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EP 22 - SETTING BOUNDARIES !! · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables. The boundary needs to be set
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  Speaker 1: for him, but it also needs to be set for yourself. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's a.
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  Speaker 2: Big learning curve.
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  Speaker 3: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Addie Clark Ak
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  Speaker 3: and my partner in crime, mister Jake Craig Ak, Polar
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  Speaker 3: Poe and your Callistamon Calistamon. Yeah, Callistamon and Poa. You
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  Speaker 3: guys might be thinking what the hell did they just say?
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  Speaker 3: And you'll never know unless you're a Patreon Baddie. We're
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  Speaker 3: plugging early because that's the place to be eight.
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  Speaker 1: Ninety nine a month.
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  Speaker 3: Well, we're on fire today. I had a thought, Actually,
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  Speaker 3: I think you will look great.
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  Speaker 1: Pat it up.
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  Speaker 3: Beth keeps telling me that that's the two most important
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  Speaker 3: people in your life.
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  Speaker 2: Surely is it.
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  Speaker 1: Okay? Yeah? I know, I don't know what I'm bad.
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  Speaker 1: Beth is my girlfriend. For anybody that's new here, Beth
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  Speaker 1: keeps asking me about more tattoos. Should I just think it?
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  Speaker 2: You would suit? I'm like semi sleeve vibe.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I think I liked, prefer sleeve like. I
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  Speaker 1: would happily get some of these turned into something different,
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  Speaker 1: into a sleeve like I like some of them.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you go the forearms, you've got big extremities.
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  Speaker 1: But he's he's one thing I kind of always wanted
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  Speaker 1: to go, Like if you say half half sleeve, I'll
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  Speaker 1: be pissed, and then my whole thing's half half. Well
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  Speaker 1: I want half full tattoo and then half clean. Oh no,
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to do like opposite. So like if I
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  Speaker 1: get this arm tatted, this this leg gets some tats,
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  Speaker 1: but I I leg tattoo is scammy? Do they hurt? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Like a bitch.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a great idea, but you're never going to
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  Speaker 3: do it. You know what, Admin that's a good point.
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  Speaker 3: You have to go look at tattoos. Pick one fine
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  Speaker 3: an artist.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I can't. You know what he's actually
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  Speaker 1: my whole thing is one thing I'll this is one
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  Speaker 1: way I'll put stuff off right. One thing like so
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  Speaker 1: things like tattoos where it's like it doesn't affect my
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  Speaker 1: life really but like it's the thing that I want.
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  Speaker 2: Or you've got none in the moment, you could have heaps.
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  Speaker 1: I have some tattoos, some more.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know about. Or that wouldn't be the word
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  Speaker 2: I used to describe you.
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  Speaker 1: What would you used to describe me?
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  Speaker 2: Not urr.
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  Speaker 1: One word please?
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  Speaker 2: Okay? One word? Okay?
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  Speaker 1: What actually would you? How would you describe me? If
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  Speaker 1: someone said, describe Jake in one word and then let
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  Speaker 1: our imagination do the rest.
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  Speaker 2: Is it right?
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  Speaker 3: One word?
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  Speaker 1: That's two words?
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  Speaker 3: All right?
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  Speaker 2: All right?
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  Speaker 1: They would just be thinking, like you're saying, okay, I'll
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  Speaker 1: do it. If I'm someone going describe Jake in one
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  Speaker 1: word and then let our imagination do the rest, and
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  Speaker 1: then you say all right, I'd be like, well you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna do it.
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  Speaker 2: That was the first two words to come to mind.
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  Speaker 2: I'll break it down to one. One word. I've always
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  Speaker 2: got two.
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  Speaker 3: I was gonna say, nice guy, but let me learn,
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  Speaker 3: let me learn.
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  Speaker 2: Chilled.
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  Speaker 3: I'll take it chilled, Yeah, yeah, unbothered, unbothered, unbothered, yeah, bothers.
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  Speaker 1: One word?
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  Speaker 2: What about us?
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  Speaker 1: Not one?
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  Speaker 2: He's unphased? One word?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go, There we go. You went unfazed.
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  Speaker 3: How would you describe me? I'll take that claim. I
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  Speaker 3: thought you were going to say sexy for a second.
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  Speaker 1: But what do you think I was going to say that?
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  Speaker 2: You've said I had to have a great body. You know,
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  Speaker 2: if you have a good body?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what you work hard for it you
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  Speaker 1: never yeah, and you just have it genetically.
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  Speaker 2: Can I say I have even against.
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  Speaker 1: You for the reason you work out is because because
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  Speaker 1: I'm luckily, I don't have to work out often.
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  Speaker 3: People get motivation from like breaking up with their partners.
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  Speaker 3: I look at a Jake and he works out like
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  Speaker 3: three days.
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  Speaker 2: He's bigger than me.
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  Speaker 1: They say, keep keep your enemies, so keep your friends close,
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  Speaker 1: with your enemies closer.
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  Speaker 2: I did that.
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  Speaker 1: I was working out the first time I took get
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  Speaker 1: Eth into the gym. Jake's brother, yeah, my younger brother.
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  Speaker 1: I was talking to him about things and just like
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  Speaker 1: I was like kind of saying to him like, look,
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  Speaker 1: if you if you're pretty consistent, like you'll get this
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  Speaker 1: thing called newbie gains and we're going into all these things.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, I was like, I think he
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  Speaker 1: might he might have said something about how I looked,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, I like genetically, Like another
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  Speaker 1: thing that comes into it is genetics. Like genetically, I
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  Speaker 1: got relatively lucky compared to someone. I was like, if
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  Speaker 1: you look at Oddie, that motherfucker works ten times harder
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  Speaker 1: than me. And I said to it, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: look I was like, he arguably looks better than me,
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  Speaker 1: but like he works so much fucking hard.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, I've got really long legs, a small torso,
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  Speaker 3: but I have a I have a lot of heart.
