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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Terumah-Humility and Foundation: Lessons from the Mishkan 2.20.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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Part out to Ruma as a bunch of themes.
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Let's see which one. We try to figure out which ones
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are the most powerful for us. So pull out a few and see which
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one sticks. I'm on my diversion.
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We're shilling more the better. Benet sell the Kumi to Ruma.
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Speak the Jewish people and take from me to Ruma, which is
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donations or donation Med collision.
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She is vanilli Bo from all the people whose heart pushes them
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together. Take kua tuma T you should take
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my tuma. So this is of course the opening
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of getting dedication duration to the building of the Mishkan.
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And the first word is dabe, second pursuit, The first word
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is dabe. Dabe means in this context, it
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means speak to them and convince them.
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So the Ballotini writes, opening understanding of the beginning
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of getting any money. Fundraising from obviously
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required convincing. He says that to expect people to
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give them money even for the sake of a Mishkar, even for the
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sake of building a hall of Hashem, it required some degree
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of rinsing. And if I yes, why?
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Because anything that has his own keys, anything that cost
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people money requires them to be convinced is what he told us.
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Interesting thing to open up the the building of the mesh garden
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with this idea. But I guess the theme is, is
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that every, every single person, no matter what it is, the inside
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tells us, it's hard to give a charge to give.
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Now think about the background. They were given all this gold
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and silver by God himself. All the gems were miraculously
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given to them. It's not that hard to give away.
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By the way, they hardly have a purpose for this gold and silver
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right now in the desert. We're going to do with it.
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Even so, to expect a person to give is challenging and
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therefore you have to go to fight the, it said.
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I was convincing the person. Then the Basu gives the word the
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kuli teruma kaija please and. What does the Teduma there have
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to do with the Teduma that we gave to the La Reina?
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Yeah. Nothing, just the word.
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Give a word. Say there's a new.
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Connected Luma leads over here portion, right?
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It's an interesting word, by the way, for donations to Luma Neva
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Brasha because you know, you couldn't use the word that will
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take for me donations take for me gifts.
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Why use the word to the ma? So before let's analyze one
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other word vehicle and take in that word.
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There are two parts. First of all, the and and take
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the and hints to the fact that something happened before you
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took. What was that?
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Before you take for the people, I want you to make sure before
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you get any gifts that mine is in the right place.
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More important than the gifts, in fact, is the heart.
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So we who means first I need the heart to be in the right place.
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Then I want the gift secession. And then you have the word
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that's The Who. And then you have the word tuma.
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Tuma means, like you said, donation.
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But it's a funny word. I couldn't use the word nadava.
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What is tuma? Also me.
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It means no ma'am elevation now sham is saying tell the Jewish
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people like we said, get past the Itzara Kim instant.
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That's worth it to give make the heart come around the Yuku and
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then take take elevation. Make them elevate their money,
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elevate their their stuff. Make them realize that they make
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they take putting their things in a whole new level.
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Man call You should eventually borrow from every person's heart
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wealthy give take whatever. I think you should take the
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donation and then the Basu talk about the items I need to be
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gifted. It talks about the gold.
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Let's see the items on the list. It says take Zahav Kestein from
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the Bush. It gold, silver and copper tail.
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It vagamar Plachani Shesh Vizim. It says the total sounds like 15
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really means 30 items. And the Basuk says, Vasui
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Mikdash builds me a Mikdash and I'm going to dwell over there.
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So this is the opening of the building of the restaurants.
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It opens with convincing. So why does it say but how not?
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But the whole, you never heard the class against the people.
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Oh, the answer is, is that the shahina doesn't really rest
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simply in the building. It rests inside of us.
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So long as we made those donations, we had that heart.
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We came with the gifts, we came with the excitement and the
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shahina rests inside of US. That's why the Toham means
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amongst us fight that's open to the parishop.
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Now the key, I was wondering, looking over this parishop, what
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are the key messages of this parishop?
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So I'll tell you a few, just a quick roundup.
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The first one is, is that in this specific topic, intention,
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your mindset is key. What your motivation is, is more
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important than anything else. And the basuk says take for me
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to Dumar or she says it means leshmi hassmi leshmah has the
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right attention, which means building the mishkan is not good
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enough. It was built to the wrong
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attention. Intention from the start is key.
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That's Part 1 you see over here #2 A second message you see is
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the humility is key. What do you see humility in this
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picture? Well, there's three tutumas, a
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few tutumas. The basuks are the word tutuma 3
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times. There were three collections,
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Margazite de Shekel, Margazite de Shekel and they collected
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that twice and then there was a collection of all the items, the
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gold, the silver and the different jewels by the
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Valhazite de Shekel. Every person had to give a half
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a shekel right Those two nobody's name was noticed.
