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Ep 65 "Baby Mama Culture" · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Talk talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with
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  Speaker 1: an opinion to talk back. What's up, y'all? Welcome to
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  Speaker 1: a new episode and we talk back. It's your girl
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  Speaker 1: a J. A Hey, y'all is tam Bam. I love
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  Speaker 1: you guys once again. I love you to a J.
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  Speaker 1: I love you to my f with the L man.
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  Speaker 1: How's your weekend? That was cool. I attended my one
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  Speaker 1: of my cousins um surprise birthday party on Saturday. That's
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  Speaker 1: about it. And crazy when you're all your friends starting
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  Speaker 1: to turn forty. Girl, you hear me forty years old?
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  Speaker 1: It's my first cousin. Yeah, it was cool how she looked.
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  Speaker 1: She looked very pretty for her birthday. I have to
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  Speaker 1: wear the same coloring stuff. Why do you say that?
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  Speaker 1: You know how people when they have their birthday, if
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  Speaker 1: they want everybody were black, and they come in with
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  Speaker 1: like the most bright color or something like that. No,
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  Speaker 1: but it's weird that you said that because this is
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  Speaker 1: a cousin that I've been harboring. Look what you mean,
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  Speaker 1: I've been harboring something, not resentment, but like some like
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  Speaker 1: side I should at her for the last ten years
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  Speaker 1: that she don't know about she's gonna know now, and
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  Speaker 1: it was something simulation like having to address like people.
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  Speaker 1: It was for her fucking wed and when she got married,
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  Speaker 1: Oh you told me. Yeah, I like why you said that.
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  Speaker 1: Let's listen. I can feel the energy comp birl. I
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  Speaker 1: love her now, but you know it's still side I
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  Speaker 1: because now at this point it be it would be
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  Speaker 1: petty for me to address it. But maybe you should
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  Speaker 1: because you still feel away. I do because I just
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  Speaker 1: be feeling like I don't know. I'd be feeling like
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  Speaker 1: people be coming for me and I don't be coming
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  Speaker 1: for them. So you should talk to her about it,
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  Speaker 1: calling tomorrow probably not. Yeah, that's okay, But anyway, that's
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  Speaker 1: my first cousin who asked me to be an usher
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  Speaker 1: in her wedding some years ago, and the ushers and
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  Speaker 1: the wedding was serving food to the immediate family. And
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  Speaker 1: this is my first cousin. I would never ask my
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  Speaker 1: first cousin to be an usher in my fucking wedding
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  Speaker 1: serving food to the rest of the family. Dressed in
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  Speaker 1: black and white, grown as woman. Two years ago, I
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  Speaker 1: was living no, I was living in Atlanta. I had
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  Speaker 1: had to drive the Charleston for that wedding. Maybe you, uh,
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  Speaker 1: that is not a young cousin when the other ushers
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  Speaker 1: were people from the church. Oh you was the only usher. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: and look my best friend at the time. She ended
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  Speaker 1: up being one of the ushers. And she was pissed
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  Speaker 1: the whole time. She was dating my my cousin, which
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  Speaker 1: is my my cousin who had a birthday her brother.
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  Speaker 1: They was eating because she was serving food. She can't relax,
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  Speaker 1: like I want to go to your wedding and chill.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be working at my family member's wedding.
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  Speaker 1: And this was a big, nice, elaborate wedding where you
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  Speaker 1: had like staff, like yeah, because maybe she needed somebody
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  Speaker 1: to do it, like girl, no, listen, this is the
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  Speaker 1: last thing I'm gonna say about this. At her bridle shower,
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  Speaker 1: my voice was completely gone, so I couldn't like, um, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't talk for real like you would have just
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  Speaker 1: sound like nothing. But her maid of honor. She was
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  Speaker 1: introducing us to her maid of honor. Right, it's the
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  Speaker 1: interesting she introduced my sister. She was like, yeah, this
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  Speaker 1: is my cousin Sam, and then this is Astley. This
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  Speaker 1: is how she introduced me to her maid of honor right,
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  Speaker 1: and the girl was like, oh, she's not in the wedding.
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  Speaker 1: She's not a bridesmaid or or um usher or anything.
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  Speaker 1: And I just had to sit there like I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to fight them, but I was not a fucking us
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  Speaker 1: because at that point I had told her within the
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  Speaker 1: same day that she'd asked me that I went't wasn't
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  Speaker 1: comfortable with doing it. Yeah, like when I said yes initially,
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  Speaker 1: then I was like, I don't want to do that.
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  Speaker 1: So then I hit her back and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I think i'd rather just, you know, just come and
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  Speaker 1: sit and enjoy your wedding. And then no, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: do it. You didn't do it. This is And then
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  Speaker 1: a couple of months later, here comes to Brattle Shower
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  Speaker 1: and so your friend is basically the spokesperson for the ship.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all probably I'm talking about but I renigged within fifteen minutes.
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  Speaker 1: That was shape like, you're not an ussure anything. And
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  Speaker 1: that's why I still have yes and maybe a little
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  Speaker 1: bit just a dad. I was your weekend anyway about
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  Speaker 1: me being fucking petty. Ten years later, Um, I went
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  Speaker 1: to my best friend's wedding this weekend and it was
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  Speaker 1: so beautiful. I had so much fun. I caught the
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  Speaker 1: bouquet like, let me tell y'all, I odell Beckham and
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  Speaker 1: bitches like was like I came through like full sprint
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  Speaker 1: and called that ship and I did a speech and
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  Speaker 1: everybody looked good. Like everybody looked good. It wasn't like
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  Speaker 1: no people looking ratchet at the wead that everything. Everybody
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  Speaker 1: looked so beautiful and the bride looked so beautiful and
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  Speaker 1: a groomsmen everybody. It was just such a beautiful affair
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  Speaker 1: and I had so much fun. I'm so happy for
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  Speaker 1: my best friend and her new husband. Y'all. Congratulations to
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  Speaker 1: the whites. I love you guys. So that was. She
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  Speaker 1: looked beautiful. It was a good time. So that's why.
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  Speaker 1: And I got really drunk at the way and it
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  Speaker 1: was like it was like very classy affair, but it
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  Speaker 1: got ratchet you know at the reception. I've seen something
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  Speaker 1: videos like, yeah, it was not ratchet, like that girl
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  Speaker 1: stripping remember that. Oh you know, it didn't go there.
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  Speaker 1: It was sophistic ratchet, you know, combination, not no stripping
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  Speaker 1: and all that stuff. Yeah, So yeah, that was. It
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  Speaker 1: was a beautiful fair. And now I'm tired, I'm exhausted.
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  Speaker 1: It's over. Yeah, it's over. I wish I could do
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  Speaker 1: it again this weekend. Know, that's how much fun I had.
