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My husband has a SECRET apartment with his friends…I think he's been cheating! | Reddit Stories | EP3128 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: the sponsors that keep the show alive. My husband has
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  Speaker 1: a secret apartment with his friends. I think he's been cheating.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's just for the boys.
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  Speaker 1: This is the perfect for the boys kind of story.
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  Speaker 1: My 27 female husband, 33 male, has this group of friends.
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  Speaker 1: They've been close since college, and they're like brothers. So
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  Speaker 1: I've become pretty close with all of their wives. We
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  Speaker 1: have parties and everything together, and all of our kids
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  Speaker 1: are like cousins.
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  Speaker 2: Aww. This is so cute.
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  Speaker 1: God, I love a cousin that's not my cousin.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a brother. That's not like a brother. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Like a Dakota. Like a Keon.
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  Speaker 1: Look at us.
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  Speaker 2: Look at us.
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  Speaker 1: The wives are really sweet. And we talk and carpool
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  Speaker 1: and babysit for each other if we need. So, one
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  Speaker 1: of the girls texted me that she found out there's
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  Speaker 1: apparently this apartment all the guys split up the rent
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  Speaker 1: for and go there whenever to get away from their
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  Speaker 1: wives and lie about going on work trips. Ooh, I
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  Speaker 1: know that sounds really effing bad, but there is no
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  Speaker 1: way she's lying. She is not like that. I know
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  Speaker 1: she's telling the truth. And he does go on work
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  Speaker 1: trips and all that pretty frequently. But I always thought
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  Speaker 1: he was actually going for work.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's working on himself.
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  Speaker 1: He's working. He's trying to buy apartments to rent out.
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  Speaker 1: This is all part of the research discovery phase, dude.
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  Speaker 2: You have your book club. We have our secret apartments.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and it is a work trip. We're putting in
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  Speaker 1: that work on whatever game we're playing. Putting in work
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  Speaker 1: on the tiny little basketball hoop. I feel so effing
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  Speaker 1: dumb and confused, and I just want to call him up,
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  Speaker 1: but I know I have to be smarter than that.
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  Speaker 1: He's on a trip or whatever right now, and I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to text him where he could take a
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  Speaker 1: couple hours to come up with an answer. I need
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  Speaker 1: to confront him in person. This has me so effed up,
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  Speaker 1: I can't even explain the emotions I'm going through right now.
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  Speaker 1: I have no effing idea what to do. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: housewife and I don't have anything to do with the finances.
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  Speaker 1: He has a good paying job and I have a
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  Speaker 1: credit card and whatever I want. He'll tell me if
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  Speaker 1: we can afford it or not. And sometimes we talk
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  Speaker 1: about our savings, but we really don't have money problems.
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  Speaker 1: So there's no reason to talk about it in depth
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  Speaker 1: like that. So I had no idea about him paying
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  Speaker 1: for the apartment. By the way, this comes from Witch Common.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: And we're here to read this story and give our
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  Speaker 1: good advice goofily, but we only know what we know,
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  Speaker 1: which is why we want to know what you know.
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  Speaker 1: So put it down in the comments. Let us know
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  Speaker 1: what you're thinking. We know.
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  Speaker 2: They're just practicing, you know, reciting episode three, Revenge of
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  Speaker 2: the Sith.
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  Speaker 1: Like, yes.
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  Speaker 2: This is their treehouse. This is their magic treehouse.
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  Speaker 1: This is the adult treehouse. They didn't tell any of
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  Speaker 1: their wives about it because immediately the wives would be like,
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  Speaker 1: you guys aren't allowed to have this treehouse. That's why
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  Speaker 1: no one talked about it. I'm going to go out
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  Speaker 1: on a limb right now. We are very, we're not
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  Speaker 1: even anywhere close to the end of the story. I
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  Speaker 1: say complete innocence. What say you?
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  Speaker 2: Is it complete innocence that he's lying to his partner?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I mean.
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  Speaker 2: I go innocence, not completely. Okay. But I think the
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  Speaker 2: apartment is innocent.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Okay. So, and I know they're not doing anything
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  Speaker 1: innocent there. Oh no! We've been bamboozled! How do you know?
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  Speaker 1: The most innocent thing they're probably doing is some gambling
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  Speaker 1: and lying about leaving for work and just relaxing together.
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  Speaker 1: Worst thing is having affairs. Cheating once and making a
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  Speaker 1: mistake I can deal with.
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  Speaker 2: Or maybe they're kissing each other. Maybe they're practicing.
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  Speaker 1: I really want to unpack what you just said, but
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  Speaker 1: we got a lot more to read.
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  Speaker 2: Good.
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  Speaker 1: I know they bring girls there. There would be no
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  Speaker 1: other reason to rent out an effing apartment just to
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  Speaker 1: hang out. And that's why you don't know about the apartment, dog.
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  Speaker 1: I feel so confused and nasty, and I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what to do or how to bring it up. And
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  Speaker 1: if it's true, what the eff am I going to do?
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even finish my bachelor's. We met when I
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  Speaker 1: was 18, and then we got married, and I dropped
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  Speaker 1: out when I was pregnant. And we have two children.
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  Speaker 1: Our daughter is six, and the baby is two. I'm
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  Speaker 1: trying to think of some innocent explanation that she made
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  Speaker 1: a mistake or something. I have no idea, but I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what to think. My hands are shaking, and
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  Speaker 1: I feel anxiety in my chest, like I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: have a heart attack or throw up, and I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: sleep last night, and this is too much for me
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  Speaker 1: to handle, and I don't know how to ask him.
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking of slyly bringing it up, but I'm not
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  Speaker 1: slick enough for that. When he comes home on Monday,
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  Speaker 1: I know I'm just going to start crying. And if
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  Speaker 1: it's not true, accusing him straight up is going to
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  Speaker 1: be so bad and he's going to feel terrible that
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  Speaker 1: I don't trust him or something. How do I ask him?
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  Speaker 1: There are comments.
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  Speaker 2: Dakota, you know, what's that song called? It's by Van Halen.
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  Speaker 2: It goes, All I can think of is Panama. It's jump.
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  Speaker 1: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: She's jumping to conclusions without getting any cement.
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  Speaker 1: You were not in the right register, but yes, you
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  Speaker 1: were right. Yes. Sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Continue.
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  Speaker 1: Continue. It should have been.
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  Speaker 2: Like.
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  Speaker 1: We can't do that for... That's why I did it
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  Speaker 1: in that tone. Yeah, right.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously, it's been outed because if one of the wives know,
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  Speaker 2: she's probably... Did you ask that one wife that found out?
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  Speaker 2: Did you confront your husband?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Because if one husband gets confronted, all the husbands get confronted.
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  Speaker 2: Because he's like, guys, they found out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, as soon as it leaks, all the guys are
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  Speaker 1: going to know.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, Christina the Greek. It's jump to conclusions. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: I would give you a little source material for how
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  Speaker 1: to calm down about this. There's an episode of The
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  Speaker 1: King of Queens where this literally happens. All the guys
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  Speaker 1: in the show... Which, if you don't know, the King
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  Speaker 1: Queens is a sitcom with Kevin James, who's, you know,
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  Speaker 1: if you don't know who that is, Paul Blart.
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  Speaker 2: Mall cop, that guy. It's the hand in the pockets meme.
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  Speaker 1: And if you don't know who that is, I can't
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  Speaker 1: help you. And yeah, they had the apartment, not because
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  Speaker 1: they wanted to cheat on their wives, but they were
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  Speaker 1: just like, yeah, we can't hang out. They leave stuff
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  Speaker 1: on the table. We don't have the vacuum. I guarantee
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  Speaker 1: you it's their safe space just to.
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  Speaker 2: Be like, wind down, relax.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Like sports, like mind off.
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  Speaker 1: Correct.
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  Speaker 2: It's just mind is off. Let me not think. Let
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  Speaker 2: me watch game. Let me play a game. Let me
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  Speaker 2: watch a movie, whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think there's, if you convince yourself that this
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  Speaker 1: isn't like a dastardly nefarious act, because let me tell
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  Speaker 1: you something. I've never heard of like six guys getting
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  Speaker 1: together to all cheat on their wife in the exact
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  Speaker 1: same place. That's crazy. So I don't think that's happening.
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  Speaker 1: But you guys have a chance to like really mess
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  Speaker 1: with them here. And it could be really funny.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe the girls, maybe the wives need a, like a
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  Speaker 2: little magic castle, like little tree, like little, like, like
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  Speaker 2: this is their tree house for the boys. This is
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  Speaker 2: the castle for the girls. Like they need their own
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  Speaker 2: apartment as well.
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  Speaker 1: I think if you guys are not this, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: now that I'm thinking it, maybe this isn't the funniest.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you showed up and made everything spotless and
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  Speaker 1: then didn't say anything, And then they're all freaking out like,
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  Speaker 1: who was in here? Who did this?
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  Speaker 2: There's no way we cleaned this up. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Did you do this? I thought you did this. Who
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  Speaker 1: did this?
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  Speaker 2: I think we go into this with tact. We got this.