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No one got specific mention, no exactly no one gave more or
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less. Everyone gave the exact same out
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those two, the third one, the gold, the silver, all the
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different colors and all the different jewels.
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Those if you will steer, you gain more.
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If you're poor, you gave less, right?
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Happens. To me by the 1st 2 which like we
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said I forgave the same amount. Those two it says the word take
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for me God connects his name to the first two donations.
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He doesn't connect his name by Shem to the last white because
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the first two were no names attached and no honor attached.
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It was all humility. Hashem says, I'm going to link
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my name to that. The last one, the gold, the
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silver, the diamonds, the jewels, those all beautiful, but
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I'm not going to link my name to that.
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It's going to be part of the building of the Mishkan, but
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it's not going to have my name attached to the Hashem says,
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because that's going to have some degree of some people get
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more, some people go less, a little more arrogance, a little
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more coverwood. And because of that, Hashem
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says, I'm not going to put my Lee, my Leech, me, my connection
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to my name to the last donation, to the last cinema as much as I
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am to the first two. This is again an indication that
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humility is is key when it comes to the nation.
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And one more step to this point. How has that resonated today?
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Because you build our buildings or you put the names of the
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buildings. So I'll tell you in a non
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building manner in a second. One last point is that these
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Mahasita Shekhar, right, they use those collections what they
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use them for, They take the Shekali, they melted them and
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they made sockets. The sockets were uses the
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foundation to hold the beams to hold the walls of the Mishkan,
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which meant that those original collections which were as we're
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calling the humble collection because no name was special,
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that humble collection became the sockets which was the
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foundation of the walls holding off the Mishkar, which shows you
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to me, you chose me. That humility is where Hashem,
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like we said Hashem connects his name to that one.
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Part 1. And secondly, humility is what
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God considers the foundation of his building of his home where
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the Shaheenares and I was thinking about this yesterday.
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I said, what am I going to pull out as a key message from Al
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Bashaw regarding life today And David, David's asking because
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David's trying to go into the building.
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He said the shoes and the names of the shoes.
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I wish that I hate that. All right, I'm with you on
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therefore you set us up on that. OK, I'm going to try to use this
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approach and try to switch it from shoes over to homes and try
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to switch it from buildings over to our families and say like
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this. What I schema is telling you
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with the first collection being a humble collection and making
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that the one that has God's name attached to it, that the one
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that has a sockets which hold up the beam.
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I believe he's telling you this. You want to have a foundation to
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your home. You need to have humility.
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You need to be able to tell yourself it's not about my name
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or my opinion or me being right or we always, always getting the
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last word. Instead, I'm humble, I don't
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fight, I don't get upset. I let things go.
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I let things fly. That you really gives you the
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ability to build a home. So I was never saying that I'm
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going to use the Valhasita Shekhar, the humble collection
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as the sockets, as the foundation to build that my
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home. Telling you if you want to build
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your own, you want to have the Shakira in your home, you need
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to have that sort of mindset of being a Valhasita Shekhar.
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Because I think it's the mindset, all right?
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And I think it's extremely important and hard to come by.
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And that is for a person to consider themselves like a
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magazine shekel, which means they consider themselves just
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another half. They're half and behold, and I
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have to think themselves. Each shekel was 1/2, right?
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Wasn't a full shekel for a person to say to themselves, you
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know, it's not about my opinion per SE.
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It's not about me being right. It's not about me being louder.
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It's not about me, you know, me taking my stance and being
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strong in my stance to have that humility helps the Serena
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Congress in your home, all the measurements we have well, in
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many of the measures. Exactly.
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I don't want to set your hand right, right.
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It's a it's a mindset of humility.
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Just to play this out a little further, the Adani are the words
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for sockets. I don't.
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It's also a master. The clear car says when a
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person's humble, he will be, you know, the foundation of the
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home. He'll create a foundation to his
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home stronger. He'd also, in a certain sense,
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be the one who's in full control of his home.
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Because when you're willing to be humble, when you're willing
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to, you know, handle things and take the brunt of it, not get
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upset, not get insulted, not fight back, all that and you're
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going to eventually be the master, not a strong, powerful
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master type way. You can eventually be the master
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in a sense that you will have the right control of the home
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that you want to have. You will have the right
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direction of the home that have people believe, people believe
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broadly that the way you get control is by seizing control.
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And anything in your company, in your business, and you should in
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your home. When you take your stance, you
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seize control until you gain control.
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The reality is the exact opposite.
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The way you seize control is by being humble.
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The way you seize control is by letting certain things fly.
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You're picking and choosing which things fly.
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All right, I think this is the idea.
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This is one of the themes I was looking over the past shot.
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Really yesterday I was a bet again most of the day I looked
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over the past shot. I was trying to figure how am I
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going to speak whatever. So right.