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  Speaker 1: And it was like even people there that I didn't like,
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  Speaker 1: and I just was I loved them that day. It
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  Speaker 1: was just so much love and energy in the air
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  Speaker 1: that I was just like, I love y'all to ship.
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  Speaker 1: No nigger. Cardi B said, if we beat, we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: beat forever. There's so much good vibes. You just forgot
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  Speaker 1: any beef that you had, that right, So yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: was my weekend. I like weddings. I did catch the bouquet.
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  Speaker 1: When I went to d r Um last month, I
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  Speaker 1: caught the bouquet tool. You know what many times that
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  Speaker 1: I caught the fucking bouquet at a wedding, that's at
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  Speaker 1: least the third time. So all you're saying is you're
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  Speaker 1: a linebacker. It means I can catch a bit the
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  Speaker 1: elbow and bitches. For years trying to catch that bouquet.
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  Speaker 1: That was my first time really actively pursuing the Okay,
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  Speaker 1: yeah you usually sit down, No, I stand up, but
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  Speaker 1: I'd just be like, like if it would have landed
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  Speaker 1: next to my feet, I would like somebody been to
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  Speaker 1: get there kick it. But this time I was like
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  Speaker 1: give me that ship. Shay. What we got in stupid
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  Speaker 1: internet news? This week? Ah? This week? Oh what about that?
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  Speaker 1: The girl that killed that? That's not stupid and that's
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  Speaker 1: fucked up internet news. Yeah, you talked about Courtney Taylor.
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  Speaker 1: The yeah, the girl who murdered her boyfriend, um Christian
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  Speaker 1: Obe Selly. Yeah, a Nigerian American, uh murdered by his
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  Speaker 1: white girlfriend Selly, I'm boon Celly. Okay, Yeah, it's unfortunate,
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  Speaker 1: and you know she still hasn't been charged. And now, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so he actually got murdered on the third, so last
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  Speaker 1: week's Sunday, So she did they did put it on
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  Speaker 1: like a seventy two hour baker's hole because she said
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  Speaker 1: she was going to kill herself. But then the pictures
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  Speaker 1: came out where she's kissing her dogs on the mouth,
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  Speaker 1: half dressed covered in blood in the fucking condo apartment.
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  Speaker 1: The fun Then I saw that she was like out
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  Speaker 1: at a bar from where buying liquor. Because now she's
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  Speaker 1: out and they're saying she's uh, she hasn't been charged.
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  Speaker 1: The family is saying that they're being treated like they're
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  Speaker 1: harassing the police, like they're getting on their nerves or
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  Speaker 1: something like that, just trying to get answers on you
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  Speaker 1: know what's going to happen. So there the police department
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  Speaker 1: saying they started doing her investigation. She hasn't been charged.
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  Speaker 1: They're saying it was a domestic dispute where he supposedly
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  Speaker 1: attacked her first. But did you see the video where
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  Speaker 1: her friends came out, well, their mutual friends came out
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  Speaker 1: and said that she lent yes towards him. So this
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  Speaker 1: man was in an abusive relationship and he stabbed him
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  Speaker 1: once in the chest. Originally they said it was like shoulders,
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  Speaker 1: and now they're staying he got stabbed in the chest
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  Speaker 1: and then passed away at the hospital. Are you for real?
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  Speaker 1: Took a knife and stared at five o'clock in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: He might have been sleeping. You don't even know, Like
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  Speaker 1: this bitch is about to get away with murder. Rich
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  Speaker 1: white girl made her living on only fans. The irony
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  Speaker 1: of it is the ship that this man talked about
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  Speaker 1: black women. Now, so this is why black women not
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  Speaker 1: really it's not like we're saying that he deserved to die,
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  Speaker 1: but black women are not willing to march the streets
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  Speaker 1: on this one. Um, because he he made a lot
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  Speaker 1: of hate speech against black and even if he was
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  Speaker 1: a kid at the time, right, because he was, the
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  Speaker 1: tweets were between like, um, so he would have been younger.
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  Speaker 1: But the company he keeps suggests he feel the same way. Exactly. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And if you didn't see the tweets, he was saying
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  Speaker 1: things that were like, basically black people suckl women specifically.
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  Speaker 1: And the weird thing is is that you talked about
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  Speaker 1: how black women always just tworking. You gotta fucking this
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  Speaker 1: girl is essentially a porn star. What are we talking about?
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  Speaker 1: This is the black the white queen you ended up with.
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  Speaker 1: And once y'all gotta get sworking. Why do y'all be
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  Speaker 1: so mad at working? And you African like tworking is
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  Speaker 1: just the music make you do it. It's just in
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  Speaker 1: her blood. That ship that happens when they said nain
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  Speaker 1: for they for the nine in two thousand, that's stirring
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  Speaker 1: your soul. It's just you can't stop it. Your booty
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  Speaker 1: just started moving. Like why y'all hating? Why y'all mad
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  Speaker 1: about it? You don't have to sexualize it, so much.
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  Speaker 1: It's dancing anyway, you know, rest in peace to that.
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  Speaker 1: You know, man, he did not have to die because
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  Speaker 1: of you know, I don't you know. I don't wish
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  Speaker 1: death on anybody. And I do hope his family gets justice.
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  Speaker 1: Because she out drinking, she don't seem remorseful, not at all,
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  Speaker 1: not at all. So it's real unfortun in it. Um.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like people are so spreading awareness.
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  Speaker 1: Um Lee merrit the attorney. Civil attorney picked up their
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  Speaker 1: case to assist the family. He was the only motherfucker
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  Speaker 1: I saw following his nigga's Instagram page. I'm my god,
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  Speaker 1: damn bo. He's not his ambulance chasers. But now he's
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  Speaker 1: on the case helping the family. I hope they get justice.
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  Speaker 1: I really do hope they get justice. And I mean,
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  Speaker 1: we can look at it two different ways, you black women,
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  Speaker 1: Even if we're not in solidarity with him in this
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  Speaker 1: particular case, it does send a message to that community
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  Speaker 1: of people that they can do what the funk they
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  Speaker 1: want to do to us, and nothing's gonna happen to me. So,
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  Speaker 1: whether he sucked the black people or not, he basically
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  Speaker 1: divested from the community. So why would he want the
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  Speaker 1: community that he divested from to now support him and
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  Speaker 1: his death. Well he doesn't, he can he on one ship.
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  Speaker 1: It's his family that his family that wants it. They
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  Speaker 1: got some donations, like they got about fifty dollars go
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  Speaker 1: fund me, so somebody's donating to the cause. And then
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  Speaker 1: you know, the family did say that, you know, we
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  Speaker 1: don't support the things that he said. Some of those
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  Speaker 1: things we didn't agree with. But who did you hate?
