Latest / Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families / The World is Saying 'Enough'
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- 0:06Speaker 1: The world is saying enough, big tech is under fire.
- 0:09Speaker 1: That's today's podcast. We're doing a mash up of this
- 0:12Speaker 1: Week in Parenting and The Doctor's Desk, which somewhat excites
- 0:18Speaker 1: Kylie because the Doctor's Desk is not normally her favorite. Hello,
- 0:21Speaker 1: Welcome to The Happy Family's podcast. Right after the break,
- 0:23Speaker 1: we're going to be highlighting how big tech companies are
- 0:26Speaker 1: being taken to court by so many people over in
- 0:28Speaker 1: the US and what that could possibly mean in terms
- 0:31Speaker 1: of how our families function and how our children thrive. Then,
- 0:36Speaker 1: the line in the sand that's been drawn by Australia
- 0:39Speaker 1: seems to be becoming extended by other nations. We'll talk
- 0:42Speaker 1: about what has happened as the world has watched Australia's
- 0:47Speaker 1: minimum age social media legislation. That and a whole lot
- 0:50Speaker 1: more in today's podcast. Stay with us. Hello, and welcome
- 0:55Speaker 1: to The Happy Family's podcast, where you get real parenting
- 0:57Speaker 1: solutions every single day. This is Australia's most downloaded parenting
- 1:01Speaker 1: podcast where Justin and Kylie Colson were the parents of
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- 1:07Speaker 1: here in oz Hey Kylie, I feel as though we
- 1:10Speaker 1: do a lot of podcasts related to screens. Feels to
- 1:12Speaker 1: me as though parenting is really about screens. In twenty
- 1:16Speaker 1: twenty six, we're not really talking about parenting as much
- 1:20Speaker 1: as how do we deal with kids? Because screens have
- 1:22Speaker 1: taken over.
- 1:23Speaker 2: That's definitely our experience.
- 1:26Speaker 1: Give a child a screen and watch their relationship with
- 1:29Speaker 1: you and everything else in the world completely change. It
- 1:32Speaker 1: becomes the center of the universe. Today, We're going to
- 1:35Speaker 1: move through a fair bit of material and do it
- 1:36Speaker 1: fairly quickly. Kylie, I'd like you to guide it if
- 1:38Speaker 1: you can. We've got some lawsuits happening in the US
- 1:41Speaker 1: where the big tech companies a run to fire, and
- 1:43Speaker 1: we've got countries right around the world who've been watching
- 1:45Speaker 1: what we're doing and deciding that looks all right, Maybe
- 1:48Speaker 1: we should do that too.
- 1:51Speaker 3: Mata, the parent company at Facebook and Instagram and Alphabet's YouTube,
- 1:55Speaker 3: are defending themselves in a landmark civil suit that accuses
- 1:59Speaker 3: them of purpose designing their products to cause addiction in children.
- 2:04Speaker 2: Well, I'm curious, what are these lawsuits about.
- 2:07Speaker 1: Okay, So in the United States right now, quite a
- 2:10Speaker 1: wave of lawsuits are going to be rolling out throughout
- 2:12Speaker 1: the year. The first one just started in the last
- 2:13Speaker 1: couple of weeks. Essentially, you've got a whole bunch of people,
- 2:17Speaker 1: some states, also some school districts who are accusing social media,
- 2:21Speaker 1: big tech platforms of causing addiction in teenagers. So these
- 2:26Speaker 1: are test cases, and they're basically trying to prove that.
- 2:29Speaker 2: When you say test case, what do you mean?
- 2:31Speaker 1: So test cases? Essentially, there hasn't been any previous lawsuits
- 2:36Speaker 1: around this, there's no precedent, so they're trying to find
- 2:39Speaker 1: something where they think we could potentially win this and
- 2:41Speaker 1: this can set the precedent for future law cases, future trials,
- 2:46Speaker 1: future suing opportunities, future civil actions, all those kinds of things.
- 2:51Speaker 2: If these go through like this will totally turn the
- 2:56Speaker 2: world upside down in so many ways.
- 2:58Speaker 1: Potentially, I hope so. But they have got a fight
- 3:03Speaker 1: on their hands, not just because the big tech companies
- 3:07Speaker 1: can afford the most expensive lawyers on the planet, but
- 3:11Speaker 1: because the things that they're arguing and the things that
- 3:13Speaker 1: they're doing in their efforts to sue the big tech
- 3:15Speaker 1: companies are going to be very hard to prove.
