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Episode 22 - You Minding Your Own Business When It Comes To Focusing On Yourself. · You Minding Your Own Business

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Speaker 1: What's going on? What's going on? Welcome to you minding
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Speaker 1: your Own Business. I'm your hosts Yanna, who I am
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Speaker 1: by Now, thank you guys for joining me for this episode.
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Speaker 1: If you guys like a commentarying you wanna hear more,
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Speaker 1: go to spriaker dot com for a slash you minding
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Speaker 1: your Own Business? A little bit about me. I am
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Speaker 1: a certified recovery life coach and mental health coach and
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Speaker 1: a mental health practitioner, and I'm all about helping people
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Speaker 1: on their paths, their journeys, and their purpose to a
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Speaker 1: new and better you through self discovery. I help people
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Speaker 1: when it comes to minding their own business and focusing
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Speaker 1: on themselves versus focusing on other people. Recovering from being
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Speaker 1: people pleasers, seat fillers, captain sable Hose, build a Bears,
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Speaker 1: build of dolls, and being a seat feeling. Also helping
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Speaker 1: people instead of looking for lovefe appreciate value, wanted, needed
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Speaker 1: to be a part of something, to be validated, to
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Speaker 1: be approved of, to be accepted for somebody, Know your
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Speaker 1: worth and proving something to people versus finding that within yourself. Now,
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Speaker 1: I know it's been a minute since I've been here,
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Speaker 1: and I'm sorry I have not been here, but I
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Speaker 1: have been going through medical issues with my throat, so
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Speaker 1: I wasn't able to do my podcast for a little while.
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Speaker 1: My throat is doing much much better, so I decided
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Speaker 1: to come on here today and do my podcast. It
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Speaker 1: used to be where I used to be able to
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Speaker 1: go live and do it, but unfortunately I'm not going
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Speaker 1: to be able to be able to BECAUSPREAKA doesn't let
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Speaker 1: us do lives anymore, so we have to do them
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Speaker 1: pre recorded. So this will be posted probably around eight
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Speaker 1: thirty this evening Eastern Standard time. So I wanted to
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Speaker 1: basically let y'all know what has been going on since
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Speaker 1: I've been gone. I've been in and out the hospital
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Speaker 1: since October and in December I went through about I
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Speaker 1: think five times to the hospital because of my throat,
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Speaker 1: and then I have something going on with my stomach
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Speaker 1: where I have a hernia, and I have something on
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Speaker 1: my abdomen that's eight centimeters long. While I was gone,
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Speaker 1: I had a lot of time to really sit back
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Speaker 1: and think about a lot of things, and I really
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Speaker 1: learned a lot while I was gone, And one of
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Speaker 1: the things I learned is the fact that the people
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Speaker 1: you may think are going to be there for you
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Speaker 1: are the people that will turn their back so on you.
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Speaker 1: Quicker than anything, I learned that family is not biological.
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Speaker 1: That family is people, regardless of who they are, that
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Speaker 1: genuinely care about you. And with this particular podcast, if
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Speaker 1: you minding your own business, it's more about you focusing
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Speaker 1: on yourself. Now here's the tears a kicker to it all.
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Speaker 1: Nobody's saying don't help people, but don't help people and
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Speaker 1: destroy yourself at the same time. Don't help people and
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Speaker 1: you're lowering yourself in order to build other people up
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Speaker 1: who are not gonna appreciate it. Don't follow behind the crowds,
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Speaker 1: become the leaders of crowds. God never said that we
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Speaker 1: had to be fools in order to be godly people.
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Speaker 1: God never said we had to be like anybody else
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Speaker 1: besides ourselves. God never said that we had to bow
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Speaker 1: down to other people. Because if Jesus didn't bow down
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Speaker 1: to the devil himself, regardless how many times the devil
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Speaker 1: came in him and said to him that he wanted
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Speaker 1: him to bow down, and this is what he would
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Speaker 1: give him, the devil said, no, I mean God, I
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Speaker 1: mean Jesus said no sorry, Jesus said no, no matter what,
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Speaker 1: No matter what the devil presented to him, Jesus never
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Speaker 1: bowed down to the devil. Why are we Why are
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Speaker 1: we lowering ourselves to people that we shouldn't be lowering
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Speaker 1: ourselves in the first place. Why are we having these
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Speaker 1: self esteem, self worth and self value issues when these
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Speaker 1: other these people who you feel are better than you
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Speaker 1: and all actuality, are not better than you at all.
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Speaker 1: The one thing I learned in recovery is the acceptance
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Speaker 1: of yourself, and that means no makeup, no fake hare,
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Speaker 1: no plastic surgery, none of that, because at the end
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Speaker 1: of the day, you're doing all of these things just
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Speaker 1: destroying your You're destroying yourself. So by you trying to
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Speaker 1: make yourself better by putting on makeup, by doing plastic surgery,
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Speaker 1: you ain't doing it making yourself unhealthy. So the fact
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Speaker 1: that y'all are so worried about everybody else's business, but
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Speaker 1: yet you're not concerned about your own. You making everybody
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Speaker 1: else money, but not focusing on making your own self money.
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Speaker 1: You putting somebody else down just so to make you
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Speaker 1: look better. That's kind of stupid, don't you think? The
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Speaker 1: one thing I've learned is being who you are is
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Speaker 1: a beautiful thing, regardless of what anybody says, regardless of
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Speaker 1: what anybody thinks, regardless of anybody does. I look at
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Speaker 1: my flaws and imperfections, any disabilities I have as war wounds.
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Speaker 1: I look at them as badges of honor. I don't
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Speaker 1: look at them as negative in any way. I don't
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Speaker 1: look at my failures as this terrible thing. I look
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Speaker 1: at it as a journey. I look at it as
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Speaker 1: these are things I went through, and these are things
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Speaker 1: that's always gonna remind me of what I went through.
