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324-Calling Table Sessions with Yara Garcia · Stuck No More Voices

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  theresa croft: So welcome back to the Stuck No More Voices podcast.
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  theresa croft: I have a new feature that has everything to do with you.
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  theresa croft: Meanwhile, I'm Theresa Croft.
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  theresa croft: I'm a voice visibility, strategist.
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  theresa croft: I help Christian women move from their calling to their story to being found with their message for their ideal client.
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  theresa croft: So this episode is called the Calling Table Session series.
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  theresa croft: I'm so excited about it because it's like a seat for Christian women whose story deserves to be handled with care and whose voice is ready to b- be heard.
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  theresa croft: So pull up a chair.
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  theresa croft: Today at the table is a really good friend of mine, I must say, Yari Garcia.
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  theresa croft: She's a certified neurocycle facilitator, a pastor, a mentor, a psychology major.
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  theresa croft: She brings a powerful blend of faith, neuroscience, leadership and real, real experience to the table.
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  theresa croft: yari, welcome to the new series.
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  theresa croft: So happy- Good
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  Yara Garcia: morning to have you.
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  Yara Garcia: Thank, thank you for having me.
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  Yara Garcia: I'm so- It's
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  theresa croft: a
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  Yara Garcia: pleasure
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  theresa croft: glad to have you here.
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  theresa croft: So Yari and I, we have very shared values when it comes to kingdom and living- Mm-hmm your life authentically.
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  theresa croft: But Yari- Mm why don't you give them a little backdrop of your story?
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  theresa croft: Because you come from the ministry field, even married to a pastor.
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  theresa croft: Tell us about that.
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  Yara Garcia: Well, how long do you want the story to be?
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  theresa croft: Yeah, girl, girl.
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  theresa croft: Listen, listen.
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  Yara Garcia: I'll give you the short version.
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  theresa croft: This is The short version's good.
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  theresa croft: This is just like, I mean, come on, I still have my mug you gave me.
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  theresa croft: Be careful and you'll end up in my podcast.
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  Yara Garcia: Oh, you loved it, huh?
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  Yara Garcia: I'm so glad.
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  Yara Garcia: I'm so glad.
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  Yara Garcia: Well, thanks for having me.
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  Yara Garcia: It's really an honor to be here.
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  Yara Garcia: As you mentioned, we do have a lot of things in common.
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  Yara Garcia: We share a lot, uh, not just of our core values, but- our friendship, this journey.
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  Yara Garcia: Uh, we both have adult children, we're both widows, and, uh, we both have been in ministry for a very, very long time.
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  Yara Garcia: And in this new season of our lives, um, what I am doing, as, as you know, you've helped me so much through it, but y- you are also, we are bringing, um, everything that the Lord has given to us, our gifts, the wisdom, his word, from the Christian perspective, a kingdom perspective, a powerful stance of what the Christian, uh, walk should be in this new season, in this new world.
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  Yara Garcia: And, um, so we're bringing it to, um, to everybody who needs it.
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  Yara Garcia: In my area, um, I have merged it with neuroscience, which, um, you know, personally trained by Dr.
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  Yara Garcia: Caroline Leaf, she's an, an amazing lady, an amazing scientist, an amazing, uh, mentor.
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  Yara Garcia: We- I have learnt how to merge, okay, how to filter through the cross the science to make sure that the science comes through, um, in agreement to our biblical foundations.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, so that's where I'm at right now.
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  theresa croft: So to, to build that in, to have the neuroscience- Mm-hmm your story, uh, to where you got there, is a real story that I'm sure a lot of people could relate to.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  theresa croft: So tell us a little bit- Yeah about, you know, you we- you were in ministry, you were married to a pastor.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah,
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  theresa croft: yeah.
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  theresa croft: And just the real struggles there.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Well, um, going through ministry, ministry, um, it's probably one of the most beautiful work that anybody can do, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Mm.
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  Yara Garcia: Being called.
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  Yara Garcia: That's good.
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  Yara Garcia: 'Cause I personally didn't volunteer.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, you know, it takes real guts to be in ministry- to volunteer and say,"That's what I want." Uh, but when you're called you know it, and you can't- Yeah run away from it.
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  Yara Garcia: So I married a wonderful man, and, uh, he was, comes from a, a m- ministry family, and, uh, we were in ministry together.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, then after seven years of our marriage, he got diagnosed with cancer.
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  Yara Garcia: Mm.
