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What can make narcissist go crazy or lose their minds · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee, have it
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time I see my
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  face or hear my voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people into therapy like myself,
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  and then also validate the victims, survivors and thrivers
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  of said disorder. They talk to people, said talk
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  to choice. We know everybody's not a
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  narcissist job. Today's episode is going to be
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  about what? Drives a narcissist crazy.
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  What drives a narcissistic person crazy?
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  What makes them lose their minds?
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  What makes us lose our minds? Before we hop into today's
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  Okay. Y'all.
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  What drives a narcissist crazy? Yes, yes, yes.
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  I'm about to do my hair. Pretty soon my hair as they
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  mess. Yeah, y'all.
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  The first one of the things that drive the narcissist crazy is
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  loss of control. That's number that that's the
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  number one thing that I feel like drives a lot of
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  narcissistic people crazy. Is it the number one thing for
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  every single narcissistic person?
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  Absolutely not. Before a lot of narcissists loss
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  of control will absolutely make them lose their minds and just
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  kind of reach. They either going to retreat
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  with inside themselves or they might snap and and lose their
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  minds on you. You see what I'm saying?
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  They might lose their minds and come try to harm you, to come
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  try to do something to you become super obsessive over you
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  because they've lost control over you and yeah, yeah.
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  A lot of narcissists know that know that they're not treating
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  you the best. They know they've lied to you.
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  They know. Yes.
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  Do narcissists know they're lying to you?
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  Absolutely. Yes.
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  They know that they are. They.
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  They know. They know that they are lying to
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  you. They know that they are
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  manipulating you. They know they're they're
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  treating you badly when they're cheating on you.
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  They know it's not a good thing. Y'all because that's why they
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  don't come home and tell you hey, hey, Boo.
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  I just got through cheating on you.
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  It was so good. No, they don't do that.
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  Because that's not the mindset that they know it's wrong.
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  So when you finally take your power back and they saw a losing
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  control, they might lose their damn minds.
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  So you have to be very weary. I'm not, this is not me telling
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  you to stay in their relationship with a narcissistic
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  person. This is me telling you the
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  things that might drive the Narciss, that might push them
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  over the edge. You know, but they lose control.
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  And like I said, they no longer have the access to you.
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  They might just go crazy. So they'll use the kids as
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  leverage. They'll beg and plead.
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  They'll pop up at your house. They'll pop up at their job.
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  They'll pop up at your work. They'll just keep popping up in
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  different places to try to regain that control.
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  They'll scare you. They want to.
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  They. They'll start to threaten.
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  Some of them will start start threatening you.
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  They'll threaten you with, you know.
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  And doing things here and there, they'll threaten you to to harm
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  you or to do something to somebody else.
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  I'm if you have another man over there around my kids, I'm going
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  to come over there and beat. I'm going to beat him up.
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  Let him know you might be my kids.
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  Nobody around my kids. Yeah, they will do that.
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  Y'all. Loss of control.
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  Another thing that would drive narcissist crazy, if we like a
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  better word, drive us wild, make us lose our minds, is if you
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  move on. If we, if we are not ready for
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  you to move on, if we have not prepared ourselves to see you
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  with somebody else, even if we have you know, and we see you
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  with somebody else, it the narcissistic person could lose
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  their damn minds. Being realistic, especially if
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  you move on to somebody else that's doing better than them.
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  That looks better than them. That might, you know, have
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  access to more resources than them.
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  Your kids actually like them. Oh, my goodness, y'all.
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  And when I say drive, when I say drive a Narcisse is crazy.
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  I'm not talking about just them just going ballistic.
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  And you know, just, you know, they call it crashing out
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  nowadays, they going ballistic and losing their mind and just
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  being loud and obnoxious and raging out.
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  Some of them have quiet. Some of them will go crazy with
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  quiet rage. They'll do.
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  The covert narcissistic person will do subtle things to mess
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  with you, though. They they they want vengeance.
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  Because now you make me go crazy.
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  You made me lose my mind. You moved on to somebody else
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  and I can't get it out of my head.
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  Now I'm going to start doing subtle things to mess with you,
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  subtle things to mess with your new partner and things like
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  that. So you got to be very weary when
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  you're dealing with a toxic narcissistic person that you
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  know if you, when you finally decide to move on, just get I'm
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  not telling you not to move on, move on with your life, live
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  your life to the fullest extent possible.
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  You know what I mean? Don't, don't let the fear of
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  this person doing something or saying something stop you from
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  moving on. Because that's what the
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  narcissistic person wants. That's what they want.
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  Y'all. That's literally what they want.
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  They want you to have that fear of moving on so you won't move
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  on. So you just stay single and by
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  yourself for a long time. You know what I mean?
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  And this can be and this can happen y'all.
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  And the crazy thing about this is this can happen even if they
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  have someone else. Like they can be engaged or
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  married, have a whole new damn family.
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  But with the second you move on it's an issue.
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  It's a big ass problem because they never thought you would do
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  it. And I said especially if you
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  move on and it's somebody that makes them feel super insecure,
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  that makes them feel invalidated, that makes them
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  question their reality and existence.
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  Oof be buckled up because they they buckle up that you bought
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  be going for a bumpy toxic ass ride, you know what I mean?
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  But that's the the inner workers of a lot of narcissistic people.
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  Y'all you got to be prepared for because they're going like,
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  yeah, they're going to do it, you know what I mean?
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  And I try to prepare as many people as I possibly can because
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  they lost control. And you moving on with somebody
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  else drives them crazy. They can.
