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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Do What Feels Good · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to a
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  Speaker 1: five minute Friday from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: I am sitting here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm recording this midweek, shortly after I did a keynote
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  Speaker 1: presentation for a Boston based company and the presentation was
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  Speaker 1: all about how to incorporate healthy habits into your regular routine.
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  Speaker 1: So basically strategies, tips, tools so that these employees could
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  Speaker 1: be more regular with the things that make them feel good. Now,
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  Speaker 1: one of my forever tips when it comes to adopting
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  Speaker 1: a healthy movement practice is that you've got to choose
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  Speaker 1: something that you enjoy. You have got to lean into
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  Speaker 1: whatever type of movement makes you happy. So if you
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  Speaker 1: see someone who is like a huge fan of CrossFit
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  Speaker 1: and you think it looks cool, but when you go
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  Speaker 1: to CrossFit you actually one hundred percent dread everything from
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  Speaker 1: burpies to box jumps to power.
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  Speaker 2: Cleans, then you don't have to do CrossFit.
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  Speaker 1: Just like if you see someone, perhaps while scrolling on
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  Speaker 1: the socials that is running their gazillionth marathon, but every
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  Speaker 1: time you lace up your sneakers and go outside it
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  Speaker 1: actually makes you want to contemplate a slow death. Then
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  Speaker 1: maybe running isn't for you, So that piece of advice Again,
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  Speaker 1: if you want to incorporate movement into your regular routine,
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  Speaker 1: then that movement has got to be something that you like.
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  Speaker 2: And to piggyback on that.
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  Speaker 1: While I'm offering up this tip, it also helps if
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  Speaker 1: you diversify your activities, so maybe you aren't doing the
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  Speaker 1: same thing every day. Not only does that help to
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  Speaker 1: keep things interesting, but it also helps.
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  Speaker 2: Stave off boredom.
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  Speaker 1: Now why am I starting off this five minute Friday
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  Speaker 1: with this story? Well, lately, I have really been focusing
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  Speaker 1: on feel in every aspect of my life. I am
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  Speaker 1: paying more attention to the activities, the people, the situations
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  Speaker 1: that make me feel good and consciously making an effort
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  Speaker 1: to do more of those things. It sounds so simple, right, Like,
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  Speaker 1: if you do the things that feel good, if you
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  Speaker 1: live a life where you feel fulfilled, then it will
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  Speaker 1: be great. But how many times do we get stuck
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  Speaker 1: in patterns or routine or in certain relationships that make
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  Speaker 1: us feel as though we have to endure this not
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  Speaker 1: so stellar state of being. I've definitely been there. I
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  Speaker 1: was telling someone last night a story about a romantic
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  Speaker 1: relationship that I was in Gosh, maybe like seven or
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  Speaker 1: eight years ago now, that definitely was a little bit
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  Speaker 1: emotionally abusive, and I stayed in that relationship for longer
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  Speaker 1: than I should have because I wanted to fix it.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to understand what was going on, why things
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  Speaker 1: weren't adding up, And despite it not always feeling good,
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  Speaker 1: I was convinced that it was something that was good
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  Speaker 1: for me. In retrospect, now, looking back on that situation,
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  Speaker 1: it definitely wasn't good for me. And I've learned so
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  Speaker 1: much when it comes to not just romantic relationships but
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  Speaker 1: relationships in general since then. The truth is is that
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  Speaker 1: we have the opportunity to choose the things that feel good.
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  Speaker 2: We have the opportunity to go back.
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  Speaker 1: To the moment's situations, people that fill up our cup,
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  Speaker 1: and when we focus on the things that do the adverse,
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  Speaker 1: that have an adverse effect, it prompts an internal investigation.
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  Speaker 1: What is it about this thing that doesn't truly serve me?
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  Speaker 1: That I keep coming back to? Why can't I free
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  Speaker 1: myself from it? And when you ask yourself these important questions,
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  Speaker 1: it's not always easy, but it will help you get
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  Speaker 1: the answers that you need, so hopefully you can shift
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  Speaker 1: toward a direction of service, of happiness, of feeling good.
