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Ben Kjar on "Standout: The Ben Kjar Story" movie hitting theaters today · The Sean O'Connell Show

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  Speaker 1: Your tune is the Sean O'Connell Show for the Murdoch
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  Speaker 2: Sean O'Connell Show on a Friday.
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  Speaker 3: It's Utah's number one sports talk ESPN seven hundred and
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  Speaker 3: ninety two one FM. And I'm very excited about this
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  Speaker 3: next conversation because my friend, my real life friend, Ben Care,
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  Speaker 3: is having a moment culturally in the sports world.
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  Speaker 2: We need to wrap our arms around this.
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  Speaker 3: We need to embrace this for a lot of reasons,
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  Speaker 3: because American folk style wrestling is on the rise. Uh.
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  Speaker 2: And of course every athlete.
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  Speaker 3: From our community, when we can make sure that the
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  Speaker 3: best things happen for them, we should do so. And
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  Speaker 3: that means you need to get some tickets, some movie
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  Speaker 3: tickets to stand out. The Ben Care Story, a brand
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  Speaker 3: new movie about my friend, former Wumont Viking, former UVU Wolverine.
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  Speaker 2: Ben Care. Welcome to the show.
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  Speaker 4: How are you guys? I'm so excited to be here.
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  Speaker 4: Let's go before we.
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  Speaker 3: Get into your story and this movie about your life,
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  Speaker 3: we talk about the former Corner Canyon. Now we were
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  Speaker 3: state head football coach Eric Care. Are you guys related.
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  Speaker 3: Are you distant relations?
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  Speaker 4: Do you know? You know, probably back in the days
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  Speaker 4: of the Vikings in Denmark where we're from, but since
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  Speaker 4: then we were it's a distant relation for sure.
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  Speaker 3: All right, I'll just it would be too good at
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  Speaker 3: the story if one of the great coaches in high
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  Speaker 3: school football now hopefully college football in our state, and
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  Speaker 3: one of the great wrestlers in the history of our state,
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  Speaker 3: we're actually like cousins or something like that. I had
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  Speaker 3: my fingers crossed for it, and you just ruined it.
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  Speaker 3: But that's fine, Ben, because we're we're here to talk
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  Speaker 3: about this.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 3: I know you've been doing a whole junk of interviews.
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  Speaker 3: I know that you've answered a lot of these questions already.
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  Speaker 3: But a movie about you, about your life, about your trials,
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  Speaker 3: about your triumphs. When did the seed get planned? When
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  Speaker 3: did this thing start? How long is this process taken?
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  Speaker 4: Brother? It's interesting, right, I think all of us are
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  Speaker 4: living our own story and whether that becomes a movie
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  Speaker 4: or a book or just something that people learn from.
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  Speaker 4: It started when I was young. But four years ago
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  Speaker 4: I get a call from TC Christiansen, who's done Polkville
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  Speaker 4: Miracle fighting Preacher as late as like Raising the Bar,
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  Speaker 4: Alma Richard's story, Escape from Germany. He teamed up with
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  Speaker 4: his son Tanner, who's done a ton of stuff and
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  Speaker 4: it's his first time directing. And they bring on iconic
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  Speaker 4: producer as well, Jared Hess who did Napoleon Dynami Not
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  Speaker 4: Your lebre and now right now he's filming the second
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  Speaker 4: Minecraft movie in New Zealand. And So when these guys
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  Speaker 4: came to me and they said, Ben, we want to
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  Speaker 4: do a movie about you, I was like, come on now.
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  Speaker 4: I had been approached before by like the Discovery Channel
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  Speaker 4: and some other outlets. It didn't feel right, I asked them.
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  Speaker 4: I said, guys, if you were to do this movie,
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  Speaker 4: what would it portray because it's about me, right, it's
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  Speaker 4: this is a legacy play. And they said this and
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  Speaker 4: this is what this is what absolutely won me over
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  Speaker 4: and it felt right. They said, Ben, have you seen
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  Speaker 4: the movie wonder And I have the movie Wonders about
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  Speaker 4: the kid with the facial difference right Owen Wilson and
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  Speaker 4: Julia robertson that movie are phenomenal. They said, imagine that
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  Speaker 4: little boy Aggie turns into Rocky Balboa and that was it.
