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Why Autistic People Burn Out (The Unsaid Truth) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  OK, so why do autistic people burn out and what is the issue
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  with sensory input that causes burnout, Shutdowns, meltdowns?
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  I'm answering all of that right now.
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  Stay tuned. And yes, I'm driving.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the Aspy world.
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  My name is Dan and I'm a quickly videos all about this stuff.
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  autism and ADHD right from the horse's mouth, make sure to hit
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  the subscribe button and follow along to every video that I
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  upload on a weekly basis. OK, so I'm taking the question,
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  why do autistic people burn out? And one of the reasons why I
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  want to answer this question is like, if we can figure out why
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  autistic people burn out, then we can figure out how we can
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  stop ourselves burning out. OK, Now, one of the most
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  interesting things is that when I teach, I coach a lot of
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  autistic individuals. And I myself have autism and
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  ADHD, so I know exactly what it's like.
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  And I've made my mission in life to try and help overcome many
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  issues. You mean you can't cure anything
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  when it's autism related, right? Because of the neurological
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  condition. But what you can do is you can
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  attain some kind of tools or coping strategies and mechanisms
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  to help you overcome it. And one of the things I noticed
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  that was common was that autistic individuals had high
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  levels of anxiety and also high levels of stress, burnouts,
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  shutdowns and meltdowns. But why?
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  And the core principle is this when we feel out of control, we
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  then lose control. And what does control mean?
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  If we think about it in a very literal interesting sense,
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  control means that you're in the driver's seat, kind of pardon
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  the pun, but you're in the driver's seat and you know
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  exactly what you're doing or where you're going.
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  Hence why autistic people like routine because they like to
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  predict what they're going to do or where they're going to be.
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  Which is why when we're dealing with autistic children or, you
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  know, autistic people who have difficulties with understanding
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  instructions, we say we're going to do this now and then we're
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  going to do that next. So it's like now a next
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  scenario, but autistic adults, when we're dealing with life in
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  general, what seems to happen is this, we can juggle about four
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  variables, right? Like and we call it the spoon
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  theory where you get 4 spoons and you make up and each thing
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  demands one spoon. So you give one spoon to, oh,
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  the kids seek my attention, give that one spoon.
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  Then I need to clean the house. That's another spoon.
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  So I've got 2 spoons left before I lose control, right?
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  And then you've got another, oh, the trash needs to be taken out.
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  And then I get a phone call from my doctor.
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  OK, 4 spoons all used up and you lose control.
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  So no spoons, no control, complete mess.
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  I feel like garbage. I don't know what to do, right.
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  And so when you have so many demands on you as a person, as a
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  human being, usually a typical human being can deal with so
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  many demands due to the fact that they're just able to kind
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  of make work around. Autistic individuals are already
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  maxed out because we have sensory input from stimuli
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  exterior to ourselves. So we have maybe there's a noise
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  going on, two people are talking, there's a smell that we
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  don't really agree with. Then there's sunlight beaming
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  into our eyes or flickering from a, a light, like a fake light in
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  like an office or something. Then there's a the, the
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  temperature is maybe too hot. Then somebody wants us to ask us
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  a question, Hey, could you take this to this?
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  I need you to do it ASAP. One more thing and we're, we're
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  already at Max spoon capacity and we lose control of our
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  entire reality because all we can do as autistic individuals
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  is look at our reality and rationalize.
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  We say, OK, this is my reality. I have to urge myself to survive
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  within this reality. But when you can't do that, when
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  you can't get there, when you cannot get yourself to that
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  moment where you are completely in control of that environment,
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  you lose it. And what happens when you lose
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  it? You shut down, you melt down.
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  It could be an outburst of emotions.
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  And So what happens when we lose control?
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  When we lose control, we then start to worry or have a fear of
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  a problem because when we lose control, it causes a problem
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  because then we're like, we're not doing the thing that we
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  think we should be doing or we think that we're demanded to do,
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  like act like an appropriate human being, be normal in a
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  situation, get on. We get a job, take care of the
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  kids, make sure that the house is done.
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  But in actual fact, these things are just superficial because
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  nobody's going to die instantly. If you can't, you know, take a
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  piece of paper to somebody or, you know, say the kids breakfast
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  is 5 minutes late, nobody's going to die, right?
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  So those things are OK, but they're just in, in that, in
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  that moment in time, we're like, dude, this is everything.
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  This is all, all or nothing. And then the, the fear that we
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  should be doing something, we're not doing something turns into a
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  worry. And then that worry turns into
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  an anxiety. And that anxiety diminishes our
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  confidence exponentially. So rather than have a, a life
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  that's filled with, hey, I'm able to do this thing because I
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  have less, you know, less spoons, but I have no worries.
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  What happens is when we have no spoons, then we increase our
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  worries, we increase our anxiety, we lose control and we
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  lose confidence. Now our ability to pick
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  ourselves back up from having a lack of confidence or a lull of
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  confidence is the only way in which we are going to build back
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  up and come back stronger. And when we do that, we increase
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  in our potential towards reality.
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  And when we increase in our potential, what happens is we
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  create confidence and confidence is key because without
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  confidence you have nothing. Now I have a free webinar on
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  three ways to build out a bulletproof brain or a conscious
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  effort to create the best experience for you so that
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  you're more confident and you are less anxious.
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  Now, if you're interested in that, I will leave a link in the
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  description down below. You can click it and then watch
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  the webinar and let me know how you found the workshop.
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  Okay guys, you haven't already subscribed.
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  I'll see you next time. Peace.