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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Pinhas: The Four Pillars of Selfless Leadership 7.3.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  I want to pull out the shop in the class.
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  Of course, the beginning is about the man and the reward
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  that he gets for what he did. But I actually want to focus on
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  a middle part of the parishah and maybe he doesn't get as much
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  airwaves for that work and much focus.
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  And that is a two things. Number one is that after we
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  learn about penhas a champion Moshe Aveno, a certain mitzvah,
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  by the way, Moshella more soror de medianim viquete mota attack
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  and you attack Median and strike them.
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  Attack Median. Attacking Median and punishing
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  them is maybe Moshella Beno's last in a sense last mission.
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  In fact, in some pasukim, Hashem says after you attack them, then
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  they're going to go, which means Moshe Beno's last mission on
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  this earth. No, you could have delayed.
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  So Moshe Beno, according to Madash was told in some pasukim
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  at their connection, he was told attack Mijan, Mijanahu, Miyana,
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  the people who they are the ones who lured in our Jewish men to
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  make our men sin. And they enabled us to create a,
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  they created a muggy fob. Because of this, they never been
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  attack them in revenge and then Moshe will die.
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  So Moshe was told basically your death, your passing is dependent
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  on. However, whenever you get them,
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  it's far done. So if you want, you can wait a
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  week, quit a month, you quit a year, you quit 10 years, it
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  doesn't make a difference. God will not make allow
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  Musharraf man to pass away until he fulfills his mission.
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  And Musharraf man decided to do what?
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  How long did it take? Immediately, in seconds, he
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  jumped up and started to work to fulfill his mission.
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  And this to me as one lesson of a leader, and that is a leader
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  needs to be 1000% selfless. A leader is very often inclined
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  to involve his own self into the matter, to think about his own
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  self. And every person's a leader and
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  they're given a mission by Hashem.
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  The proof of that they're a good leader is how much are they
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  thinking about themselves and how much are they not?
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  And this is one example from this Mesab Musharra, Musharraf,
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  Mundanim take advantage because of mundanim.
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  Show that you're upset at them. They made us sin.
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  They took us down. Get them back and do not think
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  about yourself one bit. And Musharraign did exactly
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  that. Either way at all.
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  It's one lesson a leader. It's an incredible thing you're
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  at the same time another lesson of a leader is and Moshe asks
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  God later on in the parishah. Moshe says OK, I know I'm going
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  to pass away. I know my time is up.
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  Hashem, please choose as the next leader of our people the
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  following criteria. He says get the person.
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  By the way, Moshe Hashem in the mood you've called Hashem.
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  Hashem should appoint the God of all directions, which is
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  interesting detail. God should appoint Ish Allah
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  Aidah a man to lead the people. Hashi is still the fan.
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  This man will go out in front of them, but she have all the fan,
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  he'll come in front of them. This leader, Hashiyo CM Bashi
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  VM, he'll take them out and to bring them in.
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  The Lord, the Adat Hashem Katson, do not allow Omniseo to
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  be sheep, like sheep without a shepherd.
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  Moshe has said a lot of things there.
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  God, choose a person. By the way, God, you are the God
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  of all directions. Factor #1 why is irrelevant?
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  Why is I mentioned now God of all directions as we talk about
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  choosing a leader, number one, Number two, he says a man who
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  will go out in front of them, come back in front of them, take
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  them out, bring them in. Those terms literally mean our
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  focus on war. Those terms are focused on a man
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  who could lead on his son on war.
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  OK, now I can understand choosing a leader, choose a man
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  who's American of the war, but the first, the opening request
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  and the closing requests are difficult.
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  Opening was God of all directions and the closing one
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  was make sure they're not sheep without a shepherd.
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  What is the significance of God of all directions?
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  What does it seem to be said? What does it mean we.
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  Do it when, with Sharma by the hard, we're supposed to be
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  thinking of all, all directions of the world.
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  And so it's it's true, it's a very important factor that God
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  is the God of all directions. Why are we mentioning that when
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  we're talking about leader? Yeah, we do that also when we
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  shake the law, we shake it all four directions.
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  Serum called by not sacrifices. We have Abu Dhakot, Tanufa, we
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  wave in all directions. Good.
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  But why is that relevant as you speak about a leader, a man,
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  sorry, God, who's God of all directions?
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  Please choose for us a leader. Or do you think that's relevant?
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  Let's have that pack in front of him at all times.
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  So now he keeps him on the you know, the straight pet.
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  Says Rashi, I'm Allefana Moshe, it's open.
