Latest / Shared Light / Ep. 30 - So Now the Internet is the Judge?
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- Dustie & JR: Greetings all. Welcome to another episode of Shared Light with Dustie and JR. I am obviously JR. And I'm Dustie. little bit of disclaimer, right at the start today. Yeah. We've got puppies. we don't have a dedicated studio. And the puppies are very playful, very active right now. So you may hear some puppy noises in the background. We hope not, but you know, is life and We gotta keep going the way we keep going, right? Yep. how was your week? Busy. Yeah. So as we mentioned, puppies takes a lot of work. my beautiful wife has been really just owning the puppies. Mama is very much starting to wean them off. So she's not Got little sharp teeth now, so Yeah, so she's not feeding them as much. Whoa. Whoa. One of 'em's mad. So, yeah. You have been really just moving dogs around, feeding puppies. Yeah. 'Cause mom and baby are are still separated from our other two, so it what's constantly switching them out and so it doesn't leave a lot of time for much. but in between that time you do have a few moments of dead time which lead to the inevitable scroll. And you can't see if you're watching online, you can't see Mama in the background trying to get comfortable. She's trying to get her bed. But yeah, it takes leads to a few moments of scrolling here and there. Yeah. when I'm feeding puppies or so that kind of segues us into our topic for today. social media, society, something that we all and I will say a good majority of people are actively looking at things on social media, even if they're not necessarily a part of social media. Yeah. Even if they don't engage or comment or but that does beg The narrative I would say, you know, as a society, myself included, we have become incredibly comfortable forming narratives around people's lives from what we see on social media. Yep. we see a clip, we see what people are posting, a deleted post, a facial expression, whatever it may be. Right. And suddenly we think we know what's happening with people. Yeah. which I wanna add in that regardless of who your favorite influencers and who your favorite relationship experts are who whoever, us included. Yeah. You're really only seeing what we're choosing to let you see. Right. Yeah, you're seeing thirty seconds out of or in our case, maybe thirty minutes, forty minutes of a week. Yeah. Yeah. and not to say that we don't have a great relationship because we but I think the problem is And I would say it's a problem just because people like to form narratives. And the reality of it is we really have zero idea what's going on in other people's lives. Yeah. you don't even know that what you're seeing or they they're choosing to put out is real. Right. Right we see I mean, we watch a lot of documentaries, so we see constant documentaries on people that are Essentially living this lavish lifestyle, just frauding people. But that's not the point of the episode, right? we come from I like to call us we're in a relationship slash marriage space. really just allowing people to get to know us, our views, our relationship. If we can help some people along the way, we do. Right. we like to just really dive into all the dynamics that go into relationships, how work affects it, how Life affects it. but The issues that we choose not to share with the world are our issues. Yeah. And that is yeah, and that is going to be the same for every like for anybody that's in social media. Right. They're going to choose to share some things and they're going to choose to not share others. and there's a real spiritual and relational cost. to becoming spectators and judges of other people's lives. Yeah. Which we can all engage in it. Yeah. It's something that is not so far out of the realm that I don't imagine that at some point in your day you're not actively judging something for whatever reason. Yeah. so the question then becomes it's not even a question, but the reality is we really think as a society that we know people. Yeah. Especially if they're sharing information with us. Yeah. Via social media. I think that people start to think that they're owed explanations and They're owed every aspect because they do follow them and they have followed them for a long time and they engage or they comment and they whatever it may be, there's like an entitlement I think that people have. and so they believe that they should have those answers. They should know exactly what is going on at all times with those people. Right. Yeah, it's that whole well I'm supporting you, so you need to tell me what's going on. Yeah. Almost like you answer to them, but you really you don't. You don't. which does beg the question. Again, I fall into this trap all the time. we have talked we have had discussions about it, you and I. But I wanna ask the listeners, and just think about it as you're listening to the podcast today, how many, whether it be marriages, relationships, parenting parenting, friendships, whatever it may be. How many have you judged this week that you really don't know anything about? You think you do. Yeah. But you really don't. Yeah. And not just social media, but friendships in your life, people you work with. family even your sister, your cousin, your Yeah. I mean 'cause let's take the example of Dustie and I. for our regular listeners, you listen to us once a week. You may be following us on social media, seeing some of my beautiful wife's posts, because I don't really post to it all that often, if at all. And you start to form this idea in your head of what our marriage is like, what we're going through. And we're pretty transparent and letting people know that we're going through a season right