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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Power of Respect and Love 11.13.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Is concept and then moving on to another one and the overall
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  theme of the last few days is the importance of respect of any
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  item, any item that you consider dear to you and and that you
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  want to build up in your minds and therefore your family's
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  minds. It starts with respect because
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  any respected and you treat it like a big deal and therefore
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  reflects the big deal in your eyes and you and you take
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  everything that it has to its fullest extent.
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  Whether that be specifically 2 examples we dealt with work
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  Shabbat and to our learning both of those the more you make a big
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  deal out of it, the more it means to you.
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  The more you make a big deal of to our scholars, the more their
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  word carries weight. The more you make dear rabbis
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  learning itself what the Torah says and all that you know,
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  people come with this rabbi. What does the Torah say about
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  this? Even if it's a ridiculous
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  question, Torah has nothing to say about that topic.
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  There's the idea and just to go to mindset that you want to find
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  the truth and you want to find the real opinion from the Torah
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  is a good head. It's all ahead of giving Torah
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  respect. And when the more you do so, the
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  more you take out of it. Because again, if I see this as
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  not a big deal, if I told you this book, you know they have
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  today talking about AI, they have you create a book by AI in
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  like 5 minutes. You know that I heard an
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  advertisement and I can basically say I can describe a
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  couple details of your life. They like wives buying gifts for
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  the husbands. Describe the detail of your
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  life, put it into AI and say write a book about this guy or
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  write a book for this person. I guess it gets a joke as a
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  gift. Or are they going to flaw the
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  pages of it? They'll take that shot or try.
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  So if I told you the book was written by AI, how much value
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  are you going to put and how much respect?
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  How much credit you're going to give to the words it says and
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  how much you can care if it tells you a certain opinion.
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  Can I mean nothing to you? Why?
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  Because it came from nothing. But if I told you it came from a
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  person who put in, that's an extreme, right?
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  Go to the other extreme, someone who put in 10 years of his life
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  into this mindset. And he focused his entire life
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  and he worked on himself and he developed himself and he was
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  seen by others as an unbelievable person, an angelic
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  type person. And he didn't harm people, and
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  he got along with people and he developed his way of life and
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  all that. I say that person put his
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  mindset into a book. He said, OK, I want to hear that
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  book. Why?
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  Because it has so much more behind it.
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  And that is really what respect says.
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  When you respect something, you're saying a lot of words.
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  You're saying that there's much more there.
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  When I respect the TADA, what I'm saying is whatever I know
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  about the TADA, there's a lot more there.
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  And that gives it much more of a podium, much greater respect.
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  If I told you that a rabbi got up to speak and he prepared on
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  his way up there and he just looked at something and said it
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  over, OK, he might as well not hear from me.
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  Might as well look in the book. But if I told you that he worked
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  at it, or maybe this idea is his lifetime's opinion, or he has
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  spent a lot of time on that area of life, so he's coming from
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  somewhere, you give it that much more credence and respect.
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  And this is the idea. What's wrong?
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  And this is the idea overall of the power of respect.
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  Respect is something that builds something up and that's in
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  general how it works, whether it be when respecting the old
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  people, elderly, respecting the Torah, respecting the rabbis,
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  respecting Shabbat, respecting mitzvah, respecting the next one
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  over here is respecting the holy places.
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  OB klazeka morken kibud Beth Agnes de bethe metrash giving
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  respect to yeshu. People always say that Haram.
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  You can't say that in Haram. You can't, you know, do that in
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  a show, all those things and you wonder like, why is it so
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  significant? We pray and then we do our
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  thing. The reason significant is I gave
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  you an example. Many times we've had a debate.
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  Hopefully when you're giving out an example, so why I know I'm
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  picking on the the kids that come have a learn, but why
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  you're saying respect? A lot of times people think that
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  it's going to be done by the next time, but absolutely right,
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  It is important to chew you with respect.
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  And someone sees something on the floor and they always jump
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  down to pick it up, bend down to pick it up.
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  But you normally wouldn't do that anyway.
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  But you do it in the shul because Haram in the shul.
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  And you're right. Cleaning up after yourself,
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  putting away your books, all these things are forms of
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  respect and they're necessary and they we should be trained
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  that way, absolutely. Put the books.
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  Good. That's the right thing.
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  It doesn't mean the person that doesn't do it is, you know,
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  deserves to be disparaged, but the person that does do it is
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  following life the right way. And the more you give respect,
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  the more your children will follow in this area of respect,
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  specifically for holy places. And the more that holy place is
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  considered deer in your heart and it's considered something of
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  hashirut to your eyes. And what ends up happening is
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  you're more careful in that place the more you wire your
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  brain. She will respect Shane dies not
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  enough. Shulian Hartman, Khaled Rush.