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  Speaker 4: Brother the Wonder to the Rocky movement. That's what won
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  Speaker 4: me over, he said, But this is the kick. Imagine
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  Speaker 4: if both of those were real stories and that was it, dude,
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  Speaker 4: that's how we bring to youth stand out the Ben
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  Speaker 4: care story.
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  Speaker 3: And look, it's an incredible story. Now those of us.
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  Speaker 3: I'm my first encounter. By the way, for everyone out
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  Speaker 3: there listening, my first encounter with Ben Krer was through
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  Speaker 3: high school wrestling.
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  Speaker 2: We graduated the same year of high school.
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  Speaker 3: We were at some tournament up north, and you know,
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  Speaker 3: the Jordan High team that we had a couple of
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  Speaker 3: really incredible wrestlers, myself not included, but our team goes
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  Speaker 3: up to this tournament and I that's the first time
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  Speaker 3: I saw Ben Kerr, this short, little fire hydrant of
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  Speaker 3: a dude that is an absolute monster wrestler. And I
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  Speaker 3: was like, huh, I wonder what that guy's story is.
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  Speaker 3: And now we get a movie of it. He became
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  Speaker 3: Eventually you've used first ever wrestling all American. I imagine.
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  Speaker 3: The film does its best to portray kind of every
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  Speaker 3: step along the road. But when they came to you
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  Speaker 3: and when they were like, all right, this is how
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  Speaker 3: we're gonna tell I mean, the story goes all the
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  Speaker 3: way back to your early childhood, goes back to family
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  Speaker 3: and things like that.
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  Speaker 2: How how willing were the people in your life?
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  Speaker 3: Were your you know, your siblings, your parents, your coaches,
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  Speaker 3: everyone to kind of be part of this project and
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  Speaker 3: to help tell this story.
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  Speaker 4: More willing than you would imagine. And that's what makes
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  Speaker 4: the story of the story. Brother. I remember the producers
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  Speaker 4: coming in and doing all these interviews and they came
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  Speaker 4: out and they're like, oh my gosh, this makes sense.
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  Speaker 4: You have phenomenal people in your corner. And that's it. Brother.
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  Speaker 4: We all call our shop. We go shoot for something.
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  Speaker 4: We all shoot for our aspirations and goals. But it's
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  Speaker 4: who I call my shot callers, the ones that helped
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  Speaker 4: me call my shot in my corner. I have a
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  Speaker 4: lot of good ones. But here's the most important thing. Man.
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  Speaker 4: There's a huge debate in the basketball in the basketball world,
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  Speaker 4: who's better Lebron James or Michael Jordan. Whoever knows, But
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  Speaker 4: I do know this, more humans connect with Michael Jordan
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  Speaker 4: than Lebron James. And this is why I bring that up.
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  Speaker 4: Because my story starts from day one. You'll see that
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  Speaker 4: I'll be a first ever All American and world champion,
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  Speaker 4: all that stuff, But why do they connect with Michael Jordan?
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  Speaker 4: Probably over Lebron James because Lebron James got in the
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  Speaker 4: NBA right out of high school. Michael Jordan didn't make
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  Speaker 4: the high school team. When you go and see the
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  Speaker 4: film stand Out, you'll see Ben Kerr get absolutely annihilated
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  Speaker 4: and beat up for years everyone in the games of life.
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  Speaker 4: You don't go in being a Lebron James and not losing.
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  Speaker 4: Everyone in life goes in losing. The problem is because
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  Speaker 4: we have a fear of failure and the fear of
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  Speaker 4: not being enough, we stop trying stand out. The Ben
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  Speaker 4: care story talks about the people who fell and get
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  Speaker 4: back up and do it again. I call it being
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  Speaker 4: disobedient to average. The challenges for all listeners out there.
