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Season 3 - Episode 143 - How do jealous people affect us? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about jealous people and how
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  they try so hard to tear you down.
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  You know, this has real repercussions and if you don't
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  pay attention to it, it can eat you up and it can make you
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  absolutely miserable because you don't understand why people are
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  being mean to you. But when people are jealous,
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  they are desperate to do anything to make themselves feel
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  better, Consciously or unconsciously, I might add.
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  But they will say and do things to bring you to their level.
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  So it's very hard for someone to watch someone else be successful
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  or be good or be effective, because they're not.
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  And they're they didn't maybe, you know, get the job, get the
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  part, get the role, get the guy or the girl or whatever, But
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  they will do things because of their need to bring someone
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  down. They don't want to participate
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  in even just being neutral or saying, hey, I can be happy for
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  you instead, this is a well, I'm going to make you feel bad about
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  who you are because I'm currently pissed off at the fact
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  that I don't have what you have now.
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  Is this always a conscious thought with people?
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  No, it's not. But often there is some sort of
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  level of jealousy that's going on, and that's the emotion
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  that's driving their bus. So they end up being nasty and
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  they say things and do things that affect us or infect us, get
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  in our head and cause us to act different than we would,
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  differently than we would because we're being affected by
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  their emotion. And it's a very complicated
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  situation and it's very unnerving.
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  Yes. Amelia walks up right in the
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  middle of it and has her opinion.
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  It's unnerving, huh, Amelia, It's not a good thing, is it?
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  So it's it's one of those things where you have to make a
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  decision about allowing yourself to not put yourself into a space
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  where you let them get to you. You know, it is a conscious
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  thought. It is something that you have to
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  say. I choose to not participate in
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  this pattern that this person is offering to me because that's
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  effectively what happens. Someone will offer something up,
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  and if you participate in it, then it's a problem.
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  You're effectively inviting this in because ultimately we always
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  have control and whether we want to admit it or not, we have
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  control. I don't care what anyone tells
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  you. We have control because we don't
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  have to accept it. I've had many times in my life
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  where I've been very happy about an outcome that I've achieved
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  and someone has made a wise ass comment or said something rude
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  to me and ultimately that made me feel really bad.
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  And it was. Was it my fault for accepting
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  the comment? Absolutely 1000%?
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  Was it something that I should have been able to ditch?
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  Well, I didn't know any better at the time.
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  So you know, you do the best you can with what you have.
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  But now I know if someone says something and they're rude, I I
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  just look at it and I say, well what's the source?
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  Where is this coming from? Who is this person who's saying
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  it? Would I want their life?
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  Would I want the way they they are to be my way?
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  No, I wouldn't. So we have to remember making
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  the higher level choices, making better choices for ourselves
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  revolves around us being able to recognize we don't want what
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  they're offering and we don't have to accept it, but we can't
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  stop it until we recognize it. So when you're confronted with
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  this, the very first thing you have to recognize is this person
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  is doing this because this is something they're being mean to
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  me. They're saying something rude to
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  me because they're trying to bring me back to their level.
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  And I'm not talking about someone that you ask advice to
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  and say, hey, can you help me out?
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  Do you think this is working? Not working?
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  Do you think you know, I'm not talking about things that you
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  open the door for. I'm talking about things that
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  are random acts of people giving you information or coming up to
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  you and saying things to you. And if they're not people that
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  you love and trust, then you really have to stop yourself and
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  say this is unacceptable. And it's not unacceptable that
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  they're saying it to me. It's not their job to decide.
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  You know if you're going to accept it or not.
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  It's your job to decide if you're going to accept it or
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  not. So you got to stop and put your
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  foot down and say I don't accept this for myself, Not them.
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  Screw them. You don't have to pay attention
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  to them. Screw it.
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  It's not your job. It's between you, the universe,
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  God, and nobody else. So you don't have to invite it
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  in and you need to put them in their place by not entertaining
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  it. You just have to look at them.
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  You don't even have to have a response.
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  Thanks for sharing. That's it.
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  The Doctor Wayne Dyer. Best response ever.
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  Thanks for sharing. And you don't have to say
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  anything else. So hopefully this is helpful to
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  you. Hopefully you find something in
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  this that you can walk away with and know.
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  Remember, if they're not someone that you would want to be,
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  Think, act like, want their life, take advice from then.
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  You have to remember I don't have to take this.
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  I don't have to keep it. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a very blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.