- 3:17Speaker 2: So you've suggested that there are multiple cases going to
- 3:21Speaker 2: court at this point, what are people suing social media
- 3:25Speaker 2: companies for.
- 3:26Speaker 1: They're not all of the schedule. The first one has
- 3:28Speaker 1: just kicked off, so there'll be a number of additional
- 3:31Speaker 1: cases throughout the year. But the first one is somebody
- 3:33Speaker 1: who is simply known by their initials KJAM, twenty years old,
- 3:37Speaker 1: saying that they are addicted to technology as a child
- 3:40Speaker 1: and now have mental health problems. So, in this particular case,
- 3:44Speaker 1: which is the only one we can talk about because
- 3:45Speaker 1: the other ones haven't got a call yet, in this
- 3:47Speaker 1: particular case, what they're basically saying is tech companies have
- 3:51Speaker 1: intentionally developed platforms using persuasive design elements like endless scroll
- 3:59Speaker 1: and the like button and everything that keeps you coming back.
- 4:02Speaker 1: I mean, you and I and everyone else who uses
- 4:05Speaker 1: social media knows what they are because they hook us,
- 4:07Speaker 1: and the algorithm knows us so well. The algorithm is
- 4:08Speaker 1: a huge part of this. And fundamentally, the big tech
- 4:12Speaker 1: companies have prioritized engagement over wellbeing. They've known what they're doing,
- 4:17Speaker 1: they've known that wellbeing is suffering, and they have ignored that.
- 4:21Speaker 1: They've said, no, no, we want to engage these people.
- 4:23Speaker 1: We want to addict them, we want to keep them
- 4:24Speaker 1: here and therefore mental health problems have resulted there. So
- 4:30Speaker 1: essentially they're saying the ABC's of this case, this is
- 4:33Speaker 1: literally what the lawyer has said, the abcs of this
- 4:35Speaker 1: case that the big tech companies are addicting the brains
- 4:38Speaker 1: of children. ABC addicting brains of children. That's pretty much
- 4:42Speaker 1: their argument.
- 4:44Speaker 2: So if this case actually wins, the ramifications for social
- 4:50Speaker 2: media companies would be enormous because there would.
- 4:55Speaker 1: Be a lot of people who would say, my pain.
- 4:57Speaker 2: I can't even begin to imagine how many people.
- 4:59Speaker 1: Yeah, my mental health problem are a result of my
- 5:00Speaker 1: social media use, and now I can sue Meta as
- 5:02Speaker 1: well or TikTok as well.
- 5:04Speaker 2: Like we literally we have friends within our social circle
- 5:08Speaker 2: who are dealing with this in such extreme ways. The children.
- 5:14Speaker 1: I'm not a lawyer, but I know a lot about
- 5:15Speaker 1: social media and the research around the psychology and well
- 5:17Speaker 1: being about young people. The challenge here is the burden
- 5:22Speaker 1: of proof. How do you prove that it was social media?
- 5:25Speaker 1: How do you prove that it was the persuasive design elements.
- 5:27Speaker 1: How do you prove that it was intentional and inappropriate
- 5:31Speaker 1: behavior by the social media platforms that has created the
- 5:35Speaker 1: mental health problem that you're dealing with. That's going to
- 5:38Speaker 1: be the challenge. And of course, the whole justice system
- 5:41Speaker 1: is you're innocent until proven guilty. Therefore, the burden of
- 5:45Speaker 1: proof is on the person who says that they are aggrieved.
- 5:47Speaker 1: They are the plaintiff in this case.
- 5:50Speaker 2: So in this case, how will lawyers defend it?
- 5:52Speaker 1: I think that they're going to do three things, and
- 5:54Speaker 1: I have put a lot of thought into this. If
- 5:55Speaker 1: I was the lawyer for a big tech company, this
- 5:57Speaker 1: is what I'd be saying. Number one, I would be
- 6:00Speaker 1: the legitimacy of quote unquote social media addiction. Addiction generally speaking,
- 6:06Speaker 1: is a contested and challenging term in psychological literature anyway,
- 6:11Speaker 1: and without getting into the weeds too much, I just
- 6:14Speaker 1: think that it's going to be really hard to say
- 6:16Speaker 1: somebody has been addicted to our platform. In fact, Instagram
- 6:20Speaker 1: CEO a couple of weeks ago was in court and
- 6:22Speaker 1: literally saying I don't believe in such a thing as
- 6:25Speaker 1: social media addiction and social media addiction, like I said,
- 6:29Speaker 1: massively contested. We know that. In one of my books,
- 6:33Speaker 1: in Ten Things Every Parent Needs to Know, I talked
- 6:36Speaker 1: about compulsive Internet use, which is a way of very
- 6:39Speaker 1: softly saying your children are addicted without using the word addicted,
- 6:43Speaker 1: because addicted is such a provocative and it's just one
- 6:47Speaker 1: of those terms when if you bring it up to
- 6:49Speaker 1: a psychologist, all of a sudden, the flashbulbs start going
- 6:52Speaker 1: after and says, well, is it really addiction, because as
- 6:53Speaker 1: their tolerance and is their withdrawal and what's been going
- 6:56Speaker 1: Addiction is a really really challenging term to use, and
- 7:01Speaker 1: there is simply not enough data. There is no such
- 7:04Speaker 1: thing as a diagnosis of social media addiction. So that
- 7:07Speaker 1: will be the first thing that I'll argue. They're not addicted.
