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S3 #11 Scandals & Secrets · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: All right, Ben, let's just roll with it then, and
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Speaker 1: just like whatever. This is the Ben and Ashley I
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Speaker 1: Almost Famous podcast with our radio. This is the Benn
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Speaker 1: and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast. And today is a
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Speaker 1: unique day. I this has been by the way, I'm
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Speaker 1: sitting in an airport getting ready to fly to Los
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Speaker 1: Angeles to work with Ashley on a little project. Um,
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Speaker 1: so if my sound isn't good, or if you can
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Speaker 1: hear babies crying in the background, uh, just just deal
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Speaker 1: with it, please. It's also like the first time that
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Speaker 1: our producer Amy is not in the room with us,
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Speaker 1: so we're gonna run wild. We have no idea what
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Speaker 1: we're gonna say. Sorry, if our tangents are too long,
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Speaker 1: there's no one near stopping me. Oh my, so hey,
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Speaker 1: let's get into it though, actually do it? All right? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: How is your week? How's your Thanksgiving? It was absolutely amazing.
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Speaker 1: My parents came out to Denver. Um we did, you know,
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Speaker 1: we didn't do a ton, and we did a lot
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Speaker 1: the housework, but the things that we did do like
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Speaker 1: hike and and go to a couple of breweries and
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Speaker 1: spend times with family and friends, um, were incredible. So
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Speaker 1: I had a great Thanksgiving. What about you? I've been great, Ben.
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Speaker 1: I want to talk about being an only child because
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Speaker 1: I can't even fathom being an only child. But I
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Speaker 1: feel like you and your parents must just have like
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Speaker 1: an even closer friendship because when I'm looking for like
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Speaker 1: friendship in my family, I always go to my sister Lauren,
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Speaker 1: even though I'm so close to my parents. But I
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Speaker 1: feel like you and your parents, like you got a breweries,
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Speaker 1: you drink together, you hike together, that stuff that I
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Speaker 1: do with Lauren. Yeah, I know you're You're spot on.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if that is unique to my family
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Speaker 1: dynamic or if that's just kind of the dynamic that
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Speaker 1: happens in only child relationships. Um. But we became very
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Speaker 1: close very early because I didn't have any like people
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Speaker 1: to confide in, like a brother and sister, So they
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Speaker 1: had to learn a lot about me. They had to
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Speaker 1: hear a lot of things about me. And then, you know,
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Speaker 1: if I wanted to get entertained on a vacation, I
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Speaker 1: don't have anybody to hang out with but my parents parents,
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Speaker 1: and so through that we became really good friends, um,
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Speaker 1: which has been really nice. I mean, I think, yes,
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Speaker 1: my favorite people to drink with are my parents and stuff?
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Speaker 1: When they get you know, they've been on the podcast before,
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Speaker 1: and then they when they open up, they definitely opened
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Speaker 1: up and they don't look back. Remember that, you guys.
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Speaker 1: We got a little sexual induendo when his parents came
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Speaker 1: on the show. Hey, I have a funny story about that,
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Speaker 1: by the way, because I don't know if I've ever
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Speaker 1: shared it. So during that podcast, which is one of
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Speaker 1: my favorite favorites, because my parents were in studio with us.
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Speaker 1: Um I don't know if you remember, we had a
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Speaker 1: caller call in and she was very emotional and she
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Speaker 1: was talking about how her and her boyfriend of two
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Speaker 1: years were kind of falling apart and the relationship wasn't
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Speaker 1: going in the right direction and how no longer you know,
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Speaker 1: very interested in pursuing that relationship. And so my parents
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Speaker 1: were both there and so I thought, well, what what
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Speaker 1: better people to get advice from than people that have
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Speaker 1: been married for a long long time. UM, So I
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Speaker 1: get advice to my mom, and then I asked my
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Speaker 1: dad for advice, and I don't know if you remember,
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Speaker 1: but he gave really really poor advice. Um. It was
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Speaker 1: it was kind of odd and it just didn't really like,
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Speaker 1: relate well with your dad. Yeah, and we kind of
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Speaker 1: covered it up pretty well. Um, the reason I had
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Speaker 1: to cover it up, what are you talking about that?
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Speaker 1: Are you going to give us more contexts? No? No,
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Speaker 1: I will, okay, So the reason so he kind of
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Speaker 1: so I guess his answer to my question of, hey,
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Speaker 1: what should this poor young lady do about this relationship?
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Speaker 1: He was like, well, just stick it out, keep going
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Speaker 1: without its look that, Hey, I have zero feelings for
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Speaker 1: this guy anymore. The reason he was so far off
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Speaker 1: on his on what his answer was was because he
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Speaker 1: had actually fallen asleep during the tape of our podcast.
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Speaker 1: I took on this out after the podcast. He was
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Speaker 1: watching the aspen trees outside the studio that we we
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Speaker 1: do the podcast fro him and he said it was
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Speaker 1: so relaxing and he just kicked back and fell asleep
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Speaker 1: and he didn't know he'd have to be called upon
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Speaker 1: again for the rest of the podcast. That's hysterical and
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Speaker 1: that explained so much. I was like, why are Ben's
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Speaker 1: parents so pro this girl staying with him? Yeah, he
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Speaker 1: was just he was just sound asleep. So anyways, we're
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Speaker 1: making fun of him during Thanksgiving for that because he's
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Speaker 1: known now to fall asleep during odd times. I don't
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Speaker 1: know if that's interesting or not, but if you want
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Speaker 1: to listen to the podcast again, it's one of our
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Speaker 1: first podcasts and it happened to be with my parents
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Speaker 1: and you can hear my dad's sleeping, which is just
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Speaker 1: a ton of fun and very entertaining. So funny that
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Speaker 1: makes it way better. Uh huh, hey, actually, real quick,
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Speaker 1: I want to jump into this. Uh, last week, you
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Speaker 1: mentioned that there had been no Bachelor divorces so far.
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Speaker 1: Can you explain yourself because we got a ton of
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Speaker 1: emails about Lacey and Marcus. Yeah, we got an email
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Speaker 1: from Emily. It says, Hi, Ben and Ashley. I've been
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Speaker 1: listening to you talking about the Bachelor franchise for the
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Speaker 1: last few months. A question keeps popping up for me,
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Speaker 1: and I finally had to write in and ask. A
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Speaker 1: while back or last week, you referred to Jaden Tanner
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Speaker 1: as the first b I P couple to get married,
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Speaker 1: and I thought, but what about Marcus and Lacy. The
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Speaker 1: topic then came up a few more times, and not
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Speaker 1: just in your podcast, and eventually I went online to
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Speaker 1: check that I wasn't just crazy that Lakes that Lacey
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Speaker 1: and Marcus did in fact get married on season one
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Speaker 1: or engaged on season one and married in season two.
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Speaker 1: I confirmed my sanity, and I saw that they have
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Speaker 1: since split up, so I figured everyone had just turned
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Speaker 1: a blind eye. Then on this week's podcast, you highlighted
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Speaker 1: that no Bachelor couple has ever gotten divorced. So what's
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Speaker 1: the deal? Has everyone forgotten about Marcus and Lazy? Has
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Speaker 1: everyone agreed to pretend that B I P Season one
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Speaker 1: never happened? Well? I do kind of think that b
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Speaker 1: I P One never happened to be honest, never really
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Speaker 1: given a second thought. And that was actually my first
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Speaker 1: Bachelor franchise show that I didn't watch in its entirety
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Speaker 1: when it was on for like the past seven years
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Speaker 1: or something. Um. But to answer your question, and I
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Speaker 1: wish we had Lacey on the phone, reached out to her,
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Speaker 1: she didn't get back to me. Um. But yeah, they
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Speaker 1: never got married. Actually, that ceremony like it was never signed.
