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Are You Trying to Be Loved… or Trying to Show Love? · Profitable Christian Business

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  The hidden motivation that might be holding back your business.
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  Welcome back to the Profitable Christian Business Podcast.
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  Today I want to talk about something that has been on my heart lately.
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  And honestly, this isn't really a business lesson.
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  At least not directly.
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  It's a life lesson.
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  That just happens to affect every area of business.
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  Because I believe one of the biggest reasons entrepreneurs get stuck has nothing to do with marketing, nothing to do with sales, nothing to do with funnels, nothing to do with
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  strategy.
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  I think it has everything to do with motivation.
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  Specifically.
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  The difference between wanting to be loved and choosing to show love.
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  Now at first glance, that might sound like a small distinction, a subtle difference, a play on words, but I don't think it is.
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  In fact, I think it changes everything.
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  It changes how you lead, how you sell, how you market, how you network, how you parent, how you build relationships, and even how you handle success and failure.
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  So let me explain.
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  Most people spend their lives trying to be loved, trying to be accepted, trying to be validated, trying to be approved of, trying to be noticed, trying to be enough.
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  And if we're honest, entrepreneurs aren't immune to this.
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  In fact, sometimes entrepreneurship becomes the vehicle we use to chase approval.
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  We tell ourselves we're building a business, but underneath the surface, we're building a case, a case for why we're valuable, a case for why we're successful, a case for why
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  people should respect us, a case for why people should pay attention.
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  And here's the problem you'll never get enough of it because approval is a moving target.
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  You hit one goal and suddenly there's another.
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  You make your first six figures, then you want seven.
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  You get recognition.
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  Then you want more recognition.
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  You get attention.
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  Then you need more attention.
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  It's like drinking salt water.
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  The more you consume, the thirstier you become.
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  And I think we've all been there.
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  I know I have.
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  We've all had moments where we wanted the likes, the comments, the praise, the applause, the acknowledgement, the recognition.
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  We wanted somebody to say, You're doing a good job, and there's nothing wrong with encouragement, but there is something dangerous about needing it.
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  Because when your goal is to be loved, fear becomes your operating system.
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  You're afraid of rejection.
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  Afraid of criticism, afraid of failure, afraid of disappointing people, afraid of looking foolish.
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  Why?
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  Because your identity is tied to their response.
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  And that's exhausting.
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  It's exhausting because people are inconsistent.
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  One day they cheer for you.
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  The next day they criticize you.
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  One day they support you.
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  The next day they ignore you.
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  If your peace depends on public opinion, you'll never have much peace.
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  But something changes.
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  When you shift from wanting to be love to choosing to show love.
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  Because now the focus isn't on what you're getting, it's on what you're giving.
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  Instead of asking,
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  How do I get people to like me?
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  You start asking, I how do I serve them instead of asking, how do I get attention?
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  You ask, how do I create value?
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  instead of asking, what can I receive?
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  You ask, what can I contribute?
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  And that's where freedom begins, because showing love comes from abundance.
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  Trying to be loved usually comes from scarcity.
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  One says, I need something from you.
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  The other says, I have something for you.
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  But that's a completely different posture.
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  And here's where faith enters the conversation.
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  As Christians, we should understand this better than anyone, because our identity isn't supposed to come from people.
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  It's supposed to come from Christ.
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  Think about Jesus.
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  Jesus didn't spend his ministry trying to get everybody to approve of him.
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  If he had, he would have changed the message.
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  He would have avoided hard truths.
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  He would have compromised.
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  He would have told people what they wanted to hear.
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  Instead, he showed love, even when it cost him, even when people misunderstood him, even when people rejected him, even when people walked away.
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  That's a radically different way to live.
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  And I think it's a radically different way to build a business.
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  Imagine how your marketing changes.
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  When you're trying to help instead of impress.
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  Imagine how your sales conversations change.
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  When you're trying to serve instead of convince.
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  Imagine how networking changes.
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  When you're trying to give instead of get.
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  Imagine how leadership changes.
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  When you're trying to develop people instead of needing their approval, everything changes.
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  And here's the irony.
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  The people who stop chasing approval usually end up making a bigger impact.
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  Why?
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  Because authenticity attracts, generosity attracts.
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  Service attracts.
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  People can sense the difference.
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  They know when you're trying to help them and they know when you're trying to use them.
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  One creates trust, the other creates resistance.
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  So let me ask you a question.
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  And this is a question I've been asking myself lately.
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  Why am I really doing this?
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  Why am I building this business?
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  Why am I pursuing this goal?
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  Why am I posting this content?
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  Why am I chasing this opportunity?
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  What's the real motivation?
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  Am I trying to be loved or am I trying to show love?
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  Because those motivations lead to very different destinations.
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  One creates fear, the other creates freedom.
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  One creates pressure.
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  The other creates purpose, one creates anxiety, the other creates peace.
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  And here's what I've found in my own life.
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  The closer I stay to Christ, the less I need validation from people.
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  And not because I'm stronger, not because I'm more disciplined, but because I'm remembering where my identity comes from.
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  If my identity is in Christ, then I don't have to earn it from everyone else.
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  I can serve freely, give freely, love freely, lead freely because I'm already loved.
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  And and that's the shift.
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  We're not showing love so that we'll be loved.
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  We're showing love because we already are.
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  Let that sink in for a moment.
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  We're not showing love so that we'll be loved.
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  We're showing love because we already are.
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  And when that truth settles into your heart, it changes everything.
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  So this week, before your next sales call, before your next networking event, before your next piece of content, before your next business decision, pause.
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  Take a breath, then ask yourself one simple question.
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  Am I trying to be loved or am I trying to show love?
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  Because the answer may reveal more than you think.
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  Keep moving forward.
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  God bless.
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  And I'll see you in the next episode.