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  Speaker 4: Disobey average, baby. You ain't born to be average, you
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  Speaker 4: ain't born to fit in, You're born to stand out.
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  Speaker 3: I love that. Disobedient to average I printed on a
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  Speaker 3: T shirt. Let's make that a thing for all of us.
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  Speaker 3: Why wrestling, Ben, I mean, there's a lot of sports
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  Speaker 3: that someone with your athleticism can excel in. Right that
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  Speaker 3: probably would have been easier on your ego. Probably would
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  Speaker 3: have been easier on your body. You'd have to tell me.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe easier on your face and your facial structure. There's
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  Speaker 3: a lot of sports that you don't have to get
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  Speaker 3: beat up, and you chose to excel in the hardest one,
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  Speaker 3: the nastiest one, the most grueling one that doesn't offer
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  Speaker 3: a whole lot of glory even when you're great at it.
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  Speaker 2: You were so why was wrestling the perfect one for you?
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  Speaker 4: Bro? I did everything. That's what my parents did real well.
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  Speaker 4: They put me in everything just to try to figure
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  Speaker 4: out where I could find confidence. That is the issue
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  Speaker 4: today kids, adults that don't have confidence. I don't care
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  Speaker 4: what you're going through. Confidence is the key. Wrestling gave
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  Speaker 4: me something that I could control. I love football, I
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  Speaker 4: love soccer, I love basketball, I love baseball. I played
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  Speaker 4: them all. But you know what's hard about those sports.
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  Speaker 4: You can't control the quarterback, you can't control the picture,
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  Speaker 4: and it affects you. I was so done with stuff
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  Speaker 4: that I couldn't control, like cruise on syndrome, which is
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  Speaker 4: what I was born with, which is a facial difference
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  Speaker 4: where I had to have a ton of reconstructive facer surgeries.
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  Speaker 4: I was so done with not controlling something. I needed
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  Speaker 4: a sport that I can control. That was wrestling. I'm
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  Speaker 4: also just like the smallest dude right I'm right now.
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  Speaker 4: I'm forty two years old, five three, one hundred and
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  Speaker 4: forty pounds, soaking wet. I needed something that I could
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  Speaker 4: weigh in and fight guys my height, my size. Wrestling
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  Speaker 4: did that, and so I chose to be disobedient to average.
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  Speaker 4: When I disobeyed average, it meant this. My coach told
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  Speaker 4: me to do twenty push ups. I'm like, I ain't average.
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  Speaker 4: Wrestling gives away one medal at the end of the tournament,
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  Speaker 4: and it doesn't go to the person who does average,
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  Speaker 4: So you better believe when he told me to do twenty,
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  Speaker 4: I did twenty five. I did thirty. And when I
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  Speaker 4: did that, I gained confidence. And as you gain confidence,
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  Speaker 4: you learn to win the match before you ever have
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  Speaker 4: to step on the mat.
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  Speaker 3: Ben Care's our guests here on the Shot O'Connell show.
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  Speaker 3: The movie about him about his life, about his triumphs
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  Speaker 3: in the wrestling world and the trials that he had
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  Speaker 3: to overcome in order to reach that championship level, is
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  Speaker 3: out today. Don't win a ticket for me, Go buy
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  Speaker 3: a ticket. Support Ben, Support theducers and the directors in
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  Speaker 3: the studio that brought this inspirational story to life on
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  Speaker 3: the big screen.
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  Speaker 2: So far, one hundred percent rotten Tomatoes. All right.
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  Speaker 3: I know it's a limited release right now, but everyone
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  Speaker 3: that we've talked to, that we've heard from, that we've
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  Speaker 3: read about, that has seen this movie, it seems like
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  Speaker 3: the reception is probably what you would hope it is.
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  Speaker 3: What have you been hearing from the people that have
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  Speaker 3: watched it and that have reached out to you?
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  Speaker 4: Brother, coming into this, she didn't know what to expect, right,
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  Speaker 4: And I remember my producers, Saint Ben, we got one goal.
