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The Signs You're Outgrowing Your Life · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hey chicks, I'm out and I'm
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Speaker 1: sal and this is too broad. Chicks, the show that
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Speaker 1: shares life lessons and tips to help make you rich
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Speaker 1: in life and live life. Wow, that was pretty good.
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Speaker 1: It's on the karaoke already this morning. Yeah, why am
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Speaker 1: I not seriously say one line that could be in
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Speaker 1: a song? Guess what You're getting a whole show? Yeah,
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Speaker 1: love that. Today we are chatting a highly requested topic
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Speaker 1: and it is the science you're out growing your life.
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Speaker 1: And now I know this might sound like a bit
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Speaker 1: of a neg ViBe's topic, but it's more about like rebirth.
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Speaker 2: It's giving metamorphosis.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's giving caterpillar.
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Speaker 2: Butterfly exactly, butterfly fly away.
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Speaker 1: Oh, let's start there. I know that's in my I
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Speaker 1: have a shower playlist. It's called Bangers to belt out
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Speaker 1: in a shower.
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Speaker 2: That's a good one that's in there.
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Speaker 1: And so is Blessed the Broken Road from also from
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Speaker 1: the Hannamona. Well, before we get into it, so, how
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Speaker 1: would you like to tell me your obsession of the week.
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Speaker 2: My obsession of the week is a new podcast and
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Speaker 2: TikTok account that I saw in the last week, and
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Speaker 2: it's called Tea with Nan and it's this girl Maya
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Speaker 2: and her Nan Robin, and they've started a podcast together.
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Speaker 1: So I love this.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a conversation between two generations and it's
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Speaker 2: such a cute concept and idea basically like a.
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Speaker 1: Cup of warm soup for the soul statement. Yeah, that's
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Speaker 1: so cool. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: I think they've only got like three hundred and so
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Speaker 2: followers on TikTok at the sign of at the time
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Speaker 2: of recording, but one of their videos popped up on
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Speaker 2: my feed and it was me as Nan Robin with
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Speaker 2: all of her friends going for an ocean swim shut up,
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Speaker 2: and all the comments were like this is girlhood and
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Speaker 2: they're like holding hands walking into the ocean together. And
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Speaker 2: I just love that, Like we need to see more
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Speaker 2: content around that, and how growing up and getting older
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Speaker 2: is actually a privilege and that so many of the
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Speaker 2: things that we love in our twenties, like our friendships
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Speaker 2: and relationships and connections with family only get better as
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Speaker 2: you get older.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't agree more. I love that. Yeah, speaking of
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Speaker 1: getting older, my obsession of the week is fun little
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Speaker 1: storytine for the Chickscell was privy to this as a
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Speaker 1: first hand witness. This also kind of doubles as a
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Speaker 1: life lesson to be honest. But anyway, this weekend, I'm
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Speaker 1: flying to Sweden slash Denmark with Akia for a fun
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Speaker 1: little side quad of my own. And I had six
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Speaker 1: months and eight days left on my passport, and so
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Speaker 1: you technically need a minimum of six months. But I
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Speaker 1: was like, is that actually okay? Am I going to
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Speaker 1: get to the airport and they're like no, no, you're
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Speaker 1: not getting on the plane. And so then anyway, sales
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Speaker 1: come over on Monday and she goes, what's going on
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Speaker 1: with that? Like did you do that? And I was like, yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I went and got new passport photos taken, and girls,
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Speaker 1: when all I'm saying, I put my little lash extension
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Speaker 1: clusters on, I blow dried my hair, I had like
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Speaker 1: my favorite Denner jacket on. My makeup was actually makeuping
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Speaker 1: for like the first time, and it's entire fucking life.
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Speaker 1: And I was like, slow the house down, boots my muff,
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Speaker 1: go and have my passport photos taken. I send them
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Speaker 1: in the group chat and everyone's like wow, amazing and I'm.
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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, yeah, hanging in the loop kind of.
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Speaker 1: I then, after fifteen minutes accidentally throw them in the bin.
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Speaker 1: I go upstairs to my apartment, I go where are Yeah?
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Speaker 1: Did you forget that part that was fate anyway? Yeah,
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Speaker 1: And so then I've got to go downstairs and dumps
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Speaker 1: to dive for my sexy passport photos. Found them. It's great,
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Speaker 1: they live on I have them for a week because
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Speaker 1: I'm going yeah, yeah, yeah, I can just go online
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Speaker 1: and get the fast one. So Monday happens and I
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Speaker 1: call the passport man aka the government, and I say,
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Speaker 1: can I go to Denmark? I've got six months and
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Speaker 1: eight days? And he goes, yeah, that should be right. Sorry, sir,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna need you to give me a yes or
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Speaker 1: a no.
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Speaker 2: Big voter confidence there.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was concerning. And then he was like, oh,
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Speaker 1: it's actually like the countries that you know create the
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Speaker 1: rules of how long you need on your passport. It's
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Speaker 1: not an Australian thing. And I was like, okay, but
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Speaker 1: I'm an Australian citizen and I need you to tell
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Speaker 1: me whether or not I'm going to be able to
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Speaker 1: get back into my country. Yeah, and he was like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: you need a minimum of six months. I go, I
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Speaker 1: note that, but I have six months and eight days.
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Speaker 1: Is that okay? And he's like, yeah, it should be fine.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, you're I was like, I know your wife
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Speaker 1: hates arguing with you. Yeah, I can tell right now.
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Speaker 1: He was actually very lovely.
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Speaker 2: He was lovely.
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Speaker 1: He was lovely. So then anyway, I hang up and
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Speaker 1: I turned to so Out. It's four o'clock in the afternoon,
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Speaker 1: and I say, how do you feel about that conversation?