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  Speaker 3: My insertions are I'm pretty happy to be fair.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, you definitely look look at it. You do
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  Speaker 1: look big.
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  Speaker 3: Insertions are good just like could be like you have
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  Speaker 3: long muscles. I just don't look good for social media. No, No,
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  Speaker 3: I'm just in a sense of like if I was
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  Speaker 3: like five four and like everyone thought I was big,
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  Speaker 3: I would look massive. Anyone that's five everyone that looks massive,
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  Speaker 3: and then they may keep some money online because I
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  Speaker 3: think they're jacked.
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  Speaker 2: But it actually like the size.
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  Speaker 3: Of my pinkypewise.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but like they actually are massive because like they
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  Speaker 1: just have short muscles. Yeah, but then you stand next
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  Speaker 1: to him and they don't look massive. But see I
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  Speaker 1: would prefer me. Yeah, same your body type and being like,
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  Speaker 1: but like I look good in real life, but everyone's online.
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  Speaker 3: You said it to your brother, You're probably like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I was like you, he said, I said, Odi is
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  Speaker 3: like way stronger than me too, but like next to
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  Speaker 3: each other, better looking bigger downstairs, You probably said to him,
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  Speaker 3: I've got a photo of his penis. If I recorded
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  Speaker 3: him in our show, we want to see it's huge,
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  Speaker 3: right Anyway, I had a new segment to start the episode, Jake,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to call all this things I think should
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  Speaker 3: count as cardio.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, sounds good to me because I don't do cardio.
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  Speaker 3: It's funny we were talking about that. Actually you didn't
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  Speaker 3: know what was coming. All right, things I think should
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  Speaker 3: count as cardio talking to someone.
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  Speaker 1: New ooh yeah, mental cardio.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, legit, I reckon that's more strenuous than going
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  Speaker 3: on a treadmill. Yeah, yeah, I would agree, all right,
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  Speaker 3: things I think should count as cardio. Flying with Jetstar.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, here's the reason too, because you'll go look at
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  Speaker 1: where your gate is right and it'll say gate like sixteen,
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  Speaker 1: and then you get the gate sixteen.
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  Speaker 2: It'll be like on the.
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  Speaker 1: Ludspeaker, Flight JQ forty seven has moved to Gate forty seven,
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  Speaker 1: and then you have to walk to the other side
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  Speaker 1: of the airport. That's why it's cardio.
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  Speaker 2: For any none Aussie listeners. It's like the budgets, like
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  Speaker 2: the Ryan Air of Australia.
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  Speaker 3: Yah, yeah, yeah, yea, I hate I have a vendetta A.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: I actually think if Jetstar came to us with a
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  Speaker 3: brand deal, I would have to say no, really, I
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  Speaker 3: think I would.
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  Speaker 1: I can't to be fair though, you've talked mad shit
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  Speaker 1: about them, so if they heard anything.
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  Speaker 2: I think.
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  Speaker 3: But I know it's a budget airline and you've got
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  Speaker 3: to be like, oh, yeah, yeah, what you paid for?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Fuck off?
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  Speaker 1: Well you I have never been delayed more than like
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  Speaker 1: ten twenty minutes on jet Start. You've had, You've got
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  Speaker 1: like hour long day. They hate me, two hour long delays.
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  Speaker 2: Like hate me.
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  Speaker 1: That's so funny. I hate I'm version through them through
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  Speaker 1: I like virgin.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why.
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  Speaker 3: All right, things I think should count as cardio. Putting
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  Speaker 3: fitted sheets on a mattress fitted sheets, I think is easy.
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  Speaker 3: Putting the freaking Douner cover on your douner now they
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  Speaker 3: both is so difficult. Business idea, We've got to come
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  Speaker 3: up with, like a self making fitted sheet douner dove
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  Speaker 3: put her in a.
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  Speaker 2: Pause, put it in her in ah, put it in hu. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But business idea, mate, or no, how could you make
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  Speaker 3: that easier?
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  Speaker 2: I'll tell you what we do.
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  Speaker 3: We get professional at it and then we can go
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  Speaker 3: into people's house and doing like thirty seconds in charge
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  Speaker 3: tough thirty bucks.
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  Speaker 1: No, I don't hate it enough to pay someone.
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  Speaker 2: What if what if some gene came in and was like, yo,
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  Speaker 2: joke of me to do your bed?
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  Speaker 1: No I'm not.
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  Speaker 3: I don't hate doing it, and someone to do it
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  Speaker 3: put it in her brother.
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  Speaker 2: All right.
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  Speaker 3: A couple more things I think should count as cardio.
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  Speaker 3: Your parents going through your photos.
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  Speaker 1: Because your heart's right, Yeah, she counts because you're like
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  Speaker 1: you ever said your parents like you go to show
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  Speaker 1: the photo and they decide to go.
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  Speaker 2: It's what I don't understand.
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  Speaker 1: I'm showing you one photo.
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  Speaker 2: But even like, does it happen my parents are social
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  Speaker 2: media phone illiterate?
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  Speaker 1: Yep?
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  Speaker 3: Does it happen to parents who know what they're doing
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  Speaker 3: on there?
