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Ep. 74: Exec Protection Specialist/Bodyguard "Big Adamm" on safety, purpose, God, & accountability · Adventures in Adversity: an inspirational podcast

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  All right, it is time for Episode 74.
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  I am so stoked. I am.
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  I wish I could have recorded all of our tests and conversation in
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  the last 10 minutes because as I said, we're already besties.
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  I am. I am so excited to introduce Big
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  Adam, my next guest. Adam, thank you so much for
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  being here. Thanks for having me on, I
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  appreciate it. Of course, and before we we
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  start yapping, I actually have to get my intro together right.
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  I got to introduce the actual podcast.
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  So welcome if you're new here. This is the Adventures and
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  Adversity podcast, not Adventures and Babysitting.
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  If you were born in the 70s or 80s, that was a great movie.
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  Adventures and Adversity is a podcast where we have real
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  people who come and tell true stories about how they have
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  gotten through or currently getting through life's
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  adversity. So I think, I'm pretty sure,
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  Adam, I'm pretty sure that you encounter adversity in your job.
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  And I'm pretty sure you've, you know, have a few stories about
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  life. Yeah.
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  That's that's basically the overall view of my job is
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  adversity and conflict avoidance, both of both in the
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  industry professionally and just in life overall.
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  Yeah, you are like, I feel like we're going to get into what you
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  do, but as a little preview, you're like adversity avoidance,
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  security. And neutralization when need be.
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  Unfortunately, that's part of it too you.
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  Neutralize adversity. Prevent adversity.
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  Neutralize it. You're always you're scanning as
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  a protection services specialist, is that correct?
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  Yes, executive protection specialist.
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  Executive protection specialist. That's so badass.
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  I'm sorry. I'm sure you hear that all the
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  time. But I was like when you when you
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  started following because we got connected through Jack, My
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  producer shot out Jack. I was like, I I saw your profile
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  and I was like, damn, that's badass.
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  I was just like, I have to talk to him.
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  Immediately, I do glam it. I do glam it up a little bit,
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  You know what I mean? It's got to look, it's got to be
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  able to play. But it's, it's, it's, it's, it's
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  a, a purpose that I've realized over years.
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  And turning it into a profession is, is a, is truly a blessing.
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  It's a it's what you do in all seriousness is incredible to me.
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  And the reason I believe that is like the amount of courage, I
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  would say like presence of mind, decision making, self-control.
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  What is it self regulation? I mean, there's so.
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  I don't even know situational awareness, all these kind of
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  things that it it, it's basically, it's basically trying
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  to control everything, fully aware that everything is out of
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  control. That's what it.
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  Oh. My gosh, yeah, that that's very
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  challenging, but probably incredibly rewarding.
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  It, it is and, and again it when you decide what your purpose is
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  in life, it makes things a lot easier.
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  And the fact that I have a profession where I can turn that
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  into a money making thing and a building thing and getting
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  people because I like to teach the clients as well.
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  The little tidbits I have. Like if I do something after
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  after I do it, I'll be like, I did that because of this.
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  So I want you to be aware that that's why that happened.
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  So it's not like I'm just there trying to to flex.
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  It's like this is what I saw. I want you to understand what I
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  saw and why we did that. It's now done.
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  But that's something that maybe you can put into your lifestyle
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  that can be avoided without me having to tell you.
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  And again, I'll tell you all day and listen, it's my job.
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  But, but I'm going to explain to you why, because again, you're
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  not with your clients their whole lives.
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  And again, being a protector is, is a great thing.
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  It's, it's very defensive. It's a defensive type stance.
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  Then there's people that are aggressors or who are offensive
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  and go after things. We're there to kind of let you
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  live your life and say no, no, no, that's the bad alley.
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  Don't go down that alley. Like, if you want to be a tough
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  guy and you're looking for a problem, go get him.
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  That's the alley. Let's not go there.
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  Wow. It's such an interesting,
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  interesting take on it. And I want to dive into
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  everything. And I'm just, I mean, like, you
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  have no idea how many questions I have.
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  And I was telling my husband too, I'm like, what questions do
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  you have? And he's like, OK, ask him this.
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  I I want to know this. And I'm like, I'm like, I want
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  to know that. That's cool.
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  I don't know that too. Well, I'm here for, I'm here for
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  it all, and I'm just really grateful to be here, so we're
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  good. You've you've seen my stories.
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  I have yes, I'm very the 2026 is unfiltered, very hyper and
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  unapologetic about how excited I get about everything my guests
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  do. I'm like tell me every.
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  The way it should be. The way it should be.
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  Yeah, OK. What?
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  Now that we've like teased the awesomeness and the coolness and
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  the courage of your profession, I want to rewind just a little
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  bit to before Adam was Big Adam professional and on Instagram
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  before you were a executive protection specialist before all
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  of you know, like you said, you're blessed to turn what you
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  feel your purposes into a career.
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  Take me back to to Jersey life. You're from Jersey.
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  Shout out to the. Jersey, yeah, absolutely, very
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  Jersey. And.
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  And. And again, I was blessed to be
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  about 10 minutes outside New York City, so it was OK, the
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  suburbs, but we were real close to the city that doesn't sleep
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  so but yeah, so I'm one of I'm one of four.
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  I have an older sister than me, than the younger sister and
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  younger brother and I can say this without any hesitation.
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  My parents are amazing. Like could not have done better.
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  Great people, solid people, great parents, definitely did
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  everything they could for us and and it was everything and more
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  that we could have asked. Now me, I took an easy life and
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  tried to make it as rough as possible.
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  All all the kids were into athletics and stuff like that.
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  We all went to Catholic school, that kind of stuff.
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  But we all kind of spread out our own ways.
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  But I was always, I was. I played football from first
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  grade all the way through college.
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  And. I was in offensive alignment
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  like I I back when you could play football.
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  We had peewees and then I went all the way through high school,
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  went to a Division Two school up in Boston.
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  Yeah, played up there. Where'd you go in Boston?
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  Curry College, which is in Milton, Mass, which is about 20
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  minutes outside of Boston. So I did a lot of work in Boston
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  while I was up there and grade school.
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  Good people. And, and I'm a big advocate of
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  athletics for a lot of reasons. A keeps you busy, keeps you
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  physically fit, but it also gives you, so I was an offensive
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  lineman. We're the guys that block for
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  all the superstars and it fit right into my purpose, which is
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  protected so. There it.
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  Is since I was young, I always had that and I grew up my mom's
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  Irish, my dad's Sicilian. We were always super, super,
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  super protective and my sisters probably didn't like it as much
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  as they. And then it sounds it was I was
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  a little bit of a overbearing older brother.
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  They're like, they're like, I like this guy.
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  Can you please not scare him? Yeah, 100%.
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  And my younger sister got the wrath of it.
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  My oldest sister was older than me, so she got away with a
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  little bit, but my younger sister always had seven or eight
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  guys looking like me keeping an eye on her.
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  And I'm sure it made it a little more difficult than it needed to
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  be, but she was also safe so. Should right?
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  Absolutely, I don't see the problem with it.
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  Apparently I've done something. Problem.
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  Absolutely. So you're OK?
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  That literally makes so much sense that you were protecting
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  the quarterback because your job, my husband's a football nut
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  and I know enough here. I think I can manage offense.
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  I mean, your sole job as an offensive lineman is to is it to
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  give the quarterback plenty of time to throw the ball and
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  protect? Well, it's, it's whoever has the
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  ball, whoever has whoever has the ball.
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  So if it's a running back, we're blocking for the running back.
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  If it's a wide receiver running, that's a field of block for
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  them. But basically it's protection
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  for whoever has the ball. Got it.
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  And, and, and it's offensive guys are again.
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  So the, the old saying is offensive players are a little
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  bit more smart and smart in the way that they know the play so
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  they can make the adjustments. They know what's going on.
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  Defensive are a little bit more aggressive because they have to
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  adjust. So again, same thing like I know
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  what's going on so I can make adjustments to make that person
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  safe. Now the the threat level is
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  actually the defensive side of it, which doesn't really know
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  what's going on, is willing to do whatever they can to to to
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  stop what's going on. It's it's such a direct
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  correlation to fascinating to me because football and I got a
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  college football Tennessee husband.
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  Okay, so like and then Buffalo Bills dad.
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  So like I understand the heart and passion and Ryan's always
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  like there's a lot of strategy. Like it's very, it's really if
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  you're an uneducated football person, you're like, it's not
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  just like. Moving around, Yeah, yeah.
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  It's a lot of strategy. When you talk to guys that are
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  really into it, like they're knowing down and down in
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  distance, knowing what the other defense is playing.
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  Because you'll see for anybody who's not really into football
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  when they're when they're making the adjustments prior to the
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  snap, how much thought and how much they've analyzed what's
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  going on to make adjustments to something that was already very
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  technical and they're doing it right before the ball goes off.
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  And that's the difference between good teams and bad
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  teams. The ones that they can make,
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  that they have something called football IQ and it's actually a
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  part of drafting people. What's their football IQ?
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  How can they make the adjustments on the field?
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  How can they see things, see patterns and and make
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  adjustments for it? That's part of it.
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  Because it's great to be good and it's great to be fast and
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  it's great to be big. But if you don't know what
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  you're doing out there, you're just, you're wandering in the,
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  you're wandering in the Prairie. Brilliant, brilliant.
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  And that's why you you spend all the time studying film and stats
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  and so much strategy. Like Ryan, my husband says it's
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  like chess with pads or a. 100%. It's like.
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  That's a really good, that's a really good parallel.
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  I like that. And I was like, oh.
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  Yeah. OK, Yeah, OK.
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  And then you look. At that makes sense.
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  Yeah, I'm like that. Makes sense, You're right.
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  Very, very cool. And just to share a commonality,
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  you said a few things. East Coast, you said you're
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  Irish, Italian. Same.
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  Very nice classic. I love it with.
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  A with a sprinkle of South African.
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  Hey listen, it's good to have a sprinkle.
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  You got you can't just do the Irish Italian.
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  It's not, it's not sustainable. I can't even say Italian, I have
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  to say Sicilian or my dad gets mad.
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  So there you go. Yes, well, I knew immediately
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  when we started talking. I'm like, OK, yeah, there's
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  some, there's some common roots here because like, sorry, I.
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  Actually have to like almost. So I'm in the West Coast now I'm
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  in Arizona and I almost have to apologize for it out here.
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  So just, and it's not like a like a brag.
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  It's like, but I'm going to be sarcastic.
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  So just know that it's coming. Know that be aware that I'm
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  joking before I say. And if I'm not joking, I'm going
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  to stop talking so you realize that I'm not joking anymore.
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  Exactly. Totally.
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  No, we got it. You know, I'm in California and
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  we got to bring some East Coast, you know, a little old over here
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  because as I am very now outspoken on my podcast, I just
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  don't care if you like it or not.
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  I respectfully decline to care, but I allow you to to dislike
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  anything I say. Because again, it comes from a
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  place of good intention that, and that's the thing, like we
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  get lost in the delivery aspect of it.
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  Sometimes if a person's a good person, they they might come off
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  a little brash or something like that.
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  But if the attention's pure, then it's a good thing.
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  Yes, 100 percent, 100%. So, so we got a, we're bringing
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  a little East Coast to the West Coast.
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  Absolutely. And they need it and they needed
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  it. They.
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  Need it? Don't even get me started on
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  California. That's I.
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  Might, yeah. This will be a four part podcast
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  at that point. I might get very animated and
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  very irritated. Fair.
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  Understandable. But.
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  Then. We look in New York and we say
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  the same thing a little bit. It's like, hey guys, what
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  happened? I'm.
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  Like. No.
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  When did we lose it? So I'll text like Jack and I'll
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  be like, and he's like, I know I'm like, damn.
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  It it's. What?
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  Is nobody watching? Like, have we just given up?
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  I'm. Like guys, guys, we got to we
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  got to talk to each other and take a breath here a. 100%.
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  Hence the podcast, right? And I hope and welcome anyone
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  with differing opinions if they're like, this girl is like
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  out of her mind, come on the podcast and let's like, let's
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  prove me wrong, like we were talking.
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  But that's the beauty of it. Like, like, like we said it, it,
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  it's, I think this is a big part of what we've lost.
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  I, I think the dynamic of conversation and the dynamic of
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  being able to sort stuff out without it being like ill
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  willed, Like, like I said before, I've been proven wrong
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  in life more times than I'd like to count.
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  But you can't just tell me I'm wrong, tell me why I'm wrong.
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  And maybe you don't see it the way I see it.
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  Maybe I don't see it the way you see it, but maybe there's a
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  commonality in there that could be that little ground that we we
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  save ourselves on and could say, all right, listen, we agree on
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  this. Why do you see it that way and
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  why do I see it this way? Well, you know, I had this
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  experience. Oh well, that makes sense.
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  Yes. Because again, we don't know
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  where we're not cookie cutters. The, The beauty of being a human
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  is you're an individual and the importance of it is to find what
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  you, what value you bringing. I'm not not talking monetarily,
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  I'm talking how do you look at things and what you're good at
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  and all this other stuff. I, I think that we've all tried
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  to mimic people and that has absolutely destroyed the ability
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  to be an individual and we're losing out on great people.
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  We're just trying to be like somebody else.
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  Yes, Hallelujah to all of that, Julian Jack.
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  That's a mic drop moment right there.
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  True. Though, Because you know, it's a
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  beautiful thing and like, I know I'm see, I'm so like ADHD all
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  over the place, but you're and I want to get back to your life
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  and your career. But it's so important because I
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  think why I was so excited to have you on the podcast is
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  because like, I think you are out there seeing reality in
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  situations that are high pressure, where there's
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  potentially disagreement and potential conflict, and your
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  whole goal is to deescalate and prevent.
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  But you're also wanting to let your client enjoy life.
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  People enjoy life with a respectful boundary.
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  Right. Absolutely like we.
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  Can all and, and again for me, for me it's, it's I've been in
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  the industry for 23 years. When you start out, you, you
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  take the jobs you can get you, you, you do the work that you
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  can get. You build a, build a reputation.
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  You learn what you want to deal with and what you don't want to
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  deal with. And I'm at the point now where
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  if somebody doesn't tie in with my belief systems or they act a
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  certain way, I have a harder time validating, protecting it.
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  I'm. Sure.
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  Because like again, with the influencer phase that we're
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  going through, you, you, you'll see a lot of the stuff that goes
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  on the transition of what wealth and power used to be and what it
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  is now. It's almost unrecognizable.
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  And again, I'm blessed. I'm, I'm older, like I got to
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  see it at its purest form and, and the transition of it, of
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  course everything changes, but I feel like the only thing that's
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  changing is, is the stuff that we should have kept, like our
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  foundational skills, our foundational values, what we
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  found important, what we were willing to stand for has gone to
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  the wayside. And now we're celebrating stuff
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  that I, I don't understand and I don't really want to understand
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  like, because when you look at what its value is, a lot of
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  times it's either fame or monetary.
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  And I'm not really down with that.
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  Like if you stand for something or you're a good person, or if
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  you have something to say, you have the right to say and you
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  have the right to be protected. But again, now with the
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  influencer phase that we go through, it's more how much
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  chaos can I cause? Because I'm not really saying
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  anything. So if I look exciting, it'll
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  sell as exciting. Because if you, if you watch a
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  lot of the, and like I said to you before, these are the kind
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  of podcasts that should be celebrated because you watch the
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  other ones and it's like these people have nothing to say and
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  they're not listen, there's levels of intelligence.
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  But if you're just trying to be shock value and you're just
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  trying to celebrate the newest thing or this or that, what
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  happens when that goes away? What, what do you stand for?
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  What, what is your, what is your foundational skill set that made
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  you famous? Oh, well, you know, I walk
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  around the mall and I do pranks again.
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  The prank thing I'll go off on forever because that stuff here,
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  it takes me to death. But but the, but the reaction
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  videos and stuff like that, I, I, it gives me odds.
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  It really does. It gives me absolute heartburn
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  watching what these kids get away with.
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  Yeah, I sit there and I have this like inner monologue where
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  I'm like, I think I've let my client take a slap on that one.
