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Midday Missing - Brittany Tee & Mikayla Standridge · True Crime and Wine Time

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Speaker 1: being here. Now let's get into today's cases. So we're
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Speaker 1: going to start with Britney t. I mean, guys, crazy
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Speaker 1: story and I'm learning ninety nine point eight percent of
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Speaker 1: the missing person cases are crazy and that's just the
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Speaker 1: way it is. So on the evening of January tenth,
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, thirty five year old Brittany Te walked
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Speaker 1: out of the home that she shared with her boyfriend
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Speaker 1: in Brookfield, Massachusetts and vanish without a trace. The circumstances
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Speaker 1: surrounding her disappearance, as you can imagine, has left her family, friends,
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Speaker 1: and the community in a state of shock and disbelief,
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Speaker 1: and they're still searching for those answers. Like I said,
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Speaker 1: she was last seen at her home, but she was
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Speaker 1: seen by her boyfriend around eight thirty five pm that night.
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Speaker 1: According to him, he believed that Brittany was heading over
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Speaker 1: to her mother's house, which guys, was a normal routine
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Speaker 1: and it didn't raise any immediate concerns. However, she never
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Speaker 1: arrived at her mother's home and that was the last
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Speaker 1: time anyone saw or heard from her. Now, her car
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Speaker 1: was found abandoned with her purse and keys inside, leading
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Speaker 1: investigators to believe the sh didn't plan on being away
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Speaker 1: for a long time. And also, what is particularly puzzling
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Speaker 1: is that Britney's cell phone and wallet were missing from
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Speaker 1: the car and her home. Guys, that suggests that maybe
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Speaker 1: she took them when she left, or maybe somebody else
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Speaker 1: took them out. Britney's disappearance wasn't reported by her boyfriend,
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Speaker 1: and it wasn't until three days later, when her family
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Speaker 1: grew increasingly concerned over her lack of communication, that they
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Speaker 1: reported her missing. Okay, guys, I'm going to stop right there.
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Speaker 1: Why did he not report her missing. If you think
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Speaker 1: your girlfriend's running to her mom's house and that she's
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Speaker 1: going to be back, why wouldn't you report her missing?
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Speaker 1: Three days? That is a delay that not only raises
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Speaker 1: questions in concerns within the community, it also makes boyfriend
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Speaker 1: look very suspicious. Now I'm wondering, do I need to
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Speaker 1: put together a list of things not to do so
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Speaker 1: you don't look suss because apparently people don't get it.
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Speaker 1: But I can tell you this, I hope that any
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Speaker 1: of you if your girlfriend, spouse, friend leaves to run
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Speaker 1: to somebody's house in coming back they don't show up,
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Speaker 1: you might want to start looking for them. Okay. Her
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Speaker 1: family is desperate to find answers, and they're concerned that
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Speaker 1: he didn't say, Hey, by the way, did she show
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Speaker 1: up at your house? Oh? She didn't. Well, she never
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Speaker 1: came home, so let's just wait three days, okay. Now.
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Speaker 1: Britney's family has described her as a vibrant, caring individual
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Speaker 1: and that she had a natural kindness that they feel
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Speaker 1: could make her vulnerable and easy to take advantage of. Now,
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Speaker 1: her disappearance is completely out of character. She was very
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Speaker 1: close with her family. Guys sad to say, besides Double
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Speaker 1: H best friends. If I was missing for three days
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Speaker 1: that nobody would probably start looking for me, besides Double
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Speaker 1: H and my mother in law because she lives with us.
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Speaker 1: Because as we all know, I'm not great about returning
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Speaker 1: text and I don't talk to family members. I talked
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Speaker 1: to jeffa maybe once or twice a week, but three
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Speaker 1: days could go by and nobody know I'm missing. So
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Speaker 1: I'm going to just tell you we all, especially me,
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Speaker 1: needs to do a better job of responding to text
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Speaker 1: because I could go missing. Luckily, DOUBLEH and I both
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Speaker 1: work from home, so he would know if I was missing.