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Speaker 1: Of course there was a ceremony, but there was never
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Speaker 1: any legal document, no paperwork saying that they were a
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Speaker 1: married couple. So it was all just kind of a show.
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Speaker 1: If that's how you believe marriages. You know, if you
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Speaker 1: think that marriage is a piece of paper, well yeah,
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Speaker 1: and I mean that's not uncommon. Actually, I think in
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Speaker 1: UH in weddings that people get married out of the
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Speaker 1: States because you have to have a document signed out
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Speaker 1: of the States and UH internationally, and so it's not
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Speaker 1: uncommon for people to get married, have the ceremony, and
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Speaker 1: then signed the legal documents back in the United States.
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Speaker 1: They just never did. And I don't have any idea why.
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Speaker 1: You know, if they if they went through the ceremony,
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Speaker 1: typically when you do that, you're already prepared to sign
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Speaker 1: the documents back in the States. Do you know why
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Speaker 1: they never signed them? Um, I'm not sure where they
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Speaker 1: never signed them. I would go ahead and guess that, Oh,
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Speaker 1: I know, I know. I don't know why officially, but
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Speaker 1: this is my best guess. He actually joined the military,
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Speaker 1: like the weak that they came back from getting married,
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Speaker 1: and he flew out to Hawaii where he was stationed,
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Speaker 1: and then they honestly just drifted apart. I think they
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Speaker 1: started dating other people. They never kept in touch, and
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Speaker 1: he wasn't allowed to keep in touch for a couple
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Speaker 1: of months. Like you know how in the military there's
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Speaker 1: like that period of time where you have to like
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Speaker 1: just kind of be excluded from the world. He was
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Speaker 1: in that point, and then they wrote some letters. It
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Speaker 1: was honestly like they almost ghosted each other as a
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Speaker 1: married couple. And yeah, but Lacy, back when I was
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Speaker 1: first hearing this story, which was like almost two years ago, um,
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Speaker 1: didn't seem very wrecked by it. Well, I mean, it's
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Speaker 1: gotta be tough. That's just a hard situation. And again,
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Speaker 1: you know, if you I cannot imagine getting married and
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Speaker 1: having your spouse kind of leaves for months on end,
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Speaker 1: like it is confusing and you have to have a
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Speaker 1: pretty solid found dation to do that. So it makes
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Speaker 1: sense on why maybe they drifted apart um. But just
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Speaker 1: to make that clear, we have actually still to this day,
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Speaker 1: as she was not wrong, we have had zero bachelor divorces. Um,
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Speaker 1: We've had a couple of really rough split ups, a
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Speaker 1: lot of really rough split ups and break but no
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Speaker 1: divorces so far. And let me just reiterate, don't know
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Speaker 1: all that for fact. That was Lacey's side of the
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Speaker 1: story and I heard it two years ago, So I'm
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Speaker 1: sorry if not all the details are correct, and if
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Speaker 1: Lacey or Marcus want to come on the podcast really
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Speaker 1: explain what went down between the two of them. They
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Speaker 1: are more than welcome to do so. We would love
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Speaker 1: to have him. Did I do I know this is
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Speaker 1: Marcus married or engaged again? He is engaged again. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I thought I saw that. Sometimes I keep up with
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Speaker 1: this stuff. You know what's interesting? Did you know that
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Speaker 1: Juan Pablo was married? No, I honestly have not heard
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Speaker 1: Juan Pablo's name in a long long time. Van Pablo
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Speaker 1: got married like, oh, a year ago or something. She's
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Speaker 1: a former Miss Venezuela And you know those Miss Venezuela's
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Speaker 1: If you watched last night's Miss Miss Universe, Holy moly,
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Speaker 1: they're always in the top tier of the prettiest. Oh wow,
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Speaker 1: So he's married today, Like he's he's back at it.
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Speaker 1: He's a married man. Hey, you know what, Actually, here's
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Speaker 1: something I just thought of this. I was in Los
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Speaker 1: Angeles about a month ago, staying at the Santa Monica Marquis,
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Speaker 1: and um, I walked out of my hotel and I
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Speaker 1: was walking out through the lobby and Wan Pablo was
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Speaker 1: standing there in the lobby. Yeah, but I didn't say
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Speaker 1: hi to him, and he didn't say hi to me.
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Speaker 1: So I feel like that's how our relationship is gonna
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Speaker 1: work from here. Now do you think he saw you?
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Speaker 1: I have no clue if he saw me. If he did,
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Speaker 1: I mean, I've never met him my life. So there's
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Speaker 1: really not a lot we have in common on the
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Speaker 1: fact that we were on the same UM television show.
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Speaker 1: But anyways, that's that's a little Wan Pablo piece of
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Speaker 1: knowledge for it. I've seen them pretty recently. Look good,
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Speaker 1: good looking guy, he is um. Hey, moving on. Okay,
9:42
Speaker 1: so I have here in my notes we have a
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Speaker 1: bachelor baby. Actually tell us about it. We have another
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Speaker 1: bachelor baby. Last week we talked about how we have
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Speaker 1: a couple of pregnancies Carly, uh, who else Sean and Catherine? Okay, Well,
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Speaker 1: we also have the dog lover Kelly Travis from Juan
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Speaker 1: Pablo season. She is also pregnant. She she got engaged
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Speaker 1: and met the man that she was going to marry
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Speaker 1: very soon after she finished up Pablo season. Good for her.
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Speaker 1: That seems to happen um after the Bachelor Bachelor and
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Speaker 1: people seem to come off the show maybe open to
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Speaker 1: love or open to finding love, or found something that
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Speaker 1: they you know, maybe on the show that they kind
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Speaker 1: of they have a better picture of who they want,
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Speaker 1: and a lot of people seem to be dive into
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Speaker 1: deep relationships right after the show. Yeah. What was interesting
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Speaker 1: is when I was in casting, they told me that
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Speaker 1: I think I was talking about a relationship in my
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Speaker 1: real life that I thought was like going pretty well.
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Speaker 1: It was definitely not exclusive by any means, but it
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Speaker 1: was like a guy that I liked and things were
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Speaker 1: going better than usual. And I was like, I don't
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Speaker 1: know how I feel about doing the show right now,
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Speaker 1: because like there is this guy at home blah blah,
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Speaker 1: And like the producers were like, you know what, a
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Speaker 1: lot of the times guys will guys at home will
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Speaker 1: watch these girls on the TV show and they kind
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Speaker 1: of come to senses or there's just like something about
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Speaker 1: you emotionally that's like really open and things seem to
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Speaker 1: work out for people, even like once they're off the
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Speaker 1: show and it didn't work out, well, that's awesome. Good
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Speaker 1: for Kelly. She uh, hopefully she's still loving dogs and
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Speaker 1: now she's gonna be loving on some babies. Funny, Okay,
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Speaker 1: you know, Actually we haven't talked a lot about this
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Speaker 1: upcoming season of the Bachelor. But it's important that we
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Speaker 1: kind of start, you know, giving hints at it and
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Speaker 1: talking about our opinions on it and what we think
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Speaker 1: will happen. But we really don't know a lot about Ari.
11:30
Speaker 1: A lot of people don't know a lot about Ari,
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Speaker 1: and so we gonna let everybody know that. On December
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Speaker 1: eleven at Central, there's going to be a special accountdown
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Speaker 1: to Ari Account down to this season the Bachelor. I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna read up with the promous. For the first time ever,
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Speaker 1: Bachelor Nation will get an intimate, behind the scenes look
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Speaker 1: at Arilondyke Junior's life, his family, and his love of racing.
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Speaker 1: Travel back to Ari's memorable journey to find love with
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Speaker 1: one of America's favorite bachelor at Emily Maynard. Five years ago.