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  Speaker 1: Still? I reckon ye, because my parents are they're just
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  Speaker 1: I've got.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing on the photos. But also I do I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what's there.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of a similar thing of like, okay, so
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  Speaker 1: this is all the exact same feeling, right, The feeling
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  Speaker 1: you get when you give your parents your phone and
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  Speaker 1: they're looking at a photo and they start swiping. The
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  Speaker 1: feeling you get when you have not been drinking but
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  Speaker 1: you get pulled over for an RBT and know you
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  Speaker 1: haven't had it, but it's still scary. Yeah, you know
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna pass the RBT, but it doesn't matter. Just
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  Speaker 1: you're anxious. Same feeling you get when like, I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: your girlfriend starts showing for your Instagram. You're like, I
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  Speaker 1: literally know why I've done nothing, but like for some
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  Speaker 1: reason that just so many men just get caught doing
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  Speaker 1: it on their phone. Someone feels like it just is
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  Speaker 1: the thing I'm gonna get caught.
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  Speaker 2: Doing, even though I who, I haven't done it.
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  Speaker 3: Is it just men?
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  Speaker 2: Or do girls have that too?
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  Speaker 3: They have some crazy shit in their cameras and they
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  Speaker 3: have like twenty thousand photos. True, surely like there's just
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  Speaker 3: some random titty picks here in there like of themselves.
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  Speaker 2: Sure why what?
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  Speaker 1: Look? I mean, that's a good point. Like I wonder
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  Speaker 1: if I'm ever just like on Beth's phone doing if
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  Speaker 1: I'm ever just like she passes in me to do something,
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  Speaker 1: if I just started like sticking to you, like hey
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  Speaker 1: give it here.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I doubt it? Probably not all right?
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  Speaker 3: My last one, I feel like this is the best
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  Speaker 3: one things I think should count as cardio thinking about
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  Speaker 3: doing cardio?
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  Speaker 1: Imagine that.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like the mental rigamarole.
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  Speaker 3: You have with like should I go to the gym
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  Speaker 3: in new cardio or he'll wait?
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  Speaker 2: Or should I go for a walk?
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  Speaker 3: That counts. It's the thought that counts.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that what everyone lives by?
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's the thought that counts, but the
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  Speaker 1: execution matters. M.
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  Speaker 3: I don't like that attitude, mate, Why you don't do it?
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  Speaker 1: I thought you would like that. No, I do like
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  Speaker 1: that I don't do it. Yeah, but like that also
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  Speaker 1: doesn't apply to me because I never think about doing
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  Speaker 1: cardio because I don't. Just I'm like, I'm not doing it. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: This guy is getting his brother in the gym and
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  Speaker 3: he's like, should we do some carter?
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  Speaker 1: And he's like, I was like, man, I don't do carter.
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  Speaker 1: Look at me. I was thinking, I do. I want
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  Speaker 1: to start going on like every second day, maybe doing
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  Speaker 1: some like short runs.
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  Speaker 3: Your body doesn't like Running's where broody doesn't like it.
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  Speaker 2: You're not built to run. You're built. You're built the walk.
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  Speaker 1: I'm built the sit.
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  Speaker 2: That's an insult in the heart.
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  Speaker 1: Look like you're built to site. The other one was
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  Speaker 1: you look like you're easy to approach or something like that,
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  Speaker 1: you look like you're easy to talk to. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you look easy to talk to you. No, that's that's
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  Speaker 1: a nice thing to say.
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  Speaker 3: Was it that?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? I think it was something like you look easily approachable,
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  Speaker 1: you look.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't remember. Wait, maybe that.
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  Speaker 1: At the time, we really thought it was so funny.
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  Speaker 1: I swear it was the talk one. There was context
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  Speaker 1: to be fair, Okay, so context for that was like
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  Speaker 1: we oh yeah, yeah, yeah. No, So we were watching
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  Speaker 1: the show that we're going to talk about it, go
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  Speaker 1: into it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's literally go into it.
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  Speaker 1: Off Campus. Yeah, okay, we watched the first episode of
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  Speaker 1: Off Campus. First thing I want to say is so
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  Speaker 1: so pleasantly surprised. Second thing I want to say is
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: just to talk about the thing. Get out of the way,
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  Speaker 1: and then we'll talk about the show. Is main character Hannah,
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  Speaker 1: the main female character, two characters. Main female character Hannah
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  Speaker 1: is crushing on Justin. One of the other characters n Garrett. No, no,
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  Speaker 1: she's crushing on Justine. Oh, crushing on Justin. And one
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  Speaker 1: of our friends is like, go talk to him, and
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  Speaker 1: she goes, but he's so much easier to look at
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  Speaker 1: then talk to. Yes, that was it, and so then
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  Speaker 1: and then Oddie thinks he's a funny guy and he's like,
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  Speaker 1: you look easy to talk to, as like an insult,
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  Speaker 1: but like it didn't a really nice thing to say.
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  Speaker 1: Now thinking about it.
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  Speaker 3: We need the first bit where he's easy to look at,
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  Speaker 3: because I was implying that you're not easy to look at.
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  Speaker 1: No, you were implying I'm ugly. Yeah I was, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm easy to approa approach like I don't make people
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  Speaker 1: know that, and I stand by that.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't work.
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  Speaker 3: But anyway, we watched it off campus, now available on
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  Speaker 3: Amazon Prime.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so we watched the first episode on campus. Sorry
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  Speaker 1: if you If you want to watch it along with us,
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  Speaker 1: it is on patroon eight ninety nine.
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  Speaker 3: A month we watched the whole thing, which was I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to say one word to describe.
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  Speaker 2: It, brilliant.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, brilliant. Okay. My one way to decide to describe
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  Speaker 1: it was like kicking feet. I feel like the whole
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  Speaker 1: episode was kind of like WHOA. I was like kicking
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  Speaker 1: my feet.
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  Speaker 2: Not one word, but I'll give it to you.
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  Speaker 1: Keep me on so you're excited before you're isn't that high.
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  Speaker 1: But okay, anyway, we thought we might. We want to
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  Speaker 1: talk about the first out just because it was so
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  Speaker 1: good too. So episode one opens up Hannah Garrett. Right,
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  Speaker 1: if you get a quick intro to the first two.