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Speaker 1: Now he might be tired of me and be like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: thank god, she's gone for a couple of days. He
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Speaker 1: would still raise the alarms. First thing he would do
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Speaker 1: after calling the police is he would call JT and
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Speaker 1: he would say, Hey, this is your and Terry's world.
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Speaker 1: Please get the word out, and what do we need
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Speaker 1: to do because she ain't home and she you know,
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Speaker 1: left behind her car and her purse and her pups
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Speaker 1: and her goat. Wouldn't happen. So in the weeks following
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Speaker 1: Britney's disappearance, an intensive surface was launched by law enforcement
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Speaker 1: and volunteers. This search included ground searches, aerial surveillance, waterway inspections,
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Speaker 1: and the use of K nine units, and they scoured
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Speaker 1: the areas around where they thought she could be. But
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Speaker 1: despite those efforts, no leads have emerged. I have to
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Speaker 1: say very proud of the police that they jumped on this, because,
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Speaker 1: as we hear, in a lot of these cases, police
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Speaker 1: do not get off their butts and do their job. Okay. Now,
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Speaker 1: Britney's physinical description has been widely circulated. She stands at
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Speaker 1: five feet six inches, weighs approximately one hundred and twenty pounds,
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Speaker 1: and she has brown hair. Now, Ellen, one of Britney's friends,
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Speaker 1: told reporters that it's not like a UFO came down
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Speaker 1: and got her somewhere, You know what I mean? Yes, Ellen,
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Speaker 1: I see you, and I would know what you mean.
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Speaker 1: I say that all the time. No alien came down
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Speaker 1: in the UFO and beamed them up. Okay, So someone
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Speaker 1: had to have seen something and someone knows something. And Boyfriend,
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Speaker 1: the fact that you waited three days, I really hope
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Speaker 1: police are giving you a full rectal exam, not saying
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Speaker 1: you did anything, but I think they should at least
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Speaker 1: make you remember in case you get a girlfriend again,
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Speaker 1: that you need to do a better job. Okay, not
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Speaker 1: saying you did anything, I'm just giving you my opinion.
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Speaker 1: So if you have seen Brittany or have any information
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Speaker 1: regarding her disappearance, please call the Brookfield Police Department at
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Speaker 1: five oh eight eight six seven five five seven oh
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Speaker 1: or the Massachusetts State Police Headquarters at five oh eight
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Speaker 1: eight two nine eighty three twenty six. Now you can
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Speaker 1: also join the Brittany t Missing page on Facebook. They
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Speaker 1: do a great job of keeping everybody updated. So I
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Speaker 1: want to just say to the family, I am so
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Speaker 1: sorry that it took several days, because those three days
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Speaker 1: could mean a lot of evidence has gone. So my
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Speaker 1: heart goes out to you. We will make sure that
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Speaker 1: we post Britney's missing poster and of course, as always,
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Speaker 1: please share them. Guys. Between the allergies, the vertigo, all
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Speaker 1: of the decongestions, I am trying to say hydrated, and
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Speaker 1: let me tell you, it's a challenge. So our next
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Speaker 1: case is about Mikayla Standridge. So on the morning of
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Speaker 1: April twenty first, twenty twenty three, Mikayla Standridge, a twenty
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Speaker 1: five year old single mother, vanished from Zacket View Drive
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Speaker 1: in Concrete, Washington. Now, I have to tell y'all, the
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Speaker 1: minute I saw Skagget View Drive, I don't know why,
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Speaker 1: but I think of the guy Tom Skirt. I don't
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Speaker 1: know why, just one of my random add brain things.
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Speaker 1: But so she vanished, and she left behind some unsettling
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Speaker 1: clues that have puzzled authorities. But it's made her friends
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Speaker 1: extremely worried. Okay, and they've done extensive search efforts as well.