now. Yeah. We've had a lot of challenges. Yeah. But You see us online and you see our relationship and you hear how we talk about our relationship and all of a sudden we're like this destination or goal that people are trying to achieve. Yeah, relationship goals. Right. That's what people say. but what happens if we fall off the face of the earth for a month or two? Yeah. Or even just say we're taking a break. Right. Because we're struggling. Right. All of a sudden, because we're in social media space, I gather to venture a guess that in that instance people start making up narratives. All of a sudden now we're toxic. Yeah. We're getting a divorce. Yeah. Somebody's cheating. Somebody's unhappy. Somebody's control somebody's all of this stuff that fits whatever idea you have of us. Right. Or whatever perception you have of what we speak about. And you have all of these ideas just because we've decided to take a break. Yeah. Underlying issue may be what's happening right now, right? Puppies are busy. Right. We don't have time to record. Or we're struggling with motivation, like we talked about. Right, right. So it's I mean, there's a lot of different things that go into it that you really just don't know. No. Even if you think you know. So why are we even talking about it? why does it matter? what is driving our conversation? Well, again, I mentioned in the beginning that you have been doing some scrolling. I scroll but a lot of stuff I scroll is very Directed at the stuff that I like. So Yeah. Fortnite. Yeah. Knives. Knives. motivation stuff. we watch some podcast clips and episodes. Yeah. but my wife is a little bit more tuned in to social media trends and whatnot. Yeah, I usually scroll TikTok. and I guess our TikTok We just kinda get a lot of everything. It's not really focused on one thing or the other, but that's one of the hot topics is what's going on right now So yeah, I really wanna discuss this because I had zero idea before today and I'll let you explain it when we get there. But there is evidently a couple named Dalton and Sako who have been huge in multimedia. Huge in social media. they are essentially in the same space that we're in. Relationship, family. They share their life. Right. and I'll let you kind of discuss the situation. because and we'll go into why we're very intrigued by this whole situation. And it's not really directed at anything that they're doing because I think No And we're not trying to determine or figure out what's going on with their lives or their marriage or whatever. Yeah, at the end of the day we it doesn't affect us. It doesn't no, we don't have an opinion either way, but we're talking more about what we do as viewers or their audience, when we don't know the whole story. So they they share their life on social media and they have a huge following. and it's usually positive and happy and they have a good relationship. and then he posted a video of him talking about he was, down and depressed and his mom has terminal cancer and he's struggling with something else personally. and that's really all he said. the gist of it. but Then it just blew up because everybody formed their opinion and filled in those blanks of what they thought was going on. So all of a sudden now it was he abused his wife. somebody cheated, they're getting divorced, she left. and he hasn't come out and said exactly what happened, and he may not. That's his right. but the point of it is How quickly and how viral it all went with everybody's assumptions. Which I do wanna point out that and we touched on it when we talked about Jelly Roll and Bunnie Mm-hmm. People were real quick to just create all of these crazy narratives. Yeah. And it feels like a lot of the time social media turns uncertainty into narratives that they believe are a hundred percent certain. Yeah. But I do want to draw attention to the fact that we've talked about it. I don't care who you are in this world and how great your life is, there are seasons to everyone's life. Yep. And they just so happen to be going through one. Whatever that may be. Yeah. And again, for us, it's not what's happening with them. They are going through their season. They have whatever is going on in their world. Yeah. And all we can do is hope for the best. Yeah. I mean, I personally think I don't have the right to know. Right. That's not my business. Right. If he chooses to share it, that's up to him. but if they don't I'm not entitled to know or start creating narratives just because I don't know. Which really just begs the question why are we so desperate to know what's happening inside of somebody else's marriage or life or world or relations like what yeah is the appeal when you've got your own thing going on? Yeah. I you have your own life, you have your own relationships, you have your own struggles, you have your own Yeah, I mean, it's great to see a lot of these uplifting and positive messages and get some ideas or get some tools. And again, that is the goal for us is to be able to put a message out there that people can just take bits and pieces from that apply to their life and maybe have a different view or perspective or whatever it may be. But We are cognizant of the fact that we are not experts. We are cognizant of the fact that we're only gonna share what we wanna share with you. Yeah. And but we're also cognizant of the fact that There's gonna be people out there that think that we're just full of it or that it's not true or we don't know anything. Right. Which is fine. That's their their right, their opinion. I think that maybe people use it as well I mean social media is a distraction anyway, but getting so heavily involved in what other people are posting in their lives and their personal matters is a