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  Yara Garcia: And after that, um- Uh, when he passed, then I continued.
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  Yara Garcia: The Lord had called me to continue.
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  Yara Garcia: So maybe 14, 16 years into the prophetic ministry, the apostolic, the prophetic ministry.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, during that time, of course, through the grieving, through the work, through the many, uh, challenges within the institutions, right, w- within the organization, uh, I was clinically diagnosed with clinical depression- Hmm.
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  theresa croft: Wow
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  Yara Garcia: and ADHD, which, you know, the ADHD I knew since I was very little.
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  Yara Garcia: We just didn't have words for it.
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  Yara Garcia: And of course, as women, we don't, uh, show it like, like, like boys did.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, so all of that, uh, has taught me a lot.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Has taught me a lot, uh, especially being in ministry, that, um, prayer is powerful.
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  theresa croft: Hmm.
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  Yara Garcia: But, um, when the Lord gives us the science, the wisdom that does come from it- Yeah it's even more powerful.
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  Yara Garcia: When I started Going through the neurocycle, the Dr.
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  Yara Garcia: Leaf stuff, that's when the most major shifts happened.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Because it was the renewing of the mind, like Ro- Yeah Romans talks about, right?
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  Yara Garcia: And it wasn't just repeating Romans, it was actually learning to do the hard work that- Yes that we are responsible to do, that oftentimes in our helpless state we want the Lord to do it for us.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, but actually putting in the work, which you know it's hard work.
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  Yara Garcia: Yourself, you're a neurocycler.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, it actually does do the biological, the physical changes, right?
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  Yara Garcia: And it's what the Lord has been telling us all over, all- Yeah all this time through scripture.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: So yeah, that's, the, I, I think that's, um, a little bit of, of my story.
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  theresa croft: So did the neurocycle process help you with the depression or is that, was that just- Absolutely digging in with Oh, it did.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Absolutely.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Absolutely.
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  Yara Garcia: I still remember the first time that I did the first cycle- Yeah of the neurocycle.
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  Yara Garcia: I was like, I think it was I started and I was thinking, like,"I'm just gonna do this for the sake of doing it." Like, I- Yeah I wasn't gonna go too deep and I, I was completely hesitant about, like, ooh, going too deep and- Sorry.
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  Yara Garcia: I'm outside.
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  Yara Garcia: I'm so sorry.
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  theresa croft: I don't hear anything.
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  theresa croft: You are?
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  Yara Garcia: You don't?
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  Yara Garcia: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: No.
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  theresa croft: You're good.
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  theresa croft: 'Cause the gardeners
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  Yara Garcia: are- She's
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  theresa croft: got a Oh, and she's got a golf course back there.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  theresa croft: Now, if you get hit by a, a golf ball- Yeah I will be concerned.
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  Yara Garcia: We got a shattered glass yesterday.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, but-
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  theresa croft: Oh,
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  Yara Garcia: did you?
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  Yara Garcia: The gardeners.
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  Yara Garcia: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah, yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: It was bad.
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  Yara Garcia: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: So, um-
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  theresa croft: I gotta interrupt you'cause you're being- Yeah very modest.
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  theresa croft: I know this is part of your story, though.
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  theresa croft: But when your husband died, many of your congregation followed you and became a church into your home.
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  theresa croft: So-
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  Yara Garcia: Mm-hmm
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  theresa croft: there, there were so many hungry people.
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  theresa croft: Right.
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  theresa croft: But you, I'm sure you got, you had probably, even your kids were young then, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Very young.
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  theresa croft: Yes.
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  theresa croft: So you had to- Right like, you had to transition into,"Okay, I'm, I'm really great.
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  theresa croft: I love you guys, but I gotta take care of my own stuff right here." Is that kinda what it was like?
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  theresa croft: I don't mean to go back so far.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: No, no, no.
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  Yara Garcia: Those are in different seasons.
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  Yara Garcia: I, I, I went through two, as most people, if you're in ministry you know it.
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  Yara Garcia: Or if you've been live, if you've lived through in, in, um, in ministry in church, you'll know a lot of this.
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  Yara Garcia: So when he died there was, um, we were co- uh, working with other, other, uh, ministers.
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  Yara Garcia: And, um, there was things that happened, and then there was a church split.
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  Yara Garcia: Okay?
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  theresa croft: I didn't
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  Yara Garcia: know that.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: So church splits are hard.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Are very, very difficult, especially when you just lost your husband two, three months before.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah,
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  theresa croft: no doubt.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, and then I had a six-year-old, and then I had a three-year-old.