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Speaker 1: Ari fell madly in love with Emily and there's id
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Speaker 1: get down on one knee to propose when his heart
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Speaker 1: was broken. Relive one of the most heart wrenching breakups
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Speaker 1: in Bachelor history, and discover how Harris finally got closure.
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Speaker 1: The inside info into this The best part of this special,
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Speaker 1: in my opinion, is the worst, most awkward kisses in
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Speaker 1: Bachelor history be highlighted on this special. Actually will you
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Speaker 1: be watching this special? Okay, Bend has read a press
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Speaker 1: release there for you guys. Secondly, I'm scared that I
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Speaker 1: might be in the worst awkward kisses in Bachelor history.
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Speaker 1: I think I'm going to be. I'm so so scared now.
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Speaker 1: My first kiss was actually, every kiss with crystals was
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Speaker 1: relatively awkward. The first one except that one in the
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Speaker 1: elevator in Vegas. Oh that's all right, that was actually
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Speaker 1: not awkward, just very surprising. Um. Yeah, the first one.
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Speaker 1: I got so many tweets about how awkward it was
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Speaker 1: and how I looked like I was just being the
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Speaker 1: most aggressive first in the entire world, and like my
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Speaker 1: whole family cringe and I wanted to die. And then
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Speaker 1: there's this one time where I was making out with Chris,
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Speaker 1: like in week three and I basically almost pulled him
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Speaker 1: over the balcony at the Bachelor Mansion. And I think
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Speaker 1: it got a little better after that, but that first
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Speaker 1: one is definitely making the cut. Oh lord, um, I
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Speaker 1: cannot I'm really excited this. I hope I'm not on
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Speaker 1: it because this is this would be one of the
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Speaker 1: most embarrassing things. I mean, it's so hard when you're
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Speaker 1: on these shows to kind of get over that mental
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Speaker 1: block where you know that there's twenty people standing around
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Speaker 1: you with cameras and and friends and watching you do this.
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Speaker 1: That's hard to get over. Once you get over it, though,
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Speaker 1: the idea that you have to watch it back and
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Speaker 1: you get the sound effect you talked about on this show,
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Speaker 1: it's so much so this this segment the most awkward
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Speaker 1: kisses in Bachelor history being it's gonna be really hard
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Speaker 1: to watch. I really don't think you're going to make it.
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Speaker 1: The only one I can think of other than myself
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Speaker 1: is like Charlene and Wan Pablo Man Wan Pablo is
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Speaker 1: coming up a lot in this podcast. But yeah, Charlene
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Speaker 1: Wan Pablo not that cute, not that cute kissing. Um.
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Speaker 1: But Charlene also stood up for me when my awkward
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Speaker 1: kiss with Chris Aaron and she was like, look, you
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Speaker 1: guys don't get it. You don't get how it is
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Speaker 1: to have a first kiss on TV. You don't. Okay,
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Speaker 1: So here, Ashley, what is your You are familiar with this?
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Speaker 1: You've you've got on Paradise. We don't know if there's
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Speaker 1: gonna be any future Bachelor shows for you or not
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Speaker 1: out there? Okay. So any person in this world that
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Speaker 1: happens to find themselves in front of cameras, if it's
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Speaker 1: at a wedding or if it's on the television show
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Speaker 1: and they're gonna have their first kiss or they're gonna
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Speaker 1: have a kiss with somebody. What is your advice? How
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Speaker 1: do you get over it? How do you get over it?
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Speaker 1: Or like, how do you get by with it looking
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Speaker 1: the best? No, because you don't want to be thinking
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Speaker 1: about how am I gonna make this look good? You
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Speaker 1: just want to get over the mental block of I'm
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Speaker 1: kissing somebody with people watching, Like, how do you just
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Speaker 1: relax and let whatever happened happen? Have a couple of drinks?
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Speaker 1: Is that it? No? But what if you don't drink?
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Speaker 1: I want to know what other ways there is? I mean,
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Speaker 1: there's got to be. I just think this is such
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Speaker 1: an important part of Batchel, like watching the Bachelor's understanding
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Speaker 1: that a lot of these moments are awkward, but you
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Speaker 1: don't want them to be forced. You want them to
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Speaker 1: feel real. You want them to be real, and so
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Speaker 1: you have to get over these mental blocks. I don't know,
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Speaker 1: you're asking me, like you know the real answer. I don't.
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Speaker 1: I mean my I know how to give my advice.
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Speaker 1: My advice would be So I did this dcor Dr
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Speaker 1: Ben now Um. So on the first night of the Bachelor,
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Speaker 1: when all these beautiful women came in and I was
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Speaker 1: introduced to him and we sat down for the first time,
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Speaker 1: there's a ton of nerves. I think you can relay,
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Speaker 1: and most people can really on that first night of
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Speaker 1: the Bachelor back that there's a ton of nerves going on.
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Speaker 1: But I don't remember a time where I was more
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Speaker 1: nervous than that exactly. And so what I did because
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Speaker 1: I remember Caitlin did this with me, and Caitlin was
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Speaker 1: so good at kind of calming the people her suitors down, um,
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Speaker 1: and so what she would do and what I tried
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Speaker 1: to do with every person that sat down next to
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Speaker 1: me will say, Okay, take a break, take a deep breath,
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Speaker 1: look around, get familiar to your surroundings. There are people
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Speaker 1: around us. These people are not here to judge you,
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Speaker 1: they're not here to criticize you. They're not here to
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Speaker 1: laugh for you. They're here to do their job. And
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Speaker 1: our time is to date. Our time is to be
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Speaker 1: here right now, in the present moment, and so look around,
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Speaker 1: get comfortable, and then let's focus on each other. And
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Speaker 1: it kind of does help to just kind of look
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Speaker 1: around and say, Okay, I'm not going to act like
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Speaker 1: these people aren't here. They're here, but I have to
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Speaker 1: get over that because I want this to be a
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Speaker 1: real scenario, a real situation. Okay, I thought you were
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Speaker 1: talking just about exclusively making out. If you're talking about
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Speaker 1: like just like connecting with someone on camera, Um, I
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Speaker 1: think it just not happened naturally for me over a
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Speaker 1: couple of days and just becoming friends of the producers
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Speaker 1: that you just feel like you're talking in front of
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Speaker 1: your friends. Yeah, I agree. So that that would be
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Speaker 1: my advice to anybody, even in a wedding scenario when
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Speaker 1: this cameras around. Just relax. You're around friends, you're around family,
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Speaker 1: around people that care about you. On the Bachelor, just
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Speaker 1: around a bunch of people you haven't quite met yet,
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19:34
Speaker 1: so I have no clue, Like, is he going to
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19:39
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19:42
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19:49
Speaker 1: gets engaged? Yeah? You do? You think he's ready for that? Okay? Well, hey, um,
19:57
Speaker 1: moving on some things that have had but in the past,
20:00
Speaker 1: and like we said, we're kind of prepping for this
20:02
Speaker 1: new season the Bachelor. Um. Fox News just came out,
20:06
Speaker 1: um with the biggest Bachelor scandals of all arts of
20:09
Speaker 1: all time. Okay, there's a list here. We're going to
20:11
Speaker 1: read the top ten to you. I'll start at ten,
20:15
Speaker 1: and actually, after I'm done reading these, I want you
20:18
Speaker 1: to discuss especially number four, um, and some of these
20:21
Speaker 1: that kind of stayed out to you. So I'll pause
20:23
Speaker 1: after everyone I read and see if you have a
20:25
Speaker 1: comment on All right, Juan Pablo again we bring up
20:28
Speaker 1: his name at number ten, the most hated bachelor of
20:31
Speaker 1: all time? Do you agree? Yeah? Obviously. I love his
20:36
Speaker 1: season though, just because he was the actual worst Bachelor,
20:39
Speaker 1: because he was the least romantic and the most misoganistic.