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  Speaker 3: First mental screen show the first scene.
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  Speaker 1: Hannah, she's she's working. She's they portray her as just
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  Speaker 1: working class. You know, she's working, doing her thing, mopping
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  Speaker 1: up stuff. You know, she's working at the arena.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, yeah, Garrett hockey arena.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, ice hockey. Garrett, ice hockey player. He's out here.
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  Speaker 1: They portrayed him clearly as the guy that's just like
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  Speaker 1: a beast at ice hockey. And he's like practicing after hours,
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  Speaker 1: like on his own. Right, he comes off, he's hopping
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  Speaker 1: in the shower, and then she's doing her things. She's
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  Speaker 1: coming in, getting all the dry for more. The guys practice,
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  Speaker 1: and then she's got headphones on. She's bopping around her music,
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  Speaker 1: doing no thing. He's in the shower, right, he's like scrubbing,
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  Speaker 1: he's doing that classic thing. And then she stops and
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  Speaker 1: she's looking at him in the shower. She's she's taking
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  Speaker 1: a sneak peek. He turns around and he's just like,
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  Speaker 1: he's like this, he turns around. If you see someone
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  Speaker 1: looking at you as a man, the first thing you
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  Speaker 1: do is or you got this. I would go like
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  Speaker 1: this and then turn around. What are you doing? What
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  Speaker 1: are you doing it? But he turns around, right, he
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  Speaker 1: turns around, the hands just beside him, just like letting
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  Speaker 1: it all hang out. She's just like jaw flawed. She
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  Speaker 1: takes a good look and then she stands like ten
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  Speaker 1: seconds he's just like he just like smirks, and it's
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  Speaker 1: almost like it's like him and his penis had a
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  Speaker 1: conversation of like, yeah, look at this, fucking like what
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  Speaker 1: you see? Oh my, it was never seen confidence like it.
• 14:59
  Speaker 3: No, but that was the opening of the show, by
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: the way. Yeah, oh honestly it caught me off guard,
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: but I was hooked.
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: And Okay, so they really like hop skip jump into
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: the show, which I kind of liked. Actually, I do
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: like that too because we haven't read the books. So yeah,
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: because there's a book obviously caught off campus and we
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: went into it, I guess sort of blind, which is
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: kind I kind of like that because sometimes I think
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: reading the books a good thing. But I think that
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: when you when you're What I've found is why people
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: always are saying that the book is better than the
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: show or the movie is because like, you can't like
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: what you're reading.
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: When you're reading a.
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: Book, is someone's like inner monologue. You don't like if say,
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: in the scene of that, if you're reading the book
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: of Off Campus and that opening scene is this, right,
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: you would be like say from my Hanner's POV and
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: it would be like, oh, she would be describing like
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: curves of the body and like beautiful hands and face,
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: like the length of something, like you know what I mean,
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: Like you don't get that. You just get to see her.
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: She's a good actor, but like you don't hear that
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: in a monologue.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: I actually really like the actors too.
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: They were going to they were good, tell me one.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: Episode, go through rest through one, upset, Okay, but it
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: is a good like INTR episode And so Hannah music major.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: I'm not a fan of hockey, no hates it, doesn't
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: like ice hockey.
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: We're going to find out why.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I do think we'll find out why. She's got
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: a flashback of one of the other hockey player the
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: team members. So yeah, here's what I'm thinking I'm going
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: to make a call, all right, So basically we'll get
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: to that. So Hannah music major, doesn't like hockey, doesn't
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: like to go out and party. She kind of just
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: likes to keep to herself, to be fair, works a
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: couple of jobs. She's at this school, Brier University, looks
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: like a fucking six school for because of a scholarship. Yea,
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: but we find out very early on that she's losing
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: her scholarship. So she needs to change from classical music
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: because that's what they took funding away, and they're like,
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: who's going to do classico stuff that? But pop music
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: is big pops in so she needs to write a
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: pops go to some competition and if she wins, they win,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: she wins scholarship so she can stay at the school. Now, Garrett,
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: he is hockey star. This guy. Never never met anyone
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: this cockie in my life.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: He's hot too, but fuck he's hot. Yeah, he's good casting.
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: He's hot.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: He looks like he's about six foot six.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: I've always thought, yeah, I'd love to know he's hot.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: Is he actually that hot in person? And he makes surely?
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: I guess I was phil better he was hot.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: Hot.
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: He must have a big one.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: I mean, anyway, the best hockey player junior at Bryan University.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: He's a captain.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: He's a captain of the hockey team. We find out
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: a little ways through that he is the son of
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Phil Graham, who is NHL Star, Stanley Cup winner like
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: other awards and stuff like that. But he hates his dad.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Reason his dad abusive to his mum when he was
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: a kid. He has some flashbacks and so that's very sad.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: And now here's where I wanted to make a what's
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: it called prediction. Prediction. So one of the scenes, Hannah
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: is working at the arena while there is a game
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: on and she's working. She's like counting some money in
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: the till, right, and there's these two men that I
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: think are playing. They might they play for a different team,
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: but they they're watching the game and they're kind of
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: talking about how like Garrett's having a bad game and
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: he was having a shit game, right, And then she
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: hears one of the guys be like, oh, hey, says
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: the other dude's name, and then she has a flashback
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: of that guy at like an arena of something like that,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: like she knows him. And then she kind of like
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: freezes and has a bit of a panic attack and
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: then buggers off to go get some time to herself.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: And I think that that guy may have sexually assaulted her. Okay,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: that's what I'm thinking. Okay, that's what I That's where
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: I think it's going. And that's why she hates hockey
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: because he's a hockey player.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: That makes a lot of sense. I was thinking because
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: she was from a split up family too. We find
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: that out wish she.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: From a split of family. I can't remember. I was
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: thinking he might be the other partner's son, Okay, okay,
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: and he's done something similar or maybe just like bullied
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: her maybe bit this sort of reaction that the reaction
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I got was like frozen had to get out of there,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: and that that's my prediction at least.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: But after that, Hannah goes in. There's like a common
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: room underneath the arena with musical instruments, and she's a
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: music major, and she finds the keyboard and starts playing
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: like these old tunes.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: She finds a full piano just down for some reason,
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: like a in like the ice hockey like sheds, and
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: this is it, like time of the hockey match, and.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: Garrett's all angry because he's playing bad, because he's distracted
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: because his dad's putting too much pressure on him, his
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: dad's got a new partner, blah blah blah. And she's there,
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: this vibe and now being unapologetically herself, just not knowing
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: anyone else in the world exists, and there's Graham having
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: a little look at her, and she doesn't even notice.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: And what ends up happening is Graham kind of.
