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(44) STOP BLOCKING YOUR MANIFESTATIONS ✨ Heal Your Nervous System (Part 2) · Alignment With Jenn

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  Hello and welcome to this episode of the Alignment with
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  Jen podcast. I am your host, Jen.
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  It's easy. And today we're going to be
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  doing Part 2 of the episode on how to heal your nervous system
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  in order to manifest more in your life.
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  So I did part one last time. If you didn't listen to it yet,
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  go back after this episode and listen to it.
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  It's OK to listen to them out of order today.
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  What we're really going to get into are the tools of how to
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  truly heal your nervous system. I got so excited, as I said,
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  that I'm really excited about this.
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  Last week we went more into the nuts and bolts of how the
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  nervous system works and how to identify what nervous system
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  patterns you need to heal. And so today we're going to go
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  into actually how to heal those. So I'm very excited about this.
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  So I want to give this metaphor that I gave last time because
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  it's super, super valuable thinking of your nervous system
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  as that pot of boiling water right sitting on the stove.
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  And ideally, the water is not boiling, it's calm and tranquil.
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  And that's the place that calm and tranquil place is when we
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  are the most powerful of manifesters, right?
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  We're in that alpha and Theta brain wave state where we're
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  attracting in and drawing in the things that we want.
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  And we're just effortlessly more magnetic.
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  It's where just things kind of flow and things kind of just
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  work out for you, right? I know the more that I can stay
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  in that place, the more I don't have to worry about anything,
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  which is so counterintuitive, right?
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  Because people get into that stressful place from worrying
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  and so they move further away from the solution than if they
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  were to just take a break and focus and get back into that
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  calm state. I wanted to share this little
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  story from one of my mentors. He works with a lot of really,
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  really wealthy clients. And something that he said is
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  that anytime one of his really wealthy clients would have a
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  challenge, like he told this story about one of his clients
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  who got this huge lawsuit given to him.
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  And he's like, yeah, I have no idea how I'm gonna deal with
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  this. And he's like, so like, what are
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  you? What are you gonna do next?
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  And he's like, you know, I'm gonna go on vacation, even
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  though he had just got slapped with this huge lawsuit.
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  And he was like, I don't care how this is going to work out.
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  I just know it's going to work out for me.
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  I know it's going to work out. So I'm going to go relax.
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  I'm going to go have a good time.
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  And I'll just, it'll come to me what to do?
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  That's how really powerful manifesters work.
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  They know that it's not like I need to force it.
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  I need to make it happen. I need to stress about it.
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  They know that they need to get their nervous system into the
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  right state and then they'll attract in what they want.
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  That's the most important part. So let's talk about how to do
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  that. First, let's talk about why
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  dysregulation happens. Dysregulation happens for many,
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  many, many reasons, right? I mentioned this in the last
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  episode, one major 1, and I personally think it's probably
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  the only one, is our thoughts is how we are perceiving and how we
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  are thinking about situations because our thoughts dictate how
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  we're feeling and our emotions. The challenge with that though
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  is a lot of our thoughts are subconscious, what I call
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  whisper thoughts. They're these thoughts that
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  happen that we're not fully, fully aware of, and they can
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  create emotions and we don't even know why we're feeling
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  those emotions. So that's one of the big reasons
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  that dysregulation happens is because something will happen in
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  our environment and we'll interpret it in a certain way.
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  It might remind us subconsciously of a past
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  experience, a past memory, and that can stress out our nervous
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  system, right? I had this client a long time
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  ago and she said anytime she would see a red truck, she would
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  start to panic because she got into a car accident with a red
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  truck years ago. That's a really fast automatic
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  response, right? That's really hard to
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  consciously think her way out of.
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  We did reprogramming work on that for her to not feel that
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  way anymore. Those are the kinds of deeper
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  things that can help with the thought aspect of dysregulation.
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  But I'm kind of getting ahead of myself.
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  I just wanted to talk right now about why dysregulation happens
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  in the first place. So 1 is thoughts.
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  Another one can be our environment, right?
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  If our environment is unstable, if things are changing in our
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  environment, right, we're going from being married to being
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  single, moving from one city to another.
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  That newness of the city, the, the not being as familiar can
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  cause dysregulation in our nervous system.
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  Maybe a new job that can cause dysregulation.