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Speaker 1: So just because I don't have what everybody else around
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Speaker 1: me has doesn't mean that I'm not a good person.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that I'm not worthy of something. It's
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Speaker 1: just not my time. So at the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: I want people to understand that you minding your own
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Speaker 1: business and not worrying about somebody else's business makes you
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Speaker 1: a better person. I am one of these people. When
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Speaker 1: it comes to negative I'm doing a podcast. So at
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Speaker 1: the end of the day, when it comes to doing
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Speaker 1: this podcast on spreaker dot com, I need people to
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Speaker 1: understand that I didn't create this podcast just because I'm
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Speaker 1: giving you temporary advice. I am giving you permanent advice
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Speaker 1: because these are things that you're gonna need to not
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Speaker 1: only recover and heal, but being able to maintain the
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Speaker 1: recovery and the healing. A lot of people go back
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Speaker 1: to the same behavior, go back to the same things,
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Speaker 1: and they still get the same result. It's just like
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Speaker 1: people that get hooked on drugs. They think ninety days
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Speaker 1: is enough to get somebody off drugs. No, it ain't.
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Speaker 1: It's a lifetime. It's a lifetime of healing. It's a
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Speaker 1: lifetime of recovery. But every time you go through something,
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Speaker 1: you're supposed to be better at spotting the red flags,
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Speaker 1: and your intuition should be strong enough to say, I'm
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Speaker 1: not gonna waste my time with it. You should be
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Speaker 1: at a place where rejection don't even bother. You know,
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Speaker 1: you don't even matter whether you single or whether you
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Speaker 1: with somebody or not. It's okay to accept rejection and
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Speaker 1: don't feel bad about it. Don't feel bad because a
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Speaker 1: job didn't her. You, don't feel bad because somebody don't
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Speaker 1: want to be with you. Those things are not meant
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Speaker 1: for you, and that's okay. It's okay not to be
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Speaker 1: involved in certain things. But that's not what society teaches you.
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Speaker 1: They teach you you gotta go and compete and not
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Speaker 1: give up. I'm giving up. No, I'm not wasting my time.
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Speaker 1: I ain't doing that because that's not meant for me.
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Speaker 1: I'm not competing where I don't compare. I'm not competing
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Speaker 1: where I don't want to compete with or without. So
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Speaker 1: if a lot of women really minded their business and
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Speaker 1: really wasn't out here having sex, they would get better results.
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Speaker 1: Because here's the thing. By you trying to be like
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Speaker 1: these other females that are promiscuous, you now know differently
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Speaker 1: than the women that are pamiscals that you talked about,
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Speaker 1: because now you just became one of them when you
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Speaker 1: gave your body to a man. So at the end
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Speaker 1: of the day, when it comes down to these particular things,
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Speaker 1: I just wish number one women would close their legs
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Speaker 1: and stop having sex with men that you're not married too,
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Speaker 1: men that you're not committed to, because here's the thing,
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Speaker 1: you're giving your body to men that are just looking
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Speaker 1: at you as another notch on their belt. They don't
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Speaker 1: want you, they won't have sex with you. They don't
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Speaker 1: take you out dinner, don't take out the movies, don't
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Speaker 1: do nothing. And if they do, they're expecting sex. My
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Speaker 1: old thing is close your legs and see what happened.
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Speaker 1: Tell them you ain't having sex. A matter of fact,
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Speaker 1: don't even let them come to your crib. Every time
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Speaker 1: y'all go out you meet him somewhere, don't even let
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Speaker 1: that man know where you live at for about a year,
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Speaker 1: not because you got somebody there, because I'm not bringing
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Speaker 1: to my house because I know if I bring you
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Speaker 1: to my house, there's no telling what you gonna do.
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Speaker 1: Because if I tell you no, who to say you're
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Speaker 1: not gonna sex assault me? Who to say that you're
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Speaker 1: not gonna do that? You don't want to know a
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Speaker 1: man to really care about you. If you say you're
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Speaker 1: a celibant, he has no choice for the respect that.
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Speaker 1: And if you don't want to go in that journey
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Speaker 1: with you, then he's not the person for you. But
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Speaker 1: women don't ever want to put men on these particular journeys.
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Speaker 1: If that man says no, then he's not the person
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Speaker 1: for you. So I'm just saying, it's just like when
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Speaker 1: they come down to people that are supposed to be
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Speaker 1: your friends. If your friends got you doing something that's
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Speaker 1: gonna put you in jail, those are not your friends.
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Speaker 1: They're not your friends at all. So I get the
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Speaker 1: fact that I get the fact that for a lot
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Speaker 1: of y'all you want to fit in in the end crowd.
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Speaker 1: No you don't. You don't want to fit in with
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Speaker 1: the in crowd because, honey, you going to jail somewhere, jail, pregnant,
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Speaker 1: hooked on drugs, all kind of nonsense. You gotta accept
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Speaker 1: things for what they are, whether you want to or not.
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Speaker 1: And ladies, for y'all having children, because I will be
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Speaker 1: talking about this on my other African melani and Queens channel,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna need y'all to stop having these babies. And
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Speaker 1: you ain't married. As matter of fact, I would say,
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Speaker 1: I don't think no young girl should be having sex
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Speaker 1: until you are close to thirty. Honey, start making these
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Speaker 1: men wave, Start making them wave and stop and stop
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Speaker 1: being a second option and being a side check to
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Speaker 1: a man and he's married. Have some type of self esteem,
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Speaker 1: self worth to yourself. You really think this man is
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Speaker 1: leaving his wife. I mean, he is telling you so
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Speaker 1: many things about his wife, but he ain't even tore her,
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Speaker 1: and then when you talk to her, you find out
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Speaker 1: that this woman has no idea this man and even
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Speaker 1: feels this way. Ladies, I need y'all to stop getting
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Speaker 1: mad and please start listening to your side. To the
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Speaker 1: side chick, I'm gonna tell you what I do when
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Speaker 1: I deal with women of the side chicks, or even
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Speaker 1: women that I find out that the man is married to.