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: Used that as a way to reset his game, and
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: he comes back out after seeing her. What she's doing
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: and her being herself makes him play really really well.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he don't notice how much she was enjoying just
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: like playing along to a song and life.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was like the distraction he needed.
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: And then after the match she scored they won like six'
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: two or.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Something, basically the way That garrett And hannah have anything
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: to do with each other is that at the, beginning
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: near the beginning of the, episode they're in this class
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: where everyone fails except For. Hannah she gets AN a.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Plus garrett sees over a shoulder, like oh my, god
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: you aced, it like and then she they walk out
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: and he's kind of Like mona he's like walking out
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: trying to get, it and she's Like, Mona. Mona she turns.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: Around she's like, what Who's. Mona she's, like that's not my.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Name he's like oh starts with AN m though, Right
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: she's like, No i'm close. Anyway he's, LIKE i need
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: you to two to, me and she just goes like,
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: nah bugger. Off and so then the reason they have
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: anything to do with each other is because so throughout
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: the first, episode when they do bump into each other AT,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: uni he's like i'll pay, you like, please do, it, please,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: please and she's just like, no Like i'm not doing. It.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: No and then, finally now all this has, happened where
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: after the, game we'd a big university block party here freaking. Sick,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: yeah it's. Cool looks like it's like a.
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: Festival fantasy is.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: Cool and so where, There hannah's friend convinces her to
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: come because justin her main crush is. There she's like
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: crushing to just look at him From afar and daydream
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: and she's there and they convince her to go talk
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: to him because he's there. Alone so she's going over
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: talking to him and she's being very like messing up
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: her words and, stuff and this justin, guy to be,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: fair is just the most nonchalant like, acting you, know
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: didn't have much substance of, justin no substance at. All
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: and right before it after the. Game this is after the, Game,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Remember garrett goes and finally is like trying to find
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Who hannah is because he doesn't know her. Name and
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: one of his friends comes over and he goes over
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: there because he can see. Her he's like the waitress
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: from like the, diner what's her? Name and his friend's,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: like It's. Hannah she's waited on us like a thousand.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: Times And garrett's, like, really this guy's just fucking self.
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Absorbed and then all he thinks about, hockey oh, yeah
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: like it's crazy and he gets women like women throw
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: themselves at. Him and so he goes and he looks
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: up in his following List hannah and he finds her following,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: him and so he's kind of like you can tell
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: at this, point like he's starting to have a bit
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: of a crush on. Her, Yeah and so he finds
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: and he smirks a little like when he finds out
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: she's following. Him and then While hannah's like stumbling her
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: words with This justin guy who's like a musician in a,
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: band also pretty. Attractive he right before water gets spilt on.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Her so Then garrett comes, over puts his jacket on
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: her and he's, like, oh, babe like there you, are
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: LIKE i saw that water get spilled on, you bl
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. Blah and then she's kind of
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: like what she's like wigging out and he's acting like her. Boyfriend,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Right so then This justin guy gets jealous because she
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: he can see that she Likes. Justin. Yeah and then
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: Finally justin leaves or. Whatever they say nice to meet,
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: you and she's like what was that?
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: About what was?
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: That and he was like you're, welcome by the, Way.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: Hannah she's, like.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: How do you know my?
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Name all of a sudden and he's like why WOULDN'T
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: I and then he's like fucking the smoothest man on
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: the bro the smoothest man on the. Planet he's, like
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: she's got his jacket. On he kind of touches her,
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: waist brings her, closer and he's, like, look let's make a.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: DEAL i need to ace this class and she's like oh.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah and then at this, point like the, acting the,
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: WRITING i don't. Know the tension was fucking. Insane this
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: shit got me, Going i'm not gonna lie to. You
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: he's like looking down at her and he's, LIKE i
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: don't believe in. Favors and then he SAYS i need
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: to pass his, class and so she's kind of like
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: putting two, together two and two. Together, Sorry so she's,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: like what we fake? Date so we make justin jealous
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: and then you get tutoring and he's, like sounds like
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: a deal to. Me she's, like we stopped pay me
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: AND i was like, valid by the, way and so
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: then she's going. In she's, like, oh well you need to,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: remember and she goes in to kiss him and then
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: kind of just last, second dips up and just kind
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: of gives him a. Hug and THEN i don't EVEN.
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: I was just like she, said, Deal, yeah yeah she.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: Did she goes deal she. Did she just went from
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: like scared and, timid like confident and sixty as fuck
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: and boss o.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: Wit it Was.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna. LIE i was fucking losing my.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: MIND u N b rating you don't know what that.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: Is over To, Patreon.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: I'm giving it a nine point episode, One episode, one
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: nine point Six, yeah, yeah, yeah EPISODE.