20:43
Speaker 1: It was so entertaining because he was such a horrible person. Okay,
20:50
Speaker 1: number nine to Mario had a girl. I don't think
20:54
Speaker 1: this is a number nine scandal. Come on now, guys. Okay,
20:59
Speaker 1: so many people go on the show with a significant other.
21:03
Speaker 1: Oh that sounds weird. Okay. Nick File dished on about
21:06
Speaker 1: sex and the fantasy suite. I remember this, okay, even
21:10
Speaker 1: kind of as I was starting to watch The Bachelor
21:12
Speaker 1: and Bachelorette. I remember this scene and how awkward it was.
21:15
Speaker 1: This was a really iconic scene in Bachelor history. Truly,
21:19
Speaker 1: I agree this was iconic. If you guys don't remember,
21:21
Speaker 1: this is when Andy was on the I guess it
21:24
Speaker 1: was after the final row stage and Nick came out
21:27
Speaker 1: to face her for the first time since she broke
21:29
Speaker 1: up with him, and he was like, well, if you
21:34
Speaker 1: didn't love me, then why did you make love to me?
21:40
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like that's so so heavy, but
21:42
Speaker 1: it didn't beat number seven, which is, hey, yours truly,
21:47
Speaker 1: Ben Higgins dropped I love you too much. Um. Actually,
21:52
Speaker 1: you can comment, But I don't know why people think
21:55
Speaker 1: that this is I don't know, people make such a
21:58
Speaker 1: big deal out of this. You just have a lot
21:59
Speaker 1: of of in your heart. Thanks, Ashley. I appreciate that. Yeah,
22:04
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I get it. It It was
22:05
Speaker 1: such it was such a influential part of my experience,
22:08
Speaker 1: and it has affected my life even post Bachelor. You know,
22:12
Speaker 1: there's there's a ton of questions and there are feelings
22:14
Speaker 1: heard about it. Um, but come on, guys, there's still
22:17
Speaker 1: much more. But I'm glad I made the top ten.
22:19
Speaker 1: If I can make a top ten in anything, I'm
22:21
Speaker 1: pretty happy about it. Um. The next one, number six
22:23
Speaker 1: is Bachelor Brad Womack, who did The Bachelor twice, went
22:27
Speaker 1: home a bachelor. Yep, that's wait, oh my god, I'm
22:31
Speaker 1: looking down this and remind me to say at the
22:34
Speaker 1: end what they're missing from this list. I kind of
22:39
Speaker 1: love Brad Walmack because he was the first Bachelor ever watched,
22:43
Speaker 1: and I just I don't know, he was like classic bachelor,
22:46
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Yeah, I mean he was,
22:49
Speaker 1: and he was such a solid guy. From everything I
22:51
Speaker 1: hear from my good friend Terry Fetman, who does all
22:54
Speaker 1: the wardrobe um for The Bachelor and Bachelor, he carries
22:58
Speaker 1: an amazing guy and he has a good read of
23:00
Speaker 1: character on the people that come to the show. And
23:02
Speaker 1: he said that Brad Womack was his favorite bactually he's
23:05
Speaker 1: ever dealt with. And that says a lot. And so
23:08
Speaker 1: I have a lot of respect for bad and maybe
23:10
Speaker 1: he just wasn't feeling it. Who knows, I don't. I
23:12
Speaker 1: don't watch that season, but from everything I hear, Brad's
23:15
Speaker 1: a great dude. Yeah. I mean, he's just like Studley
23:18
Speaker 1: and he like owns bars. You know, he's a Bachelor. Actually,
23:24
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to explain number five to me. It
23:26
Speaker 1: just says Bachelor. She cheated with the producer. What does
23:28
Speaker 1: that mean? I believe this is referring to b I
23:30
Speaker 1: P Season one, where there was a girl as part
23:35
Speaker 1: of the cast who was cheated. Who not cheating on anyone,
23:39
Speaker 1: but she was hooking up with the producer and I
23:41
Speaker 1: think the producer or the cameraman. I'm not sure it
23:44
Speaker 1: was an actual producer, but it was somebody on the
23:46
Speaker 1: crew side. He she was hooking up with him, and
23:49
Speaker 1: to escape getting caught, the dude like jumped out of
23:52
Speaker 1: a two story window and broke a leg and then
23:55
Speaker 1: they were caught. Yeah, he broke a leg. Literally, he
23:59
Speaker 1: was hooking up with this cast member gets caught. I
24:02
Speaker 1: think I hear the story that he was hiding in
24:03
Speaker 1: a closet as people were coming looking for him, and
24:06
Speaker 1: then as soon as they people that were on staff
24:10
Speaker 1: left the room, he jumped out the window broke his leg,
24:12
Speaker 1: and so he didn't make it very far. That guy
24:14
Speaker 1: didn't make it on the show very far either. Well, no,
24:16
Speaker 1: it was the girl. The girl was the cast member,
24:18
Speaker 1: the guy was the crew. Yeah. Yeah, but the crew
24:22
Speaker 1: member got fired. Definitely. Okay. Number four Caitlin ruins the
24:27
Speaker 1: show with her snap was very sensitive to me. But
24:35
Speaker 1: I have to get a little protective here of Caitlin
24:37
Speaker 1: and Sean because I do like them both very much.
24:39
Speaker 1: But I want to hear your thoughts first. Actually, oh
24:42
Speaker 1: my gosh, I remember when this happened. I think it
24:44
Speaker 1: was a couple of days before I left for my
24:46
Speaker 1: first season of Paradise, and I think there was a
24:49
Speaker 1: couple of guys in Paradise, who didn't even know who
24:53
Speaker 1: the final winner was because Sean and Caitlin had been
24:56
Speaker 1: that secretive. And then I get there and I'm like, oh, no,
25:00
Speaker 1: it's Sean. She accidentally uploaded a snapchat the two of them,
25:05
Speaker 1: And then what a spoiler, especially with that season. And
25:10
Speaker 1: I'm not sure olds because I was just so close
25:12
Speaker 1: to a lot of the guys on that season, but
25:14
Speaker 1: I was more compelled with Caitlyn season than ever before.
25:17
Speaker 1: And I just thought that that one the finale seemed
25:20
Speaker 1: like a toss up, like I really felt like she
25:23
Speaker 1: could have the way it was edited, picked Nick or
25:26
Speaker 1: sewn equally. But then all of us knew a couple
25:29
Speaker 1: of weeks before the finale that it was that was Sean. Yeah.
25:33
Speaker 1: I mean, I think this is such a sensitive one
25:35
Speaker 1: for me because I do think Kaitlyn Sean. You can
25:37
Speaker 1: see it on Night one. They were meant for each other.
25:39
Speaker 1: I mean, they were great. And this was the reason
25:42
Speaker 1: this was such a big deal, because I would argue
25:45
Speaker 1: that Jojo and Caitlyn could be the two most popular
25:51
Speaker 1: bachelorrets of time. And I think, and I think everybody
25:54
Speaker 1: was so captivated and compelled by Caitlin in the way,
25:57
Speaker 1: just the person she was and and her fight for
26:00
Speaker 1: all these guys who cared about her, and and you know,
26:02
Speaker 1: with the storyline of Nick coming in, everybody's still invested
26:05
Speaker 1: in her season that when this snapchat came out, I
26:07
Speaker 1: think it was such a kind of a letdown for
26:09
Speaker 1: the fans because they're like, oh, there's no more anticipation.
26:12
Speaker 1: But yet her season still still captivated the audience, even
26:15
Speaker 1: when they did know it was Sean. They still because
26:18
Speaker 1: it was just such a good season of the Bachelor,
26:20
Speaker 1: and it was such a true pursuit of love by Kaitlin.