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  Speaker 1: You hate your mama? That's that's where it starts. I promise,
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  Speaker 1: or internal like I always see, like these niggas so
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  Speaker 1: insecure to replicate themselves. Y'all got a ship on black
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  Speaker 1: women to try and get this offspring and look shit
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  Speaker 1: like you you don't think you have a chance of
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  Speaker 1: having a nice looking kid by yourself, like with a
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  Speaker 1: black woman? Is that what it is? Right? I don't
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  Speaker 1: get it anyway? But less in peace, Christian? What else
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  Speaker 1: happened this week? Um? They on Black Lives Matter asked,
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  Speaker 1: you know how I feel about Black Lives Matter? Not
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  Speaker 1: the Black Lives Matter movement, but the Black Lives Matter
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  Speaker 1: nonprofit organization has always been some bullshit, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying? Like they had they did change their UM
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  Speaker 1: their mission statement on a website sometime the last year,
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  Speaker 1: the year be full last. Remember, Yeah, they changed it.
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  Speaker 1: They changed it, but it's you know, the Internet is ink,
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  Speaker 1: not pencils, so that should is still in the Internet archives.
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  Speaker 1: You can still pull it up and see how they
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  Speaker 1: want to disrupt the Family Nucleus. This whole organization was
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  Speaker 1: built on the backs of dead black men and children
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  Speaker 1: in America. So now y'all are here. Yeah, men and
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  Speaker 1: women and children, but mostly black men who probably wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have a position in this organization if they weren't get
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  Speaker 1: your trans based on their mission statement that they have
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  Speaker 1: now removed from their website. But they have gotten like
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  Speaker 1: a ninety million dollars total in UM donations since they
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  Speaker 1: started in And they purchased US six point five million
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  Speaker 1: dollar house in Malibu. You know, I looked up the
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  Speaker 1: median UM home value and it's like four million in
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  Speaker 1: that area anyway, so you have to live over there, right,
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  Speaker 1: So what they're seeing this house is for UM, they said,
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  Speaker 1: the home is for it's a safe house and a
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  Speaker 1: place to provide recording resources and dedicated space for black
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  Speaker 1: creatives to launch content online and in real life. Focused
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  Speaker 1: on influencer House basically with no influences but her healing justice,
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  Speaker 1: urban agriculture, and food justice. I don't know. I don't
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  Speaker 1: think anybody did. They did one YouTube video in front
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  Speaker 1: of the house to the three um co founders of BLM. Right,
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  Speaker 1: that's it. You know, they got called out by Tamar Tamar,
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  Speaker 1: Rice mom Um and Mike Brown's dad called the gass
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  Speaker 1: out because y'all got all these donations, been called him
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  Speaker 1: out for the last couple of years. They y'all got
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  Speaker 1: all these donations, but they ever donated to these people's nonprofit. Right,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it's it's real nasty man.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta be careful. You'll stop giving them people y'a
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  Speaker 1: damn money. Yeah, and so many other organizations out here. Um,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like they were funded by the Democratic Party,
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  Speaker 1: but m and whoever else. But we won't go into
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  Speaker 1: the conspiracies. That's unfortunate because you know, that movement is
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  Speaker 1: so important, and yeah, the movement is just muddy it
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  Speaker 1: with all that, And it's so easy to make money
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  Speaker 1: off black shit. It's so easy to get donations off
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  Speaker 1: black ship for real. Yeah, y'all my cash happy when
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  Speaker 1: signed teams I'm black, ship donate the fuck. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: They better get this shipped together. The fans probably coming
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  Speaker 1: for their ass in a minute. Oh yeah. Or they've
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  Speaker 1: made it okay for them to do what they do,
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  Speaker 1: and I mean white people do it all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Like people create nonprofits. You are supposed to be able
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  Speaker 1: to pay your sal your yourself salary salary out of
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  Speaker 1: your nonprofit r but and I mean buying property, Like
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  Speaker 1: what's the Their mission statement says nothing about real estate?
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  Speaker 1: Like y'all is that what y'all do? What this nonprofit?
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  Speaker 1: Is it for real estate development for the underprivileged or what?
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  Speaker 1: So then when you also have a nonprofit, do you say, uh,
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  Speaker 1: this percentage is what we get or they have to
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  Speaker 1: break all of that in a set amount, because if
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  Speaker 1: it's a percentage of ninety millions, six million, don't seem
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  Speaker 1: like a lot out of it, doesn't It doesn't so
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  Speaker 1: um this says and last year's AP report, the foundation
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  Speaker 1: said it had committed one point seven million to official
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  Speaker 1: and unofficial BLM chapters and its expenses were eight point
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  Speaker 1: four million, leaving around sixty million unexplained. They said their
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  Speaker 1: average donation was around thirty dollars, but declined to name
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  Speaker 1: prominent donors. So where the fund is the rest of
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  Speaker 1: the money coming in? Mm hmm, that's a lot. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know them to be missing. Yeah. So in happier news,
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  Speaker 1: Um Tianna and Iman with their babies. They did the
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  Speaker 1: Ebony magazine cover. I don't know if y'all saw that,
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  Speaker 1: but they seen it so good. They're such a beautiful
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  Speaker 1: family and it's extra fine. Rice, what the hell? But
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  Speaker 1: who made him fine? Because was we looking at him
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  Speaker 1: prior to uh Tiana getting with him? Well, he was
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  Speaker 1: still very young when they got together. He was just
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  Speaker 1: he started he looked like a man man. Now before
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  Speaker 1: he was just looking like a little young Yeah, oh,
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  Speaker 1: nice looking young fellow. But now he looking like a
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  Speaker 1: grown as man. And they're such a beautiful family. They
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  Speaker 1: had the same baby twice, Yes they did. Um and
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  Speaker 1: the Curls are popularly one of my home girls in Atlanta.
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  Speaker 1: Tie does their hair and their girls are just popping
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  Speaker 1: in these uh yes Ebony cover shout out to Tide. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so I just wanted to touch on that, y'all check
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  Speaker 1: that out Ebony magazine. They talk about family and fame,
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  Speaker 1: so Yeah, black love, y'all, marriage, family, all of that,
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  Speaker 1: which leads us to our main topic today. But we'll
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  Speaker 1: take a break, Y'all'll be right back. So, Tam, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I want to talk about Baby mama culture.
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  Speaker 1: Baby mama culture. Is that a thing? It's the thing,
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  Speaker 1: all right? You know what think? So I want to
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  Speaker 1: hear what what do you mean? It's the thing, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's in all groups of people, but it's
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  Speaker 1: a big thing in the black community. It's like normal.