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: I want to Say i'll Go i'll go with nine
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: point six with you episode, one purely for the fact
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: of how many TIMES i had to verbally react with,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: it LIKE i couldn't just LIKE i got physical.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Goose but.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: Video there's video proof that's hilarious, anyway when she starts,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: singing look it's all it's you could go watch. IT
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: i would recommend going and watch. It you could either
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: go to patron and watch it with, us or go
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: watch it and see what we're talking. About but the
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: end of the episode was LIKE i JUST i thought
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: the end of the episode was.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Sick, yeah let's.
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: Go i'm going to watch the rest of MY i.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: RECKON i will do.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: It.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: Yea it is time for. Dilemmas you know what to
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: do by. Now there will be a link into description
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: that is completely. Anonymous to submit your. DILEMMA i haven't
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: had a dilemma in a, While.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Jake you you.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: Yourself i've had a lot of dilemmas in, life BUT
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: i haven't brought into the.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: POD i like.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: THAT i feel like it's a good event for. Me
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: have you got Any have you got any. Dilemas you
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: want to get up you chest? Quickly, no, sure, No.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: No my wife is what some would call either uneventful
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: or my life is. CRUISY i don't know WHAT i
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: want to. Say what is That my life is cruzy
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: BECAUSE i let it be? Cruzy yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: YEAH i could choose to stress about.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Things, Yeah i'm proud of proud of you.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: Man thank you appreciate that good stuff because you, yeah
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: you stress about. Stuff YEAH i.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: DO i think a lot.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: More On new Bart yeah, yeah.
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: YEAH i think for this to, work we need one
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: of us to, think.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah are we kinda? Really you switch on and?
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: Off yeah, yeah which is. Healthy but, anyway here's a.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: Dilemma hey, boys love the. Pod, now this dilemma is
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: a bit of a long. One i'll give some. Backstory
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: my housemate In, brackett who is also my, friend has
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: been seeing a guy for over three months. Now it
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: casually started Before christmas in twenty twenty, five and that
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: has continued at a slow pace until current. Date they
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: maybe see each other once a week if, that and
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: it's normally just the two of, them not around other.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: People he sometimes comes over to our, house but it's
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: extremely awkward AND i find it very hard to converse with.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: Him he doesn't engage in open conversations and can be quite.
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: Blunt there's no flirtatious behavior in front of, us but
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: she does tell me that they do flirt behind closed.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: Doors my issue is, This they are attending a wedding
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: together in a few weeks and my friend informs me
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: she brings up in convert that what or how should
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: she introduce him to, people to which he, REPLIES i
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: guess your boyfriend and that was. It he didn't properly
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: ask her to be his, girlfriend and she tells me
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: she's okay with. THAT i think she's convinced herself that
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: she's okay with, it but deep DOWN i know she
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: would have loved if he actually asked.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: Her do you.
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: Think that women are lowering their standards for men because
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: level the effort levels have dropped significantly over the years
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: due to online? Dating Or AM i just triggered Because
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: i'm a man hater who has a very great boyfriend who.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Actually asked her to be his. Girlfriend, NO i think the.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: Answer short answer is, yes women lower their. Standards, YES i.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: Agree short answer is definitely Women that women definitely lower their,
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: standards and you're not just a man. Hater you don't hate, men, Boyfriend,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: yeah you just hate ship.
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: Man my girlfriend says that.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Too she's, Like i'm a. Man my girlfriend says his
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: man had To but like in, short in, short, women
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: heterosexual women are not men. Haters, no they're shipman. Haters
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: like that's which is.
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: Fine it's hard though, too because LIKE i feel bad
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: with this girl because she like likes his, dude and
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: then she's. Done you can't really, say go back and
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: ask me.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Again, no, Yeah like it's it's just if your friend's
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: saying she's, like hey with, it then you've you've got
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: to got to take her word for. It but if
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: you know for a fact she's not okay with, it
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: but like then you can bring that up and be, like,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: LOOK i feel like you're not okay with. IT i
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: think that was pretty shitty thing of him to. Do
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: you can you can show her that you you see
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: how she's feeling or whatever that you could say. That
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: BUT i don't know what your dilemma is, Here like
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: what are you gonna say tell her to break up
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: with the, guy and she.
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: One thing to.
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: DO i think it's just hard for a friend to,
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: see like outside there will you be my? Girlfriend a
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: man treating a woman? Badly, yeah and like it's, hard
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: like the consider treating her. Badly it's just low, effort
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: which is not good to be.
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: SAD i guess you could say that's in in turn
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: treating and like what can you do because it's not
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: up to The so this girl who is now in
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: a relationship evidently probably isn't. Happy it shouldn't be up
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: to her to be like, hey like look that was
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: a fucking piss poor. EFFORT i do really love, you
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: but do it, Again like you can't really say, that
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: but you should be able to say. THAT i mean
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: she should say. That she wants to say it like.
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: You AND i suppose how he takes that is if
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: he actually is a good, man because if he gets
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: offended by, that but it is what it.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: Is we're just like hanging out all the.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: Time, yeah so here's the, thing, right he.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: We don't know how.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: He was planning on doing, it but it seems like
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: he wasn't planning on doing. It then he's, like, oh like,
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: WELL i guess you're just my. Goverrimend then like she
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: invited him to a.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Wedding is it the wedding that? Yeah yea, yeah she,
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: said how AM i going to introduce him to? People?
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: Like how AM i going to introduce you to? People?
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: Like she invited him to a? WEDDING i don't, know
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: it's kind of. Fun. Look WHAT i was going to
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: say was like she hadn't asked her, yet, no, right
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: and she a guest doesn't have a clear answer on
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: what they are, yet and so it's, like maybe inviting
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: him to the wedding was the right thing to do
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: because it kicks meet likes, it she Likes but the
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: thing is, like you don't know what you are?