- 7:09Speaker 1: They might be using it a lot, but they're not
- 7:11Speaker 1: addicted because you can't be addicted to social media. The
- 7:15Speaker 1: second thing that I think they're going to argue is
- 7:17Speaker 1: that we've got a whole lot of safety features. We've
- 7:19Speaker 1: been implementing safety features from day one, and over the
- 7:21Speaker 1: last few years we've gotten better and better and better
- 7:23Speaker 1: at this. I would argue that's disingenuous. I do not
- 7:26Speaker 1: believe that the safety features that they've got are easy
- 7:29Speaker 1: to find, easy to activate, nor were they in They
- 7:33Speaker 1: weren't available in the early days of social media. But
- 7:36Speaker 1: they will argue that that's a feature. And the third
- 7:39Speaker 1: thing is they're going to say, prove that the harm
- 7:43Speaker 1: that you've experienced that the social media landscape is what
- 7:48Speaker 1: caused what caused your mental health challenges. And that's going
- 7:52Speaker 1: to be extremely hard to prove because mental health challenges
- 7:55Speaker 1: are so multifaceted. It has to do with your peer
- 7:58Speaker 1: group and your family and you and sleep and exercise
- 8:01Speaker 1: and medical wellbeing. It there are so many factors that
- 8:04Speaker 1: go into it. Oh, there's one other thing that I
- 8:05Speaker 1: just remembered as well. There's something called Section two thirty.
- 8:08Speaker 1: Section two thirty is a law in the United States.
- 8:10Speaker 1: So you don't want to put everyone to sleep, So
- 8:11Speaker 1: I'll say this really fast. The law in the United
- 8:13Speaker 1: States basically says that the social media platforms are not
- 8:16Speaker 1: responsible for what people post on the platforms. In the
- 8:19Speaker 1: early days, when people started posting stuff, social media companies went, oh,
- 8:22Speaker 1: my goodness, this could be challenging for us if we
- 8:24Speaker 1: are held liable for what people post, we do not
- 8:26Speaker 1: have a product, and so they lobbied and got the
- 8:28Speaker 1: government to pass Section two thirty, which fundamentally means people
- 8:32Speaker 1: can post whatever they like. Social media companies aren't responsible
- 8:35Speaker 1: for what's on their pages. That is also probably going
- 8:39Speaker 1: to be used as a way of defending the social
- 8:42Speaker 1: media companies, because they can say, well, you've been using
- 8:46Speaker 1: our platform, but we're not responsible for what people posted,
- 8:48Speaker 1: and if the content on there is keeping you coming
- 8:50Speaker 1: back and is addictive, that's not our fault. We can't
- 8:52Speaker 1: help the people are posting such awesome stuff in spite
- 8:55Speaker 1: of the overm So after the break, after the break,
- 8:58Speaker 1: because we did need a technic break, I want to
- 8:59Speaker 1: talk about my overall take on what this is. And
- 9:02Speaker 1: I'm sure you'll have some questions and comments about it
- 9:04Speaker 1: as well. And I do want to talk about what's
- 9:06Speaker 1: happening globally and bring that second story in because this
- 9:09Speaker 1: social media challenge is not going away and his parents,
- 9:13Speaker 1: it's really important that we know what's going on here.
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- 9:43Speaker 2: So what's your take on this? It feels like there
- 9:46Speaker 2: is not just a mountain, a mountain range that has
- 9:49Speaker 2: to be crossed, right, Yeah, for this to go anywhere.
- 9:52Speaker 1: This is the neverest. I feel like Judge Judy right now.