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  Not only don't you make jokes, act silly in the shoe allergy
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  and Abraham called me in a cavorto Mora, you're treated
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  with all the forms of respect and honor OB home and Hagabh and
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  everything that you do, all your moves, all your actions, all
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  your things you talk about in the shoe for homage to Lhaya was
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  said by whatever you'd not be willing to do.
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  And the excuse me, in the palace of a great king, a lawyer said
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  by hand, you don't do it here either.
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  OK, that's the idea. Fine.
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  I said, for example, we wouldn't allow an entertainer downstairs
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  in the main shul. We had this conversation many
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  times. We have an entertainer having
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  the kids having a big party. Maybe it's nicer to have it in a
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  bigger room than upstairs. We would never allow it because
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  it's a lack of respect to the shul.
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  We pretty much will not allow and have any speaker who doesn't
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  represent total speak downstairs.
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  They want to speak, they'll be up here based on the same
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  reason. But this is true, but the Mick
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  fairpoint. But the mindset of making here
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  comes in. And he wants to speak to.
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  The chances are he's not speaking downstairs.
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  Chances are we're not having one.
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  That's OK. Chances are we should never have
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  to face that test. I don't want to deal with that
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  taste test personally. Politicians slash anything else
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  like that. We all have a good forum, but I
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  just want it to be downstairs. OK, or that beta or what if your
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  aim comes, how the king comes, If the if the king comes good
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  question. The king does deserve great
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  honour. So maybe it's something right,
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  but I would currently the president comes our current
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  king. Good.
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  I think it would be hard to say shrimp is in there every day.
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  I think it'd be hard to say don't have the King, don't have
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  the president downstairs. Like I said, she didn't have to
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  face that test without the the hotshot exactly the bed out
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  there. Let's continue a little more Now
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  you move from this idea of respect or and honor, which we
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  say develops a great amount of outcome based on it.
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  You have a much stronger take away from people whom you
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  respect and things that you respect.
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  Similar vein, you move over to a concept instead of respect or
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  honor that you deal with love. What is love?
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  Love is a concept, love Saha, happiness a whole different
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  method and track tawa tawa mitzvah as well.
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  Honor, pedestal honor. You hear everything you have to
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  say, love, happiness, etcetera. You connect much more different
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  idea also very valuable. We're in the baata.
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  We're going to speak now Mei nyana Ava regarding love vana
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  fame, Shalasha. There are three branches to love
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  Hassam ha happiness and joy that comes from love had the Vekut
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  connection that comes from love Tha Kina canal over here means a
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  very strong really means jealous, but here it means
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  zealousness, a very strong sense of connection that leads you to
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  defend to defend that person. For example, you love your wife
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  so they have 4 number one, you're close to her.
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  Number two, you defend her similar vain, you love Hashem.
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  And one that gives you joy doing it's what with him.
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  Two, it gives you a close connection and three, it gives
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  you a mindset of defending God's honor.
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  And where do you see yourself defending God's honor?
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  When, since when do am IA warrior of Hashem?
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  Every time you hear something liberal on the news and it pains
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  you to hear people talking about these things as if they're
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  normal and it bothers you to hear people promoting ridiculous
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  ideas and your blood is boiling inside that blood boiling.
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  You don't realize that that is defense of Hashem's honor.
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  And that's because you love Hashem, you're close to him, and
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  therefore you get upset when people portray views that are
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  ridiculous in the news. And you're seeing that and you,
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  you know, you're banging yourself.
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  You're saying it's so upsetting how the people talk this way and
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  they make it like it's normal. Even the Supreme Court now
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  accepts these things as if they're normal.
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  Even the currently conservative Supreme Court, for example, is
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  OK with certain things, which 10 years ago they wouldn't have
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  been OK with. All these things that bother
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  you, that bother me, all forms of defending Hashem's honor that
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  comes from your love of Hashem. You didn't realize that, but it
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  comes from your love. Therefore happiness with serving
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  him, therefore closeness to God and zealousness and his defence.
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  Let's explain Vinay build inyana Alba this.
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  Is good for what they put on the back of.
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  Her and follow help 100% in God they trust us.
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  I fear that if they made that today that would have been
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  disputed. I'm thrilled that I'm thrilled
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  that these sermons I want. To take it.
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  Off a dollar bill, hands on who's in office, right?
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  Didn't they used to have in the in kind public school Pledge of
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  Allegiance? And did they do it today?
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  No, I mean no. OK, There you go.