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  I think I wouldn't let him get hurt her, but maybe a little
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  slap would remind him that that's not acceptable in in
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  today's society. Yep, so thank well and I I
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  really appreciate that you find that you find this podcast like
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  Subs. What's a good word?
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  Like sub substance right? Like right?
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  Because it's it's valuable. It's valuable to something that
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  we are missing because what we're doing is we found
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  something that's successful, like all the prank stuff and
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  then look at the car I have and all this other stuff like, and
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  we put all of our eggs into that basket.
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  And that's why we don't know what we stand for anymore
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  because we're just chasing the newest fad.
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  How about we bring it? How about we bring it back to,
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  to faith and to being good people and to community.
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  It's a real community, not the lights and the and the, you
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  know, the RE shares and stuff like that.
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  Well, there's so many people in this world, and if you find
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  yours, you're blessed. But if you're trying to be
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  somebody you're not, you're never going to find your people
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  because you don't know who you are.
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  It's so clear to me, that statement and I understand the
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  power of it. And like once you start, I'm
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  even just now starting to find this is a whole thread we're
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  going to go on my identity price, right?
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  Like. Absolutely so.
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  I'm like, whoa, life. OK, what?
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  Whoa. That now I'm like, that's what
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  matters to me versus my online persona or my, you know, what
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  people think of my post and what if people think I'm saying too
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  much about that? If you really tone it down on
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  that and turn no my, I'm following who I'm called to be
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  and like, not everyone's going to like that.
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  Well, and and again, let me make life real simple.
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  There's one judge. There's one judge.
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  Yes, and it. And it ain't us.
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  And, and, and it's, it's not the people that are talking to you
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  either. Like it's, it's, again, it's
• 21:25
  super cliche and it's, you know, it's, it's put God first and
• 21:29
  everything else to sort itself out.
• 21:31
  When you put God first, the noise around you actually quiets
• 21:36
  because you realize that that noise isn't coming from what
• 21:40
  truly matters. There's one phone call that we
• 21:43
  should be on at all times and it's with him.
• 21:47
  And once you get that down, let me let me be brutally honest.
• 21:52
  It doesn't make life perfect and it doesn't make it easy, but it
• 21:55
  makes it clear. And once you get that clarity,
• 21:59
  everything else is manageable. Because once you stop caring
• 22:03
  about all the nonsense and start realizing that we were given the
• 22:07
  gift of life by by a creation and we owe it all to him and we
• 22:14
  were put here for a reason that is again, it sounds like, but
• 22:21
  that is life changing. It's.
• 22:25
  Everything. Change is everything, and it
• 22:27
  does make it a lot more simple when you actually surrender to
• 22:31
  it. That is so good and I'm so glad
• 22:35
  you went into that because I want to go into now when you are
• 22:40
  learning football and you're growing up jersey and you're
• 22:43
  protecting. Did you know God the way you
• 22:47
  know God now? Oh.
• 22:49
  No, no, no. I, I, I, I'm going to tell you
• 22:53
  God was a group to me. There's Christians, there's
• 22:56
  Catholics, there's Judaism, There's all something.
• 22:59
  We were on the. Catholic.
• 23:01
  Jesus side. We got you.
• 23:03
  We're on the Jesus side. Yep, but it, it was going
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  through the, you know, the baptism and then the communion
• 23:08
  and then the confirmation. Yep.
• 23:10
  And it was just steps to be like, Oh, you're, you're an
• 23:12
  adult then. Yep.
• 23:14
  I I knew him, but I didn't know him.
• 23:18
  I knew of him. How about that?
• 23:20
  We'll put it this way. I knew of him, but I didn't know
• 23:22
  him. You.
• 23:23
  You. Yeah, you knew he was around,
• 23:25
  you just didn't know a. 100% I knew that he was our quarterback
• 23:28
  and we were rooting for the team like, but again, I didn't really
• 23:30
  know, know what it stands for because again, when you're
• 23:33
  younger coming up in it, it's the rules.
• 23:37
  It's not the love and it's not the grace and it's not the
• 23:40
  faith. It's here's what you got to do
• 23:43
  to get that. And I'm going to tell you now, a
• 23:46
  lot of that stuff is not correct because that's not how he loves
• 23:50
  greed. That's not how he loves.
• 23:54
  So again, I grew up Catholic school, all this other stuff
• 23:57
  doing the stay, you know, all the things.
• 23:59
  I didn't find God until I found adversity.
• 24:02
  I didn't find God until I found conflict.
• 24:04
  I didn't find God until I found the darkest part of my life,
• 24:10
  because that's when you're going to find the real thing.
• 24:15
  That's AT shirt. They get it up 4.
• 24:20
  Actually because. Nobody makes T-shirts in my.
• 24:22
  House 30%. Let's partner Jack, let's talk.
• 24:28
  I didn't find God until I found adversity or Oh, OK, sorry I had
• 24:35
  to just that just blew my mind. OK, so tell me about it.
• 24:40
  I just interrupted you for no reason.
• 24:42
  No, it's it's I'm I'm easy. OK, but for for again when he is
• 24:50
  just a theory. Yes.
• 24:53
  You don't connect with him because again, you're trying to
• 24:56
  find purpose. You're trying to find your
• 24:57
  friends, you're trying to find what you want to do.
• 24:59
  Where I'm going to go to college, what I'm going to do as
• 25:01
  a job, what I'm going to, and all that stuff is, I guess,
• 25:03
  important with the natural societal situation we have.
• 25:10
  But I wish I'd found him earlier.
• 25:14
  But again, I wouldn't change it for the world because the, the,
• 25:17
  the part where I met him in my life where you're trying to
• 25:20
  figure out who you are. And again, I was always a
• 25:23
  football player and I ran clubs, security and stuff like that.
• 25:27
  And once you realize all the glitz in the gland and the
• 25:31
  bottles and the money and the cars and the clubs, it's, it's,
• 25:35
  it's a rotational thing. It just keeps going and there's
• 25:38
  nothing you're getting out of it.
• 25:39
  Sure, people make money. Sure people.
• 25:41
  But what, what's your real gain from it?
• 25:44
  You're just trying to, at the end of the day, you're trying to
• 25:48
  impress other people or find your people or find you this or
• 25:53
  find you that. I found out real quick that the
• 25:57
  lights and the glitter and the glam, they shut off at 4:00 AM
• 26:00
  and then the world keeps going. So who are you then?
• 26:04
  Who? Who are you at 4:30 after the
• 26:06
  club's over? And that's what it's about.
• 26:11
  And again, my, the industry, I've chosen my profession, I'm
• 26:16
  around celebrities, I'm around ultra wealthy, I'm around all
• 26:20
  types of people. And I'm going to tell you that
• 26:23
  the one thing that connects me to who I am always is God.
• 26:28
  And I can adjust to the people around me knowing that I'm doing
• 26:32
  right by them because that's why God put me here, because there's
• 26:36
  some people you deal with you like this is, listen, you have a
• 26:39
  purpose. This is your purpose.
• 26:41
  And if it was easy, everybody would do it.
• 26:43
  Trust me, this is not an industry that everybody can do
• 26:47
  because there is, again, like we said before, once you find your
• 26:50
  why, your how becomes manageable.
• 26:52
  But without that, why you're going to you're going to take a
• 26:55
  step off the path a lot earlier in life.
• 26:58
  That's what keep the why keeps you going when the shit hits the
• 27:02
  fan. Right when when you're in a
• 27:05
  situation, you almost say to yourself, what am I doing here?
• 27:09
  What maybe my parents are right. I should have been an artist.
• 27:13
  Maybe I should have been an artist.
• 27:14
  But I mean. God's like you're, you're doing
• 27:17
  good. You're doing.
• 27:17
  Good. You're doing good.
• 27:18
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 27:19
  I put you there for a reason. I made you 62300 and 40 lbs for
• 27:22
  a reason. But you.
• 27:23
  You. You.
• 27:24
  You know what? And honestly, I'm sure you have
• 27:29
  found yourself in well and back to the faith thing, was there a
• 27:32
  moment where was there a moment where it started to change for
• 27:37
  you? Not, not necessarily a moment.
• 27:41
  I think that life gets away from you.
• 27:43
  I think that life gets away from you.
• 27:45
  And, and again, it's one of those things where you just do 1
• 27:50
  little thing and then it's 2 little things and then it's 3
• 27:52
  little things. And then you start to, because
• 27:55
  our society will allow it, you start to normalize those
• 28:00
  indiscretions because there's other people doing it.
• 28:03
  So why? Why can't I?
• 28:05
  They seem to be good people. Like what?
• 28:07
  And, and, and once you get back to it, and that's kind of what
• 28:13
  brought me back to, there's only one judge.
• 28:16
  There's only one judge. So if everybody else is doing
• 28:18
  this and he doesn't agree with it, guess what?
• 28:22
  It's wrong. It's wrong.
• 28:24
  It's still wrong. Because if I get up there and he
• 28:27
  goes, what was that? And you go, everybody else is
• 28:30
  doing it. He's like, I'm talking to you,
• 28:33
  I'm talking to you. Were you strong enough to do the
• 28:36
  right thing? Because I gave you strength and
• 28:38
  I gave you adversity and I gave you conflict to see if you could
• 28:42
  overcome it, not to punish you. And that's the thing.
• 28:45
  It's not adversity and conflict, It's not punishment.
• 28:49
  It's not, it's not. It's see if you could overcome
• 28:53
  it dealing with adversity. Because this world is not
• 28:57
  simple. So you have to build a skill set
• 29:01
  up how to accomplish getting over those small things because
• 29:06
  once it starts to get away from you, it's harder to come back.
• 29:10
  And by the way, that's the what we were talking about before.
• 29:12
  That's the surrender part. Because once you, once you're
• 29:16
  absolutely in a free fall, stop grabbing for the walls.
• 29:20
  Just say I surrender like I, I, I need you.
• 29:24
  I need I know that you are the only thing that can fix me right
• 29:27
  now. Yeah, and what it's so beautiful
• 29:30
  and, and for someone that's listening that that's like, OK,
• 29:34
  I, I'm ready for this. I, I want to get to know what,
• 29:38
  what Adam is talking about. Whatever it is, I want to get to
• 29:40
  know it. What does surrender look like
• 29:43
  you date to you day-to-day? For me, it's, it's a lot of it
• 29:49
  is I wake up and I pray and it's, it's a, you have this, you
• 29:54
  have this weird thing in your mind about like I get on my
• 29:57
  knees next to my bed. No, I take a walk every morning
• 30:00
  and I talk to him. It's it's not about anything
• 30:04
  else. But thanks.
• 30:07
  Like legitimately, today's going to be a rough day.
• 30:08
  You're going to get me through it.
• 30:09
  But thank you for yesterday. Thank you for the day I have
• 30:15
  covered because because again, the old saying is God made
• 30:18
  yesterday happen. Faith's going to make today
• 30:20
  happen and the faith in God is going to get me through today.
• 30:24
  And once you can, it's, it's a weird mindset, but, but, and it
• 30:29
  wasn't easy. But once you feel it for the
• 30:33
  first time, it's a lot easier to get back there.
• 30:35
  It's a lot easier to get back there because you can say to
• 30:39
  yourself, it's going to be OK, like today was a bad day, but
• 30:43
  you want to know something somebody didn't have today
• 30:45
  somebody. And, and, and that's the
• 30:50
  perspective of that is what brings it back.
• 30:54
  The perspective of today is a blessing.
• 30:57
  If you get hit in the shin for five straight hours with a
• 31:00
  skateboard, it's still a better day than somebody who didn't
• 31:03
  wake up. And that's the blessing that it
• 31:05
  is. And, and, and again, taking out
• 31:10
  of it, I think a lot of us lose it on comparing ourselves to
• 31:16
  others. We're all on our own journeys
• 31:19
  and we all have our own responsibilities and purposes
• 31:21
  and we all have our own lessons. So something that you take for
• 31:25
  granted, somebody else doesn't. And I'm going to tell you from a
• 31:29
  perspective of the inside of dealing with celebrities and the
• 31:32
  wealthy and stuff like that, they're not happy.
• 31:35
  A lot of them aren't happy because they've glorified the
• 31:40
  material. I met, I meet, so I've been on
• 31:45
  tour a couple times with a couple artists.
• 31:47
  The greatest people I've talked to are the roadies and the guys
• 31:50
  that put the stuff up because they just, they, they're good,
• 31:53
  solid, hard working people that are just, they know what they're
• 31:57
  there for and they're not striving to be seen.
• 31:59
  They're not striving to be. I learned a long time ago just
• 32:04
  to have conversations with people.
• 32:05
  First of all, people don't feel seen or heard.
• 32:08
  So having a conversation with somebody who doesn't feel that
• 32:10
  way and genuinely being interested takes you that much
• 32:14
  effort and brings that much fate back into people because they
• 32:22
  feel seen. People we we're in a we're in a
• 32:27
  day and age where the camera is everywhere but nobody feels
• 32:30
  seen. Another T-shirt.
• 32:35
  You have a weird level action line.
• 32:41
  We're doing a fashion. 100%. Adventures in adversity fashion
• 32:47
  show quotes from the guests and I have private security.
• 32:53
  I'm there. I'm 100% there.
• 32:55
  Jack's doing the DJ. You have my 100.
• 32:57
  Percent. It's going to be a light show
• 32:58
  like none you've ever seen. I'm like squirrel.
• 33:03
  I agree. Focus.
• 33:04
  But again, these little these little tidbits sound like
• 33:07
  miraculously enlightened. It's so clear.
• 33:10
  It's so clear and you get the right mindset.
• 33:13
  It's so clear. You know, you talked about
• 33:16
  praying and taking a walk, two things that I have that has
• 33:21
  literally changed my life in the last year.
• 33:25
  Connecting with God on a walk with my dog, listening to
• 33:29
  worship music while I walk. Sometimes I'm crying out of
• 33:33
  happiness being like. It'll get it.
• 33:35
  It'll and by the way, it'll get you.
• 33:37
  It'll get you. Oh, you, you know how you when
• 33:39
  you're driving sometimes and you forget you're driving, when you
• 33:43
  hit that moment, you'll be two miles down the road and be like,
• 33:46
  how did I get here? Because there is that purity of
• 33:48
  the moment. It's literally I would recommend
• 33:53
  and like literally based on what you said in my own experience as
• 33:56
  a baby Christian growing up Catholic.
• 33:59
  I'm Catholic. I'm Catholic but I was I got
• 34:03
  baptized on November 4th as like by the way I used to think all
• 34:07
  y'all are crazy doing this born again thing and I'm like hi I'm
• 34:11
  bored again. Yeah, yeah.
• 34:13
  I'm like, but it's beautiful. It's beautiful.
• 34:15
  Or knock it till you try it. I, I'm like I, I have been
• 34:18
  proven wrong. It is super cool and amazing and
• 34:21
  I, I highly recommend just investigating church and all of
• 34:26
  that. But I'm rambling.
• 34:28
  What I meant to say is the, the morning walk and the morning
• 34:32
  just like, hey God, what's up? You don't even have to, like,
• 34:35
  say a prayer or like a scripture.
• 34:38
  You just go, hey, what's up? Like, sometimes I'm like, I
• 34:40
  don't, you know, I don't really know how to pray, but I think
• 34:42
  some walk in. It's beautiful.
• 34:43
  Thank you for water. Thanks for this log.
• 34:47
  Glad I have a job. Cool.
• 34:50
  Yeah. And then that that can be.
• 34:51
  It I I get to take this walk, I get to take this walk today.
• 34:55
  I get to take this walk today. And then sometimes it's, Oh my
• 35:00
  gosh, this thing is on my mind. I'm freaking out.
• 35:02
  Like, OK, what do I do? Do I confront?
• 35:04
  And then sometimes you're like working out a specific problem.
• 35:07
  But a lot of times I will say I'm like in awe.
• 35:11
  I'm in awe of life. If you stop the noise, if you
• 35:17
  stop the noise and you just pay attention, the amount of stuff
• 35:23
  that that goes on in our lives, something as stupid as a
• 35:27
  squirrel running around or playing with something and you
• 35:29
  sit there and you find yourself distracted by it.
• 35:32
  And then you're like, but I'll spend $150.00 to go to a club
• 35:35
  tonight. I could.
