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Lessons - The Magic of Surrendering to Your Calling | Kute Blackson - Transformational Teacher · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, explore why searching for purpose often creates confusion rather than clarity.
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  Discover how reframing life as a process of growth removes pressure to find a single calling.
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  Understand why purpose emerges through action instead of overthinking,
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  and uncover how following curiosity, skill development, and service reveals direction over time.
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  Then following that path, how do we find, so now we've accepted that we're telling ourselves
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  lies, we're coming to terms with these, how do you find clarity on that thing, that one thing
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  you're meant to do? Because that is, if I even start to think about it, if I even start to say,
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  I don't like my job, or I don't like my relationship, that's fine. I can understand that,
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  and I can be realistic with myself about that. But then I think about the massive amount of things
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  that I could do instead of the job, or all of that, that's so vast.
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  Yeah, you're talking a bit about the theme around purpose now, in terms of
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  well, now you have to find our purpose. You can't leave people here, they're going to be stressed out,
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  they're going to be like, don't leave me in the in the free fall.
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  Okay, so I have a perspective around this. So I'm going to start, I'm going to start a bit from
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  the macro, and then I'm going to get very, very, very specific for people that will give them actionable
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  things, what, in terms of what to do. So I'm going to start saying, first off, stop seeking your
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  purpose. Stop seeking your purpose. The drive to find your purpose is actually taking you further
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  away from trying to find your purpose. And many times the ego, who we think ourselves to be,
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  are perceived sense of self and condition self that we attach to, the ego, the ego's job is to
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  reinforce its existence. And so one of the ways that ego reinforces its existence is to seek and
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  seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and seek and find my purpose and never find.
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  And so there's a part inside of us that really doesn't want to find our purpose, because if I
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  don't find my purpose, I don't have to live my purpose. And the seeking, the process of seeking
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  continues. And so I say, stop trying to find your purpose. On a spiritual level, number one,
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  recognize that you are a soul. You are a soul that incarnates into the human experience.
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  Your soul has incarnated and your soul having a human experience. You may have heard that before,
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  your soul having a human experience. And then the human experience, you incarnate into the
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  human experience in order to learn to grow to evolve. So to me, start seeing life, life itself is a
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  school. Life is an evolutionary school for the growth and evolution of your soul. Life is a
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  school for the evolution of your soul. And as a result, then every situation, every experience,
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  every relationship, everything you go through is part of the curriculum for your soul's evolution,
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  so that you can realize more of who you really are and so that you can learn those lessons and
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  grow and come into your most authentic self. And if you start seeing yourself as a soul and
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  understanding that are, if I'm a soul and I'm here to grow, then the real purpose, the real
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  ultimate purpose of life is to learn the lessons, to grow, to evolve and become your authentic
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  self and remember who you truly are beyond your programmed condition self, to remember your
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  essence, to remember your divinity, to remember that infinite spark, to remember your true
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  potential and power, if that's the purpose of life. Then your purpose isn't what you do, your
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  purpose is the degree to which you are learning and growing, no matter what you're doing. You can
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  be living your ultimate purpose, whether you're trash collector, a Formula One race car driver,
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  a podcaster, a stay at home mom, an author, an engineer, an electrician, working at
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  barista working Starbucks. That's what you do. You are not what you do. Your purpose on a deep
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  spiritual level is about evolution and any moment regardless of what you do, any moment,
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  you can be living your purpose, so long as you're growing and evolving and learning and asking
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  yourself, what is my soul seeking to learn it in this experience? What is my soul seeking to
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  understand in this situation? What is my soul attract this situation? What is my soul attract this
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  boss? What is the classroom that I'm in right now in this experience? And I think when we do that,
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  we are growing. When we do that, we are living the true purpose. And when we do that, we begin to,
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  when we learn those lessons, we begin to transcend the experience and we start attracting new
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  experiences to us. So your purpose can be live every moment that you're growing, learning and
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  evolving. That's the bigger level. Now on a human level, which is connected to your question,
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  but I wanted to set a bigger context to connect it to because I think we live on different levels
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  as souls and human beings. On a human level, stop seeking your purpose instead. So now what the
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  hell do I do? Okay, you can sit there and just try and figure out your purpose from the sidelines,
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  but life doesn't work that way. That is another can be another strategy of the ego to avoid
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  instead. Move in the direction. If you look, I don't know, okay, fair enough, but don't just sit there.