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Speaker 1: And Sally goes, I feel like you're getting a two
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Speaker 1: day passport. And I was like okay. So the I
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Speaker 1: go tippic tippy on my laptop and I go, oh, okay,
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Speaker 1: I'll just get it online. That's what I thought I
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Speaker 1: could do the whole time. No, no, you have to
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Speaker 1: go to the one of three existing rapid passport places
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Speaker 1: in the CBD. However, you have to do it before twelve,
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Speaker 1: otherwise it gets filed the next day. And so then
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Speaker 1: the next day at twelve, we have a shoot from
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Speaker 1: nine to twelve, which means it wouldn't get followed until
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Speaker 1: two days after the current time. So at four o'clock
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Speaker 1: we've looked up what time this post office closes and
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Speaker 1: it's five, so we've best friended so hard. Sally is
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Speaker 1: now in the car with me, racing under the speed
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Speaker 1: limit to get to the fucking post office. She's going,
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Speaker 1: do you have the form? I go no, no, they'll
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Speaker 1: have the form there, narrator. They did not have the
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Speaker 1: form there, So with a shoulder, I'm going please, She goes, no,
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Speaker 1: we don't do that at this time. And I'm going,
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Speaker 1: I completely understand. I've come in at four fifteen and
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Speaker 1: asked you to do a task when you close at five,
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Speaker 1: but I'm just gonna need you to help me out here.
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Speaker 2: Come on, be a girl's girl.
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Speaker 1: B b of all. Come on. She goes, no, You're
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Speaker 1: gonna have to go to office works and get the form.
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Speaker 1: And I'm like, fuck, I'm like, I can see your printer.
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Speaker 1: You see, I'm in distress.
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Speaker 2: I'll give you fifty bucks.
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Speaker 1: Seriously, I'll give you fifty bucks, and like, what lip
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Speaker 1: gloss do you? Like?
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Speaker 2: They really should make that a service and just charge
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Speaker 2: like a fuck time.
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Speaker 1: I would have paid a fuck tan for it because
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Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, cool. So then I'm like we can't
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Speaker 1: get to office works and back in time, so I
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Speaker 1: have to call a colleague from our old place of
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Speaker 1: work because the office is right above. We basically fang
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Speaker 1: into our old job and they're like, what the fuck
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Speaker 1: are you two doing here? And then everyone's loving and
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Speaker 1: so then they've printed it off. We run back down.
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Speaker 1: We're literally puffing from probably a ten meter run, and
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Speaker 1: I'm like, here, here's the form, and she passes me
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Speaker 1: off to a manager who was actually a lovely man
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Speaker 1: and anyway, He's like, do you have his photos? And
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Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, yes, I do, so I give him
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Speaker 1: the photos. He looks at them and he goes, oh, no,
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Speaker 1: what now the ebangles are too big. I'm wearing my
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Speaker 1: probably largest two beerings in my passport photos and he's
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Speaker 1: going and I'm going, look, that's all I've got, Like
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Speaker 1: it's just gonna have to do, and like I'm just
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Speaker 1: gonna have to skit for the beskit and he goes, yeah,
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Speaker 1: we could do that, or you could take new ones. Now, chicks,
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Speaker 1: I need You don't know.
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Speaker 3: We were away from home. I'd had a little bit
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Speaker 3: of a rough day. I hadn't showered, I didn't washed
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Speaker 3: my hair. I think I looked great in the skin.
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Speaker 3: I have quite literally.
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Speaker 1: Never been so ugly in my entire life. How I
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Speaker 1: stood there in front of that camera getting a ten
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Speaker 1: year passport looking at the best looking passport photo I've
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Speaker 1: ever had, and I got given a six Victorian child.
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Speaker 1: It was so bad. So anyway, can't wait to go
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Speaker 1: pick up my new passport.
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Speaker 2: Have you got the notification that it's arrived yet?
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Speaker 1: I think it arrives tomorrow. But yeah, long story short,
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Speaker 1: don't really know what else there is to say, but
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Speaker 1: organize your past sport and don't wear your hoop.
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Speaker 2: Ear rings, your big bangles on your ears.
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Speaker 1: Yes, to be fair, they should have told me to
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Speaker 1: take it out. I'm not accepting complete fault for that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I know.
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Speaker 2: I feel like places like that that offer like passport
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Speaker 2: photo service, they should have like a list of like
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Speaker 2: you to say, your.
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Speaker 1: Hair off your face. He's like, put your hair off
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Speaker 1: your face. I was like, okay, but he didn't say
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Speaker 1: take your ear.
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Speaker 2: Bangals, ear angles. Goddamn it, and like it was.
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Speaker 1: You should at least upload the picks in like a
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Speaker 1: dump or something so you can get took a photo
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Speaker 1: of them, and I showed mom, Yeah, amazing.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not good. You don't look like that.
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Speaker 1: In real life anyway. Organize your passport for it is,
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Speaker 1: don't wear big bangles. I just love that he said bangles.
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Speaker 2: It was so cute. Yeah, he was giving cute dad,
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Speaker 2: And like.
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Speaker 1: The fact that he wasn't just like you don't you
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Speaker 1: can't use those. Yeah, it wasn't like you'll have to
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Speaker 1: go get new ones or you'll have to come back
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Speaker 1: tomorrow and just let take them. When it was at
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Speaker 1: that point, like four forty five and they close at five, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that was very nice of him. But yeah, I'll post
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Speaker 1: the photos because it's fucking funny.
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Speaker 2: But all right, well, on that note, should we get
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Speaker 2: into the episode.
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Speaker 1: I've outgrown my passport already? All right?