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Speaker 1: Do you know what I tell both sides? Number One,
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Speaker 1: If I'm the girlfriend and I find out the person
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Speaker 1: I'm with his cheek, the first thing I'm gonna ask
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Speaker 1: her is what has he told you about me? If
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Speaker 1: she says he tells me that you don't do this,
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Speaker 1: and you don't that I don't cook, that I don't clean,
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Speaker 1: that I don't take care of him, that I'm not
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Speaker 1: there for him, that's what he told you. Does it
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Speaker 1: look like that based on in my house? Does it
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Speaker 1: look like I don't do any anything? So he pretty
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Speaker 1: much told you a bald face alife just so he
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Speaker 1: can get you in bed, Because if he was really
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Speaker 1: gonna divorce me the moment he met you, he'd have
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Speaker 1: came to me and told me immediately he wanted a divorce,
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Speaker 1: but he didn't. Ladies, please stop playing yourselves. If a
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Speaker 1: man does not tell his wife from the moment he
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Speaker 1: met you, then he want divorce, then he has no
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Speaker 1: intentions of leaving his wife. I have had wives call
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Speaker 1: me and I have no idea these women even existed
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Speaker 1: because I don't go looking for it. I don't. I
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Speaker 1: don't go look for it. It always seems to find me.
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Speaker 1: And I always tell women that I don't look for nothing.
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Speaker 1: It always comes to me because if I'm not ready
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Speaker 1: to look for it, I ain't gonna try to find it.
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Speaker 1: But if I want to look for it, trust me,
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Speaker 1: I'll find it. A lot of y'all will look for
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Speaker 1: stuff knowing you don't want to find it, and then
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Speaker 1: find it and go right back to the person. Then
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Speaker 1: what was the point of looking for it? Then what
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Speaker 1: is the point you blaming a woman when you should
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Speaker 1: be believing your husband. Your husband is the one that
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Speaker 1: made the choice to ask that girl for her phone number.
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Speaker 1: That man made a choice to go out to dinner
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Speaker 1: with that woman and spend money on that woman, to
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Speaker 1: have sex with that woman that was not that woman,
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Speaker 1: That was your husband. And even if it's one of
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Speaker 1: your friends going after your husband. Why didn't he come
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Speaker 1: to you when she started making passes at him and
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Speaker 1: telling you that he did. Oh, because wouldn't believe me,
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Speaker 1: You would say, my friend would never do You get
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Speaker 1: out of here. You better think again. You better stop
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Speaker 1: thinking your friend wouldn't want your man. You lost your mind.
14:39
Speaker 1: Your husband come to you and tell you his home,
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Speaker 1: your homegirl try to sleep with him, and you gonna
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Speaker 1: believe her. And then when you find out that they
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Speaker 1: now are really sleeping together, now you mad at him?
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Speaker 1: Uh huh, Be mad at him, Be mad at her
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Speaker 1: because he tried to tell you so. At the end
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Speaker 1: of the day, I need people to understand minding you,
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Speaker 1: minding your own businesses, you protecting yourself, you understanding that
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Speaker 1: not everybody is your friend, Not everybody is gonna accept you.
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Speaker 1: Not everybody's gonna like, gonna like you, or approve of
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Speaker 1: you any of that. Who cares if they don't. That's
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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Taking care of yourself and being independent
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Speaker 1: is so important. That's why I can't stand on people say, well,
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Speaker 1: you gotta be you gotta stop being independent. I'm not
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Speaker 1: gonna stop being independent. Know it ain't nowhere because if
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Speaker 1: you leave me, or I leave you, or you pass away,
15:41
Speaker 1: I still gotta take care of myself. I don't know
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Speaker 1: why y'alln't understand that people gonna leave, people gonna leave,
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Speaker 1: people gonna walk out, people gonna die. That's just where
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Speaker 1: it is. Ain't nothing you can do with that, nothing,
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Speaker 1: nothing you know about it. The only thing you can
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Speaker 1: do is be independent no matter what. That's why you
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Speaker 1: don't lower yourself for nobody. You don't lower yourself for anybody.
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Speaker 1: I don't care who it is. People are going to
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Speaker 1: walk out of your life no matter what, and you
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Speaker 1: gonna be by yourself. But that is the biggest line
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Speaker 1: society tells you. Oh you gonna get married. Look at
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Speaker 1: all these people getting divorced. Look at all these females
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Speaker 1: having these babies and are now single mothers. Will great
16:36
Speaker 1: power come great responsibility? Ladies and gentlemen, y'all better get
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Speaker 1: it together and understand that y'all better going on somewhere
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Speaker 1: at the end of the day. Like I said, you
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Speaker 1: gonna have people that's gonna sit up here and do
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Speaker 1: all kinds of crazy things in this world. But at
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Speaker 1: the end of your life is of your own and
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Speaker 1: at the end of the day, whether somebody's in your
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Speaker 1: life or not, you better be able to stand alone.
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Speaker 1: You better be able to do things on your own.
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Speaker 1: And you better not lower yourself for anybody. I don't
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Speaker 1: care if you're in a marriage or not. Do not
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Speaker 1: lower yourself. Don't do that because it's not your job
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Speaker 1: to build a grown person up. That's their parents' job.
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Speaker 1: That is not your job. That is their parents' job.
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Speaker 1: It is not your job to pay somebody else's bills.
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Speaker 1: Who's house you don't live in, That is not your responsibility.
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Speaker 1: If their own parents won't give it to them, why
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Speaker 1: are you giving it to him. You shouldn't even be
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Speaker 1: doing that. Your blessings are your blessings. But that don't
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Speaker 1: mean you can't take your blessings and go build a school,
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Speaker 1: go build a community center, go build something. That don't
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Speaker 1: mean give it the people in your personal life. No,
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Speaker 1: that is not what that means. It means that you
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Speaker 1: are doing something to help others, But not personally that part.
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Speaker 1: God never said personally you had to give up everything
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Speaker 1: for your family. God never said you had to give
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Speaker 1: up everything personally for your spouse. God never said to
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Speaker 1: give up your dreams, your goals to be with a man.
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Speaker 1: There is nothing that says that. Nothing nothing, Where are
18:35
Speaker 1: y'all reading all this stuff at? Because God said men
18:40
Speaker 1: and women are both supposed to submit to each other.
