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EP 17 - SPICY VANILLA LATTE · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables.
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  Speaker 2: Hard work meats talent where talent doesn't work hard.
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  Speaker 1: Relatable body. Do you put your ketchup, barbecue sauce those condiments?
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  Speaker 1: Are you a fridge guy or a cupboard guy? Fridge?
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  Speaker 1: I've grown up a fridge guy, but no, I'm stayed
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  Speaker 1: a fridge guy. Oh. I remember the first time I
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  Speaker 1: ever saw someone like, go, no, no, no, it goes
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  Speaker 1: in the cupboard. I was like, what do you mean.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like, as soon as you open it, though,
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  Speaker 3: it becomes a fridge condiments, as.
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  Speaker 1: Soon as the air touches it. Yeah, exactly. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like people that don't put it in the fridge are
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  Speaker 1: drinking off or not drinking using off. What are you doing?
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  Speaker 1: I like ketchup? I probably drink it you.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, to be fair, the person who likes barbecue barbecues
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  Speaker 3: most in this world that I know.
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  Speaker 1: Really, I used to like barbecue sauce more than ketch up.
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  Speaker 1: When we lived together.
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  Speaker 3: Used to fucking have bubbecue sauce on everything. I swear
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  Speaker 3: you had it on toast. Yeah, I would put it
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  Speaker 3: on toast with eggs. Yeah, crazy, but I be so.
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  Speaker 1: I grew up the first time I ever had catch up,
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  Speaker 1: or at least the first time I read catch up,
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  Speaker 1: catch up, catch up e t cup? Catch up? What
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  Speaker 1: catch up? Someone's missing there? What are you talking about?
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  Speaker 1: You've got something going on like a hat. You're saying
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  Speaker 1: catch up us in like, let's catch up and hang out?
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  Speaker 1: It's catch up, catch up. It's catch up, catch up?
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  Speaker 1: Canny who catch up? Not catch up? Is what you do?
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  Speaker 1: You add some weird little like ketchup catch up. I
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  Speaker 1: had it right the first time, not an a you
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  Speaker 1: do this all the time anyway. The first time I
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  Speaker 1: had it was because I had maybe a piece of
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  Speaker 1: steak or chicken or something that was too hot to eat,
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  Speaker 1: and I remember my grandpa saying, put some ketchup on it,
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  Speaker 1: it'll cool it down. So, up until I was like
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  Speaker 1: probably twelve, I genuinely thought that ketchup was used to
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  Speaker 1: cool food down.
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  Speaker 3: Interesting, that's funny that my mum gas lit b too,
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  Speaker 3: in a sense of I suppose that wasn't really gas lighting,
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  Speaker 3: but it was. My mom always said tomato sauce was
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  Speaker 3: more healthy than ketchup because it's but the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why.
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  Speaker 3: And then we always had tomato sauce and tomato sauce
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  Speaker 3: is Australian, Ketchup is American.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but ketch up hands down.
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  Speaker 3: That's on the equivalent part of Pepsi Max and Ketchup
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  Speaker 3: over tomato sauce and coke Heira.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, valid algorithm.
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  Speaker 3: And then anyone who likes tomato sauce and coke Heyerra
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  Speaker 3: or diet coke more not friends of the podcast. The
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  Speaker 3: Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Ottie Clark Akammy and
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  Speaker 3: my partner in crime, mister.
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  Speaker 1: Jake Craig aka Daddy. That's me. It is you. You
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  Speaker 1: guys are the baddies. If you're knew here, because you're
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  Speaker 3: Men and women are like, yeah, all the men that
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  Speaker 3: are listening, all seven of you.
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  Speaker 1: Are also baddies, all baddies, And I like that. You
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  Speaker 1: I can do that for you, my friend. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: very much. So last week we introduced a new segment
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  Speaker 1: called the Vanilla Boys. I had fun. I had fun
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  Speaker 1: as well, and so this week I will be running
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  Speaker 1: the Vanilla Boys segment. So that means I have made
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  Speaker 1: my own jingle.
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  Speaker 3: Arguably comment below, I would say you're less vanilla. I
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  Speaker 3: would say, I'm les vanilla than you, or like to
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  Speaker 3: talk like your less vanilla.
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  Speaker 1: Let's interview Bethante. What's he fucking like? Eh? Okay, let's
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  Speaker 1: let's get into this jingle. This is I think I
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  Speaker 1: Would do with later? Was podcast coming through the boys?
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  Speaker 4: Vanilla boy keeping the plane making some noise, Jake Garotti,
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  Speaker 4: that's the brand.
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  Speaker 1: The most vanilla boys in the land. Ohait, the most
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  Speaker 1: vanilla boys in the land. I like that. Oh I
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  Speaker 1: like that a lot. Thanks Claude Claud, Thank your best friend.
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  Speaker 1: So last week we did sexual positions. Yeah, body tested
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  Speaker 1: me of like what are they? Yeah? I don't think
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  Speaker 1: I knew any, to be honest with you. But this
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  Speaker 1: week I found an article. All right, and the article
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  Speaker 1: is kinky sex ideas you're going to want to try tonight.
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  Speaker 3: So I wanted to name a few and see if
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  Speaker 3: you would try them tonight or whenever you're ready. This
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  Speaker 3: guy's around too much a cockplo.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, numero uno take it to a mirror. Okay, So
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  Speaker 1: the next time you're heating up whisper in your partner's ear,
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  Speaker 1: just how sexy they look, and suggest that you get
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  Speaker 1: an even better view. Lean lead them to a mirror
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  Speaker 1: and lean yourself in front of it, allowing them to
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  Speaker 1: enter you from behind and or reach around to stimulate
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  Speaker 1: you from the front. So do it in front of
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  Speaker 1: a mirror and make them watch. But I do.
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  Speaker 3: I like it, and I don't like it because there's
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  Speaker 3: certain angles of myself that you shouldn't see, like you
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  Speaker 3: don't want to see my bed bum. Also, though my
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  Speaker 3: old bedroom done it. So you've done it on purpose,
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  Speaker 3: though not like directionally saying, so.