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Speaker 2: Okay, So, as El mentioned today, we are talking the
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Speaker 2: signs that you're outgrowing your life. So I saw this
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Speaker 2: article on substack the other day and it was called
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Speaker 2: It's time to outgrow your life again, And that really
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Speaker 2: caught my attention because I do feel like we're getting
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Speaker 2: into May, We're getting into that midpoint of the year
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Speaker 2: and people are kind of falling into that the winter uglies,
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Speaker 2: midyear swimpy doodle kind of eye right, Yeah, photos evidence, yeah, literally,
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Speaker 2: but The article breaks down the common misconceptions that we
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Speaker 2: are meant to be stable and consistent throughout our whole
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Speaker 2: lives with what we value, how we spend our time,
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Speaker 2: who we associate with, and what we find meaning in life,
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Speaker 2: and like how we want to spend our lives essentially,
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Speaker 2: And it's targeted at people who feel like every twelve
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Speaker 2: to eighteen months that their jobs, relationships, and overall life
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Speaker 2: feel a bit stale and stagnant and like they need
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Speaker 2: to shake it up. Twelve to eighteen months, yeah, I'm like,
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Speaker 2: I feel like that is not that long of a time, right,
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Speaker 2: But I mean we'll probably.
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Speaker 1: We'll get into that. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: So the subsect says that it's a natural evolutionary cycle
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Speaker 2: and it's specific to high capacity neurocomplex minds. Oh so
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Speaker 2: we're dumb, Well yeah, maybe Actually smart people are the
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Speaker 2: onise like.
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Speaker 1: No, I'm going to move on from this, and we're like,
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Speaker 1: let's do the same thing we did when we were fifteen.
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Speaker 2: Literally, in my brain, it's just a monkey with symbols
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Speaker 2: being like l la la la la la la la la.
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Speaker 2: That was And I loved that we really harmonized song
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Speaker 2: out there with you, so neurocomplexity is the understanding that
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Speaker 2: a person's brain, body, and life experience all function as
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Speaker 2: one big system to interpret the world. It's also used
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Speaker 2: in reference to neurodivergent individuals and gifted people.
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Speaker 1: Maybe we're actually smart.
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Speaker 2: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I think it just depends which day you flip the coin,
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Speaker 1: exactly exactly. There's this character on The Boys and her
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Speaker 1: superpower is that she's really really smart, Like that's her superpower,
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Speaker 1: and she like The Boys's disclaimer like a fucked show,
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Speaker 1: Like it's so out there, so yeah, bear with me.
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Speaker 1: But to relieve herself, she gives herself a lobotomy to
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Speaker 1: be dumb, because her superpower is that her brain grows
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Speaker 1: back and she goes back to being smart. But being
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Speaker 1: smart is so overwhelming to her that she's also like
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Speaker 1: low key a villain in the show. But she gives
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Speaker 1: herself a lobotomy so that she can just turn her
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Speaker 1: brain off. Yeah, wow, be dumb.
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Speaker 2: That's what we're all doing when we scroll on our phone, That's.
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Speaker 1: What I mean.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like that episode of The Simpsons and Homer
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Speaker 2: gets a crayon removed from his brain and then he's
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Speaker 2: really smart and then he puts it back up there
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Speaker 2: because he's like, this is hell yeah it.
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Speaker 1: So yeah.
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Speaker 2: The article that I was reading says that outgrowing your
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Speaker 2: life is natural, but it also can be really disorienting,
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Speaker 2: which I'm sure a lot of us can relate to.
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Speaker 2: It's like this weird push and pull where you want
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Speaker 2: change and you feel like life is stagnant and boring,
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Speaker 2: but also change is incredibly scary and can feel really
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Speaker 2: hard to do. So the author breaks it down into
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Speaker 2: four different phases. Phase one distat faction, which is the
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Speaker 2: first signal gradual feelings of irritation with your daily rhythm,
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Speaker 2: friction with people and things that used to fit around
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Speaker 2: really easily and normally in your life, and the subtle
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Speaker 2: feeling that something is off something yeah right. Phase two disintegration.
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Speaker 2: The ego griebs, so the breakdown feels real as habits
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Speaker 2: collapse and your motivation takes a nose dive.
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Speaker 1: See that's the part part yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, which I do feel like that descriptor is quite
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Speaker 2: apt because it is a bit like an ego death.
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Speaker 2: But the article also points out the ego is designed
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Speaker 2: to protect the old you, not the new one that's emerging.
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Speaker 1: Ah, that's a nice way to look at it. Yeah. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Then phase three reconfiguration, the quiet upgrade, so you begin
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Speaker 2: to have flashes of clarity, new perceptions and ideas, new
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Speaker 2: problems start calling to you, and old patterns don't fit anymore.
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Speaker 2: It's like your running updates on your brain in real time.
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Speaker 2: And then the final phase, phase four expansion, the next
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Speaker 2: you emerges.
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Speaker 1: Like a phoenix from the ashes. How do we not
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Speaker 1: put that one at the top?
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Speaker 2: Anyway, we had a lot of things going on, butterflies.
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Speaker 1: Hannamontana movie exactly's Broken Road.
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Speaker 2: We covered a lot of ground. We covered a lot
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Speaker 2: of ground. So phase four expansion, the next of you emerges.
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Speaker 2: It all clicks into place, and your boundary sharpen, energy surges,
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Speaker 2: and the problems you once feared feel exactly the size
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Speaker 2: that you were built to handle. And the article kind
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Speaker 2: of concludes with here's what high capacity minds rarely here.
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Speaker 2: You're not falling apart. You're out growing yourself, and that
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Speaker 2: is the only way to live.
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Speaker 1: I love that because I can relate and I'm sure
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Speaker 1: so many people can to those moments where you really
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Speaker 1: do feel like you're life is falling apart, Like there
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Speaker 1: are those moments where it doesn't rain at pause, like
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Speaker 1: one of our friends, you know, it happened to her
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Speaker 1: where she lost her job, broke up with her boyfriend
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Speaker 1: and couldn't renew her visa and was just like, what
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Speaker 1: the fuck is going on? Like what am I supposed
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Speaker 1: to do? And she ended up making a lot of
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Speaker 1: really big life decisions and is now thriving. But she
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Speaker 1: her life looks completely different to what it looked like
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Speaker 1: at that time, like the same thing I feel like,
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Speaker 1: you know, And it's also you don't do it once,
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Speaker 1: Like that doesn't just happen once and you go done, achieved.