26:23
Speaker 1: It was probably the only season of The Bachelorette that
26:26
Speaker 1: could have gone on as successfully as it did with
26:29
Speaker 1: having the ending spoiled. And just for you guys to
26:32
Speaker 1: know a little tidbit, Caitlin only had the snapchat up
26:36
Speaker 1: for five minutes before somebody alerted her that it was public,
26:40
Speaker 1: And in those five minutes she got five thousand views
26:43
Speaker 1: and of course like a bajillion screenshots. Yeah, such a
26:47
Speaker 1: touting area, but hey, they're doing well today. Everybody still
26:50
Speaker 1: watched the season. I actually think the ratings went up
26:52
Speaker 1: even after the snapchat. So the Bachelor, Uh franchise is
26:56
Speaker 1: not hurt by it, and they were lucky to have
26:57
Speaker 1: Kaitlin and Sean um during the show. Okay, number three, Uh,
27:01
Speaker 1: we're getting out of the three. And these these three
27:03
Speaker 1: are kind of heavy. I mean these are kind of yeah,
27:06
Speaker 1: kind of funny and we can kind of laugh at
27:08
Speaker 1: but these three are heavy. So the christ Soul situation
27:10
Speaker 1: that came up last year, Uh, you know, we talked
27:12
Speaker 1: about it last week. We don't talk about a lot,
27:14
Speaker 1: but I know actually today he is having his court appearance. Um,
27:19
Speaker 1: we don't have any update on that. We'll try to
27:21
Speaker 1: inform everybody as that goes on. But really really tough
27:24
Speaker 1: situation for a really good guy. And um, but yes,
27:28
Speaker 1: it is something that affected Bachelor Nation UM very much.
27:32
Speaker 1: And then number two, Yeah, number two, Uh, something that
27:36
Speaker 1: happened recently is what we've had. It's really interesting me.
27:39
Speaker 1: Actually the three last scandals have all happened within the
27:43
Speaker 1: last year. That says a lot about a franchise that's
27:45
Speaker 1: been around to twenty year. Number two. The number two
27:49
Speaker 1: is Becky the producers shoes the show and individual producers. Um,
27:55
Speaker 1: we've discussed this a lot. We've just discussed this enough.
27:58
Speaker 1: I don't know where this stands anymore. I think get
28:00
Speaker 1: probably got settled outside of court. Um. But another huge
28:03
Speaker 1: scandal and going down to number one one that our
28:06
Speaker 1: podcast was was kind of I mean, within the first
28:09
Speaker 1: couple of months of us starting this podcast has happened.
28:11
Speaker 1: But Karin into Mario. Um, the situation in Bachelor in
28:14
Speaker 1: Paradise is number one on this list. And do you
28:17
Speaker 1: know what they were missing? And holy moly, what a miss?
28:21
Speaker 1: What was that Jason and Molly Mesnick? How Jason ended
28:25
Speaker 1: up dumping his winner during the or during or before
28:30
Speaker 1: the airing of after the final rows and going ahead
28:33
Speaker 1: and marrying his runner up. That that is true. I
28:38
Speaker 1: mean that is maybe the biggest scandal, not even scandaled,
28:41
Speaker 1: his biggest story U in Bachelor history. I mean, look
28:44
Speaker 1: at the they're still together today. But that little scene
28:47
Speaker 1: on television was one of the most iconic scenes, along
28:50
Speaker 1: with the Nick situation, that we've ever watched in front
28:53
Speaker 1: of our eyes. Yeah, like, Ben, you said I love
28:57
Speaker 1: you to two people, but this guy but in you
29:00
Speaker 1: to get on the list. But this guy decided to
29:02
Speaker 1: marry and has been married to a girl for like
29:04
Speaker 1: six years who he dumped on TV. Yeah, I mean
29:09
Speaker 1: what I know the both Jason and Molly. And Molly,
29:13
Speaker 1: I mean must have a very forgiving heart to look
29:16
Speaker 1: back at Jason's say I'm gonna spend my life with you,
29:18
Speaker 1: even after you dumped me on national television. Uh, he definitely,
29:21
Speaker 1: uh did well for himself in that situation. And to
29:24
Speaker 1: pick another girl over it wasn't like she just got dumped.
29:26
Speaker 1: It was like another girl got picked over her. Hey,
29:30
Speaker 1: we all make mistakes. We all learned from our mistakes. Uh,
29:33
Speaker 1: you know, hindsight. So I'm sure once they got together.
29:36
Speaker 1: Now they've had kids and and they're raising a family together,
29:39
Speaker 1: I'm sure they last at that moment. But at the
29:41
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29:44
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32:09
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32:11
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32:15
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32:18
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32:22
Speaker 1: This is from Hannah. Hannah says, about one year ago,
32:25
Speaker 1: I broke up with my boyfriend of almost five years
32:27
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32:30
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32:33
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32:35
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32:38
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32:41
Speaker 1: broken for a long time. Yesterday, I just found out
32:45
Speaker 1: that he recently started seeing someone, and I feel like
32:48
Speaker 1: my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I really,
32:51
Speaker 1: are these feelings normal? Do I want him back? Do?
32:55
Speaker 1: I don't want to put my feelings out there to
32:57
Speaker 1: him if it's just gonna end up hurting him again.
32:59
Speaker 1: And what do I do if I get rejected? If
33:02
Speaker 1: I do do that, I don't know what to do
33:04
Speaker 1: about this and I really need a fresh opinion, love Hannah. Well,
33:08
Speaker 1: Dr Ben, do you want to take the advice first? No? You? No?
33:12
Speaker 1: I Actually I actually want to kind of piggyback on
33:15
Speaker 1: you because I think that, I mean, you really do
33:17
Speaker 1: for all of those people that don't know actually she has.
33:19
Speaker 1: She's very emotional. She really rides her emotions, and this
33:21
Speaker 1: seems like a very emotional email, right, So actually I
33:24
Speaker 1: do want to hear your thoughts first. Okay, Well, I
33:30
Speaker 1: feel like I feel like you probably don't actually still
33:36
Speaker 1: harbor feelings for him. I think it's probably a jealousy
33:39
Speaker 1: thing and it's just him being with somebody else thing.
33:42
Speaker 1: But I do think it's gonna be masked as a
33:45
Speaker 1: you still like him thing for the next little bit. Um.