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  Speaker 1: You haven't been like you're so fucking sexy, look at you.
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  Speaker 1: I think.
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  Speaker 3: Actually it happened in the opposite way I was looking.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, are you look in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: Because you got a mirror one of those wardrobes with
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  Speaker 1: slide indoors as a wind mirror on it. But I
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  Speaker 1: can admit it was good. It was good because it's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I am the porn row broke, I am the porn Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I would do that, I think. Okay, okay, so, but
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  Speaker 1: would you do it in a way where So let's
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  Speaker 1: say you've started a little bit of four play things
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  Speaker 1: heating up. You're kissing and rubbing and a bit of
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  Speaker 1: dry humping, and then you're like, you're so sexy right now,
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  Speaker 1: you need to get a better look, and then you
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  Speaker 1: just leader to a mirror and then just that's and
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  Speaker 1: you just continue from there. I'm just picture I don't
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  Speaker 1: have a mirror at my new house.
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  Speaker 3: Imagine like I'm button naked and like, go pick up
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  Speaker 3: a mirror from the living room. I would say I
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  Speaker 3: would do it, but like I might give that rating
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  Speaker 3: and like that that's pretty good six, but it's pretty sexy.
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  Speaker 1: I actually don't know if I could, like, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: like I find if I'm ever like getting risky with
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  Speaker 1: maybe saying something that is like the only time you
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  Speaker 1: could say it is when you're in a sexy mood
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  Speaker 1: taking yourself seriously. Is because I'll say it like without
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  Speaker 1: directly looking in the eyes, And if I was doing
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  Speaker 1: it in a mirror, I would almost like to be
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  Speaker 1: looking at myself saying something I feel like.
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  Speaker 3: Depends on the position, yeah, because like is she gonna
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  Speaker 3: look at me or is she gonna look at herself?
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  Speaker 3: Because you're saying she's beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: You guys, see the whole what one what the two
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  Speaker 1: suggestions there were Place her in front of a mirror
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  Speaker 1: and then you and then you either enter her from
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  Speaker 1: behind like you have sex in front of the mirror,
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  Speaker 1: or you just like reach around and start kind of
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  Speaker 1: like it is sor rated but it's hilarious, and do
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  Speaker 1: it that way where it's like she's just kind of
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  Speaker 1: watching you pleasure her. That might be a question, maybe
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  Speaker 1: more for a woman.
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  Speaker 3: I think that is more of a question for a woman,
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  Speaker 3: because like, but would you do it if like if
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  Speaker 3: she if she said it to me, yes, I would
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  Speaker 3: do it.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I like it. I like it. Next one, get icy.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna straight up say no, we're not talking about
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  Speaker 1: the old cliche blow job tip of popping an ice
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  Speaker 1: cube in your mouth before going down on your partner. Though,
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  Speaker 1: if that does it for you, by all means, go
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  Speaker 1: for it. Ice cubes are the cheapest sex toy around
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  Speaker 1: because it allows you to experiment with hot and cold
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  Speaker 1: sensations that can make for an exciting sensory session. You
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  Speaker 1: can trail an ice cube over your partner's body when
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  Speaker 1: things get steamy and for a chillingly good sensation.
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  Speaker 3: So I feel like this is where we've gone wrong
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  Speaker 3: a little bit in a sense of like where the
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  Speaker 3: Vanilla boys. I need like different missionary positions.
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  Speaker 1: I want the fux that. Oh my god, let me
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  Speaker 1: I've never I've heard about this, but I've never done it.
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  Speaker 1: Like in my head, I'm just a classic.
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  Speaker 3: We're both fucking classic boys, Like, yeah, I'd love to
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  Speaker 3: do it, but when it comes down to it, I'm
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  Speaker 3: fucking vanilla. I'm not going I'm thinking. I'm thinking I'm
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  Speaker 3: kissing her. This is hectic. I'm not thinking. Could I
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  Speaker 3: get an ascue right now? Are you?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 3: I'm just too distracted. I'd have to pre plan that shit.
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  Speaker 3: And that's not how sex works for us anyway. Some
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  Speaker 3: people like to plant it, some.
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  Speaker 1: People liked to plan it. It could work. I could try
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  Speaker 1: and plan it, but I've never done it. But I
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  Speaker 1: do remember when I was a kid, like people saying apparently,
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  Speaker 1: if either the kid if like sorry, when I kid,
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  Speaker 1: I mean like eighteen, yeah, when I was eighteen, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: pick up. I remember when I was about eighteen, people
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  Speaker 1: saying like either if like I was to put ice
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  Speaker 1: in my mouth before going down on a woman, or
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  Speaker 1: if she was to put us in her mouth vaguely
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  Speaker 1: if she has a cold like she's given your head
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  Speaker 1: or I have a cold mouth while I'm giving kind
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  Speaker 1: of lingus. Yeah, I can't say. Apparently it feels good.
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  Speaker 1: Never tried it, but ye, apparently is it.
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  Speaker 3: The equivalent of like, you know, when you've been outside
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  Speaker 3: and you have cold hands and your partners inside and
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  Speaker 3: she's been under a blanket or something and you put
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  Speaker 3: your cold hands on her and then she's like, is
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  Speaker 3: it the same as that?
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  Speaker 1: No? I don't think so, because that's next one, send
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  Speaker 1: a racy text. We've spoken about this a bit before,
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  Speaker 1: so be as brave as your vocabulary permits. You can
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  Speaker 1: send a simple suggestive message like I can't wait to
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  Speaker 1: touch you tonight, or something more bold, such as a
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  Speaker 1: step by step guide to what you'll do to them
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  Speaker 1: the second they walk through the door. Like that's kind
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  Speaker 1: of like Also, I would say that is sexting territory.