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  Rashi Moshe, you know, and this is the second very important
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  criteria of a leader Galui via dua la faneca.
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  You know that tosha called ehrad wehrad.
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  Everyone's mind venando mean zela ZE, and nobody's minds are
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  alike. My name alahem.
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  When I tell you Hashem, you are A1A God of all directions.
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  I'm referencing the fact that our leader, your messenger,
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  should be the exact same way. Appoint the person Monique she
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  has so well who can handle every person and their own way, which
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  means as a leader, we need a person who's going to mirror
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  God. And God has the awareness and
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  the realization that every one of us at this table, every one
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  of us in the community, anyone, anyone else in our family and
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  every one of us in Jewish world, we're all different.
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  No two people have the same makeup, the same mindset, the
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  same background, the same thought process.
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  We're all very different. And the more God realizes, which
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  God realizes completely, the more God directs the world and
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  directs us in the right way. We need a leader who treats us
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  with the exact same approach. And that's very difficult to
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  find because typically a person, especially a great person, he's
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  carved out his molds, right? A great person has worked his
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  whole life to carve out a most certain mold.
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  And he believes in certain things.
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  He believes in people being a certain way.
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  And he believes that he has the right ingredients to create a
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  great person. And I was looking at his people,
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  He's looking at his constituents and he sees one guy is a little
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  bit more of a talker than I like.
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  One guy is a little bit more of a less of a learner than I like.
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  One person is less of a hesitant person than I like.
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  One person is a little bit weak in the air.
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  We have to feel out, all right. And now this leader was meant to
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  be a person like God, which is a person who realizes that people
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  are different. Now he has to be Saville.
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  What is the word Saville? Saville means handle.
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  He has to be able to have patience.
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  It's worth of patience. It means be able to deal with
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  that. So and so is not the kind of
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  learner I want it to be. So and so is not the kind of
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  prayer. I want it to be patient with
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  that fact. He doesn't so and so does not
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  really have the right calm character.
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  I need him to have so And so gets angry too often.
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  And this leader needs to realize that, see that, and yet see past
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  that by saying, but that's OK 'cause he'll have his greatness
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  in his area. He'll have his greatness and
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  that area. He'll have his greatness in the
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  other area. And that requires a person who's
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  trying to be like God, the God of all directions, which means.
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  That Moshe is giving Hashem advice like.
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  Yeah, it's a very interesting thing.
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  So Moshe was not giving out advice.
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  He's saying Hashem, this is what I'm praying for.
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  This is what I this is what I my whole life, I work on molding.
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  Moshe is our first leader. We have, I'm talking about
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  called and we even have Moshe's father in a sense.
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  Moshe is our first leader as an Umm.
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  So Moshe has the right to put in his vote and his vote is
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  calling. I need to have someone I work
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  basically showing you I worked my whole life as a leader,
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  right? And clearly Moshe is revealing
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  to us what was the dominant feature of Moshe's leadership.
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  It wasn't his total knowledge. It wasn't his humility, it
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  wasn't his character. It was his understanding.
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  And Moshe is saying to Hashem, I spend the whole life working on
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  this understanding. God, my prayer and my request is
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  that the next man follows that same mindset.
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  And who did I learn it from? I learned it from you.
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  I spend my life living a life of understanding, leading with
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  understanding. And therefore I shall I'm asking
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  of you to make the next leader. A man is understand now.
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  Sounds like you're sure I had a harder time than Moshe, though.
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  Why now? They're all spread apart and
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  they're all going to their own world.
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  All my over here. They're all in the desert and
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  good. Well, let's think about Moshe.
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  There's challenges of understanding, and that is that
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  he had to deal with. True, Amisa was one block at the
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  time. They were all in the desert.
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  They were all following his leader lead.
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  In a certain sense, understanding was at its peak.
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  It was very easy. On the other hand, they kept
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  having these little flaws and these little weaknesses and the
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  little complaints and little Heta angle and what I gleam and
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  it's not small things. So even though in a certain
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  sense they were very much unified in their structure and
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  their mindset, they also had major moments.
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  I call them little joking, major moments that really were
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  moments. You have to be a very
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  understanding person. Imagine you're more should have
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  been. You're leading the people, you
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  did everything for them. You got them to such a far
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  level. And now comes the Heta angle.
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  How frustrating is that? Undo the whole thing.
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  How upsetting is that? Undo the whole thing.
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  Complaining, whole thing. Kodak.
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  Correct. Kodak.
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  How furious freshing is this? And and then the hitting the
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  rock and these things and the pushing, hit the rock and those
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  different things. Out of my life's goal to going
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  into Israel. That's my life's mission.