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  Speaker 1: It is where it shouldn't be. It is because you
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  Speaker 1: see ads for that include a black mom and a baby,
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  Speaker 1: but the father is out of it. But that's because
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  Speaker 1: they're trying. They say they're being inclusive because the large
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  Speaker 1: percentage of Black women don't have a man in a home,
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  Speaker 1: so they wanted to create ads that look like the
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  Speaker 1: people that really exist. And that's the scary part. Yeah,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: But then you know people may look at it another
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: way is you know black men who maybe in their
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: kids lives, like you might be a mom that single
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: as opposed to a single mom, right so there, Well,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: I don't know, so I guess like say, for instance,
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: you got you were married and got divorced, you and
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: your your kids dad have joined custody. Like y'all both
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: taking care of kids. That's a mom, that single that's
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: not a single parent. Single parent means you have yes
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: for the most part, which a lot of black women do. Um.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: But there are a lot of black men who do
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: take care of their kids. May they be with the
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: mom and not. Right, So I also know black men
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: who are single parents. Me. We had one on last week,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: Chuck Ti. But um. So we watched Cam Newton um
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: on a million dollars worth The Game podcast this week,
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: and you know, he was talking about his upbringing, how
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: he was raised by a three parent household, his mom,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: his dad and his grandma and how um. You know,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: he was essentially talking about bad bitches, right, how um
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: the difference between a bad bitch and a woman and
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: a wife. Right. So, you know, I don't like sound bites.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: The show was I saw the ship on the shave room,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: so I was like, let me go see exactly what
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: this nigga said. It was a small piece of a
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: bigger conversation, that little piece, but I'm pretty sure the
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: bad bitches got triggered out here. Now I want to
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: how do you consider yourself a bad bitch. I don't
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: think I've ever really used the term for real, like
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: being like, uh, probably just being facetious maybe like, but
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: I don't just be like I'm a bad bitch, like
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: posting it on my pictures and but just you know,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: playing around with my friends. I might be a you're
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: a girl, I'm a bad bitch and whatever else, but
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: I don't go around with that self proclaimed label as
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: a bad bitch. And what is a bad bitch? Right?
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: What well he said, is someone who just looks good
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: and has nothing else to offering. They don't have any
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: other any of the other criteria that a man. Right.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: The irony of it is, though, your first child's mom.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: And this is not the knock cam Newton, because he
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: didn't say nothing that was too crazy, right, right, not
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: to knock the mom's either your first baby mama. They
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: said she worked in DC as a stripper. She had
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: a child when you met her, so she was a
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: baby mom already. He then had four children with her,
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: but never married her, never married her, and then he
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: then their relationship ended in twenty nineteen when he cheated
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: on her with another bad bitch from Instagram, who was
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: also a single mama, and you had a baby with
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: her somebody else. She didn't marry, right, So you're making
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: all these single mothers and then you're sitting there talking
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: about how your mother and father were together for thirty
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: or six years, but you didn't marry nobody exactly, but
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: you got with nothing but bad bitches. I'm confused. You
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: went to the bad bitch hold decks Instagram and picked
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: you another Babbage. I'm confused on what we're talking about.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: And he was basically saying how women, I guess bad
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: bitches don't know when to shut up? Okay, um what
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: else he was he saying? Oh, he said something along
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: the lines and don't know how to cook. Badbages don't
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: know how to cook. That's like, I'm so sick trying
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: to reduce women to bare feet, be a average, a
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: woman whatever they consider it to. Just cooking. That's like
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: the smallest, most simplest thing which can be outsourced. I
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: can afford to pay you via somebody else cooking. What
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: then are we talking about? Can you build a house
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: from here? Yes, niggai, the drain is clogged up. Can
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: you take that ship out the bathtub? No? You call
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: somebody to do it and I and I might call
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: somebody to make it some neat. Exactly what are we
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: talking about, like they want to reduce this is not
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: we ain't your grandmama, and we ain't your mama. So
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: stop trying to reduce black women today to those people
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: who didn't have the options to do anything else. Right now,
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying that it is. I like when I
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: have a man, I like cooking for me too, Like
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: that's that's but don't make it seem like that's just
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: my sole purpose in this relationship is to be able
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: to cook your meal every night. Yeah, and what type
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: of man are you expecting a woman to cooking meal
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: every night that you don't plan on marrying. You ain't
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: even bringing a sucking groceries like you just hitting a
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: bitch up, like we we what you're cooking. And she
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: she just supposed to cater to you, because that's the
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: word he used. He said, kid doesn't doesn't know how
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: to cater to her man. So I feel like he
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: was taking shots at his baby mama's because I would
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: consider them bad bitches. So who are you talking about?
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Because you procreated with two bad bitches. And and here's
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: the thing I hate. I hate that um that he
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: trying to make minimize what a bad bitch can be,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: because is Michelle Obama not a bad bitch? You know?
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Is women have a different definition of is you know,
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: like all these women are all these very successful, very smart,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: they're still bad bitches to me, you know, like it
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: doesn't have to be something that's do nothing pretty as bitch.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: And then you know, and that's that's what he's talking about.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: So is that what he gets from his kids mom's
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: because Yilly even said he was like, you know, real
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: bad bitches don't even say ship like that. They just
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: do you know what I'm saying, to just be out
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: here shaking and moving. They don't. They're not self proclaimed
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: bad bitches. But it could be that you his baby
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: mom has probably never said they're bad bitches, but as
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: on the outside looking in that maybe they may be
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: examples of what bad bitches are, right and you chose
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: those bad bitches. It just depends on how you view
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: a bad bitch, because I don't know, I think you
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: can be a a bad bitch based on your looks,
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: a bad bitch based on how you treat your community.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: A bad bitch on how educated you are. I know
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: some bad bitches in the pool pit. Yeah, we got
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: different we got different definitions. Like I just feel like
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: anything women like we try to do somehow we get anything,
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: like y'all niggas need to manya business. I just need
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: niggas in maya business and talk to each other and
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: stop talking to us. We're stick of talking to y'all. Actually,
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: don't even be talking to your niggas want we need
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: to talk more. I think that's the problem. I feel
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: like we talk enough to each other. But well, the
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: real men, please stand up. We are missing something as
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: a community. And that's why so many single mothers, it's
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: always so many single fathers, because men are interested in
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Black men as a collective, I believe, are not interested
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: in being married. That's that's where that's where the problem is.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, y'all are why not? Why? What? What? Are? What?