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  But I want you to know that all of these things, you can have
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  the tools to help you overcome them so you don't feel as
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  dysregulated or dysregulated at all.
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  It could be things like rejection or criticism.
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  One of my friends was telling me that when she would post on
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  social media, she would like get her heart would just start
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  palpitating and she'd get all freaked out by it.
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  That is dysregulation, right? It's some subconscious process.
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  A lot of our dysregulation is from these subconscious
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  processes. It could be pressure.
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  It could be past trauma or memories that have not been
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  resolved by the mind. So what the mind will do is if
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  there's something that's unresolved, it'll kind of keep
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  looping it, and it can keep looping it on a subconscious
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  level or a conscious level. So consciously, this might look
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  like, oh, I really, really need to pay that bill.
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  Oh, I really, really need to do my taxes.
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  Oh, I really need to pay my bill, right.
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  You just loop that same thought until you deal with it.
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  It kind of sits there and taps on your head.
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  Sometimes that can happen unconsciously too, and this can
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  create things like generalized anxiety or fears that we aren't
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  really sure where they're coming from.
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  Typically, it can become coming from these deeper layers of the
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  mind, where the mind feels like something is unresolved and is
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  trying to protect you from that thing.
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  Those can be unprocessed memories, so those are some of
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  the big ones that create that sense of dysregulation.
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  I'm sure there's more to it, but that gives you a pretty good
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  idea. The reason that we have these is
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  because our body is trying to protect us from a perceived
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  threat. That's really what it is.
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  And our work is to create safety in the body and show our body
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  and our mind that we are safe, we are OK, and that will allow
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  us to expand and manifest new levels with so much more ease.
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  Because something I see often is that people, let's say someone
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  starts a business and that business is really stressful for
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  them, then they want to either grow that business or start a
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  new business. Their mind will often resist it
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  because their mind associates it with that old nervous system
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  state, that old stressful state. So when we want to manifest a
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  new level that feels unfamiliar, remember the subconscious mind
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  loves familiarity, then we have to teach it safety.
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  We have to make it feel safe in that expansion, in that new
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  experience. This can come up also in
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  relationships. A new relationship where you
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  just start picking fights, right?
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  That's a safety behavior. So let's talk about I'm going to
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  break this up into a couple of different sections.
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  First, I want to talk about daily practices that you can do
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  to alleviate and calm your nervous system.
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  And I think of these as like releasing the steam valve
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  because throughout the day steam is going to build up, right?
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  That's just naturally going to happen.
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  So I recommend having at least one or two daily practices that
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  you do in order to just allow that Steam valve to release like
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  on a Insta pot, right? You release it all that Steam
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  releases. A few of these tools.
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  One that I think is the most exceptional in my personal
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  opinion is meditation. I think meditation is unrivalled
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  in its ability to calm and create tranquility in the mind.
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  And that doesn't mean that you're going to be meditating
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  and feel peaceful, but it means over time it's going to regulate
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  and calm the nervous system. Yoga, especially yin yoga.
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  Yin yoga, so great for the parasympathetic nervous system.
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  It's things that activate that parasympathetic nervous system
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  where you just feel really relaxed, maybe going into a
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  jacuzzi, right? A steam room, things that make
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  you feel that calm state. It could be things like walking.
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  I recommend walking without music or simulation.
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  That can be really calming. Sometimes when I'm driving I'll
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  just turn off the radio because that helps me to just feel a
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  little more calm in the car. Time in nature is a really
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  powerful one as well. You can stack these as well.
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  Maybe you go in nature, walk there and meditate.
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  I don't know, go crazy Breath work is another one.
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  There's different styles of breath work.
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  I'm not really talking about the more active breath work, I'm
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  talking about the more calming breath work like box breathing.
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  You can Google that. Those can be better for calming
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  the nervous system on a daily basis.
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  Another great one is EFT tapping.
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  That's something that I incorporate into my programs as
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  well. It's tapping on certain Meridian
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  points in the body, and research has shown it actually drops
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  cortisol, the stress hormone level, dramatically.
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  And over time, it can really, really, really help to regulate
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  your nervous system as well. So these are different daily
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  practices that you can do to really, really help yourself.
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  But honestly, all I want you to do is just pick one.
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  Pick one thing that you can commit to every day and just
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  think of it as you're releasing that steam that got built up.