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So this is one of the themes that I found to be key and that
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is that, you know, you want to build the whole I was, it's
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funny, I was I was sitting in my house.
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All right, That's why I came to mind.
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And my own bunch of little kids, Thank God, it's humming.
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It's the, you know, one kids crying, workers laughing, one is
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screaming because this regular classic situation.
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And I'm like completely, you know, incapable of doing
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anything. My in my room with the door
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locked, one of those. And I'm just thinking to myself,
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this is not as the whole thing came together.
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I'm thinking to myself like, you know, you got to really realize
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how much it's a a two person team and you have to realize how
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much you know, you don't overdo your ability and your own
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strengths and believe that you're full control.
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This is what you realize. This is I think the theme that
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will take from our shot is the idea.
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All right, so so far 2 concepts. The first one is that the
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intentions when it came to the Mischa were key.
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Hashem says I want good attention.
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And secondly, I'm telling you that the ability is the most
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generous donation of all. The humility 1 is the one that I
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shall use, the one that came with a person understanding.
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And it's not about me. I'm not always right.
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I'm not always the one that's the one that's more successful.
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And I'll be seeing one more theme.
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See me one last thing with this. In the Mishkan they used, I'd
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say she team. What's I'd say she team.
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It was a word. The word was called the cedar
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word. This word, the madar says, was
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only created in the world for the sake of the Mishkan, its
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entire purpose of the world. I don't think it's regular cedar
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wood that we have today, its entire purpose in the world, but
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for the sake of the Mishka, that's a purpose.
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The rabbi say, why would what's special about this word?
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Well, it's a extremely sturdy wood.
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It's a kind of wood that's very sturdy.
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It'll never break, never bend, never anything.
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All right, that's what they should.
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So what's the what's the message in using this type of wood as
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the wood for the makeup of Sarna Killian in the Mistrum?
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So I believe you take these two points to mention that we're
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saying about the sockets and the point about the wood.
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I put them together, which is in the one hand, a person needs to
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be humble when it comes to their home.
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They need to be forgiving. They need to be looking the
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other way. They need to be able to overcome
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certain things. You need to have that much
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through that you gain control of what you want, you gain control
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of what's right, etcetera. At the same time, you do need to
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have a certain degree of that's stubborn, it's the wrong word.
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You need to have a certain degree of stability, which means
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even though you look the other way and you accept everything
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and you build the home on the mindset that we forgive.
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At the same time, there are certain things that you tell
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yourself. You tell your wife, we don't
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waver all these things. There are certain beliefs that
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we don't question. We have certain things we taught
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ourselves. Here's that.
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We have a line, we don't allow it to cross.
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We're a stopper in these areas and these areas were strong.
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This is really the combination of process.
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To have under one end, he needs to be very bendable, very easy
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to let things go. On the other hand, he's going to
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be very sturdy and very strong in those certain areas.
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And this combination is what built Al Mishkan.
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There was really the sockets and the wood.
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So that are the 2. It's it's grows in dry top
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desert conditions. Which was those cedar 18?
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Yeah. OK.
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Does it say that it's sturdy? Yeah.
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I see a. Poor.
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Car you got childhood it's such yeah in fact all about the
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that's a heat this the work really needed right yeah cool oh
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so there's another message sensation to you guess yes yeah
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things we got one second 100% so first just to play these two
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points out because it might be my speech tomorrow if it works
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out and that is the sockets are built on the mindset about not
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being arrogant and the person of each understanding of being
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humble that became the foundation and the strength and
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the walls. The Mishkan were built on the
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other hand of a sturdiness about sexual team.
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Those are the two things where a person has to have an old home,
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they have to be bendable but strong.
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They have to be overlooking things but have certain things
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they don't let pass. That is the mindset and you know
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what happens, Like we said, you want to be a master, you want to
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be in control, you want to be powerful, not in the arrogant
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crazy way. You want to be a master of
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control, powerful and the way that you want, which is it's
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something that brings out the proper outcome for your family.
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You get that Are you bendable? Here are when you're strong here
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you get that when you cave on most things, but you have
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certain things you don't let go. That's where you get it.
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That's the idea. All right, do that make sense?
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That's the concept, you know, fight now to what Avi mentioned,
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which is a classic Medasha where she says where this wood come
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from the word Russia brings. Madar says Yaqua Vinu told the
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Jewish people and they were leaving Egypt, take these cedar
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trees with you. We leave with time after he
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passed, before he passed away, he told them that where he get
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them from. Madar says Yaqua Vinu was
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travelling and he stopped in Beresheva.
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He stopped in Beresheva and he picked off the cedar trees from
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Beresheva. Why were they in Beersheba?
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Says Amidash. Because Avrahama Vinu had
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planted the cedar trees in Beersheba.
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It's been Madash. What's it telling you?