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  Speaker 2: We have some comments.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we do. So why did OP decide to talk
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  Speaker 1: with the other wives before confronting the husbands? OP says
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  Speaker 1: she has not told her husband or any of the
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  Speaker 1: other girls yet because she wanted to check in with
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  Speaker 1: me first to see if I know anything or what
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  Speaker 1: I think we should do. She thinks I'm good with
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  Speaker 1: stuff like this. I am not. I don't know where
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  Speaker 1: she got that idea.
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  Speaker 2: Men, when they come up with plans, I'm not good
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  Speaker 2: at this. Someone take the lead.
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  Speaker 1: I guess I'll see if I can get the girls
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  Speaker 1: together tomorrow and then we can talk about it. But
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  Speaker 1: I need them to not tell their husbands yet. That
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  Speaker 1: is the issue. Some of them are effing young and
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  Speaker 1: tell their husbands everything. And I don't know, they might
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  Speaker 1: freak out and just tell them. Why doesn't OP think
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  Speaker 1: her husband... would want a secret apartment just to get
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  Speaker 1: some peace and quiet. Opie says, no, we rarely argue.
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  Speaker 1: That's not what it's about. Again, it's like, you just
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  Speaker 1: don't get it.
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  Speaker 2: Completely over the head.
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  Speaker 1: I let him do his thing. I understand he works
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  Speaker 1: a lot and he's tired and I am really understanding
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  Speaker 1: of that and I never nag or make him do
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  Speaker 1: housework or play with the kids. We should want to
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  Speaker 1: play with the kids. Honestly, I think I'm the perfect
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  Speaker 1: wife and I'm not even trying to brag or anything.
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  Speaker 1: I don't bother him or complain about video games, sports,
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  Speaker 1: or TV. I know he comes home from work and
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  Speaker 1: he's tired and deserves time off when he's home. And
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  Speaker 1: he's the same way too. I get tired and he
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  Speaker 1: knows that. So if his laundry isn't done or the
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  Speaker 1: kitchen is still dirty at night, he knows I'm tired
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  Speaker 1: and he doesn't nag me or complain that the house
• 8:51
  Speaker 1: is dirty. Does he also not clean it a little bit, right?
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  Speaker 1: He just leaves it there for you to do later?
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  Speaker 2: What's his version of clean versus your version of clean,
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  Speaker 2: you know?
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  Speaker 1: Is this a trad wife situation? Are we in trad
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  Speaker 1: wife central right now? Hmm.
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  Speaker 2: The council of wives.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he listens and says, trad vibes.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Why does OP think the secrecy itself is more concerning
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  Speaker 1: than the money spent on the apartment? Well, that's what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying. The worst part is that he didn't tell
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  Speaker 1: me about it. That's what makes me think the worst.
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  Speaker 1: And I wouldn't care about the money either. Yeah, we're
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  Speaker 1: married and it's our money, but honestly... He works. He
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  Speaker 1: has more of a right to it. So I can't
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  Speaker 1: exactly be like, don't spend your money like this. So
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  Speaker 1: that's not even a plausible excuse. What did OP and
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  Speaker 1: the other wives eventually discover about the apartment? Hey, late
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: responses are still encouraged. Okay, we're actually getting into some
• 9:40
  Speaker 1: meat here. This apartment exists in my mind. I hope
• 9:44
  Speaker 1: to God they're not cheating.
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  Speaker 2: It's the treehouse. What's the secret passcode? No cooties allowed.
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  Speaker 1: I would bet you that all of these guys probably
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  Speaker 1: went to college and were in some kind of frat something.
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  Speaker 1: And this is just the apartment they go to to have...
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  Speaker 1: out with the bros without having to tell their wife, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not hanging out with you and the kids. I'm
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  Speaker 1: having my bros time.
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  Speaker 2: I want to go be a slob. I want to go.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I want to go. What was the Great American Challenge?
• 10:15
  Speaker 1: That.
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  Speaker 2: Where it's like.
• 10:17
  Speaker 1: The Great American Challenge.
• 10:18
  Speaker 2: Is it the Great American? What's the challenge? Where it's
• 10:20
  Speaker 2: like we have to order. We have to eat one
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  Speaker 2: full large pizza per person.
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  Speaker 1: I'm unfamiliar with this. The good. The good.
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  Speaker 2: As you should be.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And 12 rack, other things. Right.
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  Speaker 1: They're reliving the glory days.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely disgusting stuff you don't want to see or be
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  Speaker 2: even around.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And spoiler alert also for that episode of King
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  Speaker 1: of Queens, they end up realizing what they're doing is
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  Speaker 1: kind of lame, actually. They're like, we are all lying
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  Speaker 1: to our wives, and we're just acting like idiots, and
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: I don't know, this isn't even really cool anymore.
• 10:52
  Speaker 2: This is their Chuck E. Cheese. This is where a
• 10:54
  Speaker 2: kid can go be a kid, or sorry, an adult
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  Speaker 2: could go be a kid. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, how much time is he spending there?
• 11:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what is, that's the thing, that's the big question,
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  Speaker 2: is like, I'm going on work trips every weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, what is he deprioritizing in order to spend
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  Speaker 1: time at the bro apartment?
• 11:10
  Speaker 2: He's trying to beat Dark Souls 3.
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  Speaker 1: I feel you on that, brother. It took me a minute. Anyway.
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  Speaker 1: So I actually met up with some of the girls today.
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  Speaker 1: The one who told me about it thinks she found
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  Speaker 1: the address. She was going through some statements for something
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  Speaker 1: and her husband wasn't home. So she was just looking
• 11:26
  Speaker 1: everywhere and came across some documents. Nothing locked up or hidden.
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  Speaker 1: They're not evil geniuses after all. They just took us
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: for a bunch of idiots. And I guess we are
• 11:37
  Speaker 1: since we never realized. So we have the address. Still
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: deciding if we should show up or break in to
• 11:43
  Speaker 1: see what's inside and do our own inspection, or I
• 11:46
  Speaker 1: don't know. Somebody commented something earlier about how they all
• 11:49
  Speaker 1: probably already came up with a plan in case we
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: find out and ask about it.
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  Speaker 2: Burn it. Never existed.
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: It's just... It's just somebody calls. There's a fox in the...
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: There's a hen in the fox house. There's a hen
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  Speaker 1: in the fox house. The entire building.
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  Speaker 2: The seed has been planted. The seed has been planted.
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  Speaker 4: Anyway.
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  Speaker 1: So there's really no point in asking, and it's not
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: like he's going to tell me the truth. He's been
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: lying this whole time as if he'd suddenly become so truthful.
• 12:14
  Speaker 1: That's so silly. Just ask. Just ask him.
• 12:18
  Speaker 2: Just talk about it. We're still jumping to conclusions. Yeah,
• 12:21
  Speaker 2: we need evidence and proof. Yes, there is proof that
• 12:23
  Speaker 2: there is a department, but we don't know for what
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  Speaker 2: reason yet.
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  Speaker 1: Why is Opie hesitant to simply confront the husbands or
• 12:30
  Speaker 1: try to catch them in the act? Opie says, I'm
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: trying to figure out what I'm doing first. I talked
• 12:34
  Speaker 1: to some of the girls, and we're just throwing ideas
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: out there. None of us feel good about it. We're
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: not exactly enthusiastic to concoct a plan to catch them
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  Speaker 1: in the act. These are our husbands. Our lives could
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: change forever, and I have children. It's not as simple
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: as just barging in and catching them red-handed or putting
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: on a movie about guys with a secret apartment and
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: watching their reaction. or starting a fight during a party
• 12:56
  Speaker 1: and calling them all out. I'm trying to be smart
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: about this. And I don't want to do something and
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: then change my mind later and decide something else was
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: a better idea. Does OP blame being a housewife for
• 13:07
  Speaker 1: having no financial or educational backup? Well, OP says I
• 13:11
  Speaker 1: would have finished college if I didn't get pregnant. Being
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: a housewife isn't the problem. It's my fault. I have
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  Speaker 1: no backups. And there's an update nine days later.
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: I think it's a separate thing that you should definitely
• 13:20
  Speaker 2: bring up to your husband. For sure. That's a, like,
• 13:23
  Speaker 2: do you want to go finish your education? Do you
• 13:26
  Speaker 2: want to go back to school?
• 13:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, what? Like, you can do that, right? This
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: is very, yeah, ohitsbug says, definitely trad wives. It's like, yeah,
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: I feel like there's a lot of brainwashing going on
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  Speaker 1: here about, like, what you're supposed to be allowed to do.
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: Now that you're married with a kid?
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  Speaker 3: Hold on tight.
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. That's a separate thing. Main thing, okay,
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: let's go with the thing that's in our face first.
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: How do we confront our husbands?
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: Kate bowed and says, get a PI, OP. I think
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: that's a great idea. They should all pitch in to
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: get a PI. And the PI just is like, Yeah,
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: they watched all of the Back to the Future movies.
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: And then Lord of the Rings. They really have a
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: lot of time on their hands.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I wonder what their, like, is. I wonder. Imagine
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  Speaker 1: this is actually all of the husbands. This is not
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  Speaker 1: what it is. All of the husbands got together. And
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: they're like, our wives deserve something really special. And so
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: they found this apartment and they've been slowly turning it into, like,
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: girly pop heaven. For all the wives to conduct their
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: book club at. A dedicated book club apartment for all
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: of their wives.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: What an M. Night Shyamalan twist that would be, but no.