distraction maybe from what they have going on personally. Yeah, and it could be. I mean the reality of it is the internet hates hates empty space. Yeah. So he said it's like it's like anxiety if if there's silence It will create all the narrative so that there is certainty. Yeah, they create information. Uh-huh. which you gotta ask yourself, right? Like, when was the last time you seen somebody post something that says, pray for us? All the time. Yeah. And all of a sudden and I'm guilty of it. they call it chisme in Spanish, right? Like I want the chisme. I wanna know what's happening. I wanna know what's going on. I wanna know all the the juicy little details. Our oldest is all about the chime. But there is a subsect of people that drive that narrative and all of a sudden now it's someone's getting divorced. somebody's dying. somebody's this or that or whatever. Yeah. Or I mean let's say again, if I all of a sudden start posting on our social media and it's just me. Yeah, and I'm not in it. I'm not in the video or you do a podcast by yourself. Or yeah. Or I post something and Dustie looks mad or I look mad in the background or whatever maybe. Well I got RBF though. So that doesn't really count. Yeah, I kinda do too. And I find myself when I'm watching our videos back of our podcasts I space out a lot. But it's because I'm thinking because these aren't like scripted or we don't follow a script and so in my back of my mind I'm I'm thinking off of what you're saying. So I can see myself on our YouTube videos and I look spaced out. But but that's a sidebar. But yeah, I mean you start seeing noticing that and it starts, being a little bit more routine or more two or three posts in a row and all of a sudden, God, their marriage is falling apart. god, they're getting their divorce. Yeah. god. They're separated. They're yeah. Or you post something terrible And now everybody wants to know what's going on. Like it's that it's that whole Yeah. It's like that car wreck thing, right? everybody wants to see the car wreck. Right. But nobody wants to be in the car wreck. Yeah. But again, it's and you put it I mean just so perfectly. It really is like anxiety where you start connecting all of these dots to make up something that makes sense in your brain. Yeah. And all of a sudden it's this is exactly what it is. Yeah, this is exactly what it has to be because my brain just figured it out. It connected all these dots. So that has to be And actually we just watched a documentary last night. where And I don't want to get too in the weeds on the documentary watch, but they were investigating something. some stuff happened. They were investigating it. They weren't able to get information out fast enough, so then the internet started to take over and now they're getting all of this misinformation and so many narratives that came out about and in an investigation like that, you're they're not giving out information because they have to keep their their investigation tight. Yeah. But I think the thing we forget and I think the biggest confusion that there is is I think people confuse access with intimacy. Just because you're yeah you're following somebody and you are actively invested in their social media, content, whatever it may be, does not mean that you intimately know that person. No. I mean like us, right? We we share our life, for the most part with as best we can with people. Yeah. But we don't know people don't really know a whole lot. No. unless you're in like our universe in our inner circle or whatever it may be. Yeah. But watching someone's marriage or watching somebody's relationship, watching the way somebody interacts. doesn't necessarily make you a member of that. Yeah. being invited into somebody's content is not the same thing as being invited into their life. Their life. Yeah. Especially their private life. And I'm then like I say, this applies everywhere. it doesn't just apply to people on social media. This applies to life in general. Yeah, the people you work with, the The people you interact with that you think you know, but you're not really that close with. but we do it. And again, I am guilty of this too. Like we do it with friends, we do it with family. I've got Two little brothers that I don't talk with a whole lot. We're not in each other's lives that way. But sometimes I think to myself, well, they should be doing this or they should be doing that. And it's like that's not my place. Yeah. Because I don't know what their struggles are. No. And when you're not in someone's daily life like that. I think and it's not always in a bad way. that you're making assumptions or you're making judgments. I feel like for me, for us even, we have all this knowledge and we do have over twenty years together, and have been through so many things and been able to work through so much that I find myself looking at friends or family or people online that are struggling maybe in their marriage or and so I judge them in a way that well, I can help or I can, there's things that you can do to to help that situation and fix that. but that's not my place either. Right. That's not anything that involves me. That's just my own judgment. Well, and it's really easy, to expand on that a little bit. It's really easy to see things from your perspective. Mm-hmm. So I'm coming at this problem with twenty years of experience through this, this, this, this. This person may be coming to it from a year or two or and it's just a different life circumstance, different life challenges. we have not walked in each other's shoes to really know how they are going to take something that I may take differently, or vice versa. Right. But the thing is, is even as people Share snapshots. That is not the whole