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  Move in the direction of what lights you up. Move in the direction of what turns you on. Move in
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  the direction of what sets your soul on fire. Move in the direction of what brings you joy. Just move
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  in the direction. You don't have to know where it's going to end up. You don't have to know where
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  you're going to get to exactly where you need to be because there's an intelligence inside of your
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  soul that knows it knows. So just go in the direction of like, I feel joy here. I feel the
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  liveliness here. I don't know where this is going to lead me. I don't even know how I'm going to
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  make money here, but at least start navigate rather than just sitting and going, I don't know.
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  And then 10 years go by. Go in the direction. Stop moving in the direction. You start moving in
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  the direction of what makes you most alive. The aliveness is a sign. The aliveness is a navigation.
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  The aliveness is a radar that pulls you. So as you start going in the direction, take a step.
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  You take a step. Then what you'll find is life reveals to you another step.
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  You take another step. You lean in life reveals to you another step. You lean in life reveals to
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  you another step. And often your purpose gets revealed to you in the process of taking a step and
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  living life itself. What will often happen is 10 years from now, 20 years from now, 5 years from now,
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  3 years from now, you look around and you're like, holy moly. I'm living my, I lived into my purpose.
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  I couldn't not have planned this purpose, but I lived into it. But you lived into it because you
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  want on the sidelines trying to figure it out, because the journey that you go on, you take a step.
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  The journey that you go on in that big step, as you take the step you grow, as you take the step
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  you evolve, as you take the step you expand, as you take the step you're conscious in the shift.
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  And as you learn, grow and evolve, you become more ripened, you become more ready for the next step.
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  Stop trying to figure out your purpose from the sidelines. You take the step and then I would say,
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  question number one, okay. What do I love? What turns me on? What brings me joy?
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  Moving that direction. For me as a kid, we lived behind my father's church. We didn't have a lot
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  of money. We lived behind my father's church. My bedroom was so small you could barely put
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  a one single person bed in it and walk in the room. I had all of these big dreams.
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  So as a kid, I would sneak inside my father's church in the middle of the night.
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  8 p.m. 9 p.m. 10 p.m. And every day I often don't talk about this, but every day
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  imagine this kid, 11, 12 year old kid, I would speak, Scott, I would speak to the empty chairs. I
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  would give seminars for two hours a night, an hour a night. I would give seminars to the empty
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  chairs. Imagining, right? Imagining I was inspiring people from around the world. I was inspiring people
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  in the US for free. You know, for me, that's what lit me up. That's what turned me on. That's what
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  brought me joy. I would do that for free. I've done it for free. I get paid now, but it didn't
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  nothing. So when you find that joy, going that direction, you don't have to know the hell.
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  So what turns me on? What sets me on fire? What do I love? Number two, but that's not enough.
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  You have to ask yourself, let's make it more practical. What specific skills do I have?
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  What specific tech like I love Formula One racing? Okay, this is one I love it. But I'm never
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  going to be Lewis Hamilton in this lifetime. I'm not going to it's not going to happen. The kid
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  is the dude has been doing that stuff for he's 37 years old since he was like three. Okay,
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  and so it takes a level of actual competence and skill to be able to perform. That's a reality.
