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8 Adult Aspergers Symptoms YOU Need To Know! ‌ · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  OK, sure. There's a lot of information out
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  there about kids in the autism spectrum, but you ever wondered
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  about adults in the autism spectrum?
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  Maybe you're looking at you or maybe you're looking at somebody
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  you know. Well in this video I'm going to
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  give you 8 traits of Asperger syndrome in adult or autism in
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  an adult so that you can understand everything right now.
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  OK guys, so before getting into it, my name is Dan and I have
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  autism and ADHD and I make weekly videos all about this
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  stuff. So if you want to come along
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  this journey and learn more with us and build this community, hit
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  that subscribe button down below by clicking the notification
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  bell. OK, so number one is difficulty
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  with social interactions. Now adults on the autism
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  spectrum will display struggles with social communications.
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  Now, I've had this before and it's not just like with, you
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  know, social cues. It's also to do with suggestions
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  by people or facial expressions. You know, is somebody angry?
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  Are they sad? Do they want me to continue
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  talking? Am I standing too close to them?
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  This kind of stuff is is difficult, but also it's the
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  language in which one uses to portray themselves or or put
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  something across. I remember once when I was in
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  work, I was talking to a client, and I was just talking to the
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  client. And my boss said, well, you
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  can't talk to them like casually.
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  They're a client. You have to drink with this,
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  like, utmost respect. And there's all this different
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  stuff. And I was like, oh, holy shoot.
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  Like, I didn't know. I was just like trying my best
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  to talk to him. And I talked to him in a way
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  that was kind of informal. So you have like, formal and
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  informal ways of talking to different groups of people.
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  Again, these whole concepts are so difficult for people on the
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  autism inspections to grasp, and more importantly, it becomes way
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  more apparent in adults when adults are in adult situations
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  because adults are supposed to act in a certain way and
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  professional way, in a professional manner.
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  And then you go, holy smokes, this is really interesting.
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  But this can also lead to a lot of misunderstanding because
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  you've got to think about it. If you're an adult in the
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  spectrum, you may come across as being rude or you may come
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  across as being kind of like an interested or not reading the
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  fact that somebody's upset clearly with you, you know?
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  And so like with me in my situation, that did have a knock
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  on effect. And I believe that it could
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  have, it may have, it probably did damage my image of me and
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  the company that I worked out. But hey, hope that's how it
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  goes. OK, so #2 is the intense focus
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  of a special interest. Oh my goodness, I love this.
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  An intense focus on a special interest could be like a field
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  of study or a hobby that they're obsessively into.
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  Now, autistic individuals have an extraordinary passion for
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  these things. So it's not just like, oh, you
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  know, I'm into cars. Like, no, no, no, they're really
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  into cars. They like how cars smell.
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  They like how the the feeling of car materials.
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  They may have collections of pieces of cars within the
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  domicile or their domes or wherever they live, right.
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  And this is because the appearance of mass is is very
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  good at helping you really understand and learn something.
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  So if you're passionate about something, you're going to
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  collect all those things. And actually, I'm going to do a
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  video on this, how it's not holding, it's actually
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  collecting and the reasons why. But autistic individuals who
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  have obsessive interests will be able to tell you everything
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  there is no about that specific topic and we'll probably be able
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  to talk about it for a long, long time and for many years to
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  come. And this is because they have an
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  intense interest in it and it aligns with their brain, but it
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  gives them dopamine because people in the autism spectrum
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  are dopamine deficient. So your friend Larry from work,
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  or maybe you are Larry from work who is on the autism spectrum
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  will know a lot about something and can talk about it forever.
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  And that's the only thing they're really interested in.
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  And I love that. I think this is really
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  interesting because it's something you can do that if
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  you're having a bad day or having a meltdown, you can just
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  research your topic of interest and it'll help regulate you
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  bring back to kind of like normality in terms of
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  regulation. I have a free Autism Wifax PDF
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  book that you can download right now from autismtips.net.
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  It's completely free. You can go there right now and
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  download it. OK, so #3 is challenges is
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  nonverbal communication. Now we're looking at the world
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  through very specific lenses where, you know, I'm blessed to
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  be an autistic man, but I'm able to verbally communicate, right?
