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Season 4 - Episode 90 - How do you determine if you are proud of yourself? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Question of the day, how do you know when you're proud of
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  yourself? I mean, how do you determine it?
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  So as I look around at myself and I say, OK, am I proud of
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  what I achieved? You know, this all came about
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  because we were driving in, in the, in the truck and my husband
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  said to me, you know, are you, are you happy with everything
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  that's here? Are you happy with everything
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  that we've gotten done? And I said, yes, I'm happy, but
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  it doesn't mean I'm satisfied. And of course that, you know, we
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  started laughing about that because I have that issue of am
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  I satisfied with something? And I don't believe that, you
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  know, I think that's a part of the, the human process is that
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  when something happens and you feel good about it, then you're
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  going to grow and, and then you're going to grow further.
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  And it's just the nature of what happens.
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  So satisfied. It's a it's a tough word for me
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  because I always see things better and growing and expanding
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  and changing and that makes me, you know, excited.
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  So when you say proud, it kind of throws me off.
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  Like, am I, am I proud of myself?
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  And I regularly tell my clients how proud I am of them.
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  And I recognize that as adults, how often does someone tell you
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  that they're proud of you? It's not often.
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  But how often do we tell ourselves that we're proud of
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  ourselves? And I couldn't answer that
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  question for myself when I thought of this last night.
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  I was like, interesting, I can't answer that.
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  Am I proud of this? And I look around and all we
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  have accomplished all that. I've done all those things.
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  And am I proud of it when I pause and I say it, yes.
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  But I have to push myself to think about it.
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  And I don't think that that's the answer.
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  I don't think that we should be that way.
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  I think we should ask ourselves more on a more regular basis, if
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  you will, if you're, am I proud of myself?
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  Was is that a proud moment? Does that, does that make me
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  proud of myself? And when you do that, it kind of
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  puts you into this real internal process of thinking deeply
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  about, you know, where do I show up well and where could I show
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  up better? And I know for a fact, I mean,
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  there's no question about it. We can always all show up
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  better. And we can always all show up in
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  a more loving, attentive, you know, being present with people
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  because life is life is hard when you're a human because
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  you're always being pulled in different directions.
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  And especially when you are a growth mindset person, you are
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  always moving, always, you know, working towards something.
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  And there's nothing wrong with that.
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  In fact, it's actually really healthy because it keeps you out
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  of your head and out of the problems.
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  But sometimes to stop and pause and ask that critical question,
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  pivotal question, because if you were proud of yourself, then you
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  might want to do more to be more proud of yourself and more proud
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  of yourself. But it's a question you have to
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  ask. So when's the last time you
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  asked it? And and if you did ask it, what
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  would be your answer? You know, when how long has it
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  been? Now, here's even further because
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  this is where my head is right now.
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  OK, Make a list of the things you're proud of.
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  That's really hard. That is really a hard thing to
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  do because you're going to come up with the first few pretty
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  quickly, But then you're going to sit and you're going to be
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  like, I don't know, well, I could have done better.
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  And then and then judgements going to be driving your bus and
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  she's going to be sheer here. However you label it is going to
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  start saying, OK, I don't know. I don't know if I like that.
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  I don't know if that's something I should be proud of.
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  You know, like I sat there and I was like, OK, I've got all this
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  fabric down in the garden. Am I proud of it?
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  No, I'm I mean, I'm happy I I got it down.
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  And then I had this epiphany, OK, but I did the majority of it
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  by myself. So can I be proud of that, that
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  I worked that that hard that I did that 10 foot roll and I did
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  it all by myself because everybody else was busy.
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  So I should be proud of that. And I had to stop and really
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  coach myself into being proud of it because it was hard.
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  I mean, I tore my shoulders up doing it, but guess what?
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  I got it done. And the fact is I should be
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  proud of it, but I wasn't letting myself be proud of it.
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  And that's the part. And I and it wasn't like I was
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  sliding myself. It was just that you don't run
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  around going. I'm proud of that.
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  Oh, that made me proud. Oh, that was a good moment.
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  I'm really proud of that. No, we don't do that.
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  What we do is we were like, we move right on to the next thing.
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  OK, Well, yeah, but I still have this, like, I've got these
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  archways that I wanted to create.
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  And of course, I had this idea that they were very expansive
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  and big. And so that the the wire
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  wouldn't stay bent. We had to bend these poles.
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  My son and his friends bent these poles.
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  And is it perfect? No.
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  But it's so exciting because the boys did it for me, and they're
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  all 16 and 16, and they were out here with me.
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  We were all being eaten by bugs. We were all cracking up,
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  laughing and trying to figure out how to make it work.
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  And we did it and we got it. Is it perfectly beautiful?
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  No, But it's perfect for me. And I'm like, oh, the flowers
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  are going to grow up anyway and there's going to be cucumbers
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  growing on them. And I should be proud of the
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  fact that I didn't obsess on the fact that it had to be quote UN
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  quote, picture perfect. It's just, it's, it's the way
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  it's supposed to be with the boys doing it with me.
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  And I'm proud of that now. But I had to stop and pause and
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  force myself to face it that way.
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  So what can you be proud of? What are you going to allow
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  yourself to be proud of today? All right, my friends, go seek
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  and I'll see you tomorrow. Bye.