33:50
Speaker 1: I don't know how personally get here, but I do
33:52
Speaker 1: think that oh no, I shouldn't get this personal to
33:59
Speaker 1: my Actually, well I don't think I could talk about it. Okay,
34:03
Speaker 1: So Jared just went on a trip and I was
34:07
Speaker 1: worried that on his trip that maybe he would like
34:10
Speaker 1: it was like get a girlfriend, right, And I'm totally
34:13
Speaker 1: over Jared, I actually am. I I have like friend
34:16
Speaker 1: zoned him completely in my own mind, like I can't
34:19
Speaker 1: even imagine making out with him. But I always wonder
34:22
Speaker 1: if he were to like come back from this trip
34:25
Speaker 1: and had a girlfriend, how I would feel in my
34:28
Speaker 1: gut And would it be because I'm jealous because I
34:31
Speaker 1: was never that girl, or would it be because I
34:35
Speaker 1: actually still had feelings. That's such a good question. I mean,
34:39
Speaker 1: I remember, just a couple of weeks ago, you admitted
34:41
Speaker 1: to all of us here at the podcast that you're
34:43
Speaker 1: over Jared. But it sounds like, even with the words
34:46
Speaker 1: that you're saying, I was worried that you would come
34:48
Speaker 1: back with a girlfriend, you're hinting at the fact that
34:50
Speaker 1: you might not. Well, well, well, well, I think I
34:53
Speaker 1: think you No. No, I just I feel like you're
34:59
Speaker 1: always I've never experienced it before. That's why, Like in
35:02
Speaker 1: my two and a half year friendship with Jared, as
35:05
Speaker 1: much as I could think, that first year was like
35:07
Speaker 1: a lot of confusion, but like for the past year
35:10
Speaker 1: and a half, I just feel like I've never experienced
35:13
Speaker 1: him having a girlfriend before, and I don't know how
35:15
Speaker 1: that would feel if I found out that he was
35:16
Speaker 1: dating somebody, Like seriously, yeah, okay, So actually, what I'm
35:21
Speaker 1: hearing you say and what I kind of read in
35:23
Speaker 1: this situation here is we we've mentioned it before. It
35:27
Speaker 1: actually you were the one that gave me this advice,
35:29
Speaker 1: and I had never thought of it this way. But
35:30
Speaker 1: typically after a break up, you seem to remember all
35:35
Speaker 1: the good things and you forget the things that we're
35:37
Speaker 1: not healthy about the relationship. And so when you when
35:41
Speaker 1: you when you're no, I mean when you're a year out,
35:45
Speaker 1: you look back and you say, Okay, this went well,
35:47
Speaker 1: this went well. I missed this person. I missed I
35:50
Speaker 1: missed this about this person. UM, But you forget the
35:52
Speaker 1: things that really separated you. And so as I start
35:54
Speaker 1: this email out, I'm hearing Hannah say, hey, I wasn't
35:56
Speaker 1: sure about this guy. We were trying to make the
35:58
Speaker 1: commitment for long lasting, for a lifetime and I just
36:02
Speaker 1: couldn't do it. And now that he's dating somebody else,
36:04
Speaker 1: I'm questioning if I made the right decision. Of course,
36:06
Speaker 1: you're questioning if you made the right decision. That's what
36:08
Speaker 1: we do as humans. We constantly question ourselves, we questioned others. UM.
36:13
Speaker 1: Life is not straightforward, it's not always clear. But what
36:17
Speaker 1: you did hand, HUM is you made um the decision
36:20
Speaker 1: to separate yourself from this deploy and as a result,
36:24
Speaker 1: you have to respect him moving on. You have to
36:26
Speaker 1: give him that space to move on. You can't keep
36:29
Speaker 1: pulling him back in when you're not certain that he's
36:32
Speaker 1: the one for you. UM. I would say that in
36:36
Speaker 1: relationships and in breakups. As as I've said before, the
36:40
Speaker 1: hardest part about a breakup is not the breakup. It
36:43
Speaker 1: is ripping the band aid off when you see that
36:46
Speaker 1: person with somebody else, when their heart is starting to
36:49
Speaker 1: be shared with somebody else, when they're trying to share
36:51
Speaker 1: their heart with somebody else. That is the most difficult thing.
36:53
Speaker 1: That is the most difficult time. And there's no good
36:55
Speaker 1: advice for that. That's just you just have to rip
36:58
Speaker 1: the band aid out. You know, there's no easy way
37:00
Speaker 1: when you get a shot at the doctor to rip
37:02
Speaker 1: it off your your arm, the band aid off your arm. Here,
37:04
Speaker 1: there's no way. You just got to do it, rip
37:06
Speaker 1: it off. Understand, understand where you're at, and understand that
37:10
Speaker 1: you care a lot, and admit that and tell yourself
37:13
Speaker 1: that you care a lot. But you have to move on.
37:15
Speaker 1: Um So, but here here's the caveat to all of this,
37:18
Speaker 1: I think. And if you're sitting there and you're saying
37:21
Speaker 1: this is the man for me, I'm going to marry
37:23
Speaker 1: this guy. I realized it. I'm looking back on our
37:25
Speaker 1: relationship and I'm realizing that bad things and the good
37:28
Speaker 1: things that I know that I'll never meet a man
37:30
Speaker 1: as good as this guy, this is my person, this
37:33
Speaker 1: is the person I'm gonna spend life with. Then you
37:35
Speaker 1: better run after him right now. You better let him
37:37
Speaker 1: know that, because you can't let that person go away.
37:39
Speaker 1: But you have to be very positive that he is
37:42
Speaker 1: the one for you. If you're not, don't do it.
37:44
Speaker 1: Don't put him in that situation. Yeah, Ben, you just
37:47
Speaker 1: that you're so good. It's so funny because literally right
37:51
Speaker 1: before we started our podcast, I gave a friend advice
37:53
Speaker 1: who's like in a sort of it's not a similar
37:55
Speaker 1: situation by any means, but like a recent cut off
37:59
Speaker 1: of a relationship, And I was like, I think you're
38:01
Speaker 1: just kind of like remembering how good it was at
38:04
Speaker 1: the beginning and you're not and you're not concentrating on
38:06
Speaker 1: how how bad it's made you feel recently. And I
38:10
Speaker 1: think that's what you have to keep reminding yourself of
38:13
Speaker 1: at times like this is just like, think about the
38:15
Speaker 1: bad times, don't think about the good times. But for
38:17
Speaker 1: some reason, your mind always fills in the gaps with
38:20
Speaker 1: the good times. Yeah, it does. I wonder why. I mean,
38:22
Speaker 1: we'd have to talk to psychologist, but we should have
38:24
Speaker 1: a psychiatrist on to talk about that I I would
38:28
Speaker 1: I would like to assume it is because we question
38:30
Speaker 1: ourselves so much as human that we constantly are if
38:33
Speaker 1: you're in touch with yourself and you have um, some
38:37
Speaker 1: introspective Um, if you can get introspective, then I think
38:43
Speaker 1: we do question our decision making so often that, um,
38:46
Speaker 1: we we could forget that the negative things and the
38:48
Speaker 1: things that didn't work, and we just remember the positive
38:51
Speaker 1: things because these are the only things that make us
38:53
Speaker 1: kind of feel guilty for leaving that person. But I
38:55
Speaker 1: have no clue. We'd have to talk to a specialist. UM,
38:58
Speaker 1: and are in good memory is always more vivid? Yeah,
39:02
Speaker 1: they really are the things do you remember? You kind
39:04
Speaker 1: of want to block off the bat That's such a
39:06
Speaker 1: good point, actually, I mean you do want to block
39:08
Speaker 1: off every bad situation in life, right, every bad decision
39:11
Speaker 1: we made, every every hurtful moment. We kind of get
39:14
Speaker 1: numb to those because we block them off and we
39:17
Speaker 1: move forward and we only remember the positive things. Yeah. Actually,
39:20
Speaker 1: if you go read the liner notes and Taylor Swift's
39:22
Speaker 1: album reads this so well, it's beautiful Taylor Swift coming
39:30
Speaker 1: back to help all of us continue not dating anybody.
39:34
Speaker 1: She's very, very happy right now. Then let's move on
39:41
Speaker 1: to Heather. I really like Heather okay from Heather Love
39:45
Speaker 1: the podcast and makes me feel less hazy. Yes, waiting
39:49
Speaker 1: around in these terrible dating waters, waiting, watting, wait, waiting, waiting,
39:56
Speaker 1: waiting around in water Okay, I never used that that word.