• 35:35
  I'm more entertained by the squirrel because first of all,
• 35:40
  it's the purest, most authentic, genuine thing in the world.
• 35:44
  He's just living his life. And then I got to go be somebody
• 35:47
  else at the club tonight and I got to pretend like the squirrel
• 35:50
  doesn't care. Like, but that's the small parts
• 35:52
  of it. That's the small parts of it.
• 35:54
  It's amazing. I I literally look forward to my
• 35:58
  walk to just like check. It's my check in with God, like
• 36:02
  where am I at? And then anything that I know
• 36:04
  I'm not living right will come up right like so it's like a
• 36:08
  gentle nut just where God's like so you still going to do that or
• 36:13
  you ready to kind of like confront that?
• 36:15
  Do you? Do you?
• 36:16
  Think about that a little bit. Because I can help you when
• 36:18
  you're ready. I'm just, I'm waiting if you
• 36:19
  want to go ahead and change that because you know you need to.
• 36:23
  And again, he's giving me, he's giving you your, your
• 36:25
  opportunity to do so. He, he's kind of like, again,
• 36:29
  these are, these are little challenges.
• 36:30
  They're not like the little test that he gives us aren't
• 36:34
  punishment. They're like, let me, let me
• 36:38
  figure out who you are through these little challenges and
• 36:42
  things you have to overcome. And once you realize that you
• 36:45
  can overcome them, the bigger stuff becomes manageable.
• 36:50
  Amazing, amazing. OK, all right, I'm trying to not
• 36:54
  be like squirrel, squirrel, but because I'm like, all right,
• 36:57
  you're on. I I forget, I'm recording that.
• 36:59
  I just forgot we were on a podcast.
• 37:02
  Everyone's like, you're dumb. So you grew up in New Jersey.
• 37:07
  You are protecting on the field from a young age.
• 37:12
  You're protecting your siblings, your two sisters.
• 37:15
  You're growing up, you know, then you realize.
• 37:20
  Tell me about when when you made and then you you're connected to
• 37:24
  God, which is obviously gotten you where you get today.
• 37:29
  Was there a moment or was there a, do you remember like your
• 37:33
  first security protection job, like your?
• 37:36
  1st. Or was it?
• 37:37
  Yeah, I actually so So when I graduated college, I graduated
• 37:42
  with a criminal justice major. And by the way, the most
• 37:45
  important part of it was a psychology minor, which makes
• 37:48
  life a million times easier because once you start to learn
• 37:50
  how people are and how they think, my job especially
• 37:56
  figuring out mannerism. Mannerisms, wow, we're going to
• 38:00
  edit that out, figuring out how people work and physics,
• 38:08
  physical cues and stuff like that.
• 38:10
  That that really helped me out. But when I came back,
• 38:14
  shockingly, it was I graduated in 2001.
• 38:17
  So when I came home from college, 911 happened.
• 38:22
  So I was going to get into the private security industry.
• 38:27
  And when that happened, I'm now sitting in interview rooms with
• 38:32
  an ex Lieutenant from Brooklyn, the CIA guy, because everybody
• 38:36
  went to the private sector trying to make, you know, trying
• 38:39
  to get into positions where they can help and stuff like that.
• 38:43
  So I was right out of college. I wasn't getting those shots.
• 38:46
  So I got into to to running security clubs.
• 38:49
  OK, same, same thing, a little bit less rewarding.
• 38:54
  But and, and you asked me where God came into my life like that.
• 38:57
  I think that's what it was because I was around nonsensical
• 39:02
  bar club life and, and kind of saw how many people just kind of
• 39:09
  wander through life. Like literally, like, literally
• 39:13
  like I got to, you know, they're at the club every Friday and
• 39:16
  Saturday and you just go like, like, what are we celebrating?
• 39:19
  Like what, what have you done? Like you made money and then you
• 39:22
  just went and spent it like, so that's the cycle.
• 39:24
  Like what are you, what are you giving back?
• 39:27
  And you know, it's, it's, it's, I'm sure, you know, in New York,
• 39:32
  New Jersey, and, and when I was going to school in Boston, these
• 39:35
  are very violent jobs because that area, they don't talk about
• 39:40
  it. They they don't, people.
• 39:41
  Get wasted sports vitality. 100%.
• 39:46
  I mean, I've East Coast as well, like, like, not like a shrinking
• 39:49
  Violet, you know, right. Now, if you say something, you
• 39:52
  better mean it because there there's going to be a
• 39:54
  repercussion to it. So just seeing, you know, the
• 40:02
  darker side of life, it looks like it's a bright, shiny side
• 40:05
  of life. But to be honest with you, it's
• 40:06
  a distraction. And just the pure violence of
• 40:10
  it, watching relationships fall apart, watching all these
• 40:15
  things, how people move and and again, they quantify it or they
• 40:21
  normalize it through everybody else's.
• 40:24
  Look, there's 500 people here. Yeah.
• 40:27
  But that's, and that's where I, I, I kind of took a step back
• 40:32
  and went, what do I, what means something to me?
• 40:36
  Who am I? And once you figure that out,
• 40:38
  it's a little different, but I'm going to tell you it's and for
• 40:41
  anybody listening, it's not an easy journey.
• 40:43
  It's it took me about 3 solid years to be fully into the point
• 40:47
  where I knew who I was. And I think that comes from
• 40:51
  dealing with adversity, dealing with conflict, testing yourself
• 40:54
  and truly seeing, you know, there's the old saying, find out
• 40:59
  what you would die for and go live for it.
• 41:01
  That's a. Good one.
• 41:04
  Because what what matters to you?
• 41:08
  If it truly doesn't matter to you what other people think you,
• 41:10
  you might want to have a sit down with yourself and say why,
• 41:14
  why, why, why does that matter to me?
• 41:16
  Was I not like when I was a young guy?
• 41:19
  Do I know that I don't have a lot of substance and I don't
• 41:21
  want to work on being a better, more valuable person.
• 41:24
  I just want to fit in with the rest of everybody else who's
• 41:27
  kind of like numb to the world. It's a journey and it's, it's a
• 41:34
  rough, it's, it's a rough, rough journey because again, to figure
• 41:38
  out what you're good at, you got to figure out what you're bad
• 41:40
  at. And and then again, there's the,
• 41:43
  the next phase of it is, hey, the stuff that I'm good at, does
• 41:47
  it help me along? Do I do, does it mean something
• 41:50
  to me? Because I can be really good at
• 41:52
  something and it doesn't mean anything to me.
• 41:55
  Such a good point. So do you want to make it good
• 42:00
  or if you want to just work on something you might not be as
• 42:02
  good at, but makes you feel more valuable to people and valuable
• 42:07
  to God and valuable to the word and valuable to your purpose.
• 42:12
  And, and those little things are, are, are are rough.
• 42:15
  It's a rough battle because you really truly got to live in
• 42:18
  yourself. And again, figuring out where
• 42:21
  you are not a good person or, or find yourself not a good person.
• 42:26
  And there's certain things that I do that other people might not
• 42:29
  like, but I look at them and I say, that's not really a bad
• 42:32
  thing to me. Yes, it's not a bad thing to me
• 42:35
  just because other people don't like.
• 42:37
  I'm a very quiet person. But I also, it's something I
• 42:43
  don't like goes on around me and I feel that I won't allow it to
• 42:48
  happen. I'm going to say something.
• 42:50
  Now, some people that's a bad thing to me.
• 42:52
  It's not. I don't mind standing by myself
• 42:55
  and telling people they're wrongdoing something because.
• 42:58
  You. You know who you are and you.
• 43:00
  I know who I am and I know that that's not OK, and I know that
• 43:03
  me allowing that to happen is even worse because I have the
• 43:08
  power to stop it or I have the power to at least open people's
• 43:12
  eyes to why are you guys doing that?
• 43:17
  Because I guarantee you have the 10 people that are doing it.
• 43:19
  Two people are really into it. The rest of them are kind of
• 43:21
  like, I guess I'll go along with you.
• 43:23
  So if you say to them, Hey guys, the other 80, what are you
• 43:26
  doing? I don't know.
• 43:27
  I'm following him. Well, is that OK for you?
• 43:30
  Do you accept that or you just here just because you came with
• 43:33
  this guy? And and those are the little
• 43:37
  battles, the little battles, you know, through my through my
• 43:43
  professional life, I've been around a lot of things.
• 43:46
  I've seen a lot of things. And you know, once you can truly
• 43:50
  figure out what you're willing to be heard for, what you're
• 43:55
  willing to sacrifice for, what you're willing to do, all that
• 43:57
  other stuff, life becomes easier.
• 44:01
  But it does take, it does take time.
• 44:03
  Like I said, it took me about three years to figure out who I
• 44:04
  was and what I'm going to stand for and what I'm not going to
• 44:07
  stand for. That is beautifully said.
• 44:12
  And I think it encapsulates like you're saying, it's, it's a it's
• 44:18
  a ride to get there to figure out who you are.
• 44:22
  You literally have to go through this adversity.
• 44:25
  It's the path right to figuring out who you are.
• 44:29
  The alternative is it's it's a hard life is hard, right?
• 44:34
  But I love how you're saying reframe the challenges.
• 44:38
  They're not punishments. They're literally the path to
• 44:41
  like uncovering one thing I heard and I said it a couple
• 44:45
  times, someone said it's on some real, I don't know who said it.
• 44:49
  It's not me. I do not say this.
• 44:52
  God gives you a gift, right? We all have a gift and everyone
• 44:57
  has a unique one. There's not one person that
• 44:59
  doesn't have a gift of some sort.
• 45:01
  What you discovering it and like what you do with it is your gift
• 45:05
  back to Him. Right, he gives you the tools.
• 45:08
  What are you going to build? And then the path to discover
• 45:11
  the gift is full of adversity, though it's not a smooth path to
• 45:15
  uncover the gift, right? Right.
• 45:19
  And, and, and, and again, it's having the mindset of we're all
• 45:26
  different. So everybody's gifts are going
• 45:27
  to be different for sure. Because some gifts don't look
• 45:30
  like gifts right away. Some gifts don't look like gifts
• 45:34
  because if you, if you want to be the influencer, the
• 45:38
  professional athlete or the movie star and you think that's
• 45:41
  what you truly want to be and somebody gives you the gift of
• 45:44
  kindness or compassion or an ability to work with people, you
• 45:48
  go, that's not, that's not shiny and bright.
• 45:51
  That's not, that's not, that's not what I think I want.
• 45:54
  No, no, no, that's what you were here for.
• 45:57
  That is your gift. Make it beautiful, make it
• 46:00
  yours. Wear it like a crown and, and,
• 46:05
  and take it and grow with it. It's nothing right now.
• 46:08
  But like you said, he gave it to you.
• 46:11
  What can you do with it? It's a little.
• 46:13
  Sea and if you don't try, you'll never know and you'll walk right
• 46:17
  past a God-given gift that he created exactly for you and
• 46:23
  you're chasing somebody else's gift over there.
• 46:27
  That's kind of at the end of the day, is an Italian that's
• 46:30
  disrespectful. It's it's literally, it's a.
• 46:33
  Little disrespectful. What are we doing over here?
• 46:36
  I gave you something. You're over here playing.
• 46:37
  This other thing, you go sleep with the fish, Yeah.
• 46:40
  Yeah, 100 percent, 100%. Oh my gosh, you need to be a
• 46:43
  life coach. Seriously.
• 46:47
  I'm fully aware that I'm, I know enough that I don't know
• 46:51
  everything. You will.
• 46:52
  And again, I think that I think that the transition in religion
• 46:54
  and faith have the, it's a different time now.
• 46:57
  Like I remember growing up and all the church people were holy
• 47:01
  rollers and stuff like that. We're going through a
• 47:04
  renaissance of like baby baby religion, getting back into it.
• 47:11
  Some of the best churches I ever went to weren't the ones with
• 47:14
  the, you know, the everybody who's in the suit and ties.
• 47:17
  I went to one. I remember right before I left
• 47:21
  to go travelling, it was out in Vernon Valley and Vernon Valley,
• 47:26
  New Jersey, where Action Park was scarily enough, but it was
• 47:30
  all ex convicts, military guys doing the PTSD.
• 47:35
  It was it was a reformative church in the way that it was
• 47:38
  people coming back. There was no judgement.
• 47:41
  There was no this, there was no that.
• 47:43
  And again, me looking like I look like I don't feel like I
• 47:46
  fit in at the holy roll of church.
• 47:49
  So I walked in and I felt want to talk about a moment.
• 47:54
  I walked in and I went by myself and because again, I was dealing
• 47:58
  with guys that are still in a party scene and I, I just want,
• 48:01
  I just needed to go. A friend of a friend of mine
• 48:04
  told me about it and I was like, yeah, I'll go.
• 48:06
  And I remember being in there feeling very uncomfortable, but
• 48:11
  but recognizing that I looked like a lot more people in this
• 48:13
  place, like I was a little bit more like tattooed up guys,
• 48:16
  stuff like that and all this other stuff.
• 48:18
  And I remember like, OK, this is a good, this is a good start.
• 48:21
  And I remember being in there and just feeling initially
• 48:27
  awkward, but then starting to feel like at home and we were
• 48:31
  going into a prayer and I, I was, I was really, I was really
• 48:34
  kind of focused on what was going on.
• 48:37
  And I remember like feeling like a hand on my shoulder from
• 48:41
  behind. And I turned around and it was
• 48:44
  this guy that legitimately was like a poster boy for like
• 48:46
  bikers weekly. Just he had he had his collared
• 48:50
  shirt on but underneath it was all non collared shirt.
• 48:53
  Like scared. Too And and he and I turned and
• 48:57
  he looked at me and he goes just just please let me and he prayed
• 49:01
  for me and I've never felt more connected.
• 49:07
  I've never felt more like I belonged and it was non
• 49:13
  judgmental and it was him saying this is OK, you're good like I
• 49:18
  know whatever you're dealing with adversity wise right now,
• 49:20
  you're in the right place and I don't know that guy.
• 49:25
  I never spoke to him again. I never, you know, but he, I
• 49:29
  believe in angels. He was at that moment, I think
• 49:33
  that I think that God puts effort into certain people and
• 49:37
  they step up when they're supposed to.
• 49:39
  And that was his moment. And I will tell you to this day,
• 49:42
  He changed everything for me. I just got chills in my yeah, I
• 49:48
  totally understand that moment. Yeah, and it, and it's and it's
• 49:54
  such an awakening. And, and by the way you go
• 49:56
  outside, the sky looks a little bit brighter, birds are a little
• 49:59
  bit louder. And you just feel grateful and
• 50:03
  you feel loved and you feel seen and, and it sounds all cliche
• 50:09
  and stuff like that, but it's not, It is, it is the purest.
• 50:12
  And once you feel that feeling, you can feel it again in little
• 50:18
  moments, in little actions, in little this, in little that
• 50:21
  it's, it's not like a drug where it's like chasing to be high all
• 50:24
  the time. That's not, it's not what it is.
• 50:26
  And I'm going to be honest with you, it's not you're not
• 50:28
  floating through life with like Angel winds behind you.
• 50:31
  Life is rough. But the moments of remembrance
• 50:35
  when you get that feeling of OK, we're good.
• 50:38
  I got this. And again, the other aspect of
• 50:42
  it that I like to tell people about is you'll see all these
• 50:46
  people on, you know, the Instagram and all this other
• 50:49
  stuff reciting Bible verses and stuff like this.
• 50:53
  That's not always what it is. Like, I'm going to tell you my,
• 50:56
  my, my love of God and my actions for God are physical
• 51:01
  actions, helping people out, seeing somebody needs to drink
• 51:05
  and getting them to drink. I can't recite the Gospel.
• 51:08
  I, I, I can't, I've read it, recite it, certainly can't come
• 51:12
  up with a number that it's in or the book that it's in.
• 51:14
  But that doesn't make me any less of a Son of God, because my
• 51:21
  celebration of God is actions. Beautiful.
• 51:25
  You don't have to you don't have to remember the Bible.
• 51:28
  It's it's, it's great if you can and that's that's amazing in
• 51:31
  seconds. Trust me, I'm super impressed
• 51:34
  with the people that can, but I also know that I'm a long way
• 51:38
  away from that. But totally part of the journey
• 51:41
  is doing it now. What are you doing now while
• 51:44
  you're waiting for God? That's what he says.
