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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Personal Path of Love for God 11.24.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  About Hashem, loving Hashem, all right now Page 3 two has the key
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  item and that is what we speak about, about Hashem.
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  People think that love naturally.
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  How do I generally love Hashem? So I think about what Hashem has
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  done for me in my life and I say, hey, I made some money
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  yesterday, I did well yesterday. This worked out.
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  That worked out and therefore I love a Hashem and that is a
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  natural development of Alvaldo. Hashem is a trigger, A cause, a
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  Creator, something that brought it in.
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  The reality is, is that that's a very risk.
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  It's a modern day version and it's also a very risky version.
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  Why is it risky? It does open up the concept to
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  you, but it's risky because once the love is to hinge on
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  something, it can easily be broker.
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  And to go to an extreme, if a girl loves a guy and it's
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  awesome because he happens to be well off as dangerous, because,
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  you know, life has person turns. If she likes a guy because of
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  something that changes, whatever may be, that's really risky.
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  Because I was thinking about these people who, who you know
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  in the world, who, who date these these college kids and
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  about to be drafted #1 then the guy becomes, you know what, what
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  they call them boss, Boss. The guy that got a bus, he
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  thought he was gonna become a superhero and he became a boss.
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  He's a nobody. But there's so many of them it's
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  not even funny. And these girls said they were
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  marrying this guy and turns out they're not.
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  And I'm sure that doesn't go too well.
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  But the other thing is love which is connected and hangs on
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  something. It is dangerous.
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  So avante sham, which is the core love that we want to have.
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  And it's the great connection that we wanted to have sham we
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  wanted to be. Now it does need to develop
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  through a connection as you very clear it will need that you feel
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  like God is your father. Have him to be your father.
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  It does require how you feel that he's given to you.
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  I can't go to a random stranger and say Ashem is your father
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  love him. I'll say prove it.
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  Give me a little, you know background that shall not
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  father. You need to have that feeling
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  inside of God being that father figure to you with that
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  connection to you and then you love him, but it cannot be so
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  typical. I can't be.
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  Today he gave me today I love, tomorrow he didn't, tomorrow I
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  don't exactly. If you go down that road, it's
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  actually not even cold love. When it's cold, it's an
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  agreement. It's basically a good deal.
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  If I like him, he'll give me back.
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  If you go down that road, you basically and the people don't
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  realize this, you chose an I sham because he's your best
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  business model. Great, wonderful, but it's not
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  real. It's real is insight in his old
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  vava. This is fundamental.
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  Shah Vad twice he's the word 1 morning Shah Vazzod Sarif
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  Shalodi Avadavar. This love cannot be a love that
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  depended on something. I know she you have it at the
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  boret, but ah, and we have this connection to our shin.
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  Oh, she made TV love because you did good for me.
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  Omaha Shiro. I made me wealthy.
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  Omaha Sliakoto. I made me successful rather.
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  And like I have about to bin the Aviv like a son loves his
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  father. She about to eat my marsh.
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  It's a natural thing. She all Mahihova covella a son
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  loves his father doesn't make a difference what his father has
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  done for him. He dislikes him.
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  His father disparaged him and heard him different story.
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  That's a breakaway. But if this father was just his
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  father, son has a love, he is my father, my creator, my master.
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  OK. And then he double s down on his
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  consciousness and says the real test of love is when a person
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  has a challenge, someone has something and he turns to
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  Hashem. Still, that is the proof of the
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  right. Those words mean literal.
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  You love Hashem with all your heart and all your money and all
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  your soul with that means all your money is even when money is
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  tight, all your harm means even if the person's in a bad
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  physical state and all of his strength means literally all of
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  his strength. If a person has a about Hashem
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  in those times, it's real. Now my issue is, here's my
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  issue. How do you balance that with the
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  fact that we do need an emotional tie?
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  If I don't give you an emotional tie, you will not have a
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  connection to God. It won't happen.
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  I can't just tell you. Like they give an example, a
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  story on the bottom, which I love this book and I love the
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  way they do it in English. The story on the bottom is, to
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  me, not a good example. They give a very extreme
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  example, someone going through some crazy challenge and he
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  loves us. Shim.
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  That is not our motto. That is for that person.
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  I believe that person has the capability, but it's not
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  exactly, exactly. I, I said a point to someone
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  yesterday. I said when you're talking about
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  emunah, there's a fundamental point when you're talking about
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  your connection to Hashem, right?