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  You mean another thing that by driving a narcissistic person
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  crazy is kind of falls under the purview of the losing control is
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  when you go no contact. When you go no contact with a
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  narcissistic person, they will lose their damn minds.
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  Some of them, That's when you saw they started calling you
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  from fake numbers, hitting dialing star 6-7, popping up on
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  you just like harassing your friends and family, threatening
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  the kids if your mom doesn't. I know women can be narcissists
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  as well. Y'all a bunch of women
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  narcissists as well. I'm just saying this from my
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  perspective, like if your mom. Doesn't call me, man, and tell
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  her I'm going to go on the line myself.
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  I'm going to go on the line myself and it's going to hit her
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  up. That's how it's going to be,
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  y'all. So you have to prepare for it
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  and buckle up and do things like that.
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  That's the mindset of it all. Y'all.
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  So I just have to tell people, don't I say go no contact.
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  Don't let this deter you from going no contact because
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  absolutely go no contact. If that's on your heart, if
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  that's what you need to do, you know what I mean?
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  And less contact, like when you go local, if you have kids and
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  you have to contact, communicate through a a, a, a parenting app
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  or something like that. Go low contact only.
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  Respond to what's necessary. Y'all.
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  They start sending you an inappropriate things through the
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  through the parenting app. Something.
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  I love you, I miss you. Something like that.
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  Do not acknowledge that. Do not acknowledge that.
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  Do not acknowledge it one way or the other.
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  You mean? Of course it's documented now
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  because it's in the app, but do not acknowledge that you know.
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  Keep it low. Contact when you're not
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  responding to what? That you when you're not
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  responding to their efforts. They might lose their damn
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  minds. They might absolutely go
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  ballistic. They might start to behave
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  differently. They might start to behave
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  wildly. They might do a lot of different
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  things to you, around you and for you.
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  So you have to buckle up and prepare for it because that's
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  that's that's kind of part of it right there, You know what I
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  mean? So buckle up because like I
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  said, when you go no contact or no contact or you start ignoring
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  them, yeah, they might lose their minds.
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  You know, I talked to, I talked to a woman on the on Instagram
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  the other day. Her ex lives a few states away.
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  And she's he's calling her at one.
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  She he had the the their son is like with the babysitter,
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  whatever. And she's always having fun or
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  whatever. And he's like spying on her
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  Instagram, calling her at 1:00 AM.
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  Tell us he want to see his son. With my son that you didn't tell
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  you what? What my son that you a hoe.
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  You did. You that you see.
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  You see. That's why we're not together
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  like 1:00 o'clock in the morning.
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  You live several states away. You can't watch your kid.
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  You barely see your kid. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's just like, what are you doing?
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  Yeah, 1:00, o'clock in the morning, phone calls.
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  Somebody want to see his son knowing that he sees he sees her
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  on Instagram about having fun with somebody else.
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  Now he wants to see his son at 1:00 AM, trying to exert his
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  power of losing his damn mind. I'm telling you, y'all less
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  access and you moving on to somebody else.
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  You being happy with somebody else drives them wild.
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  You proving them another thing. Y'all you proving that you don't
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  need them, that you can live life without them.
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  Can't drive a narcissistic person.
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  Wow. They can.
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  You know, not all of them. Some of them will assume that
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  you're not doing as well as you think you're.
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  Some of them will just automatically think that you're
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  not doing good because you're not with them.
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  And nobody, nothing, nothing you can do, can change their minds
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  because they're delusional. But some of them, when they see
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  you living your life to to to us, when they see you living
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  your life to living your best life, so to speak, they will
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  make them. Might, might make them lose
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  their damn minds too. Y'all.
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  Seriously. That might make them absolutely
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  lose their damn minds. I'm telling you, just like see
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  and I'll say when I say living your best life, it doesn't
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  necessarily mean with someone else.
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  It means you can live your best life by yourself.
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  It means nobody. It means even if you see them or
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  y'all, you see them somewhere and they have a they have a new
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  supply. You're not reacting, you just
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  keeping it moving. Not not effective.
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  If they if they can't get a reaction from you, they can
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  drive them while y'all. Like I said that that type of
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  stuff right there when you started, we started succeed in
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  life. When you started doing all the
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  stuff they told you you couldn't do, all the stuff that made you
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  feel bad about doing all the type of stuff right there that
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  would they would make them lose their damn minds.
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  So do it y'all. I'm not saying the intention to
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  try to set somebody out. I'm telling you to do the things
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  that you feel like you need to do, to be, to feel, to feel
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  strong and empower. Y'all.
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  Because that's the that's the best way to go about doing
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  things, to empower yourself to move forward.
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  Because if you're not moving forward, they're going to,
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  they're just going to certainly think that you can't move on
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  like you you the only reason you're here.
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  Like they're they are the best thing that ever going to happen
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  to you. And when you prove that by not
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  needing them anymore, it might make them lose their damn minds
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  and just, you know, go ballistic and do whatever they need to do.
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  Y'all because that's that's that's what happens with a lot
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  of people. Y'all it really is what happens
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  with a lot in in a lot of these relationships.
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  So empower yourself, y'all. Do the things you want to do.
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  Travel. Do all the stuff that you want
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  to do. You know living well is the best
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  revenge, and living well can make a lot of narcissistic
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  people lose their minds. You mean it?
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  It really can. Y'all y'all hear my cat in the
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  background. Hey hey, he's trying to get out.
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  But it's how it goes though. Y'all I like I said.
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  I'm going to cut this thing short because my cat just
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  started scratching the carpet up.
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  You hear it. What are you doing?
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