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Speaker 1: They still have not found her. Now. Michayla's life was
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Speaker 1: not without its struggle struggles. She was raised by two
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Speaker 1: aunts and her grandparents. She faced a rough start that guys,
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Speaker 1: would have been overwhelming for so many, But everything I
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Speaker 1: read saying despite these challenges, Michayla became a devoted mother
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Speaker 1: to her two year old son, Madden. And those who
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Speaker 1: knew Michayla described her as a bright light. Guys, Thankfully
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Speaker 1: they did not say she lit up the room, because
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Speaker 1: every time somebody lights up the room, we find out
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Speaker 1: bad things happen. See, That's why nothing bad's gonna happen
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Speaker 1: to me, because I don't write up, I don't light
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Speaker 1: up a room, and I'm not a bright light so
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Speaker 1: but anyway, They also said she could make anyone smile
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Speaker 1: and that she loved to laugh and she loved to
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Speaker 1: bring joy to those around her. Now, just five days
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Speaker 1: before her disappearance, so on April sixteenth, Mikayla posted an
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Speaker 1: eerie message on social media that guys, they said, it
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Speaker 1: sent chills through friends and family. I'm going to tell
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Speaker 1: you it. Yeah, So I'm gonna just tell you what
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Speaker 1: the post read. If I ever go missing or anything,
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Speaker 1: just know I didn't leave. So this is an alarming statement, okay,
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Speaker 1: which she followed with a plea for others to inform
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Speaker 1: their life ones if they ever disappeared. Now seems did
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Speaker 1: she know her future? Guys. I've often said we need
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Speaker 1: to make sure our friends and family and loved ones
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Speaker 1: know if we go missing. It wasn't by choice, but
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Speaker 1: the fact that she went missing five days later that
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Speaker 1: makes me wonder what was going on? Okay? Was she
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Speaker 1: sensing that something was going to happen. So in the
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Speaker 1: early hours of April twenty first, they say, Michaela's behavior
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Speaker 1: became increasingly frantic, so at around three am, she called
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Speaker 1: her brother and father and urgently asked them to pick
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Speaker 1: her up okay. Unfortunately, her brother's car was not working,
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Speaker 1: so her father promised to come for her a bit later.
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Speaker 1: Couldn't come right that second, but he would be there
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Speaker 1: and a hop, skip and a job. So guys, that
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Speaker 1: was the last time her family heard from her. By
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Speaker 1: at five am, Michaela was seen running out of the
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Speaker 1: house where she was staying, screaming for help, and she
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Speaker 1: managed to call nine one one, but she quickly hung up.
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Speaker 1: Now the operator reportedly heard her screaming before the line
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Speaker 1: went dead. Guy. When the police arrived at the scene,
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Speaker 1: there was no traces of Michayla. Okay. Now, Michaela's boyfriend,
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Speaker 1: who was staying at the same house, provided police with
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Speaker 1: conflicting stories about what happened that morning. Okay. Initially he
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Speaker 1: claimed that Michaela ran out of the house barefoot, but
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Speaker 1: he didn't follow her okay. Then he changed the story
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Speaker 1: saying he chased after her but heard a car speeding away. Okay.
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Speaker 1: Then he mentions seeing a silver car drive off. So, guys,
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Speaker 1: these inconsistencies not only deep in the middle around her
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Speaker 1: disappearance disappearance, but I'm also gonna say, boyfriend once again
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Speaker 1: makes you look sus and if you don't know what
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Speaker 1: sus means. That means suspicious, Okay, makes you look suspicious
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Speaker 1: because you either ran after her, you didn't run after her,
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Speaker 1: you saw a car, or you didn't see a car. Now,
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Speaker 1: because I like to be kind, it was three between
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Speaker 1: three and five am. Maybe drinking drugs. Maybe there's something
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Speaker 1: that caused him to have a little bit of differences
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Speaker 1: in stories. I don't know. I'm just gonna say it
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Speaker 1: makes you look sus. Okay, guys, buckle up. Because the
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Speaker 1: police didn't immediately do what they needed to do, and
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Speaker 1: this added to the family's frustration and trauma. Okay, this
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Speaker 1: is trauma. The home where Mikayla was last seen was
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Speaker 1: not searched by police for several weeks. Guys, weeks. Okay.