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Speaker 1: But it does not mean your career. It does not
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Speaker 1: mean give up everything. God did not say that. And
18:50
Speaker 1: God when he said the word help make it means
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Speaker 1: you are the assistance to me. You add to my life,
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Speaker 1: you don't take away from it. When you got people
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Speaker 1: taken away from you everything you worked hard for, everything
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Speaker 1: that you built, then you pretty much have to let
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Speaker 1: them people go because those are not people you want
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Speaker 1: to deal with. These are not people you want to
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Speaker 1: waste your time home. So at the end of the day,
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Speaker 1: I just want people to understand that when it comes
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Speaker 1: to your well being and what is best for you,
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Speaker 1: it is not about everybody else. It's about you. People
19:36
Speaker 1: only add to your life. They do not nor are
19:39
Speaker 1: they supposed to attract from your life. If anybody's attract
19:43
Speaker 1: from your life, you leave them with it at and
19:45
Speaker 1: stop having low self esteem low self worth. Because society
19:49
Speaker 1: builds people up. If you see happity thee without makeup
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Speaker 1: happity people broke, you would see they're not everything they
19:56
Speaker 1: cracked up to me. If you have to use looks
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Speaker 1: and money to make yourself a better person, I don't
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Speaker 1: know what toe you. So all I'm saying to people
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Speaker 1: is stop worrying about what everybody else got to think
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Speaker 1: and what everybody feels. It's your life. Live your life
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Speaker 1: the way you want to live your life. Do whatever
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Speaker 1: it is you feel the need that you want to do.
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Speaker 1: But don't let nobody stand away from your greatness. If
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Speaker 1: you are on a path and your parents coming to
20:25
Speaker 1: you saying why are you not married? Because I choose
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Speaker 1: not to be married, I'm not ready to be married.
20:30
Speaker 1: I don't want kids right now, stand on that. Don't
20:34
Speaker 1: let nobody change your mind on that. If you say
20:37
Speaker 1: that you don't want to have kids, either that person
20:40
Speaker 1: accepts it or they don't. If you do not want
20:44
Speaker 1: to be a relationship, either that person accepts it or
20:47
Speaker 1: they don't. But if you don't accept it, take everything
20:49
Speaker 1: and come with it. You cannot be mad because somebody
20:53
Speaker 1: dogged you out because they told you they didn't want
20:57
Speaker 1: to be a relationship with you. They told you that,
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Speaker 1: and yet you decided to continue to deal with them anywady.
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Speaker 1: So don't forbet when all this stuff happens and you
21:08
Speaker 1: don't understand why. Like I said, I get it. Trust me.
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Speaker 1: It's a lot of people that choose pain over happiness.
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Speaker 1: Sadly enough, there are a lot of people that will
21:23
Speaker 1: destroy their own happiness for the love of somebody else,
21:27
Speaker 1: for someone that doesn't want you. Somebody doesn't want to
21:30
Speaker 1: be in a relationship with you. Somebody doesn't even want
21:33
Speaker 1: to even be with you in the first place. They
21:35
Speaker 1: want everything that come with you, but they don't want you.
21:42
Speaker 1: Even though that's a hard pill to swallow. A lot
21:44
Speaker 1: of y'all, if you go back and look at every
21:46
Speaker 1: single last one of your relationships, you gonna find that
21:51
Speaker 1: none of these people cared about you in the first place.
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Speaker 1: You were just a convenience. You would just see Field,
21:57
Speaker 1: the Captain saber hor build a beard and a build
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Speaker 1: a dog. That's all you were. And there are a
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Speaker 1: lot of people that when they build these people up,
22:04
Speaker 1: they end up being left. There are people in jail
22:07
Speaker 1: because somebody else and what they did. All these drug
22:11
Speaker 1: dealers sitting in jail and prison not because of what
22:14
Speaker 1: they did, because they homeboys snitched on everybody. So he
22:17
Speaker 1: wouldn't go to jail. You think somebody won't take you
22:20
Speaker 1: down with them when y'all doing something negative. If you
22:24
Speaker 1: got all these people that are adrenalin junkies, people that
22:28
Speaker 1: are playing Russian roomlette with their lives, you gotta lead
22:30
Speaker 1: them with they at Sometimes you can't do dirt with everybody,
22:34
Speaker 1: gotta do dirt by yourself. And sometimes you gotta take
22:37
Speaker 1: things to the grave. You just do. At the end
22:43
Speaker 1: of the day. It's sad what's going on in this
22:47
Speaker 1: world right now, But right now, if you find love
22:51
Speaker 1: and you find a good person, then by all means, hey,
22:56
Speaker 1: I ain't mad at it. But if you don't, it's
23:00
Speaker 1: okay too. If you don't like all these reality TV shows,
23:06
Speaker 1: I don't even watch none of the No, I don't
23:08
Speaker 1: watch none of them because to me, it ain't nothing
23:11
Speaker 1: but a bunch of bs married at first sight. Is
23:14
Speaker 1: not even about marriage, is really about the drama. It's
23:17
Speaker 1: went from people really trying to find love to now
23:21
Speaker 1: being about a bunch of druma in the past few years.