- 9:55Speaker 1: I feel like I'm sitting there at the I'm wearing
- 9:57Speaker 1: my black robe and I've got my hammer. I'm about
- 9:58Speaker 1: to say order, order, and I don't know. I'm not
- 10:01Speaker 1: a lawyer, but with what I do know, here's what
- 10:03Speaker 1: I would say. Number One, it's hard to argue that
- 10:06Speaker 1: social media has not caused harm. I believe that it
- 10:08Speaker 1: has not to all teenagers, but certainly too many. And
- 10:12Speaker 1: the social media company's own research shows that it has happened,
- 10:17Speaker 1: that it is happening, that it continues to happen, And
- 10:20Speaker 1: it would be breathtakingly disingenuous, mendacious, dishonest for them to
- 10:25Speaker 1: say otherwise, but you know what they will, because they
- 10:27Speaker 1: are mendacious, and they are dishonest, and they are disingenuous,
- 10:29Speaker 1: And I've got no belief in their integrity whatsoever.
- 10:32Speaker 2: I remember experience that you and I had early on
- 10:35Speaker 2: in our marriage, and when it came to a verdict
- 10:39Speaker 2: being called, the acknowledgment was that, well, the other party
- 10:44Speaker 2: had acted immoraly, they had not acted unlawfully.
- 10:49Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So this is going back a long time
- 10:51Speaker 1: when we ended up in court for some reasons, when
- 10:54Speaker 1: I decided that I could win a court case against
- 10:56Speaker 1: a previous employer, and it just all it did was
- 10:59Speaker 1: chewed up our lives for a year and it was miserable.
- 11:01Speaker 1: But this, and it's not about morality.
- 11:03Speaker 2: This to me feels like it's exactly the same thing.
- 11:06Speaker 2: They know exactly what they're doing, but they've created the
- 11:10Speaker 2: safety net within the law to protect them in spite
- 11:14Speaker 2: of the fact that it's in a morally corrupt enterprise
- 11:16Speaker 2: like it just, I can't see how you can win.
- 11:20Speaker 1: This is going to be a really big challenge. So
- 11:22Speaker 1: they will argue hard against that, even though it does.
- 11:25Speaker 1: You talked about it the legal landscape, and I'm thinking
- 11:29Speaker 1: of all the caves.
- 11:30Speaker 2: Have already passed a law.
- 11:31Speaker 1: Yeah, all the caves that they can hide in, exactly right,
- 11:34Speaker 1: all the coves that protect them from the wind, and
- 11:36Speaker 1: the storm and that kind of thing.
- 11:38Speaker 2: I also hide behind this big shield of financial security
- 11:42Speaker 2: that buys them whatever they need.
- 11:44Speaker 1: Buy them all the protection they need. Yeah, the technicalities
- 11:47Speaker 1: are also going to be really hard to overcome here, compulsive, intentional, addictive, harmful,
- 11:53Speaker 1: it is. I think that it's pretty clear that they're
- 11:56Speaker 1: prioritized engagement over safety. I also think it's clear that
- 12:00Speaker 1: they've done too little, too late. But this is going
- 12:03Speaker 1: to be tricky, and like I said before, mental health
- 12:06Speaker 1: it's so multifaceted. It's so complex to be able to
- 12:09Speaker 1: say I have my mental health challenges. They exist because
- 12:13Speaker 1: of what you've done on your platform. That's a really,
- 12:17Speaker 1: really big hard thing to prove, so big lawyers Section
- 12:23Speaker 1: two thirty. I'm not hopeful. I'm genuinely not hopeful. I
- 12:26Speaker 1: wish I was. I wish I could say this is
- 12:28Speaker 1: the start of something new. There's going to be a
- 12:29Speaker 1: whole new world. I don't like the chances that this
- 12:34Speaker 1: stuff will get up. And I have to add, if
- 12:36Speaker 1: the small person here wins against the goliath of the
- 12:40Speaker 1: big tech companies, the big tech companies will appeal, it
- 12:43Speaker 1: will go to a higher court. This stuff will drag
- 12:45Speaker 1: on four years. We are not going to get quick
- 12:46Speaker 1: resolutions if.
- 12:48Speaker 2: She didn't have any mental health challenges before the case.
- 12:52Speaker 2: By the time she gets through the other end of it,
- 12:55Speaker 2: it's big challenges. It's going to be intense, taxing. But
- 12:57Speaker 2: now I think we've only got a few minutes left.
- 12:59Speaker 2: And I am curious. You made a prediction at the
- 13:02Speaker 2: beginning of the year in relation to the social media
- 13:06Speaker 2: minimum age legislation that was recently passed here in Australia,
- 13:10Speaker 2: and that you believed it would start to have a
- 13:14Speaker 2: flow on effect around the.