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  Speaker 4: That's to make a movie that people want to share
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  Speaker 4: and come back to again and again and again. And
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  Speaker 4: so at that point, our goal was to touch every
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  Speaker 4: kid it's five years old, to every human it's ninety
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  Speaker 4: five years old that rolls in on the wheelchair. The
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  Speaker 4: other day, I was in a screening. I was about
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  Speaker 4: ready to take the microphone. The credits were rolling as
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  Speaker 4: you guys watched the film. By the way, don't leave
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  Speaker 4: the credits. The movie's not done. It's a little surprise
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  Speaker 4: at the end, this guy gets up out of his seat.
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  Speaker 4: He's about sixty five years old. I don't know the guy,
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  Speaker 4: and he starts walking out of the when the credits
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  Speaker 4: are showing, and I'm like, hey, it's not done yet,
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  Speaker 4: and he puts his head up. He grabs my shoulders
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  Speaker 4: and he's bawling. He said, Ben, I've never laughed so
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  Speaker 4: hard and cried so much in one movie. Thank you
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  Speaker 4: so much. I had that from a kid from Wyoming,
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  Speaker 4: send me a video who saw private screening up there.
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  Speaker 4: And then his own words, this little Wyoming cowboy kid said,
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  Speaker 4: that's the best thing I've ever saw. And so, brother,
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  Speaker 4: I tell you what, I am just humbled. I'm blessed.
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  Speaker 4: I have people in my corner that have taken this
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  Speaker 4: story and we've told it so raw, so blunt, so
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  Speaker 4: bold that I don't care if you have a facial difference.
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  Speaker 4: I don't care if you have cauliflower ears like I
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  Speaker 4: do from wrestling. Everybody understands challenging times, everybody understands obstacles
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  Speaker 4: in life, and everybody wants to know how to be victorious.
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  Speaker 4: And that's what this movie is. It's the recipe of
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  Speaker 4: just that.
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  Speaker 3: Tell me about the young the actor who portrays young
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  Speaker 3: Ben care in this film.
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  Speaker 4: Brother. That's how you know, Like sometimes you go into
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  Speaker 4: these you're like, oh my gosh, is this like can
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  Speaker 4: this go bigger than me? And you have you have signs,
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  Speaker 4: you have things along the way that happen that are
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  Speaker 4: that are just like moments that make you feel that
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  Speaker 4: this is way bigger than you. We were within weeks
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  Speaker 4: of filming, and we search the world, every nonprofit organization,
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  Speaker 4: facial difference organization. We could not find a younger Ben.
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  Speaker 4: If Cruise on Syndrome wasn't enough to be rare enough,
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  Speaker 4: we couldn't find someone that acted like me. And there
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  Speaker 4: were no there were no professional actors like the kid
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  Speaker 4: who played Aggie. I've spoken on stage with him. He
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  Speaker 4: is a normal looking kid. They had to do crazy,
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  Speaker 4: crazy makeup to make him look like that in the
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  Speaker 4: movie Wonder. I get a call or a message on
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  Speaker 4: social media from the Filding family within weeks before we
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  Speaker 4: film and these I get this message, Ben, We've been
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  Speaker 4: watching you for six months. Come to our house for dinner.
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  Speaker 4: I want to introduce you to my child who has
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  Speaker 4: cruise on syndrome. Not thinking too you know another thought
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  Speaker 4: we show up there opens the door. The filling family, Jordan, Anneale,
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  Speaker 4: credible humans, and there is Holton filming five years old,
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  Speaker 4: blonde hair, Truzon syndrome, bigger energy than life, and in
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  Speaker 4: that moment, nervous is all get out. I ask his
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  Speaker 4: parents if they would be open to being a part
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  Speaker 4: of this movie. His mom, Annalie looks over to the
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  Speaker 4: husband Jordan, and emotionally looks at him and says, this
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  Speaker 4: all makes sense now. She looks back at me and
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  Speaker 4: she says, Ben. For months, we've been trying to get
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  Speaker 4: a surgery, whether through insurance or health or whatever. We
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  Speaker 4: haven't been able to get a reconstructive face of surgery
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  Speaker 4: booked for him, and he needs it. We would absolutely
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  Speaker 4: love to do this. We go through filming, he absolutely
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  Speaker 4: kills it. Right after filming's done, he successfully gets admitted
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  Speaker 4: to getting a surgery, and now he doesn't look the same.