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: You're throwing it out there.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's a greater than 0% chance.
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: 100%.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: I believe it is still a less than 1% chance,
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: but it is greater than 0. Put it at the.
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: 05, yeah.
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: We have an update. Nine days later. So my friend
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: who actually found out about everything was doing something with
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: her taxes. I don't know. I'm not good with finances
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: and all those technical terms. So I don't know exactly
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: for what, but she needed some files and her husband
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: wasn't home. So she went looking around and found the
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: address on some documents. I met up with some of
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: the girls and we were brainstorming what we were going
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: to do. Everyone had mixed reactions. One of my friends
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: didn't even want to be involved in it and told
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: us to stop starting drama for no reason.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: I would be like, you're involved.
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like, you don't understand. You are not
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: free to go.
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't get to walk away from this one.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: You knew what you were signing up for. I found documents.
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: We decided we would probably camp outside of the apartment.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: This was the plan that you guys manufactured? Out of everything.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: We're camping outside the apartment to see if they bring
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: girls with them or something. I don't know what we
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: expect to find.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: I think you expect to find women.
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: Guys, it's going to be a girl stakeout. Nice.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: But my friend's husband noticed that she moved papers around
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: and so everything was busted. No secret mission. He told
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: all the guys that we knew and it was over.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: So my husband came home early from his work trip,
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: sat me down and told me everything. Everything about it.
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: Okay. Are we going to believe it? Are we going
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: to Naruto Uzumaki believe it?
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: We're going to see.
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: I already told you exactly what I thought. I proclaimed
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: innocence from the very beginning.
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: Brother, you heard me too. It's not full innocence because
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: they have been lying about it, but I think it
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: is still innocent.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: V-Ron says, what if all the women are just in
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: unknown lavender marriages?
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: A mistake out, Oatsbug says. Yes.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: All right. He's like, no, it's just a place for
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: me and all the guys go to make a hangout. Hangout.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: We make, we don't, we hang out there.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: With all our clothes on.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Over the pants.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: He told me it was just a dumb spot.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there it is. Miss mistake out.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, big mistake out.
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: She's out and about.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: Bang. He told me it was just a dumb spot
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: to hang out and relax and they could be loud
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: and annoying without bothering me. And he was sorry for
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: lying and keeping it from me. That makes no sense.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: Which again is okay.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: All right. I am 100% okay with him having his
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: friends over and I never complain about noise or anything.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: It's not about that.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: It's really not about that, dude.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: They're literally in a room farting, burping, doing obscene animal sounds.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: Reenacting stuff that they are just nerding out about. That's
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: what they're doing.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: There's just such a different energy amongst the guys here.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: When there are no ladies of theirs present. And it
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: has nothing to do with how we feel about any
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: of y'all. It just is a fact. There's stuff that
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: happens when girls aren't around that just doesn't happen. Even
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: if you're in another room and it's soundproof, it's just different.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: And Snickersnack says, if that's all it is, why lie
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: about it?
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: Because it's just like... They made it, it's like, ah,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: we got a little secret clubhouse.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: It's sad.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: And they're not hurting anybody. Well, I mean, again, it depends.
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: They hurt all of their girlfriends.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: It depends on what they're, if like there's like a
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: major thing happening and they're like, no, I'm going to
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: blow that off and we're going to hang out at
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: the cool guy apartment. Okay.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: I guarantee you they go.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: The existence is not a bad thing. I guarantee you
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: they go.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Work trip? Work trip? Work trip?
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: Work trip?
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: I don't know. If I found out that my partner
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: lied to me.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: About a work trip or just lied to me about
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: where they were going so they could go hang out
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: with their guy friends, I'd be like, what's wrong in
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: our relationship that you felt you needed to lie about that?
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: No, I agree. But I think it's like their little thing.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: Honestly, I think this apartment exists outside, like, all rules
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: of reality.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: Outside the nether. It's outside the nether, yeah.
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: It would probably be a big shift in my relationship
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: dynamic if I found out this happened.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: I think I could give some examples, but It's like
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: there's a difference between the that I do on this
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: show versus what was going on when we worked together
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: at the frat house card shop. Yeah. It was just
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: a little more going on. I don't know, man. I
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: don't feel like I can do an example of it
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: on here.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: You cannot.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: It's just too much. I don't think there's really any.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: It's because Sophia's here, dude. I can't do it.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: Well, I don't think there's a problem with that. I
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: think it's the secret. I don't think anyone cares about why.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: I feel like it's like their inside joke. I think
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: that was, though.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, sure. It's like, yeah. But the big thing
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: around the secret is, yeah, it's a secret. A secret
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: that they're keeping so they can cheat on us.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: That would be my first thought. Maybe not my first thought,
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: but I understand why OP thinks that. Because, like, why
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: else would it be a secret?
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Anyway, a couple people in the comments brought up Rent.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: and that it's financial mistreatment or something. It's not a
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: bad apartment, probably $ 1, 500 a month. But split between six guys?
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Not so bad. I don't really know what to do.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: I tried getting mad about it, but he just took
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: it and apologized. And that didn't help or make me
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: feel better.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: What did you want, then?
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but also, like, I guess OP's problem now is
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: that she didn't believe him from the start.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: And so she didn't hear what she thought she was
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: going to hear. And she's just kind of stuck in limbo.
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: Because there's a problem in the relationship.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Because she jumped to conclusions. But, yes, I mean, I
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: would also, too, when you hear any partners, like, I'm
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: going on a work trip. And work trip is, I'm
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: going to go have fun without you. Or I'm lying
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: to you because I'm with my friend's ego. Why are
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: you lying to me?
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: I just.
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: I guess my thing is like, we read a story,
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: I can't remember who was on, about a guy who
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: lied about an allergy.
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: And I was like, well, why did he feel the
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: need to lie about it? And he's like, well, I
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: just didn't like those things.
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: And then we found out like hundreds of other lies.
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: So I can see where OP is coming from to say,
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: what else would he be lying.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: About if he could lie about this?
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I just realized what we're all missing. We were talking
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: about how these are all trad wives, right? But these
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: are just trad husbands. And what's the most trad husband
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: thing you could do? Cheat on your wife.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: However, they're like, we have to.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: I thought you were going to say secret club.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: I was going to say golf.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: No, no, no. No, of course it's cheat on your wife.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: But they're like, we don't want to be 100% trad
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: husbands because we don't want to cheat on our wives.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: So let's make our secret that we just hang out. Yeah? Yeah? Yeah.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Come on. Come on. What would you rather them cheat?
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: Anyway.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: I feel so effed over and as if I'm overreacting
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: like he's acting calm and relaxed and I'm freaking out
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: and it's making me feel crazy.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: Can we breathe?
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: Breathe. We were so slow to act on it and
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: she was messy and left footprints and now we'll probably
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: never know that truth. He promised to show it to
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: me next weekend but that's not even going to put
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: my mind at ease. They could just clean everything up,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: get a few PS4s and TVs and pretend it was
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: a guy's hangout. I told him that I wanted to
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: go that day But he said he was tired and
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: just wanted to spend time with me and the kids.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: But if I really wanted, then he'd take me that night.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: I said that I was fine going next week. I
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: don't know what I was thinking.
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: Oh, that was such reverse psychology. That was such reverse psychology.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: Was it, though? I think he was like, well, no,
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: we were just there. And I don't even like I
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: would like I came here to be with you.
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: He's reverse psychologizing you, too.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: He got everyone.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Well, no.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: He's so good. She could have just went, okay, we'll
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: go tonight. And she didn't.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: Nah, he reversed psychology so hard.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: He went, I'm kind of tired, but I guess if
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: you don't want to hang out with Mina and I,
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: I guess we can go see this place.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: No, you know what this is giving? With OP and
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: her husband, overthinker, underthinker.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: Yes, exactly. That's perfect. I don't know what I was thinking.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: He's a freaking baby.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: That's what I thought. I was like, he's got you.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: I just don't think he's getting anything. Like, right? I
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: I think regardless of whether or not.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: If this was a nefarious apartment.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: All right. I guess my sentence doesn't matter.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: If that's the way you choose to think about it.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: What were you going to say?
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: I was going to say, regardless of whether or not
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: OP's husband is telling the truth, there's a problem in
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: the relationship. And then you go get a lot of counseling. Yeah.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: She's got to figure out why she can't just say
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: what's on her mind, you know?
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: Also that, yeah.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, there's other problems?
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: I feel like you know the best thing you can
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: do because it's six couples, right? Something like that?
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Assemble. Everyone, we assemble to the apartment tonight. So we
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: get everyone's story. What is this? What is that? What
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: is this? What is that?
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: To be clear, the guy never said that he doesn't
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: want to play with his kids. OP just said she
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: never nags him about playing with the kids.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: All right, keep going.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: We're getting close to the end. I don't know what
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: to do. Should have gone to that apartment, dude. A
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: part of me is thinking that if he was bringing
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: girls there, at least I know now and he's going
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: to stop and it's over and we can forget about it.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's deep.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: And it may be right, it may be wrong, but
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: you don't have any concrete evidence and you're processing all
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: of these things.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: That's crazy. She's really taken all her thoughts as the evidence.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I just want to know the truth. He's telling me
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: they were just hanging out, but how do I know
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: he's not lying? I don't know. Do you know your husband?
