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Season 3 - Episode 19 - Focus on what is in your sight! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So we're about halfway through the month now and people are
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  starting to get a little bit stressed about these long term
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  things that they have already set up and it's like halfway
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  through January and people are starting to get stressed and the
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  question keeps coming up. Well I have this plan and by the
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  end of the year blank, blank, blank, the future pacing is off
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  the rails right now. So it's causing distraction for
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  what you need to focus on in the moment.
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  I can promise you you can future pace all you want, but you have
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  to control the fact that you are not going to stay out in the
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  future. Now, for those who are new to
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  listening here, future pacing is when you are constantly not in
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  the present moment and you were thinking about what's going to
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  happen in a month, a week, a year, six months.
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  The time frame is somewhat irrelevant because it doesn't
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  matter if it's not happening right now.
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  Your future pace and your thinking about somewhere else,
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  something else, someone else, just makes sense when you
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  process it that way. The challenge we have is that
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  the life we live is in the now. It's it's right now.
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  And of course we have to have plans in order to go on
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  vacation. We have to have plans in order
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  to have a business. We have to have plans.
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  And making plans makes people feel safe and it drives
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  certainty. And I am a mad planner, Self
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  confessed. Mad planner, Be the first one to
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  tell you that. That being said, I can't stay
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  out there because it always changes.
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  It always changes. And inevitably, I will shift
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  whatever the plans are. I will find some way to say, OK,
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  well, I think we could do this, or I think we can change this.
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  Or this will look, I'm already looking at how I'm going to
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  shift what I grow, what how I'm going to shift the garden, where
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  I'm going to plant herbs instead because I had a crazy time with
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  mint. And I'm like, oh, people need to
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  grow like mint because it just, it's indestructible.
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  It's the it's the craziest thing in the whole world.
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  Needless to say, the garden is morphing.
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  It always morphs. The farm is always morphing,
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  always shifting, always changing, adding, you know,
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  getting new baby chicks to arrive in April, all these plans
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  I have mad planner, right? Like, that's just the nature of
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  who I am. I get it.
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  At the same time, I have to focus on what's in my sight,
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  because if I don't, I'm not taking care of what I have in
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  front of me. So this particular time of the
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  year can be exceedingly stressful for people because
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  they feel like they're already off track, and it's impossible
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  to already be off track for the end of 2024 when it's the
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  beginning, middle of January. We just don't need to think that
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  way. And if you are causing yourself
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  that, you're actually robbing yourself of the moments, the
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  greatness that surround you. That's why, and we're having
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  this conversation this morning because I can feel it happening.
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  I'm hearing it from people. They're reporting it, they're
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  coming in and they're like, oh, I already blew it.
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  So I have this little challenge with myself and I'm going to use
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  this as an example because I love to tell you the real things
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  and how I do this to myself too. So I love to, you know,
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  obviously I'm Fitbit obsessed. I'm constantly walking, getting
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  steps in and I have a big audacious goal this year.
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  I want to break the 6,000,000 steps with my Fitbit because I'm
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  not broken that one yet and I really want to break that one.
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  So working towards that. But that's a long term goal and
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  I can set it and forget it. Like I just know it and it's in
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  my head. I don't check it.
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  I added a new little goal this year for my learning because my
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  constant and never ending desire to learn led me to this little
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  cool app called Headway. Headway is a very interesting
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  little. It's like summaries for adults
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  instead of like Cliff notes for adults, right?
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  You get a book and you get a summary of it.
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  Now I am a mad reader of full books.
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  Let me be Full disclosure with that.
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  However, I like to listen to them while I walk too, and and
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  so I'm always using Audible. I'm constantly getting books for
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  my Kindle and I added this little app called Headway and I
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  said to myself, oh, Cliff notes for adults, this is awesome
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  summaries. Here we go.
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  Right. So I start going through and
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  after the first day I was like oh I want to do 1A day for 365
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  days. Seemed like a fabulous idea when
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  I said it at, you know, December 31st.
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  So here we go. I I do the whole first week and
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  it's perfect. And I'm like giving myself a
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  Gold Star in my log book and I'm excited because I gave myself a
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  Gold Star and now I end up having the the whole thing with
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  the I lost Winnie last week. I threw my back out.
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  I was absolutely in agony with this.
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  I threw out a couple of ribs had to see the chiropractor.
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  Still can't move my shoulder right.
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  Got to see him again. And it's just an ongoing thing
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  and I I couldn't do the chores that I normally do by myself.
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  It couldn't bend over to tie my shoes.
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  Very annoying. So I'm it's struggling and I
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  completely forget about doing headway because it's not in my
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  routine yet. It's just not in my in my normal
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  routine yet. Is it written in my book?
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  Yes. But guess what?
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  I wasn't looking at my book because I was just trying to
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  survive and get through those days where I couldn't move and I
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  couldn't turn my head. And every time I bent over I was
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  gasping because it hurts so bad. Well, final analysis is I'm not
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  on track with the app. I'm not on track to do 1A day.
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  So now instantly my certainty girl goes, oh, you blew it,
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  you're off track. You're not going to finish with
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  365. And I was like, you know, I I
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  heard myself say this in my head.
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  And right away I just started laughing and I was like, well,
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  now you're just like everybody else doing the same talk.
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  How do you feel you've joined the complaining club?
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  And I stopped and I said very easy to catch up, very easy to
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  catch up. 1 football game. I could be ahead because I
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  don't. I sit and watch the game with my
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  husband, but I do not necessarily enjoy the game.
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  So I'm always doing something else.
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  Put an earbud in, listen, read a couple extras.
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  You'll be all caught up. And I had to give myself that
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  little bit of grace and get out of future pacing because it's
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  killing us. Future pacing is killing us.
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  So take that simple example, think about where you're doing
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  it and stop it. It doesn't work.
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  Make the plans, but stay in the present.
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  Focus on what is in your sight. Don't focus on going future
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  pacing so far that you're driving yourself insane.
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  OK, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.