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  I can't go in. I wanted to bring these people
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  in. They can't go in.
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  There's so many frustrating moments that you need to be
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  unbelievably understanding, dude, to be able to continue on
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  the right mindset. That's why there's a back and
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  forth of them. But shit, everybody telling
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  Hashem God, I recognize that. That's the making of a leader, a
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  person's understanding. I therefore request that the
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  next leader be a very understanding person.
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  So, so far, 2 elements of a leader #1 selfless #2,
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  understanding and #3 and this is wild is that Hashem says, OK,
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  you asked for this. I know one more thing before we
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  get to #3 Moshe that adds velotti adat Hashem, katzon
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  Hashem, don't allow the people to be like sheep without a
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  shepherd. So I saw this question last
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  night. Sheba a shepherd, you're already
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  requesting a leader. You put your vote in for a
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  leader. It's very clear what you want.
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  What are you adding by saying the words to not allow them to
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  be a sheep without a shepherd. Sheep that shepherd.
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  You already said that's that Shep, don't.
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  You can never leave us. That's true.
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  What do you mean the letter write yourself but shepherd.
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  But what are you adding? You already asked for a leader.
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  You already showed your details that you need a personal
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  understanding. What is this idea of a sheep
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  without a shepherd? So I saw a concept that is a
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  very important detail about a leader as well, and that is a
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  leader. You know, today we're in the
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  friend zone. Everything's a friend.
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  People refer to their parents, sadly.
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  Go he referred to their parents by their first name because
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  we're friends. Who's your best buddy?
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  My dad, which is a nice thing. But also in a sense it becomes
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  very much what happens. Even playing field, along with
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  friendship also includes the ability to be colleague and
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  equal fight. You could argue, you could
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  dispute them, you could disagree with them because they're your
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  equal. Moshe is hinting to the fact
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  that although I just said, although I mentioned what are
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  you asking, although I mentioned you meant the coffee, although I
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  mentioned I would. Drink anything else.
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  The personal understanding all right, well, the shit I didn't
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  know. I remember first class between
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  this and the lemonade hammer that was close to me.
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  I don't know, I did wrong. He did great.
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  Although I mentioned well, she is saying like this, let's go.
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  What she is saying, although I say that the leader has got to
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  be a person of understanding and understanding everybody probably
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  means that he's a humble person and probably means he's an easy
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  person. Said, well, she at the same time
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  he's got to be a person. Same time he has to be a person
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  who's a leaders nonetheless, which means he has to be a
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  shepherd to his sheep. Do not allow that leader to
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  become an equal just because he's understanding.
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  He's not understanding because he's weak.
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  He's not understanding because he's like them.
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  He's understanding because he's great enough to be an
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  understanding person. Now two types of people
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  understand. There are people who understand
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  because they've made themselves like the sheep and they made
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  themselves like everybody else. I understand so and so is anger
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  problem because I have the same anger problem.
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  I understand so and so is marriage issues because I got
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  the same marriage issue, same problem raising children,
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  because I have the same issue raising my children.
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  I have the same issue with honesty because I also struggle
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  with honesty. That's OK, that's not great.
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  A leader has to be a person who's greater than them but
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  still understands. So Moshe is saying two things in
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  that basuk I've got. I asked for a person, very exact
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  request, very specific esque. I asked for a person as soon as
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  understanding, but not because he's weak and he's low and he's
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  like them and he's like the weakest Jew around.
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  He's therefore understanding of the weakest Jew.
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  No, no, no, he is the finest of the pack.
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  He is the greatest of the pack, and he's still understanding.
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  I wanted to be a shepherd, a leader, a person who's different
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  and yet still understanding. And that's an art.
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  It's an art to be a person who spends your whole day in Benbur
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  Dash, or to be a father who has figured out life and greater
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  than his children and yet still be understanding of his
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  children's differences. That's an art that takes work,
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  that takes development, and that takes a person being.
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  Really go back to the first point, Egoless And egoless is
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  Moshe Abinow saying I'm going to give it my life for the sake of
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  mitzvah. I'm selfless and that brings in
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  these two qualities, a person's understanding, yet at the same
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  time great. The final story of Moshe's
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  request for leadership is this part, and that is Hashem's
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  response. God says, OK, you ask for it.
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  Do you want a very specific leader?
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  Therefore I choose for you. You're sure I've been noon.
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  I don't know Hashem, and you're sure I've been noon.
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  That man has a special spirit and put your hands on him.
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  Now, what's special about God's response?