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: What would marriage benefit them? At this point? They're getting
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: the babies, they're getting the pussy they want, apparently, they're
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: getting the cooked meals that they want to like, what
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: else do they why would they need to be married
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: to any of us? And and that's the thing. So
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: you remember the movie Shot Town Shira and they stopped.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: They was like the whole movement was women need to
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: stop sucking. That could be a real thing. Like if
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: they just could get on one of core, we could
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: change the whole world. But it's always gonna be a
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: bit more than one. It's always gonna be some bitches.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Excuse me. There's always gonna be some women willing to
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: give these guys that fucking discount. And that's the problem. Like,
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: stop giving couchie coupons. Stop letting these niggas come through.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: It is not that hard. This is not that hard.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: You don't have to have a baby by every man
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: you sleep with. Oh no, I'm not not the baby,
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: but the couchie part, Like, can you save us a
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: baby daddy? Please? Could I have a baby daddy? No,
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: I just I want a husband. I don't even want
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: a baby daddy. I want to need the nut at
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: this point. Yeah, I want a husband. I just I
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: told you that bouquet. I'm playing out here this year.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: I feel like this year over. But no, it's still
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: early in the game. It's on the April. We're still
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: too Yeah, we just insured in the second quarter of
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: the game. But yeah, Cam Newton, I mean he's back
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: here in Charlotte. Is he with the second girl? I
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: don't think so. Maybe, I don't know. I ain't ate
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: that deep. He's an interesting character. These days, you seem
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: so much different. I mean he's grown, I will say
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: growth seven father seven. He seems like he's a good
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: day two of not two of the kids on his
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: So he has five kids of his own and then
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: two that he took in what was commendable. So these
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: are good things. But Cali, y'all ain't cooking for Cam Newton.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: You'll just some bad bitches out here wasted his time apparently.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: So let's talk about the baby mama culture and how
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: that affects the community. All right, So what really is
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: the baby mama culture? A strong woman who does it
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: all by herself? Is that a strong woman? Just because
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: you can have children by several men and then struggle
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: to take care of them does not make you a
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: Not everybody struggling to take care of a lot of them,
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: but a lot of them are thriving and doing it well. Though,
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: who wants to do that by themselves? I don't think
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: nobody intended to do it by themselves? What's so. You know,
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: I know a woman she has a she's about forty now,
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: but she has like a heart hospital on her own,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: and she went and adopted a baby because she didn't
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: have a man and she was tied away, and so
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: she wanted to be a mother and she had all
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: the tools to be a mother, so she wanted to
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: do it by herself. And that's different because you do
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: hear about older women, um, you know, even um getting donors,
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, to get a baby because
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: they've come to the conclusion that they they're not going
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: to find a man, but they still want a family,
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: They still want something to care for, so they still
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: want children. They don't have anybody to really have the
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: baby with. Of course that that type of thing does happen,
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: but I'm talking about like young black mothers. Uh even ship.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: I had a home girl. I mean she had her
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: first child when she was like thirty four. And this
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: man like this is a woman who don't have any kids, right.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like, if you're a man and you don't
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: want any more kids, stop fucking with women raw or
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: you don't want any kids, like that's just what you
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: have to do. Get on this new birth control about
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: to come out for years, girl, they really about the
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: fun the damn ecosystem up because men only be concerned
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: about not getting a bit pregnant. They ain't concerned about
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: s c d s like that. So imagine how ratchet
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: it's about to get if men knew that they can't
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: get somebody pregnant. Everybody getting that raw dick, everybody but
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: team me. I like one. I just I'm scared of
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: the soul ties, not just the disease of the soul
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: times that come with raw penis. Because I like you
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: give me some wrong dick. We go together right now, Yes,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: immediately after you're my man? Where are you at? What
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: you're doing? You hunger? Where's the dick? Ain't even about you?
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: That dick at well, that is a part of him.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: So that dick on the phone. Put the dick on
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: the phone. Hey, baby, you get over there. Did he
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: feed you? Are you sleep? Are you staying? Was he
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: beating you too much? Stop beating my friend? Where's the dick?
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: So that's why I don't do that, So I would
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: be fine. You got a spiritually cleansed after these niggas
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: shot because everybody being them dicks m hm, sadness. But
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: in the black community, we need to put more emphasis
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: on marriage, family if we want to come up out
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: of this thing. When like just having all these kids
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: out here. Let's take future for instance. Yes, Future has
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: the money to take kit these kids, but can he
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: assist the mothers of these children to help raise like
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: good human beings. Are you even there? Do you have
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: the time? Like that's why the both parents and the
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: household is so important, you know what I'm saying, to
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: cultivate your child's future, Like, you can't do that if
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: you all over the place just dropping your seeds all
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: over your seeds. I wish black men would stop saying
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: that my seeds. That is so nasty. It's just nasty. Yeah,
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: but seeds are like you know, you could buy a
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: pack of seeds and misplace them ship and don't give
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: a funk about them because they only calls a dollar.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Like you shouldn't be just dropping seeds anywhere, and you
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: want they want to talk about legacy building. Legacy building
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: that starts with having a firm, like solid foundation for
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: the child, meaning like a two parent home. Hopefully even
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: if you're not together, like y'all still real co parent,
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: co parents, and yes, real co parent it that's not
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: happening in a lot of homes, and that's not just
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Black homes. So I'm not we were listening. Are you
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: in other cultures? Are you another communities? Do you give
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: a funk about other communities? I give a funk about
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: the black community. I give a funk about the economic
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: advancement of black people. And if we don't have strong families,
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: we're gonna always be at the bottom of the totem pole.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: That's my concern. I don't care what other you know what,
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: I agree, that is my main concern. But I'm just
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: personal peace for everybody, not just Black people, for everyone
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: I am. I'm alright. I mean, I can't do nothing
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: but be black first. But and that's what I'm concerned about.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: Because everybody else getting on through, we're behind. So my
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: discussion I want to have the day is like how
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: do we through family get ahead? Because this is an
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: easy thing, like it's it's I feel like it's easy.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, you know, up until the nineties sixties, black
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: people were married more than the white counterparts, you know
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it went from that to black
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: men not even being in the homes. Right, so we
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: know all the different things that transpire. So how do
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: we how do we grow from that time? How do
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: we grow from m. Jim Crow? And how do we
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: grow from the civil rights movement and all that ship?
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Because that's those things happen. Warren drugs, those things ripped
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: men at homes. But we can say that, But then
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: on the other part of it, we're black men leaving
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: their homes? Were they leaving women with children even back then?
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: Why the government had to step in the first place?
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: Perhaps you know what I'm saying, so that we could
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: perpetuate old the government. The government is now in the
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: baby Daddy and all the ship and where y'all nigga
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: is staying Because my grandmother raised eleven children by herself,
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: her her my granddaddy left, yes, and this is the
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: early nine hundreds talk about my grandma was born. So
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: what happened? I don't know, girl, I have no answers
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: for this. I don't think nobody really has the answer.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: You know, who has the answer to where sway At?