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  No respect. No respect.
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  We we love, we all appreciate the fact that this country is
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  built on certain values because they call them judeo-christian
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  values. And we're thrilled that at least
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  that that exists, that it does bring the moral compass compass
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  back to normal. Now doesn't mean all those
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  values are ours, but doesn't mean overall it is at least for
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  a democratic government. The best structure that you can
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  have is built on God and therefore it pains us when this
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  country goes the other way. And the reason the pains is
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  because of all connections. Now being in Yana of the concept
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  of love, who she Adam Horshek real love means these are the
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  words you crave something, omit Ave. and you're tempted Mamash
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  El carvato. You don't want to be you want to
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  be separate from them. You know, you, you love your
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  children, your grandchildren and you love when they come and it
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  bothers you when they leave, right?
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  Always not bothers you in a sad way, he said, Oh, they got to
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  leave again. That feeling is a real sense of
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  love. That is how in a certain sense
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  we have told and it's what we enjoy.
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  Shabbat, for example, go back to Shabbat.
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  We enjoy sitting and learning. We enjoy our to our routine, our
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  shrew routine. And you feel bad when you leave
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  it, right? If you get to that point, that's
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  because it's all part of the love of the service.
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  Exactly. That's also part of it.
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  You don't realize it sounds like a funny thing.
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  You're running after it. You want it.
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  I mean, it's about money, even though, by the way, see, this is
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  where we get confused, even though we all have against
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  Sahara tells us in the morning to roll over and to go back to
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  sleep and to cancel the alarms as I have 45 alarms pretty much.
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  And literally I have 4:00 to 5:00 alarms every morning.
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  And the ad said, you know, I, I don't listen to any.
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  Of them. I try, but the ads out basically
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  pretty much takes up my whole family to get out of it.
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  The ad said I tells you to roll over, to go back to sleep, all
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  these things. Now I'm joking, I have to get
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  up. I have no choice but to get up
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  and we I wouldn't get up anyway. I mean, before I was given
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  classes, he used to go to sleep late and get up a different
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  time. He was always getting up and.
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  I was 11 when my father passed away, but I remember him saying
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  to me, you got to get up in the morning, you got to get up to
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  the. Morning.
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  There you go. Wow, good.
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  I stuck with you. That's.
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  How many years ago? Wow, the single he would sing.
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  A five years old guy would get off to the water.
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  I meet you with my mother sitting on my bed and waking me
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  up, talking about random conversations to pretty much get
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  us nervous enough. You had no choice to get out.
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  That was her strip. OK, as if we want to talk about
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  these things at 7-8 or whatever time, but it worked.
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  The idea is that you were raised on getting up early and hard
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  work. Now Yavi had said it tells you
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  not to or we will have that. That is not an indication you
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  don't want to get up. It's not an indication that you
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  don't run after. Mitzvahed love.
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  Mitzvahed love, Frank It's a contrast of the fact that we
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  have a conflict going on at both times.
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  On the one end, we have the drive and the connection and the
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  loved ones. We're here.
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  On the other end, we have the it's two different methods.
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  They're not one going out the other.
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  They're from two different angles.
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  Person has to know that. Don't believe that deep inside.
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  I don't really want to get up. I don't have a love of, you
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  know, someone I had a conversation with someone who
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  says, you know, when I learned, I'm always looking at the clock
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  emotionally at the clock. It means they don't like to
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  learn. Not true.
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  You like to learn. We have a yetzara that wants to
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  leave and they both exist at the same time.
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  So from our point of view, all of us have a love and a desire
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  and a connection. And that's an indication of our
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  deeper Aww of ATM. It's what Kashiyudov Ish, Aharan
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  Ahmad, miminu, Hamda Aza, whatever you a guy runs after.
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  I don't know what it is. A young boy.
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  Is this a person who needs money?
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  It's that I didn't want to name all the examples that people run
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  after that Running after builders beat you connected over
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  to Hashem. It's a similar family.
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  Running after Hashem is a similar idea.
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  It's a same thing. You're running, you're into it,
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  you're desired, you're strong, and that's a source or that's an
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  indication of your development of your love of Taravat Swatz.
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  A person has to recognize that's inside of it and I need to work
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  on that, bring it out, notice it, identify it and allow it to
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  live because it's a big part of my existence, my racing.
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  Half the time it's what makes me who I am and I don't realize
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  that I have it because, like I said, we have yet said it goes
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  the opposite way, but you have it inside has a big form of what
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  makes you you. That's the idea.
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  Stop. It's very.
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  Important to appreciate when somebody does suck a beer, you
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  know, Very important, especially with that chef.