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Speaker 1: During this time, her boyfriend continued to live in that
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Speaker 1: house with an ex girlfriend who happened to be a
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Speaker 1: professional cleaner. Okay, cleaner apartments, houses, office buildings. Hmm, several weeks.
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Speaker 1: That is a lot of time for somebody to clean up,
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Speaker 1: just saying now. This delay has raised concerns with the
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Speaker 1: community and the family because think of the potential evidence
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Speaker 1: that was lost or tampered with. Now, why the police
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Speaker 1: aren't concerned about this. I'm not sure, but they should be,
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Speaker 1: and I'm hoping that there are some Sergeant Captain I
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Speaker 1: can tell you this, Captain Olivia Benson would be all
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Speaker 1: over her team if they waited several weeks. I know
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Speaker 1: this isn't a TV show, but you don't wait several
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Speaker 1: weeks now, guys, weeks after her disappearance, her phone was
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Speaker 1: discovered in the bushes along the bank of the Skaggett River,
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Speaker 1: which also makes things a little more complicated. Did somebody
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Speaker 1: throw it there to do a red herring mislead police?
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Speaker 1: Did she drop it while running from someone? Because I
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Speaker 1: remember she was seen running out of the house screaming.
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Speaker 1: We know she had her phone because she called nine
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Speaker 1: one one. Was someone chasing her? Did she fall into
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Speaker 1: that river? Did someone take her? I mean, it's a clue,
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Speaker 1: but it definitely makes you find out or not find out,
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Speaker 1: makes you think that something definitely happen. Now. Mikayla is
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Speaker 1: five feet two inches weighing around one hundred pounds, Guys,
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Speaker 1: distinctive pink hair girl after my own heart. Her disappearance
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Speaker 1: has left the community on edge and the search continues. Now, guys,
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Speaker 1: she had a whole life ahead of her and this
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Speaker 1: is awful. I mean, she has a child now. I
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Speaker 1: tried to find if the police have a person of
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Speaker 1: interest or if they've looked further into the boyfriend. With
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Speaker 1: these changing stories, guys, I couldn't find anything. I am
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Speaker 1: guessing they're keeping everything close to the chest. I hope,
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Speaker 1: I hope it's not that they're just not doing their job.
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Speaker 1: So as the days turn into weeks and months, Mikayla's
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Speaker 1: family and friends hold on to hope. They're refusing to
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Speaker 1: give up on finding her. Her son Matten deserves to
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Speaker 1: know what happened to his mother, and guys, the community
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Speaker 1: of Skaggitt County deserves answers, and they say they're going
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Speaker 1: to continue looking for her. So I am going to
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Speaker 1: ask the Skaggitt County Shit's office, please do your job.
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Speaker 1: This young lady has a son at home, and she
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Speaker 1: apparently loves pink, so that makes her a sol sister
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Speaker 1: of mine. So do your job. Bring the family the
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Speaker 1: peace they deserve. Now they say they're actively investigating. I mean,
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Speaker 1: consider it took them three weeks to search the house.
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Speaker 1: I don't know what that means, but I guess they
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Speaker 1: didn't say they're actively investigating. Well, but they're actively investigating.
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Speaker 1: If you have any information that could help locate Mikayla Standridge,
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Speaker 1: please contact the Skaggett County Sheriff's Office at three six
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Speaker 1: zero four one six one. Guys. You can also follow
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Speaker 1: the Fine Mikayla Standridge Facebook page for updates on the
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Speaker 1: case and to support the ongoing efforts to bring her home.