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: I wish we went over right when the girls and
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: I found out. We waited for too long and it
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: all got ruined. I just feel dumb. He's acting so
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: sweet and I can't help but act okay with it.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: He's being so nice. He knows he screwed up big
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: time and he's being really accommodating and taking care of
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: the kids so I can relax and have some downtime.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm supposed to do now. I
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: don't know if he's telling the truth or what. And
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: I was coming up with all these theories and plans
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: and ways to catch him or something, and it all backfired.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I wish I never found out about it because I
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: can't stop thinking about everything. It's torture. I'm just wondering
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: if he's had spastic times with other women. And how many?
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: And did he really F other women and then come
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: home and have spastic times with me? And I don't
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: even want him to touch my kids if he did
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: sleep with other people. But he's my husband.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: You are spiraling. And I'm not saying it's unjustified to
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: be spiraling, but you are spiraling.
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: This requires mediation.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: But he's my husband. And I love him. And he's
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: so good to me and my kids. And I'm like,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: there's no way he was cheating on me. The thoughts
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: running through my head are horrible. And I'm just visualizing everything.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: And I don't even know if it's real. So half
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: of me is saying I'd be naive to think it
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: was innocent. And the other half is saying I'm overreacting.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: And to just relax. And he's a good husband. And
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: I'm making something out of nothing. The conversation is had.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Does everyone's stories match up? You should have gone that night.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: That was your golden ticket of like, he's like, we
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: can go. I know. That was the golden ticket.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: That would have helped, I think.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: And I don't feel like he like.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: There's no way he offered that up without it being like,
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: this is not a, as Ming Ming says, this is
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: not a bang den. He said, dude is good at
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: manipulation and love bombing.
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: I thought you were saying Ming Ming said it's not.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: No, no, it's, I'm not getting that at all from
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: this guy. He's good at manipulation. They got caught because
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: some guy had a, just like the paper for it,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: like out and about. I don't know. Like, this clearly
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: wasn't that like, it's just not.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: We don't know the truth until the truth really comes out.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: But as of right now, the bad thing is they lied.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: It's like saying, hey, we're going to the beach house,
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: but we don't tell our partners that we're going to
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: the beach house, which is bad because you should be
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: honest with your partners. Be like, we're going to the
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: beach house. What's going to happen to the beach house? Farts.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but what if like 50% of the partners are like,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: you can't go to the beach house.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Then that's a conversation to have with your partner. Yeah,
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: that's not our issue. That sounds like a you issue.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: A you shoe. Moo shoe.
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: Like I guess like if, you know, your girlfriend said, hey,
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: I'm going to, I'm going on a work trip.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: And you said, oh, okay.
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: And then you find out after the fact that every
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: time that she's gone on a work trip, she's actually
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: just hanging out with her friends.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: With her girly pops?
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: That's right.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: And they go, they're going and doing stuff that I
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: don't want to do at all.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: No, you don't know what they do.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: They're just having fun.
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: They're doing their book club.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but if we're doing a one-to-one to like what
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: this guy and his buddies were doing.
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: No, it's one-to-one. All you know is that she was
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: hanging out with these friends.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: It was based off of a lie because he said,
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: I'm going on a work trip. Oh, I'm dreading it. Oh,
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: work trip.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it really would depend. That's the biggest thing
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: on how, because, you know, it's a lie. They lied. But, like,
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: how deep that thread goes of, like, oh, yeah, it's
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: the work trip. Oh, it's the conference for this. I'm
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: going to see Tony there. God, I got to get
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: these reports ready for my manager.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Now, based off that, going, you know, ahead, now every
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: time you hear work trip, it's apartment.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: I don't know, bro. Just give all the wives keys
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: to the apartment.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: Done. Next.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: Next.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Update two. Okay, so I talked to him this morning.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I told him how I was feeling and that I
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: can't trust him and divorce is on the table. D's
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: on the table. Because I don't feel good about all
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: this at all. And he has to tell me the truth.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: He took me to show me that the apartment was
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: nothing and it looked like a full ugly hangout. I
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: did an inspection and made him leave me alone to
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: look around and he let me.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't touch anything. Not because of, like, spicy sleep-related stuff.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: Just because it hasn't been cleaned in a long time.
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I did not find any Wiener Rappers or anything
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: related to the spicy times or anything like that. But
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: I'm still mad that he'd lie about leaving for work.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: That's really not okay. True. I have to agree. Agreed.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: And there are some comments. But girl, you did wind
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: yourself up super bad.
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: I'm saying she did a Mr. Fantastic full on twist.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: I think. And I'm sure we've read plenty of stories
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: where it's like, yeah, I don't know. I thought this
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: person was my everything. I thought I knew this person
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: and they cheated on me. But like. I gotta feel
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: like if I'm married, and I put my wife in
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: this situation, I can automatically assume I would never marry
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: anybody who would cheat on me, right? Or that I
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: would know them. Or if they did cheat on me,
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, I could tell by how different and
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: weird you are, you have done something wrong.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: True, but you're still blatantly lying to my face about
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: just this. It's a blatant lie.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: What if?
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: You could just have your man cave down, like, be
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: honest with me.
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would just be honest.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Like, hey, guys and I have a man cave, but
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: it's a man apartment.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: No girls allowed. No girls allowed.
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: Guys, something that we haven't thought about, what if those
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: other four wives we don't know about are actually super toxic?
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Well, that's another story.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: What if this is four men escaping their toxic relationships?
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: For a brief weekend. And then there's two other guys
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: who are like, I would also like to support my brothers.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: I know what's going on with them. But they're such
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: good husbands. They refuse to leave their wife because that
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: is a holy sacrament.
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: I solemnly vow. Yeah, I made a pact with a demon.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: No.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: No matter how... No matter the way you put it,
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: it's bad that he lied. Like I said, when we
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: said it was like, is it 100% innocent? It's bad
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: that he lied. It's innocent, sure. But it's still... lying
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: about the innocence.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I'd say with what else was on the table, yes.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: And guess what? Exactly what this is, is the exact
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: storyline of that episode of King of Queens. Guess what happens?
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: All of their partners get mad that they were lying
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: about going to some little frickin' den of frat house delights. Yeah. Anyway,
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: we've got comments to finish this story off.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's Keon, your favorite short king. We're going to
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of
• 30:47
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• 30:48
  Speaker 1: Mio says erm as if he'd leave any evidence lying
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: around before bringing you there. Some guys just don't get it.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: Some people just don't get it, bro. Opie reads that
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: and she starts spiraling again. She's spiraling again. He's not
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: that stupid. And oh, he's suddenly so truthful and transparent now.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Trust your guts, Opie. Don't be naive. So what? They stage.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: Who's bringing girls back to a disgusting hole in the wall?
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: I mean, guys do that all the time.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but then the girls open the door and they go, oh. No. Nuh-uh.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: No thanks.
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: I know girls that have slept with a man who
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: had active bed bugs.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Do we know her? I need to talk to her.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: How hot was it?
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: Who?
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: No, it's okay. We won't.
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: We won't.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: We won't. No. What was I going to say? This
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: is why I said what I said earlier. That's why
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: you get all the husbands, all the wives.
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: Maybe it was one of you in the chat.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Maybe.
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: Someone did that.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: But it's like, does everyone's stories match up? Does everyone's
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: things match up?
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but four of them are like, yeah, I hate
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: my wife. Not your husband, though. He loves you and
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: your kid. I don't know.
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: Why are you hanging out with people who hate their wives?
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: They got married. They're locked in. They can't do anything
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: about it. That's it. Guys, the context of this is
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: super trad. They're super trad.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: Boom, ba-doom, boom, boom, ba-doom, boom.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: That's super trad. Okay, an OP was downvoted. Well, he
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: wasn't going to take me. He said this weekend, but
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I told him he had to take me today and
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: made him drive me. I know I don't want to
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: be stupid, but I'm starting to think that maybe he
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: wasn't cheating. He's not a cheater. He's really not like that.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: And we have a great relationship. Maybe watching sports with
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: his friends there. I could see. But realistically, I don't
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: know if I believe that he'd cheat. Trust that part
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: of your gut, OP. That's the end of that story. Yeah, dude,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: they're probably just hanging out and talking in a way
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: that would make you all want to divorce them. I think,
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: you know, that's probably what's really going on.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: I think it's what's getting, getting to, like, I understand
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: is that OP, I think someone said in those comments too,
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: because he's the breadwinner. He's the one who brings in
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: the money. doesn't want to bite the hand that feeds, one,
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: but also two.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a really terrible position to be in.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: Two, she's like, there's no consequences. Even if I caught
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: him red-handed, what's the consequence?
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: I think consequence should be all the wives get their
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: own apartment that y'all also pay for, and we get
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: to switch weekends. One weekend you guys get to go
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: boy land, and then the next weekend we get to
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: go to girl land.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's fine, but is that going to
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: make everything easy peasy lemon squeezy? No. No. No, no, no.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: Why not? It should. It should. It should be as
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: simple as that, ladies and gentlemen.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: You can't buy my trust like that after it's been broken.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: I agree.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: Let us know what you do in the comments down below.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: I know it's an innocent, you know, fun apartment, but
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: it was based off of a lie. So that's not
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: innocent nor fun.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: Ming Ming doesn't get it. It's all right. Not everyone
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: would get it. Just go watch King of Queens, bro.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: King of Queens is not a real thing.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: King of Queens documentary. Anybody being like, this is an
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: insane thing. No one would ever do. The only reason
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: anyone would do this is to cheat. Just go watch
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: King of Queens. Yeah.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: Documentary King of Queens.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Written by human beings who have lived experiences.
