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Ep132. Transforming Your Self-Perception for True Freedom and Happiness. · The Inner Wealth Podcast

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: Do you ever wake up feeling like there's something missing in your life?
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Do you ever feel the need to escape your business?
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Are you running your life or is your life running you?
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  Speaker 1: I'm Mike Kitko and I'll help you design and create a life so authentic and aligned with who you really are that you'll get excited just to wake up.
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  Speaker 1: I'll help you create real wealth, success and freedom from the inside out.
• 0:23
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Inner Wealth Podcast, where we learn and choose to live inspired each and every day.
• 0:34
  Speaker 1: If you want more happiness in your life, this might be the most important podcast episode of the Inner Wealth Podcast that you've ever listened to.
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  Speaker 1: Now, it's not like these concepts are new.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like I'm going to go over anything and share anything that's brand new with you.
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  Speaker 1: I do want to completely emphasize and amplify and anchor some basic, simple concepts in you, because maybe I don't know I guess in my mind I'm thinking maybe you've listened to my voice long enough.
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: Now you trust me a little more, and maybe you've I don't know maybe you've listened to me enough where.
• 1:16
  Speaker 1: Maybe you've heard the same things over and over and maybe it'll just sink in at a different level and maybe you'll just.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I've established a little bit of credibility with you, where, when I deliver the most powerful insight for creating happiness in your life, maybe you just might listen and maybe you just might take action on this and maybe you just might move the needle on how much you actually enjoy this lifetime.
• 1:53
  Speaker 1: Now I want to go back to when all this started for me.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't very kind to myself, I wasn't very loving to myself, and what I mean by that is that voice, man, that voice between my ears, that voice between my temples.
• 2:12
  Speaker 1: It was not kind to me.
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  Speaker 1: It was not kind, it was not loving, it was fucking pissed.
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  Speaker 1: It was angry.
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  Speaker 1: It used to shame me, it used to guilt me.
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  Speaker 1: All the time it was man, it punished me.
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  Speaker 1: That voice told me I was the biggest piece of shit on the planet and that voice told me I was fricking useless and the only reason you ever put a gun in your mouth is because you realize where you think you realize.
• 2:45
  Speaker 1: Or that voice in your head tells you that you are literally adding no value in this world and you are just like sucking everybody else's oxygen.
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  Speaker 1: When you get to that point, that voice between your ears, that voice between your temples, it is screaming that you are fucking worthless.
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  Speaker 1: Now that voice isn't like that anymore.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, that voice is very much the opposite.
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  Speaker 1: It's not really critical, it's pretty kind, it's pretty encouraging, it's inspirational.
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  Speaker 1: It constantly points out the things that I do really, really well and it constantly tells me that the things that I don't do well, they don't really, they don't matter.
• 3:35
  Speaker 1: We don't need to focus on the things that we don't do well.
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  Speaker 1: We get to focus on the things that we do really, really well because we enjoy them and we get to do those more.
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  Speaker 1: And we don't have to overcome every deficiency and we don't have to overcome every weakness that we have and we don't have to master everything.
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  Speaker 1: That little voice in my head, it excuses and it says listen, that mistake you made yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: We learned from that and we're no longer there.
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  Speaker 1: The mistake that you made with your children.
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  Speaker 1: We're no longer that person, we're no longer that dad, the mistakes that I made with my wife.
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  Speaker 1: I'm no longer.
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  Speaker 1: The voice tells me I'm no longer that person, that now I'm a completely different human being and I've evolved and I've grown.
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: And that voice, that voice in between my ears, that voice in between my temples, it's constantly telling me that we're so much better than we used to be and we're evolving and we're growing and we don't need to punish ourselves in order to evolve and we don't need to spend our entire life just healing.
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: We can just continue to evolve and we are going to make mistakes and we are going to always fall forward.
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  Speaker 1: Every time we make a and I'm air quoting every time we make a mistake, it's literally going to propel us forward.
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  Speaker 1: That voice in between my ears is my biggest cheerleader and it's always cheering us on, cheering me on that.
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  Speaker 1: The voice in between my ears, that voice in between this skull, is constantly like pointing out opportunities and playing with life.
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  Speaker 1: Now, this voice is completely different than the voice seven years ago, back in 2016,.
• 5:42
  Speaker 1: 24 and a half, seven and a half years ago, 2016, when all of this, like everything, started falling apart and I got to rebuild everything.
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  Speaker 1: That voice is completely different than at that time and what that has done is it's created so much joy and so much happiness and so much enthusiasm for life.
• 6:09
  Speaker 1: The complexion, I guess you could say the makeup, the makeup of that voice, the words that are coming from that voice, the encouragement, the inspiration, the excitement, the enthusiasm, the cheerleader, like the words that are happening in between these ears.