• 51:46
  You're waiting for God. If you're just waiting, you're
• 51:49
  doing it wrong. Do action, do little things.
• 51:53
  Be the good person that God wants you to be so other people
• 51:59
  see your actions, not your words.
• 52:04
  And that's the transition for me was I know I look like this.
• 52:07
  I know I do what I do. And I've struggled with the, the
• 52:09
  violence level of my job and the, and that kind of stuff
• 52:13
  because, you know, there's parts of it, but I know that God put
• 52:16
  me here for this. And I know that my intentions
• 52:19
  are always pure. Listen, I've done a job where if
• 52:22
  nothing happens, you get paid the same amount.
• 52:25
  I sure don't want any violence. But if it happens, that's my
• 52:28
  job. And and it's something I
• 52:31
  struggle with. Well, and, and I'm thank you for
• 52:34
  being open about it too, but, and I will say, and I'm just now
• 52:38
  learning the Bible literally, they're the angels.
• 52:42
  Apparently word on the street is angels could be aggressive as
• 52:46
  well. Like the army of God, Army of
• 52:49
  God. Maybe you're the Army of God
• 52:51
  down. Here, Yeah, yeah, I was like
• 52:55
  wow, that was actually really good.
• 52:56
  I'm going to use that. That was I like that.
• 52:58
  That was you are. I like that.
• 53:01
  You really are because like that is your gift.
• 53:04
  And then and then the obviously you said you were built this
• 53:08
  way, but like you also have the psychology, the spirituality.
• 53:11
  You're literally the soldier that like has all the.
• 53:14
  I mean, it makes sense. I like that and and again, the
• 53:19
  transition between because I studied up a lot about this
• 53:21
  stuff. It's the children of God versus
• 53:25
  the warriors of God. It's two different types of
• 53:27
  people. And and again, at the end of the
• 53:31
  day, you're answering to God. And then this is where I go back
• 53:34
  to all the time. Here's the reset.
• 53:36
  If you start to get super confused, but I do every once in
• 53:39
  a while I get super like caught into the confusion of it.
• 53:42
  You, you answer to one man is is is when you sit down with God.
• 53:48
  Can you tell him I did my best? I, I did what I feel like you
• 53:53
  wanted me to do and truly mean it, truly say I didn't do this
• 53:58
  because I thought this was going to be wrong.
• 53:59
  This one I was a little bit questioning on, but I thought
• 54:01
  about you and I went forward with it or stuff like that.
• 54:05
  And that's the, that's the thing.
• 54:08
  It's not about being perfect. No.
• 54:11
  It's about being faithful, it's about surrendering, and it's
• 54:14
  about realizing that He created you for a reason.
• 54:21
  He wants he, he wants to be involved in your decisions so he
• 54:25
  can help you, right? Like.
• 54:26
  If absolutely. Anything.
• 54:29
  You can consult him 24/7. And and then by the way, I I
• 54:34
  figured out filtering it through that way of life quiets the
• 54:39
  quiets quiets the the noise around it.
• 54:43
  Am I doing something right right now?
• 54:45
  Again, we've we've in society and we won't get super political
• 54:50
  about this other stuff, but. I think in a year I'm going to
• 54:54
  be like. I look at the way society is
• 55:00
  now, and I look at tolerances. Tolerance was at, was at at its
• 55:05
  purest form is a beautiful thing.
• 55:07
  We've weaponized it into allowing things that we know are
• 55:11
  not right. Yep.
• 55:13
  Just because we're being tolerant there, there is a
• 55:17
  renewal now of people being like, I'm not.
• 55:20
  I ain't out for that. I don't have to tolerate that.
• 55:22
  Like I don't have to tolerate that because, again, there's
• 55:26
  certain people out here like I'm going to make a decision.
• 55:28
  You have to accept it. I never say that about me.
• 55:32
  I'll live with the consequences of my things, but I'll stand for
• 55:35
  it. But I'm not asking anybody else
• 55:36
  to accept it. I'm not.
• 55:39
  Yeah. The tolerance I have is, is
• 55:44
  you're supposed to be good to other people unless you're doing
• 55:47
  something that's like so wildly out of the bounds of it.
• 55:52
  It doesn't give you carte blanche.
• 55:54
  It doesn't give you a free, a blank check.
• 55:57
  If that's not what tolerance is, tolerance is trying to to
• 56:03
  understand it. And by the way, tolerance is
• 56:06
  trying to understand not having to accept.
• 56:08
  Those are two separate things. You can understand something
• 56:12
  deeply and still. Not accept 100%.
• 56:15
  And again, it's like, it's like the free will thing.
• 56:17
  Everybody comes in to, oh, we've got free will.
• 56:19
  Finish the sentence and deal with the consequences that come
• 56:22
  with it. That's the that's the full
• 56:24
  sentence. Like we've limited to I have
• 56:26
  free will. OK.
• 56:28
  Do you think that you can affect everybody's life and it not have
• 56:31
  any consequences? That's not how it works.
• 56:33
  It is a full sentence. You have free will and you be
• 56:37
  either successful or fail. But those actions have
• 56:40
  consequences that will either get you hugged or get you hugged
• 56:45
  real hard. Or it'll get you kicked, yeah.
• 56:51
  100% yeah. The neck.
• 56:53
  The neck hugged or the around the Yeah.
• 56:55
  And oh, trust me, we're diving into that.
• 56:58
  But like, it's A + B = C and like, be aware of your
• 57:02
  decisions, right? And like, but you're that's so
• 57:06
  good whenever you're confused. Oh, but so and so wants me to do
• 57:09
  this, but I don't want to make sometimes like stupid stuff I'm
• 57:11
  worried about like, oh, but I'm mad.
• 57:12
  And then I and I'm like, wait, what does God want me to do?
• 57:17
  That'll guide it. Because like I we're all human.
• 57:20
  We're all sin. We all don't know what we're all
• 57:23
  just like God just kind of laughs and wants to hug us and
• 57:26
  be like, Oh, you little humans or.
• 57:27
  Something we're a little piece of clay that he's trying to roll
• 57:29
  this into something. You are adorable.
• 57:34
  Yeah. Look at him.
• 57:38
  No, anyway, sorry, I'm literally chasing squirrels over here.
• 57:44
  But so it there's so many things, so many important topics
• 57:50
  you're bringing up all related to getting through adversity,
• 57:54
  right? Like faith, awareness,
• 57:57
  accountability, like speaking your mind, like calling it out,
• 58:00
  like part of our responsibility is to call out when we see
• 58:04
  things or else, you know, we're right.
• 58:07
  Talk to me about like your day-to-day.
• 58:10
  And you're, you're saying things are changing, right?
• 58:12
  Like obviously people are being more outspoken as they should
• 58:16
  be. I think there was a period
• 58:18
  again, some people might unfollow me for this.
• 58:20
  And you know, give me one star. That's fine.
• 58:22
  But where you couldn't say anything, right?
• 58:26
  And it was. So, so for, for me personally,
• 58:30
  it's, it's a rough Gray area, but not it's, it's, it's
• 58:34
  professionally it is. But for me, it's not what, what
• 58:41
  goes on these days. And, and, and the infighting
• 58:43
  between political stuff and even the religious stuff that goes on
• 58:48
  and stuff like that. Like who do you take a job from
• 58:52
  this group knowing that this group is not going to, not going
• 58:56
  to want to use you anymore or, or stuff like that.
• 58:58
  And here's, here's the end of the day goal.
• 59:01
  If you're not doing anything I don't agree with spiritually,
• 59:06
  you have the right to be protected.
• 59:08
  You have the right to be protected.
• 59:09
  It is your right. But but when you start to use me
• 59:13
  as a sword and not a shield, then we got an issue because I'm
• 59:19
  here to protect you. I'm not here to enforce what you
• 59:21
  believe. Great, great point.
• 59:25
  Because again, so I consider myself conservative Patriot.
• 59:30
  Yeah. So I, I love the country.
• 59:32
  I also know that the, the governmental things on both
• 59:35
  sides are a little bit as squarely as we like to say.
• 59:39
  So I look at that kind of stuff the same way as I look at God.
• 59:43
  I love the country. I love the country, the people,
• 59:47
  the powers that be have adjusted it so that things are all
• 59:50
  cultured, which is fine. It is what it is.
• 59:53
  But I've dealt with both sides, the left, the right, this, the,
• 59:57
  that, you know, all these kind of things.
• 59:59
  And I have to break it down to. Unless they're using me to
• 1:00:03
  enforce something I don't believe in.
• 1:00:05
  I can work with you. That's great.
• 1:00:07
  I can work with you. And again, people talk about,
• 1:00:12
  you know, which is the most violent side and which is the
• 1:00:14
  most. I, I, I deal with a lot of
• 1:00:16
  conservative groups and the threat that was a lot, lot
• 1:00:20
  higher going against them. When I deal with more of the
• 1:00:24
  liberals side groups, a lot more of it is they're, they're afraid
• 1:00:31
  of being emotionally or verbally hurt.
• 1:00:33
  So for me, it's like, that's a cakewalk.
• 1:00:35
  I'll, I'll deal with that because there's no violence
• 1:00:37
  involved. Like I'm legitimately I, I can't
• 1:00:39
  stop them from talking. It's, you know, words hurt.
• 1:00:43
  Not as much as a shin kick, but. It's so you're like, they don't
• 1:00:47
  hurt that much, OK. Yeah, 100%.
• 1:00:49
  I've been hit by a lot of things.
• 1:00:51
  So, but so in, in, in the industry, it's, it's, it is,
• 1:00:58
  it's a changing time. I deal with a lot of people that
• 1:01:01
  I wouldn't deal with in my personal life.
• 1:01:03
  And again, I'm going to tell you, like doing this job, being
• 1:01:06
  around all this celebrity stuff, all this money, all these
• 1:01:09
  parties, all this nonsense. I found that I'd like to escape
• 1:01:13
  the nature. And if you're on the team
• 1:01:16
  nature, yeah, give me a lake house for like 2 days and to, to
• 1:01:19
  watch all this off of me, to get all this off of me.
• 1:01:25
  But, but, but again, so the industry stuff, I've gotten to
• 1:01:32
  the point in my career where I can't make these decisions about
• 1:01:35
  what I think is right and wrong and be a little bit more
• 1:01:39
  stringent on who I work with. A lot of the guys who take these
• 1:01:44
  celebrities and stuff like that think that is a great thing.
• 1:01:47
  I'd much rather protect a pastor or somebody who's who's doing
• 1:01:51
  something good for the people or, or, or truly has a message
• 1:01:57
  like those are the people I love to work, work with and and that
• 1:02:01
  gives me more fulfillment of my purpose.
• 1:02:06
  That's the weird Gray area for for me.
• 1:02:09
  But again, at the end of the day, money is not worth my soul.
• 1:02:12
  Exactly. So at the end of the day, that's
• 1:02:16
  the litmus test for what I'm going to be around 100 percent,
• 1:02:20
  100%. That's a. 100% barometer, like
• 1:02:22
  check in with the guy, you know? Yeah, there's so many take away.
• 1:02:28
  Like there's I, there's so many Nuggets in here.
• 1:02:31
  And I know like even for me and anyone listening, this is like
• 1:02:35
  whenever I talk to a guest and for the whole next week, you're
• 1:02:38
  like in my mind I'm like, oh, what would Adam do?
• 1:02:41
  What did Adam say about that? And then the last week it was
• 1:02:43
  Amir, like Amir said that I do this and then before. 100% and
• 1:02:48
  and that's the but by the way, that's the beauty of
• 1:02:50
  conversation. Yeah, that is the beauty of
• 1:02:52
  conversation. That's where the value of it is,
• 1:02:55
  is you see somebody else's point of view and you go, let me walk
• 1:02:57
  in his shoes for a couple of days and see how I like, like
• 1:03:00
  look at it and stuff like that. And it changes your perspective
• 1:03:02
  on a lot of stuff that she was so concreted and the beginning
• 1:03:05
  and you go, oh, wait, I didn't think of it that way.
• 1:03:09
  And I'm so glad that you said that because whether you're
• 1:03:13
  left, right, center, whatever, whether you're just like, I
• 1:03:17
  don't engage in politics, I have la, la, la, la, whatever, you
• 1:03:20
  have a right to think and believe what you want.
• 1:03:24
  However, I would like to understand more about it, and I
• 1:03:28
  doesn't mean that I'm not. I am 100% open to changing my
• 1:03:32
  mind. If it is aligned with God,
• 1:03:35
  that's. Absolutely.
• 1:03:36
  And prove to me the policy that's better and, and I'll,
• 1:03:40
  I'll look at it differently as long as it aligns with that guy.
• 1:03:43
  Right. And and go into the conversation
• 1:03:45
  with not it's, it's not an adversary.
• 1:03:48
  See, that's the difference. It's not an argument, it's a
• 1:03:50
  conversation. And I got to tell you, I, I had
• 1:03:52
  a conversation with somebody the other day.
• 1:03:54
  We were talking about some nonsensical thing and he brought
• 1:03:56
  up a thing and I was like, whoa, that's how you see that?
• 1:04:02
  I guess that makes sense that way.
• 1:04:04
  And again, it didn't change my overall belief in what we were
• 1:04:08
  talking about, but I was like, ah, that OK, OK.
• 1:04:11
  I just thought you were just really excited to be wrong.
• 1:04:15
  You actually have a thought process.
• 1:04:17
  You have a. Thought process.
• 1:04:19
  I'm kidding. 100% and, and, and that's, that's what it is.
• 1:04:24
  Once we've, we've stopped trying to be right and tried to be
• 1:04:30
  liked, like when, when being liked is your most valuable
• 1:04:34
  thing, you're in trouble because society sways and what's right
• 1:04:39
  and wrong sways. And it's funny for me, being in
• 1:04:43
  the profession I'm in, everybody asks why I didn't become a
• 1:04:45
  police officer going to law enforcement.
• 1:04:47
  And my, my answer is really, really clear.
• 1:04:50
  I believe in the laws of God, not of man.
• 1:04:52
  Because of God, laws of man can be swayed by whatever society
• 1:04:57
  deems is right and wrong. So I can't enforce something.
• 1:05:02
  I don't believe it. You look at the way that some of
• 1:05:06
  the police that the, some of the regulations they have to deal
• 1:05:08
  with some of the stuff that are forced to do some of the things
• 1:05:11
  I can't. I just, I can't because that is
• 1:05:15
  also to me where it's kind of like this is what you guys are
• 1:05:20
  doing. Well, where's the free thought?
• 1:05:22
  Where's the free thought? You know, a politician's going
• 1:05:26
  to tell a cop what to do. So it's like, I'm going to come
• 1:05:28
  up with an idea and you have to enforce it.
• 1:05:30
  It's like, whoa, like, where's my say?
• 1:05:33
  And, and I get, I get that's not how the world works, but that's
• 1:05:36
  why I made the decision to go independently into my own
• 1:05:40
  pursuits because I couldn't do what I didn't believe in.
• 1:05:46
  And again, it's, it's, that's the East Coast, kind of like,
• 1:05:49
  you don't have to help, you're not telling me what to do.
• 1:05:50
  But at the same time, it's made me a better human because of it,
• 1:05:54
  because I can make the decisions on right and wrong.
• 1:05:57
  You know, there's a lot of situations we get into and I'm
• 1:05:59
  sure everybody can assume social cues and all this other stuff
• 1:06:03
  where a client will want to do something and, and I'll, I'll
• 1:06:07
  give them the real quick. Yeah, that's not, that is not
• 1:06:10
  happening. And by the way, if you think
• 1:06:12
  it's happening, what would be my fear?
• 1:06:14
  You're going to fire me? Don't.
• 1:06:16
  Don't worry about it. I don't want to work for you if
• 1:06:17
  you can just accept them. If you're not going to take my,
• 1:06:21
  we're not going to. We have to be a partner.
• 1:06:23
  We have to. If you think that I'm going to
• 1:06:26
  protect you while you're doing this, you read me wrong.
• 1:06:30
  I'm going to allow you to have a good time and feel safe and have
• 1:06:33
  your people feel safe. If you if you think that gives
• 1:06:36
  you the power or because I'm here, you can do this, you're
• 1:06:41
  wrong. Yeah, because again.