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Speaker 1: Can also show some love to her family members and
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Speaker 1: as all ways, we will post the missing person flyer.
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Speaker 1: Let's share it and if anyone watching this or watches
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Speaker 1: it later finds the boyfriend's name, I would love to
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Speaker 1: know what his name is, because, just in case they're
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Speaker 1: not giving him a little rectal exam, I would like
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Speaker 1: to do a little bit of my looking into him.
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Speaker 1: So just because I don't know, something is off for me. Now, let's,
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Speaker 1: you know, let's bring her home. And I know I
21:37
Speaker 1: normally do a palate cleanser story, but today instead of that,
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Speaker 1: I wanted to take a moment to share some vital
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Speaker 1: safety tips that I found online that parents can use
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Speaker 1: to teach their children in my place case my grandchildren.
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Speaker 1: And it's a difficult topic and we never want to
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Speaker 1: scare our kids are But guys, these tips could potentially
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Speaker 1: save their lives. And I have to tell you, when
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Speaker 1: I decided to do the research into this, I was
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Speaker 1: saddened to realize a lot of these I never taught
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Speaker 1: my boys. Thankfully, nothing ever happened to them. I can
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Speaker 1: guarantee you the next time monkey Butt is here, she
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Speaker 1: and I are going to have a talk. Considering her
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Speaker 1: mama does true crime, and her mom's into true crime,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess she probably knows some of them. I'm
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Speaker 1: asto going to do the same thing for our action Jackson,
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Speaker 1: he's gonna know too. So the first thing is teach assertiveness. Okay, guys,
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Speaker 1: While it's important to teach children to be polite, they
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Speaker 1: should also know it is okay to be assertive and
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Speaker 1: to not talk to strangers. Okay. Remind them that adults
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Speaker 1: should ask other adults for help, not children. Okay. I
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Speaker 1: was raised to respect adults, and you always say yes
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Speaker 1: to adults. Guess what, No, we need to teach them, Yes,
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Speaker 1: you can be polite while also being assertive. They can
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Speaker 1: say yes, mister, I understand you want me to help
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Speaker 1: you look for your dog. Sorry, go find an adult okay,
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Speaker 1: or turn around and walk off. So clarify stranger danger
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Speaker 1: instead of just saying don't go with strangers, which guys
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Speaker 1: is too vague, explain that they are If they are
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Speaker 1: lost or need help, they should approach only safe looking strangers.
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Speaker 1: What does that mean, like a store employee or another
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Speaker 1: mother with children, a police officer, a fireman. Okay, I
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Speaker 1: would say, look for a mom with children or a
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Speaker 1: dad who has kids. Strangers should never ask them for
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Speaker 1: help or to go somewhere with them. So even if
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Speaker 1: your child is lost in the store and security says, hey,
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Speaker 1: let's go outside, you should teach your child no, stand
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Speaker 1: right there now. Safety at home. Teach your children not
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Speaker 1: to open the door to strangers unless it's a real
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Speaker 1: emergency okay, and discuss with them what constitutes an emergency
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Speaker 1: like a fire, medical problem okay. And if a fireman
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Speaker 1: shows up on their door and no one's home, they
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Speaker 1: need to be taught to call nine one one and say, hey,
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Speaker 1: I'm at home. There's a guy knocking on my door
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Speaker 1: dressed like a fireman, says he's a fireman. Or there's
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Speaker 1: a guy on my doorstep dressed like a policeman. What
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Speaker 1: do I do tell them, do not open the door now.
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Speaker 1: If they see a fire truck out their front door
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Speaker 1: and there's four or five firemen and they're running around, okay,
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Speaker 1: open your door. Okay. But if it's it's just one,
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Speaker 1: you want to call. Okay. And if they get a
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Speaker 1: phone call. I know a lot of people don't have
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Speaker 1: home phones, but if your child's home alone, I hope
25:10
Speaker 1: you have a home phone. They have a cell phone,
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Speaker 1: they have something. If someone calls and says, hey, I
25:15
Speaker 1: want to talk to Judy, don't say Judy's not home
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Speaker 1: right now, say oh, Judy's on another call right now.
