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Do Narcissists Flying Monkeys Know What They Are Doing? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So do a narcissist flying monkeys.
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  No, that they are flying monkeys.
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  No, they thought that they are enabling A narcissist behaviors.
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  That's what we're going to talk about today, y'all.
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  In today's video, you're going to find out that some do, some
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  don't, and how to deal with flying monkeys overall.
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  Of course, if you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist myself and welcome to another
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  episode of the Narcissist Code. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Yes, yes, yes, yes. Y'all narcissist flying monkeys.
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  The flying monkey bats, as I like to call them sometimes.
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  Yes, I'm shooting in my car right now.
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  I just left the gym. I'm actually about to get this
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  tattoo. Talk about see if I'll get this
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  tattoo removed off my arm and go from there with it.
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  But if you don't know what a flying monkey is, it's overall a
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  supporter of the narcissist. The term flying monkey came from
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  the Wizard of Oz. Like you know how the wicked
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  witch of the, I think West or the east, the evil wicked witch,
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  right? You remember how she like had
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  the flying monkeys that did her bidding?
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  Same thing, the fly monkeys did the bidding of the wicked witch
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  and pretty much got nothing in return.
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  I guess they got to serve the wicked witch.
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  The the overall it doesn't seem like the fly monkeys got much in
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  return other than we did a wicked witch.
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  We did it. Same thing in any situation in
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  real life. A fly monkey is one of those,
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  one of those fly monkey bats. And the wicked witch is your
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  narcissistic partner or parent to whoever it is in your life.
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  Right? So first part of this, do fly
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  monkeys know what they're doing? Do fly monkeys just
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  automatically believe the narcissist?
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  Yes, some of them do y'all. Some of them active.
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  Some fly monkeys are narcissist. Some fly monkeys are highly
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  narcissist, highly narcissistic. Some fly monkeys are just toxic
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  as hell. Just evil bastards so to speak.
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  Let's just get that out of the way I think.
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  I know a lot of people will just understand what I'm saying right
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  there, but there's so many fly monkeys that know exactly what
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  they're doing and they are just, if not just asked, if not more
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  evil than the narcissist, right? The other part of it is that
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  some narcissists, right, some narcissistic people, the fly,
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  like they employed, they kind of like employed the flying monkeys
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  to do their bidding. They'll tell the flying monkeys
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  what is going on, and the flying monkeys will absolutely serve
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  the narcissist. They'll convey information back
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  and forth, they'll spread rumors, they'll help, they'll
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  help spread the smear campaign. They'll stalk you, they'll
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  harass you. They'll do a lot of things to
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  you that they should not be doing overall.
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  And I think a lot of people who've dealt with fly monkeys
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  understand exactly what I'm saying.
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  Like you understand exactly what I'm saying.
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  How the fly monkey bats out here will literally do whatever they
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  take it takes to make the narcissist happy or to make the
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  narcissist smile or whatever the case may be.
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  So yes, some of them absolutely do know what they're doing.
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  And yes, they don't know. They don't care to hear the
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  other version of the story, to hear your side of the story.
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  Some of them don't care about that, y'all.
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  I know some people were just like, well, if I could just sit
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  down and talk to the flying monkey bat that they would
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  believe me and maybe they can turn into my flying monkey.
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  No, you don't want, Yeah, you don't want a damn double agent
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  flying monkey. Who wants that?
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  Why would you want? Why would you want that?
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  Why on earth would you want a double agent flying monkey?
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  Why would you want that? Seriously, why would you want a
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  double agent to fly monkey that you can't trust that what
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  somebody that was literally all against you, Now they're all for
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  you. You want them to switch sides
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  again because they will switch your your ass again that you if
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  you don't think they'll switch on you again, you got to.
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  I got a lake to sell you in the middle of the Sahara desert,
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  right. Just just tell you don't try to
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  get the fly monkeys on your side and get them to get them to give
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  you information about the narcissist.
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  That will not help you. I promise you it will not.
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  I know some people just like well, leave make me feel better.
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  I know, but you don't want the fly monkey who is a typically
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  going to be an untrustworthy person on your side, unless it's
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  like your sibling or your family member or something like that.
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  They you got back on your side. I can see that a little bit, but
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  not playing both sides. You don't want to don't get into
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  look, don't wrestle with pigs because you're both getting
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  right. And the fly monkeys are pigs in
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  this situation sometimes. But like I said, some, some fly
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  monkeys do know exactly what they're doing.
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  They know that they're serving the narcissist.
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  They don't care what the truth is.
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  But on the other side of things, there are the fly monkeys that
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  are just ignorant. And I'm not using ignorant in a
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  derogatory way. I'm just using ignorant meaning
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  a lack of knowledge, meaning a lack of understanding, not an
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  insult, right? But people hear the word
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  ignorant. They typically they, they think
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  that they're being insulted and what not.
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  But this is not what I'm doing. Like when I say ignorant, I mean
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  that the narcissistic person right here or the flying monkey
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  just doesn't know what they're doing, doesn't know what's going
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  on. They just just in the middle.
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  They just kind of got put in the middle.
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  And sometimes they don't want to take sides.
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  But you can tell that they're taking the side of the abuser,
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  right? They're choosing the side of the
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  narcissist instead of dealing and helping you out and whatnot.
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  In these cases, in these situations, that's the truth.
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  Yeah, that's the big truth right there.
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  So there are so many people out there that are dealing with
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  narcissists and toxic people that just that just have this
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  type of stuff going on. Like seriously, and this is what
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  you'll be dealing with. This is what you'll be battling
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  against when you're dealing with toxic narcissistic people.