23:25
Speaker 1: I think it was last season, none of them stayed together,
23:28
Speaker 1: none of them. So at the end of the day,
23:32
Speaker 1: I get it, I do. I get it. Everybody wants
23:37
Speaker 1: to be loved. Everybody wants to be accepted, but sometimes
23:40
Speaker 1: that just ain't the case. And your people may not
23:43
Speaker 1: even be in the environment that you in. Your people
23:48
Speaker 1: that may be your people may be people that are
23:50
Speaker 1: not in your environment, which means you gotta get up
23:53
Speaker 1: and move. Sometimes when it comes to your health and wellness,
23:58
Speaker 1: you got to get up and move to a whole
23:59
Speaker 1: nother state or move to a whole nother country in
24:03
Speaker 1: order to be healthy. You can't keep staying in bondage
24:09
Speaker 1: and staying in chaos. You can't. You gotta get up
24:16
Speaker 1: and move. That is the only way that you gonna
24:20
Speaker 1: you gonna get through. Because it took me leaving my
24:24
Speaker 1: environment for me to be somewhere better for better things
24:30
Speaker 1: to happen. You gotta leave your environment. If your environment
24:36
Speaker 1: is not where you need to be, pack up and
24:40
Speaker 1: bounce and leave, because there's no point of staying somewhere
24:47
Speaker 1: that you're not being You're not getting healthy, you're not happy,
24:51
Speaker 1: relationships ain't working out because of people in that environment
24:54
Speaker 1: are negative. You need to leave, leave the environment. And
24:58
Speaker 1: I know that's hard to do. I know it's hard
25:00
Speaker 1: to get up and bounce and leave, but sometimes you
25:04
Speaker 1: need to leave the environment in order for you to
25:08
Speaker 1: have a better life. Sometimes you gotta leave the country
25:12
Speaker 1: in order to be a better life. You know how
25:14
Speaker 1: many people that left the country and they just as
25:15
Speaker 1: happy as they can be. But the only thing about
25:18
Speaker 1: leaving the country is if you can't be a actual citizen,
25:22
Speaker 1: then I don't recommend your leaving because you just waste
25:24
Speaker 1: some time going for place to place. And that's just
25:26
Speaker 1: the way it sounds. Because if you ain't got that
25:27
Speaker 1: kind of money like that, I don't recommend you do.
25:31
Speaker 1: But I just want people to understand you minding your
25:34
Speaker 1: own business is exactly that. You minding your own business.
25:38
Speaker 1: You're focusing on yourself. You're doing for yourself, You're taking
25:41
Speaker 1: care of yourself. You're traveling the world by yourself. You're
25:43
Speaker 1: doing things by yourself. You don't have to have people
25:46
Speaker 1: around you, and you somebody that fights your battles by yourself.
25:51
Speaker 1: There are people that fight their battles and they have
25:53
Speaker 1: nobody there for them at all to help them through
25:57
Speaker 1: what they're going through. And yet it's still they're going
26:01
Speaker 1: through these battles. Is it easy? No? But some people
26:06
Speaker 1: love their families enough not to put them involved in
26:10
Speaker 1: their battles that they face or that they fight. So
26:15
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with you not bringing people involved in something.
26:22
Speaker 1: Sometimes you gotta move in silence. Sometimes you got to
26:24
Speaker 1: do the forty eight laws of power. Sometimes you're gonna
26:26
Speaker 1: have to be able to pay attention to signs that
26:30
Speaker 1: it's time for you to walk away from something or someone.
26:33
Speaker 1: Sometimes it can be a situation where you may say
26:36
Speaker 1: this is not meant for me. I need to walk
26:38
Speaker 1: away from this, I need to move from this, I
26:40
Speaker 1: need to go on to something better. Then do that.
26:42
Speaker 1: Don't let nobody stand in your way of your greatness.
26:45
Speaker 1: Don't let nobody stand in the way of what it
26:47
Speaker 1: is that you're trying to do to be the best
26:49
Speaker 1: version of yourself. Don't let nobody sit up here and
26:52
Speaker 1: steal from you, take your ideas making money off your talent.
26:57
Speaker 1: Do you not understand the NBA and all all of
27:00
Speaker 1: this whole entertainment business. These people don't have a bit
27:05
Speaker 1: more talent in the world, but yet they're making billions
27:08
Speaker 1: of dollars off other artists' talent. But yet these artists
27:13
Speaker 1: are only getting a two percent of what they make
27:18
Speaker 1: off their talent. Now they're trying to make money off
27:22
Speaker 1: these tours. So now the labels are trying to basically
27:25
Speaker 1: make it so they get a certain percentage of the tours. Yeah,
27:29
Speaker 1: they're trying to do that. Now that's coming very soon.
27:33
Speaker 1: Pretty soon they'll be able to make money off your tours.
27:35
Speaker 1: And then what So, all I'm saying is focus on yourself.
27:42
Speaker 1: Like I said, I get it. I absolutely get it.
27:44
Speaker 1: The fact that a lot of us, you know, we
27:47
Speaker 1: try to live up to all these expectations. But I'm
27:52
Speaker 1: done with expectations at this point. I am living my
27:55
Speaker 1: life for me. I'm not living my life for everybody else.
27:59
Speaker 1: I am living in my life for what I choose
28:02
Speaker 1: to live my life for. And if I never get married,
28:05
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that. Right now, I'm in the health
28:08
Speaker 1: I'm in the health and wellness stage of my recovery
28:11
Speaker 1: where I'm healing internally. And that is the hardest recovery
28:16
Speaker 1: to deal with, is internal health. Mental health. You can
28:20
Speaker 1: get through it by just letting go off all the trauma.
28:23
Speaker 1: Emotional health is learning emotional intelligence and learning that nine
28:27
Speaker 1: to nine point nine nine nine percent of the time,
28:30
Speaker 1: it's not even worth you being mad about things. It
28:33
Speaker 1: ain't even worth being mad. When a person she's just
28:35
Speaker 1: walk away, it ain't worth it. I don't even waste
28:39
Speaker 1: my time when the people do stupid things. I just
28:43
Speaker 1: don't even care. I just be like, Okay, it is
28:46
Speaker 1: what it is, go ahead and leave. I don't care,
28:48
Speaker 1: cause I don't been through it so many times. I
28:50
Speaker 1: just don't even care no more. I don't put nothing
28:53
Speaker 1: past nobody. I trust people until you give me a
28:56
Speaker 1: reason not to and trust. I'm gonna give you another
28:59
Speaker 1: reale to hang yourself. If you can't go out with
29:03
Speaker 1: your friends without being influenced by them, if you can't
29:08
Speaker 1: be in a room with a woman and she's naked
29:11
Speaker 1: and you not do anything, then we have a very
29:14
Speaker 1: serious problem. Because the lack of discipline is funny to me.