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  Yara Garcia: Oh, wow.
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  Yara Garcia: What I can tell you is that- Yeah in that time, my six-year-old, she still believed and held onto her faith even though we didn't get the results we prayed for.
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  Yara Garcia: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: We prayed for healing.
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  Yara Garcia: We prayed for their daddy, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Right.
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  Yara Garcia: And even though we didn't get the results we wanted for him- Yeah to be healed, um, then it was...
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  Yara Garcia: It, it is still so amazing for me to see how strong her faith is.
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  theresa croft: That's beautiful.
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: You know, how strong her faith is.
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  Yara Garcia: She was six, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Um, my three-year-old was just at a, a different stage, developmental- Yeah stage, yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: But during these situations, these hard situations in ministry- Yeah uh, where you see the, the, uh, like a church split or, you know, things like that, that's kind of like you suffer a divorce.
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  theresa croft: Yes.
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  Yara Garcia: And I often said that I probably grieved that more than losing my husband.
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  theresa croft: Oh, wow.
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, that was- That's- very, very hard.
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  Yara Garcia: Mm-hmm.
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  theresa croft: I, I, I didn't...
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  theresa croft: I'm glad I went back because I think, uh-
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  Yara Garcia: Mm-hmm
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  theresa croft: there might be some in, in my audience here that they've been through that- Mm-hmm church split, and then they've been- Mm-hmm through church hurt.
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  Yara Garcia: Mm-hmm.
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  theresa croft: And, uh, do you have any advice for someone like that?
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  Yara Garcia: Honestly, Tee, I'm gonna say probably 90% of your audience that has been in church for more than 15 years has gone through this- Yeah and has suffered it.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Okay?
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  Yara Garcia: Everybody's experienced it themselves.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, either losing a leader that they loved- Mm-hmm or being the one who has to, you know, step aside and part ways.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Either way, it's extremely, extremely difficult.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: I do wanna...
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  Yara Garcia: Uh, if you asked for advice- I, I, I always wanna say the, two things.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Do the hard work in healing the grieving.
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  Yara Garcia: Hmm.
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  Yara Garcia: The, the going through the grieving, okay?
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  Yara Garcia: Hmm.
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  theresa croft: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: And the second one is never depart from God.
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: Okay?
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  Yara Garcia: Never depart from your So don't question the foundation.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Don't question, you know, the Lord, okay?
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  Yara Garcia: Okay.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: These are relationships- Yeah that go through struggles, right?
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, and, and, and, and it's, relationships are like a dance.
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  Yara Garcia: You know, you give and you take.
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  Yara Garcia: And, and it, we were wired for love and connection, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Yes.
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  Yara Garcia: So when there's disconnection, doing that dance of reconnecting is- Yeah very difficult.
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: But it's very difficult to do it when there's, um, uh, abuse, okay?
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  Yara Garcia: Hmm.
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  Yara Garcia: Church abuse.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: It's very, very difficult.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: And a lot of people stay, okay?
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  Yara Garcia: Um- Mm-hmm and, and then it just, bad.
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  Yara Garcia: But when there is a splitting, you have to leave.
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  Yara Garcia: So do th- those two things, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Do the hard stuff.
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  Yara Garcia: Uh, uh, navigate consciously, intentionally through healing and, and grieving, doing the grieving.
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  Yara Garcia: Um,'cause you can leave people that you love but that are not good for you.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  theresa croft: Okay?
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  theresa croft: I like that you're, you're sharing from a story- Mm-hmm perspective that you've walked through it.
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  theresa croft: And I, I just think that when you hear someone who has a story of walking through it- Hmm you really can lean in.
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  theresa croft: And that's why I'm so excited about this series is just to share stories of difficulty.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  theresa croft: Um, so- Yeah share a story with me about the transition as your ch- You're a great mom.
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  theresa croft: You're c- you're like me.
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  theresa croft: Our kids are grown.
• 11:41
  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  theresa croft: But what was that like being a single mom through those transition times?
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  theresa croft: Ah.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  theresa croft: Do you have a story,
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  Yara Garcia: Yara?
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  Yara Garcia: I have many stories.
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  Yara Garcia: Oh, my goodness, right?
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  Yara Garcia: So as a single mom- Yeah um, I, I, I'm gonna say that very difficult.
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  Yara Garcia: Very, very hard.
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  Yara Garcia: Um- Hmm because you're grieving.