40:01
Speaker 1: I feel like we're in this together. That's great. That's
40:04
Speaker 1: my goal in life, is like, if I'm going to
40:06
Speaker 1: be single, at least make other people feel better about
40:09
Speaker 1: their singleness. I'm newly dating a guy, still casual and
40:14
Speaker 1: going well, but it's come to my attention that he's
40:17
Speaker 1: definitely dating someone else as well. I came straight to you, guys,
40:21
Speaker 1: of course, this is fine. We're not exclusive. I was
40:24
Speaker 1: going out with another guy when we first went on
40:26
Speaker 1: our first date, but I've been feeling some real potential,
40:31
Speaker 1: so this realization has kind of hit me hard. How
40:34
Speaker 1: do you handle it when the person that you are
40:36
Speaker 1: into is dating someone else and you might finish in
40:39
Speaker 1: second place. I don't want to compete against this invisible
40:43
Speaker 1: girl I know nothing about her, but I also want
40:46
Speaker 1: to fight to stay number one with this dude. I'm
40:49
Speaker 1: starting to feel strung along and I don't know how
40:51
Speaker 1: to wait this out. Oh um, well, welcome to my
40:56
Speaker 1: life on the Bachelor always number two. You know, it's
40:59
Speaker 1: a fun a story that never got aired. Um. One
41:03
Speaker 1: time during my second season of Paradise, I look up
41:06
Speaker 1: at Nick as I like, I wasn't asked to go
41:10
Speaker 1: on a date that I really didn't care about going on,
41:12
Speaker 1: and I just thought it was interesting. I was like,
41:14
Speaker 1: why wouldn't he ask me? It was with um, that
41:17
Speaker 1: guy from your season, uh whatever, totally irrelevant. But I
41:22
Speaker 1: look up at Nick and I go, Nick, why am
41:25
Speaker 1: I always second place? And then he would like look,
41:29
Speaker 1: gave me a look, and I was like, oh my god,
41:30
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Sore subject anyway, UM, I don't know
41:39
Speaker 1: what to tell you, but I can feel the ache
41:41
Speaker 1: in your heart. I can. I totally unfamiliar with the situation.
41:45
Speaker 1: It sucks, um. But then again, at the same time,
41:49
Speaker 1: I don't really have advice for you, except like maybe
41:53
Speaker 1: brace yourself for heartbreak, but like keep going at it.
41:58
Speaker 1: I don't know, because it's never worked out for me,
42:02
Speaker 1: just talking like from my own personal perspective that like
42:06
Speaker 1: it hasn't see if I'm second, if your second place
42:09
Speaker 1: right now, I don't know. I don't know if he
42:12
Speaker 1: if he's continuing to date someone else, then I would
42:15
Speaker 1: say he's probably not sold on either one of you.
42:18
Speaker 1: M hm oh man. I cannot wait if you if
42:22
Speaker 1: you and Heather stating face to face and you gave
42:25
Speaker 1: her the advice of raise yourself for heartbreak or I
42:30
Speaker 1: cannot imagine just a sorrow in her eyes. Oh my gosh,
42:33
Speaker 1: I need to I need to pretend like she's here
42:35
Speaker 1: next to me, but I would probably tell her in
42:37
Speaker 1: real life, I'd be like, I don't know, I'd be
42:40
Speaker 1: weary if he's dating to be but once that means
42:43
Speaker 1: he's probably not head over heels for either of you. Yeah,
42:47
Speaker 1: I mean that's I mean, hey, that that would be
42:49
Speaker 1: My advice is until he can make that commitment, UM,
42:53
Speaker 1: you have nothing to control other And it seems to
42:55
Speaker 1: me like if you're going to enter into relationship with
42:57
Speaker 1: the guy um that is the eating other people, then
43:01
Speaker 1: he needs to figure out very quickly if he just
43:04
Speaker 1: wants to date you. Now, this is okay, So but
43:06
Speaker 1: here's the scenari Right. What if Heather and this guy meet,
43:09
Speaker 1: they go on one day and he had been dating
43:11
Speaker 1: somebody off and on for the month before that. Um,
43:15
Speaker 1: he still wants to figure out if Heather is is
43:17
Speaker 1: that right person for him, and so it's not unfair
43:20
Speaker 1: for him to date multiple people. Want I don't think
43:22
Speaker 1: so you're dating, that's what dating is, UM. But you
43:25
Speaker 1: have to set your boundaries. You have to start communicating
43:27
Speaker 1: now what your expectations for this guy are, so he knows.
43:31
Speaker 1: So he knows. Hey, if he if he wants to
43:33
Speaker 1: be with you, Heather, then he has to Then he
43:35
Speaker 1: needs to know he can only be dating you or
43:37
Speaker 1: if you're okay with him dating the other person, UM,
43:40
Speaker 1: then he needs to know that as well. But you
43:43
Speaker 1: have to start setting boundaries and communicate to him where
43:46
Speaker 1: your heart at, what your feelings are. UM. If he
43:48
Speaker 1: is the right guy, this is my opinion. Maybe it's
43:51
Speaker 1: maybe I'm completely off. If he is the right guy,
43:54
Speaker 1: if he is a type of guy that his husband
43:56
Speaker 1: material okay or long term boyfriend material, let's not I
44:00
Speaker 1: don't know how old you are, Heather, then telling him, hey,
44:05
Speaker 1: I really care about you. I'm worried I'm gonna fall
44:08
Speaker 1: in second to this other girl. I don't like the
44:10
Speaker 1: idea that I'm gonna need to compete. I just want
44:11
Speaker 1: to relax and be myself and see where this goes.
44:14
Speaker 1: If you if you can't tell him that and him
44:17
Speaker 1: to respond in the mature way, then he's not husband
44:19
Speaker 1: material because the rest of your life you'll need to
44:21
Speaker 1: continue to communicate about tough subjects like that openly. So
44:25
Speaker 1: maybe just try it and if and if it doesn't
44:27
Speaker 1: go over well, then you know that you're better off
44:29
Speaker 1: in the long term, longer in anyways. Yeah, and you
44:31
Speaker 1: know what, also, Heather, make sure that these feelings that
44:35
Speaker 1: you've been developing recently aren't because he's playing hard to get,
44:39
Speaker 1: aren't because there's another girl involved. Because sometimes if you
44:43
Speaker 1: feel like there's a competition, you're gonna like it more. Yeah,
44:47
Speaker 1: that's true. I mean, look a look from our experience
44:52
Speaker 1: The Bachelor exactly. That's why I know where I'm coming
44:56
Speaker 1: from with that advice. Hey, uh so, heathery um, talk, communicate, listen, process,
45:04
Speaker 1: and actually spot on. Make sure that you know where
45:06
Speaker 1: these things are coming from because competition, Um is not
45:10
Speaker 1: a healthy way to start a relationship, but it isn't
45:13
Speaker 1: the worst way either, So here's the deal. One thing though,
45:16
Speaker 1: as we talked about The Bachelor, one product that is
45:19
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46:24
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Speaker 1: these movement watches on. They look good in all scenarios.
46:28
Speaker 1: I think Ashley said last week she can wear sweats
46:31
Speaker 1: through a movement watch on and she's glamorous. So seriously,
46:34
Speaker 1: I've been getting compliments ever since I put mine on.
46:36
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46:55
Speaker 1: and then then we need to close out of here.
46:57
Speaker 1: I'm getting ready get on a flight, and I can't
46:59
Speaker 1: miss it, I know, because we have something so fun
47:01
Speaker 1: to do together tomorrow. I think it might be top
47:03
Speaker 1: secret ight now, so we won't reveal it, but we'll
47:05
Speaker 1: talk about the next couple of weeks. It's not podcast related.
47:08
Speaker 1: People just love Ben and I together, and it's not
47:12
Speaker 1: bachelor related, So let's start the confused here. This is
47:15
Speaker 1: something completely different. It is uh, you know, I'm gonna
47:18
Speaker 1: say it because I've already done some fun stuff with
47:21
Speaker 1: this with this show, and I've loved it. And I
47:23
Speaker 1: hope to do more in the future. Actuley and I
47:25
Speaker 1: are going to be co hosting an episode of First Look.
47:30
Speaker 1: First Look as a show on NBC, and it's super exciting.
47:34
Speaker 1: Ashley and I are going to get to do something
47:36
Speaker 1: in front of the cameras together as a team, which
47:39
Speaker 1: is cool because people are seeing that this podcast is
47:41
Speaker 1: kind of working for the both of us, UM and
47:43
Speaker 1: so we will be a team hosting First Look, which
47:45
Speaker 1: is a show on NBC. Like I said, the airs
47:47
Speaker 1: on Saturday night, so please tune in wait for our
47:50
Speaker 1: episode to air. But tomorrow we're taping together. I can't wait. Actually,
47:53
Speaker 1: it's so cool. I've loved First Look for a long time.