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  Speaker 1: I'm too vanilla. I can't do. I don't know, I
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  Speaker 1: reckon I could you know? What would suck in? What
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  Speaker 1: would go through my head is if I'm at home
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  Speaker 1: and my girlfriend's out and I start sending her these
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  Speaker 1: messages of like like I can't stop thinking about you,
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  Speaker 1: Like as soon as you walk through the door, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to do this, this and this, and so she's
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  Speaker 1: kind of replying, maybe also being a bit sexy, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm serious and she thinks I'm joking. So she's joking.
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  Speaker 1: So she walks through the door and I go to
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  Speaker 1: do those things and she's like what the fuck. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: i'd be like what I said, I was going to
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  Speaker 1: do it. I'm okay the same in a sense of like,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like this would be very relatable.
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  Speaker 3: I think she would want me to initiate it, but
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  Speaker 3: I need to know she's in the mood and it's
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  Speaker 3: more likely she's going to initiate it, and I'll reciproctate.
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  Speaker 1: Is what I would do, right. I would start the
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  Speaker 1: text chain on I message right, and then I would
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  Speaker 1: get it going. And if she's she's reciprocating, just to
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  Speaker 1: find out for sure if she's care go over to
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  Speaker 1: Instagram and be like, hey, normal, JK, just double checking
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  Speaker 1: act she want me to do those things? Right? You
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  Speaker 1: just want me to double check and you want me
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  Speaker 1: to do those things later because I will or I
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  Speaker 1: won't exactly what I need to do. Actually, oh man, okay,
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  Speaker 1: next one, tie them up? Nah, I don't really need to,
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  Speaker 1: Like I can't do that. Yeah I have, I don't
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  Speaker 1: think I want to. I don't like that. Is it
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  Speaker 1: sub dumb stuff? It's called like bondage. I think it's
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  Speaker 1: sort of more subdumb stuff. You're getting into BDSM territory.
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  Speaker 1: I like feeling like together, not someone's dominating the other. Yeah. Right,
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  Speaker 1: that's funny.
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  Speaker 3: See, I'm trying to think, like I've never really like
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  Speaker 3: I would say, there's moments where you can get what
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  Speaker 3: we would say is like quote unquote like wow, that
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  Speaker 3: was a rough session, but like it's not for some people,
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  Speaker 3: but for.
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  Speaker 1: Us it is. And like the thought of being in
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  Speaker 1: that mood of then like having maybe a belt just
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  Speaker 1: like wrapped around her wrists and kind of like hold
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  Speaker 1: on to it. I don't know if that would make
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  Speaker 1: me feel more horny or not, I would think to me, not, no, okay, fat,
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  Speaker 1: I'm asking reckon.
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  Speaker 3: It comes from like two Like it's good to normalize.
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  Speaker 3: I just feel like it's so taboo to talk about sex.
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  Speaker 3: Obviously with your partner, it's such an intimate thing, but
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  Speaker 3: to have the conversations around it is very healthy. Do
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  Speaker 3: you reckon like these sort of kinks come from what
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  Speaker 3: porn you watch?
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  Speaker 1: It's a great question. I have no idea because like
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  Speaker 1: where does it come or is it just in your
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  Speaker 1: plot or do you just I have no idea, Like
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  Speaker 1: I think apparently h pain sometimes pain, Like although it hurts,
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  Speaker 1: it's also like for some reason, some people really like
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  Speaker 1: it and.
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  Speaker 3: We're only twenty six, Like we don't even having sex
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  Speaker 3: for what, like what's that eight year or something?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Quick, mass, No, sixteen, just twenty six, not ten six seven, eight, No,
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  Speaker 3: it's eight? Is it eighteen plus four? Oh no, it
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  Speaker 3: is fucking ten?
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  Speaker 1: Shit, damn baddies, haven't damn it, damn it, damn it.
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  Speaker 1: Hit me with it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, before we move on, come on,
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  Speaker 3: what you know what you're saying it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we have to do I'm come on, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying you. We aren't moving on until you tell me
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  Speaker 1: what they come on, you ugly at we wanted unspoken.
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  Speaker 1: You were right. You have the biggest brain in the world.
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  Speaker 1: And I am insferior to you. In sferior definitely, because
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  Speaker 1: you can't even say inferior what's inia nothing, It doesn't exist.
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  Speaker 3: Thinking myself a big hole day, right, use a blind form. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that'd be fun. I think I think a lot of
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  Speaker 3: these things. I wish I was a drinker. But also
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  Speaker 3: if you guys are both a little bit drunk, do
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  Speaker 3: you think like that would be when Yeah, because.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in like a giggly like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: let's try some things. But then when I'm sober, I'm
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  Speaker 1: by audio. Maybe I'm boring when I'm sober. Yeah you are. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you don't know me in the bedroom. You wish you
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  Speaker 1: did know you when you're drunk and when you're sober,
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  Speaker 1: and you're definitely final when you're okay, this one's this
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  Speaker 1: one's for you. Okay. Nibble and bite so the littling
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  Speaker 1: inviting during sex can your sign of passion. It's a
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  Speaker 1: little naughty and and a lot hot. So it does
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  Speaker 1: say a little bit of nibbling on the lips, right,
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  Speaker 1: But it.
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  Speaker 3: Also says like you can kind of like drag your
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  Speaker 3: teeth down her shoulder or like across her, like you
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  Speaker 3: can bite a nipple or even like you get some
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  Speaker 3: get some teeth involved on the nip. Yeah, I won't
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  Speaker 3: get too personal, but like I would try that. Ye,
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  Speaker 3: try ultra relaxing foreplay. So that's a fully butt naked massage.
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  Speaker 1: That's what explains it.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, Yeah, I reckon, there's a time and a place
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  Speaker 3: for like no sex like imagine, Oh.
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  Speaker 1: You mean just like do a very very heated, just
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  Speaker 1: ultra relaxing thing like a massage, or you are fully
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  Speaker 1: naked with a whale and like you're both mad horny
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  Speaker 1: and then don't have sex. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I've said to like my partner before too, Like me,
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  Speaker 3: kissing you and getting intimate doesn't always mean like we
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  Speaker 3: have to have sex, like I'd sometimes just love to
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  Speaker 3: kiss you intimately.
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  Speaker 1: Then a little fella downstairs started ugly out of that foreskin.
