thank you to your audience and everything
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: they're already doing, solvable challenges that we can do together.
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: I'm glad to be a part of it too.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Thank you, Claire, Thank you. Wow. FACA to Claire is
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: so inspiring. I just I love how much passion she
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: has for her life and all the wonderful work that
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: she's doing with Feeding America, helping so many people. If
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: you want to volunteer donate to Feing America, I highly
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: suggest it. We'll be sure to leave their info in
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: our show notes. As we continue to choose ourselves each week,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: I want to challenge you to making a difference in
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: someone else's life this holiday season. There are so many
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: incredible organizations out there, and this time of year people
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: can really use a helping hand. So whether it's volunteering
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: at a food bank, or collecting canned goods, or even
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: just cleaning out your closet and donating some of your
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: clothes or blankets that you're no longer using. Let's all
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: just take some time to think about it this week,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: and let's do something. Let's give back to those around
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: us who could use some help, because when we choose
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: to give back to others, we're also choosing to acknowledge
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: our our own blessings and practice gratitude. Thanks for listening
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• 35:13
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• 35:15
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• 35:18
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