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  What's special is I even know Mosher Avenu made very clear
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  what he's looking for in the future.
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  Leader. He had an assumption, and that
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  assumption was a leader will most likely be his children.
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  Why? Because first of all, they're my
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  kids. Second of all, they probably
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  have moshed developed this mindset of how to be a leader
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  and he thinks he probably gave it over to his children and
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  therefore mosheda been it was requesting a certain specific
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  leader. And this is where his
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  selflessness needed to be in full blast.
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  And that is Hashem responded by choosing somebody else, not his
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  son. Hashem responded by choosing
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  Oshawa Benun, his find his greatest student, but not his
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  son. And now you say Moshe has to be
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  selfless. There's nothing a person wants
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  more than their legacy to go on with their children for the sake
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  of their children, for the sake of themselves, for the sake of
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  the whole world. And that Moshe has to let that
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  go and to be so selfless to accept the fact it's not going
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  to be a sense. So why was he Oshawa benun?
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  Why was he Oshawa Benun? She was best equipped like it
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  was the best. It was the best one in the sun.
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  It was his. 9 ends. OK, so everything the two good.
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  The boys had been around one of the spies.
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  OK, three good answers, I'm sorry to say.
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  You're all all for three son up near the bell.
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  I do that, no. What was it?
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  Who's who? His father was Mary.
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  No, no, not his father and his grandfather.
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  No. Sez and Madash Mary Claire
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  Madash, your Shua Benun has been chosen because of the following
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  detail. And that is it.
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  Every morning you set up before Moshe gave class, your Shua
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  Benun set up the benches. And sure, I've been set up the
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  benches for other people to come listen.
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  So that means what? No, Shua did not merit the
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  leadership because of the fact that he stayed by Moshe his 10th
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  every day. No, he didn't marry the
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  leadership because Michelle Key belted on Messiahshua.
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  Or maybe this is it's up Messiahshua.
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  No, he didn't marry the leadership because of following
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  his master 1000% his leader 1000%.
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  No, he didn't marry the leadership because he's good at
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  understanding or good at being a shepherd.
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  Maybe not he merited because setting up the benches.
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  Setting up the benches, What does that mean?
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  Well, she had her sons lost out because you're sure I said at
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  the benches, what does this mean?
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  And this is the final detail of a leader, I think.
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  And that is how much and how dedicated are you to a certain
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  outcome? How much do you care for toilet
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  to exist? How much do you care for your
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  students to learn, how much you care for the people to grow?
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  If you're willing as a leader to speak, that's impressive, but
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  it's also coverage. If you're willing as a leader to
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  give classes, that's impressive, but it's also developing tada,
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  and you feel good about yourself as the whole thing.
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  But if you willing as a leader to set up the benches, that
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  means a person set up the benches.
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  That means that all you care about is a good outcome.
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  You're so, so dedicated to a good outcome.
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  You're willing to set up the benches and set up the benches
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  also means sweep the floors. It also means be there late at
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  night to make sure everything's everything's right.
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  It also means all the other details it takes the behind the
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  scenes details it takes to make Torah flow, to make people flow,
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  to make people develop, to make people grow.
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  That's a full-fledged leader. Follow this.
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  It's not about the fact that he learned by Moshe Bran.
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  It's not enough. He needs to have the split and
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  interest in a good outcome. So what do you have from our
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  prep Sukim of the makeup of a leader #1 selfless, completely
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  selfish. Moshe Albano was giving up his
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  life by doing that last mitzvah that ashamed gave him, but he
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  did it anyway. As a leader #2 you have to be a
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  person whose understanding 4 directions.
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  And that means even think about your children.
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  I need two of them alike. Think your children, I need 2
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  alike. No, no.
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  And I think about this all the time and I can't figure it out.
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  Very much not like one son. I called up yesterday.
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  I said come with me. We're going to learn a little
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  bit. And then we're going to go to a
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  Sifanim store. Right?
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  And he's like that. No thank you.
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  Wish it was. No, thank you.
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  OK, That's all I'm doing here. Another one that says that,
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  wait, you're ready for me? He's rough money.
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  He's running across the street to come and he's bringing his
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  loose leaf and he's learning and he's going to Sifanim store and
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  he's spending an hour meeting a Sifanim store on a first day.
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  Two sons, what's the difference? I'm trying to figure out what I
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  do wrong with this one. Are they right with this one?
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  The answer is they're different and they have a different
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  makeup. And that's the reality.
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  And you have it with your children.
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  You have it with people that you know.
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  Everybody's different. And the earlier you understand
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  it, the earlier you're able to handle it.