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  Yara Garcia: You're hurting.
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  Yara Garcia: You still gotta do the job the Lord called you.
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  Yara Garcia: The Lord has, um, given you that responsibility, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, but then you also have your children.
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  theresa croft: Hmm.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, it's, it's incredible to see that- I rem- I still remember, I was telling somebody yesterday.
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  Yara Garcia: I still remember the days that I used to cry and say,"I just want five years to go by- Aw to make sure that my kids were gonna be okay." And then I was thinking like,"I just want 10 years to go by," just that I wanted the certainty to know that my kids were gonna be okay.
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  theresa croft: Yes.
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  Yara Garcia: Right?
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  theresa croft: Yes.
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  Yara Garcia: All the statistics.
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  Yara Garcia: Mm.
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  Yara Garcia: All the things you hear about that, um, that, you know, pastor's kids and kids in ministry, especially with no daddy- Yeah they turned out really, really bad, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Um- That's so
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  theresa croft: hard
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  Yara Garcia: very, very difficult.
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  Yara Garcia: Oh.
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  Yara Garcia: So that was from my experience.
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  Yara Garcia: Um- I'm blessed.
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  Yara Garcia: I really...
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  Yara Garcia: You and I talk about this all the time.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: I am really blessed.
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  Yara Garcia: I have incredible children.
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  Yara Garcia: You do.
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  Yara Garcia: Right?
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  Yara Garcia: They walked.
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  Yara Garcia: You do.
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  Yara Garcia: They walked through the hardships.
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  Yara Garcia: They walk through the, um, the faith.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: And fate, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Um, but I do have to say that Even through, I think the, the church split for my son, for the younger one-
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  theresa croft: Mm.
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  theresa croft: Yeah
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  Yara Garcia: this was family.
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: So they didn't have a dad, but they had family.
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  theresa croft: Wow.
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  Yara Garcia: Right?
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: And, and, and losing that was, was, was difficult.
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  Yara Garcia: Mm-hmm.
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  Yara Garcia: But he's also very emotionally strong.
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  Yara Garcia: He, he's a- Yeah both kids are emotionally strong.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, I was a tough mom too.
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  Yara Garcia: Like, I was tough.
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  Yara Garcia: I'm sure you were.
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  Yara Garcia: You know me already.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: You- You do know me, right?
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  Yara Garcia: Oh, I'm sure you were amazing.
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  Yara Garcia: My daughter will say, my daughter says,"Mom, a lot of these kids need Yada's boot camp,"'cause I was very hard.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: I would often have, like, my spiritual leaders say,"Yada, as hard as you are on your kids, can you do that with people at the church?""'Cause you're a lot more lenient," right?
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  Yara Garcia: Oh, I love that.
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  Yara Garcia: I was very, um...
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: And they're both great kids.
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  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: They're hardworking, they're smart.
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  Yara Garcia: They're emotionally intelligent.
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  theresa croft: That's
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  Yara Garcia: so good.
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  theresa croft: Okay?
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, and they also still have a very strong Christian foundation.
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  theresa croft: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, they're not perfect,'cause nobody is, right?
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  Yara Garcia: That's really good.
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  Yara Garcia: Um, but parenting, girl, it is the toughest thing- in the world.
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  theresa croft: Oh,
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  Yara Garcia: darling.
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  Yara Garcia: Um- Oh you know.
• 14:33
  theresa croft: You just
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  Yara Garcia: love and smile.
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  Yara Garcia: My sister and I talk about this all the time.
• 14:35
  Yara Garcia: Yeah, yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: Because I will not romanticize parenting.
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  Yara Garcia: No.
• 14:38
  Yara Garcia: Like, ladies, you wanna have kids, it's wonderful.
• 14:41
  Yara Garcia: I love my kids, but make sure you pick a right father for your children.
• 14:46
  Yara Garcia: Mm, yeah.
• 14:47
  Yara Garcia: A right partner,'cause doing it alone, it's the hardest thing ever.
• 14:51
  Yara Garcia: You, we were- Yeah we were not supposed to do it alone.
• 14:53
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
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  Yara Garcia: And we have so many moms out there, right, who are doing it alone.
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  Yara Garcia: It's very, very hard.
• 15:00
  theresa croft: Yes.
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  Yara Garcia: Uh, financially, physically.
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  Yara Garcia: You know, physically, do you have to work?
• 15:04
  Yara Garcia: Do you have to take care of the house?