story. Ever. No. That's a tiny little snapshot of their life. But what I find almost amusing at times. Because those of you that know me know that I really just very nonchalantly do not absorb people's opinions of what I do with my life or whatever it may be. Right. I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do. I don't really care. And Not in a negative way, but I'm not concerned with other people's opinions of the things that they don't agree with, if it's something that I am truly passionate about or wanna do, right? Yeah. So I'm amused when I hear the counter arguments when you start talking to people, why does it matter? why do you think you have a right to say or whatever it may be? To know. Yeah. the argument inevitably is gonna be, Well, they chose to put it online. Yeah. They chose to share their life, so they need to share every tiny little aspect. And that's not true. Yeah. Absolutely not true. And well and I will, put a disclaimer on that, that if you do put your marriage on the internet, people are allowed to have an opinion. I mean, people are allowed to have opinions about anything. Right. They have an opinion about seeing you in a grocery store. Right, right. Depending on what you're wearing. But the key difference is there is a difference between having an opinion and creating a narrative about somebody's life. Yes. Which Especially with this Dalton and Sako thing, right? Like everybody is fine to have an opinion of what they think is going on. Yeah. But the fact that they are creating narratives about it, that is a little out of line. Yeah. Yeah, I think I have more of an opinion about it. A personal opinion of more like maybe they are struggling and that's worrisome or maybe I'm concerned about it a little bit. But I don't go to the lengths of creating narratives about it. Maybe someone cheated or maybe it was all for show everything that they're posting is fake or Yeah. Yeah. I mean there's a that's not my place. There's a huge difference between coming at it from, that that video was very concerning as opposed to yeah, he made that video because he's super controlling or Yeah. She's leaving him or he's leaving her or whatever, right? Yeah. And I'm sure people do that. I've seen it on social media where people will post those kind of videos because they know they're gonna go viral. Yeah. And they make money. That's that's why you say you don't even know what's going on in people's lives because some of it is not real. Well, and the way you approach it, one definitely acknowledges the uncertainty, the other one pretends to know. Yeah. and Really it's Why would you pretend to know when you really don't know? I mean, I guess I don't see that side of it, even though I have fallen victim to it a few times where I've been that person that's like, yeah, this is definitely what's going on. But generally that's like narratives with things that are going on that affect me. Because now I've got the little bit of anxiety surrounding whatever's going on. Yeah. other people Yeah, I may have an opinion, but it doesn't deal in certainty. I don't feel like generally that I'm one to be like, yeah, that's definitely what's happening. Yeah. I might say well I think this is probably what's happening, but yeah. maybe this happened or maybe that happened, but Yeah, I mean I could speculate all day long, but Yeah. To put it out there and start Preaching the gospel about it is is a little far. Yeah. Yeah. well then there's that usually you touched on, right? Like sometimes people do things just to go viral. And just to get those they call it clickbait. And that is when concern becomes entertainment. I feel like. Yeah. Because what is the point with concern becoming consumption? Like why? There's one thing to be genuinely concerned about somebody. Like in this instance, I don't wanna pretend that I know who they are. I don't wanna pretend that I know what they're going through. But as another human being, I hope whatever is going on, if something's going on, is they're okay and their family's okay. Yeah. But I'm not gonna be like constantly refreshing the updates and looking in the comments to see if they've said anything or looking at old videos to try and figure out well maybe this is where it derailed or because at that point, you're becoming obsessive over an answer of something that really just does not I mean, the reality of it is it does not concern you. No, it's not your business. They think it's their business though, because they think they're owed that. Well then yeah, that goes back to the whole entitlement thing that you talked about at the beginning where Yeah. people feel entitled because they're sharing their lives and they're celebrities or whatever it may be, but they're people. bottom line, they're people. Yep. I hear a lot about it and this is kind of a different segue, but we've mentioned that we're wrestling fans, right? So you see it a lot when people get all up in arms when they approach a wrestler at a hotel or at a airport or out in the public. Yeah, they're not at work. Yeah. And yes, they're public figures and yes they they should anticipate fans. Fans. Yeah. But they're but they're also entitled to say no. And they're entitled to just live their life. Right. They're not working. They're not if you see out at a grocery store Or whatever it may be, they're not entitled to stop and take a picture with you and talk to you or Yeah. I mean, it's like you're entitled to acknowledge the fact that they're a celebrity. Yeah. But if in that moment they acknowledge, hey, yeah, thanks for whatever, but I'm not working or whatever, right. Then that it should be at the end of it. But my gosh, I see people get so up in arms. Yeah. Over he was this or he was now all