25:23
Speaker 1: Can I have her call you back? Take a message
25:26
Speaker 1: simple identify safe places. So point out safe places like stores, schools, churches,
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Speaker 1: or a trusted neighbor like Migraine. Kids know if something
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Speaker 1: happens at our house to me or to pop up.
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Speaker 1: They know several of our neighbors very well. They would
25:48
Speaker 1: immediately run across the street to go get ging Gin
25:51
Speaker 1: or mister Eric's help. But they also know if they're
25:54
Speaker 1: not there, they know other neighbors. So you want to
25:57
Speaker 1: make sure your kids know who who the safe people are. Okay,
26:02
Speaker 1: use a code word. Okay now, I had a code
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Speaker 1: word for my kids. It was something that came out
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Speaker 1: when they were young, about giving them code words to
26:15
Speaker 1: talk about their genital area if someone touched them. This
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Speaker 1: is a code word if someone comes to pick up
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Speaker 1: your child. So, for example, if something happened to me
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Speaker 1: and doubleh and we couldn't go pick up the grandkids
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Speaker 1: and say I sent gingin, gingin should still have a
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Speaker 1: code word to give the kids. Even though they've been
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Speaker 1: taught they're a trustworthy person, you still want to give
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Speaker 1: them a code word. I'm also going to say the
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Speaker 1: code word for genitalia. The reason the philosophy was that
26:47
Speaker 1: is that sometimes young children are embarrassed or uncomfortable to
26:51
Speaker 1: say the word penis or vagina, So we gave it
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Speaker 1: a name that nobody but me and the kids knew.
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to remember if their dad knew. I'm not
27:04
Speaker 1: even sure my ex husband knew went around that much.
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Speaker 1: But it was so that they could say, hey, so
27:10
Speaker 1: and so touch Jack wasn't Jack, but to make it easier.
27:14
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's still a thing. I will
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Speaker 1: tell you it came in to play when one of
27:19
Speaker 1: my kids was young, and I'm glad that we had it. Okay. Next,
27:25
Speaker 1: responding to danger, teach your child to yell no and
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Speaker 1: run to a trusted adult. Okay, So, if someone makes
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Speaker 1: them uncomfortable or ask them to do something, encourage them.
27:41
Speaker 1: There is no shame in panicking and screaming no and
27:46
Speaker 1: running to a trusted adult. Don't worry about embarrassing that person.
27:50
Speaker 1: And if that person just made a mistake by asking
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Speaker 1: you for help, they're going to understand. And if they don't,
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Speaker 1: shame on them. Don't worry about embarrassing an adult. Don't
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Speaker 1: worry about embarrassing yourself. Scream. And I'm going to tell
28:04
Speaker 1: you know, women, same thing. If you're out on a
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Speaker 1: date with a guy and you feel uncomfortable and you're
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Speaker 1: walking to the parking garage with him, hey, scream, who cares?
28:17
Speaker 1: Do what you have to do? Okay. Avoid unsafe areas.
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Speaker 1: Remind your children to avoid isolated areas like alleys. I
28:28
Speaker 1: can tell you in Chicago, when I was there for
28:30
Speaker 1: those seven months, however long, it was that I saw
28:35
Speaker 1: kids walking in these alleys at night because it was
28:37
Speaker 1: shorter to walk through the alleys. Don't do that. And
28:41
Speaker 1: as people women, I can't believe I walk down some
28:45
Speaker 1: of those alleys. Now that I think back, I'm like,
28:48
Speaker 1: what the hell was I thinking? Somebody could have taken
28:51
Speaker 1: me behind a dumpster and something could have happened to me.