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What you no idea What's it telling you?
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I think it's telling you there are two messages telling you to
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1 end the thing we told you earlier.
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When something is built on good intentions, something will
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remain forever. The Mishkan's word, the main
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material to allow it to thrive, was built by Abrahamavino Coit
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Desmodars, which means it was built by a person.
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The material itself had perfect intentions.
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Because of that, the Mishkan's main ingredient was built on a
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person who had great way of thinking.
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And you have that as your formidable building.
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You're going to Lance, you're going to last forever.
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I said she Team Omdeem the the cedar wood stands and we're told
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that the Vishkan, unlike the Bethel Mcgosh Vishkan never got
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destroyed and only got buried. Why didn't he get destroyed?
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Maybe because it had such an unbelievable original makeup and
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it tells us to the original point.
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Why are some what that the Vishkan be built with the good
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intentions, the donation be given with the good intentions?
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Why I shouldn't care the vehicle that have to give with our
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mindset, because if you give it with the right mindset, you make
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it that from the very, very beginning, even the donation
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before the construction project gets started, even the simple
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donation has the right for your mind.
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That makes the building stronger, that makes the
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structure stronger and makes it more powerful.
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That's the idea. So you have it with the
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Michigan's wood. You have it with the donations.
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Obvious. Oh, that's the idea that Madosh,
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the second message, that Madosh of the outcome that she says
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we'll close this, he says very simply.
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They are calling me, who did this?
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Why did he do this? There's a friend of mine, and
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that is he was preparing for the Mishkan.
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Here you have the Jewish people living in Egypt all these years,
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and they're living in the most sad situation.
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They're slaves. They think they're never getting
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out. And then they see these cedar
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trees, which are wood, being prepared for that Mishkan.
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He says that's it. They're probably thinking in
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that line, it's the craziest plant ever.
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We're going to have a Mishkan. Were you crazy?
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We're living in slavery. And the mindset was that a
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person has to live with hope. A person has to have a frame of
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mind that there's going to be a change.
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Things will come around, things will turn around.
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And that's the frame of mind that I Mesel had in the Mid Siam
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Basin. Alcohol being a planting these
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cedar trees. So it happens to be, it plays
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it. Our month, the month of our
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daughter, the month of our daughter is a mindset that
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things will always turn around. Things always carry hope.
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And that's really the message of that badash of that idea.
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OK, so we said a few, a few ideas for Al Pradashan.
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I believe that makes some sense. Like I told you, he's a preparer
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to bed. But the ideas are #1 the Lee
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starters, excuse me, The bed. You have to convince people when
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you're expecting a donation from people, you have to understand
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that they're giving from their pocket.
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Does he yet? Sarah telling them not to give
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as to convince them to change their minds and fight the it's a
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rangid #2. The most important donation that
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Hashem wanted was the heart. Was the dedication more than the
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money? That's the vehicle.
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And before I get the gifts, I need something beforehand.
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And then there's the angini and that is the heart #3 the mindset
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of to Numa. They can elevate themselves and
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the money when they give. And we explain that the most
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important gift before the gold and silver was the general one
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that everyone gave the same because that coward humility.
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You had humility. You have foundation, you have
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structure and you have ultimately you have power,
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right? That's yeah, you have power with
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humility. Then we went on to talk about
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the fact I'm just reviewing in my mind the fact that the main
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structure, main material was cedar trees and cedar was
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suddenly it's very sturdy. So on the one hand, we're
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telling you to be be bendable now that we're telling you to be
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sturdy, you know how it works. You're bendable in a few most
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areas, but you you're stubborn and a few and that creates a
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strong foundation to be a home and you gain control of those
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areas when you act that way. That's how it works, right?
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And then we adjusted AB mentioned the badash which is
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which is which is that the badash says ADC.
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It came from that core came from a hump.
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And we explained as because you want a very strong original
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mentality to build it. You want the right mindset to
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build it. And secondly, because you want
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that hope is the ideas. Just throwing a little thing
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that I was keeping in mind. Yeah.
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So like I said in bed, is that the, you know, there's more news
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calling out the royal fam owner, all right.
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And you have to, like I say, laugh, but it's a little bit
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classic right now. All right?
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They have more scandal than they have royalty right now.
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And it's the mindset is they have so many rules of how to
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act, have so many rules of decorum in that royal world,
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Correct? If you look it up, there are
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1,000,000 rules of how they have to, you know, talk to other
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people, how they have to dress, how they go out, how they
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travel. There's a million and a half
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rules. And yet somehow, some way it may
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create for more royalty, but it's not creating for more royal
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people. That's pretty clear, correct?
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Incorrect. I'm just taking this as a
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message, and that is that you have to have rules on the
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inside. You can't just have external
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rules. You have that rules on the
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inside. OK, we'll stop with this.