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  Speaker 1: That has created the condition for happiness.
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  Speaker 1: Happiness Now it's.
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  Speaker 1: Listen.
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  Speaker 1: If the voice in your head right now is not your biggest fan right now, you're probably either shutting off this podcast or you're saying that you know, you're thinking that I'm full of shit, or you're saying that it can't be true, or you're saying that it won't be true for you and it can't be true because that voice is too dark and I'm gonna say don't give up yet, stick with me, listen.
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  Speaker 1: It's pretty typical when I'm in a workshop or when I'm at a speaking engagement or when I'm teaching, and I get to a point where I say hey guys, have you ever noticed that voice between your ears?
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  Speaker 1: And have you ever noticed how harsh it is to you?
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  Speaker 1: Have you ever noticed how many painful thoughts you have and how punitive that voice is and how much it guilt and shames you and how much it tears you down?
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  Speaker 1: And I just say raise your hand if this is the case and literally almost every hand in the audience goes up, and that is a very, very typical response that it seems like the mass of humanity is dealing with that painful voice in between their ears and, believe it or not, some people haven't even noticed that that voice is between their ears and some people haven't even noticed that that voice is not them.
• 8:20
  Speaker 1: You have a mind, you have a body.
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  Speaker 1: You are the awareness that is noticing the mind and that lives inside of the body.
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  Speaker 1: You are not the mind, you are not the thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: You are the experiencer of those thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: And I know this is very esoteric, but when that breakthrough happened to me, it was the single one, that one day, when I noticed that I wasn't the thoughts, that there was space between me and the thoughts, that's when happiness could ensue.
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: It's not when happiness ensued.
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  Speaker 1: That's when happiness could ensue.
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  Speaker 1: That's when I stood the chance to create some happiness in my life, because I realized and I recognized that I wasn't the thoughts and I could watch them instead of identify as them.
• 9:27
  Speaker 1: Most people walking around this planet either don't know that they're not their thoughts or they're believing everything that their thoughts are telling them.
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: And most people walking on this planet are listening to that voice and don't know that they can control and influence the narrative of what's happening between their ears.
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  Speaker 1: In this episode, I want to give you some very, very basic guidance.
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  Speaker 1: But this basic guidance, it's really advanced.
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  Speaker 1: It'll change everything for you.
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  Speaker 1: But you've got to be willing First of all.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be fucking patient, because this isn't a game that's going to change.
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  Speaker 1: It's not a voice that's going to change overnight.
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  Speaker 1: We're dealing with neuroplasticity and we're dealing with chemistry and we're dealing with biology and we're dealing with physiology and we're dealing with brain science and these things do not change overnight.
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  Speaker 1: But listen, the thoughts that you have in your mind are wired right now.
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  Speaker 1: They're hardwired.
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  Speaker 1: There are literally grooves in your neuro pathways that are made and have been created to think in a specific way and think repetitive thoughts, and that's why you have a hard time breaking out of those thought patterns and that's why some of the same shameful, guilt-ridden, angry, punitive, judgmental, harsh thoughts pop up constantly, because they've been hardwired into your neuro pathways to wire.
• 11:28
  Speaker 1: They're wired together, so they fire together and it's your default voice, the default mechanism.
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  Speaker 1: And we've talked over and over about the four voices in your mind Insecurity, fear of loss, inadequacy, I'm not good enough, insignificance, I don't matter.
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  Speaker 1: And if the voice in between your ears is harsh, it's one of those three.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to lose everything.
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  Speaker 1: You're not good enough, so maybe you don't deserve things.
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  Speaker 1: And number three is you just don't matter.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're running around here, like most of society, you're dealing with those harsh, harsh voices because they've been wired in you but they are not you.
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  Speaker 1: When we're kids, between the ages of zero and seven, we'll believe anything that we're taught.
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  Speaker 1: And when somebody says you're not good enough, or it's all going to fall apart, or you're going to lose everything, or money's hard to make and you've got to work hard for your money and you've got to prove yourself and you can't relax and you can't rest you'll believe anything that you're told.
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  Speaker 1: And over the course of time for me, 51 years over the course of time if you continue to think the same thoughts over and over, you just dig deeper grooves in your mind, in your neural pathways.
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: And if you continue to dig those grooves deeper and deeper in your neural pathways, it's more difficult and it takes more, more work, more effort To break the habit of those thoughts, to break that thought chain.
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  Speaker 1: Luckily, for seven and a half years I've done the work and that voice is different.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you haven't started yet.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you are on the mindfulness journey and you have started.
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  Speaker 1: Congratulations to you because starting is winning, and maybe you just can't identify with this.