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  But not all communication is, is verbal, right?
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  So about 70% of all communication is nonverbal,
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  which is really interesting. Which means it's not spoken
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  word. And that could be down to using
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  gestures, using eye contact. It could be facial expressions
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  that they use to, to show somebody like, you know, I'm,
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  I'm annoyed at the situation or I'm happy the situation.
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  I've I'm going to cry or something.
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  And those things can be very difficult if you're engaging in
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  a conversation with somebody and they come across as maybe being
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  upset with you and you don't get those conventions because those
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  nonverbal communication cues are missing from your kind of
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  dialect of communication. You're going to have some issues
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  there. And this is very prominent in
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  people in the autism spectrum who are adults because again,
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  like being in an adult setting, you're going to have issues.
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  Guys, I'm just interacting this video to talk to you about an
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  T-shirts, which are not only sensory pleasing because they're
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  soft and they're nice and they were invented by an autistic
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  child and it's a family run business.
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  But something quite magical about these shirts.
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  Now that is because there is a fidget puppet in the seam of of
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  this shirt. So you could be like your kid
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  could be in a party wearing this right and being like super
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  overwhelmed. And I just reach down to the
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  scene and play with the fidget puppet inside the scene of the
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  shirt. This is absolutely amazing.
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  I think it's a game changer and it's going to be something that
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  nobody else has ever seen. Like it's it's absolutely just
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  incredible. Now you can get one of these for
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  the link in my bio. I'm going to leave a link for
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  I definitely recommend checking them out.
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  These things sell out so fast, so highly recommend checking
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  them out. All right guys, peace.
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  So adults on the awesome spectrum have a need for
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  predictability and routine, as do all autistic individuals.
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  But it's easier to kind of like miss a routine than a child.
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  It's more prominent to see a routine than an adult, right?
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  An adult who just eats pizza for lunch.
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  Oh, chicken Nuggets. Oh, OK, I know chicken Nuggets
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  is like the international symbol of autism.
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  If you're obsessed with chicken Nuggets or your kid is I'm then
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  on the spectrum, give this video a thumbs up.
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  I know I see you. I see you eating chicken
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  Nuggets. I eat chicken Nuggets all the
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  time. Even though I'm vegan, I have
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  vegan chicken Nuggets. Still absolute slaps.
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  OK, so if you're, you know, a person who likes just eating one
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  thing, you know it's a very common autistic trait.
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  Just eating that one thing, just sitting in that one spot every
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  day, having that one spot on your sofa, watching the same TV
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  show religiously over and over again, maybe going to the same
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  recreational park to do the same thing, sit down and read the
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  same book or whatever it is. And this is because autistic
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  individuals thrive routine and predictability because
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  predictability allows for safety.
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  When you have unpredictability, it causes anxiety and fear,
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  which is a huge one. And actually I am helping lots
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  of people on my course, Chaos to confidence right now with this.
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  So that being said, there's lots of things that will allow a
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  person to become comfortable when you have routine and
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  predictability within your lifestyle.
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  But if you have none, it can become very difficult for
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  testing people to feel just like safe in an environment, right?
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  OK, so #5 one of the biggest issues, sensory sensitivities.
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  Oh my goodness. A long having autism also comes
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  with something called sensory processing disorder or SPD.
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  And this is comorbid Co occurring.
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  It means it comes alongside it when you get the diagnosis, it
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  comes with it. And this is very common.
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  I think I have my personal views on this and I think that
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  everybody on the autism spectrum has either hyper or
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  hypersensitivity to sensory input.
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  But anyway, I'm digressing and basically what this means is
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  that people on the autism spectrum, as adults, you'll be
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  able to notice that they may smell everything, or they may
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  have massive aversions to certain clones or perfumes.
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  Or they avoid the canteen at dinner time because there's
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  loads of like noise everywhere and they want to kind of sit in
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  the corner on their own. Or there's loads of people
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  everywhere. Or there were sunglasses because
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  it's so bright everywhere. Although headphones indoors and
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  sunglasses indoors to get away from the sensory stimuli.
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  But you know, all of that stuff is caused by the brains way of
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  when the neurological path mended, when an autistic person
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  is been created, the neurological paths just kind of
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  move slightly differently and that causes for different input
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  of sensory because it's a communication issue, right?