29:19
Speaker 1: All of y'all claim to be claim to be godly people,
29:22
Speaker 1: yet you have no discipline. So you mean tell me
29:25
Speaker 1: it's that easy for a negative person to influence you.
29:32
Speaker 1: I certainly absolutely do. But you know what does even funny?
29:41
Speaker 1: You ain't got to be here either. Sorry, y'all, I
29:45
Speaker 1: find people funny. But anyway, long story short, at the
29:49
Speaker 1: end of the day, you gotta learn that you were
29:52
Speaker 1: all you got, you will put on your bruin. You
29:55
Speaker 1: came in this world by yourself, and you gonna leave
29:58
Speaker 1: this world by yourself. And bottom line is, none of
30:01
Speaker 1: this stuff is going with you when you pass away,
30:04
Speaker 1: none of it. So stop living your lives holding on
30:09
Speaker 1: the things that you're not gonna keep when you pass away.
30:12
Speaker 1: Your kids ain't gonna do nothing but sell it. Are
30:17
Speaker 1: you serious? Right now? Hold on? And you know it's funny.
30:22
Speaker 1: Somebody just decided they wanted to remove my my my thing,
30:31
Speaker 1: So that's crazy. I don't even get mad at this
30:36
Speaker 1: point at the end of the day. It's just funny
30:45
Speaker 1: how people try to do things, and it's just hilarious.
30:53
Speaker 1: I just don't even understand what in the world that people.
31:03
Speaker 1: It's just hilarious to me. It's amazing how people try
31:08
Speaker 1: to do things to you because they're mad for whatever reason.
31:14
Speaker 1: And it's amazing how people try to do certain things
31:18
Speaker 1: and they try to stop you from doing certain things,
31:23
Speaker 1: not realizing some things are a blessing. I was doing
31:28
Speaker 1: a live on TikTok while I was doing my podcast
31:32
Speaker 1: and somebody decided to flag it. Here we go again
31:37
Speaker 1: with the nonsense. I'm not even mad about it. To
31:41
Speaker 1: be honest, I don't even care because what the person
31:44
Speaker 1: didn't realize is I'm actually doing my podcast for Spreaker.
31:49
Speaker 1: But I just find it funny that you have people
31:54
Speaker 1: that want to stop you from your growth and from
31:59
Speaker 1: your development and trying to stop you from being the
32:03
Speaker 1: best version of yourself. And then they said it's for
32:07
Speaker 1: suicide and self harm. Oh my lord, let me let me.
32:17
Speaker 1: Let me read this to y'all. It says we want
32:20
Speaker 1: TikTok to be a place where people can discuss emotional
32:23
Speaker 1: complex topics and support without increasing risk or harm. We
32:29
Speaker 1: do not allow us promoting sharing plans of suicide or
32:33
Speaker 1: self harm. I didn't say anything in my video that
32:35
Speaker 1: was self harm or suicidal. But it's really amazing how
32:40
Speaker 1: people try to play your face and then when they
32:45
Speaker 1: they look at it and they realize that it's not
32:48
Speaker 1: any of the things, they put it back, and then
32:51
Speaker 1: they put it back and then you go up and
32:54
Speaker 1: you be like, all you can do is laugh about it.
32:58
Speaker 1: You can't even be mad about it. And that's what
33:00
Speaker 1: I'm saying. We're negative people. There's no point of getting
33:03
Speaker 1: mad because anybody else in this situation probably would be
33:07
Speaker 1: pissed off right now, But you wanted to tell me why,
33:10
Speaker 1: you won't even tell you why. I'm not pissed off
33:12
Speaker 1: about it, because all it is is is leading me
33:15
Speaker 1: somewhere else. And that's why I tell people negative people
33:18
Speaker 1: move things out the way that don't belong, and then
33:22
Speaker 1: when you leave and then you're gone, then they're mad
33:25
Speaker 1: that you're gone, and they wonder why it is that
33:28
Speaker 1: you don't do videos anymore, why people stop being content creators,
33:32
Speaker 1: why people stop doing YouTube and TikTok and Facebook and Instagram.
33:39
Speaker 1: Because people want to basically put their misery onto you
33:45
Speaker 1: or say something about you because they think they're better
33:48
Speaker 1: than you for whatever reason. Bullying people, harassing people, and
33:52
Speaker 1: threatening people. I just find it funny that these people
33:57
Speaker 1: really think I'm gonna be upset because you took my
34:02
Speaker 1: stuff them because you're mad because I am not going
34:08
Speaker 1: to do what you want me to do. And I
34:10
Speaker 1: already know it's the same people from the sex Coat
34:15
Speaker 1: that's doing this, So I'm not even upset about any
34:20
Speaker 1: of this because when they put it back, after they
34:24
Speaker 1: listen to it and they put it back, I don't
34:26
Speaker 1: want to hear nothing. At this point. I'm not the
34:29
Speaker 1: one thing about me. All it is I got people
34:33
Speaker 1: from a sex coat that I pretty much helped take
34:37
Speaker 1: down that's trying to destroy my life every chance, thank God,
34:42
Speaker 1: forsaking it. And because I will not come back to
34:46
Speaker 1: that sector, and because I will not pay them, no attention,
34:51
Speaker 1: no dusk, not a mad Like I said, I find
34:55
Speaker 1: them funny. I find them absolutely hilarious. I really really do.
35:00
Speaker 1: I find them hilarious. And now that I've found a
35:03
Speaker 1: channel and now they're trying to cause problems so that
35:06
Speaker 1: way it'll get me to come back to YouTube. I
35:09
Speaker 1: ain't coming back to YouTube. I'm not. There's no way
35:12
Speaker 1: in the world I'm doing it. But again, all it
35:15
Speaker 1: is is negative. People just move things out the way
35:20
Speaker 1: and that's all they do. So I'm not even mad
35:23
Speaker 1: about any of this. I don't get mad about stuff
35:26
Speaker 1: like this. I don't even see the points of getting mad.