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  Maybe you do it in the morning, in the evening, it doesn't much
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  matter. And I want to give you some more
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  simple ones that you can also just use in the moment.
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  One thing you can do is always like placing your hands on your
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  heart and making your exhale longer than your inhale.
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  So that pressure on our body is actually very safety creating
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  and our breath is a really powerful way.
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  So breathing in and just creating that longer exhale and
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  just doing that for a little bit in the moment can help to just
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  start to create that regulation. Another one can be things like
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  grounding practices. So grounding is when you connect
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  your body to the earth and there's actually a transfer of
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  energy. It can be exceptionally,
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  exceptionally healing for the nervous system.
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  So you can go outside and just walk in the grass without your
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  feet on. Maybe you go take your dog for a
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  walk and you get to the park and you take your shoes off and walk
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  in the grass. Those can be very, very
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  powerful. Another one is also shaking, so
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  I mentioned this in the last episode.
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  When animals want to discharge stress, they will literally
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  shake their bodies. So something that you can try
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  out, and you can do this in the shower every day just for 5
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  minutes is just shake out your body, right?
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  Release that energy, allow yourself to just let it go.
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  Same with stretching, right? Stretching is great because it
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  releases the fascia, it allows energy to move.
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  And that's an amazing, amazing, super simple way, right?
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  These are so insanely simple. So those are some of the daily
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  things. But what I want you to think
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  about with your daily practice is it's not a one and done
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  thing. It's daily because we have this
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  stress that gets built up as we just go about our normal day,
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  right? Driving on the freeway, getting
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  a phone call that was unexpected from a friend, getting an
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  unexpected e-mail, a bill popping up that you didn't
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  expect, right? These things happen.
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  And so we just want to soothe and love our nervous systems.
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  And repetition is really what's going to help you on a daily
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  basis. So we have our daily practice.
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  The second one is going to be living in harmony with who you
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  really are. So this is sort of an unexpected
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  one, but I think it's essential for regulating the nervous
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  system. And I want to start it with a
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  story because I love stories and I think you love stories.
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  One of my longest term relationships was about four
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  years in my early 20s. And this relationship was, I
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  didn't realize it, but very, very dysregulating for me.
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  And as a result, it caused a lot of health issues.
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  And at the time, I was also working in a job that felt
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  really out of alignment for me and that was creating even more
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  health issues. So I had my anxiety was off the
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  charts. I had skin issues, I had gut
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  issues, I was feeling depressed. It was like all sorts of stuff
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  piled on. And when I left that
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  relationship and I left that job, those things healed so much
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  faster. Some of them like almost
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  instantly, because when we are living out of alignment, it's
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  very dysregulating for our nervous system.
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  When we are not showing up in our full truth, it's very
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  dysregulating for our nervous system and we can't consciously
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  think our way out of it. Your body knows what's true for
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  you. Your body lives in that present
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  moment. It lives in the truth.
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  And so we can't lie to ourselves, right?
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  We can't pretend that this relationship is what we want or
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  this job is what we want. It can be harmful to our health.
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  It can be harmful to our ability to manifest the things we want
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  when we're out of alignment. And it doesn't mean you have to
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  change it in an instant. But what it means is taking
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  steps and taking actions to live your life in true alignment with
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  who you really are is one of the most regulating things you can
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  do for your nervous system. I think a really powerful tool
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  to use for this, and I'm not going to get too much into this
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  because I am not an expert, but is human design.
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  So you can search human design. I think there's a website,
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  myhumandesign.com that's a really great one.
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  And you can look at your human design chart and learn more
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  about that. I am a projector.
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  If you couldn't tell if you know about human design, you can
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  probably tell. And learning to live in
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  alignment with my human design, how my energy is designed to
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  work, has been insanely helpful for regulating and healing my
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  nervous system and allowing me to manifest things way faster
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  into my life. OK, so that's a a helpful tool
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  that I recommend exploring. Then the third piece of this is
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  the deeper internal work. So we can do the daily
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  meditations, right? We can do the daily stretching,
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  the daily breath work, but they're not going to get to that
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  deeper programming that I talked about earlier that's really
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  creating these nervous system responses.
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  Those things are kind of, I view them more As for maintenance and
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  some of them like longer meditations, things like that
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  can be really powerful and do that deep in our work.