of a sudden he's a jerk and he's rude and he's we had that encounter at the hotel when we went to WWE. Yeah. Yeah, we ran into a few wrestlers. Yeah, and we ran into Nick Aldis at our hotel. And we were right behind him in line at the little market in there. And we just I I think you just said was an amazing show tonight or something and he acknowledged and said thanks and but we didn't really feel entitled to just fangirl over him, or ask him for this and ask him for a picture and an autograph and a this and a that. and I think there's a situate time. Well and I think there's a situation where some people are gonna be okay with it and they're they're gonna reciprocate that comment. But in the moment, like he had just gotten off of work. He's like he's at his hotel, like coming to relax. And and we just happened to be in the same hotel. It's not like we were stalking anybody or anything. No. we actually saw like I said, we saw a lot of we didn't know that they were staying at that hotel. No. But yeah, I mean if it would have been a different reaction from him after I told him that they had an amazing show, if it wouldn't have just been like a quick hey thanks or whatever. Yeah. Then maybe it It could have turned into that, but again, they're people. you don't want as a normal person out in the world, you don't want people coming up to you talking to you about work when you're buying groceries. You don't want somebody coming to your house asking you about this or that with work when you're trying to relax, right? Yeah. Like it's no different for celebrities, no different for social media influencer. It's not our place to expect anything from anyone. Yeah. And that's in life. People want to reciprocate you. Great. Yeah. But you're not entitled to anything in this world. But Specifically in social media, what ends up happening, and this is why I brought this up, is that I've seen videos where you get all of these people start talking about, this wrestler was a jerk. We went up to him at the hotel or we went up to him at the airport and like he was he refused to sign an autograph or refused this or that but and then you've got the comment section. Yeah. People feeding off of each other. Yeah. I imagine in this Dalton and Sako thing, it's the same thing. Like I'm sure the comments are all of a sudden well now something seems off and you got the second person that's gonna buy into it. wait, I noticed that too. I noticed this and I noticed that. Did you see this? Yeah, and they all start Fanning that flame and then you've inevitably got the people, well I heard this. Yeah, then it starts well I heard or I read this somewhere. And It really just starts to snowball and get bigger and bigger and bigger. And before you know it, you have all of these different narratives. And again, tying back to that documentary we watched, in this specific instance, they were following leads on people that had nothing to do with the investigation. I mean, there I mean there was all sorts of stuff. Yeah. In this Dalton and Sako thing, I'm sure everybody is just certain that X, Y, Z is happening in their marriage. Yeah. And then it turns into everyone knows now. Like it's fact. Like it's this is exactly what they've figured it all out between the comments and the Well and the scary thing is that the more you repeat it, the more it does start sounding like fact. Mm-hmm. I mean, if you go and start telling people today that, two plus two is five. And it gets repeated, yeah. It gets repeated enough, like eventually everybody's gonna think that, my god, we've been doing math wrong this whole time. Yeah. And that is both a pro and con with social media for sure. Because it can quickly spread information. But it can also just as quickly spread misinformation. Yeah. so tying it back to, what we do, our space. This can really have real life effects on marriages and relationships. Yeah. because imagine you're watching somebody's marriage online. They see you laughing, much like us. Yeah. We state, we never have a fight. And then we all of a sudden disagree. And now it's man, their marriage is struggling. Or they see you post something romantic. We're going on a date, we're doing something And the comment section can quickly turn that ugly and start this whole well now they're just trying to prove to everybody that they're they're faking it. Yeah. Yeah. They're trying to make up for the fact that they're struggling or they're I mean the truth is you don't see the conversations that we have before we start filming. You don't see what happens after we we've done filmed. Yeah. Even when we do make mistakes, it's not I mean, you don't see the forgiveness, you don't see the tears that we've shed together. I mean, there's a lot of struggle that goes into a successful marriage. As with everything in life that's worth pursuing, right? There's struggle, there's challenge, there's adversity. And in most instances you don't see that through social media. Yeah. And I think especially in social media and influencers and stuff, you don't see even if they had a hard season or they struggled with something, you don't see the work that goes into their marriage or their relationship during that time and after that time to repair and we as a couple and on our podcast have just chosen to share how we've done that. Yeah. But that is not the norm. so you may see them disagreeing one day and then two days later they're happy and on a date and living life again, So Well and like even us when we're looking at other people's marriages, like we don't see all the work that they've put into it. We don't see what challenges they've had. It's like I said, it's real easy to see it from our perspective of, yeah, you guys just need to do this, or