35:30
Speaker 1: But I bet you if I always take my channel down,
35:32
Speaker 1: they'll be mad about it. She gone again. Of course
35:35
Speaker 1: I'm going again. I ain't got time to go through this.
35:38
Speaker 1: And that's why I say a lot of people now
35:41
Speaker 1: just do their podcast be a voice, because when you
35:44
Speaker 1: get on the social media platforms, all these people want
35:47
Speaker 1: to do is take you down. They claim they support you,
35:51
Speaker 1: and yet they don't. They claim they care about you,
35:54
Speaker 1: but they're calling your family, getting you fired from your job,
35:57
Speaker 1: harassing and bullying and stock and doxing you. And then
36:03
Speaker 1: when the video gets put back up because there's nothing
36:06
Speaker 1: that's saying anything about suicide and any capacity, then you
36:10
Speaker 1: got to go on there and you got to pretty
36:12
Speaker 1: much address it. But then when you tell them I'm
36:15
Speaker 1: taking my stuff down because I've had enough, When you
36:18
Speaker 1: tell them that I'm now going to write books and
36:20
Speaker 1: I'm now going to do my stuff on an app,
36:23
Speaker 1: now they're mad because now you're gone. The person that
36:27
Speaker 1: hated so much, the person that they try to destroy,
36:32
Speaker 1: is now gone. And now they're mad because now their
36:35
Speaker 1: channels are nothing without you. They made their whole channels
36:39
Speaker 1: about you, their whole channels talking about you, their whole
36:42
Speaker 1: channels trying to make you look bad, and now they're
36:47
Speaker 1: mad because now they can't use it. So yeah, I
36:53
Speaker 1: find it funny. So it's insane. I don't pay people
37:01
Speaker 1: absolutely no attention because I just don't, And I just
37:07
Speaker 1: find it funny when you have people trying to stop
37:11
Speaker 1: your growth and trying to do all these things to you,
37:14
Speaker 1: and then when they put it back then it's gonna
37:17
Speaker 1: be oh yeah, So I don't even I don't even
37:24
Speaker 1: get mad about stuff like that. I don't. I don't
37:28
Speaker 1: even get I don't even get mad about, you know,
37:32
Speaker 1: certain things like that because I don't. I don't even
37:35
Speaker 1: feel the point of getting mad. So when I live
37:42
Speaker 1: my life, I live my life, and I'm happy and
37:48
Speaker 1: the life that I have pretty much created. So a
37:52
Speaker 1: lot of people think, oh, You're just gonna be miserable
37:56
Speaker 1: and lonely. I'm like, I'm not any of these things.
38:03
Speaker 1: What what what? And what way would I be miserable?
38:09
Speaker 1: I have no reason to be miserable about any of
38:13
Speaker 1: these things. But yeah, I do kind of fund the
38:17
Speaker 1: fundy though. So, like I said, don't don't be mad,
38:21
Speaker 1: because you got people that want to see you down,
38:25
Speaker 1: and they want to see you you miserable and lonely
38:29
Speaker 1: and and and bitter, and they want they want you
38:33
Speaker 1: to see all of these things. Mm hmm, So don't
38:43
Speaker 1: even do it. So I just tell people your happiness
38:48
Speaker 1: begins and ends with you and not everybody else. But
38:52
Speaker 1: you gonna always have people that's going to want to
38:57
Speaker 1: try to break you because they think that they can
39:02
Speaker 1: break you, or they think that you they can make
39:07
Speaker 1: you worse, make whatever. I I just laugh about it.
39:12
Speaker 1: I do. I laugh about it cause I find it
39:14
Speaker 1: funny because you gonna always have people that's gonna wanna
39:21
Speaker 1: see you, wanna see you fall. They gonna want to
39:24
Speaker 1: see you in whatever way they can break you, in
39:28
Speaker 1: whatever way they feel that they can break you. So
39:34
Speaker 1: it's always gonna be something. That's why I don't even
39:38
Speaker 1: get mad about certain things, Noma, I just don't because
39:45
Speaker 1: you're gonna have people like this anyway, and no matter what,
39:49
Speaker 1: you're gonna have people that's going to want to see
39:51
Speaker 1: you fall. That is just what they're going to do.
39:56
Speaker 1: And there's not much that you can at actually do.
40:02
Speaker 1: So only thing you can do is do the best
40:06
Speaker 1: you can to be the best version of yourself. And
40:12
Speaker 1: that's it. So even though you may think that, oh
40:20
Speaker 1: my god, I don't understand why these people are attacking you,
40:24
Speaker 1: they're attacking you because you're a godly person. That's it.
40:30
Speaker 1: That's all. It's sad, but that's what we deal with
40:36
Speaker 1: every day. So, like I said, this is why, you know,
40:42
Speaker 1: I don't understand why people come on people's channels because
40:46
Speaker 1: you're miserable. Your misery has nothing to do with me
40:52
Speaker 1: at all, So I don't even I don't even get
41:01
Speaker 1: mad about it, to be honest. So that's why I said,
41:06
Speaker 1: I continue to live my life the way that I
41:10
Speaker 1: choose to live it. But like I said, you gonna
41:13
Speaker 1: always always have people that's go and try to destroy
41:20
Speaker 1: everything that you you build. So I don't even let
41:31
Speaker 1: it bother me because at the end of the day,
41:36
Speaker 1: living living the life that you created is what matters. So,
41:41
Speaker 1: like I said, you're gonna always have people that's gonna
41:44
Speaker 1: hate you no matter what you do. Even if you
41:47
Speaker 1: are minding your own business, even if you are doing
41:51
Speaker 1: your content and not bothering nobody, you will always have
41:54
Speaker 1: somebody that's gonna bother you. This is a way around that.
41:57
Speaker 1: But don't don't let those people get under your skin.
42:01
Speaker 1: Don't let the words that come out their mouth affect
42:04
Speaker 1: and impact you. But here's the kicker of it all.
42:09
Speaker 1: Even if you ignore people, even if you just tell
42:14
Speaker 1: them to leave you alone, they're not going to do that.
42:17
Speaker 1: Why because that's not what they That's not what their
42:19
Speaker 1: intent is. Their intent is to basically essentially make you miserable.