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Yet, no and.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: You've invited him to a wedding if by this point
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: you have said to yourself that you want to know
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: what you are and he hasn't asked, You, like where
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: my mind is going is that we we posted something
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: On instagram and someone had some really good advice about,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: it and it was a girlfriend spoke to a boyfriend
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: about pawn because and it was a little while into
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: their relationship and he was, like, oh, yeah, YEAH i
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: do watch it and she was kind of, Like i'm
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: not a fan of. That and then he said he
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: won't do it, anymore but she caught him doing, it
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: and so she goes on to say that she said to,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Herself i'm gonna stop checking his phone Because i'm not
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: going to break up with, Him but she's still upset
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: about the porn. Thing someone gave some really good advice,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: saying of course that boundary can be set right the.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: Thing the person that did the wrong thing is the
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: boyfriend and cross to that boundary by watching porn again
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: and not telling. You but you also have to set a.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: Boundary like the boundary goes both. Ways if you set
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: a boundary SAYING i don't want you to watch, porn
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: and then he watches it and you don't break up
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: with him the boundary of, yourself then it's like you
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: also you also are letting him cross that, boundary and
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: then he's going to keep doing, It so it's like
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: you need to break up with, him, Right and SO
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: i thought that advice was really really. Good so the
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: boundaries for yourself as. Well so What i'm trying to
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: get at is LIKE i assume at some point there
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: was a thing in your head where you're, like, OH
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: i wish he would ask me to be his. BOYFRIEND
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: i think your friend must have said this to, herself
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: LIKE i wish you would ask me to be his. Girlfriend,
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: sorry and LIKE i just, think like why did you
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: invite him to the? Wedding is kind of What i'm
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: trying to get, At But i'm, like you know WHAT i, Mean,
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: like why did you invite into the wedding if he
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: isn't going to, actually.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Ah, yeah you almost had. It it was if you
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: it's hard because.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: This is not this isn't sent in from the perspective
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: of the battery who got. Asked, yeah but pretend it.
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: Did and if you had in your head that you
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: want to be asked out by your boyfriend and then
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: they do, this you, say, no that's the.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: Boundary you let him cross the.
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: Boundary, yeah it's like he but that's saying she's it's,
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: hard you, Know.
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: Okay What i'm trying to get at is like, you.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: It's hard because it's also like you think he's still all.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: Right, basically What i'm trying to say is when she
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: said to, him what AM i going to introduce you?
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: As and he was like your? Boyfriend like she should
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: have just been like that was fucking, Shit like do?
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: Better Or i'm. Leaving but, again this dilemma is sent
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: in from her friend looking in on the, outside so
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: it's really it's quite, Difficult LIKE i don't really know
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: what the dilemma.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: Is, No, NO i think it was just she asks
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: everything we're talking, about like why is this?
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: Happening BUT i.
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: Don't also like that because LIKE i guess you can say,
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: that but like you shouldn't have to say.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: It, no you shouldn't have to say, it like you
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: should she should.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: Like if she that makes me sad that like if
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: a god did this to you and you have to,
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: say fucking, hell that's ship do it again or. Else
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: i'm not, saying, yes you just. Peel but then he's
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: like but then in the back of, heah he's like
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: otherwise he's. Okay but that just annoys.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: Me, yeah it's really annoying because that you you are, right.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: It's not up to. Her and then also he's not
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: a ship, man but he also is a. Shipman, yeah,
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: yeah like.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: He like he again he's benefiting from all the other
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: shipmen out. There like he doesn't hit, Her, yeah he
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: doesn't assume he doesn't fucking yell at her all the
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: time or like blah blah blah blah. Blah but WHAT
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: i would say as a friend looking on the, outside
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: the only thing you could do is be honest with your.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: Friend you could say from the INFORMATION i, have right
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: from the STUFF i know about you as a, friend
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: and what like you would in the past have told
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: me you want from a. RELATIONSHIP i think he can't
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: give you, that AND i think you're lowering your standards
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: for him, then or that that's all you have to,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: say because if she, says, well you're, WRONG i want
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: to be with, him that's when you have to, Say, look,
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: okay that's. FINE i just ALL i wanted to do
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: is just say WHAT i, think But i'm, wrong and
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: then at least your friend knows that that's an observation
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: you have, made and then she can only make her
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: own decision from there.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: FORWARD i think that's.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: Great that's the THING i think of at least rest of.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: Us my boyfriend is still following his ex girlfriend On
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: instagram and speaks to her from time to, time or
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: they send each other. Reels oh, DANG i feel like
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: sending each INTIMATE i don't need to hear. MORE i
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: feel like that's, intimate real is no go and. WHO
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: a bit ago earlier in our, relationship he still had
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: her pick on the wall with him and his, brothers
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: and had picks of them still on his phone that
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: would show up in a. Slideshow after a, WHILE i
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: asked him to get rid of, them and it wasn't
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: until the third TIME i brought it. Up he finally
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: got rid of, it only BECAUSE i made a big.
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: Deal THEN i found out he had a handwritten sign
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: from her on the wall still and asked him to
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: get rid of. It WHEN i asked him why did
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: he still have all of this when he KNOWS i
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: don't like, it he said he doesn't think about. IT
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: i asked him to unfollow his ex since she lives
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: in a completely different. Country he said, no and that
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: is mean he. Won't so we made a deal that
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: he needs to tell me everything they message each. OTHER
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: i found out the other day that they recently did
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: and he didn't tell. ME i wasn't. SNOOPING i was
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: just getting him to watch the REELS i. Sent THEN
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: i confronted him and he said he was really sorry
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: and wanted to tell me in, person but every time
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: we are together he didn't think about. It that's a whole.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: Reel drop this. Man. Please, Okay here's the thing about
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: this dilemma is how DO I.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: It's boundaries?
