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#386 I'll Do Better Tomorrow · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: Well Fridays at the day where we always breathe a
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  Speaker 1: sigh of relief because the week is nearly over. We
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  Speaker 1: get to relax a little bit, hopefully when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to routine. As the weekend arrives. We get to things
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  Speaker 1: cross spend time with our family, our kids, the ones
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  Speaker 1: that we love more than anyone else in the world. Today,
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  Speaker 1: this is doctor Justin Colson. I'm here with my wife
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  Speaker 1: and mother of our six daughters, Kylie, who co hosts
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  Speaker 1: this podcast with me on a day to day basis,
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  Speaker 1: and we love the conversations that we get to have today.
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  Speaker 1: I'll Do Better Tomorrow for those of you who are
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  Speaker 1: new to the podcast, and we're so grateful for so
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  Speaker 1: many new people coming along. Our numbers in terms of
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  Speaker 1: podcast listeners have been really increasing substantially in recent times,
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  Speaker 1: and we really appreciate you giving your.
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  Speaker 2: Time to us.
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  Speaker 1: In the mornings every Friday, for our new listeners, we
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  Speaker 1: do this segment called I'll Do Better Tomorrow, where we
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  Speaker 1: reflect on the week that was, share some personal stories
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  Speaker 1: from our own lives, and talk about how we plan
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  Speaker 1: on being more intentional and more mindful as our lives
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  Speaker 1: continue and as we continue to raise our kids day
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  Speaker 1: to day. Today, Kylie's going to go first, and it's
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  Speaker 1: been a really big week for our family and for
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  Speaker 1: some friends of ours who have experienced quite a traumatic
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  Speaker 1: and challenging week. So Kylie's I'll do Better Tomorrow as
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  Speaker 1: a reflection on that. I don't know exactly what Kylie's
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  Speaker 1: going to say, but I know that it's that, and
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  Speaker 1: I guess before we get started with what you want
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  Speaker 1: to share, Kylie, it's probably important that we just highlight
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  Speaker 1: that some of the things that we'll be talking about
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  Speaker 1: in this episode will be of a really sensitive nature
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  Speaker 1: and will make some people feel kind of sad. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: some people will be really very sad by what we
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  Speaker 1: talk about. Nevertheless, we want to be able to have
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  Speaker 1: real and honest conversations about real and honest life. And
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  Speaker 1: so Kylie, why don't you share with us I'll do
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  Speaker 1: Better tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: So yesterday I had the opportunity to attend a close
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  Speaker 2: family friend's baby's funeral, and they have known for some
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  Speaker 2: time that their baby would probably not survive very long
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  Speaker 2: after birth if she even made the full term pregnancy.
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  Speaker 2: But in spite of all of that knowledge, it has
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  Speaker 2: obviously rocked to their world and for all intents and purposes,
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  Speaker 2: the community that surrounds them. And as I sat there
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  Speaker 2: yesterday and I listened to the beautiful things that were
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  Speaker 2: shared and basically mourned alongside them, it made me think
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  Speaker 2: about our episode yesterday and this acknowledgment that it's all
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  Speaker 2: been worth it. And I thought about the different experiences
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  Speaker 2: that I've had as a mum over the years, and
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  Speaker 2: the times where I've you know, kind of wanted to
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  Speaker 2: throw on the towel because it's all been too high.
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  Speaker 2: And then I thought about my friend and I thought
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  Speaker 2: about the fact that they would actually never have the
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  Speaker 2: opportunity to have any of those experiences, the good, all
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  Speaker 2: the bad, and it really just made me think about
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  Speaker 2: the way I see my children and the things that
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  Speaker 2: are important to me, and I thought about all of
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  Speaker 2: those little moments I thought about, you know, dancing in
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  Speaker 2: the kitchen, the kids singing of Key did Disney songs
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  Speaker 2: on repeat, you know, the kids playing at the beach
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  Speaker 2: for the five minutes where everybody's happy and life just
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  Speaker 2: feels like a bliss. The warm hug. One of our
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  Speaker 2: youngest children would come in each morning and she would
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  Speaker 2: give me a hug and she'd say, oh hot, Mama,
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  Speaker 2: and just the warmth and joy that that filled me with.