• 15:05
  Yara Garcia: Oh, and the holidays, and the vacations, and the ministry.
• 15:08
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 15:08
  Yara Garcia: And your job, and it's just a lot, right?
• 15:11
  theresa croft: A lot, yeah.
• 15:12
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 15:12
  Yara Garcia: That's right.
• 15:12
  Yara Garcia: So parenting is one of those things that I am, was very intentional.
• 15:19
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 15:19
  Yara Garcia: Very, very intentional.
• 15:21
  Yara Garcia: Um- Yeah and I'm blessed we ha- I have great kids.
• 15:24
  Yara Garcia: They're wonderful.
• 15:26
  Yara Garcia: You do.
• 15:26
  Yara Garcia: Yeah, yeah.
• 15:27
  Yara Garcia: They, they, they really are.
• 15:27
  theresa croft: Oh, as we come, as we come to the close, I wanna take a right turn on you.
• 15:30
  theresa croft: Okay.
• 15:31
  theresa croft: And I want you to share-
• 15:34
  Yara Garcia: Girl, you and I could talk hours.
• 15:35
  theresa croft: I know.
• 15:36
  theresa croft: I could.
• 15:36
  theresa croft: I'm trying to, trying to keep these to 20 minutes.
• 15:39
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 15:39
  theresa croft: So, yeah.
• 15:40
  theresa croft: Yeah, yeah,
• 15:41
  Yara Garcia: yeah.
• 15:41
  Yara Garcia: No, no, no, no, I'm,
• 15:43
  theresa croft: we're good.
• 15:44
  theresa croft: All right.
• 15:44
  theresa croft: So- Yeah you're a very successful mentor.
• 15:47
  theresa croft: You're working on your- Thanks.
• 15:49
  theresa croft: So, how about some business advice- Ooh um, that you would have for someone?
• 15:55
  theresa croft: Uh, maybe someone, they know they're called.
• 15:58
  theresa croft: You know, uh, I mean, God gives us that calling.
• 16:00
  theresa croft: Mm-hmm.
• 16:00
  theresa croft: You know?
• 16:01
  theresa croft: Mm-hmm.
• 16:01
  theresa croft: But how do you move from the calling to actually putting pieces together to have something to offer?
• 16:07
  theresa croft: And I'm not talking for free.
• 16:09
  theresa croft: I mean, we're talking kingdom business.
• 16:11
  theresa croft: What, any, uh, anything you would like to say, as you've been in business for quite some time, and you've helped countless number of people- with your neurocycle business.
• 16:22
  theresa croft: She's laughing'cause not for free.
• 16:22
  theresa croft: It's g-
• 16:25
  Yara Garcia: not gonna be for free anymore.
• 16:27
  Yara Garcia: Well.
• 16:27
  Yara Garcia: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 16:28
  theresa croft: Um-
• 16:28
  Yara Garcia: So- Yeah, talk to me that's a great question.
• 16:30
  Yara Garcia: Thank you.
• 16:31
  Yara Garcia: Thank you for, for mentioning that.
• 16:33
  Yara Garcia: And I do wanna encourage, uh, your listeners.
• 16:36
  Yara Garcia: I know you have a huge following, and, and i- i- it is very hard, okay, um, to learn.
• 16:46
  Yara Garcia: As a minister or as a Christian woman, we're just so programmed, and we're just disposed to giving and to serving.
• 16:54
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 16:54
  Yara Garcia: Sure.
• 16:54
  Yara Garcia: Right?
• 16:55
  Yara Garcia: Then when we transition from that to a business, the, the, the charging, right, the how much do you charge, um, because people that know you are expecting to get it for free, and that means your time, your energy, and your resources, right?
• 17:17
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 17:17
  Yara Garcia: So transitioning into independent business, um, from ministry, you know, and then thank God, you know, like, my kids are, are, uh, on their own.
• 17:27
  Yara Garcia: Not on their own right now, but you know, I'm an empty nester.
• 17:29
  Yara Garcia: Um, it's a, it's a, it's a great time.
• 17:33
  Yara Garcia: Um, know your value.
• 17:35
  theresa croft: Mm.
• 17:36
  Yara Garcia: Okay?
• 17:36
  Yara Garcia: Mm.
• 17:36
  Yara Garcia: K- knowing, knowing your value.
• 17:38
  Yara Garcia: That's good.
• 17:39
  Yara Garcia: Uh, do the hard work.
• 17:40
  Yara Garcia: Do the hard work.