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: You're like no, the thoughts in my mind are freaking, phenomenal, let's go.
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  Speaker 1: But no matter where you are, there's always another level that you can reach to create more joy and more freedom inside of your mind and inside of your body.
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: Now, in order to start to shift the voice in your mind, in order to start shift, to shift the language that's happening inside, between your temples and between your ears, in order to shift it, you've got to take control of the narrative.
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  Speaker 1: And when you're used to that voice telling you that you are a piece of garbage, telling yourself that I'm awesome is going to feel really fucking awkward.
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  Speaker 1: When you're used to the voice telling you that you are a piece of shit and you're good for nothing and you're going to fail and you're nothing but a failure, when you're used to hearing that all the time, thinking that you're good enough, thinking that you're valuable, thinking that you're worthy, thinking that you're going to win and there's no chance you're going to fail, it's going to feel really, really strange because of those grooves in your neural pathways.
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: First times when I have maybe a new client and I'm on the phone with them and I can hear the pain in their voice and I talk about that voice and they tell me about the language that that voice uses, about how there are a piece of garbage and there are a piece of crap and they're good for nothing and they failed and they're nothing but a failure and they should be ashamed of themselves.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: And I hear all this stuff and I say, listen, I want you to drop the phone, go into the bathroom, look at a mirror and just say I love you, go in and do it and come back and tell me what you experienced.
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  Speaker 1: And when they come back, they said that was the most uncomfortable thing I've ever, ever experienced in my life.
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  Speaker 1: And I say literally should it be uncomfortable to look yourself in the eye and say eyes and say I love you?
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  Speaker 1: Should it really, logically, be that difficult?
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  Speaker 1: And no, it should not be that difficult to look yourself in the eye and I keep saying eye, like there's one eye but to look yourself in the eyes and say that you're valuable, worthy, deserving, you're significant, you're adequate, you're exceptional, you're perfect, like it should not be that difficult to say these things or to think these things, but the fact that it is difficult tells you that you've got pain inside of your neural pathways that have been grooved in for so long.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: That's why they're uncomfortable, and Dr Joe Dispenza wrote a great book called Breaking the Habit of being Yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And breaking the habit of being yourself requires you to do things that you wouldn't normally do and experience feelings that you wouldn't normally experience, in order to build a new you, because doing what you've done has gotten you here and doing something different is going.
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  Speaker 1: Of course it's going to be uncomfortable, but if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.
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  Speaker 1: So walking into the bathroom, looking yourself in the mirror and looking in your eyes and saying I love you if it creates discomfort, good, it's showing you the psychological distance to you falling head over heels in love with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And if you don't, if you think it's too weird to fall head over heels in love with yourself, then I'm telling you right now you don't want to be happy, because that's what happiness is.
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  Speaker 1: That's where happiness lives.
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  Speaker 1: It's changing that voice to an empowering voice that says I can, I will, I am enough, I am significant, I am valuable, I am worthy, I am deserving, I am important, I am impactful.
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  Speaker 1: This world is better because of me.
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  Speaker 1: These are empowering statements that require self love.
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  Speaker 1: Without self love, you will not feel the goodness of those statements.
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  Speaker 1: They will feel weird, and when you have that voice in your mind that says you are a piece of garbage, it's because you lack self love and you've lacked self love.
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  Speaker 1: This isn't a new thing.
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  Speaker 1: You've lacked self love probably your whole life, and the grooves are so frickin deep in you that it feels uncomfortable to think anything different.
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  Speaker 1: Guys, this is what we call mindfulness.
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  Speaker 1: It's realizing what stories are in you and starting the process of changing the narrative that's happening inside of you, and it requires discomfort.
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  Speaker 1: It requires the willingness and the ability to get uncomfortable and say things that you would normally say, do things you wouldn't normally do, feel things you wouldn't normally feel, experience things you wouldn't normally experience.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: And if you repeat this work over and over and over for the entire rest of the course of your life, there is no doubt in my mind that at some point you will say I love me, some me, and I am valuable and I am worthy and I am deserving and I am significant and this world is fucking better because I exist.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: And that's where joy lives and that's where real freedom lives and that's where happiness lives.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: And listen, there's a lot of people out there I don't know if you've seen it and experienced it there's a lot of people out there chasing money, chasing success, chasing fame.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: And when they get those things, they drop into an even deeper state of despair or depression or anxiety or pain, because they thought the fortune, they thought the success, they thought the fame, they thought the accolades, they thought the trophy, they thought the accomplishment, they thought the commas, they thought the yacht, they thought the Lambos, they thought all of those things would change the thoughts in their mind.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: But the mind has been grooved to think a certain way and until you choose to think a different way, you will not think a different way.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: Until you repetitively think a different way, you will not by default think a different way.
