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DLHS Hour 2 | Husband Puts Wife Above All · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: So a man says this. Nothing comes before my wife.
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  Speaker 1: And the fact that it's controversial, you know, here's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: If you roll your eyes when you ask that question,
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  Speaker 1: you don't like the person you with. I know I
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  Speaker 1: can't do it. You got to do you got to
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  Speaker 1: put all the scruffiness in your voice, all that. You
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  Speaker 1: don't really like who you with. But in theory, it
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  Speaker 1: is supposed to be that.
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  Speaker 2: Way, right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And I think that might be the reason, you know, unfortunately,
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  Speaker 3: so many marriages don't make it more than half of them.
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  Speaker 1: End in divorce.
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  Speaker 3: And, uh, you know, a lot of times people put
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  Speaker 3: other stuff in front of your spouse and it's not
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  Speaker 3: supposed to be. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And like you said, you said it, you work all,
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  Speaker 1: you work as much as I do.
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  Speaker 3: Skip.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Work a lot.
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  Speaker 5: I work.
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  Speaker 1: There are people who could say like, you could have
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  Speaker 1: an argument where she's, they could say you always work
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  Speaker 1: and you seem to care about everything more than, and
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  Speaker 1: that wouldn't be true, but that would, you know, somebody
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  Speaker 1: could have that kind of perspective.
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  Speaker 3: Right. I mean, they could, but you know, who am
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  Speaker 3: I working for? We, we put, you know, me and
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  Speaker 3: my wife, it's a team. We doing our thing. You
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  Speaker 3: take it out. I got this thing. I bring the
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  Speaker 3: money home. You put it where it's supposed to go. So, uh,
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  Speaker 3: I got that thing too, but they don't.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: They put it in a lot of places they wanted
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  Speaker 3: to go.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think you gotta go to Amazon all the time.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think though. But you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But, uh,
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  Speaker 1: you gotta keep it together.
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  Speaker 3: Keep that teamwork. Cause you, you know, kids will play
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  Speaker 3: you against each other too. Well, mama said, daddy said,
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  Speaker 3: you know, they do that. So you gotta, you gotta
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  Speaker 3: stand together, man.
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  Speaker 1: My kid, my daughter's grown married to a doctor, still
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  Speaker 1: got a credit card for me that they run up
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  Speaker 1: every year, every week, every month, every week. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think there are that what he has said is
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  Speaker 1: absolutely true. And it's the way things ought be. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know that they always are. And I don't know
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  Speaker 1: that even him, he was talking about even when his
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  Speaker 1: kids were younger. And the more dependent, I bet he
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  Speaker 1: didn't have that same kind of attitude when they got older.
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  Speaker 1: I think you said it, though. There's situations, but you
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  Speaker 1: got to look at the overall. Of course. The overall.
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  Speaker 6: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: This is, you know, something's happening today.
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  Speaker 1: OK, you got to deal with it. But but overall,
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  Speaker 1: it's a sliding scale. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But, you know, I think I'm going to eat first. Like, well,
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  Speaker 1: here's the thing. My father always ate first. Always. That
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  Speaker 1: was the only thing he got. We ate and we
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  Speaker 1: got to eat. We couldn't start eating until he started eating.
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  Speaker 1: Then when he was finished, if he pushed away from
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  Speaker 1: the table and didn't want any more, we could have seconds.
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  Speaker 1: If he wanted some more, we didn't have seconds. That
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  Speaker 1: was it. It was really the only thing he got.
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  Speaker 1: But he got fed first. And we couldn't start eating
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  Speaker 1: until he started eating.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 7: You know.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. There aren't very much. You know,
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  Speaker 1: my wife was never going to do that. I'm feed
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  Speaker 1: my kids. But in theory, with this, with this brother
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  Speaker 1: saying is absolutely right and appropriate. And I think the
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  Speaker 1: way that it ought be. Skip, you said something off air.
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  Speaker 1: I find it very interesting. What do you say?
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  Speaker 3: I said in that dynamic we're talking about right now,
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  Speaker 3: you got parents, you got spouse, you got kids. I
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  Speaker 3: bet most of the time, the most disappointment you've probably
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  Speaker 3: ever felt from that dynamic is probably from your kids.