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  The the ignorant flying monkey can sometimes be worse, right?
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  Because they don't know what they're doing.
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  They don't know that they're going back and forth, spreading
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  information and helping a narcissist out.
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  Sometimes they don't even know the relationship was toxic.
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  They just don't believe anybody. And they just think that they're
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  being like, what do you call a Switzerland, a neutral country?
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  They think they're being Switzerland.
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  I'm not taking sides, but you know what I mean?
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  I'm a sense of resources over here, not over there, you know,
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  So some of the fly monkeys absolutely don't have any idea
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  what's going on. They have no idea.
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  They really do not know y'all. But I know I told you, I promise
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  y'all how to deal with a fly monkey in this video.
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  Do you want to have to like so fly monkeys, there's a few
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  different ways to deal with them.
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  Sometimes you could simply ignore them, which is not how
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  most people want to deal with them.
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  Especially the flying monkey has been torturing you and harassing
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  you and just participating in the abuse.
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  Hell, you don't want them to get away with, you don't want to.
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  Just like ignoring them could help.
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  Like ignoring a flying monkey could help you out in the long
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  run, right? It could absolutely help you out
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  in the long run. But you don't want to get into
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  the weeds of going back and forth with the flying monkey,
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  like trying to hurt them and harm them or trying to ruin
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  their reputation. Going back and forth with them.
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  Of course you want to document everything that's going on.
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  You absolutely do. You want to document everything
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  that's going on with this flying monkey?
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  You want to document everything that you're experiencing.
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  If they're stalking or harassing you, if they're yeah, if they're
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  breaking the law, call the law. If they're stalking you and you
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  can prove it, call the law. That's why I say document
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  everything. You want to defeat a flying
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  monkey by not talking to them and trying to get them to stand
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  down. Call the law because sometimes
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  that's what it's going to take. It's going to take for you to
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  call the boys, call the boys in blue to help you out because the
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  fly, sometimes you have to force these bastards to stop y'all or
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  they will not stop. Like of course they're going to
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  call you. Like in certain communities, the
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  fly monkeys will call you a snitch.
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  Like you snitched on me. I can't believe you told you
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  told on me. I can't believe you did this.
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  To hell with them. They harassed you, stalked you,
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  sometimes threatened to threaten you, did all kinds of stuff.
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  Call the police, call them. Don't spare them.
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  They're not sparing you. Why would you spare them?
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  Of course, use discretion and be careful, but they're not sparing
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  you. Why on earth would you spare
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  them? You see what I'm saying?
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  That's one of the things that so many people have to, you have to
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  understand when you're dealing with a narcissistic person or
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  abusive person, like they're not trying to spare you, so why
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  would you try to spare them? You know what I mean?
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  So sometimes to get the fly monkey to stop, you might have
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  to call the police. Absolutely.
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  You might absolutely have to call the police on their asses.
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  Really realistically, you might absolutely have to get their
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  asses locked up. You might absolutely have to get
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  a restraining order. Sometimes that's what you have
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  to do. If they refuse to leave you
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  alone, then you have to refuse to take the pressure off their
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  damn necks. To hell again, y'all to hell
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  with them. I want to, I'm about to say the
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  F word, but I don't like cussing this morning.
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  I don't feel like cussing this morning, you know?
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  I mean, just in these situations, make sure that you
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  are documenting everything because can some sometimes could
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  you set up a meeting with the flying monkey and y'all just
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  cross paths and sit down? Y'all have mutual friends that
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  schedule a meeting where y'all can sit down and hash things
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  out? Yeah, that that's a possibility.
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  But again, if they are flying monkeys right now, I would never
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  fully trust them again. Like they will have to go above
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  and beyond to gain my trust. Regardless of what initial
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  relationship we had. If you turned on me on a whim,
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  it's going to be very difficult for me to trust you again with
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  anything. With anything.
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  Why would I trust you again after you've clearly betrayed me
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  before? Have you?
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  After you've clearly betrayed me?
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  Why the would I trust you again? Why would I do this?
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  Why would I put you? Why?
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  Why would I? Why would I do this to you right
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  here? You see what I'm saying?
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  This is what so many people have to understand and deal with
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  because this is what abusive, manipulative, toxic ass people
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  are going to keep doing because it benefits them.
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  At the end of the day, fly monkeys are there to serve the
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  narcissist. Now, could Now, is it a
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  possibility the fly monkey could be on your side?
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  Yeah, you could. You could have your own little
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  version of a flying monkey. I don't know what you would call
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  it. Well, I don't know what you call
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  it. What you would call it.
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  Impasse flying monkey. I guess you would call them the
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  Tin Man. You can have the Tin Man's or
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  the scare. You can have some scarecrows.
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  Since we all since this is Wizard of Oz, Wizard of Oz coded
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  you can have the scarecrow, the Tin Man or what was the other
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  scarecrow? Tin Man?
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  Was it the only one? Toto I haven't seen Wizard of Oz
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  in forever. Tin Man Scarecrow and the the
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  lion, the little scared scared, the cat lion or whatever the
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  name was. I forgot I got to look it up.
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  You can have one of them, we'll call them ten men.
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  No, 10 men. Scarecrows just sound like the
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  opposite, unless you're trying to scare a narcissist the way
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  right. So I hope this video aborted
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  some clarity on flying monkeys, y'all, how to deal with them and
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  whether or not flying monkeys know exactly what they're doing.
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  Some do, some don't, but you all get again, you get the toxic,
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  narcissistic, abusive person who benefits from it all whether
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  they know or not or not the narcissist benefits from it all.
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