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: Again it is it's a boundary thing, Again, like so,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: LOOK i don't think you should break up with him
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: because he still has, Photos like if someone wants to
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: keep photos like then, honestly by all means if that
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: is what you want to, do and if, you as
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: a girlfriend were okay with it and thought, like, yeah
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: he had a life before, me he has, Photos like
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: if he goes and actively deletes, them then, like that's
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: up to, him but he doesn't have to Because i'm
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: gonna make. Him but you asked him to do these,
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: things and he did, them and then you made a
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: deal that if he was to message his ex girlfriend
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: that he would tell you about. It he did, it
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: didn't tell you about, it and now you're, LIKE i,
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: think probably what DO i? Do once, again the boundary
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: needs to be set for, him but it also needs
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: to be set for.
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: Yourself, yeah it's a big learning, curve you know WHAT i?
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Mean, like if you're not going to break up with
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: him because of, this then that means that you can't
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: keep making a big deal out of.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: It which sounds.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Harsh which sounds, harsh but like to you this is
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: something you don't.
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: Like, yeah and showing empathy, though like it seems like
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: such a hard thing to break up with someone.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: Over if they just message THEIR.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: X but the clear boundary you have set has been
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: broken by. Him, yes it's a boundary of yourself which
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: is worth so much more than it. Seems so that's
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: that's the. Thing and also just the way he, sounds
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: just the way you've written that makes it seem like
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: he doesn't respect.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: You it's a weird. One, yeah it seems like, no
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: that would be he doesn't he doesn't see where you're coming.
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: From he doesn't appreciate how you. Feel he doesn't seem
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: like a nice. Boyfriend he doesn't seem like a nice. Man,
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: look we're on the. Record, sorry we're on the record saying,
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: like just fuck the photos, off, Right, YEAH i don't.
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: Know it's something something THAT i. Do like with my,
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: EX i deleted all the photos BECAUSE i was just
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: like fuck. IT i delete them in like M i
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: don't even ever go back and look at, them but
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: they could still be there AND i would still completely
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: have no feelings for my. Ex but LIKE i just
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: went and deleted them because that's WHAT i wanted to.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: Do, yeah my boundary would be.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: Photos IF i, said, say for some, Reason cassie went
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: up to a ten thousand photo and the, boyfriend her
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: ex boyfriend was, there AND i, said, Hey i'm not
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: comfortable with, that and she, GOES i want to keep
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: it for the. Man i'll be, like, ooh that's a
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: line THAT i can't really. CROSS i feel like that
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: doesn't make me very comfortable that that's Your, yeah that's my,
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: line you, know like she would understand How i'm. Feeling she, but,
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: Oh i'm so sorry to REALIZED i was. There i'm
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: going to delete. That but she's, like, no that would be,
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: Mean like what the fuck are you? Talking there's so
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: many arguments for. It it's like you could be, like
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: but that's What i'm trying, Emphasize, like your boundary can
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: be whatever the fuck you want it to.
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: Be it's.
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: Yours, yeah no one's in your head and that's valid to,
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: you and just stand by.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: That no one can tell you you're wrong because you.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: It's a good. Point, yeah you, know like you made
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: you just it's very hard to accept that you're not
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: compatible with the person you think you. Love, yeah oh,
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: yeah that's the hardest thing to. Accept have the hardest thing, ever.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: Boundaries so, episode this is the fucking episode of. Boundaries
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: look WHAT i would say is you and this guy
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: don't belong. Together yeah, Yeah NO i don't think so.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: EITHER i mean to, me it seems like a big of,
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: that meaning you clearly don't want him to have contact
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: contact with HIS. X and he's, like, No i'm gonna do.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: That that's, Me, like that's not something you. Want you
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: don't want that in a, Relationship like what the?
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: Fuck all, right, baddies thank you for, Listening, jake riddle me?
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: Please all? Right what Has wait a? SECOND i feel
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: LIKE i could get a good one going.
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: Here, yeah.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: Okay the point of this was to make sure you
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: realize this is unreasonable to ask the baddies for a.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: Riddle see if you can do any. Good though you
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: never proved me, Wrong you never know.
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: If baddies out there just like having a, riddle prove me.
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: Wrong, okay hit or?
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: MISS i know which way is. Going what what you're
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: gonna say is going to hit or? Miss, WELL i
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: don't have a RIDDLE i have to think of. One
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: you're gonna. Go i'm here, waiting, patiently waiting for you to.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: Miss what has two arms a, face but isn't a?
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: Humans you did this two weeks ago a.
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: Clock, good there you.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: GO i had a. Riddle i'm.
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: Surprised ask your best, friend give the batties what you
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: want and then we can leave it at.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: That, ay give me a give me a. Riddle, oh
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: these are.
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: Good it's gonna get your.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Hit what do you break the moment you name? It
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: what do you break.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: The moment you name? It break the?
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: Moment i'm thinking like my brain's thinking Like i'm just
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: this is my. Answer vows you break a bottle on a?
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: Ship oh, yeah ship?
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: Silence oh, Interesting yeah that was. SHIP i still think
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: it doesn't like it because you didn't get.
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: It, NO i don't think riddles of fun. Anymore what
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: do you?
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: Mean we never even did them. Anymore we never had
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: fun doing.
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: It we did it on patron.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: Mons remember what has? Words yet never?
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: Speaks what has? Words it never? Speaks SO i feel
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: Like i'm In.
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: Shakespeare the alphabet book to be.
• 43:00
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• 43:01
  Speaker 3: Letters, YEAH i was, closed BUT.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: I was on the road haven't.
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: You that's. Fun, okay what's the quickest way to double
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: your money? Crypto put it in front of a.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: Mirror that's a bad joke for we loved to stay.
• 43:16
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