• 17:41
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 17:41
  Yara Garcia: Do the hard work of learning how to set, uh, uh, healthy boundaries, okay- Yeah with yourself.
• 17:48
  Yara Garcia: Because just because you can give it doesn't mean you should.
• 17:51
  theresa croft: Oh.
• 17:52
  Yara Garcia: Okay?
• 17:52
  theresa croft: Wow.
• 17:52
  Yara Garcia: And one of the biggest things that I, that I got and that I've been sharing with, with people recently...
• 17:58
  Yara Garcia: Is this too loud?
• 18:00
  theresa croft: No, you're doing great.
• 18:01
  Yara Garcia: Okay, great.
• 18:02
  Yara Garcia: Um, one of the things that I've been sharing recently with people is that when we do transitions, when we go through changes in our life, whether you're going to college or you're, you're a young adult transitioning to- Yeah you know, older or like us with, uh, empty nesters and stuff like that, um, the uncertainty will kill us.
• 18:23
  Yara Garcia: The- Mm-hmm we want to know the right way to do things, and we want- Yeah somebody to tell us how- Mm-hmm to do it so that we will do it, and then that's it.
• 18:31
  Yara Garcia: And it just leaves our, our person outside, and we're not robots.
• 18:35
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 18:35
  Yara Garcia: And the Lord didn't design us to do that.
• 18:36
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 18:37
  Yara Garcia: So the, the, the, the scripture came to me, uh, recently.
• 18:41
  Yara Garcia: Not recently.
• 18:42
  Yara Garcia: Like for, for a while, and it's been, um- You know that, you know that in neurocycle we're, we're really big about partnering with God, right?
• 18:51
  Yara Garcia: Yes.
• 18:51
  Yara Garcia: And visualizing, okay?
• 18:53
  Yara Garcia: Yes.
• 18:53
  Yara Garcia: So when you start, don't go crazy like,"Oh my God, what are these visualizations?" No, no, it's just partner with God.
• 19:00
  Yara Garcia: Take the scripture, right?
• 19:01
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 19:01
  Yara Garcia: And the scripture says that his word is a lamp to your feet.
• 19:05
  theresa croft: Amen.
• 19:05
  Yara Garcia: Visualize that.
• 19:07
  Yara Garcia: A lamp goes before you, and that is his word.
• 19:10
  Yara Garcia: Put his word in front of you- Yeah and it's going to bring light to the path, okay?
• 19:15
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 19:16
  Yara Garcia: You might not know from here to a year, but you're gonna know your next step.
• 19:19
  Yara Garcia: Yes.
• 19:19
  Yara Garcia: And you're gonna know that you're safe, and you're gonna know where to go and what not to go.
• 19:23
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 19:24
  Yara Garcia: And if something is in your way, the Lord is gonna show you to remove it.
• 19:28
  Yara Garcia: That's so good.
• 19:29
  Yara Garcia: So visualize that.
• 19:30
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 19:30
  Yara Garcia: Visualize and partner with God- That's good through the, the, the Word.
• 19:33
  Yara Garcia: So the L- his word is a lamp to our feet, and I think that's probably, um, a good tip, a good, uh- Yeah advice for women- I get it to go into business.
• 19:42
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 19:43
  Yara Garcia: But knowing your value.
• 19:45
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 19:45
  Yara Garcia: You know that.
• 19:46
  Yara Garcia: You have so much- Okay?
• 19:49
  Yara Garcia: So much.
• 19:49
  Yara Garcia: And just because you taught me so much, right?
• 19:52
  Yara Garcia: Mm-hmm.
• 19:52
  Yara Garcia: And just because people know that you have so much to give, um, it does, it, it does have to come with a price.
• 20:00
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 20:01
  Yara Garcia: Cause I'm gonna tell you one thing.
• 20:02
  Yara Garcia: The people that have given my work for free are the people that didn't bring results.
• 20:05
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 20:06
  theresa croft: That's so true.
• 20:06
  theresa croft: They
• 20:07
  Yara Garcia: did not invest.
• 20:08
  theresa croft: They do.
• 20:08
  theresa croft: So- It's, you know, and investing is kingdom.
• 20:10
  theresa croft: I remember a few years ago-
• 20:12
  Yara Garcia: Yeah
• 20:12
  theresa croft: I was listening to someone, and they go,"Putting out Facebook ads, that's an investment." And never looked at- Mm-hmm Facebook ads again.