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  Speaker 4: The filming would have been different, the way he looked
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  Speaker 4: would have been different. And brother, when you see the film,
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  Speaker 4: you'll see this kid shine. There's a cult and Filding,
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  Speaker 4: there's a Ben Care. There's a little Sean in every
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  Speaker 4: single seat out there, and our goal is to make
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  Speaker 4: them feel like they can do anything in life, and
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  Speaker 4: we're getting that feedback and it just that means the world.
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  Speaker 3: Was there any part of the story, your story that
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  Speaker 3: you had a hard time being willing to tell? You know,
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  Speaker 3: I've seen a lot of I've seen a lot of
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  Speaker 3: your speaking. I've seen a lot of the posts that
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  Speaker 3: go out with the movie and things like that, you know,
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  Speaker 3: the tear jerker of a story of when you were
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  Speaker 3: not feeling real good about yourself as a young kid
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  Speaker 3: and trying to pray away the cruise on syndrome and
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  Speaker 3: how your mom had to to, you know, tell you
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  Speaker 3: the reasons for these things and bring you back to
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  Speaker 3: break down earth a little bit and tell you that
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  Speaker 3: you're not meant to blend in your supposed to stand out.
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  Speaker 2: And that's an emotional thing, even for someone like.
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  Speaker 3: Me, just to hear you lived it, Ben, Was there
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  Speaker 3: any part of this that you were reluctant to have told?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, brother, one of the most difficult things was talking
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  Speaker 4: about my difficulties as an adult. And I had gotten
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  Speaker 4: over the confidence I received right through wrestling and being
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  Speaker 4: a champion wrestler. I had overcome what I thought was
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  Speaker 4: cruise on syndrome. But I didn't know how to be loved.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't know if I could ever be loved bro
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  Speaker 4: I didn't know if another woman would. I didn't know
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  Speaker 4: if someone would be able to love me understanding that
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  Speaker 4: cruise on syndrome is fifty percent of my genes would
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  Speaker 4: be potentially having cruise on syndrome. And I found a
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  Speaker 4: woman that when I told her. I found a woman
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  Speaker 4: that when I told her about if you get married
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  Speaker 4: to me and we have kids, fifty percent chance that
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  Speaker 4: we will have cruise on syndrome kids. And so she
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  Speaker 4: went home and she studied it. And I'm like, I'm
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  Speaker 4: like away from her, how much she's gonna come back,
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  Speaker 4: and she's she's not gonna accept this and this will
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  Speaker 4: be a deal killer for and in life. I think
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  Speaker 4: we all just want connection. I think we all want love.
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  Speaker 4: I think we all want to be accepted, especially by
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  Speaker 4: the one you feel like you love, right, And she
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  Speaker 4: was the one I loved la Pole And she comes back,
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  Speaker 4: she says this, dude, she says, Ben, who better to
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  Speaker 4: raise kids with cruise on syndrome than you and me?
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  Speaker 4: And brother, Like, oh my god, that changed my life.
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  Speaker 4: A beautiful woman who could have probably any guy, and
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  Speaker 4: her decide to be her, decided to choose me, this
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  Speaker 4: cruise on syndrome man who's had people in public make
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  Speaker 4: fun of him still to this day, and her stand
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  Speaker 4: up for everything with purpose and say your mind. And man,
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  Speaker 4: when you have someone like that in your corner, that's everything.
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  Speaker 3: That's a beautiful story. That's incredible, and I'm glad it's
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  Speaker 3: part of your story. You're an inspirational guy. I'm glad
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  Speaker 3: that this movie is out. I'm glad we have an
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  Speaker 3: opportunity to see more of the star. I'm gonna I'm
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  Speaker 3: gonna learn things about you I don't know by watching
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  Speaker 3: this movie.
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to that.