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  So senses communicating themselves into you to tell you
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  what you know. Do you like a smell?
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  Do you know a sound? Do you like the light?
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  Whatever. All those things can kind of get
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  a bit skewed. And so autistic individuals may
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  feel things more intensely or under intensely.
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  You can actually get hyposensitive autistic people
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  who'd be like sitting on a hot plate and not realise it's
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  getting hot. I'll be out in the sun and not
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  realise they're getting burnt. Very interesting, super, super
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  interesting. But it's very more prominent and
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  adults, because adults on the autism spectrum display these
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  things on like a magnitude that's more kind of like open
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  and you can see it because these are adults, right?
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  We're all walking around doing stuff.
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  OK, so number six, super interesting.
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  Now this is a difficulty understanding abstract concept
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  and abstract concept are things like idioms.
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  Idioms are stuff. When you say, oh, it's raining
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  cats and dogs or an autistic person, special assisted adult
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  will will think you, you, you saying that cats and dogs
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  falling from the sky or throwing the baby out with the bath
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  water. I don't even know what that
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  means, but that means it's an idiom, right, that people use
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  all the time. And on idioms, it's difficult
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  because autistic individuals take things at face value very
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  literally. Now, if you're trying to take
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  something at face value very literally and in actual fact,
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  what you've got is not very literal nonsense based things
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  like idioms, these are going to become startlingly difficult.
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  So people who are on the autism spectrum may really have issues
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  or but get very confused within a direct communication where
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  these idioms exist. And you'll notice it that there
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  may be an autistic individual get confused if you use an idiom
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  or if you use metaphors or if you're being sarcastic in joking
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  terminologies. Autistic individuals may not
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  understand the joke because again, it's, it's a face value
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  very literal thing. And this is a good thing as well
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  with autistic individuals, but it's very prominent.
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  But it sticks out like a sore thumb.
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  And there you go. There's an idiom for you just to
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  close this section. Okay, so #7 is social isolation
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  and social exhaustion. Autistic individuals,
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  specifically autistic adults will have issues in social
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  situations and the the aftermath is crazy.
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  So you can actually get a social burnout where an autistic
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  individual and my girlfriend gets this so much.
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  She travels to an office to work and when she's in the office and
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  she only does one day in the office a week the rest is
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  remote. Thank you COVID for giving us
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  the ability to work remotely. This is a helpful lot of
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  autistic individuals because my girlfriend is, is autistic.
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  Now when she goes to the office, she's OK, she's masking, she's
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  doing all these things. But but the day after she
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  completely feels burnt out and completely melted because the
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  the the exhaustion from being socially aware where our people
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  are having to do all these things then made you want to
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  become socially isolated for that day, but then also leaves
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  you with this burnout and yucky feeling.
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  Now if this is you comment down below, let's talk.
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  I want to help you out. Let's let's have a communication
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  here. So #8 is high levels of honesty
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  and loyalty. This is a really good trait
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  right? So autistic individuals,
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  especially adults who have gone their whole life taking things
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  at face value and taking things literally, are always very
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  direct and straightforward in their intentions.
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  You're going to find high amounts of loyalty and honesty
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  with an autistic individuals because we want to tell you as
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  it is. There is no ambiguity or or
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  hidden, you know, reading between the lines isn't there's
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  none of this stuff because we are who we are.
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  We're very transparent. Actually one of the biggest
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  compliments I ever had was I put on my first ever in person event
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  with the ass world. My YouTube channel called the
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  Autism Social Summit in Canada and we sold it out.
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  It was awesome back in April and everyone said to me, wow, Dan,
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  you're exactly the same in video as you are in real life.
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  And that was such a humbling experience because it shows that
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  like what I'm saying here about being honestly true and
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  transparent is exactly who we are, right?
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  And and I love doing that. That's why I'm uploading more
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  vlogs on my channel. I want to show you what it's
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  like, you know, struggling as an autistic adult and do daily life
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  tasks and having children. You know, all things difficult.
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  So make sure you do subscribe. All right, guys, please.
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  OK guys, see you in the next one.
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  Peace.