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  Speaker 1: I know you have the way you said that's great.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been told I have looking penis bye who
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  Speaker 3: who my mom?
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  Speaker 1: Imagine this one? This one I just don't know if
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  Speaker 1: I could do, but I can see it being sort
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  Speaker 1: of hot. Let your partner watch you masturbate. I can't
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  Speaker 1: do it, not seriously, but like I feel like that's
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  Speaker 1: got to be am I in the wrong.
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  Speaker 3: I'm thinking a girl masturbating is really sexy, but that's
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  Speaker 3: obviously because I like women.
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  Speaker 1: But a man masturbating is disgusting, Like I know, like
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  Speaker 1: imagine being a fly on the wall and then it's
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  Speaker 1: like the fly looks at your girlfriend is on the
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  Speaker 1: bed masturbating and like thinks, yeah, dann, these guys are
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  Speaker 1: beouting and then you're standing off the bed just going
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  Speaker 1: like this like a loser, cucking me up and ship. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: let's do last one. Okay, I'm ready watch porn together? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Or what kind of porn though? Or whatever whatever whatever.
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  Speaker 3: That's actually a good debate actually, because I what porn
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  Speaker 3: do women watch?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, m because I think porn.
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  Speaker 3: Is viewed very differently by men and women. Yeah, probably,
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  Speaker 3: and i'd have to.
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  Speaker 1: I also know that we watch vanilla porn.
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  Speaker 3: We ever do watch it because I think I don't
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  Speaker 3: want to speak for my girlfriend. I think she wouldn't
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: want to do that, and I can understand that. One
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: time Beth and I were in bed and then she goes,
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: should we watch porn together? And I was like, oh,
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: I mean, if you want to. I wasn't keen on it.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: I was kind of like, like, what video do you click?
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: I was like, oh yeah, yeah.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, if you want to, I was
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: like okay, kind of just being like, if this is
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: what she wants, I'll do it. Yeah, And then she
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: was like, nah, I'm just joking. And I was like,
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: oh my.
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: God, Addie, I have an announcement to make.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: What is it? I am officially pause for silence, dramatic effect.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: A Marcher, Babe.
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: Man, I am so glad you said that, because I
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: am too.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: I absolutely love Marcher. It's like a reward. Couldn't agree more,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: my friend could not agree more. Throughout the day, I
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: do little tasks and I'm like, you know what, I
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: deserve a marcher?
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Same and I go to at the moment, Jake, are
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: these perfect head vanilla march latte cans?
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: Cans?
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: Not only do they taste amazing, but it's also a
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: different source of caffeine to coffee.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: Mate, that's true, and they're so handy, like it's just
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: a cafe quality Marcher in a can in your head, mate.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: I am obsessed, And I know the badies listening are
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: gonna be looking for a sign to get a Marcher today.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Here it is, so hey, you've heard it here. First,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: don't walk, but run to Cole's Oddie. I have a
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: pretty tricky dilemma. I think tricky. We've been nailing these.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: I think I have a pretty tricky dilemma. But it
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: would be keen to get your thoughts. And I guess
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: also we've never really asked, like badd his thoughts in
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: the comments. Yeah, let us know. It's good to get
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: more than two pieces of advice. I guess. My boyfriend
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: of one year and I'm always discussed that having active
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: contact with past sexual partners slash x's is inappropriate. I
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: have recently found out that he had a one night
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: stand with one of his now friends seven to eight
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: years ago. To him, this is purely a friendship, as
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: it happened once and they continued to be friends. To me,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: it is a sexual partner. I have asked him to
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: cease contact, but he says he is not comfortable with it.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: He told me I can read all the messages anytime,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: as they are not sexual. She lives in a different city,
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: so they do not see each other face to face,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: and their contact is not very frequent, usually monthly or so.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: I cannot help but feel not chosen, especially since we
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: recently went through a rough rough patch and still trying
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: to recover the relationship. AM I making this into a
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: bigger deal than it is or your partner. Your or
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: your partner should choose your comfort, even if it involves
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: some interference with their personal life. Thanks a ton, love
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: you both.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: I think your partner is making it a bigger problem
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: than it has to be.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: She lives out of town.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: You have voiced that you feel uncomfortable, and he says, no,
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: I want to keep the relationship.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: It's an interesting one. Like so seven to eight years
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: ago they had a one night stand. When did she
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: find out? Though? Recently? I think I feel like that's.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: An issue if you have been unbeknownst to their sexual
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: relationship in the past, and then I don't know where
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: he goes. Oh yeah, by the way, I fucked her
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: like seven years ago. Yeah, we had sex like something years.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: I've seen her as a fucking friend.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: The issue, I would like to say, so, the reason
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: I think that he should cease contact is because you
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: guys have both spoken about the fact that you both
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: think that it is inappropriate to have contact with any
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: sexual with past sexual partners and or x'es, and so
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: for him to say that that's not a past sexual
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: partner is I would say hypocritical. Even though it was
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: like you could argue, like it's ancient history, blah blah blah,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: we've been friends ever since and there's never been anything
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: else happened. Like, it's a bit of a hard one
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: when you have agreed, because in the beginning of the relationship,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: when this whole topic of conversation was brought up, you
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: could say, he could have said, look, I do agree
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: with that, but I do want you to know that
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: I actually have a friend from like, like I guess
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: at the time would have been like, you know, like
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: six seven years ago that I'm friends with, but like
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: we we slept together once. Yeah, and so personally I
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: see her as only a friend, and like I just
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: if that's something you're comfortable with, then at the very
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: beginning of the relationship that like that's when the hard
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: conversations need to happen. I understand avoiding them, fully understand
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: avoiding them, but like I think, yeah, having found out
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: recently is like the issue. I agree.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: I feel like he's hidden that on purpose. And I
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: have kind of like had that relationship with someone and
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: before meeting my partner in a sense of like we're.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: In sleep together, but we're very flirty we.