42:27
Speaker 1: Their insense is to make you come out of character
42:31
Speaker 1: so they can say that they're right about you, so
42:34
Speaker 1: they can say that what they did to you is valid. Basically,
42:40
Speaker 1: to play victim, negative people have to have somebody to
42:45
Speaker 1: mess with, so when you attack them, you're in the wrong.
42:50
Speaker 1: It's a scripture where God does talk about the fact
42:54
Speaker 1: that when people retaliate that a golly people, it is
42:57
Speaker 1: worse on you than it is a demonic person. True,
43:01
Speaker 1: So even though you're trying to walk away, even though
43:04
Speaker 1: you're trying to be left alone, it don't mean these
43:07
Speaker 1: people gonna leave you alone because they're just not gonna
43:08
Speaker 1: do so. They just gonna continue to bother you until
43:12
Speaker 1: they get whatever it is, and they won't. For some people,
43:16
Speaker 1: it's just so they can ruin your reputation, to fame
43:19
Speaker 1: your character or slender your name. For other people, it's
43:22
Speaker 1: to make people not like you. For other people it's
43:26
Speaker 1: because you're smart. But mainly the most important reason is
43:30
Speaker 1: just because you're a godly person, nothing more, nothing less
43:33
Speaker 1: than that. So at the end of the day, because
43:37
Speaker 1: you're not what society's standards is and you're a person
43:41
Speaker 1: of God, because you're a sweet night person, because you
43:44
Speaker 1: have flaws and imperfection, because you're overweight or whatever. The
43:47
Speaker 1: situation is, people are going to mess with you no
43:51
Speaker 1: matter what, just because they feel they can't, just because
43:55
Speaker 1: they feel that you're lower than them for whatever reason.
43:59
Speaker 1: And then when you don't entertain it, that's when they
44:01
Speaker 1: get mad. That's when they're upset because you're like, dude,
44:06
Speaker 1: why are you bother me? Why are you even coming
44:08
Speaker 1: from me? I'm not even bothering you at this point
44:12
Speaker 1: in juncture, So I don't understand why you feel the
44:15
Speaker 1: need to bother me when I haven't done anything to nobody.
44:19
Speaker 1: And that's the sad part about it. So I'm not
44:21
Speaker 1: worried about it. If it stands, then it's cool. But
44:27
Speaker 1: then when I stop doing lives and move on somewhere else,
44:31
Speaker 1: then they gonna let me mad about it. But, like
44:33
Speaker 1: I said, for these people to claim they don't like you,
44:35
Speaker 1: and yet they're still following you, yet they're still finding
44:38
Speaker 1: your channels, Yet they're still harassing you like they have
44:43
Speaker 1: the right, especially after everything they've done to you. The
44:47
Speaker 1: fact that they are trying so hard to break you
44:51
Speaker 1: and you just continue to thrive despite them. It's hilarious.
44:56
Speaker 1: That's the best get back when you are thriving and
45:00
Speaker 1: these people are not. I find it hilarious. So that
45:06
Speaker 1: being said, I'm not even mad about it. If if
45:10
Speaker 1: it stands, it stands, I'm not even going to hum worry.
45:13
Speaker 1: But right now they're reviewing it. If they if they
45:17
Speaker 1: put it back and they say it's appealed, then it is.
45:20
Speaker 1: And if it ain't then it won't be. But I
45:23
Speaker 1: still got it on here, so that's all that matters.
45:27
Speaker 1: But I just find it funny. Then I ain't say
45:30
Speaker 1: nothing that had anything to do with suicide or yet
45:32
Speaker 1: my stuff got taken down. Hmm. Interesting. But anyway, like
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Speaker 1: I said, this is why I'm doing my podcast on
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Speaker 1: my voice podcast because I ain't got time for this nonsense.
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Speaker 1: I don't I ain't got to a bar. So that
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Speaker 1: being said, I want to thank y'all for doing me
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Speaker 1: for this episode. I don't he got it. I should
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Speaker 1: marry Alma. I appreciate y'all. But if you want to
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Speaker 1: do one on one coaching or you want to be
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Speaker 1: a guest on my podcast, I know I have not
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Speaker 1: been able to have get and a lot of y'all
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Speaker 1: have asked to be guests on many of my different podcasts.
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Speaker 1: I am doing it, but I'm doing it in May
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Speaker 1: because April I gotta have a procedure done. In March,
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Speaker 1: I gotta move. So once I get settled in, I
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Speaker 1: will start reaching back to everybody about people being on
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Speaker 1: my podcast. And I'm really looking forward to having all
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Speaker 1: of these people as guests on my podcast. But if
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Speaker 1: you want to have one on one coaching, you want
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Speaker 1: some advice about something, you need some motivation, or you
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Speaker 1: want me to talk about a particular subject, or you
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Speaker 1: want me to read your your emails live, you can
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Speaker 1: reach me at a sach dot M a R. I
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Speaker 1: am a zero one at gmail dot com. That's a
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Speaker 1: Sacha dot M a R. I am a zero one,
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Speaker 1: and you'll see I'll be able to reach back out
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Speaker 1: to you. But I promise you I will be getting
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Speaker 1: back to everybody. I have all of your emails saved,
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Speaker 1: so I definitely will be reaching out to people about,
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Speaker 1: you know, doing the podcast as soon as I have
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Speaker 1: this procedure done in April. So I just wanted to
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Speaker 1: come on here and you say, what's up, y'all? I
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Speaker 1: miss y'all. I love y'all. So with that being said,
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Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all for holding me down on all of
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Speaker 1: my podcasts. I am so eternally grateful, but I am
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Speaker 1: back for now. If anything happens and y'all don't hear
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Speaker 1: from me, that's because my throat is back hurting. But
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Speaker 1: today it was a good day, so I'm decided to
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Speaker 1: just do my podcast. So I love y'all. I appreciate y'all,
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Speaker 1: And with that being said, have a very good evening
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Speaker 1: and we'll talk soon. Bye.