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  Speaker 1: In this process, I encourage you to stop wondering quote
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  Speaker 1: unquote what you should be doing, and again go back
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  Speaker 1: to that true feeling that kind of close your eyes,
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  Speaker 1: get re honest, listen to what's going on in your gut.
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  Speaker 2: And follow that.
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  Speaker 1: It's easy to get wrapped up in the should, but
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  Speaker 1: when you should on yourself, it doesn't do you any
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  Speaker 1: good period. So this week's prompt, I'm going to ask
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  Speaker 1: you what feels good, what feels good right now? Who
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  Speaker 1: feels good, what activity feels good? What area of your
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  Speaker 1: life is bringing you joy? And how can you give
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  Speaker 1: that more energy? And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi Emily, this is Olivia from Toronto, Ontario. I have
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  Speaker 3: a question for you. I follow you on Instagram amazing
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  Speaker 3: content and I see you have such incredible personal fashion style.
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  Speaker 3: Do you have any tips for women looking to elevate
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  Speaker 3: or develop their own personal fashion style? And how did
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  Speaker 3: you come to develop yours?
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Hey, Olivia, You're so sweet. I
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  Speaker 1: really appreciate that. I wish I had a clear and
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  Speaker 1: concise answer, or like someone that I could direct you to.
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  Speaker 1: Which is the source of all of my quote unquote
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  Speaker 1: fashion inspiration, I don't consider myself the most stylish. But
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  Speaker 1: what I will say is that as I've gotten older,
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  Speaker 1: I really focus on investing in good quality pieces, and
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  Speaker 1: if I need something one off for a certain event
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  Speaker 1: or a certain night out or whatever, oftentimes I'm leaning
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  Speaker 1: in to Rent the Runway. I've been doing Rent the
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  Speaker 1: Runway on and off for a few years now, and
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  Speaker 1: you forty percent off for the month. So I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I've been doing that because honestly, it's nice to wear
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  Speaker 1: nicer quality clothes instead of just slowly accumulating things within
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  Speaker 1: my closet that I'm not going to wear more than once.
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  Speaker 1: I am constantly trying to per the closet. I probably
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  Speaker 1: do a deep dive into it like once every two
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  Speaker 1: to three months, and so in that I'm focused on
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  Speaker 1: finding the pieces that make me happy again, going with
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  Speaker 1: that idea of what feels good. I also feel like
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  Speaker 1: something that I've been really focused on lately is really
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  Speaker 1: shopping for where I am now for so long in
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  Speaker 1: my closet, I would hold on to items that maybe
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  Speaker 1: were a smaller size or like brought back a certain memory.
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  Speaker 1: But those clothes may not fit me now, don't serve
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  Speaker 1: me now. And so I've been really working to let
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  Speaker 1: go of that stuff and fill it instead with stuff
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  Speaker 1: that's practical, pieces that are practical for what I have
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  Speaker 1: going on in the mix at this point. On the
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  Speaker 1: inspiration note, one last thing I'll say. I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 1: constantly scrolling like all of you are, on the socials
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  Speaker 1: on TikTok on Instagram. So if I see something, I
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  Speaker 1: am like an avid screenshotter, and I'll go back to
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  Speaker 1: that screenshot and think about, like when I'll want to
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  Speaker 1: wear that at some point. I rarely shop just as shop.
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  Speaker 1: I usually shop with a specific thing in mind, and
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  Speaker 1: I find that building my closet that way is how
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  Speaker 1: I continuously buy investment pieces instead of doing something like
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  Speaker 1: fast fashion e or what have you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not sure if this was really helpful, but.
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  Speaker 1: A peek inside into my crazy, crazy mind anyway. Follow
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  Speaker 1: along at Emily body Over at Hurdle Podcast. Happy weekend, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys, next time.