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: Kissed a lot, and we were in quotes friends, but
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: I was a very flirty friend. Yeah, Like there's that
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: pretense that we both find each other really attractive, Like
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: could happen if we wanted it to back when I
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: was single, blah blah blah. And it wasn't like a
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: batonic friendship I have with other women. There was that
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: sexual attraction and that's what I like. Yeah, that's what
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: I liked about it, and I dare say that's what
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: she liked about it too, And I feel like that's
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: what this guy likes about that.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's hard, Like I'm sure.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: People will call us immature that you can't be friends
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: with someone who's text with.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Look, I fully see that argument great fully. I fully
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: see that argument of it being immature. I think that
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: if you if you, if you're more than habita, stay
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: of friends with someone that you've slept with, I think
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: it's fine. Like, I just think that he kind of
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: maybe told a bit of a fib in the beginning
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: of your relationship. That's the issue, and it's disrespectful with
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: the minimum. And so you've gone into this year, you're
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: a year in and found this thing out and I
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: guess I wouldn't really know what to do. I just
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: think that the issue isn't so much the fact that
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: he is you know, I guess, like are they friends
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: or do they just kind of like keep contact. I
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: don't know. It's interesting fun talk about.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's an easy solution too, because if you love
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: your partner and like, it's an easy solution, and it
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: doesn't affect him where he sees it so miniscule, such
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: a miniscule amount year.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: So yeah, the way I see it is like me personally,
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: I would much prefer to stop the contact with this
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: person that I talked to maybe monthly or so and
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: protect my girlfriend. My girl friend's peace a lot better.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: It seems such a but she's not controlling him that way. No,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: like he should be making this, but she your voice
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: that I'm uncomfortable and he said no. That's and also
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: the fact that like he I assume hasn't come out
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: in the open and been like, oh, I'm very very
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: sorry I I I didn't mention this in the beginning.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: If he did that that would be great, Like if
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: he really owns up to it and he's like, look
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: and explain what the friendship meant to yeah, he explained
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: what it meant to him, and then and he goes, yeah,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: like we did this thing like what we did at
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: one time, but at the same time. Again, it's like
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: you're dating someone who, in the beginning of the relationship
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: has said I am not comfortable with communications with past
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: sexual partners. And so you agreed, and so I'm sorry,
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Like I think that this friend is considered a past
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: sexual partner. I agree. So I think your boyfriend's wrong
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: and you're right. Agreed.
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, best way to put it we should say every
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: dilemma like that.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I feel like you're right and your boyfriend's wrong. Yeah,
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: I think I think they don't have sex with him anymore.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: No, you can keep having sex with him, all right,
• 25:20
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• 25:22
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• 25:31
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• 25:35
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• 25:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, not a relationship dilemma. Hi, Mummy and Daddy.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: Sorry.
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: I tried to make this as short as possible, but
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: I'm dyslexic, stressed, and spiraling relatable. My best friend is
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: getting married. We're both twenty four, female and have been
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: best friends since we were twelve, including five years at
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: boarding school. Iykyk, what does that mean?
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: Again?
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: I know?
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: If you know you know? Okay, she is my absolute
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: right or die and we have shared you please repeat
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: the sentence before. If you know you know?
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: We're both twenty four and female and have been best
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: friends since we were twelve, including five years at boarding school.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: If you know? Does that mean like they kissed and shap?
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: I don't know what is is bording school mean that?
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: I don't know because I clearly don't know that's alluding
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: to that's alluding to.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: Something as me as well, Like what do you mean
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: if you know you know? Or is it just like
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: you become really good friends of boarding school because he
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: spend so much time together. Yeah, we're being fucking stupid men.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know anyway.
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: She is my absolute right or die, and we have
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: shared the toughest times in life together. I honestly thought
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: either her sister or I would be made of honor,
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: especially because we've always talked about being each other's made
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: of honors, planning hens, hen dos, etc. Instead, she chose
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: a friend she's only known for four years, someone I've
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: never met. What hurts the most is that she never
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: told me, and I had.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: To piece it together myself.
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: I'm currently living in another country and need to book
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: flights to get time off work for the wedding. I've
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: messaged the Maid of Honor a few times asking about
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: the Hens weekends, the Hens weekend dates and plans so
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: I can arrange travel, but I've had no response. When
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: I asked the bride, she said it's up to the
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: maid of honor.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: That's a bit rough.
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: I'm at the point where I'm thinking of only booking
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: flights for the wedding and skipping the hands because it's
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: so disorganized. However, I feel guilty because I don't want
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: to let the bride down and feel like I'm being selfish.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: But I also don't want to keep pestering her about
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: what's happening when she is apparently having nothing to do
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: with that plan. I also feel bad because I am
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: sulted about the situation, and I don't know that I
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: have a right to beat. What would you do in
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: this situation? Please help Battie out ps love the pod,
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: keep doing what you love.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: Boys, that's heavy. That is heavy. I've got to say,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: that's a heavy one, and I think you're valid to
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: feel salty. And I would also skip the hens do
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: and only book flights for the wedding, show up to
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: the wedding for your friend, but be like, but like,
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: that's a bit rough. I would say that's rough.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: I yeah, I agree too, because like, if you fair enough,
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: I guess that you are the maid of honor. I
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: guess over the past four years maybe they've become super
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: close and that's a hard thing to accept. But then also,
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: if you messaged your old best friend saying like, hey,
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: I've tried messaging the maid of honor and she's not
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: replying to me. Just getting the details for hens, I've
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: got a book flights overseas, Like just be an normal person,
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: be like, hey, I'll get I'll find out for you
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: don't say.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: Like, why hasn't the bride being like actually being like
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: oh I really want you there, yeah, and kicking the
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: maid of honor into gear to get shit sorted so
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: you can get your shits.