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Speaker 1: This is what my life will look like, Like it
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Speaker 1: happens a lot through life. But I think that's such
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Speaker 1: a comforting way to look at it, that when your
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Speaker 1: life is feeling like it's falling apart, it's maybe more
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Speaker 1: a sign that like you're about to reach a new evolution.
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Speaker 2: Yeah literally, yeah, And even if it's not falling apart,
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Speaker 2: but it just feels boring and stale and stagnant, like
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Speaker 2: even if nothing is going wrong, but you have sort
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Speaker 2: of been on the same kind of trajectory for a
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Speaker 2: little while, and then you're like, this doesn't feel the
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Speaker 2: way that it did, or something doesn't feel quite right.
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Speaker 1: But I want to know what are your thoughts on
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Speaker 1: the like twelve to eighteenth month timeframe.
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Speaker 2: I don't know if you could put it down to
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Speaker 2: an exact science like that. Maybe you can't, but I'm like,
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Speaker 2: surely not, surely not to all people who feel this
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Speaker 2: way it would happen every twelve to eighteen months. But
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Speaker 2: I do think that it, like you said, it definitely
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Speaker 2: would happen multiple times in your life. And I think
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Speaker 2: for some people as well, like you could have these
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Speaker 2: sorts of feelings like multiple times in one year. I
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Speaker 2: really think it depends on what you're kind of going
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Speaker 2: through and what life is throwing at you.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think there's also the flip side where you
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Speaker 1: can try to chase change too much, yea, Like where
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Speaker 1: you're not comfortable in stillness. Yeah, And there is that
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Speaker 1: like I you know, used to do this when I
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Speaker 1: was younger as well, that it was like if something
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Speaker 1: was good, you know, sometimes you're self sabotage and you're like,
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Speaker 1: well I'm gonna I've got to change something. Yeah, And
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Speaker 1: that's not necessarily growth. That's like discomfort with stillness yea,
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Speaker 1: or like sometimes it's like, oh, even if everything's good,
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Speaker 1: it's like, oh, well, that's just boring.
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Speaker 2: Exactly. There's a lot of pressure, especially in your twenties
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Speaker 2: and thirties, to have a really exciting.
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Speaker 1: Yeah it's so okaotic.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, like that's fun dude in there, of course, of course,
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Speaker 2: and it is really important to have new experiences and
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Speaker 2: new relationships and new stimulus in your life. But I
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Speaker 2: do think that there is a conception that's settling down
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Speaker 2: and finding a routine that you have comfort in is
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Speaker 2: a bad thing. Yeah, so I do. I really liked
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Speaker 2: this article and I do like this concept, but yeah,
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Speaker 2: it kind of poses a question like doesn't mean that
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Speaker 2: you have to uproot your life every one to two years?
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Speaker 1: No, yeah, no, But I do really like the way
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Speaker 1: that it acknowledges what those feelings of growth and outgrowing is,
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Speaker 1: because a lot of the time it just feels wrong,
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Speaker 1: Like it just feels like what you're saying, it's like,
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Speaker 1: why am I not enjoying this thing that I used
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Speaker 1: to enjoy before? Like why don't I have the fire
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Speaker 1: in my belly? What's going on? And you know, having
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Speaker 1: that comforting notion that like if something is going whoa, well, whoa, Hey,
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Speaker 1: it's only going to result in you being stronger. There's
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Speaker 1: that stat that we read that was like eighty five
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Speaker 1: percent of the things you worry about happening will never happen.
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Speaker 1: And then also for the small amount of people that
20:03
Speaker 1: what they worried about did happen, majority of them handled
20:06
Speaker 1: it better than they thought they would. Yeah, and I
20:09
Speaker 1: like always tell myself that thing because I'm like, it's
20:12
Speaker 1: going to be fine.
20:14
Speaker 2: Yeah.
20:14
Speaker 1: Yeah. But I do also want to get into what
20:18
Speaker 1: it means to outgrow your life. I feel like we've
20:20
Speaker 1: touched on that a lot, but it's mainly when your
20:23
Speaker 1: values and priorities change in a way that forces you
20:26
Speaker 1: to shift your perspective on life. So it's common that
20:29
Speaker 1: when you're younger, the concept about growing your life can
20:32
Speaker 1: relate to like milestones or goals that were conditioned to
20:37
Speaker 1: have ticked off by a certain age. And like you're saying,
20:42
Speaker 1: settling down, getting a dream job, living in a certain city,
20:46
Speaker 1: moving into your own place. Like when you were younger,
20:50
Speaker 1: what did you think your life would look like at
20:54
Speaker 1: thirty three? I nearly said thirty four then, and I
20:57
Speaker 1: would have given you one free smack. I kind of.
21:00
Speaker 2: I don't really mind, because Chris is thirty four, I
21:03
Speaker 2: kind of feel thirty four year older, and and all
21:05
Speaker 2: the people I went to school with they're all thirty four.
21:08
Speaker 2: So I'm like, I'm thirty four too, kind of.
21:11
Speaker 1: Like you when you're like you're or too.
21:13
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, so by extension, you're also thirty four.
21:17
Speaker 1: But yeah, did you think your life would look like
21:19
Speaker 1: what your life looks like now?
21:22
Speaker 2: No, But I don't know what I thought my life
21:25
Speaker 2: would look like. I think because I was such like
21:27
Speaker 2: a little pessimistic shit of a teenager. I don't even
21:33
Speaker 2: know what I thought my life would look like. And
21:37
Speaker 2: I actually do think that it's a lot better than
21:39
Speaker 2: what I thought it would be. Yeah, Like I think,
21:42
Speaker 2: and maybe on paper, the things that we do, like
21:45
Speaker 2: I don't own a house yet, and you know whatever,
21:48
Speaker 2: a lot of the things that people would have achieved
21:51
Speaker 2: in their thirties or would think that they would have
21:53
Speaker 2: achieved in their early thirties, Like maybe I'd be like.