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  That's it. That's the reality.
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  And the more you try to push a certain mold is the more you get
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  frustrated because they're no one's a certain mold.
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  You know yourself. I think about myself as much as
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  I was a goody goody, I was not in a certain mold and if you
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  tried to put any mold on me, I was going to go the other way.
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  You can't handle it. You do not want to be expected
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  to be something and said you want to be understood.
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  That's a very nowadays 2026 cheesy mindset.
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  And therefore, to combat the 2026 element to it, you have to
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  go to the next part of the play super, which is a leader, also
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  has to be a person who's a leader, a shepherd's a sheep,
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  not somebody who's the same as the crowd.
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  The biggest mistake, I don't know if my father ever said this
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  or he showed it to me. He said a rabbi is not a friend.
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  And then he said much as a rabbi is a rabbi and he couldn't be a
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  friend. It told misunderstand it not be
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  a friend. He could be a confidant, he
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  could be a friend, but the rabbi shouldn't be boising it up with
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  the boys. This doesn't work that way
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  because if he does then I'll show his flaws, and if he does
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  then I'll allow himself to be as flawed as anybody he knows.
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  I should not be his approach. His approach should be, I'm
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  pushing, I'm developing, I'm growing personally, I'm growing,
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  I'm working on myself, I'm working on my character, on and
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  on. And yet still at the same time,
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  I'm understanding. I could learn from people.
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  I could, I could, I could reach out to people.
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  I could recognize their issues and their flaws and their
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  challenges and how they live their life.
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  Got to be both at the same time. It's very difficult.
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  And finally, a person has to be as a leader of Yoshua Yoshua as
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  a person who's dedicated to the alcohol.
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  And that means set of debentures, that means work on
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  something that is 0 fanfare zero.
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  No, not impressive at all. Completely agita, just a
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  struggle only to get people to learn and to grow and to help
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  them. If you're not willing to do the
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  the time and it takes to take your children for yourself, get
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  around, but take your children right.
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  So of course you love time out together as a family.
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  That's fun. You'll do that.
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  You even could take a walk with each child and understand that.
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  But how about the effort that it takes to pack, to go, to deal?
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  How about the effort that it takes every Friday night to do
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  to just to work on getting the table together?
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  How about the effort that it takes to do different things?
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  So to go to work, to make money, to support your family.
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  You love your children. You want to give them
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  everything. There's a lot, a lot of effort,
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  a lot of back office stuff that you have to do just to enjoy the
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  understanding of them and the leadership of them is a lot, a
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  lot of agile you put into the day.
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  That is 00 enjoyment and zero sense of of of purpose and
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  meaning. And yet that is a leader that is
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  a person who represents that's a person who does a lot to bring
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  out the good outcome. And if a person is only
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  interested to be, so to speak, on TV, which means only
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  interested to enjoy the front part of it, and he's not willing
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  to do the effort, time and the pain and the struggle of all the
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  parts that are not enjoyable. A father loves taking his kids
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  out of the ice cream if they can behave, loves it.
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  It's a good feeling. Feel like a dad, right?
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  You love sitting by a Shabbat table.
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  If they're good kids and they're sitting around and they're
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  schmoozing, you love that. But how much do you love getting
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  that phone call from the teacher in the middle of the year?
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  And how much do you love having to deal with hiring extra tutors
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  to work on that child or spending the time or spending
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  really late nights trying to figure out what am I going to do
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  with this kid? You hate that, right?
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  But that's all part of the same picture of a leader.
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  And that is I do the front stuff, I do the enjoyable stuff,
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  I even have understanding in that stuff and I lead them, but
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  all based on the fact and I've dedicated to the right outcome.
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  Yoshua Benun was the best at that.
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  And so therefore he was chosen above Moshe's children because
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  he was not set enough. Someone who works, that's the
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  past. Who says someone who works on
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  the figs, he enjoys the fruit. You person who works on the
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  outcome, he enjoys the outcome. He enjoys the outcome.
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  And that's a really, really big test.
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  Is the leader interested in the outcome or is he only enjoying
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  the enjoyable times? And you can find some people who
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  are not so interested in the back time in the back office
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  time. And they say to themselves, I
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  shouldn't be doing this anymore. Why should I waste so much time
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  on the dumb stuff? No, no, no, that's the makeup of
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  a leader. And if you drop that, you'll be
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  recalled together. You need these 4 components,
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  selflessness, understanding yet still being different and yet at
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  the same time fully being dedicated to the outcome of what
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  it is to create greatness. How these four things, you're a
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  great leader. That's the idea.