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  Speaker 3: I love that you gave another young man, a little
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  Speaker 3: kid with cruise on syndrome, an opportunity to be a
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  Speaker 3: movie star, because I imagine that's not a very typical thing.
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  Speaker 2: And what a.
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  Speaker 3: Spreading the blessings and spreading the wealth of the success
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  Speaker 3: that you've had. Tell me more about your parents and
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  Speaker 3: your your mom and your dad and how they helped
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  Speaker 3: you to overcome the challenges while you were being raised
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  Speaker 3: with I mean for you, it's a facial difference. There's
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  Speaker 3: people out there with you know, genetic amputation. There's people
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  Speaker 3: out there who have children with other birth defects, whatever
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  Speaker 3: that you know these kids, they're they're in school with our.
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  Speaker 2: Kids, or they are our kids.
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  Speaker 3: And all of us hope that these young people grow
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  Speaker 3: up to be Ben Cares, to be triumphant, to overcome
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  Speaker 3: these challenges and to overcome the difficulties and maybe some
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  Speaker 3: of the lack of confidence that comes with them. So
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  Speaker 3: tell me more about the role your parents played in
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  Speaker 3: helping you do that.
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  Speaker 4: The name of the movie happened from one moment. There
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  Speaker 4: was a time. I'm not going to tell too much
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: of the story because it's gonna be absolutely so well
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  Speaker 4: delivered in the film. But there's a moment where in
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: the grocery store, in a public space, when I was
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: alone picking up what I felt like was my favorite
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  Speaker 4: candy bar, I got verbally annihilated by an adult. I
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: go home and I find myself thinking, Ben, if you
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  Speaker 4: could just remove your face the difference, you'll be fine,
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  Speaker 4: life will be better. I go in the bathroom and
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: I start thinking of ways to remove my face. Luckily,
• 20:35
  Speaker 4: before anything was decided, my mom came breaking in through
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  Speaker 4: the door, like a good mom does. Melted on me.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: We cried together. I told her everything. She stands me
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: up in front of the mirror. She says, Ben, you're
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: different because you're born to make a difference. And Ben,
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: attention's gonna come and people beg for the stuff you
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: won't need to because you look different. So on that moment,
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: you were not born to fit in. You were born
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  Speaker 4: to stand out. That's where the title came about. That's
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: my mom. God created that woman to come down and
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: be my mom. My father knew that wrestling could be
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: an absolute foundation for me to build off of, so
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: he would take me to these tournaments and just watch
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: me get beat up. You'll see it in the film.
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: There's a moment where I'm crying on the mat after
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: I lose, and he goes and picks me up and
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: it helps me to the middle. At the end of
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: the tournament, when I was not on the podium because
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: I wasn't good, he points to the podium in my
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: weight division, where as everyone was getting their hardware and
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: they're happy, and I'm sitting there shulking next to him.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: He pulls my chin up and he points at my chest.
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: He's like Ben as he points to the podium you
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  Speaker 4: belong on on that podium, but you've got to do
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: the work, and I'm here to come to every single
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: thing you have. I'm your biggest fan. My dad before
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: the tournaments would look at me and say, you're the champion.
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: You're the one that deserved this. You disobey average, Let's
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: go get it. It's people like that that bleeding you
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: way before you. It's my wife that way before I
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: was an All American. Before sleep, she would nudge me
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: as I'm almost asleep in bed and she said, Ben,
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: I forgot to tell you something. I'm the luckiest woman
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: to be married to Utah Valley University's first future NCAA
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: All American. It's people that speak life into your life.
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: It's people that speak dreams and to your dreams. It's
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: people that go before you and pave the way and
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: are there with you in the fight during the darkest
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: of moments and believe in you that make you achieve.
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: These are the people that stand out in my life
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: and they're the one that make the movie the movie.
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: Are you watching RAF for people out there who don't
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: know real American Freestyle is right now. It's a professional
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: organization for actual Olympic style collegiate style wrestling. That's new
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: and it's on Fox Nation, and it's become a kind
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: of a thing that is uh, I don't know. I
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: think it's helping the sport out a lot. Are you watching?
