what you called discipline was fear | episode no. 27

the cuffed podcast · Jun 4, 2026 · 21m

restraint isn’t self-control. suppression is. and for a long time, author confused the two — and paid for it in relationships that mattered. ⁠musing 107⁠ pulls apart what separates suppression from restraint: not willpower, but how much room the impulse is ever allowed to have. ⁠musing 108⁠ moves into standards — what they actually are, why preferences aren’t the same thing, and how standards function as the ultimate filtering mechanism. this episode gets personal. both musings do.

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