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  Your full connection to Hashem needs to be your personal
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  emunah. I'll tell you what I mean if I
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  look, you know, we talk about emunah stories all the time.
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  If I look to the side at someone else's life, I really can't
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  develop my faith through him unless I only hear his good
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  stories. Why or not?
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  But if you look at this side, you look at his story from that
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  side of you, you're learning his whole life.
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  And there's some challenge there too, right?
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  And because he was given that challenge, he had the tools to
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  handle. I did not.
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  So I see his challenge as something that's, it's called
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  unhandable, something that cannot be handled right.
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  So I cannot really understand and recognize and appreciate and
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  deal with this challenge. So I look at us live and it
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  looks to me partially messed up. So my relationship with God
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  cannot be through his. My connection to Hashem needs to
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  be personal. Why?
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  Because my own challenges, I figured a way to handle it
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  someone else couldn't have. But I figured a way to handle
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  it. My challenge, whatever it may
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  be, in my personal area, I worked it out.
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  And because I worked it out, I'm still in that relationship with
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  Hashem. And I could then build on the
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  good. I would not be able to do that
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  if I lived vicariously to my friend's life because my
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  friend's life, his struggles seem too much to bear for me.
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  Fame. God gave him away along with the
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  struggle and gave him the tools. That's him personally.
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  And that tells us that you are, you're a muna.
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  And you avat Hashem, should not be built of someone else's
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  story. It should be built of your own.
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  When they tell you a muna stories, which are beautiful and
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  I use them all the time and I have to use them to give a
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  speech. When they give you faith
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  stories, the goal is that you hear that story and you make a
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  connection directly to you. That's the goal.
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  The goal is to bring it back to yourself because your
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  relationship with God is the most powerful existence in your
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  life and someone else's story. I can give you a story about a
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  guy who made $1,000,000 yesterday out of a complete open
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  miracle. It's not as effective to you as
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  your own example. Were you able to, I don't know,
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  get through to your child even though they were giving you a
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  hard time? A small difference, a small
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  story for you, but it's personal.
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  Your personal story is your life, and that's your avatarsh
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  And we built in your personal relationship.
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  And everyone of us have our own book.
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  You know, they say they're writing a book about so and so
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  and about so and so about so and so.
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  Guaranteed everybody, yes. And the shame of theme of theme
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  I call me. Yes, the way it works like this,
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  I, I, I tell you, I disagree. Yes, it's not constant.
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  It may not stay at that point. No, I say it doesn't remain
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  exactly. Does it remain that way because
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  everyone has ONS and offs in life the same as they do with
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  their levels of emmuna and levels of?
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  Right, so you think for a specific?
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  There are moments when it hits. There is that feeling exactly
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  right, right there is. That's true.
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  There is that feeling when it hits and you know you have it.
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  When something went right over here, something went right over
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  there, something clicked. Not only when it's just bringing
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  endless, but even this sense. I had a conversation I noticed
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  yesterday. We're basically it's just about
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  the balance. Even when it's a sense that you
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  feel balance in life, you feel you have things.
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  All the reduction, Aerobie, you have a system that's enough.
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  We all have our things up and down, up and down, but we have a
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  process where we're healthy, we're the center of it all and
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  we're healthy and we're able to address that child and address
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  that business and address those people around us.
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  We have a plan, we have a path. That itself, that sense of
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  health is something where you stop and you say that a sham,
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  wow, I'm the captain of a ship and the ship is moving.
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  Even that gives you all about that sham.
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  If it's not constant. The old time, there are many
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  time you stop me and say, oh, now I'm going to fight with so
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  and so. Now they're upsetting me again.
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  What happened? I did nothing wrong.
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  And then all of a sudden you can't really feel any connection
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  to a sham during that time because you feel in that sour
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  mood. I'm not saying that about that.
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  Sham is constant, but I am saying that you're at a level
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  where you can hit that spot all the time and when you do, it's a
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  personal Ava. The number one thing to realize
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  with Emunah, faith, Yita fear and and Ava love is that these
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  levels and paths are personal. Nobody can write you a book, and
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  I cannot write and, and no one can write my book.
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  We have our own stories. They're personal and they're
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  uniquely strong and just like a child, every child that's
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  supposed to feel right. Parents claim me to do this.