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: Documentary King of Queens.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, you're right. It was a documentary. God, I
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: forgot about that.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: That is the end of that story. We have another
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: one coming right up. My ex misused child support for herself,
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: so I stopped sending money.
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Is the kid still being taken care of, though?
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: I was married to my ex-wife for seven years, during
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: which we've had two children, a girl and a boy.
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: Shark boy, lava girl. The girl is special needs and
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: requires additional sessions with medical doctors for communication skills and
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: social conduct. I divorced her five years ago in less
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: than amicable terms, following which she decided to take our
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: children and move to another country without my consent.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Illegal, right?
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe. I don't know where you live, but probably.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Somebody get a temp check on that.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: At least wrong in many ways. Despite this, and the
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: fact that she never requested child or spousal support in court,
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: I've been sending them money on a monthly basis so
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: as to ensure that my kids will have all the
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: necessities in their new home. Oof. Oh, I hate that.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: Oh, no.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: Is that like emotional blackmail?
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: This is all kinds of blackmail. I don't know.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: Furthermore, I've made an effort to visit them on a
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: yearly basis, even though they're thousands of kilometers away from
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: my place of residence. By the way, this comes from
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: user Mr. Suvlaki, and if you want to submit your
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: own stories, Go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. I'm Keon.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: Us three beautiful goobers are going to try and give
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: good advice on this story. We don't know everything. We
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: only know what we do. So let us know what
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: you do down below in the comments. Pretty please. As
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: Opie says, here's the thing. I've stopped making the monthly
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: payments on two occasions. The first time my ex requested
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: an additional payment of 500 euros, supposedly in order to
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: purchase clothes for my kids. And I found out that
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: she used all the money to buy herself a plane ticket.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: I saw you teeing it up. I was like, I
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: hope she doesn't put it up there because I'm going
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: to serve it up.
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: Oh, I thought you wanted me to do it.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: No, I was looking. I thought you were like, get it,
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: get it, get it. Well, yeah, but it was too late.
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: So I was going to say, here's the thing. Later. Yeah, yeah.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: We just edit.
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: We did it. Yeah, we'll fix that in post. Don't
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: worry about it. That's the thing about post-production. You can
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: fix a lot of things. Thank you.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: Are we done?
• 36:26
  Speaker 4: We good?
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's get back to our real thing. Cool.
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: Oh, there it is. Ben Grimm. The first time my
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: ex requested an additional payment of 500 euros, supposedly in
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: order to purchase clothes for my kids, and which I
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: found out that she used all the money to buy
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: herself a plane ticket back to her... Natal country?
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: I guess the country she was born in.
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: Probably native country. Back to her native country for vacationing,
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: following which I made it clear to her that if
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: she's going to misuse the money I send her for
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: the children, I am under no obligation to continue this
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: practice in good faith. After I received assurances that no
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: further misuse of the provided funds would take place, I
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: then resumed the monthly payments.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: So, can you look up what the rules are in Greece?
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: Are you allowed to kidnap your own child? From their
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: father in Greece. Computer, type in what country allows you
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: to kidnap your own kids? Computer, make this guy a
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: souvlaki right now. Hey, so mad that I didn't come
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: up with that and that's not my thing. It's so annoying.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: It's so annoying because it's so good.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: Computer.
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: In Greece, the parents share joint parental responsibility. You cannot
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: legally take a minor child out of the country without
• 37:39
  Speaker 4: the other parent's explicit consent, doing so without permission whatsoever.
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: or a court order can be treated as a serious
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: legal violation or intentional child abduction.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Okay, dude, so sick Interpol on your disgusting ex-wife.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: But also, here's another thing. You visit the kids. You go, hey, kids,
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: here's a note. Like, do the little, like, swipe. Here's
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: a note. We leave at dawn.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: I've got the horses out back.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the horses are ready. Mm-hmm. On my signal, we leave.
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: Saddle up.
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: So, again, that was the first time. And we thought
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: that would be it, right?
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Wrong.
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: There's a second time. The second time, my ex requested
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: a significant sum for school fees for the two children.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: And due to the fact that I had paid a
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: significantly smaller sum on the previous year and that I
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: had not received a copy of the relevant invoice, which
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: I had requested... Again, both for tax purposes and to
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: verify I was not being lied to, I requested from
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: the ex to provide me with the school's liaison so
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: as to settle the payment directly with them. My ex-wife
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: got immediately defensive, acting offended that I don't trust her. Again,
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: major red flag for me. And that she supposedly gets
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: a different rate with the school than I would due
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: to her being unemployed.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: Wouldn't that mean it's less? There's no way the school's
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: making you pay more because you're unemployed.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: Bingo. Said the words I was thinking.
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: Dude.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: Man, I hope your kid inherits somebody else's, not even
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: either of your smarts, because you somehow let your ex-wife
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: steal your child. And that was just cool, I guess.
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: You're like, I'll just play this out.
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: That's not very smart.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: I don't like this. I don't like this one bit.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: So after another string of mistreatment from her end and
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: as well as her stating that she doesn't need me
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: because she's found another man to take care of her
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: and the kids, I told her clearly that due to
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: her refusal to provide evidence that she's using the money
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: I sent her on my children, as well as due
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: to her continuous mistreatment towards me, I will no longer
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: be making any payments toward... It has now been a
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: year since I've last sent her any money with no
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: communication from her end. I've sent her a message on
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: WhatsApp requesting that she verify her present address in order
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: for me to send the kids Christmas gifts, but I
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: have received no reply. Opie now asks, And we have
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: an edit, but let's answer that question. I would classify
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: you as an a-hole for a completely different reason.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: Why did you not do anything about this?
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Because she took them away. And that's it. I have
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: no other choice.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: You did nothing? Nothing. Nothing. You just sat back and
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: were like, I guess I'll have to let this happen.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: I feel like OP did the good old college try
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: and say, could I have them back? And she went, no.
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: And he went, I tried.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: Wait, what did he do? What did he do?
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Okay, well, here's the thing.
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: What thing did he do?
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: No, what did he do?
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: He did the thing.
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: He did nothing.
• 40:37
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: No, you know, when I say nothing, you should just
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: pull up a blank screen. Because there's no thing. Or
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: just pull up a picture of the Fantastic Four without
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: the thing in it. Yeah, I agree with you.
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: Dakota, that OP's an a-hole.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: There it is. There's nothing.
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: Nothing. You know nothing, Jon Snow. I agree with that, OP.
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: If you really wanted to see your kids or get
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: your kids back, you would fight day and night. lawyer,
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: anything to get them. Maybe you don't have the funds.
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: That's us jumping to that conclusion. But you think you
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: would try, rather than sending the funds to your ex,
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: who stole your kids, by the way. Yeah.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: Like, is there some other explanation as to why you
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: would let that happen? Like, do you feel like the
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: kids would have a better life where... She took them
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: or like, is there more support there from like her
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: family that they wouldn't give them here or wherever you are?
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: Like you got to give us something because as of
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: right now, it feels like you just kind of were like, oh, well,
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, I can always send them money. Wow. It's
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: quiet around here.
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: That's easy.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: Huh?
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: Everyone's happy, right? No qualms.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: I think when you're asking your question, am I the
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: a-hole for no longer sending money to my kids? I mean,
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: for my kids to my ex? Wrong question. Because you're
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: thinking harder, not smarter here, obviously, OP. Get your kids back.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: Stop sending money to your ex. Maybe get an account
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: for your kids. I don't know. I don't know how
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: it works. They're not old enough, obviously, but there's got
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: to be another workaround for this.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: To be fair, the only thing that we know for
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: sure is she's lying to him to get money. We
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: don't actually know how the kids are doing. I feel
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: like if he visited and the kids were, like, not okay... Immediately,
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: that would be like, okay, we're changing this arrangement now.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: But the problem now is more like he's not sending
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: the kids any money now because now he's found out
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: when he sends her money, she just uses it for
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: like a vacation. And it's like, well, I'm not just
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: going to give you my money so you can go
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: on a freaking getaway.
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: Fair.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: Fair. But we have an edit here. Let's go ahead
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: and read it.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: Edit.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: Thank you for all your responses so far. Just wanted
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: to reply to some frequent questions. Probably some of our questions.
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: Question number one. Why didn't you take your ex to
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: court on kidnapping charges? That's the big one.
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: That's a big one. And we have an answer.
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: That can't just be the full thing, right?
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I really hope that the answer is because I don't
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: want to.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: Please tell me there's got to be another sentence.
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: We have an answer from Opie and I'm going to be,
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: here we go. Opie says, because I don't want to
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: traumatize my kids by having police officers drag their mom
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: away in handcuffs and then being taken to CPS, even
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: for a short amount of time. Despite all her actions,
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: I still believe we can settle this in a civilized
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: manner without getting the authorities involved.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: I believe that answer. However, I believe you did not
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: do enough groundwork to make sure that like that wouldn't happen.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure there's a way you could have made
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: that not happen like that.