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: Maybe got the motherfucking Kanye he can keep his family
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: together either, like it's hard, clearly all right? So they
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: say finances is the major reason why families break up.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: But we see that rich families fall apart. Two, But
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: the kids are gonna still gonna be provided for and
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: just Kim ain't gonna be just struggling and take care
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: of Kanye kids by yourself. Yeah, but it's so different, right, right,
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: They'll be provided for. But you think that man not
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: just about the money. It's also about the rearing of
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: the child and creating a productive human being, a good citizen.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: So you think that men want to provide and when
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: they can't, it's just easy year to just walk away
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: and pretend like that those people don't exist, Yeah, and
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: just push the guilt down in the bottom of other
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: good and go on with Sometimes those same men didn't
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: go make a baby with somebody else, or maybe go
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: with a woman who has children and help her. Yeah,
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: I know I've seen that where a guy he only
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: takes care of the kids of the one he would
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: that's most men, yeah, and like the other ones is
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: just out decide, out of mind. M I just feel
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: like those type of men should be ostracized. Any women
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: or men that's not taking care of their kids, like
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: y'all should not even have friends, dog, Like, nobody should
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: sunk with y'all until y'all get your ship together. If
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: you're just out here having kids, you're not taking care
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: of you just sound ratchet ass girl. Remember I was
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: not raising her kids. I remember I was dating this
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: guy and I was liking him and he was cool,
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: and he had entered like we were really vironment and
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: I met his mother and everything, and she was making
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: me like, what's the black rice? That are not uh
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: Patians black? That black rice rice? But she was cooking
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: for me and everything. And then somebody was like, you know,
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: he got his son. It's like what, No, he only
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: has a daughter, and now he also has a son
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: in Colombia. I'm like what. So like somebody said, you
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: got his son in Colombia. He's like, oh about that?
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: What I don't get to see him. I was like,
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Columbia is an hour and a half away from Charlotte. Go.
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: He was like, man, me and his mama don't vibe
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: like that. We don't get along. And she was just
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: too hard. When he gets eighteen, if you want to
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: meet me, he can come find me and I'll tell
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: him what happened. I was like, oh, yeah, that's a
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: turn off. And that's just how when I lived him alone, right, yeah,
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: because you could be the third next. So I guess
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: also women need to make better choices on the people
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: when we fun went drive up like the Sahara Desert
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: when he said, they like, I ain't gonna be able
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: to do that, baby, Yeah, if you ain't, If you're
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: not working with your kids, I'm not working with you.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: But get this, his father didn't funk with him either.
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: He had a very successful father in New York, like
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: an engineer, and they had no relationship, and he had
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: resentment for his dad. I'm like, you turned it out
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: to be the same, nigga. So was his dad and
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: mom together at some point? Yes, they were, but not
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: most of his life though, because I think sometimes it
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: happened some of these mama's, man, some of these mama's
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: been side bitches. When I had stories like that's like,
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: was your mama side bit and got pregnant for somebody husband?
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: And now he don't sunk with you, like what happened?
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: What decisions did did mama making life? And you know,
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes a lot of the way men
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: handle women is stemming from their mama's You know what
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: I'm saying is like, you've never seen your mama in
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: a successful relationship. Your mama was a baby mama. Soe
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: you out here just making strong black baby mamas because
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: your mama struggled to take care of you. Dog, That's
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: not what we're doing. Like, are you waiting for your
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: son to then get older to take care of your mama?
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: I mean to take care of your baby mama, because
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: I feel like all most men, like y'all, their whole
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: goal in life is to grow up, get some money,
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: body mama house. They never had body mama card, they
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: never had can never afford take care of their mama
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: because they never saw a man take care of her. Right.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: So if you if you're you have all these aspirations,
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: um you know, to be successful so you can take
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: care of your mama. But then you're having children that
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: you don't take care of. Are you waiting for your
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: sons to now get older to take care of your
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: baby mama? Is that what we're doing? And that's what
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: that's what happens because I think at some point these
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: niggas turned into the niggas that they don't that they
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: never saw. Basically, so this man didn't raise you, you you
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: end up turning into this nig anyway when you should
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: take the I mean even if he wasn't around like
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: the example would then be should be a positive example
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: of what a man should be. Like Your daddy wasn't there, right,
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: so now you should make it your fucking business to
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: be there. But instead sometimes they still turn up like
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: these absent fathers. We gotta put more emphasis on family. Well,
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: how what do you do? Turn off the TV, turn
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: off their computer, trying to shield them from whatever everything else.
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: So this is where I then agree with what Cam
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: was saying about the bad bit ship, because you know
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: we outside now this is what women be saying, like
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: were the savages now? But are we? Do we really
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: want to be the savages? Or has uh um? The
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: relationships between black men and women now cause us to
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: be like be like men, be like men. I don't
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: want to be like a grown ass man. I'll be
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: saying I'm a grown ass man because I'll handle it
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: if I have to, but I do not want me to.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: I would I would love to just exist within my
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: feminine energy all day in my life. Yeah, so men,
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: they say how black women were so masculine all because
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: we especially some of the music. I'll be listening to im,
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: like whoa what the black girls? You like? Have you
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: ever heard a kid the Man? Yes? I like her though,
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: like I'll be listener when I'm working out because it
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: does like give me a little like physical motivation in
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: the gym. But some of the messages is very strong
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: masculine and there what's the other one? Chameleonaire, chameleon? What's
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: her name? With a little squeaky voice. I don't know
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: who you're talking about. She had a song if I
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: was a rich man, you know what I'm talking about.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: But she basically talked about all the ship niggas be doing,
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: Like if I was I would be shipping on these niggas.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: Like if she was a man, like why I can't
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: do it? You can't. Women are so delicate, you know
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So we'd be out here trying to
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: be like men. You want to break down, bitch, Yeah,
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: you people don't. Some people as like whole grown men
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: out here and then have lost that and don't care.