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: I'm sure she knows though, like it's surely the main
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: of the bride is, like, I know when my own hens.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Is you would think, so, yeah, it's not a surprise
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: that you would think.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: But also like if my if you move back to
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: Canada and I was having I was getting married to
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: Cassie and I really wanted you there, and you're like, oh,
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: I'm just trying to organize flights.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: And yeah, let's just and let's just say you chose someone.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: And I'm kind of like I'd love to like, come,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: when is it? And you're like Grimsman's doing it, my
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: best man's doing it. I'd be like, yeah, you won't
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: reply to me, and you're like best man's doing it.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, okay, I'm not coming to your wed
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: facts Like I actually if you did the here, I
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: don't know if this helps you at all, Baddy, this
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: is how I work. If this exact situation happened, I
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: don't know for argument's sake, the podcast is over and
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: we make money in a different way, but we're still
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: best mates. Yeah, I think I don't know if this
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: helps you at all, baud it. But I find out
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: I'm not man, even though we like keep contacting shit,
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: and so then I'm like ouch, but okay, that's cool.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: I message best the best man and ask for details
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: for the things so I can book flights. I get aired,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: I ask you, and you go, I don't know the
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: best man like I'm like always aired me, and you
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: go the best Man's organized. I don't know. I genuinely
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: would not come to your wedding.
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: I agree too, and like one chance and you're out.
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: Like I've already done my part. I've messaged someone and
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: got aired, and then I've messaged you and you've also
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: been a.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: C u nt. Yeah, like I would not go to
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: the wedding.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and where the type of people where the type
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: of people who don't need closure though, but like I
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: don't know, a lot of people would be like, well,
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: I've got to say something so she understands where I'm
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: coming from.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: But also fuck them, and it's hard, like you could
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: because a good argument is like, well, so women's relationships
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: are a lot deeper. But like I would say, you're
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: the only deep relationship I have that is damn right.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, right, like of love of
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: yeah yeah, and like so I would that for me
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: it hurts, It would hurt as much. But I still think,
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: like I just like I'm not going there.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: Fuck yah yeah, okay, I agree so honestly, Diana Hill.
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: And then just I don't know what, so look and
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: so here. If you definitely are going to go to
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: the wedding, I would be skipping the hens doing only
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: buying flights to the wedding and doing it under you,
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: like just go go show up and then be like cool,
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I'm here for you, hush, yeah exactly.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: And the harsh truth is it sounds like the fucking
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: bride doesn't even care that you're not coming out of
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: the hand literally I know. And if she says something,
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: I'll be like, girl, I fucking asked you when I
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: live overseas and you didn't give the book thousand dollars
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: flights to come see you.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And she's like, let's say she messages you
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: like like so she's upset with you that you didn't
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: come to the hens. It's like, fuck you literally fuck yeah, honestly, Venus,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: that's what I mean. Is this bitch she met four
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: years ago? Yeah, let's hate on this woman for no reason.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: I can't believe this. Who is this woman? Yeah, you
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: had twelve years of friendship and then it sounds like
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: you had sex with her. To be fair and like,
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie the way you said if you know,
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: you know, insince waited it. But look, I'm just going
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: to assume you became really close a boarding school. Yeah,
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: but the way close sex? Ow dare she? I agree?
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: I agree? All right, Jake.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: Recently, a couple of weeks ago, it was International Women's
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: Day and I actually saw a very interesting post titled
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: some acts of micro feminism, and it is a post
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: by Growing Journeys.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: So shout out to you. This is this is this
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: saying this is how you can perform yes, micro feminism. Yeah,
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: and we have been labeled on the podcast feminists we
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: have before in the comments, but I thought this.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: Was interesting because it kind of breaks I'm gonna say,
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: the stereotypes that a lot of men have towards women,
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: old and outdated stereotypes, and these are kind of like
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: just he he ha ha, but also not Yeah. So
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: some acts of micro feminism ask men who's watching the
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: kids when they go out alone? Okay, because the assumption
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: that the women help to look after the kids.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: Is obviously wrong. Yeah, and a lot of men, I
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: still I think, still see what context? Who would ask it?
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: I think, oh, these probably this comes from a woman.
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: I would say it would be good if.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: Men did it. But and so when, so when do
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: you ask it? So if he is going to go out,
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: is that when you say.
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: He says he's like, oh, I'm just going to go
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: out to the pub tonight.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: Ah, yeah, I'm going to go to get a bier
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: of my mates. Yeah. And then you're going to be like,
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: we who's watching the kids? Yeah? I do like that.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't dislike it. Yeah, yeah, that's good.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: It's like subtle. But and then he's going to be like,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: ohh you and then you're going to be like, we
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: didn't talking about that? Yeah, life too.
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, where's the assumption that I have to look after exactly?
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah? I like it. Okay. Next one, this is exactly
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: to the point I reckon when a man gets angry
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: in a meeting, say, whoa, he is very emotional today,
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: That would genuinely be one of the best feelings, I reckon.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: I know we aren't advocates for violence.
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: No, I feel like there's a time of place fucking
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: right hook, yeah, left right, good night.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: It is I think there is. Yeah, there's a I
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: would there's a big problem in corporate, I would say,
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: but also just kind of I guess the working class,
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: everyone that works.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: I don't know where very corporate, isn't it. It just
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: for some reason it seems corporate.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like a lot of the time,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: like men will look at a women's valid reaction to
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: something as just an emotional response when maybe something that's
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: happening at work it triggers an emotion, so you are
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: having an emotional response, but like it's a valid one
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: where then very very close to most of the time,
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: men are going to be the ones that are like, oh,
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: she's just like, I'm sorry how that made you feel
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Like I'm sorry that you feel that way type of thing,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: like I'm sorry that it made you react that way
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: or whatever something like that, and it just like really
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: undermines a whole situation and minds everything, and like if
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: a man had if a man had the same reaction,
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: it would just be like a decision. Yeah, and a
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: weird thing that's happening to someone I know right now.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: I'm going to give it hell a vague just because,
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: like I don't want to It's funny. I don't know
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: many people, so there's a chance you might be to
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: work it out and head pitt it pick who it is.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: But I don't know if this is a huge issue
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: or not.