this can help, or whatever. Yeah. But I guess what I'm trying to say is like we really need to stop treating people like they're characters in a movie. Mm-hmm. Yep. They they're not emotional centerpieces. when somebody becomes popular online, we start treating them like this is their show. Like a T V show. Yeah. Yeah. And we assign the roles. Yeah. Like like in a T V show. Yeah. And then when things couple when things start living outside of this narrative, now it's they're miserable, or she's changed, or this or that. Yep. Again, we're all human. We're all inevitably flawed. Yep. Fundamental law of nature is that you are going to have flaws. Nobody in this world is born perfect, nobody lives a perfect life. It is only perfect because you believe it so. Yeah. And in Dalton and Sako's case they have children. Yeah, they're real people. Like they have families. They have You know our case we've got children. Just like parents, friends. Yeah, just like everybody else. Wounds. And things that they've worked through and things that they're they might be working through. again, it's not our place to even form any kind of narrative or even have an opinion on it, really. I don't even have an opinion on it because I know very little about it. But what I do know a lot about is the other side of it and that's the way the internet has reacted to all of it. And I think about and this probably happens a lot more as you get more popular because now you've got more people in that. More people watching you and invested in creating narratives. And again, we're not saying that I mean, we've never claimed to be religious or whatever, but the biggest takeaway I feel like from this whole episode should be that we really need to understand what practicing humility is when we don't know the whole story. Yeah. Assume less. Yeah. I mean have faith that. Everybody is experiencing life and struggles and Yeah. that there are seasons to everyone's journey. Yeah. And at the end of the day, don't repeat what you can't verify. Don't make somebody else's pain your entertainment. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's easy for me to look at those situations, even just within our family or friends or whatever, not just social media and just I I think automatically I'm just like I hope they can figure it out. No. You know, I wish them the best. I want them to be able to get through this season in their life. Yeah, I mean at the end of the day we both want everybody to win. Yeah. Whatever that looks like for them. Yeah. You know, sometimes the most loving thing we can say about somebody else's marriage or somebody else's relationship is, I really don't know. Yeah. Yeah, it's okay to not know. Some things you're not supposed to know. some things are actually private. But I really challenge our audience. To take a deep look and I mean just think to yourself. where am I doing this in my own life? Is it social media, is it friends, is it acquaintances, is it your kids, the teachers, I mean whatever you feel you can connect with. Because most of us aren't following Yeah. Dalton and Sako I'm not anyway. Yeah. Yeah, but you might be doing it with people in your life. People you work with. people at church. Yeah, the neighbors. The neighbors. My brothers. Yeah. Yeah. Because I think we're hardwired to be curious. Yeah. I think it's okay to be curious. I think it's when you start making those assumptions and making up narratives and making it your own. taking it on yourself. Like I have I have to know and I I'm gonna figure this out. That's where we need to look at, are we doing that with people in our lives? Yeah, I mean we don't have to be The judges of every situation in our life. No. So I mean I will question again the audience. what's one thing you want to become more careful about when consuming other people's lives online? Yeah. I mean, what's one thing you wish people understood about, marriage, relationships? life that they can't see from the outside. I mean your life specifically. Yeah. I'm there's a lot in mine. Yeah, there's so much to our story though. People don't know. Yeah. I mean you don't know what's happening behind somebody's front door. Again, and you don't know what conversations have happened before the picture that's on the wall. You don't know what they've survived. You don't know what they're working through. Yeah. so instead, maybe before we write a story for them, we should remember that it's their story. Yeah, not it's not ours to write. It's theirs. So Yeah, I mean I don't want somebody else writing our story. Or trying to. I don't know that anybody could. But Yeah. And that's huge, right? think about your own life. could somebody sit down and write your story? in its entirety? No. Because there's so much that we choose not to share because that's for us. So the question then becomes why do we do it to other people? Right? So Something to think about. It is something to think about. we did again just want to touch on not the narratives that are happening, but just the reaction. The reaction that the internet has had, the challenge for you to reflect and, think about just how it affects your life, how it affects the way you consume, how it affects some of the relationships that you have in your life, how it affects some of your perceived judgments on people. Because I could easily judge the person down the street for whatever reason when I drive by their house because I don't agree with whatever. I don't know the story though, right? Yeah, I mean it's it happens so often and sometimes you may not even know or you may catch yourself like oops that wasn't even my business. why am I thinking so much about it? All right. So yeah. 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