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: I feel like my mama might be one of them
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: for real. M hmm, I don't know. I don't know
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: what my mama, her and her friends being there talking
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: about all kind of my mom only even got no friends,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: girl barely. Why I don't know my mom and her
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: friends in there at like she had like a little
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: party a couple of wee kyears ago, Like they were
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: just drinking coffee and eat damishes and ship and talking
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: about that's like fun and listen old bit ship she had.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I should tell you all this secret.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: I think she bought a vibrator. I thought my mama
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: vibrator a couple of Christmases ago, and she gave it
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: back to me recently. You know, she not give me
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: that ship? Why vibrated cost me like eighty dollars. It
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: was a good one, but now it's like she never
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: used it now but now like the you know, because
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: some of them like real soft, like the rubber, And
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: now I was like sticky, having sat in the closet
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: for how many years? No, is not about to give
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: me a damn use vibrata, but take this back and
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: don't work like the new one I got. My mom
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: always be like that ship pass sales. So how old
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: are you when you start losing sexual urge? Because I
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: feel like my mom and her friends are still with
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: all the ships and they they and they missed sixties.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: Oh they still want to. Oh yeah, my mom made
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: with that ship no more. I don't know. I hope
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: I never lose my lab me neither. I'd be wanting
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: fu Yeah, okay, let's be clear. Yeah, I hang up
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: on y'all, go do it right now. But when I
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: don't have nobody to funk, I'm good. But if I
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: start sucking, like, I want to have sex as much
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: as possible. What you mean, don't have nobody like if
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: I'm not like, if I'm celibate, not even celibate. You know,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: sometimes you just go through I don't want to, And
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: maybe your mom is going through the rest of her life.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: I don't want to, Pat, but I'm pretty sure she's
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: been going through that shift for about twenty years. Oh no,
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: and she married. Let me stop talking to my dad,
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: mom because she listened to this episode. And let's take
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: a breaking guitar, dumb bit story, dumb bitch stories, because
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: we've all been a dumb bitch at least once or twice. Okay,
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: we got a interesting dumb bit story for you guys today,
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna read this for y'all. Let me try
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: to read it better than a juck you. Hey, guys,
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: I have a dumb, big bit story for you all. Short, sweet,
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: and scary. I have been with my baby daddy since
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: two thousand twelve, and our child is now three. We're
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: essentially We've essentially been together since high school and through college.
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: He's a great provider and I know he loves our family.
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: That's good, But I'm now having concerns about his sexuality.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I know, and I say now loosely because really there's
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: always been some concerns. We attended different colleges but in
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: the same town, and the rumor was going around that
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: he had gotten his dick sucked by a known gay guy.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: I never asked him about it because I know him
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: and trusted it was a lie. Fast forward. He has
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: a homeboy that has he has been taking a few
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: golf trips with over the years, and the last trip
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: I asked to come, and we got into a big
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: argument because he said it was for the guys only
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: his friend. It gives me real feminine energy and I
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: don't like it. He's not married and doesn't have any kids.
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: How can I approach this conversation with a man that
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: I do love and is the father of my child. Girl, Okay,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: here's what I think about rumors when we're talking about
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: like supposed heterosexual men and gay men. I just don't
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: feel like anybody starts those rumors about real street man
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: like anybody I've ever ever heard a rumor about that
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: ship was fucking true. No, that's not girl. Yes, girl,
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you, anybody you heard what was probably know
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: anybody I heard that got they dick sucked by a
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: gay guy, got they dick sucked by a gay guy? Yes? Well,
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: my um my suggestion for you is to put on
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: brokeback mount. Shut up with that damn story. I'm so
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: sick of you. This is what I do, girl, No,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: put it on, and when the gay sex can come on,
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: grab his dick. If it's hard. You know, I always
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: go to therapy. Take his ask the fucking therapy and
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: bringing it up if you need a mediator there this
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: in case you think it's gonna get crazy because you're
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: asking us, Because I'm pretty sure if she asked him
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: at home, his first thing is going to be like upset.
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: I rate, I'm pretty sure. Is it a deal breaker?
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: For you too, like, are you willing to strap him?
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Because I mean, if that's something he like, if you
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: I mean with this two people are doing different ships,
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: Like are you willing to satisfy that need for him?
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: But I don't think the need is that. I don't think, okay,
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: when a man does that with another man, I don't
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: think it's about the actual sexual thing. A lot of
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: times they period, So you can't be that as a woman.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: You can't be a man. So me personally, I just
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: want to his men. Now we need to just talk
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: about that ship. But no, you're still not a man,
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, so what you say
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: she should do? Just go to therapy about it? Yeah,
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I think they should. I think they should. She should.
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: She should ask them if they can go to therapy.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: Um Um, I'm pretty sure he's gonna be like, why
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: what we need therapy for? I don't know. Just tell him, Hey,
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: there's something I want to talk to you about. But
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: I'm not equipped to talk to you by myself about it.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: So she's gonna have a gay prevention shut up? Make
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: me fucking sick to me, No, but I feel like
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: that would be the easiest way because I no man
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: wants to be called out about anything really, especially his sexuality,
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: and then you know, especially if he's not out with it,
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: and what if it's not true. What if it's not true?
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: You know, then he's really upset like women. Like men
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: like to say, women's intuition ain't about ship, but women's
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: intuition as a motherfucker. If she feels that way about
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: his friend, because you know you haven't been around a
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: gay guy, it's like you automatically start calling them girl, hey, girl,
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: like that where guys who aren't gay sometimes that they're
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: like friend guys and I get really my friend zone,
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: I might write, accidentally call them bitch. Yes, let me
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: tell you yes, yes, So girl, you call us with
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: a heart, You message us with a hard question. I
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: don't she say therapy? I say, turn on the TV
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: at the house and say some money. I know a
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: good therapist who is not that expensive. They also take insurance.
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: But you also have to decide what you're prepared to
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: do when you get your answer. Yeah, that's gonna be
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: hard one because they gotta kids. Sometimes it's easier to
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: stay in the dark. It is not in this situation,
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: and I'm not trying to perpetuate the thing where you
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: know only specific STDs are exclusive to that group of people.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: That's not what I'm saying. But we know it's high.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: So I don't think this is a situation where she
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: should not say something. But I'm just saying, you have
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: to be prepared for your what you're gonna do when
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: you get the truth, right, I don't think she should
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: not say nothing about it. I think she should definitely
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: ask him about it. I don't think she should say
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: something until she has her playing together on what she's
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: gonna do with the answer. Yeah, right, that's scary. Yeah,
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: moment of silence. I don't know, pulse. Is it different
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: if it was a woman he was doing it with? Like? Absolutely?
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: If I mean, we're not caught. I've never been in
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: a relationship where a nigger didn't get caught cheating. Okay,
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: have you girl? I remember I got in the bed.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: It was a condom in the bed. What the fuck
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: is that? Is there a slug in the bed with us? Now,
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: I haven't got in the bed with some panties some
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: other panties underneath the sheets, You nasty motherfucker. Could you
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: please uh wash these damn she you's got me laying
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: in y'all man just marrinating and somebody else And nigas
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: do that all the time. Ladies, y'all don't know how
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: many bodily fluids y'all be laying in getting they don't
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: be clean like that. Nope, girl, I will come. I
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: know a girl. She'd be letting niggas come and her
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: in her house. She's like, well, we do by side good,
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: that's they side that they lay dirt on the side
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: my sisticly ill she nasty, that's day side. I don't know.