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  I'll ask you on record if you have favorites.
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  No, you don't. Parents say they don't have
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  favorites. OK.
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  My children are young so I don't think I have favourites yet.
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  Our favorite doesn't say. All right, we have Zach, we have
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  people, children that make it easier for us to make it more
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  difficult and give us more challenge.
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  But somehow they have a special, someone told me that the child
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  that's the most difficult, I'll have a certain or she'll have a
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  certain likability that'll make you connect to them.
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  All right. As a child, Hashem creates a way
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  that every child's got a path of a connection to their parents,
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  right? This one might be more involved,
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  less involved, but this one is smarter.
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  This one is certain advice in that area.
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  This one has a serengue. When he's in the room,
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  everyone's laughing. The other one is able to keep
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  the family stable, keep the family with our original values.
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  There's always angles, right? Shem made it that way by design.
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  Cole Ye Leville, Each and every child has a thing that you have
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  something special about him. Why is that the case?
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  Because every child in your family has a special
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  relationship with Daddy. And that's the goal, all right?
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  That's the goal. Hashem is the exact same.
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  Like you have your own personal relationship and it's an
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  incredible 1. And I can't understand it.
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  I wouldn't even appreciate it enough, but you would.
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  And that means the dips are your dips and the highs are your
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  highs. And this level of faith and the
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  level of stability is your level.
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  It's yours. And you definitely can write
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  your own book. In fact, Rabbis, I told people I
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  wish I was personally grounded enough to do this and I know
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  people will do it till today. Write your own book.
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  Stop and write your miracles, OK, every night.
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  I don't know, maybe now you want to do it once a week.
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  Do it once a week. Write the miracle and you will
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  see. It is crazy.
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  The kind of book you have on what Ashantaz, if you have the
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  relationship. And again, it's not only the
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  highest, it's just a feeling of there's a closeness there.
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  The closeness is the presence of God in your life.
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  You're around someone and you feel like you have sechell while
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  those people don't, for example, right.
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  You have a SEC while those people don't.
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  That is a shame with you. You have a mind and you feel
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  like you know, I I'm in a room. Everyone here seems nuts.
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  They're all saying crazy things that no one has the right frame
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  of mind and I know what I'm talking about.
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  Where does that come from? I got a connection.
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  You feel like you have a calm or everyone else is worried.
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  You feel like you have success while everyone else feels like
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  they don't. You feel a certain feeling of
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  this wings like we said yesterday with you that is
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  Hashem with you and that you have your relationship is very
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  strong go. Ahead I so I think I agree with
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  that 100%, but I think that's creates for the most part I
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  can't generalize the one that I have out that comes and goes.
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  You know last night that we were.
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  I sat next to your mom. Oh yeah, she told me.
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  My cousin. Yes, what?
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  And it's craziest story ever because really they wrote him
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  off. He wrote himself of almost
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  swath. And you see where the wife went
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  through the this the journey of the depths, the way Hashem had
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  to take them. And now you heard the family
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  talk again and they weren't a baruch Hashem or anything
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  family. Yeah, Diane there and I I let
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  there thinking these people really love God like I I I felt
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  that jealous like like admiration, envy, whatever you
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  want to point with it. Wow, I admire.
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  I felt like my love of Hashem is in and out and Lupa Hashem was
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  really created. There was was at a heightened
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  level right now, but follow that journey for a second right, so
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  you say it doesn't fit with my journal thing guaranteed.
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  I don't know for I don't know almost for a pack that even as
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  they got and that scenario, it's a classic scenario.
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  Even as they got very rough news.
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  He also at the same time had something go right, which means
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  maybe the guy, I mean, I don't know, his stories are maybe he
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  made money that day. Maybe a relationship that was
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  been been severed few years. A York thing.
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  A York is is a bird's eye view. Those types of things are in the
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  books. They're not our lives.
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  It doesn't mean no one goes to great struggle.
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  I'm not saying that saying that those those few and far between
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  people and they do exist and it's a big challenge.
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  I'm not discounting that Hashem is with them in that way.
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  Doesn't mean it's awesome. Doesn't mean you know some
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  orphans and they come and say I'm great.
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  Rabbi, how do you explain me has Shalom?
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  I can't explain him, but he's got his own story and his story
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  might be right now in the depths and his storyline now will rise.