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: I like how the story was written like that, too,
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: because I don't want to have the like. Yeah.
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: Like, couldn't you just like take your kids back? Yeah.
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: And then what is she going to do? Re-kidnap them?
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: Like what? Yeah. If you if you retrieve your children
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: after they were kidnapped, did you now also kidnap? Is
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: that a dub? Do they cancel out?
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: Also, you want to do this in a civilized manner.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: Nothing civilized about your kids getting kidnapped.
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, man. Like, I can't imagine that not just being immediate, like,
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: holy fire, like, raining down.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: To give OP a little bit of, you know, I
• 44:16
  Speaker 3: can see why he would, because there would be an
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: interim of the kids go into some other.
• 44:22
  Speaker 4: Person's custody as he gets over there. So, like, I
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: can see what he is saying. Obviously, I think I'm
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: more on your guys' side with this, but I can
• 44:32
  Speaker 4: see where OP is. Like, I don't want them to
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: even have that.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: All I'm saying is.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: You know what I just realized?
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Okay. He probably didn't know, right? It's not like it
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: was an announcement. Like, I'm taking the kids and I'm
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: leaving forever. It was probably like, oh, we're going to
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: go visit Meemaw.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, probably.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: And then just never came back.
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: So that's probably a big thing. My thing was, if
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: she can do it, so could you.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: Anything she can do.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: I can do better. Question number two. Why did you
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: allow them to leave the country in the first place?
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: And here's the answer to your question, Dakota.
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: Bing bong.
• 45:05
  Speaker 2: I didn't know they were going to leave. Continuing this
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: answer from OP saying, I left the ex and the
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: kids in my own apartment and moved out. I visited
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: weekly to bring groceries and take the kids out to
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: the park as the ex was pretending to be ill
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: from me leaving her. She did ask me for a
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: plane ticket fare, but I refused. Apparently she sourced the
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: money from elsewhere or she had saved up on her own.
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: The border agents should have stopped her, but they didn't.
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know why or how she made it through,
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: but she is a citizen.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: Who knows?
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: But your kids are your kids' citizens?
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Maybe?
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: If she's a citizen, then yeah. That's how my citizenship works.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: Question numero tres.
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: Three for my English speakers.
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite host who's always on track here.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: And we're going to get back to the stories in
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: three minutes after these ads from our sponsors.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: Why don't you ask for full custody of the kids? Answer,
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: I could do that, but it would not be enforced
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: unless the ex came back to my country with the kids,
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: which I've been led to understand will never happen. The
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: decision for the custody cannot be enforced by foreign states.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: The mom and the kids must reside within the country's borders.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: And there's a second edit, but whoa, that's a lot.
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: That third one was pretty deep.
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: This is a very sticky situation.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: So with all that being said, I guess... It makes
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: a little more sense how this kind of all happened
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: without you being like, hey, what are you doing?
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we got more clarity.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: It was like every system that was in place to
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: prevent this from happening failed. And it seems like after
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: that point, it was like, well, all I have left
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: is to do an Interpol arrest and traumatize my children
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: and put them in CPS for a little bit.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: And that sounds bad. Well, we have a second edit.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: maybe some more answers to questions, but let's find out.
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: Edit two, because it's apparently important, according to my lawyer,
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: the amount I was willingly to send monthly was significantly
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: greater than the maximum child support that would be ruled
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: for my income. Roughly 50% more, in fact.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Dang. Good dad.
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: This may also explain why the ex refused to go
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: to court for child support.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: Makes sense.
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: Don't matter. Take her to court. And we have an update.
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: Hated that little tidbit there. That wasn't fun.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: Sofa says, this is what happens with a mail order bride.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: Update.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: Does it?
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: Before we end this update, do we think Opie's going
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: to get the kids some way, somehow? Or at least
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: there's another solution.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: Do we have the ages of the kids?
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: Five and two. It's like they're pretty young.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: Oh, wait.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: Maybe that was the last story. But I just know they're... No, actually.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: We don't.
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: But I would assume they are... Just a girl and
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: a boy. I would assume they are younger than 10,
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: for sure.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: I mean... Ay-yi-yi, dude. I don't know.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: I hate this.
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: who's going to come out on top on this one.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: Fingers crossed because it seems like Opie's at least a
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: good dad or trying to be a good dad, a
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: good father, good person.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's literally doing exactly what I always say, which
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: is you got to think about the kids. When you
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: got the kids, you got to think about the kids.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: And his hands are just like tied up. He's like,
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: I don't have really any other options here. Unfortunately, I
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: wish I did. So I'm hoping there is another option, but.
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: Let's find out. Well, I mean, yeah, if you stop
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: the support payments and then she has to go through
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: the court to get you to pay- Which she could,
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: but then that would also expose what she did. So
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: she won't.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: Gross. She's gross. We have an update. Once again, thanks
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: to everyone that offered constructive comments and criticism. I have
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: decided to try and get in touch with the exes.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: and start providing some financial support once again. Not having
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: any restriction on how she uses the money, but requiring
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: nonetheless that I have weekly contact with the kids over WhatsApp.
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: As someone correctly commented, if the ex doesn't want to
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: behave as an adult, I have to be a big
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: enough adult for the both of us and ensure that
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: the children are not affected from the parents' falling out.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Real talk.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: Yes? Ding dong.
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: That's Marvel Rivals. That is Marvel Rivals.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: I rest my case.
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: I know where that picture's from. I guess my bitterness
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: on being taken for a fool by the exes didn't
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: let me see the whole picture and realize the wider
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: consequences of my actions. So far, I haven't been able
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: to reach the ex. Either she changed her number or
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: just reads my messages without responding. But I'll keep trying
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: and I hate that.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: Well, I hope that lawyer that you're talking to has
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: a lot of really good ideas and actions to take.
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: Is there any, like, do you know any of her
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: family members that reside in her home country? They probably
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: will take her side. But at the end of the day, like,
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: I'm doing this for the kids. It's not about me.
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: It's not about her. It's about the kids. Yeah. Which, again,
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: this is such a crappy situation.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I'm pretty sure if you, you know,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: illegally abscond with your children to a different country... I
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: think at the end of that, you probably forfeit your
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: right to custody. Not sure about that. That would be
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: my guess. Yeah, I think you might. Dude, I don't know.
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: Talk to your lawyer. But if I was you, my
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: plan would be I'm orchestrating the, you know, take her away, boss.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: Like while I'm there and I'm making sure that I
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: can be there throughout the entire process to make sure
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: my kids are OK.
• 50:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: Do we go with the. Do we do this just
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: because it's going to be coasting it and this is
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: the best solution we have for now? How long can
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: we do this?
• 50:38
  Speaker 4: Whatever.
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: Or do we just do the really bad thing that's
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: very short and can stop this going for a full
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: long run here? I don't know. Yeah. I don't know.
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And I feel like depending on their age, you
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: could probably insulate them pretty well from this. It just
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: all depends. And I don't know. I got to assume
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: whatever agency you're working with, I mean, whatever the CPS
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: agencies are, wherever, I mean, I know in here they're
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: pretty stupid sometimes. But, like, if you got all this
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: proof and all this evidence and it's like, yeah, these
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: are the dates. I've been sending money. This is a
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: bank statement. Like, just release the kids to me. I
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: am their father. And, like, in the interim when it's, like,
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: determined that I'm in the right, like, I'll leave. But
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: don't put my kids in a freaking holding, like, home
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: or something.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: At this point, logic was already thrown out the window
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: when she said, I'm going to kidnap the kids. I'm
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: going to take the kids with me.
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: That's the thing.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: He doesn't get a choice.
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: I wish you the best of luck, OP. I wish
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: the best for your kids. And hopefully this can be solved.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. We have another
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: one coming up.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm about to leave my wife because she destroyed
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: something I'm passionate about. Not my war hammer. Please tell
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: me this isn't Legos. I, 35 male, have struggled to
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: find something I truly feel passionate about. My entire life.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: I was laid off at the beginning of the shutdowns,
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: which made it worse, and I've been taking care of
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: our child, who's three female, while my wife works 40
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: to 50 hour weeks at a very physically demanding job.
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: My wife, who's 27, and I have been together for
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: seven years now. She knows that I've struggled to find
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: things I'm truly passionate about. We recently moved back to
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: a state where medicinal devil's lettuce is legal.
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: Oh no, don't tell me that's going to be your personality?
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: That's the thing that you're passionate about? Out of everything?
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: Not Mary's jaundice. I'm going to call it that for
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: the rest of the story. Mary's jaundice. She's got a
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: liver condition. It's not her fault. When first moving back,
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: we thought, great, this was always a dream. Let's grow
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: some Mary jaundice.
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: ICU.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: My ICU is that he's just going to be a stoner.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: That's the thing. Well, after further research, we discovered that
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: it wasn't actually legal for citizens to grow yet. So,
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: I tell my wife, quote, even though this has been
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: a dream of mine, if that makes it so you
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: don't want to grow anymore, I understand. She told me, yeah,
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: I don't know. If it's still illegal, we should probably
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: stick to dispensaries for now. And I said, okay. Well,
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: after about a week, I had her convinced that I
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: could do it discreetly and no one would have to
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: know and it would just be for us. Hey, dum-dum,
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: did you know... dispensaries have to buy their Mary Jaundice
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: from something, someone, an entity. See how I said citizens
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: can't do it? But if you were a legal business entity,
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: that changes everything.
