Are you a Fixer or a Forcer?
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Growing up in a first-gen household, many of us became the “fixers.”
The emotional mediators.
The peace-keepers.
The ones who tried to guide, teach, translate, protect — and sometimes… control.
Not because we wanted power, but because survival taught us:
✨ “If I don’t fix it, it falls apart.”
✨ “If I don’t hold it together, no one will.”
✨ “If they change, then maybe we’ll finally feel safe.”
In this episode, we get real about the difference between helping and fixing, loving and forcing, guiding and controlling.
We explore:
Why first-geners often become “fixers”
The pressure…
The skinny
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