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  But if we look in our lives, I so many people say to me, I don't know what skills I have. Just
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  look at your life. Look at every shitty job you've been through. Sometimes the jobs that you have
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  that you need to work in. Sometimes the jobs that present themselves to you, they're not your
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  purpose. But sometimes you put there because there's a necessary skill that you're meant to learn
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  in that job. And you're going to need that piece of the puzzle, that skill to be able to
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  to be the person who's able to then fully fulfill your purpose. And I always tell people when
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  you're working a job, even if you hate to do it with ultimate excellence, when you do that job
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  with excellence, then you're able to extract the skill you've become more, but you're able to extract
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  the skill that gives you part of the ingredient to prepare you for your purpose. So look at all of
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  the jobs, all of the situations, all of the experiences, all of the dramas, all of the breakups,
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  all of the failures that you've been through. And look at what specific tangible skills that you
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  learn. Those skills are going to be a part of your purpose and can point you in the direction
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  of perhaps what you're meant to do lies. Number three, what unique gifts do you have
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  that you're able to solve a unique problem? Another way of asking that is, what is the unique problem
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  that you're able to solve? I always tell people, when you think of what to do, don't simply focus
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  on how do I make the most money. You might make money, but often you'll be miserable. And if you're
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  miserable, you'll sabotage it. If you're miserable, it won't sustain. I work with so many people,
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  one on one in groups, small groups, large groups, billionaires that have made so much money,
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  but they don't feel any purpose, don't feel any connection, and they end up sabotaging what
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  they've created, or they end up not having a motivation to continue. So I always tell people,
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  don't focus on money. Instead, realize that money is a byproduct of adding value. And when you add
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  value, you add value by solving someone's pain, someone's problem, or someone's challenge.
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  And so when you're able to denounce yourself in question number three, what is the pain
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  problem or challenge that I'm uniquely able to solve based on my gifts, based on my skills?
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  Because when you solve someone's pain problem or challenge, you're being of true service,
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  and money is just a byproduct of being of service. Number four, I will invite people to really
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  think about on a practical level, which group of people do I feel a connection to?
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  Which group of people do I feel an affinity to? Maybe you feel a connection to
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  the teenage pregnant girls, maybe feel a connection to the physically challenged, maybe feel a
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  connection to the elderly, maybe feel a connection to, you know, fill in the, the whales, maybe
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  whoever you feel a connection to, the group of souls, people that you feel a connection to,
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  will often also might might, it might point you in the direction of where your service,
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  and where your purpose, or what you're meant to do, and where you're meant to share your gifts
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  where that lies. You don't have to know where you're going to end up, but that can start
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  giving you a directional navigation in terms of where to go and don't wait. Look at Oprah.
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  There's no way Oprah could have planned her life. Yeah, I'm going to plan at this age,
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  this is going to happen. And by the time I'm in 30, 40, 50, 50, 50 years old, 60 years old,
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  I'm going to be the most powerful media mogul woman in the world. You can't plan. Billionaire,
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  you can't plan that, but she loved communication. She loved communication. She didn't sit on the
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  sideline until she was a billionaire. She loved communication. So she became a newscaster.
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  As she became a newscaster, she had too much compassion. So she would cry while reading the news.
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  This wasn't a good, a good thing to do. And so they fired her to give her a job, I think it was
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  on a on a talk show in Baltimore. It might not be Baltimore, but I think it was Baltimore on a
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  single station. Now her compassion and her sensitivity was able to be married with her love for
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  communication and the most compassionate she was for people. The most successful I showed the
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  king, boom, syndication, boom, number one show, boom, 25 years later, Oprah. Look at Obama. I mean,
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  how does Obama love him or hate him? Is it relevant to me? But look at Obama. How does this guy
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  age 19 go? Yeah, I'm going to be president of the United States, but he started somewhere,
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  and that led him. And so I really believe that if you follow your soul, follow the nudging,
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  follow the nudging, it doesn't always have to make sense. If you follow that nudging of your
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  soul, your soul has an intelligence. It will guide you. And you will, that's when you will often
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  end up where you will often end up when you allow your soul to guide you will be beyond what your
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  mind can manufacture and create on its own. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this valuable,
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