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: Don't worry, OP. When was this posted? I need to know.
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: But I feel like this was posted during a fun
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: time when this show on this channel called AMC was
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: being aired. It's called Breaking Bad.
• 53:52
  Speaker 3: Six years ago.
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: Close enough. Not really.
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: Breaking Bad was like when I was in middle school.
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: And it's still to this day peak.
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, dude. One of the best shows on television. Maybe
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: number one or number two.
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: This guy's going to have a substance ring.
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: Don't let this man near a chicken store, whatever you do.
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: So I invested in a grow tent and DWC, not
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: sure what that means. It ran me about $ 1, 200, but
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: in the long run, it'll save us money. And it's
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: been a dream of mine my whole life.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: That's your dream? Ugh.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: Fast forward to next week, and by the way, yeah,
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: this story comes from throwaway11120. If you want to submit
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the r slash ok story
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: I'm Keon.
• 54:37
  Speaker 3: I'm Sophia.
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this thing, and we're going
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: to have our thoughts, and we're going to try to,
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: you know, have a good time with it. But we
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: only know what we would do in a situation, but
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: we want to know what you would do. What do
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: you think about it?
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: You know what I think?
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: Let us know.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: You know what I think? Hey, sleepyhead. Take a walk.
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: Throw your passion in a pit.
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: I said, ooh, girl. Shock me like an electric eel.
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: That's MGMT.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: You motherfucker. You ruined it. I did so well with that.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: I did so well with that and you ruined it.
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: I didn't mean to rage bait you that bad.
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: That wasn't even rage bait. I'm upset. I'm raged.
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: Well, I knew it was passion pit. I think I
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: didn't know that was passion pit.
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: More than just a dream. Because you're out of my league.
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: It's me.
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: There's a show called Weeds. That too.
• 55:21
  Speaker 3: Here's the bing.
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: Here's the bing! Yeah! Now take his head and put
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: it on the thing.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: On it.
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: It's a bing thing. I'm on it.
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: And then do a big bang theory.
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: Honestly, before I read any more of this, OP, I
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: need you to look me right in my eyes. You're
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: an idiot. You have a child, and you're going to
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: risk going to prison over this?
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: Idiot.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: Complete idiot.
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: I just like how he's like, I haven't been passionate
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: about anything the last 10 years or so. Growing Mary's
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: jaundice has been a dream of mine.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: That's like, oh my God, no, dude.
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, no.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: And like, if that was true, it's like, dude, you
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: could have made it a business. You could have made
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: it a business, but instead it's, you're just going to
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: grow it and, oh God.
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: He's doing, we bought a zoo.
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: Dum, dum, dum, dum. He's doing, we bought a zoo.
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: It's a good dream. It's your dream. Instead of we
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: bought a zoo, it's we bought a few strains of
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: Mary's jaundice. Anyway, OP says, we were two weeks to harvest,
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: as the farmers say. Wife and I got into a
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: big fight about housework. I wonder why. She freaked out
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: and ripped out my plants. She has threatened to rip
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: them out when we get into any argument in the past.
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: She has seen me over the past several months feeling
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: truly passionate about this. I have vocalized it that I
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: have finally found something that really has me driven to
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: do better. This is doing better?
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: I have a passion. You said I get a passion,
• 56:54
  Speaker 2: and I have one. It's driving me to do better.
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: Avery Swamp says grow some food.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, buddy.
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: Prove it. Grow anything else.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: I would.
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: If I were OP's wife, I'd be like, what is better?
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: In what reality is this better?
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah. What are you talking about? For you?
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: For our child? For me?
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: What's the end result of this? Like you could have
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: made this a business the whole time. It could have
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: been operated purely as like, we're going to grow this
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: and we're going to sell it to dispensaries. We're going
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: to make money. Passionate about learning horticulture or whatever. It's
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: not true at all. You sound like you could be
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: doing a lot better, actually. So for her to rip
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: out those plants, she's ripping out something that I really
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: care about. And she didn't care that the plants were
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: something I cared about. They were doing great and they
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: were beautiful. We had a minor issue with some WPMs.
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: Not sure what that is either, but we got it
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: under control early. I put a ton of work into
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: these plants, and she heartlessly ripped them out without a
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: care about my feelings. Oh my gosh.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: World's tiniest violin.
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: Hold that thought.
• 58:03
  Speaker 4: Uh-huh.
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: I feel like I can't ever forgive her for this.
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. I'll bust out that violin. Yeah. Yeah.
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: She sees nothing wrong with what she did. Our fight
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: that triggered my wife to pull the plants in the
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: first place was that she came home from a long
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: week to a mess. We have a three-year-old. No, I'm
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: not always on top of the mess. She can level
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: a room in 30 seconds flat. From my wife's side
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: of things, she thinks she did nothing wrong because she
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: felt she was being put second to the plants. But
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: that's not true. That was our daughter.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: Honey, it helps her fall asleep.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: She's really calm. Ever since, she's been really calm. You're
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: actually in third place. That's not true, though. I was
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: spending maybe eight hours a week in that room, which
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: is locked and totally inaccessible to our daughter. She says that,
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: about it was the fact that she destroyed something I
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: care about and she says I'm the one that needs
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: to apologize how can I make her understand that I
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: cared about something and she destroyed it and that it
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: devastated me that she didn't care that she had just
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: destroyed something I cared about there's some comments I wonder what.
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: Give me that tiny violin again I'm doing hmm my
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: heart will go on right now that's that's that's what
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: I'm playing on my tiny violin because dude you're.
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: In the raw yeah I'm playing galvanize on here uh.
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: That's sick I'm doing the Veronica's Yeah.
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah dude Your wife is 100% in the right I'm
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: sure you I only spend 8 hours working on them
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: per week And what else do you do during the week.
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: By the way she's been working 40 to 50 hour.
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: Weeks She works 40 to 50 hour weeks And you
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: can't keep the house clean From when she gets home
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: Really Really Is your daughter the Tasmanian.
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: Devil Yeah I feel like when she said find a
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 2: hobby or find something that gives you drive, it wasn't
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: going to be something, I don't know, illegal. And don't
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: get me wrong. I'm not upset about Mary's jaundice. Do
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: whatever you want. But you have a family and this
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: is what's taking up your life. And you have no, like,
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: back end. Like, I have a job.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: I have this.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: I have stability. It's just like, this is my thing.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: And you live in a place where this is illegal,
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: which is ridiculous, but that's the way it is. And
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: if you got caught doing this, guess what? Your daughter
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: gets taken away from you. Is that worth whatever you're
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: theoretically saving on your freaking Mary's jaundice budget?
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: Even on, like, the aspect of your relationship?
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and if you're not working, you shouldn't be doing
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: any of that.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: Are you selling it?
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: He probably would, because that's the dumbest thing that he
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 1: could possibly do. Yeah.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: The pyramid scheme, a pyramid scheming in my brain. Yeah.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: The fact that in this asset, no matter what, it
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: was just like, say it was like model cars, reading books.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: Whatever. And he just starts putting money into that, but
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: he's not making money. It's all bad. Think of it
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: I don't know, bro. Honestly, if it was $ 1, 200. That's great,
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: by the way. Oh, nice.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: That's really good.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: It's a Bing thing. Nice. That makes me very happy.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: Someone said this is Randy Marsh from South Park.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but at least he made it a business. He
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: was doing it right.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he had Tegrity.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not going to lie. If it was $ 1, 200
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: in model cars, I would be more on your side
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: in terms of how upset you are.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 2: Because it's not illegal.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: I would still say don't divorce your wife, idiot.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: It's not illegal.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: Well, we've got some comments for this gentleman.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 4: Oh, boy.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: I guarantee you they're going to be very nice.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: Comment one. I'd really like to hear your wife's side
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: of this story. Let me take a stab at it.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: I met my husband when I was 20 years old
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: and he was 28. We've been together for seven years.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: I work an extremely physically demanding job for 50 to
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: 60 hours a week and often come home exhausted but
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: still manage to find time to cook clean and care
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: for our three-year-old daughter because my husband, who's been unemployed
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: since the spring, refuses to get another job. Instead, he's
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: become obsessed with wasting my hard-earned salary cultivating Mary's jaundice,
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: which is not even legal to grow in our state
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: as a citizen in his spare time. Last week, I
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: came home after another grueling day to find my husband
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: locked in his grow room, fiddling with his precious plants again.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: While the house was completely trashed and our daughter was
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: sitting in a filthy diaper crying because she was hungry,
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: I absolutely lost it and destroyed every effing thing in
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: that grow room and then went back out to take
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: care of my daughter, cleaned the house, and finally collapsed
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: into bed exhausted at 2 in the morning. My alarm
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: went off at 6 a.m. and I had to feed
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: and take care of my daughter before dropping her off
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: at my mom's before work because I couldn't trust my
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: selfish husband to take care of her. Now this a-hole
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: has the nerve to try and demand an apology from
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: me for destroying his precious Mary's jaundiced plants and his
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: grow room because it's the only thing he's felt passionate
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: about in years. Never mind the fact that I'm working
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: my butt off to keep a roof over our heads
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: and food on the table and doing the majority of
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: the childcare and chores while he puts our family in jeopardy,
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: risking arrest and jail time for his illegal and expensive hobby.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: He's been whining that I owe him an apology for
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: over a week, and done absolutely nothing to address the
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: fact that he's not pulling his own weight in our
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: marriage and home. I'm sick of his BS, and he
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: keeps threatening divorce if I don't apologize. Frankly, I think
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: divorce would be easier on me at this point. At
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: least then I'd only have one child to take care
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: of instead of two. And there's an update. Shocker.