• 1:06:43
  Your guardrails, right? 100% because money is not as
• 1:06:47
  important as be doing the right thing totally.
• 1:06:50
  And you'll lose and you'll lose clients over.
• 1:06:52
  But guess what? It's, it's beautiful.
• 1:06:55
  And, and by the way, with my Instagram page, I am very, very
• 1:06:58
  open about my, my thoughts and beliefs.
• 1:07:01
  And I was at like 22,000 or something like that.
• 1:07:03
  I went down to 16. So I was like, oh, you're
• 1:07:05
  losing. I said, I'm losing the stuff
• 1:07:07
  that the people I don't want. Like, again, I believe in.
• 1:07:12
  But if this bothers you, you and I probably shouldn't be cool
• 1:07:14
  anyway. Like, why do I need you around?
• 1:07:17
  It's it's it's an amazing natural filter.
• 1:07:20
  That's the people like, oh, they're not talking to you
• 1:07:22
  anymore. OK, They'll be missed, but OK.
• 1:07:27
  Are they going to make my life better fighting me about every
• 1:07:29
  little thing or, you know, or, or trying to make me feel bad
• 1:07:33
  that people aren't going to, you know, upset me.
• 1:07:34
  I'm good, I'm good. We got them.
• 1:07:38
  We're good. I'll never be.
• 1:07:40
  I'll never be alone. So if you think that I'm going
• 1:07:43
  to be alone, you're I'll never be alone.
• 1:07:45
  You're like, I'm going to hang with God and watch a squirrel A.
• 1:07:48
  100% You want me to worry about what this guy thinks about when
• 1:07:51
  and then yeah, no, not happening.
• 1:07:53
  That is a very egotistical view, friend.
• 1:07:55
  You're. Like, oh, you actually.
• 1:07:57
  Oh, no, yeah. Oh, you read that book wrong?
• 1:08:01
  Yeah. Because that's not me.
• 1:08:02
  Yeah. Oh.
• 1:08:03
  My God, we are exactly well, and I got to tell you when I when
• 1:08:09
  Charlie Kirk unfortunately was assassinated, that's when I was
• 1:08:13
  like, and I actually noticed and again, please don't take this as
• 1:08:18
  ego, but I was literally like, he has the same microphone as
• 1:08:21
  me, same act and I and that I looked and went, holy fuck, I'm
• 1:08:28
  like, I'm a podcaster. I'm I'm a mom in her room
• 1:08:31
  starting a podcast, but we have the same right.
• 1:08:33
  We're doing the same thing. I believe a lot of what he's
• 1:08:37
  saying and and, and I like a tribute reel.
• 1:08:41
  Oh, I lost a ton. I lost a ton because I was like,
• 1:08:45
  no, fuck this, like, sorry, I, I it's time.
• 1:08:48
  I'm not going to worry about the unfollows and the blocks and TA
• 1:08:54
  or whatever. I don't care.
• 1:08:55
  Like it, it'll and and it's I, it's a it didn't feel great
• 1:09:00
  seeing it go down. But then I was like, wait a
• 1:09:02
  second, who? Who are you, Bree?
• 1:09:04
  What and, and again, who are the people that left?
• 1:09:09
  Explain to me, why do you think this, that this was acceptable
• 1:09:13
  or you think that because I, I, I believe in this, that there's
• 1:09:17
  something wrong, that that's my whole thing.
• 1:09:19
  Well, he's again, he's a fascist.
• 1:09:21
  He's a best. He's a best.
• 1:09:23
  Explain to me why? Because the fascist thing is my
• 1:09:25
  favorite. Because nobody could define what
• 1:09:28
  a fascist You, you know, you know what I'm talking about.
• 1:09:33
  No, I don't. That's why I asked.
• 1:09:34
  Don't play this game. I'm not a man.
• 1:09:36
  Did asking. But again, even like if somebody
• 1:09:40
  on the left died, that's a loss of a life like.
• 1:09:44
  It's a child. That's the.
• 1:09:46
  Again, that's. The that's the difference.
• 1:09:47
  It's. That's the difference.
• 1:09:49
  It's celebrating that celebrate. It's you've lost it.
• 1:09:55
  It's it's not red versus blue. It's this, we're humans.
• 1:09:58
  And and again, here's my thing with the Charlie Kurt thing.
• 1:10:01
  And we we did the memorial. So seeing being there and doing
• 1:10:04
  the energy and it was amazing. But here's the thing, you killed
• 1:10:10
  the one guy that was willing to talk to everybody, wasn't
• 1:10:13
  forcing his views on people, was saying, let's talk the one
• 1:10:17
  little bridge that we had that was barely holding on.
• 1:10:20
  You Cut the Rope. Now what do you expect to
• 1:10:23
  happen? Because now there's no
• 1:10:25
  communication, there's zero communication.
• 1:10:30
  And and it's it's. Heating up?
• 1:10:33
  The the, the fallout from it is crazy.
• 1:10:36
  But again, I the Division is, it's upsetting.
• 1:10:41
  It is and and. It's.
• 1:10:43
  We can't sustain it and. No, because it's somebody's got
• 1:10:47
  to give. Somebody's got to give.
• 1:10:48
  And, and, and again, you're supposed to look at, well,
• 1:10:53
  religious people look to God. But what's going on on the
• 1:10:56
  ground right now is you're supposed to look to your
• 1:10:58
  government. You're supposed to look to your
• 1:10:59
  leaders. You're supposed to look to these
• 1:11:00
  people for clarity and for peace and for tolerance and for
• 1:11:03
  understanding. They don't know what's going on
• 1:11:06
  either. And they're just as bad as
• 1:11:07
  everybody else. Yep.
• 1:11:11
  So if real quick for everybody to listen, if there wasn't a
• 1:11:14
  better time to turn to the one person who will tell you what to
• 1:11:17
  do and stop listening to everybody else.
• 1:11:21
  This is the time because you are now learning that there's one
• 1:11:25
  judgement at the end of the day. Because if you listen to this
• 1:11:28
  side, they're telling you this, you go listen to this side,
• 1:11:30
  you're telling you this. You know you're this because of
• 1:11:32
  this and you're this because God loves you and he's giving you
• 1:11:36
  life and he's giving you the blessing of life.
• 1:11:38
  You can't be responsible for everything else going around.
• 1:11:41
  Fortunately, I have to worry about it, but you're.
• 1:11:44
  Like that's my job. I'm in meetings for it all the
• 1:11:48
  time. But but it's, it's you have him,
• 1:11:55
  he's here. Turn to him, surrender to him
• 1:11:58
  and he won't make it easier because we are in a time of
• 1:12:00
  conflict, chaos and misunderstanding more than I
• 1:12:04
  think there has been in the very, very, very long time.
• 1:12:07
  And now it's all televised and now it's on Instagram and now
• 1:12:11
  everybody's telling you what to do.
• 1:12:12
  Guess what? Shut it all off 20 minutes.
• 1:12:15
  Shut it off. Sit down in a quiet place
• 1:12:18
  because again, I don't believe you have to do it anywhere
• 1:12:20
  special Take a walk, do this do that and ask God.
• 1:12:24
  He'll answer you will get he'll tell you what's wrong.
• 1:12:27
  Yep. And it won't be AI didn't want
• 1:12:29
  to say it because this person would be getting mad.
• 1:12:31
  I don't want to say no. There's nobody there's nobody
• 1:12:33
  bigger. There's nobody bigger than that.
• 1:12:35
  No go, go right to the CEO, go right to the CEO.
• 1:12:38
  Don't worry about the middle management go right to the CEO
• 1:12:41
  and again, just listen. It's not always clear, it's not
• 1:12:45
  always this, it's not always that, but it's always there it.
• 1:12:48
  Is always there and thank you for saying that too, because I
• 1:12:52
  literally would love this podcast the way that you are
• 1:12:56
  your job, you're protecting people's, you know, right to
• 1:13:01
  express and hopefully de escalating when you're at these
• 1:13:04
  events you want you're trying to keep the peace, literally right.
• 1:13:10
  And I think that is your gift. And then like what I'm real
• 1:13:14
  starting to realize in this moment, maybe my gift is the
• 1:13:18
  gift of conversation. And I would love to have anyone
• 1:13:24
  who disagrees with anything I said and who wants to unfollow
• 1:13:26
  me. Instead of unfollowing me,
• 1:13:28
  message me. And like, let's have like a
• 1:13:31
  literal discussion where we just talk, right?
• 1:13:35
  You don't have to. Hate and it's not adversarial.
• 1:13:37
  And by the way, there's no win or loss.
• 1:13:39
  Whoever's there's. No scoreboard.
• 1:13:42
  It's just understand, let's just understand 'cause I don't, you
• 1:13:46
  know, I have friends of both voted for this.
• 1:13:49
  Friends aren't even citizens who can't vote, who wish they could.
• 1:13:53
  And then I have, you know, a South African immigrant mother.
• 1:13:56
  I have an East Coast old school dad.
• 1:13:59
  I, I've done a lot of thinking about all that I've done, a lot
• 1:14:03
  of praying and I I don't want to be friends with someone based on
• 1:14:09
  who you vote for. I want to be friends with
• 1:14:11
  someone based on who you are, how you treat.
• 1:14:13
  Right, right, right and wrong. That's it.
• 1:14:16
  Right and wrong. That's it.
• 1:14:17
  That's. Really it?
• 1:14:19
  100%. Really.
• 1:14:20
  It's really that simple. It's it's, and again, it's
• 1:14:25
  conversations far more. Your job is a lot more valuable
• 1:14:31
  than my job. No.
• 1:14:32
  Your job? No, Hear me out.
• 1:14:36
  Hear me out because this is giving people the opportunity.
• 1:14:39
  I've watched a couple of the shows and just letting people
• 1:14:42
  feel comfortable to talk and to feel heard and to feel.
• 1:14:46
  That's where change comes from. Violence is what I deal with.
• 1:14:50
  The violence part is not where change comes from.
• 1:14:53
  It's not. That's like the the.
• 1:14:55
  That is the last, that is the last resort resort.
• 1:14:59
  And again, that's why my job might be a little bit more
• 1:15:02
  dangerous or like. Yeah.
• 1:15:05
  But yours is more important because this is where change
• 1:15:10
  actually happens. Because if it gets to this point
• 1:15:12
  where I I'm involved and there's violence involved, there's
• 1:15:15
  almost no coming back from. It Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 1:15:18
  There's almost no coming back from it because no, nobody wants
• 1:15:21
  to, you know, once it gets to that point, it's because
• 1:15:25
  conversation didn't work or it wasn't tried giving people the
• 1:15:29
  ability to speak. And again, it's, it's people
• 1:15:32
  will be like, we'll have an adversary.
• 1:15:34
  No, no, no, we're having we're talking like we, we are talking.
• 1:15:38
  And by the way, you have the right to walk away from it at
• 1:15:40
  any time. But I also feel that people
• 1:15:43
  might want to hear what you have to say.
• 1:15:45
  So let me give you this platform because again, I've watched a
• 1:15:48
  bunch of them and, and just the comfort, the comfort of having a
• 1:15:54
  conversation with somebody. And again, not being, not being
• 1:15:59
  held to any sort of judgment or anything like that.
• 1:16:01
  It gives you this ability to speak clearly, to hear clearly
• 1:16:05
  and to be understood, or to at least at least show your point
• 1:16:10
  and that this is where change change happens.
• 1:16:13
  Thank you. Thank you.
• 1:16:15
  Well, we're all we're all different roles in the Army,
• 1:16:17
  right? You're you're 100%.
• 1:16:19
  I'm waving to you like I'm over here and I'm waving to you over
• 1:16:21
  there and I'm. Like, yeah, thanks to people.
• 1:16:23
  Safe and I'm like yeah, I just did a chat with this guy over
• 1:16:25
  here and you're like you're. Gonna ask them what they're
• 1:16:27
  doing next. Yeah, and then you're like, let
• 1:16:28
  me know if he gets out of line. 100% but again, we're all
• 1:16:34
  answering to 1, so we're all answering to God and and that's
• 1:16:40
  the clarity of it for me. That's the but I I like that
• 1:16:44
  you're going with the adversity part of it because that truly is
• 1:16:47
  what bolds people. Nobody gets changed by comfort.
• 1:16:52
  Nobody gets changed by comfort. No, you just bask in it.
• 1:16:55
  You're like this is. So because you're not challenged
• 1:16:58
  and you learn nothing about yourself, you'll learn what your
• 1:17:01
  favorite drink is and what you like to eat and what island you
• 1:17:03
  like to go to. But when, when the world's about
• 1:17:07
  to crumble, you fall back onto your your, your factory
• 1:17:12
  settings. And your factory settings are
• 1:17:16
  going to tell you more about who you are then what bottle of
• 1:17:19
  champagne you popped or What Car you drive or what this or what
• 1:17:23
  that, because that's where you find out what you're actually
• 1:17:26
  made of. And that changes everything.
• 1:17:30
  So good we we almost have a fashion line now with. 100% I'm
• 1:17:35
  going to. We're going to get long socks
• 1:17:36
  like stockings. Original fashion.
• 1:17:39
  Line. That's right, there's.
• 1:17:40
  So many literally I'm like, yeah, ideas.
• 1:17:44
  OK, now I just have to ask. OK, tell me a little bit about
• 1:17:51
  what was that like the energy at that at Charlie Kirk's memorial,
• 1:17:54
  I saw a real where Elon Musk was there.
• 1:17:58
  And again, as much as you can share, I know some of this is
• 1:18:03
  What was that like and what was your role there?
• 1:18:07
  So we we were called in. So it was probably one of the
• 1:18:10
  most secure events there was this year.
• 1:18:14
  It was we had to do a lot of vetting to be allowed in.
• 1:18:20
  I worked with another company with a bunch of amazing, amazing
• 1:18:22
  guys. We were one of the few teams
• 1:18:24
  that were allowed actually on the floor level.
• 1:18:29
  The level of security at that thing was, was for me, it's like
• 1:18:34
  the Super Bowl because you get to watch the highest level guys
• 1:18:37
  doing it at the highest level. It was, it was the, it was the
• 1:18:41
  real deal. Like even like the local PD was
• 1:18:43
  kind of like sparingly used. It was more like Marshalls and
• 1:18:48
  Secret Service. And it was everybody had an
• 1:18:51
  earpiece and everybody had an earpiece.
• 1:18:54
  But it was it was a great experience.
• 1:18:58
  We were there with some great clients and I will tell you,
• 1:19:02
  seeing people rally together the and it's it's it's the only
• 1:19:09
  similar base I could like kind of draw to was again, being from
• 1:19:14
  Jersey during 911. People say it all the time.
• 1:19:20
  Nobody ever wants another September 11th, but everybody
• 1:19:23
  would kill to have the energy of September 12th where the country
• 1:19:26
  came together. There was flags everywhere.
• 1:19:29
  Everybody loved everybody. It was it was tragedy unites.
• 1:19:36
  Tragedy unites. And being at that event on that
• 1:19:40
  day, it was like the whole world was there.
• 1:19:42
  There was an energy to it that was unmatched.
• 1:19:46
  And again, I've got to keep it a little numb because I'm paying
• 1:19:49
  attention, but just the people hugging each other and
• 1:19:53
  condolences and glad you're here and people that you know, don't
• 1:19:57
  generally like each other on the outside took the moment to
• 1:20:00
  celebrate a man that said we could talk about this and that.
• 1:20:06
  That was the overall take from it.
• 1:20:07
  And it spiraled into all this other stuff afterwards.
• 1:20:11
  But that moment of purity, of a remembrance of respect, and of
• 1:20:16
  just community, true community. Not insta community, true
• 1:20:22
  community where people were were there for a purpose and it was
• 1:20:27
  genuine. It was it was it was incredible.
• 1:20:30
  I was it was a blessing to be involved.
• 1:20:33
  It was got to work with a great team of people and just the
• 1:20:38
  energy was was insane. It was, it was a terrible that
• 1:20:43
  it had to happen, but it was great that it happened.
• 1:20:46
  Yeah, no. And I, I that that whole week, I
• 1:20:51
  was like numb that week, I was just like, what just happened?