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Speaker 1: So women, man, let's just don't do that, okay. Also
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Speaker 1: abandoned parking lots, try to stay away from those. Also,
29:05
Speaker 1: do not take shortcuts through wooded areas, okay. Also encourage
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Speaker 1: them to walk with trusted friends, and maybe consider giving
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Speaker 1: them a cell phone for emergencies. So if you have
29:20
Speaker 1: an old cell phone that doesn't have service, guys, you
29:24
Speaker 1: can still keep it charged to give it to them.
29:27
Speaker 1: They can still use it to call nine one one. Okay.
29:33
Speaker 1: That is, they give a lot of those phones to
29:36
Speaker 1: women that are in domestic violence situations. You can also
29:39
Speaker 1: give it to a child. I'm going to just say, hey,
29:44
Speaker 1: it's better safe than sorry. I can tell you there
29:47
Speaker 1: was a time when I was in middle school and
29:51
Speaker 1: me and my friend Carol were walking home and a
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Speaker 1: car pulled up next to us with the windows rolled down.
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Speaker 1: It was like one of those big boat looking cards,
30:01
Speaker 1: like an Oldsmobile Ladiator or something. He had his pants
30:05
Speaker 1: pulled down and he was winking off. It scared the
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Speaker 1: b Jesus out of us. We took off, running and screaming.
30:15
Speaker 1: Luckily we were a couple of blocks from her house.
30:18
Speaker 1: Immediately went in. Police recalled that not this guy had
30:21
Speaker 1: been doing that. Now. I don't know if they ever
30:24
Speaker 1: caught him. Parents never told me that. But I am
30:29
Speaker 1: so thankful that I had somebody with me, because what
30:31
Speaker 1: if it would have been just me. Would he have
30:33
Speaker 1: tried to pull me in the car? If I wouldn't
30:35
Speaker 1: been with her, what they have pulled her in the car?
30:38
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just awful to think about. Also, teach
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Speaker 1: your children to recognize abduction attempts. Okay, teach your child
30:47
Speaker 1: that if they're in the danger of being abducted or
30:50
Speaker 1: someone's trying to pull them somewhere, they should scream help.
30:56
Speaker 1: And then they should scream I don't know this person,
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Speaker 1: I am being kidnapped. Okay. Help isn't enough because they
31:04
Speaker 1: may think the kids just trying to get away from
31:06
Speaker 1: a parent who's trying to discipline them. They need to
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Speaker 1: add I don't know this person, I'm being kidnapped, or
31:15
Speaker 1: at least a help, I'm being kidnapped. Okay. This can
31:19
Speaker 1: alert others that something is wrong. They should also know
31:24
Speaker 1: it is okay to yell, kick, scratch, bite. It's a
31:30
Speaker 1: male kick them in the jewels, buddy, do whatever you
31:33
Speaker 1: have to do. Teach them it is okay to do that. Okay,
31:40
Speaker 1: This next one guy is a tough one. Internet safety,
31:45
Speaker 1: make sure you teach your child teenagers. Everybody should know
31:51
Speaker 1: never to meet up with anyone they met online. Okay.
31:55
Speaker 1: I say that, and I think about all of the
31:57
Speaker 1: times I've gone to Walmart and I've met people in
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Speaker 1: the parking lot for things I've sold on Facebook marketplace.