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: Was that your wife? That had to have been your wife.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: I think that was probably exactly his wife. Wow.
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: How do you think Opie responded to that? He went, nuh-uh.
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: I would assume OP responded to nothing.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: OP went says you or like it wasn't fully like
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 2: that but let's be real it is exactly like that
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 2: good on that commenter putting OP in this place well
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: hopefully in this place we have an update let's see.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 1: What happens I would believe or not believe do you.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: Think OP doubles down he's like nuh uh.
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: My biggest thing I would put to him I'd be
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: like dude you say you haven't been passionate about anything
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: in like your whole life and you never found anything
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: you have a three year old daughter Maybe make taking
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: care of your daughter to the utmost of your ability
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: your passion in life, right? Do you feel no drive
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: for that?
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: What else do you like? There's no way in... any
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: universe that you have zero passion or anything that you
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: don't like. There's so many things. There's so many things.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: But the number one thing that put you back on
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: the board was that? What did you study in college?
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 2: Did you go to college? Who were you before you
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: met your wife? What happened?
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, true. Yes. I have a feeling this guy might
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: have always been like this. Probably. But like, it's reality.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: I don't know, man. That's crazy that you think Your
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: wife's in the wrong.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: Ab's just a bonehead. Number one bonehead of the century. Update.
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: She says she's the one leaving now. Oh, she said
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: maybe she was wrong for snapping and ruining the plants,
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: but said she's disappointed that I haven't realized what I've
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: done wrong yet. I didn't destroy something she was passionate about.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, guess what?
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: You have.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 2: Your family life.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: Get a load of this guy. Some of you are saying,
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 1: It was the messy living room. She comes home to
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: messes all the time. Why was this mess the one
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: that set her off?
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: Dude, you know what? You're so right.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: Let's run that back one more time. She comes home
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: to messes all the time? Hmm. Hmm. When you have
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: a cup and you put water in it, OP, at
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 1: some point the cup becomes so full of water that
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: when you add more water, the water overflows.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: No, it's infinite cup. Duh.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 1: Forgot about infinite cup. She's just insane. That's so funny.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 1: This has got to be bait, right?
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: No, read the next sentence.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: She's insane.
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: Read the next sentence.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 3: What else could I explain it with?
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 1: She just wants to be mad at me, to be mad.
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 3: You nailed it.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 1: It's my typical wife. I don't think a messy living
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: room should equal ripping out a person's dreams.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 2: The fact that this is your dream. You know what?
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: Dream sucks.
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 2: Keep your dream. Kid and I are gone.
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, man. You're unsavable. You're unsavable. And by the way,
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 1: had the perfect, perfect way to actually do your dream
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: if you would have just started an actual business and
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: pursued that avenue. But you only did this to save
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: money instead of going to the dispensary in the long run,
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: which is not it's your dream to.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: I don't even know what your dream is. Like, at
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: this point, what is your dream?
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you they're not even saving my... While these
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: are being grown, I guarantee you this scumbag is going
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: to the dispensary. So... And he.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: Goes to the dispensary. Get a load of this, guys.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to do my own thing. And my wife
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 2: is upset that I'm doing my own thing?
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna do my own thing.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: Ay-yi-yi.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Chandler Bing.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna do my own Bing. I'm gonna do my
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: own Bing thing. Hell yeah. Update two. My wife and
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: daughter are now staying at my in-laws.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: Shocker.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: Wife has her parents pick up our daughter if we
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: are fighting. Wife says daughter doesn't need to be around
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: us when we fight. And I agree. That's the first
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: smart thing you've said this whole story. Anyway, wife said
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: she feels awful about ripping up my plants. She said
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: she knew how much they meant to me and she
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: should have found another way to get her point across
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: to me. I told her that after posting our situation
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: on Reddit for some third party input. I now realize
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: I definitely overreacted. I told her that I'm not proud
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: of the things that I've said or done, but she's
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: insisting she stays with her parents at least through the
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 1: end of the year. I have never intentionally hurt my wife.
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 2: Okay, buddy. You say that.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: Sure. The fact that you think it really matters if
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 1: it wasn't intentional, it kind of speaks volumes. It really
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: has only ever happened when I don't realize what I'm doing.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: That seems to be all the time, buddy. I know
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: this is no excuse for throwing her into a chair.
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: Is that a turn of phrase?
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: Is that a saying?
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: Is that a turn of phrase or did you strong
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: arm your wife into a chair?
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: I hope not. Let's just go with that is a phrase.
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: I know that I need to seek professional help and
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 1: she does too. No, buddy, you need to seek a job.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 2: And then help.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: I know in my original post I 100% came off
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: as an a-hole, which I'll admit to. Sure. I was
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: not in the right state of mind. You're not even
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: admitting to it, though. You're admitting that you came off
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 1: as an a-hole. Not that you were. You're basically admitting
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: that you think everyone misunderstood you.
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: You're beating around the bush.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: God, I hate this guy.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you won't take full 100% accountability. It's cute.
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 2: It's a good personality trait. It's really cute. It'll stick.
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: I was not in the right state of mind when
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: I wrote it. I guess I thought posting on Reddit
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: would result in different advice. than I was given. I
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: bet you did, buddy. I bet you thought everyone would
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: give you a pat on the back.
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 2: Like, that's a good dream. It's a green dream.
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 1: We are almost at the end here. Let's go ahead
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: and finish.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: Off Captain Doofus. Yeah. Captain underpants on his face over here.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, man. The consequences of your actions... Well deserved.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm not sorry at all. I think be prepared
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: to lose your wife forever. She's not coming back. I
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: need to stay at my parents until the end of
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: the year. She's not coming back. And you don't deserve
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: her to. I guess this post gave me what I
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: needed to hear in the end. I'm going to do
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: my best to earn the trust of my wife back.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 1: She is really the best woman I know. I know
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: I wasn't fair to her. I know that no matter
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: how hard the last nine months have been for me,
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 1: they've been just as rough, if not rougher, on her.
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: I know I probably don't deserve her. All I can
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: do now is hope she comes back with my daughter
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: and gives me a chance to make things right, T.O.D.R.
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: I've made a huge butt of myself and now have
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: to face the consequence. Yeah, that's the end of that story.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 2: How many chances do you need, O.P.? How many chances
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: do you need?
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: Dum-dum of the year award goes to that guy.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 2: Get a job. And I hope that things do work
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 2: out for your family because that's the best case scenario
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: that you get a job, you get yourself nice and clean,
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 2: nice and tidy. You find a hobby that you actually
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 2: enjoy that is legal, that you can enjoy maybe with
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 2: your family, that you can share with your family that
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 2: approves of it. And all is good. All is well.
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: Maybe you give your wife a break that she needs.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 3: But we have comments.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 2: But we have comments.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 1: Well, before we finish this, we've got some comments from
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: the video. My mother-in-law picked a bride for my fiance
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: after we got engaged. This was posted on April 25th, 2025.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: TLDR for the first story. OP introduced their partner to
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: their loud, loving Middle Eastern family over Thanksgiving, and it
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: mostly went great until SO sent a photo of his
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: own parents. His mother's first response was, was to call
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: OP's family a gathering of terrorists, then demand her son
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 1: come home immediately to meet the nice neighbor girl she'd
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: picked out instead. That was just the beginning. When OP
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: and their significant other decided to get engaged, her partner's
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: mother had a complete breakdown, screaming, threatening to disown her
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: only son, and launching into nine months of relentless love bombing,
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: creepy midnight visits, and disturbing messages. It got so out
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: of control. And if you're curious to know the full story,
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: you can go watch the full video. And we have
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: some comments here.
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 2: Boy, oh boy, that sounds like a crazy monster-in-law.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 4: It was.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 3: We got a comment from Pam Minnick who says, Opie
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 3: dodged a bullet. Imagine being married into this family.
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: So true.
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, was that based off of the partner
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 2: or like the partner's family?
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: Mostly the family.
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 4: Autumn 557 says, what's crazy? His mother-in-law got what she wanted.
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 4: The fiance left. So why keep bothering her now?
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 3: She left. I just don't get it.
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 2: Hate is a strong, strong emotion. For no reason, too.
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, for real.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 4: Academically, Mochi says, I have to criticize how OP allowed
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 4: the ex-mother-in-law to run her mouth and not sue her
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 4: after affecting OP's work performance.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: International lawsuit.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 1: That's probably a lot. Yeah.
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 3: And Keishon Dawkins says, his mother is crazy.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 1: Can't argue that one bit.
• 1:12:24
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