- 13:15Speaker 1: World proliferation was my prediction. And where are we at.
- 13:19Speaker 2: You've got an update.
- 13:20Speaker 1: The world is paying attention to Australia, which is what
- 13:22Speaker 1: I said. People are watching so right now. Indonesia is
- 13:25Speaker 1: looking at passing some legislation fairly soon. France has also
- 13:28Speaker 1: signed on they're going to make it fifteen. There are
- 13:30Speaker 1: some cultural reasons that it's fifteen in France. Sixteen is
- 13:33Speaker 1: still a better age, but they're going to go with fifteen.
- 13:35Speaker 1: Fifteen is better than twelve, twelve or thirteen. Also, Spain
- 13:39Speaker 1: and the Netherlands are debating legislation at the moment and
- 13:43Speaker 1: trying to draft the right legislation to get that through
- 13:45Speaker 1: their parliament. And I saw a news article in the
- 13:47Speaker 1: last week indicating that the United States of America is
- 13:53Speaker 1: saying that they're going to look at it. Now. I
- 13:54Speaker 1: don't know what that means, and I've got very very
- 13:56Speaker 1: low of hopes. However, the tide is turning, and I
- 14:01Speaker 1: do want to read something to you that showed up
- 14:03Speaker 1: on Jonathan Heit's blog after Babel. He was sharing something
- 14:07Speaker 1: in relation to why this line in the sand moment
- 14:09Speaker 1: has happened, and he says this. He says the cognitive
- 14:12Speaker 1: psychologist Stephen Pinker explains what's happening. His most recent book,
- 14:17Speaker 1: When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows, Common Knowledge and the
- 14:19Speaker 1: Mysteries of Money, Power and Everyday Life explores the massive
- 14:23Speaker 1: social change that can occur when widespread private knowledge suddenly
- 14:28Speaker 1: becomes public knowledge. For example, many people may privately know
- 14:33Speaker 1: that a dictator is brutal, that an ideology is bankrupt,
- 14:35Speaker 1: yet nothing changes for many years until something happens that
- 14:38Speaker 1: lets everyone know that everyone else knows it too, and
- 14:42Speaker 1: that everyone knows that everyone knows that everyone knows. Once
- 14:47Speaker 1: that threshold has crossed, new forms of coordination become possible.
- 14:50Speaker 1: Social movements ignite regimes and walls fall. Norms can change
- 14:54Speaker 1: almost overnight. Hands Christian Anderson captured the same dynamic in
- 14:57Speaker 1: his famous story The Emperor's New Clothes. The Emperor was
- 15:00Speaker 1: and everyone could see it, but no one knew if
- 15:03Speaker 1: others saw it too, because the swindlers had spread the
- 15:07Speaker 1: idea that only the wires could see the cloth. It
- 15:10Speaker 1: took a child's cry the Emperor has no clothes to
- 15:14Speaker 1: convert private knowledge into public knowledge. What the child said
- 15:18Speaker 1: was whispered from one to another until the crowd finally
- 15:21Speaker 1: cried out together. This, says Jonathan Hyight, is what happened
- 15:25Speaker 1: among leaders around the world in the month after Australia's
- 15:28Speaker 1: age limit went into effect. In other words, everyone's always known, well,
- 15:32Speaker 1: for years, we've known this is not good for our kids,
- 15:35Speaker 1: but everybody hasn't known that everybody else knows. But now
- 15:37Speaker 1: that everybody knows that everybody knows, we can say everybody knows,
- 15:42Speaker 1: and therefore the change is sweeping the globe.
- 15:45Speaker 2: So it just feels like to me, there's this reassurance
- 15:49Speaker 2: that the power of one voice can actually make a difference.
- 15:54Speaker 1: It's pretty wild. It's pretty wild. So let's just wrap
- 15:57Speaker 1: this up with take home message. To take home message
- 15:59Speaker 1: is pretty clear. When your children are engaging with screens,
- 16:02Speaker 1: they're missing out on life. When your children engaging with screens,
- 16:05Speaker 1: their risk of mental health challenges is increasing, the risk
- 16:09Speaker 1: of obesity is increasing. Their risk of losing out on
- 16:12Speaker 1: sleep is increasing. Their risk of social difficulties is increasing.
- 16:17Speaker 1: The risk of anything good happening in their lives is
- 16:20Speaker 1: decreasing because life happens analog not digital. Far more, parenting
- 16:26Speaker 1: should be analog as well, not digital. That's the take
- 16:30Speaker 1: home message for today. Thanks so much for listening to
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