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Couple Friends · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American momas. Dear mamas, why
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  Speaker 1: is it so hard to find a couple friends?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 3: Mama joining us now our American mama's Turnttoville and Kimberly Burl.
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  Speaker 4: Listen.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there was a time, not too long ago,
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  Speaker 1: Wendy and I had a group of couple friends and
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  Speaker 1: we go out all the time. And then one of
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  Speaker 1: those couples got divorced, and then the other couple got divorced.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, that happens.
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  Speaker 1: How about all that?
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, I said, y'all, don't go out with the
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  Speaker 2: remaining couples. Are the new people, the new spouses that
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  Speaker 2: come in. Yeah, yeah, it's not the time.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it can become. Its just just things change
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  Speaker 1: and it can be difficult, difficult, But look, that's our experience.
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  Speaker 2: What what do you guys.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure nobody tells you you you talking about the
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  Speaker 4: worst couple, because we too had a best friend couple
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  Speaker 4: for thirty six years that got divorced. And what it
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  Speaker 4: does to you, It's devastating.
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  Speaker 1: It's shocking, it's it's.
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  Speaker 4: Chattering, Yes, I mean it's still it's still I feel
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  Speaker 4: it all the time when I talk to her, or
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  Speaker 4: it's just not good, but we are talking. We had
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  Speaker 4: this conversation with our children talking about couple friends, because
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  Speaker 4: all of our kids are having that. You know, they're
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  Speaker 4: trying to find a couple friend, but you don't either
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  Speaker 4: the girl girl doesn't like the other girl, but they're
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  Speaker 4: best friends of guys or you know, vice versa. So
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  Speaker 4: it's very hard to find somebody that you both click.
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  Speaker 4: The girls click, the boys click. You know, it's it's hard.
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  Speaker 4: And what we were saying is it's about seasons of life.
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  Speaker 4: It's about your economic I know, Art we had friends
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  Speaker 4: that are multi millionaires and they want us to go
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  Speaker 4: with them to do things we can't afford to go
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  Speaker 4: do what they want to do. Let's take the orient
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  Speaker 4: Express and then we'll go on to Riz Carlton Cruise.
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  Speaker 2: From there.
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  Speaker 4: We're like, oh, well.
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  Speaker 1: We'll see.
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  Speaker 2: It's so funny, are y'all? Yeah? To me? For us,
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  Speaker 2: For Kevin and me, it really felt like it was
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  Speaker 2: a lot of our close couple friends happened along the
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  Speaker 2: lines of our children's sports, like school. You know school friends.
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  Speaker 2: You know, your children meet their friends and we meet
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  Speaker 2: those parents, especially when they're younger, and then you all
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  Speaker 2: go out like maybe there's you know, three or four
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  Speaker 2: couples and it's so fun. We had that too, and
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  Speaker 2: then one of the couples got divorced and we didn't
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  Speaker 2: We never did that again. But the couples that we
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  Speaker 2: ended up doing stuff with really were our children's friends parents, right,
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  Speaker 2: And in seasons like it might be during football season,
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  Speaker 2: you get close to this group of parents, and then
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  Speaker 2: soccer this group, and then baseball this group, and you
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  Speaker 2: still you you miss those days and you still love them.
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  Speaker 2: But we don't get together because we don't have anything
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  Speaker 2: pulling us together. We don't have like, Okay, I'll see
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  Speaker 2: all Friday night at the game and we'll go out
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  Speaker 2: to eat after that, h after soccer prine.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we see that all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Ultimately, for us, it's our family. Our family are they
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  Speaker 2: are our very best friends, right, So Mike and Kimberly
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  Speaker 2: and Chad and lindsay, you know, we we do stuff
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  Speaker 2: together whenever we can, we take the kids. You know,
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  Speaker 2: those are our true best friends.
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  Speaker 4: We're so lucky that we our husbands all loved each other,
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  Speaker 4: that they're so like Mike and Kevin are so tight, right,
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  Speaker 4: you know, we're so lucky in that regard.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because that does not always happen.
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't always happen. It was kind of funny because
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  Speaker 4: we were talking to our cousin Kathy. She and Jim travel,
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  Speaker 4: She and her husband. They travel. They've been traveling with
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  Speaker 4: the same couple for twenty five years, like all their
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  Speaker 4: big trips are the same couple. But these friends do
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  Speaker 4: not live where they live. They do not see them
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  Speaker 4: any other time other than when they travel. And she said,
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  Speaker 4: it just works for us to travel. Other friends have
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  Speaker 4: tried to join in because it doesn't work and she goes.
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  Speaker 4: But there's no drama with us because we only.
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  Speaker 2: Travel with each other.
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  Speaker 4: But I thought that's interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, they don't get together, get together or
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  Speaker 2: like you know, come over and have supper, like when
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  Speaker 2: they're back in the states. You know, they don't ever
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  Speaker 2: see each other.
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  Speaker 1: That's interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they just are travel friends.
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking of this joke that you know, it's, uh,
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  Speaker 1: guys don't have friends. Just guys don't have guys have wives, right,
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  Speaker 1: friends and their friends have husbands. That's right, that's and
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  Speaker 1: that's you know that that's kind of how some of
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  Speaker 1: that turns out. But I mean and and you're right,
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  Speaker 1: there are seasons we had. You know, when we were
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  Speaker 1: a newlywed couple, we had other friends who were newlywed couples,
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  Speaker 1: and then they got divorced. I'm starting to think maybe
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  Speaker 1: for bad luck, for something, Okay, but I'll tell you
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  Speaker 1: one of the things we really feel very blessed with
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  Speaker 1: is that our son and his fiance her parents are
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  Speaker 1: amazing and we love hanging out with them. We go
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  Speaker 1: to dinner, even without the kids. We just go to dinner, eat, chat.
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  Speaker 1: They They are lovely people, a lot of fun to
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  Speaker 1: hang around with. You know. They come over for New
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  Speaker 1: Year's and and other things throughout the year. And that's
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  Speaker 1: that's a blessing. But that's rare.
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  Speaker 4: That's a dream friendship.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yes, yeah, I'll tell another. I know we only
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  Speaker 2: have a few seconds. But the coolest thing that I know,
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  Speaker 2: I have two friends, dear dear, dear friends. Their children
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  Speaker 2: married each other, so they all get together and they
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  Speaker 2: take family trips. Marla, yeah, that's Carla and Charlat and
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  Speaker 2: then they have her Then Carla's other sister in law,
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  Speaker 2: her daughter married another best friend. They all do stuff together.
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  Speaker 2: It's the dream scenario.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody was praying, right, yeah, yeah, all that. That's that's
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  Speaker 1: pretty amazing. It is difficult, but I also think it's
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  Speaker 1: worth it. I mean to put in the effort. If
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  Speaker 1: and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you,