• 1:20:54
  And I, yeah. And it's, it was, it was
• 1:20:57
  incredible to see people come together.
• 1:21:01
  That's what it is. And it's, it's about community,
• 1:21:03
  it's about humanity. It's about, you know, like you
• 1:21:07
  said, celebrating a guy who said we can talk about it and like so
• 1:21:12
  much can be resolved hopefully through like understanding.
• 1:21:16
  But it's, it's, it's amazing. It's what a what an honor like
• 1:21:19
  you say to be there and to like be a part of history and then
• 1:21:22
  also just to feel the Holy Spirit.
• 1:21:24
  I'm sure like on a different. It was there was a couple times
• 1:21:28
  that we were in there were there was a couple prayers and there
• 1:21:31
  would be like a breeze. It was the surreal part of that,
• 1:21:34
  a big banner of him in the back and a couple of the prayers,
• 1:21:40
  like we'd pray or we'd sing and it would wave and it was like,
• 1:21:43
  oh, trying to keep it cool here, trying to keep it cool, trying
• 1:21:47
  to stay professional. But there's something going on
• 1:21:49
  in this building that I can't. It is it was magic.
• 1:21:53
  It's like all the security. And then again, the, the, the,
• 1:21:57
  the, the, the parallel of then you walk outside and
• 1:22:01
  everybody's, you know this and that.
• 1:22:03
  The people that came and stayed didn't even get inside and we're
• 1:22:06
  just there and just doing those. And then you see the one guy
• 1:22:10
  who's like protesting and then you remember, you know, and
• 1:22:14
  you're like, that's right. There are these people out here
• 1:22:16
  and, and, and this is, but again, that's when you say I'm
• 1:22:20
  grateful, I'm grateful, I'm grateful.
• 1:22:24
  And now and so tactically at an event like that or at any event
• 1:22:31
  you you're scanning, you're assessing, I mean is if if you
• 1:22:36
  had to sum up a little elevator pitch of what's on your mind at
• 1:22:41
  an event like that, I mean, I know there and you could talk
• 1:22:45
  for 10,000 hours. Well, so, so the only there
• 1:22:49
  there's a couple things. A that's the most secure
• 1:22:51
  building in the world at that point.
• 1:22:52
  So like for me, I'm very client oriented.
• 1:22:56
  So like, again, I know that this place is safe from my
• 1:23:02
  perspective because I know who's there.
• 1:23:04
  I know the vetting process that went on.
• 1:23:06
  I, I, I see the tactical lineups, I see where these
• 1:23:09
  people are. Like this is, this is as
• 1:23:12
  textbook as it comes. But I'm going to be honest, I
• 1:23:15
  had to bring another guy with me.
• 1:23:19
  So the company reached out. They said you got one more.
• 1:23:21
  And a couple of the guys that I initially would have gone with
• 1:23:27
  their wives said no, They said you're not going.
• 1:23:31
  Absolutely no. And again, that's the
• 1:23:34
  understanding part of this, this job is that, yeah, you have a
• 1:23:38
  bad day at work as an accountant or as like a finance person.
• 1:23:42
  That's that's one thing. I have a bad day.
• 1:23:44
  People lose lives and and or people get hurt or these
• 1:23:48
  terrible things happen. And that's a big thing with my
• 1:23:51
  my industry's complacency. And that was a big wake up call
• 1:23:55
  for me when, you know, we were trying to get guys together and
• 1:23:59
  people are like, yeah, that's also me.
• 1:24:00
  I'm there and I get the call like the half hour later, like I
• 1:24:04
  asked the wife, she said no. And listen, that is your wife.
• 1:24:08
  That is your family, That is your date.
• 1:24:09
  Come first always. You're not going to hear
• 1:24:11
  anything from me. But that eye opening awakening
• 1:24:13
  of oh, wow. Like people are truly afraid of
• 1:24:16
  what might happen here. Like for me, I'm I'm aware of
• 1:24:20
  the threat level. I'm aware of this.
• 1:24:21
  I'm aware of that. I'd be more terrified to be
• 1:24:24
  where he got killed to be honest with you, because with a wide
• 1:24:28
  open space, there's very little security being at that place is.
• 1:24:33
  So secure. It's so secure.
• 1:24:36
  Yeah, it's. Yeah.
• 1:24:39
  We thought there was a there's a technique that I didn't realize
• 1:24:42
  that even happened. We were as we pulled in, they
• 1:24:44
  pull in like 5 trucks at a time. They close up the side.
• 1:24:47
  It was all Secret Service and they ran 3 or 4 dogs pass.
• 1:24:53
  And I was wondering like, why do you need that many dogs?
• 1:24:57
  There's there was a drug 1A bomb one and a gunpowder one.
• 1:25:00
  As long as I can smell gunpowder.
• 1:25:03
  And I sat there with like these dogs like it's but that level of
• 1:25:09
  the scanning of the trucks, this and that where we had to check
• 1:25:11
  in all this other stuff, it was as secure as it happens.
• 1:25:14
  But here's the one thing about my industry, it's intention
• 1:25:20
  beats skill set every time. If somebody's willing to lose
• 1:25:23
  their life to do something, there's very little you can do
• 1:25:28
  to stop them. If somebody is willing to die or
• 1:25:33
  willing to go to jail and knowingly says I'm going to get
• 1:25:36
  this accomplished no matter what happens, that's the wild card in
• 1:25:40
  our industry. That's that's what it is, yeah.
• 1:25:43
  When? It because they're like, well,
• 1:25:45
  he would never do that. He would, you know, why would he
• 1:25:48
  strap a bomb to himself? He's just going to die.
• 1:25:50
  Yeah. No, no, that's that was the
• 1:25:51
  goal. That was the plan.
• 1:25:52
  That was part of the plan. Do you think he cares about
• 1:25:54
  anything that happens prior to that?
• 1:25:56
  No, He's willing to give it all up.
• 1:26:00
  And that's the they call it a security theater because in in
• 1:26:05
  theory, there's nothing man with intention and a plan is a very
• 1:26:10
  hard thing to overcome. Insecure.
• 1:26:15
  So yeah. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
• 1:26:18
  Now if you're at a, if you're protecting a typical client and
• 1:26:22
  like you said, any, is there any and feel free to be like, no, I
• 1:26:27
  can't. Is there any names that you can
• 1:26:29
  name that you have protected? And if you can't, that's totally
• 1:26:32
  fine. So I've done a bunch of
• 1:26:35
  different musicians, stuff like that.
• 1:26:40
  Like we did the Charlie Kirk event.
• 1:26:41
  I've done a bunch of politicians in Arizona.
• 1:26:45
  I was on tour with Shawn Mendes. I was on tour with Jlo, I was on
• 1:26:49
  tour with So I'll I'll tell you the one.
• 1:26:54
  The only one that I got kind of fanboy at is we did Andre
• 1:26:59
  Bocelli. Andre Bocelli for two stops in
• 1:27:02
  Arizona. And I'm going to tell you, did
• 1:27:05
  you? Cry while.
• 1:27:07
  He's saying I I took everything I had to pinch myself in the
• 1:27:10
  leg. But again, the, the beauty of
• 1:27:13
  that is not only is he a talented guy and it was great to
• 1:27:15
  see him watching his security team and management team work
• 1:27:18
  with his seeing impairment. The, the different protocol that
• 1:27:22
  has to happen behind the scenes. And they are, they are a
• 1:27:26
  machine. They know the steps where he's
• 1:27:30
  got to turn because they'll always help him.
• 1:27:32
  But they, he wants to kind of know what the layout is.
• 1:27:36
  So me explaining to somebody you can see is one thing.
• 1:27:40
  Try doing it with somebody who can.
• 1:27:43
  And he is everyone. So he's he's he.
• 1:27:48
  That was the one, like fanboy moment where I was like, this is
• 1:27:52
  this is all right, OK, we're doing it.
• 1:27:55
  He's like literally got. A voice from God.
• 1:27:58
  It's it really and, and, and just being there and watching
• 1:28:02
  them warm up and stuff like that is and that's the beauty of it.
• 1:28:06
  And again, like that, that's the celebrity side.
• 1:28:09
  A lot of the stuff that we do that's more private, the finance
• 1:28:12
  guys and stuff like that, we do a little yeah, yeah, we do a lot
• 1:28:16
  of the tech guys, biotech guys, stuff like that.
• 1:28:20
  And and it's it's amazing. The one thing I will tell you
• 1:28:23
  that if I come come away from this industry with one thing is
• 1:28:27
  that rich is loud and wealthy is quiet.
• 1:28:30
  Some of the most wealthy people I know you would never know.
• 1:28:34
  You would never They're not about any of when you're rich
• 1:28:38
  and you got a couple dollars in your pocket.
• 1:28:39
  You want everybody to know Once you start entering the bees to
• 1:28:43
  the billions, these guys, you would have no idea on that shit
• 1:28:47
  in the. Bagel and read in the paper.
• 1:28:49
  100% yeah, yeah, yeah we're we're in Aspen let's fly to New
• 1:28:53
  York for a bagel real quick and come back and and it's.
• 1:28:56
  They're. Like I don't they're wearing
• 1:28:57
  track suits the whole time. 100% wearing cargo shorts and an
• 1:29:01
  IZODS T-shirt. You know, and it's and I, you
• 1:29:05
  know, I had to just ask, you know, a little.
• 1:29:07
  Yeah. I mean, I had to ask.
• 1:29:09
  You know. No, I'm sure it's annoying, but
• 1:29:13
  no, I think it's it's and you know, and it's funny.
• 1:29:15
  You always my dad always reminds me too.
• 1:29:17
  He's always like Bree, people are people.
• 1:29:20
  Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time.
• 1:29:22
  Everybody, you know, he's like, stop, stop putting people on a
• 1:29:25
  pedestal, you know. And so like, it's just it, it's
• 1:29:28
  always interesting to me how at the end of the day, whatever
• 1:29:32
  you're doing, like we're all people.
• 1:29:35
  And then, you know, some of the celebrities and very gifted, of
• 1:29:38
  course. But we all, we're all like,
• 1:29:42
  we're all people. They well, and, and nowadays,
• 1:29:47
  like I said, with the transition of, of, of the way things work
• 1:29:50
  these days, I'll be honest with you, when I started, it was
• 1:29:54
  talented people with talented people and they're actually
• 1:29:56
  talented nowadays. It's not, it's, it's not that
• 1:29:59
  there's no talent, but they're, they're.
• 1:30:02
  Manufactured a little bit. Manufactured.
• 1:30:04
  They're manufactured. I, I, I look at the, I look at
• 1:30:07
  the, and I like to use the parallel of rap.
• 1:30:11
  When I was in the 90s, I'd listened to the rap and, and
• 1:30:14
  I'll tell you, they were storytellers.
• 1:30:16
  Like they told stories. And you could even as a white
• 1:30:18
  kid from the suburbs, you understood what they were
• 1:30:21
  talking about. You didn't, couldn't maybe
• 1:30:24
  correlate with it, but you could be like, oh, this guy's telling
• 1:30:26
  me a story. Like here's the story.
• 1:30:27
  Now, if you have like a good beat or you have one thing, we,
• 1:30:32
  we've, we've taken tidbits 3 or 4 seconds of somebody's life had
• 1:30:37
  made them a celebrity off of something that they did that
• 1:30:40
  took no talent, no skill set, no anything like this.
• 1:30:44
  And, and, and it's gotten to the point where talent is so
• 1:30:47
  minimalized these days that we have to get into the pranking
• 1:30:51
  stuff. We have to get into the, the
• 1:30:53
  fanboy stuff. We have to get into these
• 1:30:55
  grandiose spectacles. Because if you take that away,
• 1:30:59
  these people are nothing. And again, I that that comes
• 1:31:04
  back to the manufactured, we need to the, the old, you know,
• 1:31:09
  the Roman Colosseum thing, you keep the people distracted from
• 1:31:12
  what's really going on. And but that's why you go back.
• 1:31:17
  Yeah, 100%. That's why you go back to him
• 1:31:19
  because it's, he's the only thing that matters.
• 1:31:21
  So throw everything in the world that you distract, you throw you
• 1:31:24
  off to, to, to do all these things to you at the end of the
• 1:31:28
  day. Do you really like that or do
• 1:31:30
  you like it? Does that person like, or are
• 1:31:32
  you really doing this or are you doing it because it's right?
• 1:31:35
  Yeah. That's the distractionary point
• 1:31:38
  of bringing him back, putting God first.
• 1:31:41
  Like this. Talk about T-shirt, that's a,
• 1:31:43
  that's AT shirt. Put God first.
• 1:31:45
  When you actually put it into action, your life changes.
• 1:31:49
  It really changes. It sounds when people used to
• 1:31:54
  say this stuff years ago, I'm like, what are they talking
• 1:31:57
  about? Like I didn't.
• 1:31:58
  I'm like, I'm like God, I'm like this guy you never met and like,
• 1:32:01
  and I'm just try it. I'm telling like there's
• 1:32:05
  something around and then being around people who can teach you
• 1:32:09
  and like not to be biblical, but like disciple you mentor you.
• 1:32:14
  Like these women have come out of the woodwork that some 7,
• 1:32:17
  some are 70, some are 30, some are 50.
• 1:32:19
  Some are like they're just like, hey, I'm praying for you.
• 1:32:22
  I'm like you are. And you don't know the power of
• 1:32:25
  prayer until you feel that, until you hear that and you go
• 1:32:28
  somebody. Yeah, it's.
• 1:32:30
  Really nice people and there's also some really, there's
• 1:32:33
  judgmental people, but there's some amazing people who are all
• 1:32:39
  about God who can teach you and help you and like shepherd you
• 1:32:44
  and you just ask for coffee and be like, so how are you so
• 1:32:46
  happy? And tell me about this God
• 1:32:47
  thing. What are you doing?
• 1:32:50
  It's like. Again, And and that's it.
• 1:32:51
  And find them in your community because I'm going to be.
• 1:32:54
  But one of the things I'm battling with lately is, is, is
• 1:32:58
  it's become almost trendy to be religious like.
• 1:33:02
  I totally hear you. So if you're doing it to say
• 1:33:05
  like, well, Khloe Kardashian's Christian now so I'm going to be
• 1:33:09
  no, no, no, if you're doing that you you are you are following.
• 1:33:11
  It's a false idol. It's a false idol.
• 1:33:15
  Don't do that. You're going to find the true
• 1:33:17
  happiness in your community and the guy that put his hand on my
• 1:33:20
  shoulder and the woman that sent you the message that is that is
• 1:33:25
  God's Kingdom right there yes. And if you search for it through
• 1:33:31
  Jake Paul just came out that he's Christian.
• 1:33:32
  Well, yeah, you also just some 40 million, like $40 million for
• 1:33:35
  people over a fake fighter, Khloe Kardashian.
• 1:33:37
  Yeah, she spent her whole life doing all this other stuff and
• 1:33:39
  now she sees that it's trendy and she's going to do it.
• 1:33:41
  That's. And then so that's the the
• 1:33:45
  conflict I have is you're always supposed to promote it and bring
• 1:33:49
  it, bring people to to Christ. And I see something like that.
• 1:33:54
  And I'm like, is it worth having those people come to Christ
• 1:33:56
  because they're supposed to be there, but if you want them to
• 1:33:58
  come at it, adversity will bring them the pure path versus it
• 1:34:06
  being put on your head. Hashtag.
• 1:34:09
  Totally. You know, it's really funny that
• 1:34:12
  you said that as I just saw that reel yesterday of Khloe
• 1:34:15
  Kardashian being like, you know, I'm a follower of God, of Jesus.
• 1:34:18
  And on my jaw, literally, I went What?
• 1:34:24
  And and that's and. I had a conflict.
• 1:34:25
  I was like, Bree, you shouldn't be.
• 1:34:27
  That's good. And I'm like, but is it real?
• 1:34:29
  But you should, but you should be happy.
• 1:34:31
  And I literally had a. Conflict right, right.
• 1:34:35
  And again for me it's not it's not even them as much like
• 1:34:41
  because when I I prayed, I prayed on it and he was like,
• 1:34:43
  listen, if they're coming, they're coming like you're
• 1:34:46
  supposed to spread the word. My fear is for the people that
• 1:34:49
  follow it for the wrong reasons and again talk about want want
• 1:34:53
  to do a complete circle. The the adversity is the purest
• 1:34:58
  form of figuring out God. That is.