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: It's to be a good question for all the bouties actually,
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: and that is I know someone right now that is
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: going through a little bit of workplace just.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: I don't want to say drama. I want to say
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: like bullying. I would say it's it would be considered,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: in my opinion, workplace bullying towards the person I know,
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: But it's coming from another woman and then older woman.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: She's actually younger, so she's younger than but she's doing it.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: But she's higher up in the company, so still a
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: bit of a power dynamic, and so there's more than
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: one person that has problems with her. And the boss
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: is a man, and he is not handling it well.
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: I doesn't know how to handle it. So the person
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: has gone to the boss and said, I'd really like
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: a contact for HR, this big company, I'd really like
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: to contact for HR. And the first thing he said was,
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I really think that would make it a lot worse.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: What crazy? Isn't that like legal? If someone says I
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: want to go to HR and they said, I think
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: they would make it worse.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: I don't know if it's illegal, but it's definitely bad management.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: That's terrible. How bad is That's like the opposite of
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: what you should say. It should be like here, that's
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: so that's the thing as well as like I think
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: that the reason that the boss is saying this is
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: because there's been quite a few problems with this particular woman. Yeah,
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: and he finds it a lot easier to just like
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: kind of turn a blind eye. Really, that is the
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: big problem.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: Like a lot of men prefer to turn the blind
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: eye then deal with what's going on.
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: Even though it's two women, I think, and so it's
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: a woman doing it to a woman as well, by
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: the way, in this situation, and not I'm not saying
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: like I just don't know if that if that's a
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: common thing, but I just remember when I was hearing
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: about it, I was like, it's just another unfold, like
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: it would it would suck if it's a man, and
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: it would, and it sucks that I'm about to say this,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: But it's like you expect it from a man, Yeah,
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so when it's coming
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: from another woman, it's like, how come, Yeah, how come
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: we're bringing each other down? Exactly? It's unfortunate. Yeah, okay,
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: next to be fair, I guess some women could also
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: just be shitty humans. I suppose.
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: I actually have like a harsh realization that a lot
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: of humans, irrespective of gender, aren't nice people. Yeah, and
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: that's a hard thing to accept. Hey, we're like the
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: most self centered people in the universe.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's for our baddies, Yeah of course.
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: All right, here's some acts of micro feminism. Ask fathers
• 38:06
  Speaker 3: detailed childcare questions, like what shoe size does your child have?
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Dang, oh my god, imagine if I didn't know that.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: It wouldn't surprise me if they didn't know that. But
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: that's crazy, crazy, And I think the stereotype too. Even
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: I remember, like great dad, but like he couldn't remember,
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: for shit, what food I liked? Yeah, no, you know.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Also another thing about dads is like, how come you
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: can't remember my friend's names. I've told you a million times,
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like, my dad's actually relatively good.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: You remember mine? Of course? You know what he does
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: to me before you came up to Queensland last time. Yeah,
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: I'm talking to him and he goes, oh, when's he coming.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: I was like said, whatever day, and he goes, anybody
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: call him my star and I was like, nah, just
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: calls him body and he goes, I think I'm going
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: to call me up myster. I was like, you'd be
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: the first, but I'm sure he'd accept it. And he
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: didn't do it. I didn't think just kidding, No, No, that's
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: not I shouldn't gone that. What a a liar is
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: a liar? And I was like, hey, you can do it.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: He won't care, but I'll call it. Would you call
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: him when you're drunk that time? Ryan? His name is Brett,
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah you should. Actually he would find that so funny.
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: It would take him a second, but he would find
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: all right.
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: When someone says I went to the doctor, reply, oh
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: what did she say?
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: I love that. That's the best one, the one I
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: think I think it's also people's I was guilty of it.
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: The other day. We were at the Nova office and
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: the so Nova is a private company, but it's owned
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: by like it might be called like an investment firm
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: or eventual capitalist firm. I don't know what it is, right,
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: but it's owned by this firm privately, and the firm
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: has a the person that runs that firm, it's a woman.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: And we were doing this thing and someone at OVA goes, oh,
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: and like the chair person of the company that owns
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: Nover's going to be there, and I was like, oh,
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: like what's his name? Assuming it was a man, Like
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: so it's like the problem legit, No, didn't that is
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: part of the problem. And then the person I was
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: talking to corrected me, saying, oh she and I straight
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: away it was like fuck, like fucking like I hate
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: that that you were that And I was like, oh, yeah,
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: ship like fuck, it didn't even like ask that. I
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: felt terrible. Yeah, but I just think like, like, I
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: obviously don't think of myself as a misogynist, but that
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: is a form of misogyny that's just like deep rooted
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: in society.
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: Is the equivalent or not because his preference sometimes When
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: I talk about the kid that I might have in
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: the future, I say he instead of she or them.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: But that's because I would like a male son.
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: Like you want a boy, girl, boy or just any
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: I don't really care, but I want one of you
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: to see.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: How misogynistic you are. You would only have one kid?
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: No, but maybe my brain immediately goes to he because
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: I would like a male son.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's an interest.
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: Is that also maybe a bit of Yeah, I would
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: say that's kind of like a deep rooted form ab
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: is those of the comments like that might also because
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: it could be to be a preference thing, because it
• 41:09
  Speaker 3: could be a perence.
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: But it's like is it a preference because I don't know?
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: And also also I don't care, like whatever I get,
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: I get, but also like that's just what comes out
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: of my mouth sometimes with it out there.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: If I was only other one kid, i'd want a woman. Yeah,
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: I act genuinely I would have a son. But if
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: I do, I've always been like, I want boy girl,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: so no, I want girl boy girl. I've always kind
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: of thought that, like three kids, and I want two girls,
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: one boy the boy in the middle. But I wouldn't
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: I would not hate like three having three women, I
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: would not I can actually say that three girls I want.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: I love it boy girl, yeah, but I prefer three girls.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: I think we would say that much.
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: I think we would be great girl dads, and I
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: think I think.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: I think we'd be great boy dads. I think we'd
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: be both but also like girl dads too.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: And I've never had like that sort of like relationship
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: because I'm from two brothers too. Would be so intriguing
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: to you, and I had sisters. Yeah, yeah, so you're
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: kind of like used to a little bit.