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: So she only on one side of bed. She bust
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: got the king's side. But even with a king, like
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: I would be all over that bed like what she
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: on the other side, because you sleep on the other side.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: That's terrible. I don't know, baby, I don't think. I
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: don't think my last man cheated on me. If he did,
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: he did it well and that's how I preferred. Yes,
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: me too. Don't let me find out that's not where
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: it's respectful, respectful cheating, right, or just tell motherfucker's you
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: like variety and you want multiple people because that's these
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: these This is one second. I know we don't have
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: plenty of conversations on monogamy, pop polygamy, all this ship.
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: I doesn't want job niggs and there y'all can't even
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: afford one bit? How many Now we don't have multiple
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: people on this show talk about what's the average um
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: income for black people? Right? These niggas do not have
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: enough money for one woman. Yeah. They keep putting these
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: videos up of Shihara Ali and you know what she
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: says about um this one video that's going around now
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: talking about how if you catch your man with another woman,
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: like that's a relationship he facilitated on there, who are
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: you to disturb that? Or something like that. This is
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: a different time. Okay, we cannot apply that type of
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: ship to our current lives because again a lot of
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: those women didn't have a choice. So my thing is,
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: you could just be honest. I should have to find
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: out anything. Just be honest when you meet me. The
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: thing is is that I feel like men they don't
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: like that though, like they feel like they can't be
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: honest with women. They don't like the fact that if
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: they do be honest with you, that you're gonna then
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: do what they do. I believe I got a story there.
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: I want to tell you always got a fucking story.
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: Bit go ahead. This was like, all right, this was
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: a long time ago, and I was hanging out with
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: this guy. I was in college or right right outside
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: of college, and we got real drunk together, and then
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: we went to his house and he was like making
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: out and stuff, and then he pulled his past down
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: and tucked this dick behind like between his but like
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: pulled it backwards and it was like a boy pussy
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: and he laid back on the bed with his hands
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: like out like, um man, so did he want you
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: to lick that itself? I got the out of there
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: so fast. Why did he do that in front of you?
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: We were so drunk. I just think he was being
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: himself and himself had a pussy in his spirit. Motherfuzzicus exists.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: I here, you want to have a pussy. I'm not
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: knocking anybody who does, like that's your thing. But it
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: scared the funk out of me. I didn't know what
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: was going. I was like, how you got out of there?
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: Tell me? Tell me? Because I was sound. I grabbed
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: my shoes. I don't even think I put my shoes on.
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: I just snatched my sandals up my person got off.
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: Did you say anything though? I don't. I don't remember
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: saying anything. I remember just because he laid back with
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: He lived in like one of those kind of lofty styles,
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: like there's no there's no doors, so like I just
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: kind of got my ship and got out the door.
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: And I'll never forget him. What I would do? What
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: was I supposed to do? I didn't know what to do.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: I was confused. Did I tell you this before? How
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: Jesus Christ? This is my old life, y'all. And I
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: never been like on a super duper whole ship. I'm
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: like a mild hole. But I let this nigga pay
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: me one time in Atlanta to be to beat his dick. Right,
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: I was a prostitute? What No? But I did beat
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: this dude's dick for paid. Once he text me about it,
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: We talked about it. He came over to get his
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: dick beat for four hundred dollars. No, hell no, hell
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: fucking no, you were like prostitute. But when he came
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: over there, the nigga brought bisexual porn. He wanted his
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: dick beat too. Was bisexual porn men and women fucking
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: like the women trapping on the men like two men
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: and a woman, a woman and two men, like everybody
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: fucking yeah, the men fucking each other. Yeah, by check
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: sexual porn. So I beat his dick to this bisexual porn.
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: He's still my friend a little. I'm a shame girl.
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  Speaker 1: They don't think it to my old life. What the funk?
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  Speaker 1: It was so nasty. It was nasty. You felt bad
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  Speaker 1: about yourself. Girl. I was paying like fucking six hundred
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  Speaker 1: when I was living in Atlanta. You had to do
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  Speaker 1: what I do. Not judge you, yah, y'all If y'all
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  Speaker 1: don't know our voices apart, AJ is the one who
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  Speaker 1: would beat dick four. That's a good listen. And it
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  Speaker 1: was right before I went to work too, so that
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  Speaker 1: was a good day. You know, girls are good. Rate'll
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  Speaker 1: book it then, but yas gallon right now. Look, this
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  Speaker 1: is my gas was at its highest back then. Like, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I definitely did that ship and I don't feel no
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  Speaker 1: type of way about it. And don't nobody hurts you
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  Speaker 1: with your truth, yo. We're about to get the funk
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  Speaker 1: out of here. Anyway. It is a nightlight conversation. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know how we can change the black community. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like it just starts with the man in the mirror.
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  Speaker 1: Like Michael Jackson said, don't have the baby if you
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  Speaker 1: can't take care of the baby, Michael Jackson. Michael Jackson
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  Speaker 1: said that what song was that? Girl? Uh so it
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  Speaker 1: was on I want to be starting something. He said,
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  Speaker 1: if you can't feed the baby, don't have the baby.
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  Speaker 1: I don't trust, I don't know. Shut up, we're not
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  Speaker 1: about to talk about a legend that month girl, who's
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  Speaker 1: MHD Fucking people try to tarnish the same way they're
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  Speaker 1: doing will Smith right now. We didn't even get back
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  Speaker 1: into that. I don't like how they're doing will Smith.
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  Speaker 1: That's for another day though, But girl, you first of all,
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  Speaker 1: Michael Jackson was innocent. I love Michael Jackson, but I
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  Speaker 1: would not leave my kids with him. Michael Jackson was
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  Speaker 1: trying to save the kids. He was definitely not a pedophile.
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  Speaker 1: The colleague Culkin and the other little white dude, they
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  Speaker 1: came out and said that they basically he saved them
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  Speaker 1: from child sex traffick him back then, Yes, the fats,
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  Speaker 1: may be alive, but me personally about him. Y'all, listen,
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: if you enjoyed this episode, she's talking about Mike and
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  Speaker 1: I don't like that. I love Michael Jackson. Two people
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  Speaker 1: you can't talk about to me. It's Michael Jackson and
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: Whitney Houston. Okay, just remember that. I do not like
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: the image of Whitney used to be in a crackhead.
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: I'm so sad about that. And it's just like almost
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: the equivalent of Beyonce right now, I'm becoming a junkie
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  Speaker 1: like I used to always sing Whitney Houston song I love.
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  Speaker 1: I just went to a hologram Whitney Houston concert. But
• 58:55
  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean she didn't. Don't. I don't. I never
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  Speaker 1: watched that our reality TV you with her and um
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  Speaker 1: Mike Bobby but Bobby ever, well, I remember. All right, y'all, man,
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