47:55
Speaker 1: It airs after snl UM on Saturday nights. It's like
47:58
Speaker 1: a lifestyle show. Ben has been doing some crazy things
48:01
Speaker 1: with it, UM facing a lot of fears. That's what
48:04
Speaker 1: his game has been so far. So you guys can
48:07
Speaker 1: struck that out probably in January. UM our episode will
48:10
Speaker 1: Aaron January and Ben before we move on to this email,
48:13
Speaker 1: Tomorrow is Giving Tuesday, and I think that it's time
48:18
Speaker 1: for you to give a little shout out to jen Us.
48:21
Speaker 1: Oh you're the best. Actually, thank you So Ashley has
48:24
Speaker 1: been such a good friend to me, along with a
48:26
Speaker 1: couple other people in vaccination, and they've partnered with me
48:29
Speaker 1: on a campaign that we're doing UM called jin Us.
48:32
Speaker 1: Jin Us is a campaign to say that in the
48:35
Speaker 1: time of so much device in this where people seem
48:38
Speaker 1: uh to feel so much more hate than love, we
48:40
Speaker 1: wanted to start a campaign to sell T shirts to
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Speaker 1: give back to people all over the world. UM. We're
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Speaker 1: giving back to children, UM to put them through school,
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Speaker 1: United States to all the way to Africa to Haiti.
48:54
Speaker 1: Kids will be affected by this campaign. So you can
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Speaker 1: go on UM to my Instagram. The link to purchase
49:00
Speaker 1: a T shirt is in my bio and once you
49:02
Speaker 1: purchase a T shirt, you will be joining the Generation
49:05
Speaker 1: US movement. And and that just means a lot to me,
49:08
Speaker 1: it means a lot to Ashley. We just are trying
49:10
Speaker 1: to find ways, I guess, UM to support kids out
49:13
Speaker 1: there to feel love and not hate because I am
49:16
Speaker 1: I don't want this generation to grow up in a
49:18
Speaker 1: world of devicens. So UM and in short, Generous Coffee Company,
49:23
Speaker 1: the coffee company that I started with a few buddies
49:25
Speaker 1: along with the go X apparel company UM with a
49:29
Speaker 1: similar business model, joined together to do this Generation US
49:31
Speaker 1: campaign and we are giving all profits. All profits. I'm
49:34
Speaker 1: meaning that this is not the I'm not making a
49:37
Speaker 1: dime off of this UM. This is just to give
49:40
Speaker 1: give something back to people I need. So anyways, go
49:43
Speaker 1: out there, check out the instagram UM or the Lincoln
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Speaker 1: Instagram by a T shirt shirts are so soft, good quality, Benjamin. Alright,
49:52
Speaker 1: last email, it's from Jenny. I don't know, Thanks, I
49:58
Speaker 1: can't really I'm not a very good reader. Hi Bettan Ashley.
50:04
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys have seen the show Unreal,
50:07
Speaker 1: but it is a basket Bachelor esque type show, and
50:10
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure one of the producers on the show
50:13
Speaker 1: used to be a producer for The Bachelor. My friend
50:16
Speaker 1: and I were wondering how much of Unreal is an
50:18
Speaker 1: accurate description of the kind of pushing that goes on
50:22
Speaker 1: during the actual Bachelor. Are there any similarities or none?
50:26
Speaker 1: Any thoughts you guys have, well, well, well, um, then
50:33
Speaker 1: you go first. I knew that was going to be
50:36
Speaker 1: the gig. Ashley, uh So, anyways, here's the deal I
50:42
Speaker 1: have seen. I said, here's the deal again, I that
50:45
Speaker 1: is my go to one. I wonder if I said
50:47
Speaker 1: that real life or just on this podcast. No, I
50:49
Speaker 1: have a crutch on podcast too, and that's something like, UM, alright,
50:53
Speaker 1: so get this and you say we both do it,
50:57
Speaker 1: it's fine, but I have and Unreal. Um, there are
51:01
Speaker 1: things that are that are obviously true about Unreal that
51:04
Speaker 1: are true on The Bachelor. I mean there's tons of
51:06
Speaker 1: producers around. The producers do have a room where they
51:09
Speaker 1: watch all the movements of the cast members. They have to,
51:12
Speaker 1: It's a television show. They have to know what's going
51:14
Speaker 1: on at all times. I get that. Um, the Bachelor
51:18
Speaker 1: is not I've always said it this way. The Bachelor
51:20
Speaker 1: is not scripted. I doing the batchlor Bachlor. I never
51:24
Speaker 1: was told to say anything. I was never There's never
51:26
Speaker 1: anything written out for me to say. Um. It is
51:29
Speaker 1: all up to the cast member's decisions to say what
51:31
Speaker 1: they want to say. But with that, there are things
51:34
Speaker 1: that go on the cast members don't know about the
51:36
Speaker 1: producers do know about, so they kind of play god.
51:39
Speaker 1: They kind of have this view on the whole environment
51:42
Speaker 1: that's different than the cast. So Unreal doun does to
51:45
Speaker 1: pick that as UM, I don't know if producers are
51:48
Speaker 1: hooking up behind the scenes, I mean much sucers are
51:50
Speaker 1: in there, are in their twenties, and you know they
51:53
Speaker 1: travel on the road with each other. I'm sure there's
51:55
Speaker 1: been hookups on the show. That's not shocking. It happens
51:57
Speaker 1: in business everywhere, you know. So sure marriages amongst the crew, yeah,
52:03
Speaker 1: of course. And then the final thing and actually, I
52:06
Speaker 1: don't know, uh if you agree or disagree with this,
52:09
Speaker 1: but I believe this from my heart and I would
52:11
Speaker 1: I would fight for this. Um. The Bachelor's job is
52:15
Speaker 1: to show drama, right. The show is a story, and
52:19
Speaker 1: so they depict the story that's happening behind are in
52:22
Speaker 1: front of the cameras, and then they need to do
52:24
Speaker 1: it the best they can. I have never, in my experience,
52:28
Speaker 1: been a part of a situation where the Bachelor wants
52:31
Speaker 1: to um intentionally hurt somebody for the sake of a
52:34
Speaker 1: television show. Now, there are people that have been hurt,
52:36
Speaker 1: and they have definitely shown it, and they definitely show
52:39
Speaker 1: the storyline that's playing out. But I've never seen a
52:41
Speaker 1: producer her a cast member on purpose to get a
52:46
Speaker 1: story out of them. And so that's been shown on
52:49
Speaker 1: unreal so I watched Unreal the entire first season, and
52:53
Speaker 1: I watched half of the second season. Don't know why
52:55
Speaker 1: I didn't finish it. Um, I've always said that kind
53:00
Speaker 1: of like goes along with whatever my experience has been
53:02
Speaker 1: on the show. Sometimes I'm like, oh, yeah, Unreal is
53:06
Speaker 1: like so unreal, so unreal. And then there have been
53:10
Speaker 1: times I'm like, you know what, I've had that happen
53:14
Speaker 1: to me. But overall, I say, it's just a huge exaggeration,
53:20
Speaker 1: especially when it comes to contestant safety. I mean that
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Speaker 1: whole suicide scene because they took her meds away, Like
53:29
Speaker 1: that's insane. There's so much. There's way more insanity on
53:32
Speaker 1: the show than that. It's incomparable. It truly isn't comparable. Um,
53:38
Speaker 1: There's sure there are things that we were like, oh
53:41
Speaker 1: he that's crazy. They must they must have done that
53:43
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53:53
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54:06
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54:15
Speaker 1: I've none of our producers are like that. They are
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54:25
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54:27
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