• 1:35:03
  So the adversity of, of that personal struggle can't be
• 1:35:08
  faith. No, anybody could say, oh, I'm,
• 1:35:11
  I'm a follower of God and I'm a Christian now and all this other
• 1:35:13
  stuff. I will tell you that the people
• 1:35:15
  that come out of that hole overcome those obstacles, get
• 1:35:19
  through that animosity and that adversity.
• 1:35:22
  You could see them, that they're different.
• 1:35:26
  They don't have to tell you. You can see it.
• 1:35:29
  You read Energy you. Know 100% and that is a person
• 1:35:33
  that wants to be better and wants and and doesn't care.
• 1:35:38
  Like I don't tell people I'm Christian because I want them to
• 1:35:42
  like me. I tell them because it's my job
• 1:35:44
  to spread the word. I don't say it because Khloe
• 1:35:47
  Kardashian said I don't say it because Jake Paul said I don't
• 1:35:50
  say. And to me that.
• 1:35:51
  And that's something that I'm still kind of battling with.
• 1:35:55
  It's like, what are you, what are you doing there, guy?
• 1:35:57
  Like, because people don't like you right now, you're going to
• 1:36:00
  do that in the hope that people will start to if you're trying
• 1:36:03
  to gain fans, you're saying it, there's there's, there's gospel,
• 1:36:08
  there's, there's writings on that.
• 1:36:10
  That's you'll deal with what you deal with when you deal with it
• 1:36:12
  because that's not acceptable. But also if it brings, if it
• 1:36:17
  brings a million people to to Christ and two of them are pure
• 1:36:21
  of heart and the other ones go away.
• 1:36:23
  That was their decision, but they had the opportunity.
• 1:36:26
  But I just hope that they realize it's a personal journey.
• 1:36:30
  It is. It is and you know, and in
• 1:36:35
  thinking about the Khloe Kardashian thing or not thing,
• 1:36:38
  she's a person. Sorry, I'm an.
• 1:36:43
  Asshole. No, she was a person.
• 1:36:45
  I respect everybody. This is a podcast of respect.
• 1:36:48
  However, some I have some things I'd like.
• 1:36:51
  If she would, I would like to talk to her about.
• 1:36:53
  Yeah. Yeah, sure.
• 1:36:54
  Come talk. I then I'm thinking maybe
• 1:36:57
  privately that level of fame, maybe, maybe it's torture.
• 1:37:03
  Maybe she really. Needs God.
• 1:37:05
  I mean real, but maybe you know what?
• 1:37:08
  I'm saying that's what I, that's what I pray, that's what we
• 1:37:11
  pray. That's, I pray that that's a
• 1:37:14
  genuine part and that she follows up with her actions, the
• 1:37:17
  words that she's saying. Build on it, build on it, build
• 1:37:22
  on just like I. Hope it grows into something
• 1:37:25
  incredible. That would be actually she can
• 1:37:29
  take help the planet with the following.
• 1:37:31
  She has, you know, a. 100% and, and, and again, it's, it's so
• 1:37:37
  everybody who's listening, these are the struggles you deal with
• 1:37:40
  in the faith. And it's not negative.
• 1:37:43
  It's wait a second, that doesn't make sense.
• 1:37:45
  Let me talk to God about it. Bring it right back to let me
• 1:37:48
  talk to God about it because I don't care what other people,
• 1:37:50
  other people's opinions are. What is God going to tell me?
• 1:37:55
  Yes. And those are the little things,
• 1:37:57
  because this is a Gray area issue.
• 1:37:59
  It's not black and white. Yeah.
• 1:38:03
  But the answer is not going to come from your phone.
• 1:38:07
  It's not going to come from anything else.
• 1:38:09
  It's not going to come from your friend's opinions.
• 1:38:11
  It's going to come from him. So cut the middle man and go to
• 1:38:14
  him. Go, Just go.
• 1:38:16
  Yeah. Anything else that said
• 1:38:18
  yesterday, someone, I think it was a pastor named Christine
• 1:38:21
  something. She's amazing.
• 1:38:23
  Maybe it was Joyce Meyer one of them.
• 1:38:25
  I just, there's so many amazing passwords.
• 1:38:27
  I'm like, I love you all. And we take in so much every
• 1:38:32
  day. You just it's confusing.
• 1:38:34
  If Joyce Meyer walked in, I would fan girl.
• 1:38:37
  I'd be like I just that woman is hilarious and just amazing.
• 1:38:44
  But see, look at Squirrel again. What I think what I'm trying to
• 1:38:48
  like, literally, Julian's gonna be laughing at it.
• 1:38:51
  He's gonna be like, you're so hyper, you're so right.
• 1:38:57
  And I think it's constantly questioning, but also like just
• 1:39:03
  learning about faith and learning like and consulting
• 1:39:07
  with friends who are believers and reading and and then like
• 1:39:11
  it's nothing is ever like when you're Christian, you don't know
• 1:39:14
  everything. It's just that you're constantly
• 1:39:16
  working on yourself to be to be like God, right?
• 1:39:20
  Be as as close to him as you can be, but.
• 1:39:25
  It's putting, it's putting faith into action.
• 1:39:27
  There you go. It's putting faith into action.
• 1:39:29
  And by the way, there's no cookie cutter way of doing that.
• 1:39:34
  It's different for everyone. That's different for everybody.
• 1:39:37
  So if there's confusion, it's almost like you're doing it
• 1:39:39
  right. I saw me the other day that said
• 1:39:42
  if you're not battling every day, I don't think you're
• 1:39:44
  getting closer to Christ. You get more attacked.
• 1:39:48
  You get more attacked and you get more confused and you get
• 1:39:51
  more in your in your in your mindset and you get more in your
• 1:39:53
  thought and you get more into not every prayer is after it is
• 1:39:58
  like that was amazing. Some of them are like, oh man,
• 1:40:01
  like I'm battling with this right now.
• 1:40:03
  And if you're not battling, you're not thinking.
• 1:40:06
  And again, there's the faith of I know what's right, but again,
• 1:40:10
  understanding why something bothering you or something
• 1:40:12
  didn't bother you, that's the part of it that makes you the
• 1:40:15
  adversity to get you better in your faith.
• 1:40:18
  Because if it just came easy, you wouldn't know why you feel
• 1:40:22
  like you feel. Yes, Hallelujah.
• 1:40:30
  I mean, firstly, I just. I feel like I'm getting like a
• 1:40:34
  master class in like just life. Every time I talk to a guest I'm
• 1:40:38
  like thank you. It's, it's, it's a, it's a
• 1:40:41
  beautiful thing. And, and, and like I said, you
• 1:40:43
  are, you're a blessing to the world for creating this.
• 1:40:45
  It's, it's, it's, it's so important.
• 1:40:48
  It's so important. Well, you know, I it's so it's,
• 1:40:53
  I feel like everything has been like, you know how your career,
• 1:40:58
  like everything in your life LED you up football, all the
• 1:41:01
  protector all LED you to this. I feel like I'm like, oh, it all
• 1:41:05
  makes sense now. This is what it is.
• 1:41:07
  This is all those all the shit dark time that the time 2 1/2
• 1:41:13
  years ago when I was over in the corner suicidal being I have an
• 1:41:17
  episode being like, I can't do this.
• 1:41:21
  And that's the first time when I, I literally not, not it
• 1:41:25
  wasn't audible, but I felt a presence being like, yes, you
• 1:41:29
  can and you're not, you're not giving up.
• 1:41:31
  And like, and, and then all these people appeared in my life
• 1:41:35
  and my, this friend said, can I pray for you?
• 1:41:38
  And I'm like, sure, yes, yes, you can.
• 1:41:43
  So anyway. And but, but that's that is it
• 1:41:47
  the dark that is it the the dark where you feel like?
• 1:41:51
  It's over. You're ready, like you're ready,
• 1:41:55
  like you're ready and and I don't care anymore.
• 1:41:58
  Nothing matters. And then you just feel like it's
• 1:42:03
  almost like a, it's like a warmth or like a light and it,
• 1:42:06
  and it, and it just kind of like wraps you up a little bit and
• 1:42:12
  you realize that all this other nonsense doesn't matter.
• 1:42:16
  And again, it's, it's, it's not that it doesn't matter.
• 1:42:21
  It's not the most important thing.
• 1:42:23
  And once you, because that's the thing, if you don't have
• 1:42:26
  something at the center, you're going to wander away from
• 1:42:32
  everything and could be confused.
• 1:42:33
  And then what? You're going to wonder why
• 1:42:34
  you're lost? Were you lost because you forgot
• 1:42:36
  where the center was exactly? That's why you feel.
• 1:42:39
  Empty because you can go to the center and then go out a little
• 1:42:42
  bit, look back and remember This is why you're doing it.
• 1:42:45
  If you just wander aimlessly, you're not going to know where
• 1:42:47
  you are. And then how do you start again?
• 1:42:50
  So what does that mean you do makes you do stuff that you
• 1:42:52
  don't want to do or think thoughts you don't want to think
• 1:42:54
  or, or you just it, it compiles. It's a slippery slope and all
• 1:43:00
  you've got to do is close your eyes and just open your heart
• 1:43:04
  and just say I'm ready. And there's no, there's no
• 1:43:09
  manual, manual to it. Because some people like gotta
• 1:43:11
  go to the desk. You gotta do the no, no, no.
• 1:43:13
  You'll know when the connection's there.
• 1:43:15
  And that relationship will build the way that you build it with
• 1:43:18
  it. And you will, because he wants
• 1:43:21
  it. God, you will.
• 1:43:22
  He wants it. He's ready.
• 1:43:24
  You're not you. You haven't lost him.
• 1:43:26
  You'll never lose him. No, you can't.
• 1:43:28
  He's he's always right on the other side of that thought.
• 1:43:31
  That's. A beautiful That's another
• 1:43:35
  shirt. He's right on the other side of
• 1:43:36
  that thought. Yep.
• 1:43:40
  OK, that's it. I'm retiring.
• 1:43:44
  This is the last episode. We're done.
• 1:43:47
  We're doing a fashion line and we're retiring. 100% yeah, we're
• 1:43:50
  going to be. We'll be in Paris next week.
• 1:43:52
  Oh my gosh, no, it's he's right. On the other, it's, you don't
• 1:43:57
  have to like, because I, I follow, I follow like God behind
• 1:44:02
  bars. I, I follow things where I'm
• 1:44:04
  like, you can be really far gone and he's going, I, you repent
• 1:44:10
  and you can start again. Like it's not bullshit.
• 1:44:13
  Like you can, you can be suffering from anxiety.
• 1:44:16
  He's right there. You can be.
• 1:44:20
  Yeah, that's he's right. There, your world can be
• 1:44:22
  crumbling, or your world can be the most bountiful.
• 1:44:25
  Both times he's there. And by the way, he's got the
• 1:44:27
  same hand for both people. Totally, totally, totally, Adam.
• 1:44:35
  And, and, and that's the part that people really got to
• 1:44:38
  accept. Stop overthinking it.
• 1:44:40
  Stop doing this, stop doing that.
• 1:44:42
  He has been waiting for you your whole life to just say yes.
• 1:44:47
  And he has seen everything that you've done, and he still just
• 1:44:50
  wants to say, yes, I got to tell you, I'm signing up for that,
• 1:44:57
  that deal every day of the week. Like that is the purest form of
• 1:45:01
  love. And then you start.
• 1:45:04
  And for you. Yeah, you know that.
• 1:45:07
  I didn't start to go on your walk as my my guest.
• 1:45:10
  Her hand said, she's 70 years old and she's like from Texas.
• 1:45:13
  And she's like now Bree, I know you're just starting on your
• 1:45:15
  walk now. And I'm like, yes, I am.
• 1:45:19
  And she's like, all of a sudden when you say yes to God, even if
• 1:45:23
  you're on your knees going, OK, yes, whatever this guy Adam and
• 1:45:26
  Bree said to say yes, who are you and what do I do now?
• 1:45:30
  Just watch who starts to come into your life and then send
• 1:45:34
  send us a message. Some guy will pray.
• 1:45:39
  Just watch. Don't things start to happen?
• 1:45:44
  And here's The thing is, is that he, he's had that for you his
• 1:45:48
  whole life. Your whole life.
• 1:45:51
  It's been there. You just got to say yes to it.
• 1:45:54
  And, and, and again, the beauty of energy and the beauty of
• 1:45:58
  angels and the beauty of all this other stuff is they could
• 1:46:01
  have been there the whole time, but you were sewing your own
• 1:46:03
  head. You didn't think to look like my
• 1:46:10
  again, I deal with all types of people like when I'm in my
• 1:46:13
  social life and stuff like that. If I'm always the first a
• 1:46:16
  homeless person, this or you know this, see God in every
• 1:46:21
  person that you deal with. See God in the best and the
• 1:46:25
  worst, but just remember that these are just what would he do
• 1:46:32
  if he saw somebody struggling or does this or do that?
• 1:46:35
  But, and again, this is probably a story for a whole another day.
• 1:46:38
  Then you get into that guilt of like, oh, I could have helped
• 1:46:41
  him more or I should have done that.
• 1:46:44
  You'll manage it. Just have faith.
• 1:46:49
  Let him in and let him take over, and everything else is
• 1:46:54
  manageable. I living proof of that.
• 1:46:58
  I think we both are, you know, and.
• 1:47:02
  I'm proud to be and proud to be like I.
• 1:47:05
  I, I will sing it from a mountain tops.
• 1:47:07
  He saved my life more times than I can say and I wouldn't be half
• 1:47:11
  the men I am. Same same I woman, but you know
• 1:47:17
  that's. Right.
• 1:47:19
  Where can. We start in there.
• 1:47:20
  OK, Yeah, yeah, that's a whole other podcast.
• 1:47:24
  God is like you're done. Now, yeah, yeah, you're doing
• 1:47:27
  well. You're doing well.
• 1:47:28
  Stuff up, up, up. I'm.
• 1:47:30
  Like oh, OK. I'm too far OK, cool.
• 1:47:33
  No, Adam, I I don't know where to stop talking because I feel
• 1:47:38
  like I could keep keep talking and ask you 100 more questions,
• 1:47:42
  but can I end with one question as.
• 1:47:47
  And maybe it's just sort of like it's we've talked about faith,
• 1:47:53
  we've talked about your security, we've talked about
• 1:47:55
  your purpose, your life. And I think faith as a driver
• 1:48:01
  and everything, right? Clearly I just lost my trace
• 1:48:13
  from like a keeping. OK, so you're keeping, you keep
• 1:48:16
  yourself in line with faith and all of that.
• 1:48:19
  The question I'm trying to ask is like when you're moving about
• 1:48:22
  the world, what are some tips that you have just in general
• 1:48:28
  for people to keep themselves aware and safe in their
• 1:48:33
  environment? We know how to connect our soul.
• 1:48:36
  You got to talk to God, be be around the right people.
• 1:48:39
  When we're day-to-day moving around, what kinds of things
• 1:48:42
  should be, We be aware of our environment, like to keep
• 1:48:45
  ourselves safe. I think, I think there's there's
• 1:48:49
  2, two major ones. Number one is the theory of
• 1:48:52
  trusting your gut. It's it's a highly undervalued
• 1:48:57
  thing. If something seems off, not
• 1:49:01
  necessarily it is, but there's a reason you're feeling that way.
• 1:49:04
  There might be something that you saw that that subconsciously
• 1:49:07
  you didn't see something feels wrong.
• 1:49:09
  If something acts wrong. Here's the thing, you, you get
• 1:49:13
  one chance at this life, like listen to yourself.
• 1:49:16
  Like if you see something that looks off, say I can manage it.
• 1:49:21
  That doesn't help you. Avoidance, awareness making,
• 1:49:27
  making decisions that will keep you out of situations.
• 1:49:31
  That's the one thing, especially with the bigger guys, is why I
• 1:49:34
  can handle this. Why?
• 1:49:35
  Why would you want to? Like, why would you put yourself
• 1:49:37
  in a bad position? Why would you?