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  Speaker 1: Now, this is another one of my favorite books as a man thinketh as a man thinketh.
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  Speaker 1: So he is.
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  Speaker 1: You are what you think and if the voice in your mind, if the voice in your thoughts is telling you you are a piece of garbage, in reality, inside the story that you're living through, is that you are a piece of garbage and no amount of money and success and fame will change that.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: No material possession will change it.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: And, trust me, you want those things to try to control and change the narrative that's happening inside you.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Now there's another way, besides looking in a mirror and saying like we want affirmations.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: But there's another way.
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  Speaker 1: Meditation is a great way to start to change the narrative that's happening inside of you.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Now, if you haven't yet, grab my video course.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: It's free.
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  Speaker 1: I've got it set up for free.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Healthglobalcom forward slash CYD-course.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: I'll put it, I'll put the link in the show notes.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: Grab that course and start to dive in, because in that course we get really, really clear about what we want and then we start to create a state of internal certainty, and internal certainty is the absence of doubt.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: It's the absence of all of that garbage that tells you you can't, that you won't, it's not available to you, you're not good enough, you don't matter.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: It's the absence of all that garbage.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: And we do this through mindfulness.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: And in that video course I give you the link and I give you the option to opt into some meditations that I created to start to shift the voice in your mind.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: And I do this through a meditation called installing future you, because the thing you want is freedom.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: So until you bring your mind and your body to a state of freedom, you're going to continue to live as the current you inside of your mind and body.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: And in order for things to change, you must change.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: In order for you to think differently and feel differently, you need to practice thinking and feeling these things.
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: And this is why we install future you, because until you start thinking differently, nothing will rearrange the thoughts that are happening inside of your mind.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: They are wired.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: You are wired to think and feel the way you currently think and feel.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: And we have to get the work to rearrange the stories in your mind and the emotions in your body if you want to experience the true joy and peace and freedom that you really want.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: And let me tell you when you create hyper levels of joy and peace and freedom, making money and achieving like crazy amounts of success those come so much more easily and naturally because you get to do it not to outrun survival, not to outrun negative circumstances, but to create higher level of circumstances.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: And this is how we shift from survival mode to creator mode, from survival mode to creation mode.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: We create for the sake of creating not to escape the voice that's happening in your mind.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: You don't need to prove something to yourself, because when that voice tells you that you're not good enough, now you're setting out to prove it wrong.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: Well, when you don't think that anymore, you don't need to prove anything.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: When the voice tells you that you don't matter, and you're trying to create something so that you can feel like you matter, now you don't have that voice in your mind.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: You don't have anything to prove.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: So you can, because that's all survival mode.
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  Speaker 1: Now you can do it for the pure sake of creation.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: Listen, most of society is walking around.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: Take notice.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Most of society is walking around punishing themselves in their mind and in their body.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: You don't need to.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: That's optional.
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  Speaker 1: It's an unconscious way of being.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: It's a very lazy way of being.
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  Speaker 1: It's the default mechanism.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: The default mode for humanity is lazy, negative thinking and negative, lazy feeling In a world of internal chaos.
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  Speaker 1: Be different, because that's what you really want.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: You're looking for wealth in the world.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: Look for wealth inside of you, and there's only one way to create it to change the thoughts and rearrange the emotions that are happening in your body.
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: That's why you want all that stuff.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: That's why you want all that stuff.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: That's why you do all those things, that's why you achieve all that.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: That's why you accumulate it Because you want to change the voice, you want to change the thoughts, you want to change the emotions in your body.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: In a world of chaos, choose freedom and then let's get after it.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: Go grab that video course, go dive in, start the work.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: If you don't want the video course, go to YouTube and put my name in, mike Kitco and put in Installing Future you and start to do that video.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: Start to do that meditation.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: It's a lot easier when you know the future you're looking to create.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: But start to do that video.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Start to do that meditation.
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: It's not actually a video, it's just a meditation that's formatted as a video on YouTube.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: And get to work.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: In order to change anything, you must change.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: But if you look, most people are trying to rearrange the circumstances outside of them, while they stay the same and it doesn't frickin' work.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: It's like rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Get to work.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: It's going to be uncomfortable.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: Start thinking higher level thoughts, start believing higher level things, start feeling higher level emotions.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: And the more you practice it, the better you'll get at it, the more you do it, the more frequently, with the higher level magnitude that you do this, the more it'll anchor inside of your neural pathways and the more it'll become your new habit, your new baseline, and the more you'll feel what you've always wanted to feel Freedom.
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: If you enjoyed what you heard and you want to learn more, go to wwwinnerwealthglobalcom for more tools and resources.