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  There are people who are an exception to this rule that's
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  packed with the biggest question.
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  The question was Mushabin, who was not allowed to know the
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  answer. So we're not know the answer
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  either. Sadiq verado Asha batolo, how
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  it's the hardest question and you can't get around that.
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  You know why you can't get around it?
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  Because if you got around the question, which is how come
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  righteous people have the heart? Some of them, if you answer that
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  question, you would say Hashem, I know everything.
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  Thank you very much. It's the opposite.
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  What do you? See the Rashaim.
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  Same question. Also, what do you see?
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  Rasha Vitogo. Yeah.
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  Depends the kind of guy you are. You are.
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  Which question bothers you more? How come it's Adika is at heart.
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  You're a very sensitive guy. These are different types of
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  people, right? I can imagine if he's going with
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  the first question, he was going with second question.
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  His first question is right. Yeah.
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  No. So I I never.
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  Understood by people that commit from some of them even from
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  birth to Hashem or in his path and you know they don't go off
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  the path and. Well then I don't know like.
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  Why? Why does it have to be had
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  hearts? I bought a certain they got only
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  9 jobs. I don't know character what
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  those kind, there are strains to it, but I don't know.
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  But that's it's hard. I don't know really.
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  Bill's character. When the regular guy has to work
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  9 jobs, they call my job. Well, like that.
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  Can't be double standard. It's a fair question.
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  I agree it's a good question and I don't know the answer.
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  And I think that our job is to actually almost, when you say
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  leave it without a shame, it means don't look at other
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  person's like really use, like I said from the beginning, use the
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  other person's life as a path towards yours.
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  And see now if we have an extreme Either way, we're
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  casual. I'm not a great guy and we're
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  doing great. Then we have to address
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  ourselves. But technically speaking, our
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  own lives are on a path of a connection with God as his son
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  and we can build on that. The opera is this live baby.
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  Your question is a solid question.
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  No answer. Is it a real thing that Hashem
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  gives the guy good life here because he writes them all?
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  Oh, that is Gordon Hobo. The lava brings it all down.
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  Hashem gives him good life here to clean up, so he has nothing
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  upstairs. So really how you decide that if
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  that guy is very blessed, so we. Don't know when.
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  That guy's. Living.
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  Is he living or what? Someone, yes, me yesterday asked
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  me this question. He said I'm oh, you know, you're
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  telling me I had this spell where it says and I shot could
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  be very well off because someone's giving him all down
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  here. How does a person know?
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  I said I I don't have to prove this.
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  I remember once learning, well, stop this.
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  I remember once learning that you can change the projection of
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  your situation so the guy was given a lot of money.
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  He's not the best guy. If he now uses that money for
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  good, he's redirecting his situation and chances are he can
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  fix up an already done predicament.
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  I once found it. I don't know where I found it.
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  It was a cool concept. Aside from that.
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  I don't have an answer to there baby.
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  I don't have an answer. Just keep doing good so person
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  doesn't be worried about that. But these are the concepts.
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  Every person has their own personal relationship with God.
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  It's yours, it's your own. I I like that that you can't,
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  you know, look, look at the others because it'll confuse
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  you. But Destiny story told me this
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  classic story. They said the details, right?
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  They said that the guy was diagnosed with one thing.
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  Yeah. And then there was another
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  cancer that that piggybacked it right when they thought they was
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  going to figure out the first one.
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  So it was like Bam now the second cancer would have killed
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  him but then no one ever checks for it, it's dormant and it
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  turns at the stage 5 pretty quick.
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  In the next 10 years he would have been a statistic, but only
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  because she had the first cancer, which they thought was
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  the end of the world, did the second cancer, which they got
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  rid of. That is the most class.
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  I got to say it for a speech one time, but that is the most
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  classic story and the concepts of the layers of there are why?
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  Because they got terrible news, young guy, wonderful guy,
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  terrible news. Then on top of that, they got
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  that second punch, that second punch on the other side, get
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  punched on the right, punch on the left is something that
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  knocks people off their feet. That's a hard, hard to recover
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  from. Turns out the second punch was
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  the bus. The second punch only was came
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  because of the knowledge of the first punch.
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  And the first punch was a blessing.
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  So he undoes everything and it changed that person's life.
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  And Marocham, now they're fine. So it's unbelievable story.