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  Speaker 2: Or when I would pick the kids up and they
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  Speaker 2: would notice that I was just a little bit flat,
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  Speaker 2: and for no reason at all, they'd just, you know,
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  Speaker 2: kind of reach out and give me ah that question,
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  Speaker 2: how can I help you, mum? When they notice that
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  Speaker 2: you know, I'm feeling overwhelmed, or when big sisters take
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  Speaker 2: little sisters on dates, or Emily sharing her last lollie.
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  Speaker 2: All of those moments make up this beautiful space where
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  Speaker 2: I can feel absolute gratitude for the opportunity I have
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  Speaker 2: to be a mum. But then there's the not so
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  Speaker 2: pretty times. There's a time where whole bowls of food
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  Speaker 2: end up on heads, or you find your toddler has
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  Speaker 2: flushed something down the blue that they shouldn't have, or
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  Speaker 2: they're eating the dog food, or they've kicked the dog
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  Speaker 2: out of his kennel and they're now sleeping in it.
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  Speaker 2: The times where you know they've used your favorite lipstick
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  Speaker 2: and it's smeared all over the mirror or the carpet
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  Speaker 2: or anywhere where it shouldn't be. I know, there's the
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  Speaker 2: big stuff, the flooding of the house, or the crashed car.
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  Speaker 2: But as I thought about all of those experiences for
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  Speaker 2: a moment, I was able to be grateful for all
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  Speaker 2: of that as well, because it's only because of those
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  Speaker 2: challenging moments that I actually get to truly appreciate the
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  Speaker 2: joyful moments when they occur. It's so hard for us
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  Speaker 2: to recognize just how precious those beautiful moments are if
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  Speaker 2: we haven't had the opposition, if we haven't had a
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  Speaker 2: chance to fill the angs and the anger and the frustration.
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  Speaker 2: It's those times that help us to appreciate the growth
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  Speaker 2: and our children and ourselves as parents. And so as
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  Speaker 2: I sat there yesterday, I was just so grateful for
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  Speaker 2: the opportunity I have to be a mum to these
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  Speaker 2: six amazingly beautiful children who drive me crazy on any
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  Speaker 2: given day and yet provide me with so much opportunity
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  Speaker 2: to learn and grow and to love and to become
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  Speaker 2: a better person. And so I guess my message today
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  Speaker 2: is just hog your kids, and even if it's a
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  Speaker 2: bad day, recognize that tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow
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  Speaker 2: is a different day, and there will be so many
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  Speaker 2: opportunities to see joy in the coming days, minutes, months, years,
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  Speaker 2: as each of you grow and explore and learn who
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  Speaker 2: you are and what you want to be. I think
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  Speaker 2: that's my message today, Kylie.
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  Speaker 1: How long did they get to hold their baby before
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  Speaker 1: it passed away?
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  Speaker 2: About forty five minutes.
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  Speaker 1: So normally on this podcast I would share an older
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  Speaker 1: better tomorrow moment as well to help us to reflect
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  Speaker 1: and me better. But today I'm not going to do that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that there's I don't think that I
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  Speaker 1: could get through it anyway, But I don't think that
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  Speaker 1: there's anything that I could say that would help us
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  Speaker 1: to be better parents tomorrow than what you've shared. So
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  Speaker 1: we might wrap it up there. Hug those kids, love
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  Speaker 1: them for all their worth. I reckon that those friends
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  Speaker 1: of ours would say that the forty five minutes was
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  Speaker 1: worth it. The Happy Famili's podcast is produced by Justin
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  Speaker 1: Ruland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer.
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  Speaker 1: We'll be back on Monday with more episodes of The
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  Speaker 1: Happy Families podcast. Have a great weekend.