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Fire & Ice | The Conversation Before the Conversation · The Eminence Legacy Live Podcast

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  Stop scrolling for a second. Open up your social media feed right now and look
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  at what we are feeding on.
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  You've got guys cutting 60-second reels telling you how a woman should be taken
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  care of, turning covenants into transactional business deals.
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  You've got an entire industry of so-proclaimed dating coaches teaching you how to play games,
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  manipulating text messages, and weaponizing healthy principles just to hide
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  their own inability to submit to God.
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  It's garbage, and it's quietly rottening your character.
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  We have turned relationships into a marketplace of entitlement,
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  where everyone is demanding a premium partner while offering a discount version of themselves.
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  So let's get one thing straight before we drop episode one.
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  Some of you are going to completely misunderstand this entire series.
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  And let me tell you, if you came here looking for a three-step hack to get your
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  ex back, this series isn't for you.
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  If you are looking for me to validate your bitterness or help you build a court
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  case against a person who walked out on you, This series isn't for you.
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  You see, I myself am not perfect. And I've struggled in different areas of my
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  life when it comes to relationships.
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  I am not a relationship guru.
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  I myself have heard people in the past and have done things that I truly regret
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  because I care about those people.
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  I'm not your dating coach and I refuse to become another voice feeding a victim
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  mentality while calling it healing.
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  I wrestled with whether to even touch this topic, not because relationships
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  aren't broken, but because I refuse to join the circus of people telling you how to date.
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  Beneath every broken relationship is a deeper truth most people never confront.
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  And to be honest with you, a lot of us do not want to be honest about it.
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  Relationships don't create character.
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  They expose it or have lived long enough to know that relationships rarely fall
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  apart in a single conversation.
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  They usually unravel one compromise, one disappointment, and one silence at a time.
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  They don't make you selfish. They reveal the selfishness that was already there.
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  They don't make you bitter. They uncover the bitterness you have been carrying.
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  They don't make you controlling. They expose the fear that's been driving your need for control.
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  They don't make you insecure. They reveal the places where your identity has never been settled.
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  Every relationship eventually reveals what has been happening beneath the surface all along.
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  Every relationship eventually moves toward one of the two temperatures.
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  Fire or ice One still leans in The other quietly walks away Long before the relationship ever ends.
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  One is willing to confront the truth. The other learns to live with the lie.
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  Left unconfronted, character slowly lowers the temperature of every relationship it touches.
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  That's why this series isn't about dating. It's about learning to recognize
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  the temperature of your own heart before it's too late.
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  We are not here to teach you how to keep a relationship.
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  We are here to teach you how to honor God, honor others,
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  honor yourself, and walk in integrity when life, love, and disappointment test,
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  every conviction you claim to have.
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  Because the uncomfortable truth That none of those 60 second relationship reels
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  Will ever tell you is this.
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  Sometimes the cure isn't getting the relationship back.
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  It's becoming the person God was trying to build all along.
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  The person that He intended you to be.
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  So here is the contract before next week. I'm not asking you to subscribe.
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  I'm not asking you to share this. I'm asking you to walk into a quiet room shut
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  off the noise look at your own reflection,
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  and answer one question with complete honesty,
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  what relationship in your life are you secretly hoping changes while refusing
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  to confront what God is trying to change in you.
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  Stop looking out the window at what they did.
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  Turn the mirror around because every healthy relationship begins long before
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  you meet another person.
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  It begins with the person staring back at you in the mirror.