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: What do you think?
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: Of course I'm watching. Come on, man, this is the
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: most successful launch they've tried this before. This is the
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: most successful launch that they've ever had at what is
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: pro Wrestling? And I love it. I love the people
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: that are showing up. Nobody in life it's the same
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: with my movie. It's the same with you and what
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: you're doing. Nobody in life gets anywhere without people occupying
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: the seats and supporting right. I love it. Do I
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: have people like the bow Baskets of the world, the Clayguidas,
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: like I have the kid and Henschel's. I mean the
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: kevra Usman's who give me testimonials of my film. They're
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: all a part of RAF. I love what they're doing. Brother.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: I think it's so great for the sport. I think
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: it's great for the world because more people need to
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: know that doing hard things is freaking awesome and we
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: need to applaud doing hard things.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: So when this movie takes off in that that Rotten
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: Tomato score stays up high even after thousands and millions
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: of people have seen it. And our af makes a
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: phone call to Ben Kerr's agent and says, Hey, I
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: know he's forty two, but we've had guys that age
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: and older on our RAF match. Tell Ben we want
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: him in three months, or in six months or a year.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: Will we see you wrestling competitively again? Potentially?
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: Did I compete in the World Championships a year ago?
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: Heck yeah. And I've already been in touch without saying
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: too much, I've had a couple people that'll be exciting
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: when that happens, man, And if it happens, it'll be
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: exciting and it'll be fun. And I tell you what,
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: here's how I look at it. And then here's how
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: I look at life. Because you can never guarantee your win,
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: but you can guarantee how you show up. I had
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: a coach tell me one time, he's like, Ben, screw winning,
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: screw losing. Here's what I want you to do. Make
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: sure that after that match, nobody wants to wrestle Ben
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: care ever again. And if we go in life with
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: that mentality, not fear, of failure, not fear of being enough,
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: not freezing up because you're afraid that you're gonna lose
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: in front of everyone. But then you go out there
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: like David against Goliath, and you pick up the stones
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: and you spit in Fear's eyes not once, but twice
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: because you give them reaction time to make sure that
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: you ain't going anywhere. That's how I'm gonna show up, baby,
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: And that's what we're doing. We're going against the paramount pictures,
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: We're going against the Sony's, We're going against Hollywood, baby,
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: and those avatars better watch out because I'm coming for
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: the choke cold and We're going guns blazing. Baby.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Well, a true story, a real story, one inspirational is
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: yours is gonna be a lot more fun to watch.
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: Anyway you can get your tickets stand Out. The Ben
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: Care Story is out today Megaplex Theaters, Crossroads Cinemark Here
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: in Utah. Go find yourself a ticket and watch the
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: story of our guy right here, lived, trained, lives trains.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: This is a Utah cat that has one of the
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: best stories you're ever gonna find, and now there's a
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: movie about his life. Ben Care. My friend I appreciate
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: your time. I appreciate the message you send. I appreciate
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: the example you set. Thanks so much for joining us
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: on the show today. I haven't seen the movie yet.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna buy a ticket. I appreciate the invitations to
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: the screenings and all that. I'm gonna buy a ticket
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: to support, and uh, I'll let you know what I think.
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: All right, Well, Sean, if people out there want to
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: support and they're trying to look where they're at, Guys,
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: we're nationwide. We're in theaters from Alaska all the way
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: to Philadelphi and in between. If you want to find
• 27:33
  Speaker 4: out if it's close to you, go to standoutfilm dot com.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: Standoutfilm dot Com. I'm gonna be I have like five
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: six screenings that I'm gonna be at today. We have
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: people that are showing up for around the world. Today's
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: Today one, two, three, Standout January twenty third, Sean, you're
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: one of those standout humans brothers. Thanks for being in
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: my corner.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Appreciate you. Thank you so much for join us.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Bencare standout film dot Com go see his movie. Benkair
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: the former UVU Wolverine and Viumont Viking, one of the
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: best wrestlers ever from the state of Utah, and we
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: have some good ones