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  Speaker 1: And I think it's a bet. It's a close.
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  Speaker 3: There's a couple of reasons for that. I think sometimes
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  Speaker 3: we put too high expectation. We want our kids to be.
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  Speaker 3: We want so much for them and we put it high.
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  Speaker 3: And when they do some things and don't listen and
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  Speaker 3: everything else, I think, you know, well, no, your spouse
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  Speaker 3: could disappoint you.
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  Speaker 1: Fortunately, I have. No, no, no, no, no. And vice versa.
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  Speaker 1: I'll tell you this. Both my daughters were hood rats
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  Speaker 1: and got arrested, but I had to pay for lawyers
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  Speaker 1: and stuff, so I was very disappointed. That was disappointing.
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  Speaker 1: I bet you it was disappointing. Yes, it was. But
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  Speaker 1: disappointment in parents.
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  Speaker 3: You expected that from your parent, I bet, though.
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  Speaker 1: It's your level of expectation. You're right. Your level of expectation.
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  Speaker 1: Who do you put first, your spouse, your children, or
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  Speaker 1: your parents? We're going right to the phones.
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  Speaker 8: You stand before God, him seven, and the Holy Magi
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  Speaker 8: want to say, I do. That partner becomes your world,
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  Speaker 8: your life. And the format is, from that point, it's
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  Speaker 8: your children. After your children, there's your mother and father,
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  Speaker 8: then your brothers and sisters, and so on. That is
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  Speaker 8: the format. Your wife is your world, but you both
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  Speaker 8: keep God in your world. Anything outside of that has
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  Speaker 8: no bearing. We fall in order in that way. Your
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  Speaker 8: wife Your children, your mother's father, your sister's brothers, and
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  Speaker 8: so on with family members. That is the order that
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  Speaker 8: it goes.
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  Speaker 9: I can agree to disagree with the brother. I understand
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  Speaker 9: what he was saying about putting nobody before his wife
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  Speaker 9: in the marriage vows. Yes, but... I disagree with when
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  Speaker 9: he was saying about having the body fluids with his wife. Well,
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  Speaker 9: first of all, the first body fluids he ever had
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  Speaker 9: was with his mother coming out the womb. And secondly,
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  Speaker 9: with the mother kissing him. and breastfeeding him if she did.
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  Speaker 9: So I didn't understand how he got to that conclusion.
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  Speaker 9: And also, you know, again, the first entity that I
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  Speaker 9: put first is God.
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  Speaker 4: I agree with the gentleman totally. You know, 50 plus
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  Speaker 4: years ago, I was a child. My dad, he asked
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  Speaker 4: me the question while fishing. He said, if your mom
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  Speaker 4: was drowning or your wife was drowning, of course, at
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  Speaker 4: that age, I know nothing about a wife. He said,
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  Speaker 4: who would you say first? And I told him, of course,
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  Speaker 4: your mom. And he explained how the Bible works, what
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  Speaker 4: it said in the Bible. And he said, believe it
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  Speaker 4: or not, it's your wife that you're supposed to save.
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  Speaker 4: And that just stuck with me for years. Subsequently, about
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  Speaker 4: 10 years ago, a mentor friend of mine, and I
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  Speaker 4: was an adult and married, asked me the same question. And,
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  Speaker 4: of course, the response was what my dad had taught me.
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  Speaker 4: And he was a mason. He was training me for masonry.
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  Speaker 4: And he said, yes, that's exactly right. You're supposed to
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  Speaker 4: save your wife. All kudos to my man for even
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  Speaker 4: bringing it out because a lot of men don't have
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  Speaker 4: that in them like this day and age.
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  Speaker 6: I think that your spouse, I feel like I would
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  Speaker 6: put my spouse before anybody else. Once my kids hit
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  Speaker 6: like 15 or whatever, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, you go ahead and start looking for your.
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  Speaker 5: Job in your house, buddy.
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  Speaker 10: I'm sitting here with my partner over here.
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  Speaker 6: What do you think?
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  Speaker 9: I think the same thing.
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  Speaker 6: He thinks the same thing. We're on the truck or whatever.
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  Speaker 4: We're just listening.
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  Speaker 8: We want to tune in.