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: Next one, acts of micro feminism. This must be a
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: very corporate thing. Ask a man at a meeting, can
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: you take notes today?
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: Ah, that's hilarious that I always directed that the women.
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: I assume. I assume I'm not in corporate meetings, but
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: I guess I can see that go meetings. How I
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: used that on you? You know? It's also I don't
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: think i've been okay of all that. We to be fair,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: we've had a lot of zoom meetings and we've been
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: to a lot of meetings. Yeah, I think of let's
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: like we've probably done like in our life fifty meetings.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: Maybe no not that many, but a fair few. I
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: actually am pretty sure, Like two of them have been
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: run by men. True, the owner of our management company
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: is a husband and wife, but the woman, like the wife,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: she started it from the ground up and then like
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: brought her husband in and like so they both co
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: own it, but she's in charge. Yeah. And then at
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: NOVA there is like we've spoken to like two men,
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: but every meeting we've had the person in charge, and
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: like the boss of the men is a woman, then
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: the men is a woman as well. And then I
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: saw this other thing and apparently according to this one
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: like corporate fella, he goes. In my opinion, women make
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: better CEOs than men because they're so much better at friendships.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: They're way better at forming teams and like groups. I agree.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: That's kind of interesting.
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I also see like for some reason there's a
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: conflict between both genders.
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: We're in a sense to make such an evening that
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: people were talking about.
• 43:36
  Speaker 3: The business world, you need both to be successful because
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: you both offer such different things.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: I guess it's like the same thing of I guess
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: a heterosexual relationship.
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: But yeah, it's conflict instead of bringing each other up
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: together because we need each other.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: It's weird. Is it weird to like compare a fucking
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: corp the corporate world to a heterosexual relationship? Though I
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: don't know, man, maybe it is going off that acts
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: of micro feminism say male nurse, male, doctor, male ceo male, yeah, female.
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: No no, instead of because we just say like nurse, oh,
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: instead of saying doctor, you say male to specify, because
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: we just assume a CEO is that do you specify?
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: Do you understand?
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: No, instead of only doing that with women, so they say, oh,
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: I know it is male.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: Like the CEO. Yeah. So if you're going to say
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: the female ceo, you also say the male ceo. Yes,
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: just say the ceo yeah, and then everyone can just
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: assume I guess what they want it to be. I
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: have no idea. Last one too, This one's funny. It's
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: probably the funniest one.
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: Acts of micro feminism at a barbecue, hand the tongs
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: to the nearest woman.
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, what's with the what's with the men in barbecue? Thing?
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: Like a dad will cook like three meals in his
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: life and they'll all be on the barbecue and they'll
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: be fucking burn.
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: Massive massive stereotype there. I guess, like Yeah, that's hilarious.
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: That's a hand him to a woman.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: I don't know about that too, because the cook I
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: don't know about that, Like, hey, yeah, you do you
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: do the cooking. I didn't think of that.
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: Maybe if you're at like a maybe maybe the best
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: way to do it is like the man's got the
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: tongues in his hand, pick him up, take him off him,
• 45:14
  Speaker 3: and then hand.
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: Him another man just goes that's wrong too, damn it. Yeah, true,
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: that's wrong. I don't know.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: Is it wrong because cooking like the stereotopic or we've
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: been cooking clean that's.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: Like, maybe don't do it at a barbecue. Maybe do
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: it at a normal dinner and get like, let's just say,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: I don't know, how can you run on? I don't
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: know about that one funny. I know what you mean
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: an initial shock value it had me, but I would
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: say shock value that happened as well. I understand the
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: shock value of it, but I would say that is
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: also leaning towards slightly misage. I like anything that. Yeah,
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: I agree.
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: Anything that challenges someone to think is good, even if
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: it's a little bit playful.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.
• 45:57
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• 46:05
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• 46:08
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• 46:11
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• 46:18
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• 46:20
  Speaker 1: Easy, we could do that. It was actually meant to
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: be a pod switch, but we ran out of time. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we can get them in our new studio. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I'll go one more. I don't know who this is,
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: but Bianca Rose said you guys should do a collab
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• 47:06
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• 47:10
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  Speaker 3: Whoever we had last week, Sorr, I've forgotten your name
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: was an absolute weapon. Tash, Yeah, Tah, Tash was the
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• 47:22
  Speaker 1: I think you might have been wearing headphones. And she
• 47:24
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• 47:25
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• 47:28
  Speaker 1: or Meghan? Oh? Great question, Well place bets Megan, Megan,
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: you'd say that.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: Hello, This is Meg.
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: Hello Meg, It's Jake and Oddy from the Relatables podcast.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: How are you going?
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: Oh, I'm so cool.
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: I have a question to start. Is it Meghan or Megan?
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• 47:58
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• 48:01
  Speaker 2: Oh ah, I did have some stuff written down, but
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: probably favorite quote and one that I live by. And
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: actually it's kind of funny. I listened to an episode
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: of Yours ages ago. I can't remember which one it was,
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: but you're talking about working smarter, not harder. It kind
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: of contradicts that to play devil's advocation, So it is,
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: it's the exact wording. Now you've got me on the spot.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: Okay, take it time.
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: Hard work beats talent where talent doesn't work hard.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: That's like a quote that I have heard in sport before.
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: Hard work beats talent every day of the week. What
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: if you're super talented, though, then you're just lucky. No,
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: I like it. That's great. No, look, yeah, I'll give
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: you that one. Yeah, I'll give you it, dude, I
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: like it. I definitely think hard work gets you the
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: fervice in life. Definitely. I agree. Well, thank you very
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: much for signing off the episode, and enjoy the rest
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: of your day.
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: No worries. Thanks so much.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: Bye. Damn, that was good.
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: I really do believe in like, hard work beats talent,
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: But what if you combine them two?
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: I just didn't up until now, I was. I was
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: hitting with that. You know, work smart and not harder.
• 49:22
  Speaker 3: What if you combine hard smart work?
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: I've just blown your mind. Yes you have.
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, alright, baddies, we love your stay bad