• 1:49:40
  Who are you? Who are you proving anything to?
• 1:49:43
  And why would you risk it like so?
• 1:49:46
  So again, trusting yourself, listening to the social cues,
• 1:49:51
  listening to something that seems off, if it seems off and
• 1:49:54
  it can't be explained, then maybe it was just something.
• 1:49:57
  But why try to figure it out? Do you have other stuff you have
• 1:50:00
  to do? Like stop trying to figure out
• 1:50:01
  the social situation, Just remove yourself from it.
• 1:50:04
  And the other thing that this is going to be a rough one for the
• 1:50:07
  younger generation, put your phone away while you're walking,
• 1:50:11
  while you're doing stuff. How distracted people are by
• 1:50:16
  phones? How do people are distracted by
• 1:50:18
  all these little things? They've done tests on how far
• 1:50:23
  they can get somebody walking right next to somebody on and
• 1:50:26
  they'll be on the phone and they'll walk somebody next to
• 1:50:28
  them. It'll be 2-3 blocks before they
• 1:50:30
  realize that person's even there because they're so zoned in to
• 1:50:33
  that because that's entertainment for a lot of
• 1:50:37
  people. This is life.
• 1:50:38
  This is my life is in my phone. I didn't notice the guy who's
• 1:50:42
  been following me for two blocks.
• 1:50:43
  I didn't. I was walking to my car.
• 1:50:45
  I didn't notice the guy standing on the other side of my car
• 1:50:47
  because I was watching the the latest YouTube or whatever it
• 1:50:50
  is. Put it away.
• 1:50:52
  Why you're making movements in public.
• 1:50:55
  Put your phone away. Great.
• 1:50:58
  Tip. I mean, it's just the way.
• 1:51:00
  Because. You outlined it, it's almost
• 1:51:03
  like why it's such a risk, especially if you have kids too.
• 1:51:07
  You're getting them the advantage, you're giving them
• 1:51:09
  the advantage. If somebody has a plot against
• 1:51:11
  you and you've now basically thrown those horse blinders on,
• 1:51:16
  you became a much bigger target. And by the way, most criminals,
• 1:51:21
  most predators, most this most that are going to pick the
• 1:51:26
  easiest pred. So if you're up and looking
• 1:51:29
  around and aware you're not somebody they're going to want
• 1:51:32
  to deal with. If there's somebody walking on
• 1:51:34
  their phone, much easier target. Even the illusion of being aware
• 1:51:42
  of what's going on will deter them more body.
• 1:51:46
  Language. Right, Body language, being
• 1:51:47
  aware, looking around. Somebody looks at you, you look
• 1:51:49
  at that for a second and you look away, you look back and
• 1:51:52
  they're still looking. There's a situation there.
• 1:51:54
  Now it's either an attractive situation, they recognize the
• 1:51:57
  situation. It's But now I have somebody in
• 1:52:00
  my immediate area that is now focused on me.
• 1:52:03
  What steps am I going to take from this point?
• 1:52:05
  Oh, that's the lady from church. Hey, how are you?
• 1:52:09
  I don't know that person. Maybe I should go the other way
• 1:52:13
  because that person seems super interested in me for some
• 1:52:15
  reason. Follow that gut.
• 1:52:18
  Yeah. Little things.
• 1:52:19
  That doesn't seem right. I'm not going that way or that
• 1:52:23
  doesn't seem right. Let me go back into the
• 1:52:24
  restaurant for a minute or so before I go to my car.
• 1:52:27
  Life. Life saving tips.
• 1:52:32
  Literally 100% and again, the beauty of me going from clubs to
• 1:52:37
  to executive protection was the years of being able to read
• 1:52:42
  crowds, social situations like just your environment and then
• 1:52:47
  putting it into skill sets of advanced work and all these
• 1:52:50
  other. Whole I mean the.
• 1:52:51
  Ethical nonsense? Yeah, there's like a whole.
• 1:52:55
  Just it's a whole discipline, learned everything.
• 1:52:58
  It's it's and, and again, we're learning more and more every
• 1:53:01
  day. This is the part of the we're
• 1:53:05
  getting into the Super like the IT stuff.
• 1:53:08
  I hate computers. I hate all that other stuff.
• 1:53:10
  But like even for us now it's a mandatory thing for us to learn
• 1:53:13
  these things because the world is getting smaller through
• 1:53:16
  screens, through electronics or all this other stuff.
• 1:53:19
  And you have to be aware of everything that you plug into
• 1:53:22
  everything. You put something in there and
• 1:53:24
  it's listen, dude, God, God will protect us.
• 1:53:28
  But it's kind of it's, it's like they say, God will put you in
• 1:53:30
  the robo, but you've got to, you've got to paddle like you
• 1:53:36
  got, you have to do the work yourself 100%.
• 1:53:38
  Part God wants to enter I heard this either wants to enter into
• 1:53:42
  that partnership with you so that you guys can roll together
• 1:53:46
  a. 100%. But it's.
• 1:53:48
  A concern it's you have to help out, be be part of the team,
• 1:53:52
  Brett friend, or else you're not going to get anything out of.
• 1:53:54
  It or putting in the next player, yeah. 100%.
• 1:53:58
  It's so when you break it down to those analogies and just
• 1:54:01
  those. Thank you for sharing those tips
• 1:54:03
  because just as a woman, as a person, I mean every person,
• 1:54:07
  right? But especially if you know, it's
• 1:54:09
  going to remind me when I'm out and and the illusion of false
• 1:54:13
  sense of security because I'm in suburbia, it doesn't matter,
• 1:54:16
  right? I mean, you, I have to always be
• 1:54:17
  aware no matter where I am, right?
• 1:54:19
  Right. Right.
• 1:54:20
  And I'm not, I'm going to try to keep this as as good energy as
• 1:54:24
  possible. You're not safe anywhere.
• 1:54:26
  It's, it's, there's all different types.
• 1:54:28
  There's all, there's all different types of threats, but
• 1:54:30
  there are some places that are safer than others and stuff like
• 1:54:33
  that. But again, we have to take
• 1:54:34
  responsibility in our own safety.
• 1:54:37
  Yes, Because at the end of the day, if there's two people
• 1:54:39
  drowning, the other person's not coming to save you.
• 1:54:42
  They're, they're going to let you drown.
• 1:54:44
  Like you are responsible for the safety and the safety of the
• 1:54:47
  ones you love. And again, I don't need you to
• 1:54:50
  go out and John Wick people, but just to make smart, like make
• 1:54:53
  smart decisions. Have your keys ready in your
• 1:54:56
  hand when you go to the car and stuff like that.
• 1:54:58
  If there's people hanging around your car, guess what?
• 1:55:00
  Walk past it, walk past it, go back in like you forgot
• 1:55:04
  something. They they might not be there for
• 1:55:07
  anything, but if they are. Then you just avoid.
• 1:55:10
  It you now avoided it. You, you, you've avoided it,
• 1:55:13
  right? Yeah.
• 1:55:13
  It's the yes, yes. And again, the, the, the other
• 1:55:19
  change in society that I, that I like is don't be afraid to ask
• 1:55:22
  for help. There, there are, there are,
• 1:55:25
  there is a huge rise and, and I'd love to see it guys getting
• 1:55:31
  back to regular respect, civility and stuff like that.
• 1:55:36
  If if you were in a situation and and you don't ask for help,
• 1:55:39
  people can't help you. Yes.
• 1:55:43
  You can't, A closed mouth doesn't get fed.
• 1:55:46
  If you think that there's something wrong and there's a
• 1:55:48
  guy there or somebody you know, hey, do you mind walking me to
• 1:55:50
  my car real quick? First of all, I'm going to, I'm
• 1:55:53
  going to tell you from my point of view, A, it's just a smart
• 1:55:56
  move and B, the guy's going to feel.
• 1:55:59
  It's going to feel really. You chose him to protect you on
• 1:56:01
  your wrist set. You made his day and it made you
• 1:56:04
  safe. And again, it's not foolproof,
• 1:56:08
  but asking a guy to walk you to your car, it takes 2 minutes for
• 1:56:14
  him, makes him feel good, makes you feel safe, everybody.
• 1:56:17
  Wants you know what you're connect.
• 1:56:18
  You just connected with a human being and at our heart we want
• 1:56:21
  we are here to help each other. That's that's the reason we're
• 1:56:25
  here. We all die with 0 money $0.00
• 1:56:28
  That's right. It doesn't matter how many bags
• 1:56:30
  I have or blah blah blah. There's no U-Haul behind the
• 1:56:34
  hearse. I mean, it's great.
• 1:56:37
  Enjoy your stuff but like at the end of the day you're going to
• 1:56:39
  feel so good. Also when you help someone or
• 1:56:44
  when you ask for help, you're respecting yourself right?
• 1:56:46
  Like I need help, I need help. And by the way, it doesn't make
• 1:56:50
  you any less. No, that's the thing.
• 1:56:52
  It's, it's we've almost vilified being a good person, like, or
• 1:56:58
  being somebody who believes in things like I, I, yeah, I'd be
• 1:57:04
  mad if somebody I knew walked through the car and didn't ask
• 1:57:06
  me. I'd be mad if they didn't do it
• 1:57:08
  because they felt like they were less.
• 1:57:10
  It's not about that. It is one of the most carnal
• 1:57:14
  things in the world to protect yourself.
• 1:57:16
  Yes, yes. Allow it to happen.
• 1:57:19
  Allow it to happen. Well, I would love, I would
• 1:57:22
  definitely ask you to walk me to my car if I saw you and I feel
• 1:57:27
  I'd be like. I'm good at it.
• 1:57:29
  I think I think he's a good choice.
• 1:57:31
  Yeah, 100%, yeah. And, and by the way, like I
• 1:57:34
  said, I, I, I'm, I'm happy to do it.
• 1:57:37
  And I and I, and I surely do think that we need to get back
• 1:57:41
  to it's, it's, it's amazing to me what people think is this
• 1:57:45
  beautiful glorified gentleman stuff opening doors.
• 1:57:48
  Like if somebody needs something carried, you carry it, do a
• 1:57:50
  couple extra stuff. That stuff used to be the base
• 1:57:53
  foundational stuff. Now people are like, oh, you're
• 1:57:56
  such a good person. I don't know.
• 1:57:57
  That's the core. Like that's that's 41.
• 1:58:01
  Like, yeah, we're the Empire State.
• 1:58:02
  That's 41. But again, it's it's people are
• 1:58:05
  getting back to it and it pleases and thank yous and
• 1:58:08
  hellos and how you doings and eye contact and stuff like that.
• 1:58:12
  It changes the whole game because once you see other
• 1:58:15
  people doing it, as much as it goes down, it goes up too.
• 1:58:20
  If you raise your standard, people will raise it with you,
• 1:58:22
  yeah. Oh, what is it?
• 1:58:23
  Yeah, the what's that? The The the tide rises to the
• 1:58:27
  boat. The boat.
• 1:58:29
  Absolutely, yeah. That's the tide rises and sets
• 1:58:31
  by whatever, whatever. Water and the Yeah.
• 1:58:34
  Yeah, yeah, 50% but but old people, but but hold people to
• 1:58:40
  that kind of stuff. And again, it's not asking for
• 1:58:43
  much. It's not asking for much.
• 1:58:45
  And again, you that that's the other side of it is that that
• 1:58:49
  little endorphin release of helping somebody the moment of
• 1:58:54
  thank you so much. I really, I really appreciate
• 1:58:56
  that it's. Great.
• 1:58:57
  People saying thank you for stuff that you do is amazing,
• 1:59:02
  but you have to do it too. Like offers.
• 1:59:05
  There's a lady struggling with her bags.
• 1:59:07
  Excuse me miss, I don't. Do you need help?
• 1:59:11
  Go out of your way. 100% And if she wants to do the whole, I got
• 1:59:14
  it. OK, fine.
• 1:59:15
  I I ioffer nothing, I can do it. Yeah, yeah, God told me to do
• 1:59:20
  the that's what God want me to do.
• 1:59:22
  If you're going to battle the three bags because of whatever
• 1:59:26
  power rights or whatever, I want to make sure that you know that
• 1:59:29
  I'm here if you need me. Totally, totally, Adam, I'm
• 1:59:36
  looking up here and we were like, yeah, 45 minutes an hour
• 1:59:39
  and now we're. Yeah, 100%.
• 1:59:40
  We'll wrap it up real quick. Oh, wow, it's two hours good for
• 1:59:43
  us. And that felt very, that felt
• 1:59:45
  very, very short. Well, sure, that was slow and
• 1:59:49
  that was the flow. I wanna and and I literally
• 1:59:52
  wanna thank you so much because I feel like this has been I, I,
• 2:00:00
  I made a friend. We're we're buddies.
• 2:00:02
  I feel like I've learned a lot and I also it also.
• 2:00:05
  I I feel like when I meet people who are like walking with God,
• 2:00:08
  it's even, it's just even more confident.
• 2:00:12
  It's good to find your tribe. It's good to find your tribe.
• 2:00:15
  Yeah, 100. Percent sending me people I'm
• 2:00:16
  like, huh, yeah, right. He's like I told you, I told
• 2:00:21
  you. And, and again, this is what,
• 2:00:23
  what it's about is finding people of, of it's just good
• 2:00:28
  people, just good people, good people of faith and all this
• 2:00:31
  other stuff. And it's not forced and it's
• 2:00:32
  not, it's not, it's not anything but good energy and, and, and
• 2:00:39
  just bringing back community. I love it and.
• 2:00:42
  I truly, I truly am grateful for for you having me on.
• 2:00:45
  This has been amazing and and as far as look in the show notes
• 2:00:49
  everybody, if you would like to learn more about Adam Adam's
• 2:00:53
  your services, it's executive private.
• 2:00:57
  Protection. Executive, executive protection
• 2:01:02
  agency. So I'm going to put all your
• 2:01:04
  blah, blah, blah. I'm going to put all of that was
• 2:01:07
  such a great endorsement. I just fumble all of that.
• 2:01:10
  He will be better at protecting you than I am saying that you
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  know. It's a win.
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  It's a win. It's fine, but yes, and TuneIn
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  this this is this is gonna go live in the next probably couple
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  days. So OK, if it if it's cool with
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  you and I'm just this is all recorded.
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  We get to hear or. Hey listen, I love it.
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  I want I want the updates from before too though.
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  I think those got to be put in. Before.
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  Oh yeah, for sure. Well, and I think episode 74
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  with you Adam has been fantastic and hopefully one of these days
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  we'll get to meet in person at something. 100% I look forward
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  to it. You'd be surprised when you get
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  around a good group of people, good energy, it finds each
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  other, so it'll happen. And I'll just be like, hey,
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  it's. A mess?
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  Yeah. Walk me to my car, will you
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  friend? Like you want my car with him,
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  So what? Do you?
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  Think they're like and everyone's like, everyone's like
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  Bree. No one cares that you're going
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  to your car and nobody's following you.
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  Nobody knows who you are. And I'm still coming with you.
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  I'm still coming with you. He's my friend.
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  That's right. Anyway, well, I appreciate it
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  was it really was great and just keep doing what you're doing.
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  It's thank you. I know from your perspective you
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  don't see it, but it really is it's making an impact and thank
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  you. And that's that's more important
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  than you know. And and again, I'm just grateful
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  to be out. I appreciate it and I know we'll
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  talk probably 400 times the next week.
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  A. 100% yeah, you're stuck with me now.
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  Yeah, 100%. Sorry, you know.
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  It's cool. Exactly as I always say, you are
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  now the 51st member of the Adventures and Adversity family.
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  I'm proud to be so. And then again, I I love the
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  show and I love what you're doing.
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  Thank you. Well you have an amazing weekend
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  and hopefully you get to just take a break and not protect
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  anyone for like a day, no. Not a.
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  Chance. Not a chance.
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  Hey, off to the next. Where are you off to next?
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  Somewhere really cool. We have a, we have an event for
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  a political. It's actually Turning Point
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  Phoenix. Turning Point Phoenix has an
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  event. Yeah.
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  So it's OK. I'm looking forward to it.
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  I'm coming to one of. Those 100% open invite, open
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  invite. OK.
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  All right. We'll have an amazing time and
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  thank you so much. This has been Episode 74.
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  We are signing out.