21:56
Speaker 1: The fuck's with that?
21:57
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I'm actually really content and happy with
22:00
Speaker 2: my life is. So that's kind of comforting too.
22:03
Speaker 1: Ye.
22:04
Speaker 2: Yeah, what about you? Where did you think that you
22:06
Speaker 2: would be when you were thirty girls.
22:09
Speaker 1: I literally was about to be like correct you and
22:12
Speaker 1: go like thirty four thirty four idiot? But yeah, I
22:17
Speaker 1: like when I was let's say sixteen, I absolutely had
22:21
Speaker 1: the notion in my head that I would be married
22:23
Speaker 1: with kids in the suburbs. I don't even know what
22:28
Speaker 1: career was on the path then because it changed every
22:31
Speaker 1: like two years. Probably wanted to be a bit but
22:33
Speaker 1: then I started doing biology and I didn't pass a
22:35
Speaker 1: single exam, so I was like, maybe not for me, Yeah,
22:38
Speaker 1: that's all right. And Mum was like you want to
22:40
Speaker 1: put animals down? And I was like, no, I want
22:42
Speaker 1: to help them. Yeah, And then I think I wanted
22:45
Speaker 1: to be a chef, and.
22:46
Speaker 2: Then pop star probably oh yeah.
22:49
Speaker 1: I was like I wouldn't be in a musical theater.
22:51
Speaker 1: There was a lot in there, but anyway, go to
22:55
Speaker 1: the theater. But I definitely, you know, rulinguished. And also
23:01
Speaker 1: I think as you get older, you just realize how
23:04
Speaker 1: maybe inaccurate those time frames you give yourself up, because
23:09
Speaker 1: I do think it depends on maybe who you surround
23:11
Speaker 1: yourself with and like where you are in life. So
23:14
Speaker 1: for example, if you're twenty five and all of your
23:18
Speaker 1: friends are married and have babies, you probably think, fuck,
23:20
Speaker 1: I should probably be married and have babies. At twenty five,
23:23
Speaker 1: I was surrounded by a bunch of single friends and
23:27
Speaker 1: might as you of course, and you know, people that
23:30
Speaker 1: were focusing on their careers. So that's kind of what
23:33
Speaker 1: I wanted to do as well. You know, there's that
23:36
Speaker 1: effect to it. It's not to say that you have
23:37
Speaker 1: to do it, but I think that also helped maybe
23:41
Speaker 1: my perspective shift and allowed me to realize what I wanted.
23:48
Speaker 1: But it's interesting because when you're outgrowing your life, it's
23:52
Speaker 1: not something that just you don't just wake up in
23:55
Speaker 1: the morning and go, oh, I'm a completely different person.
23:58
Speaker 1: I mean sometimes sometimes that's fun, but like that's not
24:02
Speaker 1: lasting outgrowth, like in terms of like you know how
24:06
Speaker 1: sometimes I think I don't know if I'm like rogue
24:08
Speaker 1: for this, but like sometimes you wake up and you're like,
24:11
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna be this, and
24:14
Speaker 1: I'm going to start wearing clothes like Daisy Jones and
24:16
Speaker 1: the six and you like try to do like a
24:17
Speaker 1: full rebrand at like three am on interest. Yeah, that's
24:21
Speaker 1: not outgrowing your life. That's still fine. I still love. Yeah,
24:24
Speaker 1: that right. But outgrowing your life is like when you
24:28
Speaker 1: notice things about your life that don't quite fit the
24:30
Speaker 1: same and it maybe things have a little bit less
24:35
Speaker 1: of the sparkle to them, if you know what I mean.
24:38
Speaker 1: And like we were saying before, it's more of an
24:41
Speaker 1: invitation to see what else is out there? Yeah, it's
24:45
Speaker 1: more of an invitation to say, Okay, like this phase
24:51
Speaker 1: was really good. I learn a lot, but now I've
24:54
Speaker 1: learned all there is to you know, have in this
24:57
Speaker 1: What else can I do? What else is out there
24:59
Speaker 1: for me? And it's like that forced, you know, performance
25:03
Speaker 1: review of your own identity. But I was really curious
25:07
Speaker 1: when we started talking about doing this episode in you know,
25:11
Speaker 1: what do you think in your life you've outgrown the most?
25:17
Speaker 1: If we're talking like people place passion.
25:23
Speaker 2: For me personally, Yeah, so I think for me it
25:26
Speaker 2: was probably place and that would be in terms of
25:29
Speaker 2: where I grew up, and then also like some of
25:31
Speaker 2: the work environments that I was in, Like I grew
25:35
Speaker 2: up on the South coast, like two hours south of Sydney,
25:38
Speaker 2: and it's really beautiful, really lucky to have grown up there.
25:40
Speaker 2: Have a lot of amazing friendships still down there, and
25:45
Speaker 2: part of me was like, I don't want to leave them.
25:47
Speaker 2: I also really wanted to like move out with my
25:49
Speaker 2: system Chris at the time they lived down there. But
25:53
Speaker 2: I was like the things that I want to do
25:54
Speaker 2: with my life, which was a career in journalism and music,
26:00
Speaker 2: going to live shows all the time, and even like
26:02
Speaker 2: going out. I was like, I want to like go
26:03
Speaker 2: out to dive bars and stuff, and that kind of
26:05
Speaker 2: thing like doesn't exist down here. Like I wanted to
26:09
Speaker 2: experience more of that city life, and I was like,
26:11
Speaker 2: and I can't do that down here. And I remember
26:14
Speaker 2: I really procrastinated or put that off for like maybe
26:18
Speaker 2: eighteen months, and I was and then by the time
26:20
Speaker 2: I left, I felt like I really resented where I
26:25
Speaker 2: grew up and maybe some of the things that I
26:26
Speaker 2: felt were holding me back, Whereas maybe if I just
26:30
Speaker 2: listened to my instinct a little bit earlier and listened
26:32
Speaker 2: to that discomfort a little bit earlier, I would have
26:35
Speaker 2: moved sooner. But I think it's all worked out in
26:37
Speaker 2: the end.
26:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, And as it always does too. What about you?
26:42
Speaker 1: I was I was trying to think as you were saying,
26:44
Speaker 1: and I was like, can I say, like all of.
26:46
Speaker 2: The above, Yeah, I don't know.
26:47
Speaker 1: It's like such a cough out. But I think probably
26:50
Speaker 1: the one that sticks out to me the most in
26:52
Speaker 1: terms of like what have I outgrown the most in
26:55
Speaker 1: life is probably like my own identity and like my
27:00
Speaker 1: own pressure or things that I thought I wanted or
27:05
Speaker 1: needed to be. I was and you know, working progress,
27:10
Speaker 1: but like huge people please are you know, just wanted
27:13
Speaker 1: everyone to be my friend. So I would kind of
27:16
Speaker 1: just like put up with a lot or a little
27:19
Speaker 1: like you know, people wouldn't even show up, you know,
27:22
Speaker 1: but even just like what we were saying before, I
27:26
Speaker 1: had a great term in my twenties. But I definitely
27:29
Speaker 1: do think I had that idea that I was like, well,
27:32
Speaker 1: I've got to do as much as I possibly can
27:34
Speaker 1: so I can have stories. And I think the thing
27:37
Speaker 1: that I outgrew the most is the need to be interesting.
27:42
Speaker 1: Like I really thought I needed to be this really interesting, fun,
27:47
Speaker 1: charismatic person that always had a good story, and then
27:51
Speaker 1: if I was staying at home or in a long
27:54
Speaker 1: term relationship or something like that, it made me boring,
27:57
Speaker 1: which is not the case all And like realizing that
28:02
Speaker 1: just being myself was more than enougheah, And so that's
28:07
Speaker 1: probably the thing that I've outgrown I think the most.
28:10
Speaker 1: But there's you could honestly pick any of those categories
28:13
Speaker 1: and I could tell you something about it. Yeah, you know.
28:17
Speaker 1: And the reason my ass I is because we put
28:20
Speaker 1: a poll up for the chicks to tell us what
28:22
Speaker 1: they've outgrown the most in life specifically, was it people, passion,
28:26
Speaker 1: or place, And seventy six percent of our audience said
28:31
Speaker 1: the most thing they've outgrown is people. Wow, I know,
28:35
Speaker 1: I honestly think that makes sense. Yeah, it's a natural
28:40
Speaker 1: point in life. I think if you look at you know,
28:42
Speaker 1: how many people do you still talk to from high
28:44
Speaker 1: school or university or your old job from like four
28:48
Speaker 1: years ago. Like, it's just a natural thing, you know.
28:51
Speaker 1: But it's also a very difficult thing. And I was
28:55
Speaker 1: thinking about this this morning on both ends, because it's
29:00
Speaker 1: hard to feel like a relationship that once meant a
29:03
Speaker 1: lot to you maybe no longer has that sparkle to it,
29:08
Speaker 1: whether it's a friendship, whether it's a relationship, you know.
29:11
Speaker 1: But then also I was thinking, I was like, I
29:16
Speaker 1: was like thinking about when you know someone's outgrowing you, Yeah,
29:20
Speaker 1: that would also be a really hard thing to go through,
29:24
Speaker 1: you know, if it's and it's not to say that
29:27
Speaker 1: this means you are outgrowing or anything like that, but
29:30
Speaker 1: you know, like when I was single and I could
29:32
Speaker 1: feel a friend, you know, didn't want to go out
29:34
Speaker 1: as much or didn't want to hang out as much,
29:36
Speaker 1: and it didn't mean she was outgrowing me, but it
29:38
Speaker 1: meant that you're on different parts. We're on different paths
29:41
Speaker 1: now because she's focusing on her relationship and she didn't
29:45
Speaker 1: like drop me, but I could feel that gap expanding. Yeah,
29:49
Speaker 1: and it was making me think about that, and I
29:50
Speaker 1: was like, you know, it doesn't just because you've outgrown
29:54
Speaker 1: a relationship doesn't mean it needs to be a big
29:57
Speaker 1: mushroom cloud. It doesn't need to be a big blow up.
30:00
Speaker 1: Sometimes it is, sometimes it's not. So I wanted to
30:03
Speaker 1: pull in some science that you've outgrown a relationship, hit me, Okay,
30:09
Speaker 1: this could be like family, all friends, all relationships. It
30:14
Speaker 1: kind of applies to all. And it's from an article
30:18
Speaker 1: from Psychology Today. So number one, the conversation feels forced
30:23
Speaker 1: between you. Two. Number two, you don't feel emotionally or
30:28
Speaker 1: intellectually challenged. Number Three, you restrain yourself from sharing personal
30:33
Speaker 1: or professional accomplishment. Yeah, so like yeah, yeah, the people.
30:39
Speaker 2: If you can't tell your friends good news, yeah, can
30:42
Speaker 2: you tell.
30:42
Speaker 1: Literally, this one's quite diabolical. You feel bored when you
30:49
Speaker 1: spend time with them. Ouch, yeah, you're you feel you're
30:54
Speaker 1: often on different pages. Yeah, and finally you find yourself
30:58
Speaker 1: constantly picking five for the smallest things.
31:02
Speaker 2: Yeah, when you get agitated at someone over like seemingly nothing, Yeah.
31:06
Speaker 1: Or like that's kind of that thing that I was
31:08
Speaker 1: trying to say, you know earlier, that like maybe you
31:12
Speaker 1: are chasing the change like that You're like, I'm trying
31:17
Speaker 1: to maybe blow this up because I can't emotionally like
31:22
Speaker 1: it's making me emotionally sad, and I can't emotionally accept
31:26
Speaker 1: that maybe this relationship is done. So I'm gonna, you know,
31:30
Speaker 1: pick fights or whatever. Yeah, but I think it's really
31:35
Speaker 1: Outgrowing people is really hard. Like that's probably where I'm
31:38
Speaker 1: like a place and a passion is fine, give it
31:40
Speaker 1: that any day.