• 20:20
  theresa croft: I, I ha- I wasn't doing, using Facebook ads.
• 20:23
  theresa croft: But the investment, and, you know, I'm gonna give it back to Yara.
• 20:27
  theresa croft: This lady, she, Yara is great with your mind, but she is so smart, too, with your business.
• 20:33
  theresa croft: She has given me some great business advice.
• 20:36
  theresa croft: Like,"Tee, I think you better...
• 20:37
  theresa croft: You don't need that." And, uh- So, I mean, we both have a f- a friend that we, we love and they shoot straight, too.
• 20:45
  theresa croft: Uh-huh.
• 20:45
  theresa croft: So I don't know where I'd be.
• 20:47
  theresa croft: You know, you mentioned how marriage and being single is hard.
• 20:51
  theresa croft: This isn't my place to tell my stories, but- It's okay wow, I can vouch for- Very neuroscience and- Mm-hmm uh, for a facilitator that's got that background.
• 21:01
  theresa croft: So listen, if you're really looking for someone who will give you a straight talk, help you with your mind- but also help you with your business, you need to go to yaracares.com and connect with Yara, because she has something that very well may be...
• 21:16
  theresa croft: She can tell you testimonies of clients where that was the moment where they got clarity.
• 21:21
  theresa croft: Clarity on their business, clarity on their family, clarity on their vision, their calling.
• 21:26
  theresa croft: And I, I think, I think God gives us a calling, and then He's like,"Okay, let's see what you're gonna do with that calling.
• 21:33
  theresa croft: Are you gonna invest?
• 21:34
  theresa croft: Are you gonna be faithful?
• 21:35
  theresa croft: Are you gonna shoot straight?
• 21:37
  theresa croft: Are you gonna charge?
• 21:38
  theresa croft: And then go at it, girl." So we have a saying.
• 21:42
  theresa croft: I always end this with a saying that we, you know, we believe the word.
• 21:46
  theresa croft: But we've had a saying that I think someone needs to hear.
• 21:50
  theresa croft: About the camels.
• 21:51
  theresa croft: Speak hope to someone.
• 21:54
  Come
• 21:54
  theresa croft: on, girl.
• 21:55
  Yara Garcia: Oh, boy.
• 21:56
  Yara Garcia: You know, um, there's always stories behind everything, guys.
• 22:00
  Yara Garcia: But, um, a couple months ago I had a wonderful client, and powerhouse, right?
• 22:06
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 22:07
  Yara Garcia: And as w- and as we're going through the neurocycle, we're going through her journey- or I don't know what we were doing, we were going through cr- um, coaching, she mentioned a, um, a scripture, and I was like, Lord was speaking to me.
• 22:20
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 22:21
  Yara Garcia: So then I'm like, this is something I have to share with my girlfriends, so which is you and Alana, right?
• 22:25
  Yara Garcia: Right.
• 22:26
  Yara Garcia: And it's the scripture of the camels are coming.
• 22:29
  Yara Garcia: Prosperity.
• 22:30
  Yara Garcia: Visualize that.
• 22:31
  Yara Garcia: Come on.
• 22:31
  Yara Garcia: Keep your eye out.
• 22:33
  Yara Garcia: Keep your eye out.
• 22:34
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 22:35
  Yara Garcia: Be, be waiting for it, because they're coming, and you will know when they're here.
• 22:40
  Yara Garcia: So yes, we want to be able to share this word with your listeners- Yes, thank you with your friends, with your followers, that prosperity, the camels are loaded.
• 22:49
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 22:50
  Yara Garcia: They're loaded, and they're bringing good news, and they're bringing provisions, and it's a new season.
• 22:55
  Yara Garcia: And-
• 22:56
  theresa croft: It's a new season
• 22:56
  Yara Garcia: keep your eye out.
• 22:57
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 22:58
  Yara Garcia: Keep your eye out, and expect it.
• 22:59
  Yara Garcia: You know, I will
• 23:00
  theresa croft: say something.
• 23:01
  theresa croft: I believe that, but that doesn't mean you quit your job necessarily.
• 23:06
  theresa croft: You know, I always think of- No I always think of Hollywood, people in Hollywood that are actors.
• 23:10
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 23:11
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 23:11
  theresa croft: They so wanna get a part, but what do they do at night?
• 23:13
  theresa croft: They wait tables.
• 23:15
  theresa croft: So- Yeah, yeah sometimes you gotta wait tables.
• 23:18
  theresa croft: I'm not meaning that literally, but just...