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  Speaker 11: If you're a true Christian, if you believe in the Bible,
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  Speaker 11: the Bible says the order of family is God first,
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  Speaker 11: spouse second, children third, parents fourth. There's nothing wrong with
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  Speaker 11: what he's saying when he's saying he put his wife first.
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  Speaker 11: That's how it's supposed to be. Man's supposed to put
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  Speaker 11: his wife first.
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  Speaker 1: Wife's supposed to put her husband first. Who do you
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  Speaker 1: put first, your spouse, your children, or your parents? We're
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  Speaker 1: going right to the phones.
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  Speaker 2: I heard the young lady earlier, she said that her
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  Speaker 2: kids come first before her man.
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  Speaker 11: Well, that's when you have a man.
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  Speaker 2: But if you have a husband, your husband comes first
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  Speaker 2: because if he provides for the house and take care
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  Speaker 2: of the household.
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  Speaker 11: Then he is the one to come first. And your
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  Speaker 11: kids come after him.
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  Speaker 8: But like you say, she had a.
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  Speaker 6: Man, just a man.
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  Speaker 11: So, yeah, they probably will come first.
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  Speaker 8: But now my opinion.
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  Speaker 11: Is your husband comes first. That's what he said in
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  Speaker 11: the Bible, and that's the way it should be.
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  Speaker 10: I feel like what the young man said was correct.
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  Speaker 10: I feel like what he said was correct because at
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  Speaker 10: the end of the day, like he said, we share
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  Speaker 10: each other's body. We become as one. And if you
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  Speaker 10: want to look at it from a spiritual level, it
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  Speaker 10: says once a man leaves his home and gets with
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  Speaker 10: his wife, he becomes one with his wife. So I
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  Speaker 10: feel like he was definitely correct. I feel like a
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  Speaker 10: lot of the time when we speak on this subject
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  Speaker 10: about the kids coming first and other people coming for you,
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  Speaker 10: it's usually, and I'm a black man myself, so I
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  Speaker 10: really feel like it happens a lot in our race.
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  Speaker 5: Nothing comes before my wife that is absolutely biblical, and
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  Speaker 5: he is absolutely correct. The Torah tells us to leave
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  Speaker 5: your mother and father and cleave to your wife. A
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  Speaker 5: man that findeth a wife finds a good thing. And
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  Speaker 5: so he is absolutely doing what Yahuwah has told us
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  Speaker 5: to do, and I agree with that.
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  Speaker 6: I've been married since 1990. And what I'm saying, I
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  Speaker 6: understand the brother. He wasn't literal. I take him just
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  Speaker 6: being passionate. Time dictates the agenda. Every situation is different.
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  Speaker 6: But the wife is always first. But situations are different
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  Speaker 6: from situation to situation. So when he says things like that,
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  Speaker 6: people take it literally like everything in the world. No, no, no.
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  Speaker 4: It's just passion.
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  Speaker 6: Because I speak with passion when I'm talking about my wife.
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  Speaker 6: But I know where to prioritize and where not to prioritize.
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  Speaker 6: And most people, to get upset about it, probably don't
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  Speaker 6: even have anybody.
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  Speaker 2: What the gentleman said is right, and I'm calling from
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  Speaker 2: a female's perspective because I feel like the female should
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  Speaker 2: be the same way about her husband because who is
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  Speaker 2: the one person that loves you for who you are?
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  Speaker 2: Your mother loves you because you're their kid. Your kid
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  Speaker 2: loves you because you are their parent. But that spouse,
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  Speaker 2: that mate, they chose you for the things that they
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  Speaker 2: like about you. So I believe that, yeah, my husband
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  Speaker 2: comes first, and then I deal with my children because
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  Speaker 2: if you make that husband that king, he should make
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  Speaker 2: everything right in your house.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, my wife is my world.
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  Speaker 6: But again, if it wasn't for my parents bringing me
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  Speaker 6: into the world, I wouldn't have had no wife to marry,
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  Speaker 6: no way. Can we clone this man?
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  Speaker 8: This man, he knows what he's talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Now, he did say his children after they got to
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  Speaker 2: a certain age.
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  Speaker 8: I think he's right.
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  Speaker 5: He needs to teach a class.
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  Speaker 2: Because if my ex-husband had this ideology, we would still
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  Speaker 2: be married.
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