31:43
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, outgrowing That's then annoying thing is that outgrowing
31:47
Speaker 2: people is extremely difficult, but it's also probably the most common,
31:51
Speaker 2: which explains seventy six percent of people felt like they
31:54
Speaker 2: related to that one.
31:55
Speaker 1: The most. I also do think that whether or not
32:00
Speaker 1: you've outgrown a person doesn't doesn't mean that like that
32:03
Speaker 1: person needs to exit your life forever. Yeah, Like the
32:06
Speaker 1: friendship example I was giving before, it's like you could
32:09
Speaker 1: still like there's that saying that everyone says, and it's
32:12
Speaker 1: like friendships are a reason a season or a lifetime.
32:15
Speaker 1: And just because maybe what the phase that you guys
32:19
Speaker 1: are in right now doesn't mean you won't come back together. Yeah,
32:23
Speaker 1: Like you can still hold love for a person and
32:25
Speaker 1: care for them and have outgrown the relationship as it stands,
32:30
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that the evolution of that friendship is
32:32
Speaker 1: completely done. It's not like the scene in Hercules where
32:34
Speaker 1: they're like the thread feathers feathers everything. I know, you know,
32:42
Speaker 1: maybe we should have watched that soon, I think, so,
32:45
Speaker 1: I think it's time I reckon. Yeah, it's been a
32:48
Speaker 1: long time.
32:49
Speaker 2: Ye.
32:50
Speaker 1: That movie was very highly associated to someone I used
32:54
Speaker 1: to date because they look like one of the characters,
32:57
Speaker 1: which you might be sitting here thinking that's a cartoon movie.
33:01
Speaker 1: How did how did I trust us? It was very
33:05
Speaker 1: actually on brand? Okay, it was it was.
33:25
Speaker 2: I also wanted to chat through some signs that you
33:28
Speaker 2: might be outgrowing your life in general, so feeling guilty
33:33
Speaker 2: for not appreciating things that you used to, disconnecting from
33:38
Speaker 2: things that once brought you joy. Now it feels heavy
33:41
Speaker 2: off a store, just not right, restlessness without a clear cause,
33:47
Speaker 2: like itchy feet.
33:49
Speaker 1: I don't like that. I don't like that.
33:50
Speaker 2: I don't think that's exactly.
33:51
Speaker 1: What I feel like.
33:52
Speaker 2: That'll give you a little.
33:56
Speaker 1: Don't do that. I can't like that. Old it's all day.
34:03
Speaker 2: Old habits or coping mechanisms don't work for you anymore.
34:06
Speaker 2: You're starting to dream bigger and expand your imagination for
34:10
Speaker 2: what you can envision for your life. Like, that's an
34:12
Speaker 2: exciting one, I think. But then on the flip side,
34:15
Speaker 2: feeling claustrophobic and limited in your current life. And I
34:20
Speaker 2: feel like this is perfectly encapsulated by the Sunday Scaries.
34:25
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, like if you're consistently spreading something, if you're
34:30
Speaker 4: consistently getting the Sunday Scaries, or even just like the
34:33
Speaker 4: nine pm scaries, we've got to shake things up.
34:37
Speaker 1: Yeah, gets really bad when it's just like a daily
34:40
Speaker 1: the everyday scary, but before scary scared. I'm kidd just
34:45
Speaker 1: because you work with me, Yeah, like what will she
34:48
Speaker 1: do today? Will she nibble my elbow? Will she itch
34:50
Speaker 1: my foot?
34:52
Speaker 2: Well, you know, I'm just trying to shake it up,
34:54
Speaker 2: trying to make sure things aren't stale. You're keeping the relationship.
34:56
Speaker 2: But that anyway, I think, whether it was the from
35:00
Speaker 2: your relationship or just your life, that you're outgrowing things.
35:03
Speaker 2: They're all valuable lessons and none of these things are
35:07
Speaker 2: like a waste of time, because I think that is
35:10
Speaker 2: something that people have a lot of anxiety around.
35:14
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, if you've outgrowth, sorry, I literally interrupted
35:17
Speaker 1: you what you're saying? Sorry? Please? Are you yeah?
35:21
Speaker 2: That you're like, well, fuck, I worked for years to
35:24
Speaker 2: get this career, or I've been in this relationship for
35:27
Speaker 2: a really long time, or me and this person have
35:29
Speaker 2: been friends for twenty years, and now I'm starting to
35:32
Speaker 2: get those feelings like I'm outgrowing it, and that means
35:36
Speaker 2: that all of that work, or all of that time
35:38
Speaker 2: and all of that effort is a waste. But it's not.
35:41
Speaker 1: How wonderful is it to have be able to look
35:43
Speaker 1: back at something and go, I really enjoyed this, but
35:46
Speaker 1: now I'm ready to expand my life further.
35:49
Speaker 2: Exactly, But I think that second part is the important exact,
35:53
Speaker 2: and that's why you should listen to some of those
35:55
Speaker 2: signs and trust your gut and trust your instinct. Because
36:00
Speaker 2: it reminded me of that the wrong train theory that
36:04
Speaker 2: Matilda mentioned to us Matilda from Stacks mentioned when she
36:07
Speaker 2: was on the Pod earlier this year, and it's that
36:10
Speaker 2: metaphor that suggests that when you realize that you're on
36:12
Speaker 2: the wrong path in life or train, you should get
36:16
Speaker 2: off at the next available stuff as soon as possible. Yeah,
36:19
Speaker 2: because the longer you stay on the wrong train, the
36:22
Speaker 2: more expensive and difficult it is to get home.
36:24
Speaker 1: When she said that on that episode, I was like, well, fuck,
36:29
Speaker 1: you've just rerouted every groove in my brain literally, thank you.