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  But the things that truly are driving dysregulation in the
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  nervous system are our thoughts, the meaning that we are
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  assigning to things, our worldview and how we're viewing
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  things, our subconscious patterns and our subconscious
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  associations. And I went more in detail into
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  this in the first of these two-part series.
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  Protective beliefs, right? Identity coding.
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  That self talk is so huge. Self talk can be extremely
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  regulating or extremely dysregulating, right?
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  Just notice when you're feeling like crap, how are you talking
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  to yourself? And so I think such a, a funny
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  example of this is the movie I Feel Pretty with Amy Schumer.
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  And in it, she starts off and she feels not very attractive.
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  Then she's in the shower and she hits her head and she wakes up.
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  She doesn't look any different, but she just believes she is so
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  insanely beautiful and she attracts a boyfriend.
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  She starts accelerating in her career.
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  And it's amazing because it's just her perception of herself
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  changed, right? And the whole world responded to
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  her. And that's how manifestation
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  really works works. And that is how powerful we are
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  at our ability to regulate or not our nervous systems, right?
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  When we are speaking kindly to ourselves, when we are loving
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  ourselves, when we are thinking highly of ourselves, it creates
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  a completely different result than when we are not.
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  And that result is seen in our lives.
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  Going to those deeper levels, right, is understanding what are
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  the patterns. I think of them as like the
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  flowers above the surface, right?
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  Any belief in your subconscious mind has a behavior that you
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  will see associated with it. And those behaviors I think of
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  as like the flower. And then there's the root
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  system, which is actually the beliefs and the patterns and the
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  subconscious blocks that are associated with it.
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  So those flowers above the surface could be things like
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  procrastination, overthinking, people pleasing, emotional
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  reactivity, being triggered, undercharging, right, Not going
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  on dates even though you want to meet people, fear of visibility,
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  fear of being seen. All the things that I really
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  talked about in that last episode, they are the symptoms
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  of something going on beneath the surface of some belief
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  system that isn't supporting you.
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  And that's where this deeper subconscious rewiring work is
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  super, super, insanely valuable for you.
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  And if that's something that you want support on, that's what I
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  help with in my programs. And you can always message me
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  the Word podcast and I can send you a video about that.
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  But understanding those internal programs is so powerful because
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  those internal programs basically act like that
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  thermostat. We can be cruising and we'll be
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  fine. And then we hit that certain
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  level and what will happen is we will bring ourselves back down.
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  And that can be through procrastination, that can be
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  through perfectionism, whatever our nervous system response is.
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  So the way that our nervous system is responding is in
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  direct response to how our subconscious mind is processing
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  information. And we want it to process
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  information in a helpful way that gets us to the result that
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  we want. The thing that is really, really
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  amazing about working with your subconscious mind and changing
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  things at that deeper level is it will automatically create
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  regulation in your nervous system.
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  For me, I think I've shared this before about my journey with
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  anxiety. I used to have really, really
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  bad anxiety. And that's actually what got me
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  into this work that I do now and really got me into the
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  subconscious mind and manifestation and spirituality
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  more. For me, it was actually shifting
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  those deeper, lower level beliefs that allowed me to heal
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  my anxiety and it was incredible.
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  And it was like night and day. But I've had clients where like
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  I had one client who messaged me today and she's been in my
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  program for about 3 months and she's like, you know, I don't
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  know why but money is just coming to me more easily.
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  She owns a law firm and she's like, it used to feel really
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  stressful and now it feels easy. That's because her nervous
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  system's response to money has changed, right?
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  Same with me with my anxiety, my response to what was making me
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  anxious at the time, which was lots of things changed, right?
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  And that's what happens is we can automatically change our
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  nervous system response when we work on those deeper levels.
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  So I hope that this was helpful for you.
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  And I hope what you take away is at least one daily practice that
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  you can commit to. Because as you commit to that,
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  you are going to start to rapidly expand your ability to
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  track in the things you want. Because being in that calm,
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  regulated nervous system is the most magnetic place you can sit,
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  the most creative place, the most intuitive place, the place
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  where solutions come to you or you don't feel stuck or you feel
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  like the best version of you. So I hope that this was helpful
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  and I will also link in the show notes a free meditation.
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  So if you want to get started with some meditation, it's a
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  great one to get started with. All right, bye.