• 23:20
  theresa croft: But then you know what happens when you do that?
• 23:22
  theresa croft: You lear- you learn to manage your time so well.
• 23:25
  theresa croft: But if you're at that point where you can let it go, do.
• 23:27
  theresa croft: I mean, we need your voice.
• 23:29
  theresa croft: We need your story, whoever's listening.
• 23:31
  theresa croft: So Yara- Yeah I so appreciate you.
• 23:33
  theresa croft: I'm glad you mentioned that.
• 23:34
  theresa croft: I mean, to be on- Thank you for
• 23:35
  Yara Garcia: having me.
• 23:36
  theresa croft: this series, I'll tell you.
• 23:38
  theresa croft: Love it.
• 23:38
  theresa croft: I think this series is made for people like you, so.
• 23:41
  Yara Garcia: Thank you.
• 23:42
  Yara Garcia: Thank you.
• 23:42
  Yara Garcia: Thank
• 23:42
  theresa croft: you for having me.
• 23:42
  theresa croft: You can get a hold of Yara at Yara Cares.
• 23:44
  theresa croft: Yeah, yeah.
• 23:45
  theresa croft: Ask her for a, what do you have where they get to just kinda, like a discovery call?
• 23:49
  theresa croft: What do you call it?
• 23:50
  theresa croft: Like a consult where they can talk to
• 23:52
  Yara Garcia: you?
• 23:52
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 23:52
  Yara Garcia: You get a, you get a free consultation.
• 23:54
  Yara Garcia: Uh, you can go to yaracares.com.
• 23:56
  Yara Garcia: Um- Send me an email.
• 23:59
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 24:00
  Yara Garcia: Uh, you get a 20, 30 minute, uh, consultation- So good to see if we're a fit, right?
• 24:04
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 24:05
  Yara Garcia: Uh, we get to connect, to hear your story, to hear your needs, and- So good yeah.
• 24:10
  Yara Garcia: But I also started Instagram because of you guys.
• 24:13
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 24:13
  Yara Garcia: Um, I'm learning, so sh- I don't know.
• 24:15
  Yara Garcia: Check me out at yara.cares.
• 24:18
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 24:18
  Yara Garcia: Yeah.
• 24:18
  theresa croft: That's good.
• 24:19
  theresa croft: I,
• 24:19
  Yara Garcia: I didn't- On Instagram
• 24:20
  theresa croft: I didn't see Instagram.
• 24:20
  theresa croft: You'll start seeing a little bit more.
• 24:20
  theresa croft: But yeah, you are- Mm-hmm getting back more on there.
• 24:22
  theresa croft: So if- Yeah Yara's story- New
• 24:27
  Yara Garcia: stuff coming up.
• 24:29
  theresa croft: Yeah, there you go.
• 24:30
  theresa croft: So listen- Yeah if Yara's story, and I always say her name wrong, I think it's Yara, Yara?
• 24:35
  theresa croft: Yara.
• 24:36
  theresa croft: I say her, she lets me say her name wrong.
• 24:37
  theresa croft: You're good.
• 24:37
  theresa croft: You're good.
• 24:37
  theresa croft: You're
• 24:37
  Yara Garcia: good.
• 24:38
  theresa croft: Follow her- Don't worry.
• 24:40
  theresa croft: Follow her on Instagram, yara.cares, or check out her website, yaracares.com.
• 24:45
  theresa croft: Yeah.
• 24:45
  theresa croft: And why don't you do this?
• 24:47
  theresa croft: Share this woman who came to mind while you were listening to Yara share.
• 24:51
  theresa croft: Some stories-
• 24:52
  Yara Garcia: Yeah
• 24:53
  theresa croft: are not for scrolling past.
• 24:55
  theresa croft: If you're a Christian woman leader who feels like the best-kept secret in her field, and you'd like to sit at this calling table yourself, book a- Mm-hmm I'll have a page up.
• 25:05
  theresa croft: It's on teresacroft.com, and we'll see if you can't share your story, too.
• 25:10
  theresa croft: So once again- Okay thank you, Yara, and, uh, this is great.
• 25:14
  theresa croft: Table
• 25:15
  Yara Garcia: Talk- Thank you for having me
• 25:15
  theresa croft: Calling Table- Yeah on the Stuck No More Voices podcast.
• 25:19
  theresa croft: Okay.
• 25:19
  theresa croft: Until the next one, we'll talk to you on the next episode.