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Speaker 1: So probably not the best idea. Now. Granted I do
32:09
Speaker 1: it right in front of the garden center where people
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Speaker 1: are walking in and out. So but you really shouldn't
32:14
Speaker 1: do that. I'm going to rethink that. But teach your
32:18
Speaker 1: kids that just because that person says they're a teenager
32:23
Speaker 1: and they go to a school next to you, do
32:26
Speaker 1: not go and meet up with them. Okay, they do
32:30
Speaker 1: not know for sure they are a teenager, Okay, and
32:34
Speaker 1: reinforce that a stranger is anyone that they don't know,
32:39
Speaker 1: and they should only go with trusted individuals, even if
32:44
Speaker 1: the person's a teacher at your school. But they're not
32:47
Speaker 1: your teacher, and they don't know your family. You should
32:50
Speaker 1: not go with them unless you're on school property and
32:53
Speaker 1: something is happening. Okay. Internet is very important. It's in
32:58
Speaker 1: the news all of the time. People who are going
33:01
Speaker 1: meet up with people they met online. Okay, so that
33:05
Speaker 1: is a big deal. Now, stay smart, stay safe, you know,
33:13
Speaker 1: should be a motto. These are lessons we need to
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Speaker 1: teach our kids and also some adults like me who
33:19
Speaker 1: still go to Walmart and meet up with people. But
33:23
Speaker 1: we need to teach them. But by being smart and
33:26
Speaker 1: staying safe, can ensure that they always come home safely.
33:31
Speaker 1: And guys, remember this isn't to frighten your children, but
33:35
Speaker 1: to empower them with the knowledge and tools they need
33:39
Speaker 1: to stay safe in this world. Because, guys, this world
33:43
Speaker 1: is a dark and dangerous place. And as I've learned
33:50
Speaker 1: in guys who've been here for a while have learned
33:52
Speaker 1: a lot of people go missing. Stranger reductions are smaller amount,
33:57
Speaker 1: but they do still have happen. Also, it's that faintly
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Speaker 1: familiar person who abducts them. Oh, I see Mom say
34:07
Speaker 1: hi to Jim all the time at the grocery store.
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Speaker 1: He must be a friend. He's safe. No, you do
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Speaker 1: not know Jim. Your parents have not told you Jim
34:16
Speaker 1: was safe. Teach your kids the difference between trusted friends
34:21
Speaker 1: and acquaintances. So sorry, I left this a little dark today.
34:28
Speaker 1: Normally there's a palate cleanser. Uh oh, somebody put a comment, Terry.
34:32
Speaker 1: I was just going to say, I'm fifty three and
34:34
Speaker 1: I was young. I went everywhere with no fear. Scary now,
34:38
Speaker 1: Oh Kimber's Ohio, I did too. I would ride my
34:43
Speaker 1: bike to the grocery store a couple of miles all
34:48
Speaker 1: the time, to get a gallon of milk, to get
34:49
Speaker 1: a soda. To do all of this, we walked everywhere.
34:53
Speaker 1: We would literally leave during the summer and I would
34:56
Speaker 1: walk down to the neighborhood pool, Greenwood Park. I was
34:59
Speaker 1: there all day. My mom was at work. I was
35:02
Speaker 1: there until five o'clock. Anything could have happened to me.
35:07
Speaker 1: And people want to say the world's gotten scarier. No,
35:10
Speaker 1: what happened back then? It just was we didn't have
35:14
Speaker 1: the twenty four hour news stream that we have now.
35:17
Speaker 1: It's always happened. So we need to raise our kids
35:21
Speaker 1: to be more aware and hopefully they will carry that
35:25
Speaker 1: on into their adulthood. Okay, and I want to recommend
35:30
Speaker 1: do not throw away your old phones. Okay, give them
35:34
Speaker 1: to a child if you need to. All they've it's
35:37
Speaker 1: a way to keep teach responsibility. They got to keep
35:40
Speaker 1: it charged, start the responsibility. Now they can dial nine
35:44
Speaker 1: one one. So I want to thank you all for
35:47
Speaker 1: joining me today. Sorry we didn't end on a lighter note.
35:53
Speaker 1: I look forward to seeing you all again on Monday
35:55
Speaker 1: for our next episode, Midday Missing. We will still have
35:58
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36:02
Speaker 1: I'm going to be a lot more casual, but we
36:03
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37:04
Speaker 1: wish everyone a very safe and happy holiday weekend. It's
37:10
Speaker 1: a three day weekend. Enjoy, be sure to stay safe,
37:14
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37:17
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