36:33
Speaker 1: To wrap the episode, I want to give the chicks
36:36
Speaker 1: some homework because if this is really landing for you,
36:41
Speaker 1: which we're always growing, so I'm sure it is. Not
36:45
Speaker 1: to give myself a gold star like wow, this really applies,
36:49
Speaker 1: which it's such a good job. Is this thing called
36:53
Speaker 1: the Odyssey Plan. So this is a goal setting in
36:56
Speaker 1: visualization exercise aimed at prototyping your future. So you develop
37:01
Speaker 1: three different versions of the next five years of your life.
37:05
Speaker 1: The first is the expected path. What happens if nothing changes.
37:10
Speaker 1: What happens if you stay where you are and you
37:12
Speaker 1: don't change anything about your current trajectory. Number two is
37:17
Speaker 1: the alternate path. It's what would your life look like
37:20
Speaker 1: if your current path was no longer an option, if
37:23
Speaker 1: you had to choose a different career or lifestyle. And
37:27
Speaker 1: the third is a wild card path if money was
37:32
Speaker 1: no object and societal expectations didn't affect you, what would
37:36
Speaker 1: your life look like? And this is like dream scenario.
37:42
Speaker 1: If I could achieve and have everything I wanted in
37:44
Speaker 1: my life, what would that be? And it forces you
37:48
Speaker 1: to actually take an objective look at your life because
37:51
Speaker 1: there's so many ways that this homework and this plan
37:56
Speaker 1: can actually make you realize, well, maybe the first part
38:01
Speaker 1: and my third wild card path actually aren't that far
38:04
Speaker 1: off each other, Like maybe they're they're closer than I realize,
38:09
Speaker 1: And I don't have to change everything that I'm doing,
38:11
Speaker 1: but I just need to maybe aspire and dream a
38:14
Speaker 1: little bit bigger than I currently am. Maybe it's a
38:17
Speaker 1: completely different thing. Maybe you work as an accountant and
38:20
Speaker 1: you're like, I want to like work in a bookshop cafe.
38:24
Speaker 1: That's always my example, because that's what I would do, Like,
38:27
Speaker 1: that's my wild card, it's my way of code. I'm
38:30
Speaker 1: just here with hockey romances every day.
38:32
Speaker 2: Yeah we should open like a book record store cafe,
38:36
Speaker 2: but high bread.
38:38
Speaker 1: The reason why I love this so much is I've
38:40
Speaker 1: told the story on the podcast before, but I just
38:42
Speaker 1: want to hit this home for the chicks that maybe think,
38:45
Speaker 1: but like, what's the point in writing down a dream
38:47
Speaker 1: scenario like it's not going to happen? Cost of living,
38:51
Speaker 1: getting a job is hard. I totally get it. When
38:54
Speaker 1: two years ago I found like, I had this journal
38:58
Speaker 1: and it was like three hundred and sixty five days
38:59
Speaker 1: of journal. I think I got to day seventeen and
39:04
Speaker 1: this was, oh, this would have been ten years ago now, wow.
39:07
Speaker 1: And I found this journal when we were kind of
39:10
Speaker 1: making the Rich in Life Planners, and I went and
39:12
Speaker 1: pulled all these journals that I had, and I wanted
39:14
Speaker 1: to look at, you know, the activities in them that
39:16
Speaker 1: I actually stuck with, the ones that I didn't think
39:18
Speaker 1: were very necessary and whatever it was. And I found
39:21
Speaker 1: this page on like day six, and it was what
39:24
Speaker 1: would you do with your life if money wasn't an object?
39:27
Speaker 1: And everything was within your grasp and every single thing
39:31
Speaker 1: on that list. Five years later I had and like
39:36
Speaker 1: it made me realize one that doing that task. The
39:40
Speaker 1: things I wanted wasn't going to the fucking moon. It
39:45
Speaker 1: was owning my own business, having a loving partner, getting
39:50
Speaker 1: a dog. We rebranded that to get But like writing
39:53
Speaker 1: a book, like it was all of these things that
39:56
Speaker 1: when I wrote, was like, wow, that's kind of like,
39:59
Speaker 1: that's the dream. It was far away from where I
40:02
Speaker 1: was at the time. But it wasn't like wild It
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Speaker 1: wasn't like grow a sixth toe. That's not mine, you
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Speaker 1: fucking bitch.
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Speaker 2: Don't box me in.
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Speaker 1: I really long ties. I can cut one of mine
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Speaker 1: in half and give you one. But that's like and
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Speaker 1: then I read this list and I remember calling you
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Speaker 1: because I was like, what the fuck? And I never
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Speaker 1: got rid of that book. I should just read the
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Speaker 1: page out and frame it.
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Speaker 2: No, you should.
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Speaker 1: That's such a cute idea.
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Speaker 2: Why am I crying because I'm giving you a toe?
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Speaker 2: I'm not again?
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Speaker 1: Why? But and that's what I love about it, because
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Speaker 1: it's not something that you need to put on a
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Speaker 1: mood board and live every day as your you know,
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Speaker 1: wild card path. But knowing what you want in life
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Speaker 1: is truly the scene secret Sauce Yum to happiness. I
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Speaker 1: like it toes sauce and passports. That's outgrowing life.
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Speaker 2: That's the episode. Chick's the episode.
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Speaker 1: Chicks. Thank you so much for listening. We love you,
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Speaker 1: and we want to leave you on one little quote
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Speaker 1: to say bye and that whatever you're going through right now,
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Speaker 1: what a privilege it is to outgrow the stuff that
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Speaker 1: you once settled for. Love you, chicks, Love you chicks.
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Speaker 1: Thanks so much for listening. Thanks for having us in
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Speaker 1: your ear holes.
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Speaker 2: We love to be here. That's something will never outgrow.
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Speaker 1: You will never outgrow I'm in here, I'm ruded here.
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Speaker 1: Did you get a little tickle inside your ear?
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Speaker 2: That was me?
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Speaker 4: Love you chicks, Bye bye,